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Sometimes I have to take a deep breath and remind myself that the person making a post about how there's no aroace rep anywhere clearly doesn't have my algorithm, where all I see is aroace rep, and if they did, they would have worded this post differently, and there's no reason to get frustrated
But at the same time... ALL I SEE IS AROACE REPRESENTATION AND YEAH Y'ALL DESERVE IT BUT PLEASE I JUST WANT TO SEE SOME OF MY FELLOW LESBIANS P L E A S E
(I haven't written the tags yet but I have a feeling they're gonna be important to read lol)
#funny#rambles#pride#I have scrolled that tag liking every single post I see for 3 hours on end and then. it doesn't change my algorithm at all.#PLEASE I AM SO TIRED OF SEEING âAroace people are so forgotten!!â I CANNOT FORGET YOU#AND I KNOW THIS IS A ME THING AND I KNOW THATS MEAN TO SAY AND I'M SORRY#BUT PLEASEEE I WANT TO SEE A LITTLE BIT OF MY SEXUALITY??? PLEASE????????#And like literally the first identity I researched in depth eas asexuality...#soon after aromanticism#cause I learned about sexualities by literally just googling âpride flagsâ and looking at wiki articles for whatever I saw#and I saw the asexuality flag first#so to me it's a very foreign idea that aroace people are forgotten or that not enough people understand what it is#I'm like huh??? thats one of the basics of the community????#but to so many it's not#anyways I feel awkward tagging this as aroace cause it's kinda negative...#and I don't wanna bring anyone down if they're scrolling the tag of their sexuality...#so I'm not gonna tag ut#for now atleast idk
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just some ramblings... don't read if you don't want to...
i do not bother to hide my sexuality, but sometimes it's hard to explain to others that asexual and aromantic people exist. sometimes it's hard to listen to people dismiss my sexuality and tell me insensitive things like "it's just a phase" or "you'll find someone soon enough" or "it's because you keep on watching too much anime that your standard is too high". gee! thank you for making me feel like an idiot who doesn't know the difference between fiction and reality. but i guess what hurts the most is to be called "not normal" by someone you thought would accept you for who you are. what's normal anyway? why do i have to be in a relationship just so i can be happy? why do people assume i would end up lonely if i am alone? fuck normal. and fuck romantic relationship. it's fucking overrated and people need to know that it's not for everyone. i am not asking for full understanding. i'm just asking for acceptance. if the people around me wouldn't do so, there's nothing i can do about it. either way, i won't change and i don't hate myself for who i am. i guess i'll just move on with my life.
#artless#tw profanity#acearo#aroace#asexuality#aromanticism#i even had a dream where i was asking my pops if he's okay with me being acearo#he didn't reply and i just woke up soon after lol
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#aromanitc#aromanticism#aromantic pride#no bitches#bitchless#yall dont know#my song Soon After I Killed Cincinnati is based on this
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đ100 Question Romance & Love OC Ask Gameđ
Do you love love? Does your OC feel the same? Look no further for an excuse to talk about everything romance! Plus there's a few about aromanticism in there! I tried to make the questions applicable to most relationships, but you want something a bit more poly-focused, hereâs a link to my polycule dynamics game. Remember to send an ask to the person you reblog it from to make sure everyone gets to play!
đDo they like romance? Have they always hated the idea, or are they a swooning hopeless romantic?
â¤ď¸How do they feel about the concept of âloveâ? What does it mean to them?
âHave they ever questioned the idea of what âloveâ is? Where did it lead them?
đHow many times have they been in love?
đWhatâs their most formative memory about love or romance? It can be good or bad.
đWhatâs the easiest part of love for them?
đ¤Whatâs the hardest part of love for them?
đWhat do they want the most from a romantic relationship? Is it what they need?
đ¨ââ¤ď¸âđâđ¨Do they prefer a steady partnership or casual dating? Neither?
đĽ°Who are they in love with right now, if anyone?
đĽWho was their first love? How did it turn out?
đHow romantic do they expect their partner(s) to be in a relationship? Is it a deal-breaker if expectations arenât met?
đHow romantic are they in a relationship? Does it depend on the partner, or are they moon-eyed with anyone?
đWhich âtraditionally romanticâ acts (love poetry, flowers, etc.) do they love the most? Would they rather receive this kind of affection, or give it to someone else?
đWhich âtraditionally romanticâ acts (love poetry, flowers, etc.) do they hate more than anything? When itâs directed at them, or when theyâre expected to give it to others?
đWhat is the dating culture in their society like? Do they participate in it?
đŻWhatâs their idea of a perfect date?
âłHave they ever tried speed-dating? How did it go?
đąHave they ever tried dating apps? How did it go?
đAre they expected by their society to date and/or marry? How do they feel about it?
đDo they have a âtypeâ of person they tend to date?
đDo they have high standards about who they date? Low standards?
đ§Whatâs their cheesiest romantic fantasy? Do they want to recreate it in real life?
đDo they often âmake the first moveâ when it comes to love? Or are they waiting for the object(s) of their affection to pick up the hints theyâre dropping?
đ˘Are they able to confess romantic feelings easily, or do they clam up at the mere prospect?
đŚIs it super obvious when they have feelings for someone, or are they a master at hiding it?
đWhatâs the longest amount of time theyâve ever pined after someone?
đ¤Have they ever been on either side of an âunrequited loveâ situation? How did it turn out?
đââď¸Is anybody their âone that got awayâ? Have they ever âgotten awayâ from someone else?
đHave they ever had to break up with someone? Why?
đHave they ever broken up and then gotten back together with the same person? How many times? Did it work out in the end?
âHave they ever been rejected after a confession of love? How did they handle it?
đŤHave they ever had to reject someone elseâs feelings? How did it go?
đ¤Have they ever had a romantic interest âstolenâ before? Have they ever made a move on someone they knew a friend was interested in?
đ¤Do they consider âhaving a crushâ and âbeing in loveâ different things? Whereâs the line?
đ¤ĽHave they ever lied to make a relationship more viable? Did it end well, or blow up in their face?
đłHave they ever been broken up with in a situation where it was kiiinda their fault? What was the issue?
đ¨What are their methods for getting over a break-up?
