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Me: Miss Internet, I’ve been having a tough time lately. Could you please show me some relaxation and self care tips for autistic adults?
Internet: you should try ABA to learn to mask better :)
Me: ????
#anyway… anyone have any tips?#going to tag a lot to get a bigger reach#so hopefully I can get advice#autism#autism acceptance#autism appreciation#autistic adults#autistic#actually autistic#autistic adult#autistic things#anti aba#anti aba therapy#anti Applied Behavior Analysis#fuck aba#autistic experiences#autism problems#autism pride#neurodivergent#audhd#actually audhd#audhd problems#audhd things#autistic self care#adhd self care#autistic adhd
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gentle reminder for the fandom, since i've been noticing it in comments of decked out videos: backseat gaming typically isn't appreciated. telling the hermit to go to compass school is kind of annoying and not particularly constructive. telling the hermits to go check the underwater chest or the spider's den or whatever is spoilers, tango has directly asked you not to, you wouldn't want to make tango sad, would you? being like "lol how do you not know that yet" is rude, because the hermits aren't actually supposed to have watched any of the decked out development we have, and almost certainly haven't watched all the other hermits playing like we have.
even offering what you feel like is useful advice is normally going to be repetitive and unwanted instead of useful. yes, even if you've figured out a game meta the hermits don't seem to realize. yes, even if they're doing something really wrong or have the really wrong idea for how the game works. yes i KNOW the urge to explain the mechanic they're misunderstanding is strong. 99% of the time you should not do it.
if the hermit asks a question directly go ahead and answer the question! but if you weren't asked, don't say anything. don't be a backseat gamer.
#hermitcraft#decked out 2#just. a trend i'm noticing#remember guys. it is obnoxious to get ten million unwanted advices and criticisms#if you can't figure out how to comment WITHOUT commenting the unwanted advices and criticisms (AND I GET IT I CAN BE BAD ABOUT THIS TOO)#just go ahead and refrain for the time being#most hermits have figured out if they're streaming runs they should be in emote-only by now so hopefully that continues
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I wanted to share the tattoo I did yesterday!!
I really enjoyed the process🥹🫶 My “normal” art is generally a lot more detailed and time-consuming than these fanarts…something I genuinely LOVE is just spending lots of time focusing on the small details & forgetting everything else.
I’m overall really happy with how this turned out, I’ve been practicing A LOT😳 but even so, pork skin isn’t the same as a living, breathing human. I think this design might have been a BIT too complicated to be my first one but oh well…I learned a lot and pushing myself off the deep end is always how I learn best😆😆😤🙏
#in the future tbh what I want to do is realism and famous paintings etc#but tbh whatever bc I just love drawing😫💓#anyways would you want to see more of these??????????? like update on my process??#or just keep this blog as an eloise worship center😆#(I vote for that)#personal#and before anyone comes at me…in spain apprenticeships don’t really exist…#I go to a studio they’re all muy majos and they help me a lot…#give me lots of advice monitor my progress etc etc#but at the end of the day they’re just like distant mentors I hang out with😆😆 have to do it all on my own…#so I’ve been collecting lots of victims and hopefully over the next month I can do a few more😇🙏#it’s a strange process tbh#but I also had a few studios show interest in hiring me once I get more experience#so we’ll see if they follow through!!!!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏#also I’ve been very flustered/nervous in the last week bc of this so#if I’ve been weird about responding etc etc THIS IS WHY😭😭😭😭😭😭😫#I’m slowly trying to catch up….🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰#also my last note is that my super sweetie pie but somewhat incompetent bc took the picture of me tattooing😆😆😆#I take what I can get…
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Yeah...I don't really buy that the guy who had a panic attack over his last girlfriend being mistaken for his wife and was more than ready to dump his current one for being a former nun is even going to contemplate proposing to her.
