#sex ed mention

[dragonfishdreams]

Wait, fuck, does having the way you’re taught Sex Ed in middle and high school leave you so intimately aware of all the ways sex could lead to extremely bad results and killing off any desire you personally had in ever being sexually intimate with another person count as trauma? God, fuck, it does, doesn’t it? Goddamn it, how did I not notice this one, how did I make it this long going “Sex sounds great, but thanks to my teachers I’m too scared of STDs and accidental pregnancy to try it!“ and think that was in any way appropriately normal? Fucking- just when I think I’m comfortably aware of everything I have trauma over, damn it-!!!!!

I’m not even upset, I’m just pissed at this point, I knew that they probably weren’t teaching it very well at the time, I’m just annoyed that I apparently didn’t roll with it as well as I thought I did, damn it-!!!

[many-gay-magpies]

god what really gets me about dead boy detectives and what i think i love so much about the show and the relationships in it is that like. the romantic and sexual relationships aren't portrayed as being more unique or important than the platonic relationships. they're all just RELATIONSHIPS.

charles and crystal's attraction to each other and eventual hookup isn't this big end-all be-all relationship that shatter charles and edwin's friendship and draws charles' attention away from edwin; it's just a THING that happens. they're just two people that care about each other and happen to also be attracted to each other, and a hook-up happens, then they decide that neither of them are in the right place for it and it's nothing awful. crystal kisses charles, but it isn't some big spectacle of her declaring her love for him; it's just her saying goodbye and that she cares about him, like her hugs with niko and jenny and her handshake with edwin.

edwin realizes he loves charles romantically and tells him, and charles says he doesn't really love edwin romantically BACK, but it's okay, because they still love each other so much in so many other ways that this one tiny difference could never change them—and it doesn't!! they're still just as close, still care for each other just as much, still SHOW that care for each other just as much. their relationship didn't completely end because edwin loved charles in a way charles couldn't reciprocate, but at the same time it isn't "solved" by edwin getting over it, because there's nothing TO solve. it's just another type of love, added to everything that already exists between them. and they have LITERALLY FOREVER to figure out what it means.

the relationships between edwin & niko, crystal & niko, and crystal & edwin aren't given any less weight for being solely platonic, just as charles & crystal's relationship and edwin's feelings for charles aren't given (that much) MORE weight for being romantic. crystal and charles' conflict in the closet is about EDWIN, about how they're BOTH his friend and BOTH want to get him back; it has very little to do with the feelings between THEM, romantic or otherwise. similarly, the weight of charles' and edwin's relationship isn't diminished in the LEAST by charles not reciprocating the romantic side of his feelings (or SAYING he doesn't reciprocate, at least—we can all argue about the legitimacy of that in the notes).

i'm sure there are more examples than this, as well as probably some examples that CONTRADICT this, but like... by and large, it feels like dead boy detectives is a show where all the relationships are given equal weight regardless of platonic, sexual, romantic, or familial status, and as someone on both the asexual and aromantic spectrums who has struggled time and time again with shows casting out the importance of all other relationships in favor of prioritizing romance, that is INCREDIBLY refreshing to see.

[the-one-true-nobody]

It's funny listening to people complain about their Baldur's Gate III companions being a bit too forward in the romantic-advances department, and then deciding at random to read Silverfall: Stories of the Seven Sisters by Ed Greenwood and realizing:

No, no, even accounting for borked romance flags making the companions pushier than intended for some players, that over-thirstiness is pretty on-brand for the Realms.

[whoviandoodler]

one of the things that makes mdzs SUCH a great story is the fact that it's a tragedy with queer protagonists, but their queerness isn't the cause or the center of the tragedy. it's not even related, really. it's a story about love and loss and wrong and right, about what we owe each other and what we owe ourselves, about how you can find joy even amidst chaos and grief; its complexity and tragedy is what makes it so profound and touching. sure, there's 'casual' queerphobia in the story, but with everything else going on, it's not really relevant- wwx's mostly like, 'oh, i like guys? i like lwj? i love lwj? fuck, what if he doesn't love me back? am i being presumptuous to think he returns my feelings? what do I do now?' followed by 'wait, he loves me back??? we're getting married IMMEDIATELY', and that whole attitude is very refreshing because sometimes you just want to read a queer story that isn't about queer suffering but that's still incredibly miserable, and i think we as a queer community deserve it

[haystarlight]

Friendly reminder that condoms aren't just for people with dicks. Like, there's the big condoms that are made to put on vaginas but also:

People that use straps/dildos/toys sometimes put condoms on the things to keep them clean. (Cause it's important to keep those things clean, that stuff goes inside people! Keep it clean!)

People that cut up condoms with scissors to make homemade dental dams.

Anyway have fun and be safe.

