#simply lavender

[rewritingcanon]

i’ve seen relationship therapists and psychologists analyse hermione and ron’s relationship and conclude that they wouldn’t work out in the long run. they’ve argued for hermione to be with harry, krum, even DRACO (don’t understand how a counsellor can vow for canon dramione but alright) as an alternative partner for hermione since ron is “too insecure” to be with her and match her intelligent prowess or what have you.

i seriously don’t understand this sentiment. ron and hermione genuinely seem (almost) perfect to me, maybe not in the movies (a common denominator of people who don’t like romione is that they always cite evidence from the movies, since the films took a lot away from ron’s character and his growth), but definitely in the books.

looking at ron’s insecurities, a lot of people dredge his inferiority complex up to toxic masculinity primarily, when it was more explored how it was an effect of his home life (not gonna argue toxic masculinity wasn’t a factor, they’re teenagers in the 90s written by a pretty misogynistic woman so…). he was the youngest son out of how many children? all of his older brothers were brilliant in some way. bill was an extremely gifted spellcaster, charlie was gifted with magical beasts, percy’s academic score was unmatched, and fred and george (despite their trouble) were entrepreneurial inventor-geniuses. ron, on the other hand, was quite literally born a disappointment to his mother, who conceived him specifically because she wanted a daughter, whilst ginny was born her favourite (though, even then, ginny was gifted at quidditch). ron was mediocre in every sense of the word, and his two best friends were harry (one of the most famous wizards) and hermione (the smartest witch of her age yada yada). and i’ve seen people argue that harry was more welcomed by molly into the weasley household than ron ever was. this isn’t even mentioning the amount of bullshit he copped for being poor (people always downplay the blow to confidence being in poverty can have on a person who is constantly surrounded by people who not only have more, but look down on him for simply being unlucky as to not have what they do).

so yeah, ron was an envious kid, but he was that way not because he was an evil patriarchal conception but because he was lowkey neglected. and even then he was overall an extremely devoted and loyal friend to both harry and hermione, because he did genuinely love them.

there were many moments of ron standing up for hermione that was cut from the films, not as a guy who was romantically interested in her, but as a friend. ron arguing with snape for making hermione cry is one of my fav scenes in the books ru kidding me, and in the movies he AGREED with snape RU KIDDING ME. not to mention how ron was a sobbing violent mess when hermione was getting tortured in the last book, whereas he wasn’t nearly as bothered in the films. and the films cut out harry being a dick to ron about his familial concerns (in dh), so when ron left it seemed like a random dickish move over his jealousy towards harry and hermione’s relationship.

there’s also a million moments where they minimised ron’s usefulness in the books for comedic purposes (forbidden forest with aragog, troll scene, devils snare scene) so ron seems dumber than he is. like, he’s actually smart and a really good spellcaster…. in the books.

so simply by stating this most of the arguments against romione become void. “he’s too stupid/weak for her” simply not true. “he’s a terrible friend who doesn’t stand up for her” also not true. “he’s too insecure to have made a move on her,” yes, but given the context i don’t think people would freak on about ron’s upbringing, i think many would be more understanding, especially considering his growth. even if he wasn’t insecure, hermione is beyond incredible and is bound to make anyone nervous when pursuing her (not an excuse for ron to act like a dick, but it does explain a lot where the movies don’t). “they argue too much” they bump heads, none of the arguments they have are actually super damning, with the exception of ron leaving in deathly hallows.

maybe i’ve covered everything (excluding the abhorrent amount of classism that clouds people’s judgments around how they view ron when harping about how hermione deserves better? hopefully).

now, i know people won’t like me mentioning the cursed child, but i’m going to considering we actually get an insight of their life as a longterm married couple there. a lot of ron stans hated how ron was the only character that wasn’t doing something incredible. harry was head of the aurors, ginny was a famous quidditch player retired to a famous journalist, neville was a hogwarts professor, hermione was quite literally minister on magic. and ron…. ran the joke shop with george.

and i think this was almost the perfect route to go down for ron. because he was average, and was perfectly fine with just being average. hello?? that speaks leagues of growth for his character. he’s supportive of hermione’s work, he grounds her when she gets too caught up in being the literal president of wizarding society, and he still viciously defends her, minister or not. in fact, he’s proud to simply be known as hermione’s husband because he doesn’t feel the need to prove to anyone else his worth. the people he loves most know his worth, hermione never downplays or underestimates him, they are complete equals in the relationship in every single way that matters. they kept ron’s best qualities whilst making him seem more of a healed person. they work so well as a married couple without it seeming like mischaracterisation (not to mention the cursed child literally shows how those two are in love in every reality, so there quite literally can’t be a better partner for hermione or ron according to canon).

so i really don’t understand how professional relationship counsellors can go online and denounce it. probs because they only watched the movies, but it’s 2023 and ron stans should not STILL be fighting for their lives trying to defend him from people who simply don’t consume media with as much depth (which is fine, but one should clarify if they’re talking about the movies because i’ve seen people state they’re talking about the hp BOOKS when it’s simply just…. the films). anyways. romione on top, thanks to coming to my ted talk.