Knowing him, he would be so deep in his eventual gay crisis that he accidentally sends false hints that made Marisol think that he was gonna propose to her. And then, when she's expecting him to get on one knee, he's telling her to go the fuck home and stay there. (because dumping is still hard for him)
#911#911 abc#911 on abc#911 season 7#911 s7#911 s7 spoilers#911 twitter#911 speculation#911 s7 speculation#eddie diaz#911 eddie#911 marisol#marisol nolastname#anti eddiemarisol#buddie#911 buddie#I don't know why everyone is putting it out there that Eddie's gonna propose#like can we not#like I said in one of my previous tweets#we don't need him pulling a 5b buck and making the stupid choice to keep marisol around#he already mistook bobby's advice and asked her out#hopefully Shannon's ghost slaps the hell out of him and tells him to just dump her#because chris doesn't need another mom and he doesn't need another wife#also because he has a whole ass golden retriever as a future husband that he still needs to get with#but in all seriousness#can they please get rid of marisol already#like the character is pointless and the actress is a piece of shit so why is she still here#she's bland as hell and shouldn't be on screen for this long and sure as hell doesn't need to be on for another season#also#it's kinda distasteful for a network who gave us a bisexual firefighter to keep a homophobic and transphobic actress who hasn't apologized
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One of my cats escaped over the patio wall yesterday evening and she has now been missing for almost a full 24 hours. I am so worried she's never going to come back.
#i don't really need advice on what i can do to get her back I've already researched the fuck out of it#i reported her missing to the police and animal control and the local vet. i put up flyers.#i left out food and water and her carrier with her fave toys#i left out some of my stinky shirts#i have been putting out her food at regular meal times (she's not eating it)#I've walked around the neighborhood at dusk and dawn with a flashlight looking under cars#I've done EVERYTHING i am capable of doing#i guess i just have to wait and see if she comes back#i locked my remaining kitty upstairs with me and left the front door open a crack so she can come in anytime#hopefully she will. i don't know
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Have to routinely stop myself from bashing myself for making characters certain races and genders bc “what if this is insanely offensive to some people?” by asking one very simple question:
Do people like this actively exist?
If the answer is yes, then maybe I can stop feeling bad about giving my beautiful, disabled, black, baby boy dnd character a love of the colour pink.
Ya know, bc art is all about translation, and people are gonna people regardless of if some random asshole on the internet decides their existence is problematic.
#posting this so I can finally get it through my thick skull#it’s so stupid#just how much of my thinking I’ve had to reprogram#because after a lifetime of being told certain people deserve the utmost sympathy#whilst also living in a society that doesn’t treat them like real people#but rather as just devices for movements and nothing more beyond that#I’ve learned that sometimes you just gotta write them anyway#even if you’re social anxiety is telling you not to#because that’s how we fight internalised biases within ourselves#we normalise our differences and explore new perspectives#and hopefully have fun doing it#I’m hoping to post Djalu up here soon after this#bc I love him#and I know I am absolutely not qualified to speak on behalf of anyone’s experience but my own#but I know I would have loved to see a casually nonbinary or aroace character in media growing up#or even just a protagonist who wore glasses and wasn’t Harry Potter#so maybe I can give that to someone else too#writing advice#writing struggles#black lives matter#writing minorities#creative writing#social anxiety#political correctness#writing
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Late night doodle wip of Spatium
I got inspired by some body horror content and I wanted to try a slightly different spin on their alt design. I'll be doing the same with Materia and Tempus. I also want to do horror designs for the yeehaw trio based on these designs correlating to their respective delegators as well!
#art#my art#digital art#mask chats#oc#my oc#[spatium]#im gonna go for a centaur/centipede mix for the lower body bc why not and also I think it would look cool as well#im doing some character writing for Spatium along with looking up stuff about using canes and trying out different character ideas for them#im thinking of writing them with did [which I'm currently researching and would love any advice people would like to give me]#also im in the beginning stages of writing for them so im primarirly looking up information and other bits as well#im trying my best to not misrepresent/stereotype anything about them [and other characters in general]#so hopefully i get it as right as i can and if anyone wishes to say anything to me#feel free to do so! it'll be greatly appreciated#i can elaborate more on this and my ideas for Tempus and Materia as well is you are interested
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I genuinely think people need to separate magic and spirituality/religion way more.
