the reason why sam and dean’s unhealthy dynamic doesn’t need to be fixed is because they both (unconsciously) crave power imbalance but for completely different reasons
dean didn’t have much power when he was younger since john took his control away from him. which is why he seeks power/control via hunting, violence and his relationship with sam. dean’s repressed sadistic tendencies, his love for hunting, his enjoyment of torturing & killing souls in hell come from his repressed need to be in control
and sam, as jared said, wants to restrain his physical power. not only because he doesn’t feel comfortable in his body, being too big and intimidating on the outside but feeling smaller and craving safety on the inside. but also because of his guilt and wanting to prove to himself, and to dean, that he’s good. that dean can trust him. it makes him seek comfort in being punished, in being restrained and feeling smaller than he is, but dean is the only person who can give him what he needs because dean is also the only person sam trusts and submits to. as twisted as it may be, but dean’s control over him is the only thing that gives him a feeling of safety he’s always craved
they complement each other in this fucked up way, that’s why their dynamic cannot exist without a certain amount of power imbalance
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i’ve been truly gobsmacked one single time in my entire life and it was during a conversation i had with my therapist dalton about three months after i started seeing him. it went something like this:
dalton: you’d mentioned going to therapy multiple times before, what were those experiences like?
me: *tells him about experiences*
dalton: so all of your past therapists with the exception of one have been men, correct?
me: uh yeah, i guess so.
dalton: was that coincidence or do you prefer speaking with men?
me: i guess i just feel more comfortable talking to a man.
dalton: do you think there’s a reason?
me: i don’t know, i’ve never put much thought into it honestly.
dalton: based on what you’ve told me in prior sessions, do you think it has anything to do with your father being absent both emotionally and physically?
me: uh
dalton: the only reason i ask is because you say you’re indifferent to his indifference as he’s always been unreliable and you’re “used to it.” but do you realize when you’ve talked about your struggles with seeking external validation in wanting people to be proud of you, the people in question are almost exclusively older men who are some kind of authority figure to you? and based on what you’ve told me about your childhood, you didn’t really get the validation and connection you wanted from your father, which is part of why you seek it elsewhere. and while that makes sense, i want to make sure you understand it’s okay if him not doing what a father should do still hurts you, even if though you think it shouldn’t hurt anymore because you’ve been living with his disappointment for the past twenty or so years. it doesn’t matter how old a wound is, sometimes they still hurt.
me: uhh
dalton: anyway, back to my question. do you think it has anything to do with that or do you just feel more comfortable being vulnerable with men?
me: uhhh
dalton: take your time. you don’t have to have an answer right now. just something to maybe think about. now, let’s talk about the dead brother thing.
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Budget Cuts
Leon: Alright, how about this one?
Chevalier: ...No.
Leon: You didn't even read the whole thing.
Chevalier: I have read enough to know it requires major revision.
Leon: Okay, fine. I can maybe cut back a few orders for the kitchens in Spring, but you'll have to answer to Yves when he—
Chevalier: Not that. Line 39.
Leon: Ah, yeah. That... It's a minor condition.
Chevalier: It does not belong in the budget plan.
Leon: It's just for one day. It'll fly by.
Chevalier: I refuse to comply.
Leon: It's your civic duty as the Second Prince to comply with the wishes of the citizens of Rhodolite.
Chevalier: And since when have the citizens of Rhodolite wished for this?
Leon: The Boys™ and I conducted an end of year survey. One question was: If you could demand one act of community service from any prince next year, what would it be?
Chevalier: Was it multiple choice?
Leon: Free response, actually.
Chevalier: Did Clavis "assist" you in your data collection?
Leon: Listen, you should be honored. And that wasn't even the top pick. But Sariel made an executive decision to veto that one. Didn't represent domestic values, or something.
Chevalier: What was it?
Leon: Jin Topless Tuesdays.
Chevalier: And yet, this was deemed adherent to "domestic values"?
Leon: Give me some leeway here, Chevalier. I'm letting you keep your bit about constructing fifty new bee sanctuaries across the kingdom, even though they pose zero military advantage as far as I'm aware. Aside from maybe stinging invaders.
Chevalier: Having additional sources of food along the journey decreases the need to overpack at the start. Additionally, the honey invigorates soldiers without risk of sugar crash.
Leon: So that's how Luke convinced you.
Chevalier: You need to revise your proposal.
Leon: You need to learn to be a team player. There are only 10 days left till the budget plan is due.
Chevalier: Meanwhile, I am counting down the days until I am crowned king and can veto any ridiculous suggestion that exits your mouth.
--— 11 days later —--
Townsperson 1: Hey, is that... is that Prince Chevalier?
Townsperson 2: Mhmm.
Townsperson 1: Wearing a giant, adorable, fluffy tiger costume?
Townsperson 2: Mmhmmm.
Townsperson 1: And handing out chocolates and terrifying grimaces to the children?
Townsperson 2: I think those are meant to be smiles?
Townsperson 1: This is why I voted for Topless Tuesdays.
Jin + Clavis: Psshhh! Speak for yourselves. *high-fives*
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