#so many male feminists send rape and death threats to women

[ryukisgod]

[cordycepsfem]

I just feel like if you're being an utterly patronizing female head-patter and you think the most important issue in feminism is whether or not we include males, maybe you should go like. Fuck off. Or go the middle of nowhere and look up at the night sky and fuck off. Or go out onto the ocean and experience the vastness of a flat, blue horizon as you fuck off. Or climb a mountain and feel the altitude take away your breath while you fuck off.

I just. Go fuck off. Fuck off the planet we live in, the universe we live in.

And then maybe you will see that there are some very definite and specific concerns about turning feminism into the "all lives matter" movement, because as a feminist, we know which people are male and which are female, and that feminism does not give a shit who people think they are and what they want... because feminism is for the liberation of women and girls from patriarchal structures. (Including you, even though you've chosen to identify as "transmasc.")

And maybe you will also realize that those are the important things to fight for, like actually taking down the patriarchy without fighting the patriarchy wearing dresses taking over our movement and killing lesbians and sending death threats and rape threats to women who won't do as they're told and taking over our spaces and our words and beating up grandmas, and fighting colonizers and racists wearing dresses who come in to speak over women of color and women from other countries, because feminism is for women and girls, for them to exist in this world freely, so we can help them to live in a world where all of them can learn and yearn and reach for the stars.

And maybe, someday, not today obvs, but someday in the future, you will realize how patronizing this was, and how you literally bent the knee for the patriarchy while telling us dumb women that because we aren't enlightened enough to let males into our feminism and we weren't enlightened enough to identify out of womanhood, and hopefully you'll be ashamed. Someday maybe you'll look at how many males supported you with anything, and wonder why none of your brave and stunning trans women friends ever made posts like this for you.

And on that day, we'll still be here, and you'll still be welcome as a fellow female.

[wintertidewater]

https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/ oh look its science :O

Hey bestie lowkey thinking this was sent to the wrong blog? I looked at your link and while I've seen plenty to the contrary, let's say I'll dismiss it all and take the data you present in good faith. So what? I will always put women and girls first. This whole movement has led to an erosion of our rights en masse, and that's aside from the blatant misogyny ("makeup = woman tehehe"). It's so weird some of y'all think you're a countercultural movement. The president and every major institution supports you. You succeeded in bringing back the urinary leash, destroying female only scholarships, damning women's sports, and so much more in about five years. Women's only spaces are illegal thanks to you. You've set women's liberation back by at least 50 years. Men that call themselves women maintain male criminality rates. There is no "female soul", y'all run a misogynistic faith-based ideology. The damage and trauma you cause to people are real. The three largest factors that determine whether or not a girl transitions is her being: lesbian. autistic. or sexually assaulted. Yeah it can be more comfortable to bend to the will of conformity by "becoming straight". It is understandable that some girls and women want to escape their bodies when they've been traumatized sexually. That doesn't change the fact that other people going along with your defensive self perception changes absolutely nothing structurally. I'll always stand against female oppression and homophobia. I don't care how unpopular it is. I believe that what I'm doing is right. You probably believe the same. Not sure why you chose that of all things to send, but I can assure you I'm well researched and I don't hate you, but you should do some more research yourself (maybe starting by leaving any vacuums you're in). I'd reccomend this book. If you're actually serious about exchanging ideas, I'll read one you choose at the same time and we can compare.

I can tell you're not familiar with me though, because I'm a very "nature knows what she's doing" type blog. I don't believe in the pharmaceutical industry, cosmetic surgery, or psychiatry. I believe in going barefoot so you develop calluses and can ditch shoes and I believe in acknowledging our place in the ecosystem rather than separating from nature through civilization. I find no appeal from either ideology you seem to subscribe to (transsexualism and transhumanism).

I think if more women knew how many lies they've been fed, they wouldn't feel so alienated by their bodies. The female form is so much more than you realize. You are what every male god imitates. You bleed in sync with the moon. You have a longer lifespan. You are better doctors, drivers, coders, surgeons, artists, musicians. Animals prefer your company. You are less prone to disease and less weakened by famine. You are so much more than what you have been taught. Quit porn. Pick up a feminist book. Heal your relationship with your body. You can't hate yourself into a version you can love. Your true self doesn't lie in a pill or on an operating table. You need to learn self love and acceptance. Because becoming "transsexual" is chasing an impossible goal. You will always fall short. The high after each step will fade. And your health will decline. Because your body is not meant to have those levels of testosterone or be cut. It is self harm. Being alone in nature and taking a step back from patriarchal mass media will help.

It's clear you're female. That's not a limiting thing. You can still be anyone and do anything. In fact, you can do even more than men (no I'm not just talking about pregnancy). You can see more colors. You have better fine motor skills. You have better long distance stamina. The anonymous asks I get from males (trans "women" or "cis" men) are rape and death threats. They are not your allies.

[rozenn]

to that annoying ass anon, a lot of us have to go crypto on here because y'all are fucking animals. hounding people down if they dont agree with y'all's groupthink. y'all look at the likes and reblogs of persons and create call out posts for tErFs (though i'm not one) and the ones who interact with them so ofc a lot will not interact due to fear of doxxing, rape threats (somehow popular amongst them) and other disgusting remarks. wish y'all had the same energy for the white supremacists, homophobes (which a lot of y'all are), racists, misogynists etc etc.

anyway pls continue to do what you do. don't let these homophobic queers tear you down.

-sincerely a black bi woman who is sick of this shit

Thank you very much for this comment. The trans community complains about being called cultish yet act like religious zealots as soon as they are criticized. So many examples online of trans people sending death threats or doxxing people over not putting trans women (cause let's be real they don't go this hard for trans men) on the top of the pyramid in every conversation and issue. Not to mention TERF just means anyone who does not revolve their world around making trans women always happy and never face accountability even if it hurts other groups of people, like one callout I saw that shamed a very pro-trans feminist for using and acknowledging the word sex-based oppression...this community has so many issues and it is wild how they are dedicated to such a downfall as long as biological straight males are still being validated by some people.

[cordycepsfem]

1.) It's not a "gotcha" if it's true. Women are more likely to try and compromise. Is that due to socialization? Probably not completely, but we can't count out where the origins of wanting compromise - and avoiding conflict - might come from.

2.) For a movement that's so "not anti-feminist," the trans movement sure does a lot to hurt female people (the supposed people gaining the benefits of feminism). Might just be me, but trying to shut down rape shelters, raping and assaulting and stalking and harassing and killing women, taking over lesbian and/or female-only spaces, places, and groups, continually talking over women, harassing women-owned/feminist businesses, and inserting themselves into every single form of activism no matter the cause... those all seem like "anti-feminist" actions. Definitely "anti-woman" at the very least.

What would you say are the "core beliefs" of radical feminism that trans people agree with? What about radical feminism "does wonders" for trans people? And is it the male people (trans women) or the female people (trans men) who are receiving said "wonders"?

Women who are gender critical want to abolish gender, because it is a source of oppression under the patriarchy. Trans individuals whose lives revolve around their gender being acknowledged and performed seem to be a little more than "at odds" with that work.

I find it odd that you claim women who are upset with the fetishization of womanhood are "whining." Men who take a pornified view of womanhood - things that women do not find arousing for the most part, like wearing a skirt, for example - and getting "euphoria boners" from them... that's disgusting. Calling it out is not "whining," it is pointing out disgusting behavior. If there's a reason women don't want to work "across the aisle," so to speak, perhaps it's that men are fetishizing everything from getting a period to being forced to wear a burqa to being sexually assaulted and murdered. It's deeply male behavior. Women who don't do any activism at all don't deserve to have men treat their daily realities like porn or fetish fodder, and to claim that's necessary is bullshit. Self-preservation is enough.

3.) I don't have any notes here.

4.) "Trans people do not fit into the system of gender" - this you might wanna take some more laps on. Many of them uphold the system of gender. They benefit from gender being written into federal law. Trans individuals claim that radfems "are too ugly" to be women, or they're "trans men in denial", or can't be women because of x, y, z - short hair, being a lesbian, being muscular... to me that speaks of ideology that believes in the gender binary fiercely. Many of them have decided there are specific totems that represent what "being a man" or "being a woman" means, and seek to go down their personal list. If they don't fit into the binary of gender, why do trans women get so thrilled about breast growth? Why do trans men love beard growth? I could provide other examples... there are many.

5.) Softpedaling the "trans people are sending rape and death threats to women" with "BUT ACHUALLY IT'S CIS MEN" does nothing for me. How are we supposed to know the difference between predatory men and predatory men who claim to be trans? Many of us, myself included, have had actual threats from actual trans people. Many women have had threats actually carried out by those actual trans people. Saying "oh those aren't actually trans people" is bullshit.

I care deeply for the trans people in my life, but the attitudes and the actions of the trans community in both real life and online do not create a picture of a group of people I want to work with on anything. A lot of your writing seems to be attempting to create a reason for radfems to want to "bridge the gap" with people who have been actively hateful towards us.

If "there's nothing we can do about" your activism and all your gap-bridging - good, sure, whatever, go do it, and leave the rest of us out of it. The focus for radical feminism needs to continue to be female-driven.

1.) for the love of science, please, please stop using the theory of gendered socialization as some “gotcha” against all female people. stop trying to constitute that just because a person who happens to be female is only empathic because they’re female. stop making us all look bad, stop proving the dumbasses who say we’re trying to claim all women have some universal spiritual bond that connects them & that we’re using the theory to constitute & declare all women as inherently this and all men as inherently that, right. stop misunderstanding the theory. yes, socialization has impacts on how someone turns out as a person. yes, socialization does influence personality, and yes, the reason why women are more likely to be empathic is because of socialization, not because of some inherent biological magic; however, this doesn’t mean that having basic human decency & choosing not to be a piece of shit is somehow alien to male people. this doesn’t mean that women should throw away all their learned personality traits & tendencies. just because empathy is more forced & pushed onto women, doesn’t mean women need to get rid of that. instead, women should work on unlearning passiveness & unhealthy self-consciousness– female people should unlearn the process of female socialization that taught them to think low of themselves, that taught them to constantly feel like a burden, that taught them not to have any boundaries & to stay quiet and meek– empathy & human decency are not something to be thrown away. those are valuable & natural human traits.

2.) the trans movement is not inherently anti-feminist. the commodification, commercialization, and pinkwashing of it is. if we look very closely, trans people a lot of the time agree with the core elements of radical feminism; they just phrase their beliefs differently. there are gaps within ideologies, and both sides can be obtuse as fuck. both sides can be annoying & unwilling to learn. both sides can do legitimate harm in the real world. both sides need to learn from each other & stop vilifying & caricaturing the other as some pesty inherent danger that should be hidden from the rest of the world. gender critical women and trans rights activists need not always be “at odds”. we can, and we will, bridge the gap; no matter how many times annoying people like you fly around our ears like & whine. buzz all you want. there are people out there working on bridging the gap & are efficiently doing so. if you want to lock yourself up in an echo-chamber while also insisting trans people are doing that very same thing, then well done. have your hypocrisy cake and eat it 🤷🏻. me personally, i’ll keep having meaningful discussions with people who don’t necessarily share the same worldview as i do. nevertheless, radical feminism does wonders for trans people, and there are so many radical feminists out there insistent on proving that. if you’re going to sit back and whine about “men in dresses”, “those disgusting tranzes invading women’s spaces” and “moid xys fetishizing women”, while not doing anything whatsoever to improve the conditions of your local women– then don’t bother calling yourself a feminist of any sorts, yet alone a radical feminist. gncphobia does not look good on a person claiming to be pro-feminist. seriously.

