#shame application

[ghostdata]

shame application • chapter one

[vera122]

Hej

[pouroverpaloma]

the dark romance booktok girlies have started using Astarion audios for book promos. It was a matter of time

[adhd-merlin]

that scene where the knights and gwen are joking about gwaine being in love with himself is so funny. ma'am, look at him. you think a man with a healthy self-esteem would do all that

[officialchristiancagebbgirlblog]

Do we like the new mess that is my wall that includes my friends (they are the centrepiece of my wall of shame)

[uncanny-tranny]

No question. I am informing you that your musings on doing things "half assed" are VERY limited in scope and applicability, especially in the context of interpersonal relationships. Turning comments off will not save poorly thought work from criticism, please think harder before you hit post.

So, reading this came across (to me) as either bad faith or projection, so I looked for entirely too long to try finding this post, but... no, I think this is projection.

I appreciate that not every post of mine is applicable to every situation, but this really comes across as needlessly antagonistic. My comments are unavailable to anybody who is either a brand-new follower or hasn't followed me - they are not 'turned off' unless you are either of these two.

[folksy]

one of my professors agreed to be a reference but not rn bc they’re busy so I was like I’ll ask someone else and this one is like you have to send me a cv and your application essay like sir this is already hard enough now I have to get feedback on it first…

[ghostdata]

shame application • chapter eleven

[seraphimumbra]

"What do a 19 year old and 29 year old even have in common, what do they even talk about"

does the opposite of helping. Any teenager who can carry a conversation with someone 10 years their senior will start thinking they are the exception and oh so special because there is a Lot they could have in common - their hobbies, interests, they could even be in the same place career-wise, facing similar obstacles in life including financial hardships. Any and all of these things can easily give a sense of mutual understanding. They can feel like they relate to the older people more than to their age-mates and this can then be Weaponized by the older people in question.

The problem is the power dynamic due to age, experience and possibly a lot of other factors and the predatory nature of people who tend to go for very young people. The initial statement is very unhelpful in driving home that point, is blatantly incorrect and is easily disprovable by looking at any such friendships. I get what it's trying to say but it's very ineffective.

Too many grooming relationships start with a sense of relatability, belonging, understanding. The 19 year old will just say, 'you don't understand us' because this statement is not relevant to them and end the conversation when faced with that statement. They often do.

Let's not give ammunition to the predators. Let's not make establishing that they are the exception even easier for them.

[spicyicymeloncat]

One of the most growing up experiences and discovering you’re neurodivergent ever is just

“There’s a word for that!” tm

The second most experience is

“Oh I’m not terrible, I’ve just got this disorder that I either cannot help or currently don’t have the right support to mitigate”

[heartshattering]

no no no no I can't be getting a "how to make your life perfect - step one - just clean your entire house! :)" post right now at 5 AM after I just took half a sleeping pill fuck I don't want to redo my entire life right now I can't do it it's too overwhelming it's too much for me to handle like I know I need to clean but fuck it's too much I'm gonna explode just from the thought of it I just can't I can't I can't

[britneyshakespeare]

this stupid little man makes me laugh

[mothpdf]

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[duckduckquackity]

*puts a bowl of grapes and lettuce leaves under a cardboard box held up by a stick*

no mames… sería una lástima desperdiciar comida

[pinayelf-archive]

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[sparrowhearted]

it turns out if someone has a good name length, you can just spam hitting boop over and over without having to use your mouse/move on the trackpad, which is *chef kiss*