đ¸Do they tend to jump from one relationship to the next, quickly entering another as soon as the previous one ends? Why?
đĄHave they ever been in love with the idea of someone instead of the actual person? What was the aftermath?
đHow important is being in a relationship to them?
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Have they ever stayed in a relationship long past its expiration date? Why?
đĽDid any of their relationships end catastrophically? What happened?
đ¤Are they still friends with any of their ex-partners?
đ˛Have they ever been cheated on before? What happened?
đşHave they ever been the cheater? Were they ever found out?
1ď¸âŁHow do they feel about the concept of finding âThe Oneâ? Is it an aspiration or something they roll their eyes at?
đHow do they feel about the concept of âlove at first sightâ? Do they believe in it?
đ¨Do they have any âtabooâ or unpopular opinions about love or romance?
đAre they aromantic? Have they considered it?
���Are they loveless? [for an aromantic perspective on lovelessness check out this essay]
đHave they ever been in a queer-platonic relationship? Would they consider it?
đWhere do they draw the line between friendship and romance, if at all?
âDo they practice relationship anarchy? [for more information about relationship anarchy, check out this guide]
đ˘Are they polyamorous? Have they considered it?
đŤHow would they feel if, in a monogamous relationship, their partner asked them to try polyamory?
đď¸Do they have a hard time separating their romantic feelings from other kinds of love? Which ones?
âď¸Do they often feel like theyâre âdoing love wrongâ in their relationships? Anything specific?
đDo they often prioritize romance and love in their life? To the detriment of other relationships?
đĄAre they a jealous partner?
đĽAre they jealous of any of their friendsâ or family membersâ relationships?
đĽAre they often left behind in love? Were they single and watching all their friends get married?
đ¤ˇââď¸Would they be happy without romantic love in their life?
đHow important is physical attraction to their romantic relationships?
đŻââď¸Are sex and romance conflated in their culture? How does this impact them?
đĽ´How often do they expect sex in a romantic relationship? Is it a deal-breaker if expectations arenât met?
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ââď¸How would they feel about being in a sexless relationship?
đŤHave they ever been in love with someone who was already in a relationship? How did it turn out?
đDo they like romance as a genre? In books, movies, games, etc.?
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Do they have a relationship they can look up to as a positive example of romantic love?
đDo they have a relationship thatâs a perfect example of âwhat not to doâ in their life?
đ¤What are their âhang-upsâ or insecurities about love and romance?
đAre they an effective communicator in their relationships?
đŚ¸ââď¸Have they ever played match-maker with their friends or loved ones? How did it go?
đ§Have they ever been âmatch-madeâ by someone else? How did it go?
đIs marriage an important consideration for them? Out of choice, necessity, social pressure?
đ°Is marrying for love a rarity in their culture, or commonplace?
đWould they want to propose to someone, or be proposed to?
đDo they want a huge showy proposal, or something more private?
đWhatâs their ideal wedding, on a scale of âcourthouse wedding with 5 people maximumâ to â100+ guests, massive ceremony, all-night receptionâ?
đWhat sorts of clothes do married couples wear in their culture? Do they plan on wearing the traditional clothes, or doing something different?
đHave they ever had to break off an engagement? Why?
đWhat kind of love is prioritized in their society? Does it impact how theyâre able to love?
đšWhatâs considered âromanticâ in their society? How does that impact their relationships?
đŞHow has their family influenced their ideas of romance and love?
đââď¸How have their friends influenced their ideas of romance and love?
âŞHow has their religion or faith influenced their ideas of romance and love?
đşď¸What are some cultural customs surrounding love and romance that they practice?
đDoes their culture have any formal courting customs? Have they been taught how to properly court?
đAre people pressured to fit a specific beauty standard in order to be âromantically viableâ? How has this impacted their love life?
đHave they ever dated someone for their familyâs sake? How did it go?
đ¤¨Have they ever âpity datedâ someone? Have they ever been âpity datedâ by someone else?
đĽŁHow does their culture view a âserial dater,â or someone who refuses to settle down?
âDo they care about peopleâs âbody count,â or how many relationships theyâve been in?
đśWould they ever be in a relationship with someone who already had children?
đ¤ąIf they ever ended up single with children, how would they feel about entering a new relationship?
đWould they date a widow? Would they date again if they were ever widowed?
âď¸If they had the chance to erase one past romantic mistake, what would it be?
đŠšDo they often give romantic advice to their friends or family? Is it good advice?
đDo they often seek romantic advice from friends or family? Has it helped?
#writeblr#writing community#writblr games#writeblr asks#writer games#writeblr tag games#ask game#OC game#oc ask game#oc meme#long post#annika talks#my games#i cant stop making these i just love making lists of questions
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Hiiiii could I request headcanons for a fem asexual reader whoâs in a relationship with Adam :]]???? Tysmmm
I got carried away and literally wrote the hcs of a date leading up to that too, AHAH...hope that you don't mind!!!
WARNINGS FOR : talks of sex, in a non-sexual way though.
DIVIDER CREDITS TO : firefly-graphics
MINORS DNI.
Adam x Fem! Asexual Reader - Headcanons
â° Adam is, as most people would guess, someone who doesnât shy away from sex; heâs had enough partners and one night stands to come to the conclusion that he actually really enjoys it, and itâs been that way for the longest time. The average person would guess so from his way of speaking and joking around alone.
â° I would like to preface that for him to get into a new, serious relationship it would take a while; he might say âwhat the hell, sureâ to one night stands and random dates, but actually dating someone? After what heâs been through? He might have to think about it twice. So when you come into the picture heâs confused enough about actually wanting to pursue a romantic relationship with you.
â° But youâre the most caring individual heâs come across in a while; your dates feel natural, conversations flow smoothly and are filled with jokes about anything and everything, heâs gone back to looking at someone (you) fondly and purposefully walking a bit too close to you so that your hands might brush against each other.
â° When you tell him youâre asexual on one of these dates, he surprises himself by taking the conversation very seriously and letting you speak; usually he would joke about anything, but he understands from the tone of your voice that this is a serious matter for you, and he certainly doesnât want to seem like he doesnât care about what youâre saying, even though he might not be the most knowledgeable individual on the matter.