3.) “no one is arguing that we should make trans-identified people’s lives worse” this is just, like, blatantly untrue. bans & limits on self-expression, bodily automony & self-determination, do in fact, harm trans people, a deeply vulnerable & targeted group in many societies. the same societies that tend to be extremely intolerant of trans people are also extremely intolerant of women. this is not a coincidence. it’s not a coincidence that the worst misogynists are also very often transphobic. it’s not a coincidence that conservatives, the people working to tangibly oppress trans people, are also anti-abortion, anti-divorce, pro-nuclear family, and anti-lgb. it’s almost like, hey– trans people are oppressed on the gender axis! and if you’re going to say that you said this in regards to radfems; you’d also be wrong. i will agree that tras often unrealistically portray radfems as fashies capable of systemically oppressing trans people, and that they very often create conspiracy theories on how “terfs are running the world” & “terfs control the governments”, exaggerating the “power” radfems may have– but this does not mean that there are no transphobic radfems. i’ve seen many deny dysphoria being a thing, many are unnecessarily & inhumanely cruel to dysphoric people & constantly try to purposely trigger someone’s dysphoria, many are exceptionally cruel to trans men (which is funny because they like to claim we are their “lost sisters” or whatever), many straight up mock surgeries & call people “mutilated” which extends to the hatred & bigotry against detrans folk. you cannot complain how trans people refuse to excommunicate genuinely awful people in their community if you yourself are going to ignore the genuinely awful people in your own community. you just cannot.

4.) “we are pro gender abolition and they are pro gender”– i mean, making a wild claim like this just proves you’ve locked yourself up in an echo-chamber. you sound exactly💯 how those tras who portray radfems as The Incarnation of Devil Himself sound like. you believe you know everything about a group & the group’s beliefs without conversating with anyone from said group. that’s exactly how many tras behave, making up wild claims & false caricatures of radfem beliefs, exaggerating them up to the point of nonsense. like, i’m sorry– but i’ll call bullshit on the “they are pro gender” stuff. i just cannot bring myself to believe that a group uniquely oppressed by gender is capable of meaningfully supporting the existence of it. sure, there are trans people who will vocally say they are against the abolition of gender because they personally feel it helps them because want to assimilate/it helps them express & understand themselves or whatever– but this doesn’t erase the reality of gender inherently repressing & oppressing trans individuals. certain, individual trans people can do & say wacky shit, they can hold horrible and stupid beliefs– but this does not reflect the universal reality of trans existence. trans people deviate from the gender binary. trans people do not fit into the system of gender, and as such, they can only benefit from the abolition of gender. gender hurts us in a very specific way, and we are going against the very existence of it, just by existing. this isn’t to say some trans people aren’t genuinely dumb & misogynistic/bio-essentialist/neurosexist/assimilationist/homophobic/awful/whatever– i’m simply saying that we as a group do not fit into the gender system– obviously, we still have to prove that we truly are against it, but we defy traditionalist way of thought merely by existing. of course, we still have to do actual work to be considered activists, and we aren’t immediately some punk blood-pumping political figures simply on the basis of not fitting in.

5.) any person who sends rape & death threats to anyone is despicable. the phenomenon of this specifically happening to radfems is real, but we cannot base our moral beliefs & opinions on an entire group off of this. oftentimes, it’s not even actual trans people sending the threats, it’s cis people [particularly cis men to be clear] who want to speak over us. calling out homophobia & misogyny in the trans community is a worthy endeavor & definitely, desperately needs to be done. being hateful and assuming all trans people are this disgusting caricature in your head, is not. again, we will bridge the gap, and there’s nothing you can do about it. activists of all kinds will come together & reshape the world from the roots of it. they will pull out all the toxicity & take down all the oppressive structures & institutions, stomp on them violently & mercilessly– they will rebuild the world from its’ roots, all over again.

[werewolffem]

i am going to use this weirdo moid as an example. this is guilt tripping + gaslighting at it's finest. this is something i probably would have fallen for years ago. they try to install this...odd, odd fear in attempts to get you to "their side".

i had been in the trans community for probably a decade or close to it. i had been transitioning for 6 of those years. i know all about what happens in that community and it is nothing good. most of these people assume that any radical feminist has not been on their side before or in the community itself, they just assume it. they assume you've been "stolen" or "taken" from them if someone agrees with radical feminism and they do their best to attempt to convince you you're wrong. if not convinced or you've moved away from that community they will turn on you like a snap.

in the community, females (ftm or a female identifying as another gender) are treated the same as ever -- like females everyday. the males know they hold power still, they just redirect it towards saying they are the most oppressed and the most in danger so the females should protect them and defend them. the females get abused by these males yet don't know and understand that they are. whether it's sexual, violent, or something like gaslighting. trans identified females are the most likely and are the most to still experience sexual harassment/aggression/rape/and murder from these males.

many trans identified males have been outed as pedophiles/abusers/rapists/murderers, as i am sure all of the radfem community knows, yet they are still protected and defended and are allowed to keep their status. and TiFs will STILL protect them and show respect. it's a community full of men that know they can get away with things as long as they "identified as a woman". the amount of survivors and victims in the TiF group is more than 90% from what i have seen. too many have the same shared experiences or can understand each other. TiMs will proudly just send you sexual pics. no context. they'll just send them to you. much like any other male out there in the world. but at least they aren't calling it their girl****.

this community HATES women. HATES them. they hate you even if you side with them. as soon as you say something that is deemed transphobic they will go rabid towards you. it's sometimes for the silliest thing! a woman loving her body is transphobic for example. even though i have noticed even now, that TiFs are the ones who are constantly miserable and obsessing over our bodies. the TiMs...why would they? they know what they have and what they can do. they're still proud. too proud. if they're not calling women c*nt or b*tch then they're probably trying to doxx you and harass/attack you that way.

the community is the MOST racist group i have come across. i would rather be called a spic, beaner, or wetback by some str8 snowman of a guy than the trans community doing it. it is some of the most aggressive and degrading racism i have seen ESPECIALLY towards black women. some cop fucking yelled at me after seeing my name and became more aggressive and i would rather go through that again than see what they say towards black women. i know a woman right now going through this treatment and she didn't even speak about the trans community for it to happen. yet they are the ones doing the most.

the homophobia... the absolute nerve of this community guilting lesbians into the whole twaw issue and they're not really lesbian unless you're attracted and include TiMs as well... this is another violent issue. ik everyone knows what i am talking about...

the death threats, the sexual abuse, harassment, rape threats, misogyny, racism, doxxing, stalking... this hasn't changed one bit since i have left that community. as soon as someone detransitions, most attacks towards the women, they will attempt to just... try and ruin you the best they can. the community is a nightmare, they protect the monsters instead of getting rid of them, agps and men who just get off to being a "woman" are the ones speaking to fucking companies and apparently the president now which is absurd and makes absolutely no sense... it's truly a nightmare.

and before anyone is like bbbbbbut the radfems! YES. i have seen self proclaimed "radfems" being racist/abusive/whatnot but you know what makes the difference? radical feminists call them out, bring it to the attention of others so we know, we don't protect them.

sorry if this is long but goddddd...these condescending males are getting on my last nerve here.

[terfetuloa]

I recently 'peaked' and started doing feel how you do about libfeminism too. I still struggle with this fear that I'm buying into some kinda fascist rhetoric (even though there's no evidence for that) but it makes me happy that there's a community on here of women, many lesbians and woc, who are speaking their mind freely

Hey anon! Beforehand, lemme apologize for replying to you this late, the past days were a bit hectic for me. I sincerely hope for this reply to reach you somehow. 

I'm glad you peaked! It's a hard and confusing process, mixed with disappointment over lots of stuff you've done before 'waking up' and towards people and discourses around you that consider your new opinions as something too extreme, hateful, or even devoid of serious analysis (as if you're just an irrational hateful person who can't think straight). When I first started to question my beliefs regarding gender ideology and trans rhetoric my immediate response to my doubts was to tell myself that I wasn’t a bad person. 

When you're systematically conditioned to hate the evil terfs and to shudder at the mention of radical feminism and terms alike, it's hard to get rid of this impression once you start to realize you're probably one of the evil terves. I had feelings along the lines of "I'm probably leaning towards radfem, but I'm not like them, I can be gender-critical and be a good person". See the problem? Lots of women full of doubts will never approach radical feminism and gender-critical concepts because it's rooted on their very core that said ideas are essentially evil, regressive, even fascist. 

I understand your fears, but after months interacting with radfems and TRAs I can assure you I never saw any radical feminist advocating for trans people to lose civil rights (like healthcare, housing, a job) or sending them rape and death threats, orchestrating campaigns for them to lose their jobs and to boycott their business... While all of this was already done by TRAs against women. As I said in my pinned post, I believe that there are trans people minding their own business, trying to live their best lives without claiming rights at the expense of female sex-based rights. But trans ideology on its political aspect is harmful. Harmful to women as their politics deny them their female-only spaces (like shelters, bathrooms, sports), erase language concerning female reality (by saying "people who menstruate", "people with wombs", "people with vulvas"), by hurting children, especially gender non-conforming young girls (by reinforcing the idea they have to get hysterectomies/mastectomies, puberty blockers that will ruin their physical development, testosterone with its everlasting effects)... 

I see trans ideology as a selfish liberal agenda that only reinforces the ties within which patriarchy holds women submissive. Try to ask a trans activist about what's a woman and be ready to listen 1) circular definitions (a woman is a woman), 2) stereotypical aspects of femininity as equivalent to womanhood (women are fragile, delicate, they like pink and makeup), 3) the "lady brain" argument (neurosexism), 4) the transcendental argument (a woman is a feeling)... And we know that's not why we're women. We're women because we're adult human females. The material reality of my body explains why I was socialized a certain way, why I'm the target of some specific forms of violence. Yes, across cultures gender roles change and the perceptions of what "looks like" a woman or a man too. But the material reality of what is a woman and a man doesn't change.

What makes me a woman is the same thing that defines what's a woman in Sri Lanka, Ghana, Austria, or even in an isolated indigenous tribe in the middle of Bolivia. You know this, everybody knows this, even those too delusional to raise the trans flag know this. If they didn't they wouldn't be so eager to crucify women daring to say the truth, desperately trying to change the meaning or words, and coercively trying to change reality. To call out a woman for stating facts about her material reality accusing her of being a bigot, someone equivalent to a nazi is PURE MISOGYNY. Most of the time you don't even have to say "trans women are men" to receive your Evil Terf badge. You just have to say "women menstruate" or anything related to your experiences as a female. And the backlash is HUGE. So, who are the fascists here? Not the women raising their voices against a male-centered movement trying to pass as an oppressed minority whose tormentors are "privileged cis" women. 

So don't feel afraid, you're not aligning yourself with a fascist movement. It's hard to act based upon what we feel in a world where critical women are haunted down like witches (side note: curious how "oppressed queer people" have such power under capitalism, right?), but you can try to see if you're lucky enough to have any of your irl friends agreeing with you, you can go anonymous and ask questions, you can create a side blog and make new friends... There are lots of smart women here to listen to your questions and share their experiences. Eventually, your fear will pass and you'll find yourself. Be safe, anon.

