#someone: tell me about yourself

[alienoresimagines]

Just some words I've been needing to hear for a few weeks now and once I finally wrote them down, I thought maybe there were other people who might need to hear them too ❤️

You don't need to be anyone's favorite writer for your writing to be good.

The worth of your writing is not measured by whether or not you're included in fic recs or the amount of comments/asks you get.

Your works don't need to be recognized as some of The fics of the fandom to be good or worth reading.

'Popular' writers in your fandom are also just writers (and humans!!) : you don't need to impress or be noticed by them to have a place in your fandom. Fandom should be fun so don't let your brain ruin it with a misplaced sense of competition <3

You don't need to post a fic every week to be considered a writer. You don't need to write every week to be a writer. There is no limited places in fandom: come and go as you want and as life allows you to. Post when you feel like it, there is no trend to surf on to stay 'relevant' as a fic writer or a content creator. Fandom will always wait for you.

Your writing is good, and the more you write, the more you find your style, the better it gets.

Your writing made someone's day. Your writing is helping the fandom stay alive. Your writing should make you happy, and that happiness should not be proportional to how recognized you are in your fandom.

I know it can be discouraging to see tons of fic recs in your fandom and none of them including your fics. But yesterday, when I was feeling down, I re-read my own published works because they were the stories I wanted to read. And I enjoyed reading them, so much. And that is enough to keep me writing, because it showed me there is no better person to write the stories I have in my head than myself (a huge progress considering months ago, I couldn't reread something I'd written because I was cringeing too hard to get through two sentences).

Find your people that will always hype you and your fics up: you and your writing don't have to appeal to every single person in your fandom. Write niche fics! Rarepairs seemingly no one brought up before! Include headcanons and takes and interpretations you've never seen written before!

Write the stories you are dying to read, and I promise you, you'll find other people who were hoping to find that story somewhere, too.

Your writing is unique because it can only ever be yours and same goes for your stories; your writing is worth reading and your stories are worth being written <3

[dukeofthomas]

I find the fact that the confrontation at the end of UTRH is often summarized as Jason asking Bruce to kill the Joker for him fascinating.

Because that's not what happened.

Jason holds a gun up to Joker's head, gives Bruce another, and tells him that if Bruce doesn't do something (shoot Jason), he will kill Joker.

Jason doesn't give the gun to Bruce so that he would shoot Joker. He isn't expecting Bruce to pull the trigger on the clown. He's asking Bruce to do nothing. To be inactive. Because that will still be a choice, and despite having done nothing, everybody clearly agrees that Bruce would still, at least in part, be responsible for Joker's death.

...And to me, this moment is a kind of- microcosm, of the rest of Jason's point. Because after being captured and carted off to Arkham, the villain will escape again, and will kill more people. The only way to truly prevent that from happening would be to kill them; Bruce refuses to do so, and I respect his right to choose such a thing for himself, but it is still a choice, and if we agree that Bruce's inaction during the confrontation would leave him at least partly responsible for the Joker's death, then we must also agree that his inaction in permanently preventing the Rogues from killing more people means he is also, partly, responsible for all of those deaths.

[fishing-lesbian-catgirl]

Every time shen comics show up on my dash I have to check in to see if he’s become a girl yet. I don’t mean that in a weird parasocial way it’s just this dude has been posting the eggiest shit you can imagine for years. People were posting his super eggy art in trans subreddits like literally 5 years when I was first realizing things…

Anyway today I see this

It’s not hard to see through this ironic post about what it’s like being a man and how you aren’t allowed comfortable things. Between this and posts about the purpose of life being drawing girls kissing… someone please tell this guy that he can be a girl already.