â° Once heâs home he regrets not asking more questions, though, as he scrolls through various articles about the same thing youâve come out to him about: does this mean you might like him anyway? Heâs reading about the difference between Asexuality and Aromanticism, but heâs not sure what it means for you. On what side of the spectrum are you? Could it be a problem if you two started dating one day, if he differs in this regard? He arranges one more date fairly soon to understand better, meanwhile regretting not caring about this kind of thing sooner.
â° When the date comes around, heâs practically memorized the questions he needs to ask you, and he doesnât waste one second to ask them. Youâre almost shocked about the fact that he actually informed himself a bit after your previous date, but answer his questions regardless; no, Asexuality and Aromanticism arenât the same thing, you being Ace and him being Allo could be a problem if you donât agree on certain things, and you naturally answer the question about where you would locate yourself on the spectrum, too.
â° How this date ends? Well, itâs been a damn long time since Adam has cared so much about someone else and their needs, so he ends up blurting out that he wouldnât mind trying this out with you, and seeing how it goes. His seemingly sly exterior causes you to blush at his declaration, but inside his heart is thumping with anxiety.
â° Once you two actually start dating, itâs initially hard for him to come to terms with the fact that there will be little to no sex; not because he doesnât fully respect your identity, but because his past relationships have had plenty of it, so heâs not really sure how to act. He might become unsure sometimes and mix up you being Asexual with you not enjoying physical contact at all, so at first he might let you initiate any kind of contact before eventually realizing that you donât mind if he wraps a wing around you or leans on you.
â° Speaking of these gestures, he finds out how much he enjoys these through dating you; itâs not rare for him to sigh stupidly while burying his face in your hair or wing fluff, or to randomly pick you up and kiss your cheek as youâre busy doing something around the house.
â° He learns to appreciate your small gestures even more; the way you fix your hair and outfit in the morning to make sure you look your best, but when he asks if he looks okay you immediately respond with an enthusiastic âyesâ even though heâs literally wearing his PJs... the way you wake up embracing him and wait for him to stir awake too before leaving the bed, the way you laugh at his jokes even when theyâre not that funny, and surprise him with little acts of service every day.
â° And so he hopes that you appreciate his small gestures as well: learning how to play your favorite songs on his guitar and strumming some notes of them randomly throughout the day, offering to preen your wings for you while you relax and do something else instead, getting you âor even trying to make!- your favorite meals and nicely setting the table for you when youâre out doing something, just to smile at your surprised face once you come back home.
â° Lute isnât scared to point out how much of a softie heâs become after meeting you, and heâs quick to deny it, Â gently and jokingly pushing her with his wing. But in reality everyone has noticed it, even the First Man himself.
â° I highly doubt he would seek out other people to have sex with, I strongly believe he would be very loyal in a serious relationship. If anything he would âdeal with his stuffâ himself, but I donât believe he would like to be in an open relationship even if it came down to just him having sex with someone else if you didnât want to. He would ultimately just set this subject aside and enjoy his time with you, itâs far more important for him to have someone who truly gets along with him and sees the good in him.
#hazbin hotel x reader#hazbin x reader#x reader#hazbin hotel#adam x reader#adam hazbin hotel#adam hazbin#hazbin hotel adam#hazbin adam#adam headcanons#asexual reader#adam x asexual reader#ace reader#fem reader
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in honor of aromantic spectrum awareness week, i thought i'd take the time to talk about how much my personal life and feelings improved after coming to terms with the fact that i'm aromantic. before i accepted this, i found myself in several romantic relationships where i was deeply unhappy, uncomfortable, and made to feel like i wasn't a good enough partner because i just couldn't do or feel certain things.
i've never enjoyed kissing, and cuddling gets uncomfortable for me within the first few minutes of doing so. even hugs are deeply uncomfortable to me unless i really know and care about someone, and even then, hugs only come when that person asks for them. it never occurs to me to touch people this way, the most you'll get out of me is a pat on the shoulder, back or knee.
i ended up dating several people who were very much romantics, and heavily focused on that aspect of our relationship. it kind of felt like torture to me, i felt like i was being forced to live every day like it was Valentine's Day- every day had to be filled with hours of cuddling, kissing, and telling the other person how much i loved them. while not all romantic partners are like this, it wore on my psyche quickly to be paired with folks like this, because i understood how important it was to them, but i just couldn't keep up the performance.
i thought something was "wrong" with me for years and that i just wasn't in touch with my emotions, or that i was somehow embracing some toxic aspects of my masculinity without realizing. it took me ages to remember that i came out as aromantic when i was much younger, but after criticism from my friends, including a friend who was asexual, i stopped identifying with the label, because i was told that aromanticism wasn't real, and that that just made me an asshole.
nearly a decade and several uncomfortable romantic relationships later, it finally clicked that there wasn't something wrong with me, but there was something wrong with the situations i was getting myself into. sure, i love being partnered- i have a queerplatonic partner that i've known for a decade and have only gotten closer to over time. but we've never been romantic. we don't exchange romantic platitudes, and i realized; i've never been happier with someone else than i am with this person.
why is that?
oh. because they don't expect romance from me. they are also on the aspectrum and don't have a romantic partner, either.
this relationship has brought me more joy than any romantic partnership i've ever attempted to pursue. that doesn't mean there's something wrong with me- i was just looking for happiness in the wrong places. i was miserable not because i'm aromantic, but because i was getting into romantic relationships.
romance can be a source of misery. romance does not inherently make everyone happy. we are not all looking for romance as a species. in fact, chasing it makes many people miserable. too many people spend their lives looking for "the one" that they can kiss, cuddle, hold and say all of those mushy things to when they may not even want that to begin with.
i've never been more at peace with myself since finally, fully accepting that i'm aromantic. i love who i am, and i love how i love. i am not loveless, i experience platonic, queerplatonic and other forms of love. but loveless aromantics aren't miserable, either. we are all embracing ourselves in a way that's true to us. we are refusing to warp ourselves to a society that tells us that we all must have homogeneous feelings.
i am aromantic. i am here. my aromanticism is queer in a society that expects and demands romance of me, and this is true of all aromantics, cis, trans, gay, straight, bisexual, asexual, and otherwise. we are here, we are not going away any time soon, and we will not be silent because our identities make some people uncomfortable. we are happiest being who we are.
happy aro week, this goes out to every last arospectrum person out there, appreciate yourselves this week. you deserve it.