[ex-terfs]

I’m curious about how you were introduced to trans exclusionary ideology, and when you realized how toxic it truly is. I’m genuinely curious.

Hello! Sorry for the hiatus.So this is my story & long rant post.I've been among TERFs/Radfems (AKA the Conservative side of "feminism") since 2015. In mid-2016 — with the dangers of having Trump as President — I started getting critical of everything going on in the community, deleted older posts, & stopped reblogging "trans-critical" stuff. In 2017 — after seeing TERFs celebrating that the 'Everyday Feminism' site was facing a financial crisis & after paying more attention at what our "enemies" were trying to say — I unfollowed all the bullies, & eventually started to despise seeing "trans-critical" stuff. Their hatred towards the "big scary Libfems" is what made me rethink my priorities.

Many parts of their ideology had peculiarly attracted my attention back in 2015. As a GNC person who celebrates gender nonconformity, their gender abolition theories seemed very interesting (& I later found out how bigoted they are towards GNC men & GNC people with different identities/pronouns). When I was a sex-repulsed person, their porn-critical & sex-negative theories also seemed very interesting to me (I later found out how bigoted they are towards sex-repulsed people — upholding heteronormativity & saying things like "Haha, nobody loves you", "If you're a man/bisexual/lesbian, you must perform oral sex on your gf"; but still, I'm NO longer in the sex-negative/SWERF community). People sending them death threats was also one of the reasons why I had joined their movement.

It always begins like this. Step 1: you begin exploring anti-kink/anti-porn stuff; Step 2: you begin exploring anti-"MOGAI" stuff; Final step: you turn into a transphobe. That's how I got into this mess.

Second-wave theories originally had a critical focus on the social construction of gender & sexuality, monogamy, submission/masochism, natalism, the family structure, the fear of nonconformity, emotional/economic dependency, religion, & violence.As a feminist, yeah, I still agree with most of these analyses. I love reading academic books. But there was something different about terf/radfem tumblr. & this is all I've noticed over the years.

TERFs treat their word like holy truth.

TERFs use Right-wing "sources" to back up their transphobic & sex-negative arguments (& often associate themselves with conservative groups).

TERFs claim that all men are "biologically/physically the same".

TERFs contradict themselves all the time: claim that sex-repulsed AroAces are "usual straights", mock people who just want to remain single, & at the same time still say that if you don't want to have sex with men, then "you're a lesbian"; they say that people don't owe you sex, & at the same time say it's "not okay" for men to sexually reject a woman for "bad reasons".

TERFs claim that lesbians who are anti-TERF or who don't believe in the "born-this-way" theory are "fake lesbians".

TERFs are against the idea of removing your secondary sexual characteristics; & if an AMAB person doesn't like their "secondary sexual characteristics", then they must be a "delusional fetishist" (srsly I identify as a woman, but I still wish I could remove my uterus & have a breast reduction surgery; & it's not for sexist reasons! Shocking, I know!).

TERFs claim that men can't be raped/abused by women (not all TERFs believe this, but I still see them quietly following the ones who do).

TERFs have definitely never read a book with a different perspective/purpose, yet they will act like total experts on any subject (TERFs act like they're experts on Postmodernism & Queer Theory, but they have no idea what these theories are actually about. These theories are both very complex & don't have only one definition! Shocking, I know!).

TERFs will assume you're a trans woman if you don't disclose you're actually AFAB (& they could still have doubts).

TERFs are very manipulative & use brainwashing tactics. If you're AFAB & anti-TERF, they will say it's because of your "internalized misogyny" & will try to guilt-trip you. Because how dare someone has a different opinion! If you're AFAB & proudly calls yourself 'genderfluid' or 'non-binary', TERFs will get offended.

TERFs claim that asexuality only exists "because of the prevalence of porn" (Aces & sex-repulsed people would still be here even if porn didn't exist! Shocking, I know!).

TERFs claim that men who call themselves 'feminist' are "all predators".

TERFs would rather include transphobic men in their spaces than "those evil libfems" (those women are enemies).

TERFs claim that radical feminism is the "only true feminism", & that all second-wave feminists were "radfems".

TERFs claim that GNC men are "fetishizing" femininity (but according to TERF logic, masculine men are not fetishizing masculinity).

TERFs are extremely bigoted towards sex workers, polyamorous people, people who don't want commitment, people who are sexually experimenting or who are promiscuous (which is also one of the reasons why I left the sex-negative community; their views on sex/lust/love are similar to the Christian conservative perspective).

I can definitely assure you I still very well remember most of their URLs & blog content. There are many TERFs who hide behind aesthetic blogs, & use subtle TERF language & comforting rhetoric — which you might not even notice if you don't know much about their specific type of language & tactics (e.g. complaining about the "neoliberal postmodern identities" & about people "erasing females"). This type of TERF also may follow a bunch of (trans-inclusive) anti-'MOGAI' & anti-kink blogs. If you're trans-inclusive & TERFs follow you, it's likely because your blog content doesn't make them uncomfortable.

Their blatant transphobia is absurd & paranoiac, & they don't hide it. Anyone who disagrees with them gets called a "handmaiden", "lesbophobe", "male", "genderist", "liberal", "libfem", "special snowflake" (I no longer consider myself a radical leftist, but I don't consider myself a centrist either). TERFs call trans women as a group "fetishists", "delusional", "mentally ill", "sociopaths", "narcissists", "pedophiles", "necrophiles", "incels", "genderfucks" + slurs like "tr*nny", "troon", "tr0n", "transes". They say that the trans movement is "coercing children to transition" & "forcing lesbians to have sex with penis". It's pure fear-mongering. Their views on trans men are also contradictory — there are times they claim that trans men are "straight girls who are trans just bc they read fanfiction & watch gay porn", & there are times they claim that trans men are "brainwashed butch lesbians" (Pick a side!).

I live in a very religious Latin American country. The majority of the population here is not educated on gender/sexuality issues. I got the chance of educating myself better only after I've learned English. And then some terfs had the gall to say "academic fields such as Gender & LGBT Studies & philosophy are oppressive & pretentious". In a country like mine with a dark history of military dictatorships, censorship & anti-intellectualism, being leftist means protecting the social sciences in education & freedom of the press.

So yes, I left the terf community bc unlike them, I think for myself & I hate bullying (i was in fact heavily bullied for years in school, & only bullying victims know how it truly feels like). My terf blog is now inactive; I had 1000+ followers. I'm a very quiet person irl & online; I was never vocal about my real opinions bc I don't like getting into heated discussions & I didn't want to be featured on that gross radfem-gossip blog.I was very transphobic back then. & now it's quite possible terfs will say to me "You were never one of us". I followed & liked their blogs, just like they followed mine. I was loyal & obedient. Now not anymore.

[thefangirltreehouse]

In the past few months I been reminiscing about past phases I’ve been through, in comparison to now and I’ve came to a conclusion. Young girl’s seriously need to stop putting so much trust in their favourite male celebrities. Just because they make music or content aimed at girls and relationships doesn’t mean shit.

There’s been a few examples of this.

Initially, it was the drama that went down with Seungri. Which out of this list was probably the most high-profile and he actually committed a crime. This dude, that so many girls put their time, money and effort into watching grow turned out to view them as nothing but objects. Even his female co-workers, who probably looked up him as a mentor and inspiration had to find out that he didn’t respect them, that women were nothing but a mere game.

So no. I don’t believe he’s innocent, not by a long-shot. Korea is a corrupt country. Seungri and YG himself are two powerful individuals that aid in Korean economy and tourism itself, they can thing twisted to their own agenda.

Then I was thinking about Madcon. Which baffles me honestly, like hot dudes? Now, don’t get me wrong I liked Madcon I found their vines humorous the problem was; I only really watched Cameron’s content after they abandoned vine so I didn’t know the other members well. After going back I realised something: They don’t like girls, they like ‘natural girls’

Pretty girls with no make-up and zero body hair.

y’know the girls that guys don’t seem to understand, don’t actually exist.

Nash is an asshole so I wasn’t expecting much from him but Hayes and Cameron’s comments were actually insulting to their very young impressionable audience. I’m the same age as Hayes, therefore I was at prime age for my self-image to be naturally ripping itself apart and had never so much as kissed a boy, so these three dudes preaching about how girls should act was horrific.

Now this is the one that rubs me the wrong way, Carter Reynolds. The minute that video released I was off him but I was reading a Business Insider article about him and the comments he made after the fallout of that video were disgusting. For those who don’t know, a video of Carter was released trying to coerce his sixteen-year-old girlfriend into oral-sex. He sent his fans after her because he took a bitch-fit after he was dropped from numerous brands.

But this, this takes the cake...

"I didn't rape her," Reynolds said on YouNow about the leaked video with Lindemann. "She knows that herself. The fact that she's trying to be all innocent now or something, it didn't affect her that much. I know it didn't." (x)

No, you didn’t rape her, but you did harass her and had she done what you wanted unwillingly it would be classed as assault. So once again, no you didn’t but you weren’t far off a crime with a girl who was only just legal.

Imagine being sixteen and having thousands of girls online call you names and send death threats, just because you were uncomfortable doing a sexual act with your ex. Which, is why children need to be educated on this sort of thing, this is not okay. What he did was wrong, on so many levels.

Or, Jack Gilinsky same thing happened with him and his girlfriend. He was being an asshole and fans went after the girl he was already taking his anger out on.

Lastly, I know what I’m about to say will be polarising but Shawn Mendes shrugging off the if he was a feminist or not is rather disappointing. Your audience has always been primarily of young girls, teach them. Having good male role-models is important to both genders, especially in today’s society.

Show them that you believe in gender equality, that being a feminist - especially as a man isn’t a bad thing, it’s a good thing. Be mature and show that you don’t think feminism is a bad word, because believe me these young girls are gonna get it shoved down their throats on the internet that it is. This whole thing is really ironic when his supposed girlfriend is a total feminist.

Please girls, consider this. We don’t know them, not really.

I realise I’m going off on this but y’all want a great male-role model? This one here.

So don’t defend the likes of these idiots, don’t defend the likes of Justin Bieber who is a domestic abuse apologist and gangs up on women online. We don’t know these men and as society shows, less and less of them are on our side; so stop taking their’s.

[themyskira]

Wonder Woman: Earth One, Vol 2 - Part 3

So, it was around this point in the book where my face locked itself into a horrified rictus. From here until the end I was just reading with this fixed expression of contorted, open-mouthed revulsion.

How could it get worse, you ask? ahah. ahahahahahahah. Read on.

General content warning up top for mind control, abuse, a brief mention of rape, and a little bit of gore. Oh yes, this is a pleasant one.

Diana meets Zeiko in his home. He’s still playing this as ‘they sent me to discover your weaknesses, but now I’ve developed feelings for you! let’s work together to prevent our people from warring!’. To cut a gross story short, he manipulates her into binding her bracelets with her lasso with the old ‘I trusted you, why won’t you trust me?’ It renders her powerless and he shows his true colours, sneering at her, insulting her, casually fondling her thigh, her shoulder. It’s truly repulsive to read.

After revealing that he’s been playing her from the get-go — even the terrorists she fought and the hostages she saved were paid actors — he hypnotises her into doing his bidding.