I haven't done "new" magic in over a month and I feel less bad about it than I thought I would.
There's so many posts out there asking for advice on "getting back into magic after taking time off" and I always thought they were a little weird because that kind of ebb and flow is really normal for pretty much everything you learn outside of an academic or workplace setting. (even in school you get break periods)
For 15 years I've been learning solely on my own everything from calculus through khan academy to polymer clay through youtube tutorials and it's just natural *for me personally* to go through periods of great interest and massive skill improvement in conception and technique and then just~~~ stop for a while.
The server I left was doing this 100 days of witchcraft thing where the point (I gathered) was to show that even little things like stirring intention in your coffee counted as magic and you shouldn't feel so bad that you're not doing ceremony every day. I tried to participate and got about 5 days in before that plus a lot of other things made me leave (and tbh I should have left earlier because it was not a good place for me).
What struck me most was that unlike seemingly everyone else, I felt worse when I listed things like "read 2 chapters of magic book" or "made weekly offering." It felt more like I was just trying to come up with something--anything that would make me feel like I was participating and "being productive." It didn't feel like it was making me "see magic in my everyday" because I already felt that way because I've been doing magic my whole life--in the way I sing, in the way I move energy when I stretch and exercise, in the way I talk to the plants and animals, in the way I make offerings to my room or an intention, in the way I cook like Tita in "Like Water for Chocolate" or the way I would astral travel without knowing it. When I had to list out all the "magical things" I did every day they felt *less* magical and more like what a "that girl" influencer would put on their instagram post to show how productive they've been.
I genuinely think people need to separate magic and spirituality and religion way more. Magic is at its core, a skill/art/science. It is not 100% spirituality/religion. Your paganism or spirituality might influence your magic or interact with it (like how my animism interacts with how I work with symbols or how I ask my divination tools to come to life before I use them), but I truly believe there's a great deal of magic that exists outside of spirituality/religion/etc.
I wish secular and atheistic witches got more respect and exposure and credit. I wish there were more books and really popular influencers and discords that are as populated as the ones that spend 60-70% of their talking about deities and religious holidays. I wish it felt easier to get into spaces with other magical people where even if you weren't doing "everyday magic" you still felt welcome to talk and share your magic and it wasn't just crickets when you did.
It's just so weird to see so much content out there basically enforcing the kind of "hustle culture" type productivity mindset of "you need to be doing this every day if you want to connect to other people on this or share anything about it.
#personal#witchblr#hopefully no one takes this in bad faith lol#because there really are just so many places for people who treat magic as a religion that it feels awkward when you don't#I realize now that I just mentally can't handle being in spaces where the only things that get discussed are deity dump posts#and the people offering their advice also never talk about their own magic but are also always asking about peoples cultural background#maybe discords just aren't for me and maybe groups in general just aren't for me#but even then I wish there were more loose collectives of spaces where it felt like people were more willing to talk about weird esoteric#magic shit they found in an old grimoire or on someones ancient blog than another deity moodboard#I swear I'm not bitter#I'm just over saturated with deity shit tbh#it's just one of those “my old aching bones” things because I haven't been like some of these loose collectives on tumblr#where I can shitpost and it picks up traction and people discuss things#I'm just free floating out here