#aromantic#aro#lgbtqia#lgbt#queer#lgbta#aromantic spectrum#arospec#arospectrum#aroace#aromantic asexual#aro awareness week#aspectrum#aspec#our writing#about us
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Vaguely related, but for that matter... maybe those labels are pretty much useless in most ways? Like say, asexuality/aromanticism â I think that "I'm not interested in sexual relationships right now" or "I've never met anyone I wanted to marry" are all valid things to say, but there is something to the attitude of "this is how I certainly am at the core and will always be" in all manifestations that feels premature at any point â and the idea of "discovering your orientation" in teenage years makes things worse. Who even has a comprehensive picture of their love life to date and to come in high school or soon after? And then there's other stuff like, do intrusive thoughts pattern attraction? Is all attraction romantic attraction, and is all romantic attraction the same kind of thing? Et cetera.
#therese rambles#I vaguely think I should tag this somehow but idk what filter people might use#gentle discourse#if anyone starts a war in the notes I am going to paint their nose green#f.y.i.
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CHOCO BAR COOKIE FROM COOKIE RUN: OVENBREAK
Justification: âbecause i said so (/j)
in her release event someone calls her "my beloved" and she says, quote, "Huh? Your beloved?! Hah! Don't make me laugh, when did I ever say you could call me that? Where's my Jellygun-"
after this, her director says "Cut, cut! Choco Bar Cookie, this isn't an action movie! It's a romance! No jump kicks!"
TO BE FAIR she is an actress but the jump kick part wasnt in the script so we cant be sure if she was supposed to say that line or if she went off script. it is enough for me though<3 even funnier because i was talking to a friend and said that i headcanoned her as aroace and then as SOON as i said that she said that line in the cutscene.â
#couldaromanticismsavethem#arospec#aromanticism#aromantic#choco bar cookie#cookie run#cookie run ovenbreak#cookie run: ovenbreak
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Letâs Talk About Love
Shall We Date?: Obey Me! One Master To Rule Them All!
Summary: Levi doesnât understand why you keep choosing him over his brothers time and time again. He canât offer you the same things that they would be able to offer you.
Word Count: 2174 ⯠AO3 Version
Characters: Aromantic! Asexual! Leviathan x Aromantic! Asexual! GN! Reader
Tags: Fluff, aroace reader x aroace character, discussions of aromanticism, discussions of queer platonic relationships, autistic-coded Levi
Jealousy was an emotion that Leviathan spent the whole of his existence being intimately familiar with. Such a thing is no surprise, really - he transformed into the Avatar of Envy after his fall from heaven, afterall. Envy was a black, ugly feeling that he lived with too closely anytime he didn't drown himself in his manga, anime, or games to escape from it.
Inferiority was another emotion he knew just as well, even if he experienced it less often, since he shut himself away in his room most everyday so that he wouldn't have to deal with the overwhelming weight of all he was lacking that came with inferiority. That and so he wouldn't have to deal with his social anxiety, too.
Inferiority was, unfortunately, something he was feeling way too much lately, ever since you have come to the Devildom and wormed your way into his familyâs life. Watching his brothers all fawn over you around the breakfast table, the inferiority was especially oppressive today. Each of them had a different approach to you, but he knew that each one of them was in love with you.
Mammon was the most obvious about his being in love with you with how he constantly tried to get your attention and monopolize your time, even if he wasnât entirely honest about his feelings. Satan was slightly more devious about it, covering up his shyness over outright saying his feelings by straight-forward actions, flirting with you and asking you out on dates. Belphegor was territorial and possessive of you, easily upset when your thoughts and time werenât devoted to him, wanting to monopolize you in a way that was much less wholesome than how Mammon desired to monopolize your time.
Levi sincerely hopes that his younger brother was not a yandere, like the kinds he sometimes saw in his manga and anime. For your safety as well as the safety of the rest of them.
Asmodeus flirted with you just as he flirted with every person he found attractive, but Levi knows that Asmoâs love for you was genuine in that you were the only person allowed to see the true insecurities lying under the air-headed facade Asmo maintained. Lucifer desired you just as Asmo desired you, openly fond of you when he thought no one else was watching, being severely strict upon you to try and maintain the idea that he had no favoritism towards you when he thought people were watching. Beelzebub - well, Levi actually wasnât sure that Beel experienced love or desire for anything that wasnât food. But he did know that it definitely meant something that his younger brother willingly shared food with you and cooked for you.
As soon as Lucifer dismissed them from the breakfast table, Levi made a beeline for his room, itching to bury himself under a blanket to try and not thinking about the whirlwind of barbed thoughts running through his mind right now.
Leviathan himself, well...he is fairly sure that he does love you too, in some capacity. He knows for a fact that he cares for you deeply, that heâs fond of you, and that he finds himself wanting to share his special interests with you - but heâs also aware, somewhere in the back of his mind, that the way he feels about you is not the same way that his brothers feel about you. Heâs painfully conscious of the fact that even when these tangle of emotions confuse him when he thinks on them too long that heâs not, not in love with you. At least, not like how Satan and Mammon are in love with you. And he doesnât desire you either, not the way that Lucifer and Asmodeus desire you.
The inferiority that overcomes him whenever he acknowledges these thoughts, these feelings, that he canât offer to you what his brothers can, yet selfishly desiring to spend every waking moment he could just enjoying your company...it makes him want to just curl up under his blankets, blocking out all the lights of his room, their lights brighter than usual in his heightened emotional distress, blocking out all the buzzing of his electronics with his headphones, just blocking out the world entirely, trying to block out his mind at the same time.
Why - despite his brothers constantly vying for your time, attention, and affections - do you continue to keep choosing him out of all them to spend all your time with?
âLevi? Are you in there?â you called from outside his bedroom door with a knock, âI wanted to watch the new TSL DVD with you, if you were still up for that?â
Levi groggily unfurled himself from his blanket nest, squinting at the brightness of his phone, faintly surprised that he had basically let himself pass the whole day away hiding under his blankets.