Steve arrives at Zeiko’s house, responding to an urgent message. He sees Diana in a trance, rightly assumes that Zeiko has done something to her, and turns on Zeiko angrily, exactly as the fucker planned. Zeiko calls out to Diana — ‘look, he’s trying to kill me, I told you he was one of them’, etc. — and then watches on gleefully as Diana attacks Steve and knocks him out cold.

Then he goes for the clincher.

Zeiko: Remember what I told you, Diana. He’s part of it. They’re all part of it, you saw. I’m on your side so he tried to kill me! You saw that! We need to act fast. Captain Trevor’s military overlords sent him to locate your island, preparatory to conquest. All they need now is a slender reason to go to war with the Amazons. All they need is a provocation. You did the right thing. Do “the right thing” again. Remember everything I told you, Diana. You have a big day ahead.

I want to go back to what Morrison said about his intentions in writing Zeiko as a predatory pickup artist. He said that he wanted to bring awareness to the particular techniques that abusers can use to manipulate and isolate women, and to show that this can happen even to the most intelligent and emotionally switched-on people.

From the most technical standpoint, I guess he does that? Zeiko does use a range of common manipulative tactics against Diana to isolate her, make her doubt herself and twist her into doing what he wants. Readers get to see how he does it.

But none of it, from the moment they meet until the moment Zeiko sends a hypnotised Diana out into the world, is presented from her perspective.

We’re not party to what she’s experiencing throughout all this. We see her through Steve’s eyes, as a loved one being manipulated and turned against him. We see her through Zeiko’s eyes, as a pathetic target. Her scenes of emotional turmoil are accompanied by Zeiko’s contemptuous narration, which reduces complex her feelings of betrayal to the wounded pride of a spoiled princess.

Both volumes of Wonder Woman: Earth One are saturated in the male gaze, but rarely is it so disturbing as it is in these sections, where the heroine’s emotional abuse is presented solely from a third-party male perspective.

The next scene finally gives us a very brief insight into Diana’s emotional state, as she returns alone to her apartment, in time for her mental radio to light up with a call from Hippolyta. She is clearly troubled and conflicted about what she is intending (thanks to Zeiko’s hypnotic command) to do.

Diana: Tomorrow I speak to the women of the world! Why do I feel I should never have come here? Why do I feel I’ve done something terrible?

But Paquette fails to adequately capture this inner turmoil in the art, instead going for pouty lips and a detached gaze.

What’s more, because Morrison’s Amazons only speak to each other in dactylic hexameter, Diana’s distress is filtered through the rigid structure of Homeric verse. Instead of raw confusion, grief and betrayal, we get something that reads as formal and rehearsed.

And we barely even get that, because Hippolyta hasn’t called to chat, she’s called to cryptically announce her impending death.

Hippolyta: I dreamed a weapon to bring about the end of men. I changed my mind… the fates changed not and now the time has come. All things must pass.

What’s Hippolyta talking about? Well, in Earth One canon, Hippolyta originally created Diana as a weapon to conquer Man’s World — but when Diana was born, she saw not a weapon but a child. As Diana grew, so did Hippolyta’s love for her daughter, and she abandoned her plans. Here, she reveals that the Fates have not forgotten her original vow, and it will come to pass one way or the other. By trying to stand in its way, she has merely sealed her own doom.

(Urgh, thanks Grant, I’d almost forgotten how awful Diana and the Amazons’ origins are in Earth One.)

And, again, removed from context? This is pretty cool. Real Greek tragedy stuff, you know.

In context, it falls into an ugly trend. Throughout the series, Morrison contrasts the ‘good’ feminism of Diana (who wants dialogue) with the ‘bad’ feminism of the Amazons (who are angry and hate men and, in certain instances, want to force change through questionable means). He rarely takes the time to consider that Diana is a child of hyper-privilege (born into prosperity, blessed with incredible power and technology, and an international celebrity to boot) who has the luxury of being able to say whatever she wants while people flock to listen. He never acknowledges the fact that the Amazons are survivors of rape and slavery whose anger comes from a real, legitimate place.

At a moment when she had been abused, raped and enslaved, Hippolyta expressed an understandable hatred of men and a desire to end them. Now the story is punishing her for it.

Hippolyta ends the call and looks around to find Paula waiting for her.

Paula: Nubia is not here, my queen. Only Paula. Baroness of the Black Sun.

Okay, can we stop it with the poetic descriptions of a vile white supremacist hate symbol?!

Paula reveals tearfully that a radio signal has breached Amazonia and reactivated her Nazi brainwashing. She has fought against it, but she’s failed. Then she cackles evilly and snatches Hippolyta’s magic girdle.

…ssssooooooo… anyone want to explain how this is happening when she’s still wearing the brain-harmonising, mind-controlling, aggression-eliminating Venus Girdle?

Hippolyta submits to the will of fate and Paula punches directly through her chest and snatches out her heart (really? REALLY???), then runs away with the girdle, cackling.

Then we cut back to the States for some more Good Feminist/Bad Feminist.

Diana is about to speak before a women’s rally — you know, the “big angry ladies march” Steve wanted her to skip. It’s a diverse crowd: women of colour, LGBTI women, women with disabilities, hijabi women, women of all ages and body types. Their signs have messages like “the future is still female”, “who run the world?”, “nasty woman” and “trans women are women too”. They look jubilant.

A middle-aged white woman who looks suspiciously like Gloria Steinem introduces Diana and the crowd goes wild.

Diana: My sisters! These are momentous times of turmoil. Yet of turmoil change is born. And Hydra-headed change is the daughter of chaos. I’ve seen women denied education and basic rights. Women treated like property, dehumanised, enslaved, traded. We will not stand for it. As women, as Amazons! We will no longer accept it!

The crowd goes wild. But she’s not done.

Diana: Rulers of Man’s World! Hear me now, your time is at an end! The Amazons are coming to teach you!

Gloria Steinem flinches.

Diana: We are coming, with weapons of peace you cannot understand, with machines and philosophies beyond your own. The Amazons will teach you obedience and harmony! We will make an end to war! And women will rule the world.

The crowd roars its approval, but the male security guard looks distinctly uneasy.

Diana: If that means bringing men to their knees, so be it. We will make you kneel. And the age of men will come to an end. Begging for its life.

Deep in the Pentagon, a room of men are watching the rally with concern, when Max Lord walks in, announces that the Amazons have just declared war.

Okay, first of all, fuck you.

It’s true that Diana is in a precarious political situation at this point of the story. She is trying to campaign for large-scale societal changes, something that is fundamentally threatening to the men in power. She wants to make a lasting difference, and she knows many in this world don’t have the luxury of time that she has. But she’s learning that if she pushes too hard, too fast, the men in power will turn on her and then her homeland will be in the firing line.

And if Morrison had focussed on that angle, he might have been able to build a more nuanced discussion around the difficulties faced by women in the public sphere, who are punished for being too forceful, too assertive, too angry, too “bossy”, too “aggressive”, too “ball-busting”.

But Morrison almost deliberately avoids getting into that territory. When a woman challenges Diana on why she’s not going further, she’s not shown wrestling with the political complexities of her situation — she jumps straight to daydreaming about world domination. When Steve tries telling Diana that the government perceives her and the Amazons as a military threat, she’s not bothered in the slightest — her reaction is ‘lol, I think we can take ‘em’.

So, devoid of that nuance, what we’re left with is… a woman standing before a crowd of woman, giving a voice to an anger many of us have felt before, using hyperbole many of us have used before… and being presented by the story as Wrong and Twisted. The crowd of diverse, marginalised faces becomes an oblivious mob, in which a lone man and two middle-aged, well-off white women are the only voices of reason.

And yeah, in the context of the story, Diana’s not speaking in hyperbole, and it is a declaration of war.

But Diana is a feminist icon, and Morrison chose to have her declare war at a feminist march, using the language of feminism. It’s impossible to escape those connotations, or the implicit message: don’t get too angry, feminists, or you’ll ruin everything.

I repeat: fuck you.

In the Pentagon, Lord continues that only he has the solutions and the technology to defeat them: “Code name Psycho softened her up. I give you the weapon that will kill Wonder Woman. Third Reich mind-control tech, upgraded, signal-boosted. Activate Paula von Gunther. Execution mode.”

Beth arrives at Diana’s trailer to find Diana sitting alone in the dark.

Beth: Diana. They’re calling you a terrorist. What happened out there?

Diana: Beth… he got inside.

FUCKYOUFUCKYOUFUCKYOU URGH.

and, what, we don’t even get to see Diana’s moment of realisation? The moment when she breaks free of the bastard’s hypnosis? What the hell, man?

Zeiko arrives on cue, full of false concern, and tells Diana that Hippolyta “was murdered by right-wing white supremacist factions on your island paradise”. I cannot believe that was an actual sentence in an actual Wonder Woman comic.

And that’s Paula’s cue to burst through the roof of the trailer and drop Hippolyta’s heart at Diana’s feet.

Paula: Behold, a Valentine, from me to you! It kept on beating for a very long time after I tore it from your mother’s breast.

fuck I hate this comic.

Zeiko films Diana’s grief on his phone, gloating.

Zeiko: If there was ever any doubt that my methods guarantee results every time, no matter how high and mighty she thinks she is… here’s the world-famous Wonder Woman!

Like I said, Zeiko is never truly defeated. He’s captured in the end, but Diana never overcomes him. He bests her, and he does it using misogynistic pseudoscience.

Beth hits Zeiko in the face with his own cane, and while he’s reeling she calls the Holliday Girls, who loom over him menacingly while Beth gets out phone to film. (Next time we see him, he has been bound and forced into a ball gag. Haha, implied sexual abuse and humiliation is hi-LAR-ious!)

Meanwhile, Diana fights Paula. Under the power of the Lasso, Paula says that she killed Hippolyta because so that Diana would have to return and take the throne, because she’s in love with Diana and believes Diana can save her and that they can rule the world and enslave men together. All of which might carry some weight if Diana and Paula had ever interacted on page at all before now

(wait, what? what happened to her Nazi programming being reactivated? what the what?)

Paula and Zeiko get loaded onto the vagina plane and it’s back to Amazonia for a fresh round of brainwashing. Zeiko screams in terror that he has rights and they can’t do this to him, before he’s re-gagged and taken into the custody of the Venus Girls.

And finally, a solemn Diana is crowned queen, while the US prepares to deploy its war machines.

followed by the words “to be concluded” because YEP, THERE’S STILL ANOTHER BOOK OF THIS OBNOXIOUS DRECK TO GO.

[theky2aqw-blog]

Goblin Slayer ep 1 review and its review from Anime Feminazis

Yay I am back from the dead for some laughs and giggles before I will send some scary Pilipino, Japanese, Melayu, Indo, and ancient Greco-Roman Stories that will either put you on the edge or make you laugh to death.

But for now let us go and either debunk or give a two cents from our famous misandrists from Anime Feminist - Yay my internal sarcasm will not let me laugh.

Because you know every rape depiction in fiction is to be banned even though there is parental guidance for shit like these

and we have a cute depiction of Goblin Slayer killing goblins.

Well before we start --

At the start of the episode we get to see what a fantasy anime can show, well at the very first start would be the shittiest hero introduction I can imagine. Maybe, just maybe if they were not simple dipshits who do not underestimate their opponents I will not probably tackle the bland first quarter of episode 1. Well they went off for an adventure to slay goblins, but the sad news is that their overconfidence caused them to be defeated and the party almost being wiped out by goblins - A common mistake by beginners that can kill you in the first move.