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#I get tired of people trying to explain what lens I should view the world through; what way I could think that would make everything better#forgive me but I don't care; I do what I do and I do what I can and you don't see the work I do under the hood#I don't want advice on self validation or whatever; I want... I want someone to hold a mirror up so I can actually see myself#by which I mean I want input on how I'm doing; if it's good enough; if it's worth anything; if anything I make is good#everyone things I'm nice; everyone has always thought I'm nice#but given nice leaves me profoundly isolated I don't think I care#not to mention in my opinion what nice in this instance means is that I'm capable of listening#it's mostly that I have manners rather than some quality about me#I'm well behaved and polite and can listen; and that's perceived as nice or even sweet#and it's not like I'm offended by people seeing me that way; but maybe you can get why... I can't do anything with that information#but if I'm doing enough... if I provide any value to the world... I might have heard that less times in my life than years I've lived#that's where I'm totally blind#people don't tend to offer any input; and also people don't tend to let me know what they're thinking#and I in fact am not a mind reader; I can often accurately infer things; but no of that means a thing till it's confirmed#and... well... hopefully no one reads the stupid shit I say and especially not the tags so this is safe and hidden#but truthfully people just like to hear that stuff they're doing is wanted and matters#and I do not#I don't know... gotta go do more cleaning cause I need to#and I have no idea if... I've got a reason for fighting so hard to clean; but I get very little input so... I expect... well...#and thankfully I don't think they read my tags so I can say this#but I really expect they won't take me up on my offer to come out here and get away from their parents; so there will be no pay off#not that I blame them in the slightest... it's just the only possible pay off for this cleaning would be helping someone I like out#and a scrap of company#but then again... in many ways anyone coming out to live with me is the worst thing they could probably do#sorry... I have a rather bleak outlook on many things surrounding myself purely cause of what I infer from the past#there is never pay off; only more shit I need to get done#I will never be loved; I will never be wanted; I will always just kinda be an afterthought that's occasionally worth venting to#no one will ever be particularly interested in anything I'm interested while I'll chase their interests or at least try to#certainly let them talk about them when they want#...though I take that over my normal total isolation... better to at least be permitted to follow in someone's shadow than have nothing
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i was so looking forward to having a different instructor for the second half of this two semester class, but i just got the notification that it changed 😔 so i have my most difficult professor again 😔
#hopefully i can apply what i learned#about navigating their disorganization#but still. ugh.#and i tried and failed#to get into Best Professor's class#so i will be popping in#to briefly bother them in between classes#at least once next semester lol#we have a standing invitation to ask them any questions/advice#which is part of what makes them Best Professor#college blogging#talk tag
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i doubt this is really gonna get any response but does anyone have any recommendations for cute wheelchair decorations? my mom can no longer walk for too long and needs a wheelchair now and i wanna get her stuff to decorate it with
#please rb btw since im. really not sure where to look or what to search for#disability#wheelchair#<- tagging so hopefully i can get a lil advice lol#she got lights for the wheel spokes but thats p much all shes got on there rn
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Beautiful thing happened today: the guy doing headshots had these brilliant nautical tattoos and I, a known ship nerd, pointed them out and said I thought they were brilliant. And he launched into how for 12 years he worked on a tall ship at one point as the captain. He got all excited telling me about it and asked if I was working on any ships. I said no, but I’d love to, have wanted to ever since I was a kid; he asks if I know so-and-so, to call him and even just being a passenger will get you credit with skippers. And at this point I’m grinning and laughing and I really want to talk more about sailing and historical stuff with this guy. He goes “Right tilt your head this way, you wanna look warm and approachable yet tough for any skippers!” Probably the best headshots I’ll ever get, those smiles were sincere. Then he recommended me his favourite book - its 700 pages and it’s 300 years of historical fiction called “We, The Drowned” which I’m checking out asap because it sounds brilliant
#I really wanted to know what got him from sailing ships to doing headshots for actors!#like#TELL ME MORE!#this guy was so full of energy too#he seemed happy that someone was interested in his ink! and sailing#he was so cool omg#he was giving me a bunch of advice too!!#I told him I went into stage combat and theatre coz of my epilepsy but my first choice ever since I was a little kid was to be a sailor#a tall ship sailor! captain even!#and he was like fuck yeah you can still do that! if you can do all this stage combat stuff you should be fine getting hired!#he also you could always just not tell them and act surprised if you DO have a seizure - but probably let em know#I was over the MOON!#hes friends with the guy I work with so hopefully I’ll get to meet him again#everyone knows each other here lol#hey take a shot every time I say brilliant#anyways
