#so even if i blacklist the tags i still have to scroll past all that stuff

[sonknuxadow]

i dont even know enough about what people are doing with sonic.exe these days to have an actual opinion on the concept itself but wow am i tired of it flooding sonic tags on like every site I DONT CAREEEEEEEE

[no-goodbyes-no-regrets]

U know,I'm enjoying the Buck, Tommy and Eddie did in the show, but I'm confused why the romantic throuple stuff is always tagged with bvddie and bvckt0mmy as well, it's just like inviting more discourse in.

I don't like seeing that side in the bucktommy tag just like I don't like seeing bvddie stuff in there (IMO actual shipping stuff should stay in its own tag rather than infiltrate other tags).

In ur vast tumblr wisdom, do you know why it's just seems to be acceptable to do that? It's a bit tiring often having to spend a while scrolling thru the bucktommy tag, past posts tagged with bvddie, bvddietommy, 911 discourse, and having to hunt for actual bucktommy stuff in the bucktommy tag.

Or is it just my own profiles problem? I'm genuinely exhausted (& started to get resentful seeing so much Eddie), I just wanna see Buck and Tommy being cute without having to search in their own tag for it 😭😓🥺😢

(I do block people as well,but it seems endless!!)

(u don't have to answer this if you don't want to, but it (and toxic shippers) are actually driving me away from tumblr and I love it here usually! It just seems to be getting really bad since the last episode)

My vast tumblr wisdom?? Lmao I know I live here but I'm not an expert anon!

But I do get what you mean. There are a lot of reaction post to insane takes from buddie fans (are they even really buddie fans? All they seem to do is hate on bucktommy/Tommy/Lou) in the bucktommy tag. I guess people just want to vent and know they will at least find like-minded people in the bucktommy tag. Though I think most people do use some kind of discourse tag - so you can blacklist those. I follow a few buddie fans who just enjoy their ship and don't harass Lou or tag Oliver in erotic art of him and Ryan or stuff like that, and I just blacklist buddie and some other tags they use for their ship posts and that's that.

If you're on web a lot you should get xkit (or xkit rewritten as it's called these days) by the way, it has all kinds of great features - including completely hiding posts that contain words or tags you have blacklisted.

As for the throuple posts, I guess because it's all still kind of new - and starting to pick up more the past week or so - that people aren't really sure what tags to use? And people who like bucktommy (might) like Buck/Tommy/Eddie romantically too.

I made a couple of posts (that I plan to turn into actual fics eventually) focusing on Tommy and Eddie as friends and tagged them eddietommy - and I think people use that tag for Eddie/Tommy romantically too, and that's why I tagged it bucktommy too.

I guess it would be easier if we all used the AO3 format for fic tagging - character/character for romance and character & character for friendship or family...

But I guess all you can do is blacklist tags and block people or blacklist their usernames if you don't want to block. This is the curate your own experience website after all.

[sapphos-darlings]

Are you a radfem? You've reblogged from radfems before and share a lot of detrans stuff, I like your blog but I don't feel really welcome and safe with stuff like that

Hi! We're two people running this blog, and no, this is not a radfem blog, this is a wlw/female positivity blog, run by two people who fall under these two categories ourselves.

Detransitioning also isn't automatically a political statement, please do not label it as such; when we started this blog, I was still living as a transgender man whose history and present still heavily tied me to the wlw community. However, HRT was making me very sick and not actually masculinising my body, and ultimately it was both better for my physical and mental health to first go off HRT, and when living as a man didn't get any easier through that, detransition. Most detransitioned people aren't detransitioning because of an agenda, and furthermore, while plenty remain allied to the LGBT community, most are still part of it - myself, as a bisexual gender non-conforming person who has no intentions of ever entering a heterosexual relationship, for example, and a person who does not feel that I am any more cisgender now than I have ever been. Others detransition from a binary gender identity to a nonbinary one, ceasing transition but remaining somewhere inbetween socially and where they feel themselves to align internally. Many of us, like myself, still regard ourselves under the wider transgender community: for myself, because I am not and have not and will not be cisgender, even if I am socially presenting as my assigned sex. People who know me more know that my experience with gender goes much beyond simplistic labels and assigning any beyond the factual "detrans female/woman" to what all of the above means is very difficult, but it's a private matter to me, like most things concerning deeply personal aspects of my life.

As per the blogs we reblog from - to be completely honest, we don't vet them, and have no intention of doing so in the future, as upsetting as this might be to hear for people who may feel unsafe coming across posts from users they're uncomfortable with. Most of our posts come from the tags and as long as they're not inflammatory and upsetting in themselves, we have no reason to be skulking through the sources or cultivating a blocklist of blogs we overall don't agree with. So there's going to be all kinds of ideologies, bad takes, drama, horrible people behind the urls. I quite honestly wouldn't know if I reblogged a tradfem post from a deep-end Catholic, anti-gay user/source (such as a quote) if the post itself somehow innocently floated into the wlw tag and was talking about cottagecore romance or some equally benign subject. The reason for this is simply that vetting each and every blog we scroll past would make running this blog extremely draining and require such specific hard rules to be established between the two of us posting here about what is a "good" blog to be reblogging from and what is a "bad" blog - there isn't one blog out there that we both 100% agree with, or find non-controversial, and we quite simply do not have the required energy to be putting into something like that.

You, however, as someone who scrolls through our blog, are more than welcome to block and blacklist urls and blogs that you see reblogged here. You control your exposure, you control whose thoughts you feel comfortable engaging with. This is absolutely, 100% fine to be doing. You never need to agree with anything we post, or with any user or post that we reblog here. We're posting here mostly for ourselves, what we relate to, in the hopes that someone out there relates to it as well. That's... really about as deep as it goes.

In order to help curate your experience, beyond Tumblr's own blacklist and block functions, for desktop users I highly recommend installing New XKit (Chrome/Firefox) and/or Tumblr Savior (Chrome/Firefox), which will make it much more reliable to vanish users and posts from your curated feed.

Hope this clears things up!

[brionysea]

hi. i’ve been recently unsure on whether I’m on the ace spectrum and coming across aphobic comments (even from 2016) made me confused and unsure of whether i was a bad person for even possibly being ace. i just feel unhappy and sad and confused and i don’t really know what to do. sorry if this is annoying in any way shape or form.

hi, i'm guessing you're sending me this ask because i've been sharing posts meant to educate people on how bad tumblr's aphobia used to be (and still is, honestly, just more subtly), and please know that wasn't my intention. seeing things like that affects me too - i don't even read half of the examples because i already know what they say and that they'll just bum me out - but the way non-aspecs, even well meaning ones, refuse to see what we have to deal with from the queer community infuriates me, so i feel compelled to talk about it. the intent behind aspecs making and sharing posts like that isn't to make others like them feel bad, but to show how abhorrent aphobes are, because people still say that we don't face any kind of pushback for our sexuality (which obviously isn't true), but i know it's still difficult to see. if you'd like, i can tag those posts as aphobia and you can blacklist them from your dash

if you're asexual or not, there's absolutely nothing wrong with you. i felt the same way at first and tried to convince myself i was something else. while i'm over the denial now, i still struggle with feeling like there's something wrong with me sometimes, but it gets better. i wish i could give you some step by step guide on how, but for me it was just time. and avoiding the kind of comments that were everywhere on 2016 tumblr. i don't know you, but just by virtue of possibly being acespec, i promise that you're not a bad person. especially not in comparison to the sad people online who are so threatened by asexuality that they have to harass and bully strangers about it

everyone's different, with different things they want to experience in life and different boundaries, and yours not fitting inside the norm is as natural as anyone else's looking unique to them is. we're all just trying to figure ourselves out. it's really none of anyone else's business, no matter how much strangers on the internet might like to pretend otherwise, so my advice is: focus on yourself and what will make you happy. cut out things that you know will bum you out - in this case, scrolling past the bad comments. i say this in all kindness, but they're not for you; they're for people who don't believe us when we say how bad it used to be

really, i don't think i can say it better than gillian anderson:

[liedownquisition]

So the thing is that like, I've been on tumblr since 2011. I've been on ao3 since it's conception. I've been in multiple fandoms and had a good number of blogs, both normal and RP and so forth. I didn't have one of my own but I did follow a lot of "fuckyeah_" and even incorrect quotes* blogs! And what I have to say about this current discourse is that it is, fundamentally, bullshit.