Well I can fill you in the two quarters of the episode, Goblins raped the Fighter girl, killed the dumbass fuckboy who thinks a sword longer than a spatha or as long as a Tai Chi can work well in cramped spaces(mind you they are beginners with a confidence level that can annoy you to the bone) in a very brutal fashion and manner, their mage was stabbed in the gut by a poisoned blade in a fast swing of events starting with mage, then fuckboy, and then fighter who got raped.

In these seemingly dark turn of events, our beloved Priestess tries to carry Female Mage and try to escape but was shot in the shoulder by a poisoned goblin arrow. All hope was lost until

Our Hero, Goblin Slayer came to save the day. He proceeded on granting Female Mage’s wish to die and giving Priestess the Antidote despite her protests. She then assisted him in slaying more goblins to save her last surviving friend. Of course when the killing of baby goblins was shown, she protested on thinking there are some good goblins, but Goblin Slayer just said:

Well soon, she became his one and only party member and the series will start from here.

Well of course you guys wanted me to go on Anime Feminists article? Ok I will

Ok now I have pretty much laughed on any article that contains their own buzz words and their supporters being too morally superior in the argument but it is better for me to dissect and if there are dubious claims I will debunk them Shall we(also I will not put the entire words of the article word by word just snippets of it as I point out the arguments the article will make.):

1.”Y’all, I’ve got something that’s gonna blow. Your. Mind. Stop me if you’ve heard this one before.Okay so it’s like. An MMO—Okay that’s not the part I meant.So it’s like an MMO, right, but it’s like. What if when you got overwhelmed in a raid it was, like, REAL LIFE, and there was BLOOD—” - Yeah your Sarcasm is never straight to the point. No wonder why I added this snippet for fun, its pretty obvious its not an mmo in its genre just pointing that out.

2.  “ My point is that GOBLIN SLAYER, putting aside its repugnant content, is a brainless copycat loudly braying about its cleverness despite being incapable of a single original thought. It would be pathetic if it weren’t so nasty, like a parasitic worm only worth grinding under your heel. “

 - umm its a no on the copycat shit thing. - Also Brainless???? I cannot stop trying to laugh had it not been for my tooth extraction preventing me from doing so. - Single Original thought? Umm almost every fantasy genre in anime/manga/light novels have ever shown this level of savagery and brutality in its first episode, a few did like GATE:JSDF, and sorry to say this Shit, but it is Sword - -- oh wait my friend said it was just like Berserk - pathetic? well its opinionated grounds but I have seen more hentai far pathetic than this outside from

Please not this bullshit of a yaoi hentai....known as Boku no Pico.

ok....off track already...

4. “ It is laughably obvious that GOBLIN SLAYER longs to be Berserk, with its lone, implacable monster slayer and excessive focus on rape as an increasingly meaningless vehicle for cheap shock horror. Except that Berserk had a striking visual style, at least attempted to use assault in a meaningful way early on, and was a pioneer in its genre. Meanwhile, Goblin Slayer is limping in decades late with broken pacing and visuals so generic I look forward to people misattributing the GIFs of it on hentai blogs three seasons from now. ”

- umm article its not focusing on *Hears Boku no Pico Music* ahh fuck this I will just continue debunking....*internal death* Its not trying to be berserk in any shape or form...please stop this boku no pico music..... Also your sentences just implies it is going full Boku no Pico and Aki Sora on this. I am just cringing while listening to Boku no Pico since the pacing is pretty generic yes but not broken and you are just thinking about boku no pico

before I continue I just talked about Boku no Pico many times.....please I am dying internally.

5. “  It can’t even hit the basic watermark of the famous tentacle rape porno Legend of the Overfiend, which in addition to being very boring had genuinely impressive, fleshy-looking monster designs that turned the stomach to look at. Goblin Slayer has generic fantasy orcs and a boner for its own nonexistent cleverness. “ - I digress on the non....ok I will play with you because the song of Pico is killing me that I will just play along with your dubious claims. Well since its overly subjective. I will let you off for this dubious claims.

6.  “  The show’s treatment of women is upsetting, but not in any new or noteworthy ways. If I tell you that this Edgy Edgelord Show starts out with three untrained female characters getting in over their heads, I bet you can fill in the rest (you can even have “the one male adventurer dies offscreen while the women are tortured at length in full view of the camera” for free!). “

 - It just shows what goblins should be projected, a band of savages that is a threat to humanity. Also women in the older days are a profitable treasure that must be used to its fullest extent. I cannot say more since you are going to cherry pick me.

7. “  I bet you didn’t guess the deliberate close-up of our unnamed healer peeing her pants in terror, because this is nothing if not a fetish porn without the courage of its convictions, but two out of three ain’t bad. “ - What else do you want them to depict, them comforting her?! I cannot stop laughing while the cringy yaoi shit is playing in my ears, Won’t you pee in fear when your life is at its greatest edge writer? especially in her shoes that she cannot do anything...ok this is getting long...I need to contain myself from sarcasm and laughing.

8. “  Oh, and I’ll also throw in the end-episode reassurance that the kidnapped women are all broken for life with no hope of recovery, because these kinds of male-empowerment fantasies view women as a collection of holes dragging a punchline behind them. Because it can’t even bother with being a lazy “rape is the only trauma we can think of to have women grow strong from” story. “ 

- I cannot comprehend this feminazi anymore, I can easily debunk this by saying that once a woman who broken of rape and has PTSD because of her brutal experience from the beasts IDK like giants or what. What do you think, can you easily overcome such trauma? Oh wait you don’t because you are virtue signalling now.

- Also the last phrase is not lazy, its a simple pretext of how actual trauma and fear works. I cannot say more since I do not want to drag this on with Morals vs Logic arguments.

9.  “  And I’m just gosh-darned invested in the plucky and still-unnamed healer’s decision to go on more adventures with him so that the show can scar her in new and ever more masturbatory ways. “

- She called Priestess you dimwit. I cannot spoil the manga or anime for you kids, but soon she is the very person Goblin Slayer - Sama would care and protect 24/7 in his adventures killing goblins.(So No more Arguments I want to tackle, yay)

aaaaannnnd that is how “I can talk to you on this shitstorm

Well I wanted to add more but since the shit music of boku no pico has finally stopped I can now take more than 2 cents about this than before. Goblin Slayer is the anime where I can say its never gonna be shown to children obviously well they would still watch it because its an anime. I cannot talk in a straight face because my laughter on how they think this is a copycat and an edgelord anime/manga/light novel is legit stupid and deserves another level of insults from these real world goblins. 

Time to see you next time

[rapeculturerealities]

When the internet metamorphoses into a hate-filled wasteland where strangers hurl the most vicious comments imaginable, the words “hope” or “love” can feel entirely alien to the experience of women online.

For many women, simply existing in an online space and voicing an opinion can render them a target for abuse. Those targets include: Women of colour, women in the LGBTQ community, liberal women, conservative women, women fighting for reproductive rights, women speaking up about sexual assault, women taking a stand against misogyny and sexism, women with opinions, women who are just doing their job. Women are not the only people subjected to online harassment and abuse — and whose experience of the internet is warped by efforts to silence and shout them down — but for women who speak up, the internet can exacerbate the sexism, both overt and subtle, that they face in real life.

For some of the most harassed women on the internet, all hope is not lost. They told Mashable what they love about the internet, and why, despite the vitriol, they keep logging back on.

MONICA LEWINSKY

Two decades have passed since Monica Lewinsky’s name and the intimate details of her sex life were thrust into the public domain of Bill Clinton’s 1998 impeachment trial, but strangers on the internet are still, to this day, bombarding her with hateful, obscene, and harassing messages.

Lewinsky says that, even though social media can be a source of negativity in women’s lives, it can also be a force for good, and a way of taking control of the stories that define us. “As a woman, what is vital is how social media can be used to amplify our voices or reclaim our narratives,” Lewinsky tells Mashable. “There is something powerful about direct communication — not being mediated through another’s lens.”

Now an anti-cyberbullying campaigner, Lewinsky says she finds hope in the internet’s ability to bring people together and its power to make us all realise we’re not alone. “What gives me hope is that it is so much easier to find your tribe and like-minded people on social media whether people are in your same city or halfway around the world. Knowing we’re not alone is crucial.”

JOHNETTA “NETTA” ELZIE

It didn't take long for trolls to dig up activist Johnetta Elzie’s resume and old tweets in the wake of the 2014 shooting of 18-year-old Michael Brown in Ferguson, Missouri. After going to pay her respects at the place of Brown’s shooting in the hours following his death, Elzie tweeted that there was still “blood on the ground” and “a cone in place where his body laid for hours today.” She documented the Ferguson unrest on social media as it unfolded, and the New York Times called Elzie “one of the most reliable real-time observers of the confrontations between the protesters and the police.”

“They were like: ‘How do you know anything about protests, you used to be a customer service agent?’ But, what does it have to do with tragedy arriving in the city where I’m from?” says Elzie, known as “Netta” among her followers.

Elzie says she has been called pretty much every insult under the sun. “I feel like I’ve been called everything possible. I’ve been called ‘nigger,’ as well as white racist combos like ‘nigger bitch’ and the typical racist shit,” says Elzie. “Then there are people who take my photos and do crazy weird things with them. I’ve had a few serious trolls who make new accounts over and over and over to troll me if I block one.”

Faced with all this, it’s not surprising that Elzie says she finds solace “off the internet.” But, that’s not to say that the internet doesn’t bring her joy. “I Iove how easily I get access to music from being online, especially on Twitter or on YouTube, and meeting new people has been fun. I’ve made a few friends from Twitter,” she says

Elzie says when she was younger she used to try to engage, but now that she’s older and wiser, she blocks and mutes anyone trolling her.

“I’ve learned not to engage. 29-year-old me, I’m just all about the block,” she says.

APRIL REIGN

“As a hyper-visible woman of colour, I have had things said to me that people wouldn't dare say to my face,” says April Reign, founder of #OscarsSoWhite. “Both I and my children have been threatened with physical violence. I've had people threaten to attempt to get me fired. Every racial or gender-based slur you can imagine has been hurled at me.”

Reign’s faith in the internet is restored when she sees “the progress that is made” and witnesses crowdfunding campaign goals being met for people “who are in need.”

“As the creator of #OscarsSoWhite, I find hope in the fact that we can see incremental changes reverberating throughout the entertainment industry based on a movement that was started online,” says Reign.

Something she loves about the internet is the ability to interact with people from around the world. “The internet allows us to have meaningful interactions with people we might not otherwise meet offline.”

ROSSALYN WARREN

Rossalyn Warren wasn’t expecting to see anything other than “chit chat and random shit” when she scrolled idly through her Facebook inbox one day. Instead, the journalist was confronted with a photo of a young man who was standing naked and holding a big knife. Even more disturbing than the image itself, however, was the message, which informed Warren that he had created the image especially for her. She reported the message and blocked the sender.

But, in spite of the barrage of gendered insults like “stupid slut” and “bitch” and graphic photos of botched abortions, Warren has not lost faith in the internet. For her, she finds promise in the way women interact and build communities online. “Over the years I’ve seen feminist networks and women from all corners of the world come together to discuss the challenges facing them within their communities, within their countries,” says Warren. “By sharing that knowledge and information they’re able to lift each other up.”