[intersectionalpraxis]

consent is important in every sexual relationship/interaction. and to the person who asked me if anal sex should be made illegal because it is degrading and hurtful towards women -i wanted to address this because there's a lot to unpack.

so long as each person involved is consenting and isn't being coerced into doing anything they are uncomfortable with then they have a right to do what pleases and pleasures them.

also the idea that THIS particular sex is more painful and is meant to punish women who are on the receiving end of it only further stigmatizes and paints anal play/sex as taboo/abnormal/sinful, when it is just something folks do for many reasons, as stated above -and with the article i attached below, has more nuance to it as well.

i would also like to add that if sex is painful in anyway, if you have access to be able to consult with a doctor please do. and if in the case your partner is not properly lubricating, stimulating, and preparing properly (or you haven't had a chance to do so because i don't know what your dynamics are/what you are most comfortable doing) and is therefore purposely or otherwise intentionally hurting you -that is not healthy or safe and i hope you are in a space to be able to talk to someone about this because it is a myth that sex should hurt -it should NOT hurt.

let's also not perpetuate this idea that anal sex also is only exclusive to queer/LGBTQIA+ couples/partners/those who engage in casual sex/etc -because ANYONE can practice/do anal sex, and like i said as long as you communicate with the person/people you are having sex with then go for what makes you feel good/what you want to explore.

so no i don't think anal sex should be made illegal -that's inherently a problematic sentiment because it's rooted in homophobia/queerphobia and heteronormativity as well.

and i know i haven't talked much about this on my page before, but i wanted to address this.

[zful]

you either stop or you die

[jackdaw-and-hattrick]

The press went NUTS when they found out the Dick was working as a pole dancer. It was big news, and everyone wanted to know how Bruce Wayne felt about his Baby Boy working as a stripper. B was… well, he was ticked. Not at Dick, no, he was just proud of him for getting a well paying job in an area he enjoyed. No, B’s fury sat squarely on the press. Papers that had gleefully printed sexual photos and articles about him were now aghast about Dick.

See, B’s whole “playboy” cover wasn’t originally exactly Bruce’s idea. He remembered vividly as a teenager the perceived humiliation of these adults sexualizing every little thing he did and of the constant anxiety of trying and failing to control his image; the way they seemed to pounce on any tiny flaw in his appearance or behavior and the paranoia that developed after the first of many photos of him was published of him just… going about his day, paired with a big red headline blasting him for daring to be a teenager. He remembered being terrified of being seen wearing a swimsuit and refusing to eat in public. So eventually, him leaning into this sexualization as a cover story wasn’t so much because he liked it, but because he knew how eagerly everyone would eat it up.

Now here was Dick, making an informed, consensual choice about how he wanted to be perceived, and they wanted to vilify him for it. So yes, B may have flew off the handles a bit, and yes, it probably wasn’t the best move to punch a reporter, but he had fought Hell to protect his kids from what he had gone through, and that sure as fuck wasn’t going to change any time soon.

[shyjusticewarrior]

Harley Quinn the Animated Series Incorrect Quotes Pt 9

Harley: The saddest part of being a shark must be never experiencing the crispness of a Pringle.

King Shark: Sometimes we eat sand dollars.

King Shark: And just when you think you've hit rock bottom, you want to fuck a blonde guy.

Riddler: Sorry if that came off abrupt, I'm autistic and also a bitch.

[nkogneatho]

y'all as much as we might enjoy smut, i want you to remember fictional sex ≠ real sex. if you actually want to try something you read somewhere, please do a proper research and educated yourself. play safe <3

[this-world-of-beautiful-monsters]

Sometimes I think about the good touch-bad touch class I had as a kid. And how they specified between “bad touch” and “confusing touch” which is so so important because even CSA that isn’t physically painful is still dangerous and kids needs to understand those gradients of “bad” in cutting detail. And how they told us that bad touches could come from anyone, even a parent or a babysitter. And how they told us that if an adult doesn’t believe you when you talk about this stuff, you should tell another adult, and another adult, and another adult until someone does believe you, and how that told us there was someone out there who ultimately, inevitably, would.

And then, even though nothing actually happened to me, I’m so so so fucking grateful I got that talk, that I got those resources, that I went to a school with books I could learn from and teachers who were legally permitted to, you know, teach me and our talks were so much more complex than “stranger danger.”

And when I think about the fact that this kind of talk isn’t a fucking iron mandate for every child in the country, on the planet, I feel like I’m gonna throw up.

[psilocybn]

the reason I wanna get skinny is partly bc i wanna lose my virginity. it wouldn’t feel right to do it unless I could actually feel comfortable enough with myself to do it at all. I’ll let someone hit when my hipbones are showing.

[piosplayhouse]

(controversial) I think lan wangji thinks that pee is stored in the balls. Like I don't think he thinks about it often but it's just something he thought of and just never questioned. Like it's just an ingrained belief and no one's ever corrected him because if hanguang jun says pee is stored in the balls then you'd better bet pee is stored in the balls

[confusedhostage]

chat was interesting and got me thinking about school and how odd the teachings were… sex Ed was so vague when it should have been blunt and explicit - like they’d say nothing actually helpful - at most they said you can get STI but no talk about protection or like treatment… also some teachers would say nothing and others would genuinely be gross or misinformed… also that one assembly where they showed that photo of real CSA to us when we were 12 trying to explain how to be safe or something yet it just freaked us all out… even years on I haven’t forgotten that photo and that poor kids face idk why our teachers even showed that… that poor girl

[charliechoccychip]

CW: e d discussion of a sexual nature, no images, just an unhinged thought I had while having sex

Literally morning sex w my bf- and I let him hit it raw- he nuts in me and I go "oh that just compromised my morning weigh in :// "

H U H ?

Pass it on, girlies, e d brain says cum weighs enough to affect the scale

[moinsbienquekaworu]

I'm sorry I'm going to be insane for a second, avert your eyes