#so I'm good

[wife]

there are so many ppl who love to say they have "no empathy" like it's something to brag about like. they're soooo proud of it they think it makes them look cool and often they also love to diagnose themselves with aspd about it.

but like. ok. firstly. having empathy isn't Literally being able to feel others emotions. that experience is abnormal & that's why ppl who Do feel that call themselves Empaths bc theyre sooo special for it. "emotional empathy" doesn't literally mean you feel other people's feelings. and if you don't experience it, plenty of people don't. so you're normal for that.

if you care about their feelings, even if u don't feel emotional about them, you're experiencing empathy. feeling uncomfortable when in the presence of someone who's really upset (bc you don't like them/don't care about their feelings) is also an example of empathy.

"i dont care about anyone's feelings and am unaffected by them" ok, these things are also empathy: being able to see other people's pov. understanding ppl have their own thoughts & opinions that differ from yours. knowing that certain behaviours would be hurtful & damaging to others (and choosing not to do them)

"emotional vs cognitive empathy" they're both empathy. if you experience cognitive empathy you experience empathy. you are perceiving & understanding someone else's emotions & perspective, which is empathy

if you struggle with these things then it's perfectly acceptable to call yourself low empathy. but you clearly do have empathy.

"no i really truly do not have empathy" - this is impossible bc if you did not have empathy you would not have the ability to understand your experience is different from other people's.

i do consider myself low empathy - but i spent most of my life with no empathy. and you motherfuckers do not have no empathy i'm sorry. you have no fucking idea what the experience of no empathy is like if you're splitting hairs about emotional vs cognitive vs sympathy vs compassion & bragging about how no empathy you are and how nothing affects you.

when you don't have empathy you don't realise it because you have no way of understanding the way you think & behave is any different from other people. you are incapable of understanding the harm you cause to other people & no matter how many times people tell you you've hurt them you will keep doing it, because other people's feelings don't even register to you. the concept that other people have vastly rich inner worlds & lives & exist outside of you just doesn't click. you're locked out of such a fucking massive part of the human experience that is so fundamental that i don't think anyone who hasn't experienced it could possibly understand what it feels like - looking back at those times feels so dark because it's like i wasn't even sentient, i was literally just an animal acting on instinct. i was the only one alive in a world of flat npcs - no one else existed as real human people. and i didn't realise it because i had no empathy to understand that this wasn't normal

turning the concept of "no empathy" into this watered-down bullshit "i dont really care about peoples feelings but i'm able to be considerate of others and a normal member of society" gives absolutely zero space to talk about the Actual experience of having no empathy, which is part of why i've never talked abt it. because apparently it's so easy to be a good person while being no empathy, everyone else does it. so if i talk about how Actually i was often a horrible person when i had no empathy... that's MY fault, because umm you could just be more Logically Empathetic even if you didn't have empathy. that's not how it works and you don't know what you're talking about

so no i really don't believe every edgy poser on this site who brags about no empathy is no empathy. you can just be low empathy and brag about that shit you don't have to be Extra Special saying you're no empathy. and this doesn't even mean you are disqualified from an aspd diagnosis since u all cling to that so bad like it's the only thing you have going for you. but frankly if you so sorely misunderstand the concept of no empathy & twist the words to fit your agenda so you fit aspd critera perfectly im not really convinced aspd is for u

[fa113nm00n]

Didn't create a new character, just wanted to look through the hairstyles... I do like the Viera's hairstyles... kinda wish they were accessible for the other races as well... I always strive to find the hairstyle with the longest hair in all games I can create a character... I have a very certain weakness (>x<) Too bad one has to worry about how much clipping one can tolerate when it comes to long hairstyles... If I could, I would mod my Amethyst's hairstyle into the one I enjoy drawing her with ^^'

[shandidellamorte]

People be mad that Varric isn't a companion in Veilguard.

Yes. I get it. I was kinda upset too.

But Solas completely obliterated Bianca, so...

Maybe later in the game. Maybe not at all.

Either way, he's still there.

[patchesbeanie]

how are you doing teana? what are you up to recently? 😺

i was at work super intensively, read some poetry, then i went on a tinder date, forgot my jacket at a museum, realized i still have feelings for a guy i went to highschool with and now i'm reading the dnf pride and prejudice fanfic

[ohbeesneeze]

I got the first part of my two-part tiddy installation surgeries yesterday, I’m a little sore now, but it definitely wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be

[irregularevil]

No, Wine, Magic.

Witchcraft, Wisdom, Death...

[gongyussy]

good thing from jp twitter this week is queen of old man yaoi michiru sonoo discovering the term old man yaoi

update: somehow it got impossibly more wholesome

quick translation: お��えり: welcome home あ 終わった 終わった: ahhh, it's over! it's done! コーヒー? お茶?: coffee? tea? コ~ヒ~ ありがと: coffee, thank you~ ネクタイレア★★ ネクタイ取るレア★★★★: seeing him with a tie on, rarity level ★★, seeing him take a tie off, rarity level ★★★★ にあうな~: it suits him~

also please do follow: AraigumaSha: sensei's twitter account marureviere: maru, who does such valuable work highlighting bl manga for an international audience

[satturn]

star by mitski 🌠

[modmad]

hey! there's zero esims left for the connecting gaza campaign as of today. i remember you promoting them earlier. could you give them a much needed boost?

oh dang! unfamiliar with that particular campaign, as I always donate via crips for e-sims because it's super easy to do, but regardless let's go people!

[hsydneymalcontentarchive]

[09.08.2015]

you now cosplay your icon for every day of your life from now on how screwed are you

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

I love you Safety Wizard.

(Inspired by @keroascrazy)

[marzipanandminutiae]

"hey why are all the barrier garments like linen shirts or chemises or combinations going away?"

"oh we have more washable fabrics now! you don't need to worry about sweat reaching your outer clothing when you can just chuck it in the washing machine!"

"cool!"

[100 years later]

"so uh all of those new washable fabrics are leaching microplastics into our water, and the constant machine-washing wears garments out faster. they're also not really sturdy enough to be mended, so we keep having to throw them out and now the planet is covered in plastic fabric waste that will never break down. also it turns out that the new washable fabrics hold odor-causing bacteria VERY well. so could we get those barrier garments back please?"

"sorry babe linen now costs $100000/yard and since it's been so long without them, nobody knows how to adapt barrier garments to the current styles anyway"

"..."

"maybe try this new $50 undershirt made of Special Sweat-Wicking Plastic Fabric! :) :) :)"

[shoomlah]

I have a feeling that beneath the little halo on your noble head There lies a thought or two the devil might be interested to know You're like the finish of a novel that I'll finally have to take to bed You fascinate me so

You Fascinate Me So, Blossom Dearie

[makiruz]

Where's Pizarro?

[aromantisk-fagforening]

reblog to give the prev a hot chocolate with (optional) whipped cream and marshmallows

[itseghost]

"Unbidden, an image of Jayce smiling in bed earlier this morning comes to mind. Viktor's hand on his cheek. His slightly chapped lips. His bedhead. Stubble. His smile lines. The shape of his jaw."

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one of my favorite little scenes from coming home (but not to you) by @lesbianherald :) haven't done comics in so so long but really wanted to give it a shot lol