âI can go if you arenât feeling wellâŚâ
Rubbing at his eyes, Levi pulled himself out of his tub-bed with a grimace, striding over and opening the door for you, before turning back and disappearing back into his room so he wouldnât have to deal with the brightness of the hall lights, âIâll set up the movie once I find it. You can set up the pillows.â
Entering his room, you were caught over by the big nest of blankets all heaped in the tub-bed already, and looking over at Leviathan, you could see his tail sticking out from the one blanket that was still wrapped about him like a hood, his tail flicking up and down rapidly. Levi was obviously really upset about something.
Pursing your lips, contemplating if you should just straight up give him a hug, or ask him what was wrong first, then give him the hug, you picked out the pillows that you know were Leviâs favorites and arranged the tub-bed to be as comfy as possible. Nodding in satisfaction, you turned to see Levi still rummaging through his stack of DVDs, head drooped and tail still flicking with irritation. He seemed as though he was lost in thought.
âLevi? Are you okay?â
He startled, dropping the DVDs he was holding and tipping over the whole stack. Feeling positively horrible that you startled him like that, you quickly rushed over to help him pick up the fallen DVDs.
âIâm fine, Iâm just really tired,â he mumbled as he avoided eye-contact, picking up DVD after DVD quickly.
You sighed softly, gently putting a hand on his arm and stopping him, âYouâre in your demon form, Levi. You morph into your demon form whenever youâre upset. ...can I give you a hug?â
He hesitated for a moment before he nodded, putting aside the DVDs onto his desk. You wrapped him up in a huge hug, patting his back gently, and Levi found himself relaxing into your tender embrace, resting his cheek against your head, exhaling long and slow. He already felt loads better.
âDo you want to talk about it?â
âNo, itâs...itâs fine. Itâs...silly. I donât want to bother you with - â
You squeezed him gently, tightening your arms around him, âLevi. You are never a bother to me. And your feelings are never, ever âsilly.â Okay? Your feelings are important, just like how youâre important. Okay? Now, talk to me, Levi. Whatâs wrong? Whyâre you upset?â
Levi trembled at the utter anxiety clogging his throat up at just the mere thought of trying to express what he was feeling out loud, hiding his face in your hair as he held you close, âItâs..itâs, umâŚâ
âYou can take all the time you need,â you quietly encouraged him, rubbing a comforting hand up and down his back.
Shakily taking a breath, he tried again, âI, um...All my brothers...theyâre in love with you. But I...I donât love you. Ah, but thatâs - ! Thatâs not - ! Itâs, thatâs, what I meant, is that, I donât...I donât love you the same way they do. I...I can't give you the same kind of love they would, so I donât - I donât understand why you...why keep choosing to spend all your time with...with someone like meâŚâ
You stood quietly, letting his words wash over you as you processed what he was telling you. Pulling away from the hug with careful movements, you looked up at Levi to see he had his eyes anxiously squeezed shut, likely afraid of what your reaction would be to his words.
âLevi, look at me. Please,â you asked him, keeping your voice hushed, knowing how he became hyper sensitive when his emotions were high strung.
He hesitantly opened his eyes, looking down at you, heart near stopping at how you were looking at him with such...utter understanding.
You took his hands and sat him down in the nest of pillows and blankets you had set up in his tub-bed, plopping down next him.
âI keep choosing you to spend all my time with because I like you, Levi.â
Levi sat straight up, struggling against sinking into all the pillows, âBut - !â
âIâm not interest in what your brothers have to offer me, either.â
âBut I - â
You turned to look up at him, avoiding eye contact so that you wouldnât make him uncomfortable with how distraught he already was, âI donât return any of their feelings. And I donât expect you to feel any differently for me than you already do. Have you aromanticism, Levi?â
He blinked, caught off guard by the question Levi shook his head.
âAromanticism is when a person very rarely, or never, feels romantic attraction.â
Levi gaped at you, âThatâs - thatâs a real thing?!â
âIt is,â you nodded, smiling fondly at him, âThereâs an entire spectrum, for all the different ways a person experiences aromanticism.â
Levi slumped back into the pillows and blankets, sinking into them as he stared at the ceiling in wonderment, mulling over what you had just told him. He sat up suddenly, struggling to not sit back into the bed again,
âWait! Are you aromantic?â
You nodded, smiling at him all the same, âYeah. I am. Iâm asexual too. Asexuality means that you rarely or never feel sexual attraction. Thereâs a whole spectrum to how people experience asexuality too.â
Leviathan stared at you, utterly wowed, trying to figure out how to say what he was feeling, inhaling sharply, âI - I think I might be aromantic and, and asexualâŚâ
You grinned as you pulled him into another big hug and he returned the hug, and Levi found himself grinning too as he returned the hug, his tail rapidly thumping against the pillows all around the both of you, but this time it was because he was excited to learn this new thing you just told him about.
â...thereâs nothing wrong with me,â Leviathan murmured, finally allowing himself to sink back into the pillows and blankets and stay there.
âThere was nothing wrong with you to begin with,â you agree, sinking into the pillows and blankets beside him, feeling comfortable and safe in his arms.
â...but you know, I...I feel really deeply for you, but I do know that I donât want to like, be your boyfriend or anything, but I, I do want to spend like - agh, Iâm not making any sense, am IâŚ?â he huffed, hiding his face into the pillows, frustrated with himself.
âNo, I get it,â you reassured him, poking at him to try and get him to stop hiding, âDo you know what a queer platonic relationship is?â
Levi peeked up at you, face adorably scrunched up in confusion, âHuh? A what?â
âIâm guessing not,â you giggled, cuddling up close, âLetâs see...a QPR is something more intense than friendship, but isnât exactly romantic. The lines between platonic feelings and romantic feelings can be blurred and it can be hard for both people involved to really understand how they feel about each other fully. They can include friendships and ambiguously-romantic relationships that go beyond friendship norms in emotional intensity, physical affection, or other areas. Some QPR partners get married. A QPR can look different for everyone, depending on what the people involved are comfortable with and how they feel for each other.â
Levi mouthed out a âwow,â thinking this over, âSo what I feelâŚâ
You squished his cheeks together playfully, giggling, âI understand what you feel entirely. In fact, I feel the same. You just learned a lot in a few minutes, but...I really like you, Levi. Would you want to be my queer platonic partner?â
He gaped at you, before laughing excitedly, nodding and pulling you into an even tighter hug, positively delighted. You returned the hug just as happily, resting your head on his shoulder. The two of you pulled back to smile at each other, the world feeling perfectly in balance at this new decision that the two of you made together.