[dontbelasagne]

desperately need to do a presentation on why the Twelfth Doctors journey perfectly represents the transfem experience

their previous eleventh incarnation being suave and hypersexual (i know moffat is mostly to blame but!) is reminiscent of attempts to fit into heteronormative ideals of masculinity. whilst it is not completely insincere, there are obvious signs this does not fit you as a person, it is acted out of desperate need to being seen. as Vastra put it, eleven wore that face, and subsequently that form of masculinity, to be accepted. on becoming twelve, realising even an "idealised" masculinity does not inherently serve them, they retreated into themselves as a person for self-reflection and trying to understand why they feel so detached from who they are.

the "am i a good man" arc mirrors being closeted and having to present as something not inherently tied to your sense of self, but still wanting to be the best of your perceived gender as any failure could leave you spiralling into self-doubt about simply being like any other "man". you ignore your gender dysphoria/questioning by trying to claim a moralistic view of gendered expression. made even more clear by Twelve rejecting Clara's heroic view of them, establishing that even though they have made efforts to be a "good man", that is just a placeholder for their loss of identity.

Missy appearing as she does, who as a character serves as a parallel to The Doctor on what they could become, and her eventual arc in trying to become good is symbolic of the fear around transition regret that internalised transphobia can create when you are closeted. Missy never gives importance to their fem existence other than nonchalant jokes, rather showing a more free and expressive personality devoid of any frustration. this immediately dismisses the transphobic assumption that trans people are only focused on their gender. also, Missy representing trans femininity is inherently tied to chaos and upsetting the status quo, she is the embodiment of what society considers accepting your womanhood as someone previously labelled masculine. what many others, and The Doctor themselves, saw as a need for attention and senseless disruption is Missy not needing to serve a false version of who they are, that they can now focus on becoming whoever they want to be now without losing energy to performing a gender that society has imposed on you. Missy could never have made the decision to stand with The Doctor if she had not given importance to her own queerness.

it wasn't coincidence with meeting Bill, she was the perfect foil for The Doctor to finally let go of their anxious attachment to masculinity. i would even argue for the majority of s10, The Doctor is largely ambiguous in their gender identity and does not fit into any construction of masculinity or femininity. whilst they still present as something socially labelled as masculine, they do not internalise that gender expression. they are uncaring about and not needing the validity that comes with heteronormativity, and thus is free to finally accept the decision they have to make. as Bill says, it is so hard to let go of The Doctor, and that rings true for twelve themselves. but they begin to realise The Doctor can be anyone. yes, they are tired, it would be so easy to simply rest and not give value to who you can become. but choosing to let go of everything you once were to survive is better than oblivion. it is better to let go, to choose another lifetime where the only person that dies is your falsity, to finally get it right and choose kindness. for yourself and for those who you love. they regenerate, not just into another person, but into someone who (if only tv scripts...) can now move forward.

[erinwantstowrite]

"what radicalized you?" being told "that's just the way the world is." because daring to believe that change could happen was brushed off so easily. i think the passive mindset people have about everything upset me the most. it didn't just apply to friends who refused to take sides or have opinions when you wete upset with someone, or people always playing devil's advocate when you were upset and invalidating why YOU are upset. it applied to people who saw that we were killing people under the guise of religion when it was always about wanting the land, the money, the benefits of somebody's death. it applied to the fact that the world is dying and we have every opportunity to start making changes but everyone says "that's just the way the world is." and it's not. it's the way YOU are. you have refused to change and grow and take a stance and you will drag everyone down with you

[bitchthefuck1]

Still thinking about this by the way

[stompedchild]

i think half of tr!ros' problems are that she is lowkey suicidal at the moment so she'll happily start shit because why does her life matter? and nobody is exactly helping. (there's another part jealousy and another part her urge to start shit, but anyways)

granted helping ros is easier said than done but i think most people assume her problems stem from not having a sense of purpose/a goal, and because of that they give her advice such as "figure out what you want/what makes you happy". which, is good advice in some sense, but that's not what ros necessarily needs because she does know what makes her happy and what she wants to do. she has stated repeatedly that her friends make her happy, and that she wants to protect those dear to her while being joyful and whimsical. the problem ros is facing is her willingness to throw away her life, as shown constantly by her words and arguably her actions.