Tagging "etiquette" has always been to tag significant characters and, if applicable, the ships.

On ao3 the tagging is indexed in a way that these are categorized differently, but on tumblr it's all the same mess. And, since tumblr has more than one search option (keyword vs tag) it's even worse. Keyword searching will catch tags but tag searching won't catch variations on the tags.

Tags on tumblr are always, and have always been multipurpose: indexing and filtering.

What's changed is that a lot of people have gotten it in their head that it's not their job to filter and curate their own experiences. Filter a tag, block a blog, ect. That's too much work other people just need to hivemind and interact with fandom in the exact same way they want them to and tags are just supposed to be content mills for what they want to see.

The onus on other fans is only to tag appropriately (Ship, possible triggers/squicks, and Characters) so that it can be blocked by the people that don't want to see it, that's it.

If someone posts art that includes both characters from a ship that someone ships, but isn't actively drawing them in a shippy manner (i.e. ref sheets) it is NOT, and never has been, their responsibility to tag it for ship unless they're deliberately trying to reach other fans of the ship. Even still, it's not wrong for them to tag both characters because that's what they drew! The same applies to fic. And if they drew/wrote an ensemble, it's perfectly normal to tag every character in said ensemble, or not, as the OP chooses to!

I get it, the filtering system built into tumblr hides posts behind the world's most tempting button, so even if you don't see it it's still there. You know it's there. Learn to live with it or find yourself an extension that will blacklist and actually hide it entirely. You're on mobile? Well, guess you've just got the former, sorry.

"Tumblr tag etiquette is that I don't see you having fun in a way I don't like" is fundamentally stupid. That's not how any of that works.

*Incorrect quotes posts are a little fuzzy, I'll admit. These are definitely the ones most prone to be "flooding" a tag, especially if they post each individually. It was considered courtesy to NOT flood a tag by using the queue function so that there was time between posts for people to post other content. And, if they post it all in one post, it's annoying because no one likes massive posts to scroll past that could have been readmore'd. Except that some people do kind of prefer them that way. There's no singular set of options that everyone agrees with here.

Which, well, let's reiterate that:

There's no singular set of options that everyone agrees with here.

As for ao3 that's always been up to author's discretion but yeah people do tend to prefer that characters have an actual role in a fic, same with character relationships. Of course, with ships it's courtesy to tag minor ships so people can avoid it even as a background thing (which will sometimes go untagged) BUT for the sake of/from the perspective of shippers a lot of people prefer that you tag "minor x/y" so they know it's not a fic about their ship.

And, frankly, if your tag is slow enough it only updates/has new posts maybe 2-3 times a day? It's not "clogging" or "spamming" or "flooding" the tag if the only people making those posts are fans who enjoy things a different way than you. Those terms imply that they're posting a lot of insignificant or largely irrelevant posts in a short time!

Like, so sorry no one else is engaging with your blorbo, but you sure aren't doing it either because the only posts you put in the tag are hating on a character that isn't even the one you're tagging for!

Tumblr dc/ao3 tagging discourse is very wild to me because I feel like some of these injunctions are contradictory ?!! Like, not tagging a post with a character who isn't in there or who doesn't speak for more than a token sentence, i get it.

But some of it? "Good tagging etiquette" what do you mean by good tagging etiquette?

Because I saw a post saying that jaymia fans were great at tagging etiquette because they had no idea jaymia existed since jaymia fans didn't flood the mia tag, and they wished jayroy fans were as good at respecting tagging etiquette. And that threw me off, because now I have questions, because I was taught tagging is great for blocking. Say for example I didn't like Slade Wilson and didn't want to see posts about him. Slade Wilson has a lot of different ships. Say I'm scrolling and a fanart of Slade Wilson with his tongue down, let's say Mia's throat, shows up. I have the Slade Wilson tag blocked, but I didn't know that was even a ship people did (this example is fictional btw i've never seen slademia) so it didn't occur me to block the Slademia tag. Because, in order to avoid "clogging" the Slade and Mia tags with ship posts, they only tagged it as "Slademia", I'm seeing it. Now I can of course block the Slademia tag and not see it again and it's fine, I'll survive, but then I'll see a Sladejoey post and be like "shit it didn't occur to me to block this one either" etc etc etc. But if I have the Slade tag blocked and people tag their posts that include Slade with Slade, then I don't have to see Slade. That's more efficient! Coming in here, I was taught one of the most important functions of tags is to allow for easy blocking. That's why I get so annoyed when post aren't tagged with "character critical" or "anti character" because these are so useful to having a respectful enjoyable time; we all have different tastes and that's FINE.

But of course, this solution isn't perfect. Indeed, if jaymia is in the jason and mia tags, i'm gonna find jaymia scrolling. And as someone who doesn't like jaymia, but likes both the characters and thus have neither tags blocked, I'm gonna have to see it first before blocking the tag. I'm not saying that can't be annoying. I'm saying it's just not as simple as "clogging the tags". Tagging Mia in posts where she's not there is clogging the Mia tag, tagging Mia posts in which Mia is there and happens to interact with a character you're not interested in seeing her interact with in this way, why would that be clogging the Mia tag?

And also, would making a post about Mia and Steph hanging out as friends be clogging the Mia tag, or are we being arbitrarily weird about romantic relationships compared to platonic relationships again? What if I liked Mia but didn't like her relationship with Roy, would tagging a "Mia and Roy headcanons" post with Mia be clogging the Mia tag? Why are we assuming that a jaymia post can't be about Mia, that it can't be an exploration of interesting themes about her character, that it can't be anything interesting about Mia just because it's shipping.

This may be confusing because out of all the examples used here, jaymia is the only one I actually don't like¹, the others are fictional examples. But just because I personally don't like it, doesn't mean I'm gonna assume people shipping Mia with Jason is somehow not about Mia and Jason -like who would it be about. The intense, virulent jaymia and jayroy hate I've seen always stemmed from people who hate Jason or at least dislike him. And like, I can't help but feel like, if you dislike Jason, ship posts that include his character would be far more easy for you to avoid since you just need to block him and be done with it. And if you want to be able to block the jason tag, the OP is also gonna have to tag roy or mia in the post, otherwise you're being unfair and arbitrary by deciding that your blorbo is absolutely lovable and nobody needs to filter them out but other people's blorbo need a warning.

And the general sentiment i see of people complaining about this clogging being a recurrent problem with jayroy also confused me because like... I've never seen a jayroy post not tagged as jayroy? Just block it??? Being annoyed once at seeing art from a ship you don't enjoy when this could have been avoided is one thing. But the idea that it's a repetitive problem... Why not use the block function?

I don't understand. All of this is to say, I just don't understand what people want, what good tagging etiquette is supposed to be because it's so contradictory.

How am I supposed to simultaneously tag everything significant in the post so the people who don't like it can block and avoid it, and simultaneously not tag anything but the ship so it doesn't clog the tag? What do you want from me, tumblr?

Anyway, sorry for the rant but like, I am so confused. What's the correct dc tumblr etiquette riddle me this tumblr. This also works for ao3 tags and filters.

1. When I say I don't like jaymia i don't dislike it I just don't feel it, it doesn't personally vibe with me but I don't hate it hence why i don't have the tags blocked if you were wondering. Also because I sometimes look for art of them hanging out in the tag since I can't find art of them being just friends.

[rayshippouuchiha]

yo i'm seeing a lot of dishing about the purity culture of fandom and i absolutely agree

but i'd like to ask

do 'incest fic' count, i mean specifically i'm in the batfam fandom and if you try and write pairing with batman's adopted kids /former robins together everyone and their mother starts screaming at you both online and on ao3, and if you point out the lack of blood relation all you get it 'it's still incest oh my god you're a horrible person who doesn't believe in adopted sibling relationships' and like... i just wanna smush the two pretty vigilante characters together, it's very exhausting, and it also applies to discord, the fandom is very hardcore about policing this and like I get it to an extent because I've seen a lot of posts about how 'seeing batcest on my dash turns my stomach' 'having to scroll past bastcest on ao3 to get anything good is disturbing and disgusting' and tagging, is not enough for these people, i've seen some poor fools pointing out instances of real life adopted siblings who've ended up together due to the adoption being their parents decision ect and the vitriol that's met with is very aggressive, they basically just don't want it to exist and don't want people who ship it to feel safe talking about it out in the open on tumblr because it's weird and something to feel ashamed of that you shouldn't force 'normal people' to see.