That evening, the two of you thoroughly enjoyed the new TSL DVD together, cuddling under the light of the movie that played on Leviâs large flat screen television.
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I'm a teen who basically told my parents aromanticism exists today... well, the conversation happened at lunch, when they were talking about some of my cousins' lives. My mom mentioned she'd just realized how one of my cousins is 22 and apparently never had a boyfriend before. "Wow, she's really focused on her studies and life goals", my mom commented. "She really never dated anyone that we know of. I'd never thought about that before". I quietly mentioned I had, in fact, thought about it before- I just didn't say I had thought about that more times than they might think, since all those times I was wondering about the possibility of another aro in the family. "At this age everyone has already had at least a few crushes, been hurt by love, or kissed people a few times", she completed. "Not everyone", I said. She replied "well, pretty much everyone- people who haven't must be like, less than 1% of people. It's almost impossible". I said "not completely impossible, though". After a few seconds of silence, I asked "have you ever heard of aromantics?" She said she hadn't, and I said "they're people who don't fall in love with others". She basically scoffed and said "yes, there's always those tribes at some point- emos, aromantics, whatever else" (looking back, I find it kind of hilarious how much she misunderstood what emos were and just lumped them in with us lmao). I got a little bit defensive, but tried to make it not be noticeable, and said "'aromantic' is actually an identity, though- what do you think the 'a' in 'lgbtqia+' stands for? It's asexuals and aromantics". She said she didn't know that and basically ended the subject saying "well, yes, there's all kinds of people in this world- maybe your cousin is part of that group then", but I felt it wasn't in a serious tone- she was just trying to end the conversation and looking at me like I didn't know much about stuff. Well, the reception could have been worse, and I guess she somehow acknowledged the existence of aromanticism, but I still felt a little bad about it- like she didn't actually put any thought into it and maybe didn't actually believe in me, or take the identity seriously. I don't really plan on coming out to my family any time soon (I'm not even sure about being aroace anyway- I'm still young, and wonder if I'm not just confused and still going to feel attraction some day), but this conversation made me even more apprehensive about it. I hope over the years I can make my parents at least believe this is a valid identity before thinking of coming out to them.
By the way, sorry if this was confusing- English isn't my first language.
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Hello there! First of all, thank you for making such a lovely welcoming space!
I feel generally comfortable in my aroace identity now after 4 years of figuring myself out, but I feel like my parent still doesnât really accept me. Theyâve said that they love me for who I am, but theyâve said before that they think Iâm straight and that I just need to mature. Even after Iâve told them about asexuality and aromanticism, they still say stuff like âlive a little! Kiss a boy!â or âthese are your best years to do itâ and it just feels disheartening, like they only see it as a thing Iâm doing out of fear or self esteem issues.
I just wish there was a way where I could properly share my thoughts to them without getting tongue tied to misstating my thoughts. I know they mean well, but theyâre not all the way there yet.
Anyways this turned into more of a rant than anything I hope you donât mind
hi there! thank you so much, iâm glad itâs been welcoming for you! iâm sorry to hear about your parents, hopefully theyâll come around soon. if you wanted, you could maybe talk to them about not making those comments? you donât even have to relate it to being aroace, just say you donât like it? either way i wish you luck and remember that itâs ok to not date/ kiss anyone, no matter what your parents say!
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February was a pretty good month! I read some books I really loved (and a couple that were simply meh), I got in a father-daughter visit and had really good luck at Scrabble, the weather was mostly not awful, and even if inventory at work took longer than expected, I survived it without brain mush, which has happened before. I am still the fastest scanner! My title holds.
Regular readers will be unsurprised to learn that Eve by Cat Bohannon and Mirrored Heavens by Rebecca Roanhorse were my top reads of the month, or that What Feasts At Night by T. Kingfisher ranks third. My T. Kingfisher problem is at least a year old, after all. (Also I read a couple delightful picture books, so be sure to click through to find them!)
I'm personally more surprised by my lowest picks, because they both sounded so up my alley but fell flat for nearly completely different reasons. The Heaven and Earth Grocery Store ended up feeling disjointed and like it was trying for a theme it couldn't quite grasp, and A Market of Dreams and Desires hit all kinds of tropes I love, right down to random Dickens references and weird steampunk machines, but tied everything together a little too neatly for me. Ah well.
And right in the middle of my list is my sole physical TBR read of the month: The Apprenticeship of Duddy Kravitz. This managed to tick off "Canadian author" and "classic" at the same time, so I get triple points. (This might have had a hand in me picking it.) Duddy has aged surprisingly well, in that it's still pretty fast-paced and amusing and also in that Richler wrote it with the understanding that scam artistry, hypermaterialism, and misogyny were bad and y'know what? They still are. I would recommend if you're looking for a Canadian teen anti-hero, more than anything. Duddy is a trainwreck and you can't look away.
I managed to get through the month with only three books hauled. (We won't talk about ARCs but the book fairies were kind.) The Unfortunate Traveller and Under a Pendulum Sun were bought during the habitual father-daughter bookstore date, and both because I never thought I'd see them and figured I might never see them again. The Unfortunate Traveller is essays and travel writing by a guy who co-wrote with Shakespeare and I didn't know it even existed. Under the Pendulum Sun was recced to me somewhere (here? bookish website algorithms?) and since it's essentially a gothic novel with properly weird fairies, it's been on my list.
The third book was a total surprise. Apparently I helped crowdfund it in 2019 and they've only just managed to get it printed and also I said I wanted a physical copy? The things we learn. Anyway, it's essays on aromanticism, agender identity, and asexuality so that tracks.
And I know I said I wasn't going to talk about ARCs but I got some good ones this last month and also in January, and there's a lot of them that are out or soon to be out and I'm having that problem where I want to be reading all of them at once. March is going to be interesting and probably a little panic-inducing.
Click through to see everything I read this month, in the rough order of how glad I was to have read them.
Eve - Cat Bohannon
A history of human evolution, through the lens of the female body.