i think one of ros' core issues is that she has a horrible self-worth problem. she is so willing to throw away her lives because she does not believe she is worth anything at all. funnily enough, pili, and i think pili alone called her out on this. other comments seem to be about her purpose, what makes her happy, or standing up for herself. anyways, despite all of the reaffirmation she is given by so many people around her, she is so quick to worry about other people and THEIR perception of HER, and never herself. because why does she matter? and how could she ever burden other people with her problems?

i'm not sure how to end this because ultimately i don't know how tr!ros can be helped. she is pretty consistently reaffirmed by those around her yet she seems to forget that she is loved so quickly. it's a crippling self-worth issue coupled with the unimaginable grief and anger she is experiencing at the hands of other people. (as well as her other negative personality traits bc jealousy is not helping ur case ros) personally, in my totally unbiased opinion smile, i'd love to see an emotional conversation between her and clown/sneeg. or even just a conversation where she truly lets everything out and feels listened to. because as she told bad she doesn't feel like she's been truly understood. but we'll see what happens :3

[domokunrainbowkinz]

shipping yhk not in a romantic or platonic way but a secret third way (⬛️⬛️)

[maxgicalgirl]

No but for real have we found a solution for rejection sensitive dysphoria yet ? Like does anyone else who has this have coping mechanisms that work ? I am genuinely asking please help

[satiwi1]

The psychological damage in media when the main character finds out someone close to them is dying and asks why they weren't told sooner only to realise it was because of their own negligence oh my god

[imjustavenuxwithaboomerang]

love them (as in both of them)

[kneworder]

“You know, Damian’s half convinced you let it happen.”  Tim scoffs. “Sounds like him.”  “Not like that. He’s different now, he wouldn’t say that.”  “What the hell else am I supposed to think?”  “You confronted Azrael alone, in civvies, after he’d already beaten you up once just for getting in his way. Is it that much of a stretch for Damian to think you might have had a death wish?”  “I didn’t have a death wish.” Steph gives him a long look. "Sure."

missed posting my annual november reverse robins timsteph angst so to make up for it here's an even angstier than usual painting from this AU <3 more coming soon hopefully!!

[beastking-golion]

Did christian linke actually do anything wrong beyond saying he didn’t see jayvik as romantic or are you guys just losing your shit over a difference of opinion?

[fallloverfic]

People who read Jinx: Kim Dan's such a weakling! He never stands up to Joo Jaekyung/anyone!

Dan in canon:

sucker-punched Jaekyung twice, once intentionally (7-8, 26), also smacked Jaekyung's hand away when Jaekyung was getting too handsy (27)

resigned from his job, refused to go back, multiple times, to Jaekyung's face (60, 62)

despite knowing how powerful Jaekyung is, and threats, got up in the middle of sex and left to go check in on his grandmother (after hitting Jaekyung to make him move) (20-21)

took on a delivery job of his own volition to get money for a gift (42)

did long night (maybe overnight) work for his job because he was so passionate (17)

stepped into the ring with a powerful MMA fighter because he wanted to improve his work, and stayed in the ring after getting beaten; also used his wish for winning on a friend (25-26)

rejected a popular, rich actor: was prepared to end the relationship of his own volition (35)

stood up for Yoon-gu (26)

worked multiple jobs to support his grandmother, despite how it was quite literally killing him, and how it hurt his pride to do those jobs

insisted on going into work after being run ragged by a vibrator in a car (he committed, he just needed relief beforehand) (33)

downed a cup of alcohol that was nearly the size of his body (9)

took care of a dog, ran a dying puppy to the vet (59)

advocated for himself to Jaekyung to: a) get assurance of being paid when they first started having sex (2), b) get an advance payment when he needed to move out (11)

refused to turn over info on Jaekyung/otherwise join Jaekyung's competitor's team in part out of loyalty but also because he found the entire situation repulsive (48)

stood up for himself and then left when Jaekyung was mocking him for being poor (16)

insisted on Jaekyung taking breaks because Dan is committed to his work and wants the best for his patients (27)

is very good at his job, which requires a large amount of medical knowledge, which he, presumably, had to study for some time, and which he attempts to keep up to date on