[snowcoffeee]

Anon, I will not be able to talk coherently from happiness for the rest of the day. Thank you so, so much for this amazing gift <3

[bugchuckles]

GET WRECKED GOOP MAN THE TEENS ARE FORMING POLYCULES AGAIN

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[steamclouds]

I just love the fact that the biggest hero of the Forgotten Realms is a little drow guy, who's obsessed with cats and wrote an entire poem about his astral panther best friend, loves his friends dearly, all while being the deadliest and best swordsman in all of the Realms

[canisalbus]

I noticed you've been making more art of Machete and Vasco after they met again as adults - is this canon? Do they get to rekindle their friendship after all, or is it still brief and bittersweet? (I love your characters and art, btw!)

Thank you! I'm glad you like them!

It's canon, I believe. After their confusing and apprehensive friends-to-lovers involvement ended in their early 20's, their paths end up crossing again unexpectedly in their mid 30's and things gradually grow from there.

[genderqueerpond]

IF 👏 YOU 👏 DIDN'T 👏 READ 👏 THE 👏 FOOTNOTES 👏 YOU 👏 HAVEN'T 👏 READ 👏 HOUSE 👏 OF 👏 LEAVES 👏 (you have read The Navidson Record)

[chronotopes]

anyway does anyone else think noel streatfeild was kinda gay with it

[crimeronan]

Hunter after just one night of Amity and Luz constantly checking on each other's bedroom: OK so Luz's safety obviously requires us to use the bedroom she slept in last night as a decoy with an illusion of Luz and everything, and oh I guess that leaves us with just one viable bedroom...

SNORT. i was just thinking he'd grumpily throw pillows at both of them like "are both of you gonna wake me up again??? or will you stop being stupid and just share the damn bed." hunter currently exists in a position of enormous privilege called I Have Never Been Physically Attracted To Either Of You that makes him Extremely unsympathetic to amity and luz's respective bed-sharing hangups.

framing it as a luz safety thing IS hilarious though.

[morethansalad]

Citrus Lavender Schorle (Vegan)

An effervescent non-alcoholic traditional German sparkling beverage, this citrus lavender schorle contains lemon and orange juices accompanied by a beautiful sweet flavour and bouquet of lavender simple syrup.

[recallback-art]

(Catch-up) Day 5: Redesigned OC

Plenty of OCs go through redesigns, plenty don't. Oren has had several iterations of his axolotl form, so I thought it'd be fun to draw them side by side.

[lucabyte]

Finished up another dialogue meme, this time for Lavender. She's... Interesting. Very polite. Personal information, though? Like getting blood from a stone. Even here I don't think she quite paints a full picture of herself.

[whoblewboobear]

Porter with baby fever is my truth. But so is Porter introducing his child from his previous marriage to Jace.

In my heart of hearts Jace doesn’t want kids of his own but he LOVES the idea of being a hot stepmom that lounges around and drinks wine all day, picking Porter’s daughter up with his big sunglasses on fighting for life not to let the hangover take him. Him and Porter’s daughter tease Porter constantly. Porter knows that when he and Jace have his daughter over that it’ll always be 2 against 1. They both get anything that want and Porter pretend he doesn’t like it but he loves seeing them so close. He always knew Jace was good with kids, he saw it in him at work. But letting someone meet his kid is a big step that Porter doesn’t take lightly.

When he first told Jace about his daughter he fully prepared for it to be a deal breaker but when Jace said he was fine with it and that he’d love to meet her Porter cried. His family is his world and now it’s a little bit bigger with his daughter and Jace meeting.

[ohgaylor]

Laith Ashley is a trans male model. That doesn’t make it a same-sex romance. Please understand this distinction and refrain from making these kinds of transphobic statements.

I know there is heavy queer discourse around this song in particular given this history and context of lavender in queer spaces. That is a separate focus.

The video featuring a trans male model is a separate focus. We don’t need to conflate the two.

[feralchaton]

Honeysuckle Lemonade

[desperatepleasures]

some days I'm not convinced that paul hollywood has ever left england

[stealingyourbones]

Lavender & orange

Bro I’d do both. You’re a blast to chat with !