8.5/10
warning: touches on sexism, mental illness, suicide, miscarriage, and rape
reading copy
Mirrored Heavens - Rebecca Roanhorse
The fractures following the eclipse have deepened and no one can see a way back to peace that doesnât involve bloodshed. Out in June
8/10
Indigenous cast, đłď¸âđ POV characters (bisexual, third gender), đłď¸âđ secondary characters (third gender, sapphic), Black-Pueblo author
warning: war, torture, mentions of child abuse
reading copy
What Feasts At Night - T. Kingfisher
Alex Easton has returned to kar hunting lodge to relax. Unfortunately, the locals claim there's a monster on a property.
8/10
đłď¸âđ protagonist (third gender), protagonist with PTSD
Library ebook
The Twilight Queen - Jeri Westerson
Will Somers, jester to Henry VIII, is caught up in another mystery, this time of a corpse in Queen Anneâs bedchamber.
7/10
đłď¸âđ main character (bi), đłď¸âđ secondary character (gay)
digital reading copy
The Apprenticeship of Duddy Kravitz - Mordechai Richler
A delinquent teen grows into a hustler, against the backdrop of mid-century Jewish Montreal.
7/10
largely Jewish cast, Jewish author, đ¨đŚ
warning: racial slurs, misogyny
Off my TBR shelves
The Woman With No Name - Audrey Blake
Lonely and craving war work, Yvonne signs up to be the first female spy for the Allies in occupied France. Out in March
7/10
half a đ¨đŚ author
reading copy
The Frame-Up - Gwenda Bond
Ten years ago, Dani turned her art thief mom in to the Feds. Now her momâs mentor has given Dani an offer she canât refuse: use her magic to pull an impossible heist, get her life back.
6.5/10
Black secondary characters, đłď¸âđ secondary characters (sapphic)
reading copy
The Heaven and Earth Grocery Store - James McBride
The Black and Jewish residents of a Pennsylvania neighbourhood are (mostly) in it together, not least of when the government decides to take a local Deaf kid to an asylum.
7/10
Jewish and Black cast, major character with chronic illness and a limp, secondary Deaf character, Black author
warning: ableist characters and institutions, racist and anti-Semitic characters, sexual assault and molestation, (largely) reclaimed slurs
library book
The Market of Dreams and Destiny - Trip Galey
Deri may have a chance to buy out his indenture early when he meets a princess looking to sell her destiny. But in the goblinâs Untermarkt, nothingâs ever easy.
6.5/10
đłď¸âđ main character (mlm), đłď¸âđ secondary characters (mlm, genderfluid), British Indian secondary character, đłď¸âđ author
warning: child abuse, enslavement
borrowed from work
Picture Books
No Cats in the Library - Lauren Emmons
Cats arenât allowed in the library but thatâs where all the books are!
đłď¸âđ author
Read at work
Family is Family - Melissa Marr
Chick gets a note before kindergarten, telling him to have his mom or dad walk him to school. Except that Chick has two moms.
đłď¸âđ secondary characters and themes
Read at work
Currently reading
Knife Skills for Beginners - Orlando Murrin
Paul Delamare is filling in at a cooking school when the resident celebrity chef has a, erm, "accident."
đłď¸âđ protagonist (gay), Black British secondary character
Reading copy
True North - Andrew J. Graff
The Brechts move to Wisconsin to restart a rafting business. They hope itâll save their young family, but it might do the opposite.
library book
Music from the Earliest Notations to the Sixteenth Century - Richard Taruskin
A history of early written European music, in its social and political contexts.
The Penguin Complete Sherlock Holmes - Arthur Conan Doyle
Victorian detective stories
disabled POV character, occasional secondary Indian secondary characters
warning: racism, colonialism
Monthly total: 9 +2 Yearly total: 20 Queer books: 4 + 2 Authors of colour: 2 Books by women: 6 Authors outside the binary: 0 Canadian authors: 1.5 Classics: 1 Off the TBR shelves: 1 Books hauled: 3 ARCs acquired: 6 ARCs unhauled: 4 DNFs: 0
January
#booklr#bookblr#book reviews#adult booklr#reading wrap-ups#read in 2024#my photos#book stacks#stacks of books
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happy sts!! how has your story changed from its first draft to its latest? - @trixierosewrites
happy sts!! thank you for the ask!
The very first draft of The Undiscovered Country is from when I was 10, and it's near un-recognisable from the story now lol.
Back then it was a superhero story about a girl who accidentally gets destructive superpowers, and who teams up with a lad who is also escaped lab experiment to take down the shadowy scientists interested in them both. It was a lot less cool and a lot more convoluted than this synopsis, and very something a 10 year old would make after watching too many superhero movies.
The Undiscovered Country went through several different iterations of a superhero story, the last of which being "local enby runs away from home and stumbles across guy who just escaped a government superhero program. friendship ensued". I then made a non-superpowered au of that draft, which then became first version of The Undiscovered Country's current form.
The Undiscovered Country now is a slice-of-life story about two very lonely gcse students becoming friends while recovering from their own different mental health crises. It's about how gcses SUCK and aromanticism and QPRs are super cool, becoming closer with younger siblings, and is ultimately wish fulfilment of the highest degree. I am planning to start writing the first draft of the current version of the Undiscovered Country at some point soon! :D
sorry if i misinterpreted this ask, I hope you have a good weekend!
#sts#answered#trixierosewrites#this ask was not spag-checked before i posted it because i am Sick! so if the grammar is bad i apologise :)
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Here is my my journey to realising Iâm demiromantic asexual, and it does go into some sexual stuff, so if you donât want to read it⌠donât read it.
I never âforcedâ myself to have a crush, but I did think âoh this is how everyone feelsâ
Like in year 6 for the school disco everyone was asking people out and my friends were saying how they had to get a date soon and I was already pretty friendly with the girls and also could see that the âdatesâ were pretty pointless/meaningless so I just asked out one of the girls I liked (in a platonic way) and when it came to the actual dance we, like everyone else, basically instantly did our own thing.