And it's like, why do I have to be treated like a fucking leper in online spaces over a ship? It's literally scarlet letter shit where if someone posts something with nightwing x red hood art even if it's cute and utterly harmless like one of them blushing over a hot chocolate people will literally go into their mutuals askbox and 'warn' them that that person you reblogged from likes batcest. Legitimately. It's so toxic.

See, if you're tagging your ship correctly, if you're rating it correctly, if you're posting it in the appropriate places, if you are making it clear what it is that you've created so that others who don't want to interact with it can keep scrolling without clicking or can use their blacklist functions, then you're not doing anything wrong and your responsibility is pretty much over.

And that goes for any ship, any trope, and any fic in any fandom.

It does not matter.

No singular person or group of people has the right to police an entire fandom just because there's content being created that they don't personally like or agree with.

As long as those creators are keeping their content to the appropriate places (i.e. not posting explicit material in a general audience server or purposefully putting ship content under the wrong tag to force others to see it) then it's everyone else's responsibility to curate their own fandom experiences by using blacklists, mute functions, exclude filters, the block button, or just not clicking on content they know they don't like or agree with.

There are ships and tropes that turn my stomach. I don't want to see them, consume them, or even think about them because they squick me out.

And that's on me.

So I block, I blacklist, I mute, and I don't click.

Because the burden of responsibility for what I consume in fandom is on me.

Fandoms are like villages. Yeah, we're all living in close proximity but that doesn't give anyone else the right to come into my house uninvited and tell me they don't like my decor or that I can't cook this particular meal in my kitchen because they are allergic to it even though I never invited them to dinner.

So ignore the people who try and do that.

Tend your roses, fill your shelves, make your meals, and enjoy yourself instead.

[nangbaby]

Because they aren’t being assholes to people who don’t want to deal with bigots?

They're being assholes to people who don't want to be accused of being bigots or otherwise a bad person without any possible recourse. If you say you only block bigots, but then as a marginalized person I find myself being blocked by you, not only does it give a sense familiar dread of being blocked in real life with the idea my kind isn't welcome to be seen...it's unsettling because I apparently did something wrong, I have no idea what I did wrong, and most of all I have no path to make it up to this person. When multiple people isolate you by blocking, it makes you feel that, you know maybe you do have an 85 IQ and are a criminal just like the white supremacists say, or maybe you do have dysgenic genes and shouldn't breed, or maybe you're not doing your womanly duty, or maybe you're a sinful reprobate. Blocking marginalized people reinforces the stereotypes of society and destabilizes the blocked person in a way even the worst threat can't. If you slur me, I can declare to myself, "I'm not a slur" and determine my own worth, If you block me, I can't declare I'm not blocked because you have determined my worth for me.

In any world where you take unilateral and non-negotiable action against another person to cause them distress, that's being an asshole, abusive, manipulative, and in the case of the oppressed, a reinforcement of societal power structures.

I find certain topics (gore, n*zi stuff, etc) upsetting, so I block blogs that post those things and blacklist the tags.

How would you come across that stuff in the first place? The only thing I've seen is unwanted porn and even that goes away if you scroll past it. The only things shown on your dashboard are the people you follow and the content based on your likes. There's no need to block it if you aren't looking for it in the first place (like antis looking for topics that trigger them; they're wrong).

Everyone is free to speak their mind in a public square, but I’m in a coffee shop and the gore blogs are in the pub across the way. We aren’t forced to interact with each other.

No, neither you nor the gore blogs are in buildings. You're in a market square, an outdoor booth, or in the same open field area of the park. If you go to the park, you're going to see things you don't like, such as grimy, smelly kids and grimy, smelly dogs and they are going to run up on you. You can't ban kids and dogs from the park, and you can't force kids and dogs to be quiet and not approach you, so if there's a public place where those kids and dogs hang out that's ostensibly for everyone...you have to leave. You remove yourself, even if your friends are all there and you want to talk to them. You can't expect to be free of either dogs or kids in a public, even if you try to keep your distance.

Things said on the internet are taken seriously.

Then in that case, being blocked is serious business.

But what if that person won’t stop being cruel to you?

Blocking them doesn't stop them from being cruel to me because they still hurt me by proxy. The only way they'll stop being cruel is if they actually were hit with consequences for being cruel. Blocking people is cruel and makes the blocked person a permanent punching bag.

And spambots are not legitimate communication.

Not everyone wants to see endless discourse.

Except that's not discourse, but receipts on the lies and accusations people make about me. If people are telling other people to block me based on lies and have spreading hurtful memes and pictures, am I not allowed to challenge and protest the lies that have been told? If you lie about someone and get your followers to block someone based on a lie, one has to expose the truth. As you wrote, "you don’t say anything on the internet that you don’t want plastered on your hometown newspaper." But people get away with saying mean and cruel things about me all the time, and blocking them doesn't stop them from saying them.

To me, blocking doesn't manage hate. At best it's ineffective and at worst it's used by those who hate me to make me even more unwelcome and set apart

This one is addressed to the people who say blocking and the Internet aren't all that serious.

If you think that I'm making a big stink over nothing, why aren't you going after the other people who say blocking is self-care and necessary for mental health?

If anything, by blocking people you don't want to see, you're putting too much stock into what people are saying. You seeing what they write should have no effect on you if the Internet is no big deal. The people claiming they want to be safe and free from unsafe interactions are blowing things out of proportion forcing other people to not see them. So what's the point of blocking?

If as a stranger, I'm not really a person to you, then it's pointless to get bent out of shape over words on a screen and everyone should be allowed to say what they want. If people shouldn't be allowed to hurt people on the Internet, then the Internet does have to be taken seriously. People outright lie about who I am and assume I'm a bigot, so why is it wrong for me to make assumptions about them? I really don't get it. I'm "defensive" because there is a relentless attack in which I am seen as bad. If it's really no big deal as you say, then people shouldn't treat me any differently from anyone else.

If it follows that blocking is necessary is, then for some people, not being blocked is also necessary for mental health. If blocking is not necessary for mental health, then no one should block anyone.

And even if I am a hypocrite for (currently) blocking people…that doesn't make blocking right.

[firelxdykatara]

gods, ok, apparently i’m not done.

atla fandom? we need to have a chat.

(....ok that made me sound pretentious as fuck. and maybe i am, but this needs to be said, cause i’m getting....real, real tired of a Certain Corner of this fandom and as a result, this is gonna be a discourse-heavy post so feel free to scroll past if that’s not your bag. as always, my salt posts all carry the catch-all #salt for ts tag, which you’re free to blacklist/filter at your leisure. i’m Very Annoyed at the moment, which will probably come through in the following post, so just. yknow. be prepared for that. or ignore it, that’s perfectly valid too.)

under a cut bc i do care for my followers and their sanity i swear lmao

there’s a real serious issue in this fandom with not understanding what queer terminology actually means or implies, especially when applied to a fictional narrative.

i’m specifically talking about ‘coding’, here. (if i were in a more meme-y mood, i might have said ‘the atla fandom found out about the term “gay-coding” and haven’t shut up since’.)

to the people who say ‘zuko is gay-coded’, i have this to say: you keep using that word. i do not think it means what you think it means. because he isn’t. i’m sorry, but he’s not! and the fact that this is such a prevalent claim in this fandom is distressing, bc it says to me that none of y’all know what gay-coding is or when and how to apply it! please, i’m begging you, go and look up these terms and what they mean and when they should be used before actually trying to plug them into your critical analysis, because when you misuse them and then call other people delusional for disagreeing with you it casts a pall over the entire fandom and is, i think, the root of some of the worst toxicity this fandom has to offer.

and the thing is, there are cases where gay-coding would apply--for instance, a couple series that are famous for queerbaiting their audience by coding their main characters as being attracted to one another (sometimes even despite their openly stated sexualities) come to mind, but those shows bare no similarities at all to atla and how zuko was written and portrayed! (and it would be funny, if it weren’t so obnoxious and infuriatingly wide-spread throughout the fandom, because the only queer couple we actually seen on-screen in either show wasn’t even queer-coded in any respect, and they’re canonically bi! [yes, i’m shading korrasami, or more accurately i’m shading bryke for refusing to give ka the build-up and development they deserved].)