“Watching how feminist campaigners in El Salvador connect with pro-choice campaigners in Europe, watching women connect online makes us all feel a little bit less alone, and it makes us feel like a stronger force,” says Warren.

GABRIELLE BELLOT

“Primarily, they attack me for being queer,” says journalist Gabrielle Bellot. “They deny being trans is 'real' and send me simplistic links about chromosomes or send me propaganda about how LGBTQ people are, supposedly, child molesters.” When her trolls don’t realise she’s trans, Bellot is attacked for being a liberal — or rather, “a libtard,” as they phrase it. “And for being — the worst of all — a feminist — excuse me, a 'feminazi,' an 'SJW.'”

Back in January 2016, Bellot wrote an article for Slate about a bill proposed in Indiana to criminalise trans people for using the bathroom corresponding with the gender they identify with. The bill — which was eventually denied a hearing — was one of several attempts among U.S. states and localities to block trans people from using the bathroom of their choice.

Bellot received an email from a “delightful woman” — an “anti-LGBTQ activist” — with an offer for conversion therapy. “Another man refused to call me Gabrielle, despite that being my actual legal name, and called me a male version of said name — despite me never having had that name.”

Bellot says she feels “lots of optimism,” however, and the internet is “tightly woven” into that.

“We shine a light on and call out bad behaviour now on a scale that just wasn't possible before social media,” says Bellot.

She says that the internet has made way for a “prominent, brave new generation” which refuses to tolerate “archaic prejudices” any longer. “There's this beautiful sense that business-as-usual, boys-club bigotry and/or trolling against women, LGBTQ people, and people of colour can't just exist without consequences, regardless of where it happens, if someone is around to record and call it out.”

“They still tell us to be silent; to that, we say, hell no.”

KARA BROWN

For podcaster and writer Kara Brown, the worst harassment she experienced happened when she worked at Jezebel. “The worst stuff usually came after I wrote something about race. I'd have people calling me a nigger and a stupid black bitch and all that,” says Brown, who co-hosts the Keep It podcast. “The scariest was probably when someone threatened that I'd be "swinging from the trees with the other niggers." That instance was “the most direct threat” she’d ever received. She forwarded it to Jezebel’s legal department so they could monitor it.

“We all also got tons of rape threats constantly,” she adds. “The bad thing about that (aside from the obvious) is that it all ends up sort of bleeding together. You get so used to it that things stop standing out.”

But, Brown finds hope in the fact that the internet is “both real life and not.”

“I can log off. I can turn off my computer and these people no longer have access to me,” she says. “There's also the fact that while the harassment can be legitimately frightening, it's unlikely these people are going to be able to do the harm to me that they threaten.” She reminds herself that people who engage in this kind of behavior are “cowards.”

Asked what she loves about the internet, Brown says it’s the “reason” she has a career. But, she’s also thankful for the internet’s ability to unite people with memes and jokes.

“As irritating as it can be, there are some days on Twitter when a certain meme catches on or everyone hops on and starts contributing to some joke and the material is just so funny and clever.

And you realise we never would have been able to experience all this humour and joy without the internet. It makes me really happy to be able to engage with such a large group of people in those moments.”

JESSICA VALENTI

Two years ago journalist and author Jessica Valenti took a hiatus from Twitter after a troll made a rape and death threat against her then five-year-old daughter.

“I am sick of this shit. Sick of saying over and over how scary this is, sick of being told to suck it up,” she wrote in a series of tweets at the time. “I should not have to fear for my kid's safety because I write about feminism.”

After she returned to social media several months later, she told the Sydney Morning Herald that she had been accustomed to dealing with harassment, but the threat directed at her daughter felt “so different, so scary.”

Valenti told Mashable she is encouraged by the young women who are building communities online.

“Young people — young women, in particular — give me hope on the internet. The communities they foster, the support they provide, it's almost enough to make you forget about the general awfulness of things online,” she says.

She is also reassured by women’s strength and resolve when faced with unrelenting harassment experienced by many people online.

“But most of all, what gives me hope is that they're not ceding these spaces to harassers — in the same way we're not going to stop walking down the street because of harassment there, we're not going to stop using powerful online tools because of misogynists.”

LAUREN DUCA

Faceless, angry strangers send Teen Vogue writer Lauren Duca death threats, rape threats, and doxing threats on a near-daily basis. She writes extensivelyabout what it feels like to be on the receiving end of unyielding hostility. “Having to suffer the anticipation and onslaught of abuse is exhausting, and it takes a toll,” Duca told Mashable.

“If we can understand harassment as a silencing force, then simply speaking up is an act of defiance,” she says. “Using your voice as a woman on the internet shouldn't require righteousness, but unfortunately it does.”

She says she’s thankful to those who continue to raise their voices despite the constant chorus of dissent.

“I'm grateful for all of the women who keep going in spite of all the garbage,” says Duca. “Social media is an integral part of the public square, and we need to fight for including women's voices in the conversation.”

HADLEY FREEMAN

Journalist Hadley Freeman says the abuse she received is “pretty much everything you'd expect a Jewish feminist to get online now, sadly.”

“I get a lot of anti-Semitic stuff, a lot of stuff about Israel (even though I have never written about Israel), a lot of misogynistic garbage,” says Freeman. “It's usually people telling me how ugly I am, how fat I am, and what a hideous Zionist rich bitch apologist I am for Netanyahu.”

But one instance deviated somewhat from the typical barrage of anti-Semitic and misogynist insults: the time she received a bomb threat. “When I got a bomb threat I had to report it to the police, and I wasn't allowed to stay in my apartment that night,” says Freeman. “It was more annoying than scary, to be honest.”

It’s in the “fightback” that Freeman takes heart. “If I was dealing with abuse on my own, it would feel terribly dispiriting and even scary.”

She finds hope when she sees other women fighting back against abuse, racism, misogyny, and anti-Semitism. “I can see online all the other women who get abuse, and how they are fighting back, writing brilliantly and doing incredible things. Women such as Caroline Criado-Perez, Rebecca Traister, Aminatou Sow, Irin Carmon, Jessica Valenti, and Jia Tolentino are just some who come immediately to mind.”

SLOANE CROSLEY

Sloane Crosley’s resolve lies in her unwillingness to give trolls and harassers the same energy they’ve spent.

“The internet expends plenty of energy lauding, objectifying, tearing down, dismissing, demonising and deifying women but that doesn’t mean I have to expend that same energy in return,” says Crosley, author of I Was Told There'd Be Cake and Look Alive Out There.

“Perhaps my ‘hope’ is to be found in my near-total indifference to faceless strangers.”

DANA SCHWARTZ

Journalist and author Dana Schwartz says she’s dealt with so much harassment over the years, she’s found a way to tune it out. “I also turned on the strictest settings that Twitter has so a lot of the time I don't even see it,” says Schwartz. “If someone says something that does get to me, I'll just block or mute depending on my mood.”

The harassment and abuse she receives often has a personal nature to it, but Schwartz says she mostly lets it wash off her. “The most common trolls either harass me for being Jewish or for being ugly, but since I am Jewish, and since I feel pretty good about myself, it doesn't really get to me,” says Schwartz.

The internet isn’t always the kindest space, but Schwartz can’t get enough of it.

“I love the internet like way too much,” she says. “I honestly think I am addicted to the internet, and it's probably ruined my brain. Gotta get that external validation somehow.”

ANNE T. DONAHUE

Journalist Anne T. Donahue says that the types of insults she receives really depends on what her harassers are reacting to. During the 2016 U.S. presidential election, she was on the receiving end of a lot of “gender-based trolling” — including comments pertaining to her physical appearance as well as rape threats. “During the gun debate (well, one of many), I mostly got general hate from people with eagles in their avatars who sounded off about liberals,” says Donahue.

The eagle from America’s national emblem has been co-opted by Trump supporters and those who align themselves with the far-right online.

Thankfully for Donahue, the internet has redeeming qualities that bring her laughter and remind her of the goodness of humanity. “I mean, yes: Twitter and social media and the internet in general can be a hellscape, but there are also parts of those things that make me laugh, or inspire me, or remind me that people can be good,” says Donahue.

“I like the senses of community — the good kind — the internet can help foster,” she adds.

“I think about the way firsthand experiences are shared and can generate movements. I think about the way mental health discourse has evolved; I think about the way Twitter is being used to bring to light issues and conversations that some of us might not be privy to; I love the way someone's work can kick down doors and create incredible opportunities; I also like the friendships; I've made a lot of great friends through Twitter and social media; and that's something I love, obviously.”

Donahue says that even seeing a funny joke can remind her that “levity can be found amidst the darkest timelines.”

“And maybe more specifically, I think of the way Twitter can rally around what's good and around people fighting for what's right. It's not all bad, or so I try to remind myself.”

DOLLY ALDERTON

It was when Dolly Alderton was writing a dating column for The Sunday Times that she experienced the most trolling. Those remarks would be sexually explicit or insulting about her physical appearance. The author and columnist sees hope in the fact that “so many people online, particularly women, are so supportive and cheering of each other, be it promoting each other's work, retweeting each other's jokes or swooping to someone's defence.”

She also loves how the internet connects people with “similar interests, shared ideals, and a sense of humour.”

ANGELA YEE

“You suck, you’re stupid, you’re fat, you can’t get a man, your show is failing, you need a stylist, you look old, you’re useless, you’re ugly, you want to fuck (insert guest name), you’re a thot.”

These are just a few of the names radio personality Angela Yee is called by harassers. Trolls have also posted her address online as well as death threats directed at her and her mother.

Yee has thought a lot about the reasons people would want to write such nasty, hateful comments. “I realise that what these online trolls want the most is a reaction. They WANT you to respond, to be upset, they WANT to ruin your day and that’s a reflection of their own unhappiness,” she says.

She says, through thinking about what it takes to bring a person to make such comments, she feels pity for her trolls. “Imagine how miserable a person has to be that they want company, and the underlying feelings that come with that,” she says.

She finds hope in remembering that she can log out of social media and that real life exists beyond the confines of the internet.

“Just remember that social media is not real life, it is whatever people want to create. It’s so important for me to log off and focus on reality, instead of trying to document what I want to portray,” says Yee.

ALLISON RASKIN

“This is not funny. Are you pregnant? You got fat. What happened to Allison? Why is she so fat? Stick to comedy not politics. I used to like this show but not anymore. Unsubscribe. She’s pregnant right?”

These are just some of the things strangers on the internet say to Allison Raskin, host of Gossip podcast.

But, she keeps logging on because of the “good comments” and “positive feedback” from her friends and family.

“For every nasty sentiment there are at least 10 nice ones and those are the people I try to focus on,” says Raskin. “People have handwritten me letters and posted things that almost make me cry (with joy).”

FEMINISTA JONES

Michelle Taylor, known by her online pseudonym Feminista Jones, experiences online harassment every single day.

While being a woman on the internet means being bombarded with slurs and insults, it also affords opportunities.

“Being online means having access to more resources and opportunities than most people would ever have exposure to, particularly marginalised people like women of colour,” the social worker and writer says.

Hope, she says, can be found in these opportunities.

“What gives me hope is that women have greater opportunity to achieve their goals and realise their dreams because of the opportunities being online affords them.”

These women, in their refusal to cower in the face of vitriol and threats against their lives and the people they love, are sending a powerful message to their harassers: We will not be scared away. We will not be silenced.