In high school, year 9 I think, I was really good friends with this one girl, who said she had a crush on me, and I had the thing where I wanted to be closer friends with her and thought âoh so this is what a crush is!â So âwent outâ with her, but basically nothing changed, so I didnât really think about it much. But eventually it got pretty bad as she was thinking about it as a relationship and I was thinking about it as âjust friendsâ. I think that was the first time I realised that SOMETHING about me was different, and I think a year later I learnt about asexuality & aromanticism and had that âohhhhhhhhâ moment.
Then after that, in year 11, I got REEEEALLY close to someone, to the point where we literally made out and I was like âit should be normal for friends to kiss that was greatâ. But after a good few weeks of being intensely close I actually did start to fall in love. They were a pretty sexual person and I started to imagine me⌠âpleasuringâ them, and that was when I thought âmaybe Iâm not aroace?â, anyway we entered a relationship, it was lovely, but as our relationship became more sexual it became clear that we were different.
This is where it starts to get maybe a bit TMI so if you donât want to read anything sexual leave now
I would only ever pleasure them, and I never really gave any thought to receiving anything back. But then one day they asked if they could and I was like âsureâ and I just⌠didnât feel anything? Like Iâve masturbated before itâs not like Iâm completely numb or anything but when it was this person that I loved with all my heart and who I had literally just fingered touching me I just didnât feel anything? Like of course I could feel them but like it wasnât pleasure or anything it was literally the same sensation as if they had touched my arm or something. Afterwards I said that Iâd just prefer to be the one giving and not receive, but if they wanted to give thatâd be fine. Like I didnât HATE it, it was quite fun, the person I love was trying to make me feel good yâknow it felt nice, but purely emotionally. Physically it just didnât feel like anything.
Over time they got âbetterâ, Iâd actually feel good instead of literally nothing, but still not enough to actually enjoy or want to do it, and I still only ever did it when they wanted to. A few times they have head and it was alright, but once again it was just kind of⌠meh. As I said they were a very sexual person, so they didnât just want to receive but to give too. But the way they said that was that they âfelt bad about not doing anythingâ to which I responded that I didnât mind at all, I only wanted to make them feel good, so I thought it was fine and they would just appreciate being a âpillow princessâ as they put it LOL.
But I do understand WHY they would feel bad, or why they werenât fulfilled sexually. Because yes, I didnât care for receiving anything sexual, but I LOVED giving. Genuinely, it was almost addictive. Making the love of your life feel so good was insane. Being able to watch their mind go blank from the pleasure was so much fun. Also itâs really interesting because they had different genitals from me and it was unironically fascinating just looking around and seeing what everything does. One time I was eating them out but stopped because I was curious about the hood of the clitoris, and they got really annoyed at me lol. 10/10, would recommend if you have a partner. I never tried penetration though, so I canât comment on âactualâ sex.
Anyway yeah, if I have a partner in future the ideal would be someone who doesnât want or doesnât care to give me any pleasure sexually.
Nowadays I believe Iâm Demiromantic Asexual. I very clearly am capable of being romantically attracted to someone, but after being single for a year and even having a squish, Iâm confident that I need an intense platonic bond before falling in love. In terms of sexuality, I was in a very sexual relationship with someone who I think is objectively attractive and still thought âehâ when it came to sex so Iâm pretty sure Iâm asexual, just sex positive/neutral (canât remember the difference). Maybe one day Iâll go âawoogaâ and actually be sexually attracted to someone but who knows. For now the label works for me.
#text post#randyposting#asexual#demiromantic#ace#aspec#arospec#relationships#tw sex#sexuality#long post
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Again with my father?
The topic of me getting a partner came up as the subject of dinner because we were talking about hand foot and mouth disease and kissing. I said that I doubted I'd be kissing anyone any time soon, and my mom understands my aromanticism, but my father doesn't.
Anyways, my father hit me with a "Maybe you just haven't found the right person yet." I ended up walking away from the table after that.
More importantly, how might I be able to explain to him the difference between attraction and interest? Me being romance favorable doesn't make sense to him, so how's a way I can explain my inability to feel attraction?
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Hey there. It's funny being (maybe) aro and in my late 30's. Like, it wasn't a term I ever heard until I'd graduated uni--I never had a word for what I was, I just knew even as a child that I never wanted to get married or have kids or live *that* life. I dated some in college, but I hated every minute of it. Realized I was only dating because I felt like I was *supposed* to, so I just stopped. Still, I hesitate to use the aro label because, well, what if everyone is right and I just haven't met the right person yet? I mean, here I am at Thanksgiving with the all family, and they're all like, 'Aww, you'll find someone soon, don't worry...' And I'm secretly like, 'I really hope not lol'. At least my parents are supportive. I mean, I doubt they even know what aro means, lol. But they never push me to date anymore. They've resigned themselves to having granddogs and nothing more lol.
Is this just how it is, though? Silently doubting because your experience is so different? Thinking maybe you just have commitment issues? I mean, the whole sugar-coated idea of romance in fiction and movies is great and everything, but in reality I'd rather be single and happy. lol
hi! so sorry for not responding... uhhh, last year when this was sent. but:
this is a super common experience for aro folks, particularly early in questioning / learning about their own experiences. I think it's also worthwhile to say that the majority of my peers began to regularly experience romantic attraction to a variety of people after approximately the age of 10. being in your late 30s and not liking people romantically ever, or only a few times, is not a typical alloromantic experience.
i also think it's important for anyone questioning in this way to understand that the aro community is very much not into hard boundaries around labels. aromanticism explicitly includes anyone who feels this label helps them - and even when I first started identifying as aro in 2014 or so, and could barely find any information on it, every aro post I came across even on Tumblr included that it was okay to identify as aro if you rarely experienced attraction. it isn't - and pardon the reference - all or nothing. some aromantic folks don't ever experience romo attraction, and some are on the aromantic spectrum in ways where maybe they feel that their life is not significantly different than that of an alloromantic person... and anyone along that entire range of experience is welcome.
honestly, the boundaries around our label are meant to be more like welcome gates.
so... welcome :) i hope this helps you or others in similar situations of questioning. i hope that however you feel now, you know that you are welcome to share in our label.
#savorvrymoment#not aro culture#aro#aromantic#actually aro#actually aromantic#ask#mod axel#am i aro#<- organization tag - if anyone has questions about if they are aro pls look through that tag
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