this absolutely isn’t to say that headcanoning zuko as gay is a bad thing or invalid in any respect. (although the tendency for zukka shippers to do this specifically to keep zuko away from katara and/or invalidate his canon relationship/attraction to girls is more than a little eyebrow raising. especially since sokka is usually allowed to be bi, bc fans have no problem letting sukka stay in the background bc it’s no real threat, while jetko shippers are happy to have both boys be bi. [possibly bc katara is less a threat to jetko bc jetkotara is every bit as valid as any single ship between the three, but zukka can’t exactly let katara join in, and if the potential exists for zuko to be attracted to her then canon giving them the far deeper emotional bond becomes a threat to zukka’s existence? idk for sure--you be the judge.]) i prefer to hc zuko as bi (and always have, long before the atla renaissance), bc i don’t think zuko being attracted to boys is outside the realm of possibility, and it isn’t a threat to my ship since zuko&katara had a deep and emotional bond in canon that is very easy to develop further into something that becomes explicitly romantic--but the headcanon itself isn’t really the problem (although what it’s often in service to can be).

it’s the strange insistence that this is the only way to read his character, bc he was coded that way and so anyone who doesn’t see it must be too straight to understand--and i really shouldn’t have to say why and how that is so incredibly fucking insulting. (the ‘hetero lenses’ comment wasn’t cute when it came from bryke six years ago, and the same sentiment being repackaged and delivered by zukka shippers ain’t cute now.)

calling zuko gay-coded not only demonstrates ignorance as to what the term actually means, and how to usefully apply it in critical analysis, but also validates the frankly bullshit insertion of institutionalized homophobia in the world of atla where it was neither needed, nor wanted, nor ever hinted at in canon. as a queer woman i’m still infuriated by one fucking comic panel shoving institutionalized and systemic homophobia into a world where it was entirely unnecessary (and doing this in the first installment of the franchise showcasing a queer relationship??? making korra and asami worried about ‘coming out’ when they could have just gone on to have cute adventures together and tell people ‘hey we’re dating’ and have everyone else be ‘that’s awesome =DDD’ [because it is, in fact, possible to just have a world without homophobia i promise!!!!!] double yikes, i’m still pissed at bryke about it), and i doubly hate that ‘zuko is gay coded’ has become so widespread that ‘ozai hates him bc he’s gay’ has become a staple in that part of the fandom.

not only does making zuko gay and implying (or outright stating) that ozai hated and abused him because of it completely undermine zuko’s character arc by making his abuse about his sexuality rather than ozai’s toxic pride and anger at seeing himself reflected in his ‘weak’ son, but it comes very close to outright stating that abuse and trauma are inherently gay experiences, and they aren’t!!! they really aren’t, i promise!!!

abuse and trauma narratives exist outside of ‘my dad hates me because i’m gay’. and, quite frankly, there are MORE THAN ENOUGH queer trauma narratives out in the world. we do not need to start trying to retroactively make them canon in a series where they didn’t exist! if you’re gay and see yourself in zuko and project your own experiences on him, that’s understandable and valid. that does not make zuko gay-coded. and honestly, the insistence that he is makes very little sense to me, because you’re essentially trying to give the show credit for work you put into interpreting the characters! why would you want to do that? why not own your own headcanons and take credit for them, rather than insisting they are canon and everyone else is wrong for not seeing them??? like, i’ve said before that i’ve always headcanoned zuko (and katara) as bi, and even support it with my interpretations of evidence from the show, but the difference between ‘i think zuko is bi’ and ‘zuko is definitely gay-coded’ is that i know that bi zuko is my interpretation of canon, and that it is work i’m putting into the show that wasn’t actually intended by the creators/writers, no matter how much sexual tension i read into the jetko swordfight.

and like, zuko’s character arc doesn’t actually parallel a queer one all that well to begin with. it’s easy enough to do the work and twist it sideways just enough to make the general points fit, but the fact is, zuko’s arc is not one of self-discovery. it’s not one of coming to understand something fundamental about himself that he can’t change, that he was hated for, and coming out to his father in a dramatic confrontation where he shows that he understands himself and doesn’t need his father’s acceptance to be fulfilled.

zuko’s arc is actually one of trauma and healing. and those can (and often are--like i said, there are more than enough queer trauma narratives in the world, atla really doesn’t need to be one of them) be part of queer narratives, for sure! but they aren’t uniquely queer. and zuko’s confrontation with ozai during the eclipse doesn’t read like a ‘coming out’ at all. (yes, i’ve seen that post. yes, i rolled my eyes and moved on, bc unlike some people, i’m capable of not clowning on correctly tagged posts i disagree with.) zuko is specifically confronting ozai over his abuse, because his arc wasn’t about discovering anything fundamental about himself (and therefore realizing that ozai was hating him for something he couldn’t change)--it was about realizing that he was not at fault for the way his father treated him. it was also about realizing that the fire nation was broken and corrupt at its core, and that his father was an aspect of that he needed to break away from so that he could help the world begin to heal.

he says it himself:

Zuko: No, I've learned everything! And I've had to learn it on my own! Growing up, we were taught that the Fire Nation was the greatest civilization in history. And somehow, the War was our way of sharing our greatness with the rest of the world. What an amazing lie that was. The people of the world are terrified by the Fire Nation. They don't see our greatness. They hate us! And we deserve it! We've created an era of fear in the world. And if we don't want the world to destroy itself, we need to replace it with an era of peace and kindness.

making this about zuko being gay and rejecting ozai’s homophobia, rather than zuko learning fundamental truths about the world and about his home and about how there was something deeply wrong with his nation that needed to be fixed in order for the world to heal (and, no, ‘homophobia’ is not the answer to ‘what is wrong with the fire nation’, i’m still fucking pissed at bryke about that), misses the entire point of his character arc. this is the culmination of zuko realizing that he should never have had to earn his father’s love, because that should have been unconditional from the start. this is zuko realizing that he was not at fault for his father’s abuse--that speaking out of turn in a war meeting in no way justified fighting a duel with a child.

is that first realization (that a parent’s love should be unconditional, and if it isn’t, then that is the parent’s fault and not the child’s) something that queer kids in homophobic households/families can relate to? of course it is. but it’s also something that every other abused kid, straight kids and even queer kids who were abused for other reasons before they even knew they were anything other than cishet, can relate to as well. in that respect, it is not a uniquely queer experience, nor is it a uniquely queer story, and zuko not being attracted to girls (which is what a lot of it seems to boil down to, at the end of the day--cutting down zuko’s potential ships so that only zukka and a few far more niche ships are left standing) is not necessary to his character arc. nor does it particularly make sense.

(and before anyone brings up his date with jin--a) he enjoyed it when she kissed him, and b) he was a traumatized, abused child going out on a first date. of course he was fucking awkward. have you ever met a teenage boy????)

anyway, uh, that was a lot of words, so have a tl;dr: zuko is not gay-coded. there is nothing uniquely gay (or even uniquely queer) about his character arc or characterization, and he was certainly not coded gay in an attempt to sneak a queer character past the censors. if anyone involved with atla was gonna try that, it would’ve been in lok, and as established, they didn’t even manage to queer-code the actual queer relationship before the last few minutes of the final episode. headcanoning zuko as gay is absolutely fine (though if it’s only done to keep him away from female characters he may otherwise be attracted to, that smells more like misogyny than anything else), but insisting that this reading is the only one that makes sense, and anyone who doesn’t agree must be straight (hello, queer woman here making this insanely long thinkpiece) is very much not.

ship what you like, but stop trying to invalidate other ships and other interpretations of characters just to make your ship seem more plausible. it’s really not a good look.

[jade-marie]

Ok so on the prospect of “anti” tagging I have some thoughts.

This got long, not gonna lie.

Which content is considered anti?

This whole anti thing is a very subjective concept. I’ve seen a lot of talk over the last few days about “negativity” when, to me, negativity is when you’re just talking shit for the sake of talking shit, not when you’re making valid criticisms. Pointing out flaws in the writing or plot holes or racism isn’t being negative and this mindset that everyone has to be positive all the time is fucking toxic. It makes other people feel like shit when they aren’t enjoying an episode or storyline and simply want to share their experience.