[orbemnews]

On the frontline with Britain's new feminists, fighting for women's rights “Did women get the vote by waiting for it to be granted to them?” activist Steph Pike bellowed into a loudspeaker. “No! they fought for it,” she said. “We’ll come back time and time again to fight for our rights. And,” she roared towards lawmakers across the road, “you can’t stop us!” As the crowd cheered, I thought of how lonely Fawcett’s statue seems on calmer days in Westminster, facing down the UK’s still largely male-dominated seat of democracy across the road. The monument to the leading women’s suffragist carries a banner emblazoned with one of her most famous quotes: “Courage calls to courage everywhere.” Until Fawcett’s statue was unveiled here three years ago by, among others, Britain’s second female Prime Minister Theresa May, the green patch outside Parliament had only commemorated men. Yet on a windswept Monday in March, despite Covid-19 pandemic restrictions, this traditional protest site was filled with hundreds of women clutching signs and slogans under Fawcett’s protective gaze. “We demand the proper funding of services that women need and women rely upon every day,” shouted Helen O’Connor, a representative of the UK’s GMB union. “The government has spent billions on this pandemic. My members are health workers and mostly women. Where is the pay rise they deserve — and need — during this pandemic?” she asked. Expectations vs. reality Readers outside Great Britain may wonder where this upswell of resentment has come from in a nation normally known for its mild manners and modern values. As a major world economy, the UK often makes interventions with other countries on human rights, including for women. Women here have had the right to vote for a century, while equal pay legislation has been around for half of that time. Even the UK’s head of state — the Queen — is herself a woman. However, what many British women — of which I am one — will privately concede is that there remains a big difference between the liberties they are awarded in principle and what they can expect in practice in many aspects of their lives ��� from the right to feel safe on the UK’s streets to the right to expect equal treatment in the workplace. Igniting a national debate This issue came to a head last month after the disappearance of 33-year-old Sarah Everard while walking home from a friend’s house in the peaceful south London suburb of Clapham. The suspect charged with her killing is a serving officer of the UK’s largest police force — London’s Metropolitan Police. Everard’s death prompted an outpouring of grief, culminating in a vigil around a local park bandstand — which the same police force then aggressively broke up, ostensibly because it posed a danger to public health. A review ordered by the Home Secretary vindicated the Met’s handling of the vigil. But to those of us who were there that night, the response, given the occasion, felt decidedly uncomfortable. When scuffles broke out as women were handcuffed a few meters away, my all-female film crew was asked to show credentials five times and urged to move on, almost disrupting our ability to document the events unfolding. It was amid these scenes that Pike and O’Connor met at the vigil. Also there was Alia Butt, a psychotherapist for the UK’s National Health Service. What they all saw prompted them to form a pressure group called “Women Will Not Be Silenced,” under whose banner they spoke at the protest days later next to Fawcett’s statue. “It just ignited a deep-seated anger, which I think we all recognized,” said Pike, speaking in an interview with CNN in April. “This violent culture against women in the UK isn’t new to women, but it’s come on top of years of austerity that has disproportionally affected women,” she said. “I see it in my job as a welfare rights adviser: women who are single mothers may need access to services more, yet those services they need are often the ones being cut.” Butt told CNN she witnesses the effect of this trend every day as well. She’s seeing more and more patients who are younger and younger suffering from the effects of psychological or sexual violence, perpetrated either in person or online. She has even had to change her job to focus solely on minors due to the increased caseload of teenage girls presenting with mental health problems caused by violence against women. “There are so many different forms of violence,” Butt says. “It can also be institutional and economic. The threat of that can have a huge effect on people’s mental health.” For O’Connor, who suffered abuse while growing up in her native Ireland, this is about standing in solidarity with other women who have shared similar experiences, advocating for what they are entitled to. ‘Rape culture’ Since Everard’s death, women across the country have come forward with their stories of daily sexual harassment and mishandled cases of serious sexual assault. There has even been a debate about a pervasive ‘rape culture’ in some of the most elite schools and universities. Women took to the streets again over the Easter weekend to protest police brutality and the need to “police themselves” by avoiding the streets and public transport after dark. At those marches I met Daphne Burt, wearing the pinkest outfit she could find in her wardrobe. Burt claimed she had survived rape, reported it, and never seen the case pursued. Another woman, who did not wish to be named, carried a sign saying she could get more years in jail for protesting during the pandemic than her rapist got for what he did to her. Also among the crowd, thousands strong, was photographer Lily-Rose Butterfield, who said her sexual assault experience had prompted her to tattoo parts of her body to demarcate her “physical boundaries.” She showed me some of them, including a Venus de Milo on her leg. Crime bill What had brought these women together was not the hope of being able to secure more of a say in their country, as Fawcett and her fellow suffragists had done, but a fear they were losing their voice. Everard’s death occurred just as a controversial policing and crime bill began to pass through Parliament — legislation which critics say would curb Britons’ ability to protest and hand more powers to police at a time when they should be facing tougher scrutiny. Covid restrictions mean fines of up to around $14,000 for those found to be organizing or participating in large gatherings, even if the UK courts have ruled that people’s right to protest should be protected. That risk has pushed some of Britain’s more radical feminists underground. “D” would only go by her first initial when we met via video call. An activist for the group called “Sisters Uncut,” which campaigns for the rights of women and non-binary people to live in safety, she is among some of its organizers who now feel compelled to hide their identity. Wearing a mask, hood and glasses, she also sat so far away from the camera it was impossible to tell who she was. “We’ve had to go online to keep our movement going,” she said. “There are real risks to our members for being identified. The fine is a lot of money and we are conscious of the risks of being documented as organizing a protest one maybe two years down the line.” Sisters Uncut have drafted a 10-point “feministo” demanding an overhaul of the UK’s domestic violence services, of its immigration and family courts systems and campaign for more welfare funding to be made available to women and the LGBTQ community. Statues vs. sex offenses The UK’s new crime legislation also contains a clause introducing a maximum 10-year sentence for those who deface a statue. Critics note that, in comparison, the average sentence for rape is just under 10 years. “What message does this send to victims?” Bell Ribeiro-Addy, a Labour Member of Parliament for the South London suburb of Streatham, told CNN in an interview in Clapham after coming to pay her respects to a makeshift floral tribute in memory of Everard. “What example does it set of us as a country?” It was while contemplating the irony of Fawcett’s stone likeness being potentially awarded better protections than her flesh and blood sisters, that I noticed something all too familiar. She has been interrupted. Her quote — “Courage calls to courage everywhere” — should also read, “and its voice cannot be denied.” CNN’s Lauren Kent and Li-Lian Ahlskog Hou contributed to this report. Source link Orbem News #Britains #feminists #fighting #Frontline #Rights #womens

[stfumras]

How Tumblr Changed My Feminism

When I first joined tumblr, it was refreshing, finally I had a place where I could discuss the issues I have experienced being a woman, a place where there were like minded people and a sense of community.  I found other women in similar situations as mine, who helped me see just how abusive my relationship was, women who were there for me and helped me work through my issues so that I could see clearly for the first time, it helped me become a stronger woman.   But, then things changed, immensely. It started when I saw a 16 year old mutual who was a rape victim by a trans woman being told to die cis scum because she discussed the idea that trans women experienced male socialization prior to transitioning.  I defended her, and stated no one should be sending violent threats to a minor, especially a minor female who has endured trauma. 

 So then I was attacked, told I supported violence against trans women, that I shouldn’t care if death threats were sent to her because she was a terf.  This was the first time I came upon that term and as soon as I heard it I panicked.  Me? A liberal feminist who has always supported trans right? A terf?  I did everything I could to distance myself from that label and I stopped speaking my mind, stopped following my instincts because I didn’t want to be seen as a bigot or hateful.   The next controversy with this blog started when one of my first mods Lily, who is a lesbian, got real pissed that people were telling her she needed to give penises a try. Lily never held her tongue, not online, not in real life, she was a very vocal activist who never backed down, so she said what she wanted about the subject.  I am ashamed to say that I was not as strong as Lily.  I saw the backlash she got and I apologized for it, and removed her from the blog.  I regret that decision immensely, I helped to silence a woman because I was scared of how it might blow back on me.  I am sorry Lily, you shouldn’t have been no-platformed like that. Then came poor Kharvi, what that girl went through to try and help me out was ridiculous.  I brought her on as a mod and told her to look through the blog, our tag, similar blogs etc…. This resulted in Kharvi going to a blog of a person who will not be named who I had argued with in the past because I took umbrage with being called a uterus bearer.  Well apparently this was the most horrific act that could have been committed and I got called an abuser, an abuser, because a mod….looked at a public blog……on a public sight.  Looking back now I can’t believe I even entertained the idea or apologized, it’s just ridiculous.  To throw around that label, to call out your followers to attack others, not just me but the other mods here who had nothing to do with the situation, it was a mess. I am not a person who handles conflict well especially at that time because it was the start of my divorce.  So I did everything I could to try and “prove” that I was not an abusive person when really I should have just laughed at the ridiculousness of it and moved on.  Kharvi eventually left as a mod because she too, got ridiculed for saying she didn’t want to have sex with someone who had a penis, what a horrendous thing for a lesbian to say right? So then came the terf lists and my followers receiving anons from people telling them how horrible I was and abusive.  Then came an entire blog of “receipts” detailing all the things myself and my mods have said or done that they considered heresy against all that was right. My inbox was flooded with people telling me who I should and should not follow, listen to, reblog from etc.... I stopped talking, stopped expressing myself and second guessed every word that I wrote.  My haven, the place I found that finally helped me find the strength I needed to leave my abusive ex, was gone. It had become toxic and scary and I couldn’t deal with the amount of hate and failure to think before they acted bullshit that was going on. So now that I had nothing to lose really, I started to allow myself to explore different factions of feminism, and I found the radical feminists.  At first I wouldn’t let myself admit that a lot of what they were saying made sense, I didn’t want to be associated with “those” people, the horrible hateful terfs, but the more I read the more I found myself agreeing.  The concept of swerf for one, I cannot wrap my head around in the slightest.  Do you have any idea how damaging it is to women as a whole, to silence the voices of those who speak out against the sex industry?  To those who are brave enough to tell their own experiences with abuse, trafficking, prostitution, who bravely state that the industry is toxic and killing us.  Swerf, give me a break.  Criticizing an industry does not mean criticizing the women who participate in it, the amount of non-critical thinking it takes to come to that conclusion is astounding to me.  It’s yet another term used to silence vocal women, because we didn’t have enough of them already right? So then came gender, gender roles, male and female brains, and what it is to be a woman.  Listen, I have no issue with trans people, I support them, I think they should have all the rights and safety that any other person should have, but gender is learned not innate, it isn’t in someone’s lady or man brain, it is a set of rules society has imposed against us and is harmful to women and men.  Being a woman is not something I can opt out of, I am 39 years old, I have been socialized as a woman, and even if I transitioned now and presented as a man, my womanhood would not disappear, there are just too many female specific experiences that we endure, that make us into women, that shape our personalities, there are too many to ignore and pretend that trans women have gone through the same things.  Trans women have their own specific experiences they have had to endure, their own oppression and violence and hate, they need our support, but that cannot and should never come at the expense of silencing women using fear.  There are plenty of trans women who don’t support the cotton ceiling rhetoric, who acknowledge the difference between being a trans woman and a cis woman, and they are labeled terf as well, and if that doesn’t show you the ridiculousness of that term and how it has no meaning, I don’t know what will.    don’t support violent threats or hatred towards anyone, I don’t support anyone who wants to take rights from trans women or cis women, but I don’t support silencing anyone either.   Sex specific oppression is a thing people, females throughout history have been controlled, abused, looked down upon because of our ability to carry children and our anatomy, this is not debatable and I won’t entertain any discussion that says otherwise. So that’s where I’m at.  I don’t care about losing or gaining followers anymore, I don’t care what lists I get put on on this microblogging hell site, I don’t hold my tongue any longer.  I don’t know if I’m a radical feminist or what wave I belong in, I don’t believe in labels because my opinions vary, I just know I am a female, I will speak about my experiences being so in the terms in which I wish to speak about them, I will do my best to listen to others and stay open to changing my mind on things, but the one thing I will no longer be is scared into silence, I’ve endured that quite long enough in the real world, I’ll be damned if it happens here too.