Y'all can barely be bothered to reblog fanart, comment on fanfics, or crop the top of screenshots to remove the scanlation HTMLs. Do not even begin to pretend you know what strength is, or insist that Dan doesn't have it. Being nice, supportive, and passionate /= being weak. It takes a lot of strength to be nice, and a lot of strength to get up and keep going through your day when the world keeps hitting you down. He's a bit naive still, has self-esteem issues that often make him more biddable to others, and is anxious, and he is often submissive in bed, but that doesn't mean he's weak, and it's weird so many people insist he is. (Also being physically weak is not the same as emotionally weak; you'd be physically weak too if you didn't eat or sleep all that much, overworked, and otherwise neglected self-care for prolonged periods of time)

Anyway, Jinx is awesome. Glad I read it.

[allgremlinart]

"noooo my childish interest is actually super deep!!" its ok if it isn't though

[beloved-child-of-the-house]

i stand with you in the face of a defensive misunderstanding of what critique is.

i think understanding what a critique actually is is a skill that increasingly is not taught. i remember going through freshman art courses feeling the frustration that all negative, nasty, unhelpful, and missed-the-point-entirely feedback is so commonly conflated with critique, and then critique gets a bad name because everyone remembers the time someone said their painting looked like an asshole (true story, altho now i think i would take it as a compliment) instead of the time a teacher or friend or classmate helped them uncover a hurtful bias or think of new ways to explore the same idea or how to connect it to related ideas or how to look up and understand other people's ideas on the same topic.

anyway i think you're great.

ahhh you're so kind to me!! i appreciate your support, and i think you are great also.

i have experience with giving and receiving critique as a student myself, and i think it was the best part of my degree! i majored in creative writing in college, and critique was just a generally accepted part of learning to become a writer. i don't even remember people being especially worried about receiving critique on their work. we had guidance on what kind of feedback was useful, but we were still at liberty to give it as we saw fit as like messy 19 year olds. the standard was that we gave it both written on printed copies of the work AND aloud in front of the whole class, and the writer receiving it was not permitted to speak during the critique. understanding how people are perceiving your work is important!

i don't have any particularly negative recollections of the critique process, although once in a high school writing class, the boys in the class told me that my male characters touched each other too gently and real boys are more rough with each other. in particular, they took issue with me writing that one boy nudged another. nudging is too soft. nudging is for girls. that was more than 20 years ago, and i still think about it sometimes because it was such an interesting perspective! i did not take their advice, though.

i should dig up that piece and see if it reads queer in any other ways. i think that's what they were getting at. (actually i once had a non-fiction class tell me i was in love with my roommate after reading an essay i wrote about her)(i did not listen to that advice either, but having 12 acquaintances tell you that you're gay in 2006 before you realize it yourself is Truly Something!)

i think people have conflated criticism and critique and think that being more openly analytical is the same thing as being negative. but analysis is so fun to me! analysis is why i joined fandom in the first place, and it's why i write fic! can we trust each other to be respectful and to speak in good faith even when we're not singing each other's praises? for me fandom would be better if we could.

oh i also want to clarify that i don't think it's impossible to demonstrate that you've thought deeply about a piece of fanwork while remaining completely positive. people do it all the time and do it very well!

i know i sometimes have tunnel vision wrt my own perspective. in a lot of situations, i wish it were more acceptable to be more direct, and i know people sometimes find the way i express myself to be kind of shocking. i know a lot of people like to be spoken to more indirectly than comes natural to me, and i don't mean to imply that my perspective is the only correct one or that there's no good reason to err on the side of gentleness/politeness in our responses to amateur art and writing. i just think that at a certain level of circumspection, it feels like we're all holding each other at arm's length.

i think for people who can't bear to feel exposed, making and sharing art is always going to be painful and difficult, and maybe too painful and difficult to enjoy the process unless they're sure of a soft landing. but like. the rewards of being loved only come after the mortifying ordeal of being known, right?