And what content are people supposed to tag? Because I don’t see anybody requesting an anti-Dean tag or anti-Manny Montana when we’re all collectively roasting him for getting a stupid tattoo on his neck. But god forbid anyone critiques Beth’s character flaws. Heavens no - the misogyny!! So where exactly is the line being drawn? Does everyone have to tag content that isn’t singing Beth‘s/the show’s praises or are we allowed to make valid criticisms?  Are we allowed to say that we didn’t enjoy an episode?  Is this simply being reserved for people who mindlessly bash the show with no valid reason for what they’re saying? And while we’re on the topic - you might find criticisms of particular characters/storylines offensive, somehow. You might find that it impacts your viewing experience. Other people might find praise of particular characters/storylines equally as frustrating. When I see people praising Beth, sometimes it makes me want to stab my fucking eyes out, quite frankly. Soooo are we going to start tagging “positive” content as well?🙃

Silencing POC within fandom

It’s not lost on me, the timing of all this discussion. The fact of the matter is, the content people have an issue with right now is predominantly criticism of Beth, a lot of which is rooted in criticism of the racist writing on the show and the white feminism that she represents. A lot of this criticism is coming from POC viewers. So the second they have to start tagging their posts as “anti-Beth” so everyone can blacklist them, they no longer have a voice.

At the end of the day, this is a predominantly white female fandom and it’s very easy for the show to be viewed through that particular lens. So when you have POC fans finally speaking up and criticising the way Beth‘s handled by the writing, the way Rio is fetishised, the way racist tropes and stereotypes are utilised and they’re immediately branded “negative” - that really doesn’t set a good precedent. Because now you’re telling people that by making valid criticisms and speaking about the way their viewing experience is being impacted, they’re somehow ruining other peoples’ experience. It’s bordering on micro-aggressions, at this point.

Fandom is a communal space

Is it? Is it really? Because from where I sit half of this apparent community have fucking blocked each other anyway. Tumblr, in particular, is not a communal space. People have their own blogs and they post what they want to post. If you don’t like what they post, you don’t have to follow them, it’s really simple. In comparison, a platform like reddit is actually communal. People have to go into a shared space in order to voice their opinion, they have live episode discussions, they have post-episode discussions, yet nobody tries to police each other’s opinion there. People tag their spoilers but that’s it. If someone posts an opinion you don’t agree with, you simply move past it like a fucking adult. 

If you go on Twitter and you look through the good girls tag, you’re going to see a shit ton of stuff you don’t agree with and guess what? You just scroll past it. Because despite what people try to convince themselves, there is nothing communal about fandom unless you create your own community. If you join one of the good girls Facebook groups (again, communal in a way that tumblr isn’t) you’re going to see opinions you don’t like and once again, you just scroll the fuck past. And please don’t start talking about community when people are still too scared to actually voice their opinions because they think no one will like them or they’ll get hate. When people are literally leaving because they’re afraid that their “negativity” is going to bring everyone else down. When people are still punitively unfollowing/blocking/blacklisting and making shady fucking tags about each other for having a differing opinion about a work of fiction, how exactly can you even begin to talk about communal space?

If you want to start talking about community and manners, maybe take on board the criticisms people are making, recognise the issues being raised, stop punishing people for having different opinions and stop being so fucking selfish. On the other hand, you could decide to stop preaching community and everyone can post whatever the fuck they want, if you don’t like what you see, don’t follow them.

P.S if someone critiquing a show or talking about the issues they have with it makes you enjoy it less, maybe that’s because you didn’t like it that much to begin with. 

[cookie-run-rarepair-week]

Welcome!

This is my (@the-wereraven)'s blog for Cooke Run rarepair week! Where I post a list of prompts for the week every year in August! Those who participate can create anything! Drawings, fanfiction, playlists, videos, edits, etc! Everything goes, even unfinished stuff!

But before we get to the prompts and creations, I'm afraid there are some rules to follow so that this doesn't get out of hand!

Rules:

To avoid any potential (and unnecessary) drama, any ships regarding Sea Fairy and/or Moonlight will not be reblogged here. You can still make them, but I will not reblog them. I sincerely apologise for this.

Keep your work SFW!!

PROSHIPPERS ARE NOT ALLOWED HERE! Pedophilia, incest, zoophilia, etc. I don't want any of you here. This also includes selfcest, sorry guys.

Please tag your works under "cookie run rarepair week" and/or tag this blog so I can see the beautiful works and reblog them! ^^

You can make more than one project for a single prompt! You can also make projects for past prompts!

If you don't like a ship, simply scroll along and/or blacklist the ship tag(s), do not send hate to the creator or reblog it with mean stuff in the tags. We can all be adults here.

Which also means don't come to this blog just to complain about seeing a ship you don't like.

Ships in AUs are also allowed! Just make sure to specify it somewhere!

This is a week for canon x canon ships, so only those will be reblogged!

If you see me mistag something, let me know!

If I don't reblog your stuff after you have recently posted it, please don't spam me, I could be sleeping or offline and I promise I will try to get every single one!

BUT, if I don't get to your work within a day or two, feel free to tag me again!

Not mandatory but I'd appreciate it if you have the ship name in the tags! Whether it's a name combo or just a [name] x [name] ^^

LIST OF POPULAR SHIPS

Unclear about something? Check the #rules tag and see if I answered it there, if not, send an ask about it and I'll answer and tag it for future reference!

May we all have a splendid week!

[twokinkybeans]

Touch Me, Please [Starker Fic] Pt.3

Summary: Tony Stark has never told anyone that he’s still a virgin. He doesn’t want to sleep with people who only want him because of his outward persona. So instead, he hires an escort. Things get a little more heated than either of them had expected. Tags/Warnings: Escort!Peter, Virgin!Tony, nff, nsfw, sexual tension, teasing, Peter is 22, Tony is 53, oral sex, 69. Taglist: @starkerswonderland @staticwhispersinthedark @starkerprince @parkers-stark​ @bluestarker (let me know if you want to be added!)

Notes: I CAN'T BELIEVE IT'S BEEN 2 MONTHS SINCE I POSTED FOR THIS I'M SO SORRY ABOUT THE WAIT Y'ALL!!! I come bearing good news though! This was supposed to have three parts, but the plot started living its own life and now we're definitely having a fourth part as well ehehehe. Hope y'all enjoy! -Kim

Read the fic here on AO3

Or click here to find the previous chapters: Chapter 1 Chapter 2

-

Peter knows he’s fucked. Absolutely, terribly, fucked.

And to be honest… Even that’s an understatement.

Peter clutches his coat tighter and fastens his pace. He’s snuck out of the enormous labyrinth that’s Tony’s home, and is now on his way to the bureau’s HQ. It’s still early in the morning, a little over 7 am, and Peter hopes to catch one of his managers before they start their meeting.

Peter made a grave mistake, and all he can do is spill it all out and pray that he can keep his job. He’s had unsafe sex with a customer. If there’s one thing that he should pay close attention to, it’s that. He never made a mistake like this before. However, with Tony, he completely threw his cool and composed sugar baby persona out the door; his mind lost to the wealthy man he only met last night. Tony may claim to be a virgin, which according to his eager yet sloppy techniques isn’t too hard to believe, but still. Peter shouldn’t have risked it.

He eyes the building in front of him and hesitates. He could just get a test done without his bosses knowing; play sick until he gets the results. But if they were to find out… He’d lose his job for sure. And contrary to popular belief, he’s not in the industry just for the money. He likes his career. 

In good faith, Peter steps forward and presses the doorbell.

-

Tony wakes up when a golden glow casts over his body. He smiles groggily. In his haze last night, he must’ve forgotten to close the curtains. He sighs and turns around, grabbing the sheets to tug them up a little higher. Slowly, the surroundings are getting to him. The distant sound of traffic rushing through the busy streets of NYC. The buzz of the elevator as it sweeps past his floor...

...and the complete lack of another human’s breath.

Tony swallows and his eyes flutter open. A harsh sting rips through his chest when he sees his bed is indeed empty.  “Peter?” He calls out, half-heartedly expecting an answer but not at all surprised when it stays dead silent.

-

It’s safe to say that the following days, Tony is in such a sour mood that his employees nearly cringe each time he walks across the room. He should’ve never hired an escort to have his first-ever sexual encounter with. The plan was destined to fail from the get-go, and it had. 

“Tony?”

Tony turns around to find Pepper standing in the doorway of his private office. Pepper has been his personal assistant for years now, and he is aware that he wouldn’t survive a single day without her skills in his company. She’s seen his worst more often than not - and she doesn’t deserve to be the one to take his anger - but Tony can’t help but glare. “What?” “Jeez, they were right. You’re a fucking asshole today.” Pepper says calmly and raises her eyebrows as she closes the door behind her. Tony can feel some of the tension fade from his posture and he casts his eyes down.