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fun sunday afternoon plans my dbt workbook arrived + I have a lecture on adhd + seasonal affective disorder to watch that I signed up for a while ago. maybe either of those will tell me how to survive this winter without killing myself 👍
#its the same dbt book ive used before but i only had a pdf before.. its much easier to navigate/use a physical copy#some of the techniques did help me to reduce bad coping mechanisms significantly last yr. so worth giving it another shot#i dont rly respond well to therapy unless its self administered bc i cant talk to ppl abt my problems + dont trust what they say anyway#its just easier independently in a written format. theyre my issues i got myself into this shit so i can get myself out of it. or not#wish i could at least exercise today but i think it is a chest infection im coming down with. so im not sure i physically can#its painful enough breathing as is. making some lemon honey ginger tea tho so hopefully thatll help#man. the fucking Misery. i hope i make it through this one. sooner rather than later preferably 👍#.vent#.diaries#i have a book on bpd as well. i dont think i have bpd myself but some of the interpersonal issues ppl w bpd have are similar to those-#i experience so just curious whether itll have any useful advice for managing emotional instability/insecurity in relationships
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oh my god. i just saw some of my OLD OLD digital art like before i made my art blog and holy fuck. suddenly faith in myself completely restored
#this is why its vital to save your old art like you can get yourself so down and be like wtf am i doing this for im not improving#nothing like seeing something you made 4 years ago to bonk you on the head and make you see sense#ofc im not improving AS fast as i could be bc i dont draw enough but still#now my priority should be to become faster like its absolutely necessary. it already was years ago#i just checked how long it took me to draw my latest post and ill tell you. those two drawings took me 39 FUCKING HOURS#like that is absolutely unacceptable. no 'just go at your own pace' or anything no. that should not happen and i need to fix it#hopefully there is an actionable plan and advice out there ill have to look <3#waah im so sad it seems the steady trickling in of notes has stopped finally. i was so close to getting my first drawing with over 200 notes#im sorry if this is shallow but it is a big deal to me#im so thankful for the notes i did get tho! it is my most well received drawing ever and that makes me happy
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1: the character everyone gets wrong
i just answered this but yeah it's fundy and ponk. come to think of it possibly also happyduo. the whole eggpire maybe.
8: common fandom opinion that everyone is wrong about
despite my best efforts i suspect i live in an echochamber but. spaces out for 10 minutes trying to think of common fandom opinions. you know i cannot really think of a take that has not caused awful awful discourse on my dash. i mean i guess re: the attachments advice that phil gave tommy that caused everyone to try to kill each other on my dash: i dont think it's that big of a deal? if phil gave some bad advice? if said advice was even bad in the first place? <didn't get too invested in that discourse
also i don't think las nevadas had to be destroyed for the. waves hand. narrative. or smth. it wasn't like. the root of all cquackity's evil or whatever. and i think it's good and reasonable that the LN arc ends with q deciding to build it back up again. sorry its my girlfriend
21: part of canon you think is overhyped
bedrock bros ^_^
#asks#las nevadas my babygirl my best friend my lover..#to clarify on both things in 8. the phil thing is more that i find a lot of objections to phil's character being based on whether u think#he's like. a good dad/person or not. or at least a lot of the arguments i saw were based around that#which is like yeah i think his character reaches into some touchy subjects so that's valid but i think he's fun. and the advice thing#is just. well you know that post that's like stop having your characters talk like theyre trying to get a good grade in#therapy? yeah and phil did not need to speak like he is trying to get a good grade in therapist#actually do i want to expand on the LN part. so the take i'm thinking of is the general idea that LN as a country was just#super super evil and had to be destroyed for q's arc to resolve and for him to 'learn his lesson' or smth#but i think LN can be multifaceted and i think having it be destroyed but Q choosing to rebuild with hopefully a new ethos in mind#isn't ridiculous or bad. he's all about ego death and remaking himself yknow
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wait you got me so invested in the stammer & heddy tailor au....
