#so I'm not repulsed or anything

[moe-broey]

Amateur Hour but I gotta outsource this. Aromantics. Heed my call. What is "romantic" love to a non-believer?

Bonus Round if you're not entirely ace -- does experiencing any amount of sexual attraction influence your answer? Also acknowledging that both aro/ace identities exist on a spectrum. Believe me. I am deeply familiar... with so many kinds of spectrums........... 🧍

Also if this breaches containment It's Not That Serious........... just a personal question. For a friend. Me 🙂‍↕️

[amberedcorpse]

Duke lives in a perpetual state of missing home and being glad he´s not there anymore. Missing the place, it's sights and sounds, but not the people who lived alongside him in that tiny house. Glad that he made them "disappear", glad that he destroyed every branch of his family with his own two hands...But the place, it's trees, the earth and the river-- all of it still haunts him.

[stromuprisahat]

I know Malyen was supposed to fuck all the girls of First Army, but so far his performance with Alina includes a lot of groping, as if he weren't familiar with the concept of erogenous zones or warming the girl up.

Aleksander on the other hand, could make a woman wet through pages of a book...

[aceredshirt13]

gang i have to share this P. G. Wodehouse quote with you all because ever since I found it I can't stop thinking about it. it's from a letter he wrote when he was 78 years old to his friend Guy Bolton (many thanks to P. G. Wodehouse: A Life in Letters)

I have been on the sick list myself, but am better now. Inflamed bladder or chill on the bladder or something, the symptoms being agony when I passed water, as the expression is. It brought back the brave old days when I used to get clap.

he really said "yeah the pain from my bladder issue reminds of the days when I used to have so much sex I repeatedly got venereal disease"

[seventeendeer]

I always thought when I found a good relationship of my own I'd stop being such a little hater vis a vis other people's romantic escapades, because surely I was just jealous, right ?? what I really wanted was to be that happy and in love, right ??? no one is that hateful and meanies over something that literally doesn't involve them, right !!!!

unfortunately, good reader,

[littlelightfish]

I'm working on angst for him <3

He is absolutely not going to love it <3

[eisthenameofme]

"you are not immune to propaganda/cult indoctrination" is largely useful and the sort of shit it's used to point out as not making you immune (being "smart" or a certain degree of educated, etc) is worth pointing out and it never feels like the appropriate place to mention it, but a lot of people seem to be conflating "the things people think make them immune to this kind of thing doesn't because it doesn't work that way" along with "the same conditions that make people more vulnerable to indoctrination/conspiritorial thinking/etc can happen to anyone" with "everyone in the world is equally vulnerable to every kind of indoctrination under the same conditions" and i just don't think that's objectively true.

It may be true that someone started out holding one belief and flipped to hold the apparently opposite belief, but does that actually mean everyone who holds that belief is equally liable to change their mind? Why did they hold that belief in the first place? Is it consistent with their values and what they care about more broadly, and do they specically go out of their way to combat the potential for misinformation and propaganda? Are they prone to making their decisions based on what the people around or closest to them think instead of thinking for themselves? To what extent do they base their values and decsions on kneejerk emotional reactions? (these aren't the only factors obviously, just examples of other potential contributing factors) It is not a given that everyone will answer these questions in the same way, and this is part of why different people respond differently in similar situations. Also not everyone will respond positively to techniques that often work to draw people in (eg lovebombing is a common tactic that works on a lot of people, but may be actively offputting or ring alarm bells for others; different people have different tolerances for attempts at social control and some might nope out the moment they see it attempted regardless of any other factors).

"You Yes Even You" can be an important tactic to get people who wouldn't otherwise to legitimately consider why these tactics work on people and what might work on them and keep in mind that the people it Does happen to usually aren't aware of it and it's not always their fault the way it's often presented, but that is not objectively the same thing as "anyone can fall down any pipeline not matter what forever"

like maybe no one is literally "immune to propaganda" but if a type of propoganda is something that necessarily hinges on X mechanism and a person is notorious for both intellectually and instinctively being violently opposed to X. then yeah I think the propoganda that hinges on X is probably going to be a Very Difficult to Impossible sell, even potentially under coercion, especially if that person has already demonstrated that they are willing to put themeslves at risk/resist that kind of coercion about it. unless your argument is that there is scp level literal mind control happening.

[snownorites]

CW: allusions to SA

Sua probably really likes it when Mizi marks her 1) because she's freaky like that and 2) Nigeh is probably super strict about that kinda thing so as she dissociates, knowing that she's Mizi's and that it's obvious that it was her who marked her gives her a lot of comfort 🫠

[murky-tannin]

People learn the difference between canon and headcanon challenge

[moe-broey]

I am fueled by autism and demisexuality. I think that explains like my entire portfolio. Or at least half of it

[keepyourlife]

I think that's normal for many aroace people that most people in their live have a partner that they prioritize. It's important to find people even if it's hard to make new friends who think similar. Because it really sucks if you always prioritize people but they wouldn't do the same for you.

you're right, of course, but it's still pretty hurtful, you know? obviously for an allo person, their partner comes first. i've had a discussion with my friend about that a week ago bc i told her that, while i'm not averse to romance and sex (i have had relationships before), finding that is not a priority and when it's a relationship or my friends, they come first. they always will. but for them, that's not the case.

i'm having trouble making new friends in general, so finding likeminded people has been hard and still is. i'm 23 and in my country's second biggest city, one would think that'd make it easier, but no.i've got one ace friend, but she's married.

so where does that leave me, in 10-15 years when the rest is probably married, too? it's the big thing that made accepting being aroace so hard for me and why it happened at age 23 and not 13.

[sp1resong]

hey google. how do i say that im uncomfortable with being described as looking attractive/don't see it as a compliment without sounding like i hate myself

[symbioticsimplicity]

Anybody else with like sensitivity issues have like... the opposite of overstim happen?? Like everything has gotten so much at some point that you ended up switching it off entirely and no experience Little to No Stim?

[eclaire-went-bam]

which reminds me, fun fact i used to identify as a lesbian (2021 post)

i drew my persona and overlayed the lesbian flag over them and had it as my pfp everywhere for aaaaaages

plot twist: i just thought masculinity was less aesthetically appealing

[trans-leek-cookie]

as a certified Aromantic Asexual (I should make myself a certificate) I genuinely don't Believe there is systemic oppression that specifically targets Aromantic or Asexual people.

I do however believe that people Cannot be normal about ppl who don't have sex or romantic relationships, and that can Really Impact Aromantic And Asexual People.

Also like. Aros n aces are still. Experiences Other forms of oppression that can interact with the aro and/or ace-ness

[troublcmakcrs]

//saw an absolutely ice cold take that tweek shouldn't have a coffeeshop of his own when he gets older bc his parents & their coffee is what caused most of his problems, and i'm like... it's about retribution, it's about allowing him to run their business better than they did, to become more successful than they did without using underhanded methods and hurting people, it's about the despite, it's about letting him thrive despite, despite, despite