“What happened?” She proceeds to ask. Tony shrugs. How could he tell her? “I did something stupid.” “I figured as much.” The PA places a stack of files onto his desk and sits down in the chair opposite of him. “Personal troubles, or Stark Industries-related?” “Personal.” “Ah, good. That’s one less of a worry.”

Tony glares again, but this time it’s more playful. Pepper smirks. “Gotcha,” she hums, seemingly pleased with herself. “Now, tell me what happened.” “I can’t.” “I’m sure you can, it’s-” “It’s too embarrassing, Pep. Please, I gotta deal with this by myself.” Pepper raises her eyebrow at his words and leans onto the wooden surface.  “Then deal with it before you drag Stark Industries into whatever it is.” She shoves the stack of paper forward and smiles faintly. “After you deal with these, of course.”

“Of course.”

-

It’s late in the evening, and Tony swirls the whiskey around in his glass. He finished the work right before dinnertime and decided to take the rest of the night off.

Deal with it.

Tony snorts. How could he? Peter left. It’s plain and simple that the kid didn’t want to stay. His pretty, sweet words had been nothing but lies and deception, and Tony feels like a goddamn fool for falling for the act. Peter is an escort. Pleasing people, telling them what they want to hear, it’s his job. Tony can’t blame him. He only blames himself.

Yet, it doesn’t keep him from grabbing his phone and navigating towards the escort website. He sniffs once, finding his way to the catalog. It should be easy to find Peter. Right? Tony scrolls down the list and frowns when he hits the bottom of the page. Mmh. He scrolls back up and sits a little more upright when he can’t seem to find Peter’s picture. He taps the search bar and types in his name.

No results found.

In a wave of panic, Tony types out the bureau’s number to contact them and waits anxiously. He has no intention of bothering Peter ever again, but now that it seems he vanished, it makes him feel strangely panicked. As if every link he had to the boy is simply gone. As if nothing ever happened.

Except something did happen.

“Good evening, this is Eva. How may I help you?” “Uhmm- Hi. It’s Mr. Stark. I’m, eh, I’m looking to book Peter again? He was here last night?” “Oh, I’m terribly sorry to inform you, sir, but I’m afraid Peter is temporarily unavailable. I could put you on the waiting list for when he returns?” “Please.”

And like a stupid idiot, he disconnects straight after. He sniffs and lowers his phone. He wonders if he just made another mistake.

-

Peter sucks at his teeth, his foot restlessly tapping onto the floor. He looks at his scheduled bookings and stares at the one empty spot. There’s only one client left to call, but Peter doesn’t know if he should. After a long tirade, and thankfully, a negative STD test, he’s back in the game and good to go. But, if he couldn’t keep himself together last time… He’s not sure if it’d be professional to go back to Tony.

Sweet, innocent, handsome Tony.

“Hey,” Harley pokes his head past Peter’s shoulder and grins. “I see you’re free tonight. My pal Dave is throwing a party at the Frizzles. Wanna come?” Peter rolls his eyes at his coworker and grins. “And get Dave to hopelessly flirt with me again? No, thank you.” “Oh, come on!” Harley throws his hands into the air in desperation. “Dave is your type!” “He’s not,” Peter grumbles, nearly shuddering at the idea. “Good fella, but no, not for me. Y’know I’m into rich old classy dudes. Heck, so are you!” “Hey, no need to attack me.” Harley lowers his bum on the edge of Peter’s desk and cocks his head. “You barely ever have a night off. Don’t you wanna have some fun? I’ll try and keep Dave off your back.” “Well…” Peter sighs and stares back at the empty spot in his schedule.

“I actually have a client.” “What do you mean?” “It’s the last free spot, and I have one more client to secure a booking with me. I just…” Harley frowns, his face displaying a sudden seriousness. “Peter, did this client hurt you?” “What? No!” “Then why are you looking all gloomy at the mere thought of that one client? Is he- Did he force you to not use protection? Peter, we can have him blacklisted, and-” “It’s not at all like that, please Harls, I promise.” “Then tell me why the fuck you’re so strange about it. You’re never strange around clients. Fuck ‘em, get them hooked for more and tadaa, that’s a healthy clientele, it’s how you taught me.”

Peter groans out loud in frustration and shoves his chair back a little, trying to distance himself from the scribbled down phone number at his desk. “I like him!” “What?” “I… I like him. Dammit. He’s really fucking different than the rest of them. I’ve only slept with him once, but he’s got me hooked, not the other way around.” “Then why’d he call us again? Eva told me he sounded pretty nervous.”

Peter’s face loses all color when Harley’s words crash down on him, crumbling the reality he’d build around himself. “No, no Harley, don’t enable me on this one. It’s bad luck. I shouldn’t do it.” Peter scrunches his nose. “Tell Dave I’ll be at the party.”

Harley simply grins, his eyes glimmering mischievously as if there’s something only he knows and Peter doesn’t. “Sure thing.”

-

It’s been two weeks since the damned party. Peter doesn’t feel any better about himself. As expected, Dave had followed him around all evening. Harley, traitor he is, was nowhere to be found. In the end, Peter couldn’t take it anymore, and he straight up told Dave he wasn’t interested. Thank god the lad took it pretty well, but it doesn’t make Peter feel any less shitty about it.

Peter really should just focus on his job and put his mind away from both Dave and Tony. It’s for the best. He sighs and stares at the next appointment on his list. The name is hidden, a feature they have for clients who are high in on their privacy. Peter sighs and grabs his car keys to go to the appointment. 

-

Tony’s tapping his foot anxiously while he tries not to stare at the elevator. It’s needless to say he’s not doing a very good job at doing so. Peter’s going to be here again. Oh, God. Tony can’t shake the feeling that maybe he shouldn’t have accepted the booking when Peter’s coworker called him.

[djfatchip]

Get to Know the Blogger

I was tagged by @badwolf626 thank you so much for the tag!

Tagging @radiantbun @leysendris @dracoangel @arideya @ratchsellsfornax

1: Why did you choose your url?

LOL it was from a Rap Name generator that @ratchsellsfornax found and I put my real name and it gave me DJFatChip as a result and I loved it so much as it fits me and decided to change from SerenityxGarrus to DJFatChip LOL xD

2: Any side blogs? if you have them, name them and why you have them.

Only the one I made for the story I was writing with @erubadhriell and @leysendris characters with mine. I have it locked for now as I am revising a lot of that story as I like where my writing is now compared to 4? years ago that I began that story. I'll post it when its ready so anyone who wants to read it can follow it. :D

3: How long have you been on tumblr?

I have been on Tumblr since December of 2014 so about 7 years now. :D

4: Do you have a queue tag?

I used to tag my queue as SerenityQueueGarrus but I hardly reblog and don't add anything to Queue anymore LOL

5: Why did you start your blog in the first place?

I wanted a place to have where I could write about my characters from Dragon Age and Mass Effect and their journey and just random little stories about them and stumbled into Tumblr by accident and just made a blog and here I am, still talking about my DA and ME characters xD

6: Why did you choose your icon/pfp?

Its an art of my Warden, Vivianna Amell by the wonderful @aerabrosa and when things get tough, I tend to gravitate towards her for comfort. She is my comfort character.

7: Why did you choose your header?

Another amazing art by Gerry Arthur on IG. I chose it because it’s new, I tend to change the Header and Icon and my Blog to have new Art I get LOL xD And that day was a happy day for my Comfort Character and my best friend’s Book Character! :D

8: What’s your post with the most notes?

Uh... 

https://djfatchip.tumblr.com/post/112400962524/why-would-i-want-your-service

This one has 4,031 notes :D

9: How many mutuals do you have?

I would say 6? About 6 people I tend to talk to from time to time on here xD

10: How many followers do you have?

702

11: How many people do you follow?

517 and decreasing 

12: Have you ever made a shitposts?

LOL I make shit posts all the time with @erubadhriell Book characters xD  Mortty von Dark and Rikko are my favorite to shit post about LMFAO XD

13: How often do you use tumblr each day?

Uh 0. LOL I am not online on here as much. I’m very active on IG due to my hobby of Pin Collecting! :D I still like to come here from time to time to post things about my OC’s or when i’m tagged! I love getting tagged for things! :D

14: Did you ever have a fight/argument with another blog once? who won?