[wintertidewater]

Since @basicallycoke is one of the drop misogynistic bombs then block you so they don't have to hear reason type people...

The post: https://basicallycoke.tumblr.com/post/184727856034/terfs-learn-basic-fucking-respect-challenge-you

My response:

Does your head hurt from the lack of oxygen to your brain?

After deleting half of the nonsense here we go:

"You think we’re the only community with rapists? Like I’m fairly certain every community has rapists in it- but I’m not trying to hold you accountable for female rapists, nor would I hold a black person responsible for black rapists. So why do I have to apologize for trans rapists?"

The amount of rapists and pedophiles in your community is insane. It's beyond rampant. The large majority of trans identified people call themselves trans because they fetishize women's oppression. I can think of ten examples of trans rapists and pedophiles off the top of my head. Can you name one radfem one? Do you Really want me to count the hundreds of trans sexual predators?

As if race is comparable to a fucking delusion. First of all race is a social construct. You found other people who have similar mental health issues then try to claim nothing ties you all together... over 70% of your cult has been found to be narcissists.

"whenever we do things outside of the expectations of our gender your lot shoot us down. There are plenty of masculine trans women and feminine trans men. "

You're literally so dense, radfems are against gender and almost all of us are gender nonconforming. What you smoking sis? You know that thing you call yourself? "Transgender"? Dissecting that word, it means to play the other sex's gender role. Y'all are the most sexist people. "Trans" to change. Gender "gender". Lol

"I wonder if it’d actually be better to just suicide bait you. "

But, no, you're the victim...right? Poor baby

"My life is hard enough without people in my own community constantly ostracizing me for being bisexual and being transgender."

As if any trans identified person would ever. Y'all straight up think sexuality is uwu fluid. & you can't be ostracized for "being" something that doesn't exist sis.

"You guys make our suicide rates into a fucking joke" Ah yes, remember that one time lesbians wouldn't suck dick?? Yeah we practically shot someone. Why don't you provide some statistics? And are you going to ignore the amount of women you murder or...? What about femicide in Brazil? It's caused by extreme misogyny, the same thing you promote. Will you take responsibility for those deaths? Because I can actually link you all to that. Where as "trans" people are kicked out of church shit. As if radfems did that lol. What about the stoning to death of gay people? Since you lot are rampantly homophobic more so than conservatives. (Jk ur the same people)

"a radfem was one of the main sources cited for why the government decided to pull funding for trans healthcare" She really trying to tell me that women used our immense power and representation in the government and with that oppressed men lol. Trans-identified females are covered because females are covered. Trans-identified males are covered because males are. Or are you just trying to hide the fact you think the public owes you money to mutilate yourselves?

"what about the many times your kind bullied young trans girls (literal fucking teenagers)?" Oh you mean like all the rape and death threats and suicide baiting you send young feminists? In this same post you stated you had no empathy for young girls who are suicide baited and entertained the idea of suicide baiting me (a 16 year old) and now you want me to feel bad for boys who say they are girls because someone notices their Adam's apple? Not gonna happen.

"Keep our words out of your mouth, keep the term “gender” out of your mouth."

Anyone else remember the time trannies created the English language? Gender is used to oppress women. I am a female. I will not be silenced about women's issues. Take your misogyny elsewhere ~sis~.

[americanpsycho1991]

Once again i’d like to remind any “anti-terf” people that all you have to do to be considered a “terf” is to say that women should have the right to choose their own sexual partners.  The person whose url I blocked out is guilty of nothing more than being a lesbian and saying she doesn’t appreciate being harassed for not being sexually interested in males.  She said to please stop calling all lesbians TERFs just for being lesbians.  You can see what happened.

(the same person made both these posts).  In the second post, “transphobic genital preference discourse” and saying they “agree with trans women on the matter” means they think lesbians should be obligated to fuck transwomen (males) on the basis of validating their gender identity.  Women are not allowed sexual autonomy according to trans activism.  this is rape culture and hate speech against lesbians.

Notice they don’t say they agree with trans people on the matter, they say trans women. This is because there is no horde of transmen sending bombardments of sexually violent threats towards gay men for not sleeping with them.  Transmen don’t harass straight women for not dating them.  This is because transmen are female, and socialized female, and thus are not raised within a society which imparts upon them a sense of narcissistic sexual entitlement to the bodies of those of the opposite sex.  Transwomen are male, and were socialized male, and while plenty of transwomen are perfectly understanding that not everyone will be interested in them due to their sex (much like men), many of them are outraged that female homosexuality exists, and have decided that it’s a human rights offence.  You’ll also note that transwomen don’t harass straight men about their sexual preferences.  This is because males are socialized to believe that female bodies are their property, not male bodies, and of course because straight males aren’t as easy to bully and harass.  Seriously, when was the last time you saw someone call a straight man a violent transphobe for not “including transwomen” in his “genital preferences”?

Speaking against this makes you a violent transphobe, apparently.  Saying homosexuality exists on the basis of sex rather than gender makes you violent.  Saying that gendered socialization exists (the foundation and most basic principle of even the most watered-down feminism) the makes you violent, because it makes transwomen feel “invalidated.”  Anything that makes transwomen feel invalidated, regardless of how factually accurate or relevant to women’s rights it is -- saying that sexual dimorphism exists, saying that it’s a male privilege to never have to worry about abortion rights or menstruation stigma, saying that gender is an oppressive social construct rather than an innate identity, saying that sexuality is based on sex rather than an internal sense of gender, saying women have the right to basic sexual autonomy -- is now considered hate speech.

Where are trans men in all of this?  I can’t speak for their opinions, but I can see how they are treated.  Like all females in trans activism, they are thrown under the bus to benefit males.  They cannot discuss their female socialization because it is violence to imply that transwomen were socialized male.  They cannot discuss their sex-based issues like objectification, abortion, and menstruation because it is violence to imply that transwomen have any form of male privilege.  Transmen are told that they are privileged, entitled males, and they are told to shut up.  Ironically, feminists who make an effort to create female spaces and include transmen in them are called “trans-exclusionary.” This is because male trans people are the only people considered important in trans activism.  If you exclude transwomen, you are considered hateful.  Transmen pay the price for this male supremacy; like women, they are silenced and placed second to male issues.

Only according to male supremacist socialization is sexual rejection considered an act of bigotry or violence.  You see it with MRAs, you see it with the “friendzone,” and curiously, you see it in trans activism.

Other things you see a lot of in trans activism is males telling females to shut up about our bodies.  We cannot talk about abortion because it is “exclusionary.”  So is menstruation.  Discussing gendered socialization is of course out of the question.  Talking about vulvas or vaginas is considered disgusting; I’ve seen trans activists describe female anatomy as a “nightmarish lump of flesh” and of course, famously, the “pussily cavity.”  Speaking ill of male anatomy, or even so much as saying “it’s fine, but I’m not interested” can get you rape threats for a month.

I’ve spoken against the rampant misogyny and silencing of women’s rights in trans activism before, but the person whose url I blocked out is guilty of nothing more than being a lesbian and wanting to be allowed to choose the sex of her own partners.  If you think this makes her, or anyone else, a bigot or a transphobe, you are part of the problem.

You are a rape apologist.  You are a homophobe.  You are a misogynist.  There is no getting around those facts.  I don’t care how much pomo, faux-academic verbiage you try to dress it up in; saying females do not have the right to discuss the oppression we face because of our sex is misogyny.  Telling gay people to “critically examine” their “exclusionary genital fetish” is literally conversion therapy, and it is disgustingly homophobic.

Both transmen and transwomen can have a place in the struggle for human rights, but to elevate transwomen at the expense of all females; to co-opt our spaces and silence us, to threaten us with rape and physical violence just for wanting the freedom to choose our sexual partners; is unacceptable.  It is not trans rights, because it throws transmen under the bus along with all other females.  It is not feminism, in fact it is the very opposite.  It is pure male supremacy.

Anyone who speaks up against this is demonized; anyone who so much as points out “hey we’re calling an awful lot of lesbians TERFs just for being lesbians” is now a TERF.  Anyone who thinks we need female-only spaces is a TERF (again, you can include transmen as much as you like, but as soon as you say “this space isn’t really relevant to transwomen” you’re “trans-exclusionary”).  Anyone who thinks sex-based oppression is real is a TERF.  Anyone who believes in basic biology is a TERF.  Anyone who thinks women deserve sexual autonomy is a TERF.  Any female who posts about her own body is a TERF (“don’t talk about your period or your vulva, it could be alienating to transwomen”).  Any lesbian is a TERF.  But people aren’t that stupid.  Eventually people come to realize that many of the people called TERFs are trans themselves, or have done nothing other than be born homosexual, or are simply advocating for female rights.

This has to stop.  The witch-hunting has to stop.  You need to realize that “terf” is not just applied to transphobes, but to anyone who falls behind the ever-unreachable expectations of trans activism, or who simply dares to disagree.  “Terfs” aren’t the ones out there murdering trans people; that’s men.  “Terfs” aren’t the ones forcing vulnerable trans people into prostitution; that’s men.  So why is so much of trans activism dedicated to “fighting” against the apparently lethal wave of evil terf attacks? (you should read that link but I”m putting a MAJOR warning for sexual violence)

Because women make easier targets than the entire system of patriarchy.

Because it’s easy to get misogynists on your side when the target is “women who speak up.”

Because it’s always easy to hate women.  It’s always easy to hate lesbians.

Don’t be a fucking dumbass.  If you mean transphobe, say transphobe.  Stop using “terf” because all you’re doing is enabling the kind of vile misogynistic harassment in the link above.  Those are the people you’re aligning yourself with, like it or not.  Those are your new allies.  Don’t question anything they say, or you’ll be the next target.  Stopped idolizing a transwoman because it turned out they were a rapist?  You’re a TERF now, you’re about to get a hundred messages asking you why you HATE TRANS WOMEN and telling you to choke to death in the most graphic, sexually violent way possible.  Express distaste at examples like women being kicked out of a women’s shelter because they expressed discomfort with the sexually predatory behavior of a transwoman?  You’ll get the same response.  Reblog a meme from someone who’s committed one of these sins?  You’re one of them now.  If you don’t block them on every social media and publicly denounce them, you’re guilty too.  Don’t ask any questions.  Don’t talk about your issues.  Don’t talk about your body.  It’s progressive, trust me!