this is my standard disclaimer that i have never posted a fic on ao3* and for however much i say “au” i truly mean that it’s a universe that lives in my head & i am absolutely delighted to tell you all about, all the time <3 if it helps i ALSO got me so invested in the heddy & stammer tailor au
ok now that the author’s note is out of the way here’s some notes about the not!fic heddy & stammer tailor au:
stammer as the tailor from gent’s playbook, very reserved, quiet, with an excellent eye for details (honestly the evidence i have for his style sense is just that he’s best friends with pk subban so it has to be there somewhere if only by proxy irl) is hired by victor hedman, star of the tampa bay lightning who is every other tailor’s nightmare to dress (huge, opinionated, fashionable)
heddy is decently well-known throughout the league for being very well-dressed & becomes quietly well known for also being one of his new tailor’s favorite loyal customers [heddy has the nicest fabrics. he has his suits the first day a new collection drops & e v e r y o n e is jealous]
stammer’s business booms after heddy takes a chance on him as his first big client & promotes him, heddy sees him grow in popularity & get more clients
heddy also moonlights as a model for stammer’s suits on instagram, initially to help him grow his business because then he won’t have to pay for a model and then because he’s over there all the time anyway because they’re dating (that’s why the model’s face is never in the pictures)
there’s not really a plot to this besides the vague idea of a plot where stammer makes heddy his lucky suit that he wins the cup in & sews a special little tag into the lining of his jacket that says i love you
because love sometimes is picking out the perfect right color pocket square to match your husband’s beautiful suit that you fitted like a kiss to the curves of his huge body
& also sometimes love is making your beautiful husband who makes you beautiful clothing enjoy nice things for himself once in a while, like the fancy watch you bought him or the nice suit you custom-ordered for him (from him) just so you could take it off of him
#*i did very much post a zine on ao3 that was part of a really fun exchange that i loved doing (thank you leah for organizing!!!)#& had a fantastic time with however i have not strictly speaking posted a fic. one day i will. eventually. hopefully. pray for me :)#also one time my horoscope told me i was a ‘neutral projector’ & i’ve never felt more called out (‘loves making up things’/‘will not#actually write or plot but will explain every intricate detail of their world & character relationships’/‘hype up every member of the#writing chat & give good advice but never follow it’) like HI CAN U NOT DO THIS TO ME HOROSCOPE THANKS i was read to FILTH#liv in the replies#i do LOOOOOVE me a good one of them plays hockey the other one does not au sometimes they’re so fun to explore dynamics outside/inside sport#at the time i came up with this stammer was out on IR & heddy kept showing up to the playoffs in ridiculously nice suits what was i to do??#the gent’s playbook tailor will sometimes model his own suits w/o showing his own face which made it look like he had a secret model come in#heddy canonically says his suits make him feel better when he plays esp during playoffs & if he wins in a suit he’ll keep wearing it#oh also the truth of the love is in the pocket square bit? angela price i will never forget. anyway that blue suit i posted in the last ask#with the perfect pink pocket square? that pocket square is a pair of stammer’s boxers heddy took To Me. in my brain#me about the beautiful clothing: this is like daisy crying in gatsby’s silk shirts except it’s baby alpaca fur & also it’s not sad#it’s simply decadent & the inherent intimacy of a fitting mapping the body yada yada yada knowing the ways to flatter someone is a form#of loving them etc etc. love is art love is food love is given love is stored in the custom three-piece suit and tie#is this an enemies to lovers? workplace drama? is the secret plot i only just now invented & added that heddy is ‘difficult to work with’#but it’s just because he wants to look good & in the words of his own (real) tailor the hardest guy to fit because he’s so big? OHHH HOLD IT#I GOT THE PLOT IN THE TAGS Y’ALL AND IT’S STAMMER TEACHING HEDDY TO LOVE HIS BODY heddy who’s been told what to/not wear & you know.#the commodification of the body in hockey (but we’re not getting that deep) but stammer with a mouth full of pins tightening heddy’s pant#leg down even further as he listens to what heddy wants for once & lets him pick fabrics (this is the daisy shirt moment but it’s heddy#looking at fabric swatches dozens of books of them stammer helps him pick out matching linings &outsides &squares) & stammer compliments him#& they’re in love & idk NEARLY enough abt fashion but there r like codes? messages? to wearing suits i think w/the etiquette so that too#should this have also gone under a readmore? yeah probably. whoops#victor hedman#steven stamkos#tampa bay lightning
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