No. I don’t engage in such things. I just scroll, blacklist the tag or block/unfollow the blog when I don’t like something they posted and continue to talk about it a lot or care.

15: How do you feel about “you need to reblog this” posts?

I don’t like them. It makes me feel bad and when I feel bad, I get upset and scroll past it. Wish people would tag it as that so I can blacklist it.

16: Do you like tag games?

Yes I do! I love tag games! Please tag me anytime for anything. Even if I won’t get to it as i’m not often on here, I will eventually! :D

17: Do you like ask games?

Yes I do! I love talking about my OC’s a lot. :D

19: Do you have a crush on a mutual?

My gnome bestie @erubadhriell which she will drag me but it’s all out of love xD hahahahaha Nah but I don’t have like crush crush on any of my mutual’s, I love them all! :D

[sylargrimm]

So, I’ve seen people actively telling other people how to tag their posts. Like, I’ve seen this done when people want Trigger Warnings. Okay. That’s fair and totally understandable. I have no problem with those people.

But I’m talking about people getting angry with the DreamSMP fandom for tagging their stuff as Minecraft. It’s ridiculous. The roleplay literally takes place in Minecraft. Why would they not tag it as such? And even if I DONT tag it as Minecraft, by mentioning the word “Minecraft” anywhere in a post, nine times out of ten it’s gonna show up in the Minecraft Tag because that’s just Tumblr.

I’m not saying you don’t have a right to be annoyed. Be annoyed. Post about it. That’s what Tumblr is for.

But you do not have the right to tell other people to change their tags. Especially since what they’re tagging is not actually unrelated. People tag things so they can find it again and so that others can find it. DreamSMP, Mianite, EpicSMP, Shadow of Israphel, etc: they all take place in Minecraft.

Now if they’re tagging a Youtuber that doesn’t actually play Minecraft as “Minecraft” then by all means, politely ask them to change the tag. Or you could just scroll past, like everybody else. They’re not hurting you on purpose.

I have been on this site for a very long time and I’ve been a part of a lot of fandoms. I cannot tell you how many times a fandom tag gets cluttered with something that is related, but unwanted.

Where were you people when the NBC show Grimm lost it’s tag to RWBY related stuff?

Or when the Slenderman Fandom lost its tag to Supernatural?

Can you imagine how annoyed people were when the Hannibal Tag became entirely about the tv show instead of the original books/movies??

And yet I don’t remember ever seeing anyone getting as upset as I do now. Make a post complaining. Go ahead. I mean that’s exactly what I’m doing right now. That’s logical and maybe people will see it and want to change just for you.

But personally messaging them and trying to make them change their tags is kinda silly. I haven’t seen anyone get straight up hateful just yet, which is good, proud of you guys. But you can’t police an entire fandom. If you wanna try, that’s fine, more power to ya, I ain’t telling you what to do. Send all the messages you want. Just don’t expect everyone to see it the way you do.

I’m sorry you’ve lost your tag. But that’s Tumblr. Welcome to the Hellsite. Shoulda been here for the Misha-pocalypse.

Be grateful they’re not Pornbots. That era was a nightmare.

I believe Tumblr still has a blacklist option. Just blacklist DreamSMP and any other youtuber you don’t want and ta-da! Problem solved.

[electricbluebutterflies]

Tagged by @hithelleth​!

1. Why did you choose your url?

A vague reference to the Octavia butterfly scene from The 100 1x03, which remains one of the most aesthetically pretty things I’ve ever seen even seven years later. (And at this point, ebf is so much a part of my identity here that I’ll probably never change it.)

2. Any side blogs?

Not that I actively use.

3. How long have you been on tumblr?

Since 2011.

4. Do you have a queue tag?

Yep, just “queue” - no fancy here.

5. Why did you start your blog in the first place?

Someone I was friends with at the time thought this would be a good place for me... ten years later, here I still am, lol.

6. Why did you choose your icon/pfp?

Marie the cat is one of the fictional characters I vibe most with - cute femme who will still fight anything that irritates her. That particular icon, which has also been my icon on ao3 for I-don’t-even-know-how-long-anymore, is an expression I make a lot in real life.

7. Why did you choose your header?

Another babe that means more to me than I could say in this space, and also too lazy to ever change it at this point. (Like, I swear I’ve vibed with other things since trash show happened to me but sometimes you would not know it from my aesthetic choices.)

8. What’s your post with the most notes?

What She Chose. Currently at 226 notes, which is good for a fic in general but even more so for (a) a niche rarepair that (b) I only ever wrote that one time. It has gotten notes within the last week and I have no idea how people are still finding it.

9. How many mutuals do you have?

Hell if I know, am not sure how to check.

10. How many followers do you have?

2,903. I suspect most are dead blogs at this point, but if I keep up with current attention-all-over and a little more fic writing I may FINALLY break 3k soon.

11. How many people do you follow?

1580

12. Have you ever made a shit post?

Not by intent?

13. How often do you use tumblr a day?

If I’m home and on the laptop then I’m probably at least passively on here.

14. Did you ever have a fight/argument with another blog?

Not that I can remember? Depends on if y’all wanna count the whole 2012-Les-Mis... incident parade, might be a way of describing? But I try to keep my head down here / block and blacklist relentlessly.

15. How do you feel about the ‘you need to reblog’ posts?

I scroll past and ignore. I was raised in a cult-adjacent environment and I have manipulative extended family members, I am COMPLETELY immune to guilt especially from people I do not know.

16. Do you like tag games?

Usually don’t do them but enjoy seeing what y’all tag me in.

17. Do you like ask games?

Yep, fun time.

18. Which of your mutuals do you think is tumblr famous?

No idea.

19. Do you have a crush on a mutual?

None that don’t already know about it. <3

20. Tags!

Some offhand favorite people / the regular conversation partners - @pixievixen, @amandamonroe, @reyshxpe, @bitsandpiecesofwhoiam, @ava-rosier, @mearcatsreturns, @somekindofflowergirl, @thisislavieboheme, @jo-snicket, @goatsandgangsters, @apple-grass-and-smiles and anybody else who wants to do it!

[secretlywritingstories]

I’ve been here on tumblr for exactly 5 years now. I do not think I could have predicted what it would mean that I decided to sign up a random day in early 2016 after having been lurking on specific blogs for a few months. 

I couldn’t have predicted that I would spend this many hours on here a week, even all these years later. In fact, it seems that I only spend more and more time on here. But over this past year, with the pandemic setting in, I have been more thankful than ever for the escape that has been tumblr. 

I come here to talk to the online friends that I have made through the years, some I talk to almost daily and others I just pop in and chat to every now and again. The mutuals that I never really speak to but still smile when I see on my dash. The blogs I enjoy even though they will never really know of my existence, unless I send an ask. But I like how it feels like one big friend group all the same. Some of my mutuals are mutuals with each other, and it’s like this little space of shared laughter. 

My dash is perhaps to an outside observer a mess. I have a lot of Dan and Phil blogs, a fair few BTS blogs and then a few individuals from my different smaller fandoms. And then there’s the mixture, and how even most of the “designated” blogs have other interests too. I end up seeing them freak out and get happy abut stuff I never knew about before. It’s a very cool thing, and sometimes it sucks me in as well. I keep up with their personal posts and send a like or a reply their way. 

I don’t go on any of my other social medias like this, and I haven’t for a long time. I have Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat. Facebook is only used for messenger and a few groups I keep up with. Twitter and Instagram is only clicked on when I get notifications from the few people I actually want to keep up with. Snapchat are for my very close irl friends. I never scroll on any of those dashes. They are often filled with things that don’t feel nice in the same way that my tumblr dash does. Here I specifically pick blogs that post the content I want to see, and I either unfollow or blacklist tags if there is something that upsets me. It’s a streamlined and catered experience. 

It’s a safe place for me to look at content for the things that bring me joy, connect with like minded people and share that joy. I tag excessively and I can re-find most of the posts that I’ve reblogged or made. It’s a little corner of the internet that I have decorated to my exact tastes. 

And tumblr has never felt like it has been dying to me.  At present, I follow 297 blogs. Once upon a time, back in the early days, I made a deal to never follow more than 100 so I could keep up with every single post on my dash. I don’t do that anymore and I think that’s heathier for me. I see some posts, I miss others but when I want tumblr, it’s here. 

I quite like it here and I don’t plan on leaving it any time soon, even when staff keeps messing around with the setting and it’s always a surprise to take in the state of this site. It really is a hellsite (affectionate). It’s just also our hellsite and I’m happy to be here in my little corner. 

[intrepidmare]

MARE'S RECAPS ~ THE MANDALORIAN: CHAPTER 9 "THE MARSHALL"

Oh wow! It's been a while since I've done something like this. Last year, I caught up with season 1 about 2 days before the finale, so I didn't have the opportunity to write reviews/recaps. This season, though, I'm going to 😀 so here it is the first one! 

For the folks that haven't seen the premiere and don't want spoilers, scroll past this, fast and furious, because it's full of them. If you want to blacklist tags to avoid spoilers from me, I suggest that you add #mando spoilers, #the mandalorian season 2 spoilers, and #mare's mando recaps to the list.

I've seen the episode a few times (yeah, I'm that obsessed with the show) so some of my reactions are more visceral than others since I was too excited the few first times I watched it and I missed a lot of details (another reason to rewatch the episode more than once). This recap is loooooong, which is an indication of how amazing it was.

So this my final warning to those avoiding spoilers. Stop reading, right now. The rest of you… enjoy and let me know if you share some of my opinions. I'm always open to chat 😊

Chapter 9 ~ The Marshall

So it begins! It's so exciting!

I knew that Mando and baby Yoda walking in the street at night was going to be the opening scene. I started to think about it after watching the second trailer, and I'm glad that I was right.

It turns out that the red-eyed creatures were not jawas as I saw some people saying.

Baby Yoda was not happy with the little excursion to the fighting arena. Not walking on the streets nor inside watching the fight. I still laughed when he locked himself up in the pram, even if I've watched the trailer like a gazillion times by now and I knew he was going to do it.

And talking about the baby, he's getting more vocal I think. He's making a few new noises, whimpering more, which I'm not sure if it's a good or bad thing. That he complains more means that he feels safe with his buir and isn't afraid of retaliation for it as he probably was with others in the past and the reason he didn't cry much in season 1. But it breaks my heart that he is stressed. And that child is anxious, I can tell you that much.

The fight with Gor Koresh's thugs was awesome! The gamorrean flying to squash Mando and failing had me cracking up. And omg! Din'd moves! Using his helmet as a weapon and throwing his vibroblade. And leaving Gor Koresh to be eaten! Man of his word, he didn't kill the guy.

On a side note, I would've never guessed it was John Leguizamo who gave voice to Koresh until I saw the credits. Of all the actors who could play the part, I never thought of him.

Umm, I'm curious about the time Mando has spent in Tatooine, which according to him it's been a lot and it makes sense since he knows so much about the Tuskens, their language and culture. I'm guessing he spent a while among them. He had to learn all that somehow. 

When I speculated that Mando was going back to Tatooine after watching the trailers, I said that I was going to riot if he didn't visit his favorite mechanic. Thankfully, I didn't need to worry. I loved Peli in episode 5 of season 1 and I loved her even more now remarking on Din's dislike of droids and trying to keep the baby for herself. Not to mention she complaining about not getting good help these days 🤣

And I ADORE the (improvised?) Birikad Din got for the baby. Of course, the baby is safer in the pram, right (guessing that's why he used it when he met Gor Koresh), but there's something sweet watching him carrying his son so close to him.

And I tell you, Mando has been spending credits lately in baby stuff. I mean, he got a new pram (which I initially thought it was the original that he had somehow retrieved from the garbage in Nevarro, but no, it's not the same, and neither it's the one that Kuiil made) and he also got the bag/birikad thing, which looks brand-new. I wonder what else he bought.

Watching the droids doing maintenance of the Razor Crest makes me think it's all for nothing, knowing that in a few episodes (it might be even in the next one) Mando is going to crash the ship. More than once perhaps.

😆 The baby still loves speed! I think riding on the speeder bike was the only moment that he truly enjoyed in this episode. Look at that happy face 

When they arrived at Mos Pelgo and Din went into the cantina, leaving the baby outside, I was like: Din! That's not responsible. How can you leave your son out in the inclement sun, alone! Then baby Yoda peeked in and I went: never mind. I take back what I said.

Oooh. Cobb Vanth! I love him! For a moment, I thought it could actually be Boba but it seemed illogical and that's what Mr. Feloni and Mr. Favreau wanted us to think. I was correct.

My gawd! Din's shock when Vanth took the helmet off. I just knew he would freak out the moment Cobb asked for drinks and I said to drink they need to remove their helmets and Mando is going to lose it when this guy does. And the standoff! Was so good! "Take it off or I will" is going to become a quite popular phrase in fics from now on, not in the same context, but yeah…

The krayt dragon… oh shit! Or rather Dank farrik! We can't see Mando's face or expression but I can imagine which one was when he saw the dragon eating the bantha the first time.

Oh my goodness. The baby hiding in the pot! Too adorable! 

I know every hardcore SW fan lost it watching Vanth modified speeder because is a callback to the Phantom Menace and Anakin but my first thought was: is he compensating for something? Sorry, I couldn't help it 

The dog-lizard creatures were kinda scary at first but then became adorable. Almost as much as baby Yoda getting out of hiding

Baby Yoda doesn't like dog-lizards things. He looked afraid to be eaten I think. Poor little guy.

And look at that! Din showing such growth! To think he was the one incensing others in negotiation 😆 this is a total callback to the jawas in Arvala-7. And I gotta tell you, Din freaking loves his flamethrower. He doesn't waste the opportunity to use it.

The krayt dragon eating the Tusken raider instead of the bantha was quite of a plot twist 😆

When they were planning the attack on the dragon, Cobb Vanth's face when Din told him that the bones and pebbles were to scale, and then when he had volunteered the villagers to help… priceless! 

I like the fact of banding together with others for a greater good, relying on others to accomplish something is going to continue being the theme of this season. It started last season but I think it's going to be stronger this time around along all of the episodes.

😳😲😳😲 this thing vomits acid?! What. The. FUCK?!!!

Cobb: I don't think it's dead

Mando: me neither

Me, at the same time as Din: yeah, nope it's not dead

Oh yeah! Teaming up with jetpacks!

When they showed the bantha with the remaining explosives my first thought was why didn't they use all those before?! That's why they didn't kill it!! Of course, it was just an excuse to grant Din a more grand win in the end, but you know, it's stupid not to use everything you have to kill the monster on the first try. Just saying

Wait, what? Din! What are you going to do? No! Taking care of the child is your responsibility, not Cobb Vanth's! I hate this plan of yours, Din Djarin!! Whichever it is!

Oh! Nice callback to the flaw on that jetpack. But makes me wonder, do all the rising Phoenixes have the same flaw? Cuz unless Din knows Boba in person and that it's his armor with that particular flaw, it means it's a common problem for all and I don't like it.

Get away, Din! Get away, Din!! FLY AWAY!! AAAAAAAHHHHHH! NOOOOOO! 

There he is! Damn, Mando! Don't scare me like that! Altho, it was a nice move.

Okay, but now I want someone to explain something to me. If the dragon's acid melted people at contact before, how the hell is Din so whole? I mean, sure for argument' sake let's say his beskar armor provides some protection, but he's not entirely covered in it. His cape and undersuit seem just fine, albeit sticky. Where's the logic in that?

The tuskens getting the pearl reminded me of the jawas and the mudhorn's egg, chanting zukka, zukka (or however egg is spelled in Jawa).

That's quite a piece of meat. The baby is going to be happy eating off it for days🤣

😮😮😳😳 BOBA FETT!!!!! Yesssssss!!

Okay, I've seen other people's thoughts and some think that Boba was after Cobb Vanth because he had the armor, but I don't know. If that was true then why he hadn't gone to Mos Pelgo and got it? It seems to me that it's more likely that Boba is following Din somehow because it's the second time in as many Mando's visits to the planet that they sort of cross paths. Could they know each other? Have some score to settle? It's possible. Din has spent much time on Tatooine -his words, not mine- so it wouldn't be so out of consideration that they actually know each other. That if Mando knows Boba is (fake?) Mando, I don't know. Probably not, but who knows?

Extra thoughts

I gotta say that Ludwig Göransson is killing it with the score music! Oh. My. God! So so so so good! I could tell from the trailers that it was going to be awesome this season but it astounded me in chapter 9. Gorgeous, absolutely gorgeous! My favorite piece is when they're going to the dragon's cave to kill it. The orchestral sound of the already familiar music blew my mind!