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[candygirly06]

i was yours, but were you mine? 💋

My dear Upper East readers,

Welcome to part two of my previous post, I will pick up immediately from where I left off, we met again and my dad was coming to pick me up from the subway station, mind you my parents are very strict and anti-dating, so I was discreetly trying to tell him to fuck off and guess what he did, my fellow reader, he stayed and had an entire conversation with me as my dad was standing right there, and left after giving me a fist bump. 

Fun fact: the more you chase after something, the more it runs away. 

We bumped into each other again sometime after that and well, we decided we would try again, and this time, my dear reader, I tried my very best, being an avoidant attachment style lover, it is very difficult for me to actually commit to anything and my case is so severe that it is honestly difficult for me to finish anything that I start, you wouldn't believe me if I told you but I have not finished a series I started 10 years ago solely due to the fact of my aforementioned problem, so I'll leave it to your imagination to see how my relationships would turn out.

He said some of the sweetest and most romantic things I've ever heard like, "You're gorgeous" or "The only reason I approached you was because of the way your hair moved and covered your entire face while you slept" or some creepy thing that dropped my gut to my foot. I just dismissed it as nerves and continued, this would be the first time I tried my best to be completely honest about everything, with no lies to cover up anything like I'd done in my past relationships. I liked him, and I thought he liked me too. Karma does come to bite you back always, doesn't it? You'll understand my reasoning better after I tell you about my second relationship, the sweetest one I've ever had, but for now, back to him.

We decided to go on a date and I decided on the venue, I chose the date and timing, but this wasn't what put me off, it was the fact that he said, "I would like to not tell any of my friends about us anytime soon(or like ever haha) because they'll act weird and I don't want that", I genuinely beilived that because I, hid my relationships from my parents (and friends, until I get comfortable) so I couldn't really blame him. I decided to tell at least one of my friends about where we were because, of safety, and I just felt more comfortable that way. (Always let someone know, dear reader.) 

I will sum up the date in two words, fucking hell. Why? Well, first of all, he tried to hold my hand which I would've considered cute but under that circumstance, it wasn't welcomed. We decided to eat at this place and it was all good, Oh, I'd forgotten to mention the circumstance itself, he was late, not by 10 minutes or half an hour, a good fucking two hours, and I simply waited because as I said, I wanted to give it my all, so yes I was starving by the time we reached the place, I was grumpy and he dared to simply say "I just woke up late sorry haha".

I was sobbing, my insides were screaming at me to get away from him , every fiber in my being was begging me to go back home to my parents, to their loving embrace and I would never have to see him again. No, he hadn't physically done anything to me but the accusations that he had made, boy oh boy did I wanna punch him. 

He'd finished eating quite a time ago, but being a slow eater, I was taking my time and he kept making subtle comments about wanting to make out I pretended to be oblivious to his advances because quite frankly, I didn't want to, not on the first date. And at some point, he simply said, "Will you drop the fucking act? It's getting boring now." And just like that, he shattered my entire world.

No, it wasn't that serious. Yes, I was putting up an act but he did not have any right to accuse me of anything. That was simply the beginning, he said I was "a two-faced whore who would make out with any guy who showed any interest in me", this is all he talked about on our ride back home. For an entire hour, acc after accusations, mind you some of them were so absolutely ridiculous that I couldn't help but laugh in his face the entire time he tried to judge my character. 

I gave the coldest and sweetest revenge I could think of at that very moment, I pretended to be head over heels for him and started crying saying "How could you say such a thing? How could you say that to my face?" You should've seen his face, dear reader, he was doubting his entire life, and he thought he knew me like the back of his hand. He showed me videos of girls he'd taken to his house or whatever and all I could do was think about how I could've saved my day by doing literally anything else. There were so many signs, why did I ignore them all? For what?

All in all, I came back home, locked myself in the bathroom and looked myself in the mirror, I did not cry, I did not shed a single tear, I simply smiled and went back to my family, did my daily chores and slept on it. Until he had to come back into my life after I explicitly told him to never talk to me, even if he did see me. There won't be another part to this, I will tell you about what happend in the next post, my upper east reader but it would be more about us, then about this fucking bitch.

Yours lovingly,

stay chic and candy

xoxo

candygirl 💋

[remarkist]

Remember: there is nothing wrong with asking for what you deserve. Don't be afraid to speak up and advocate for yourself. Whether it's in the workplace, a relationship, or any aspect of life, know your worth and don't settle for less. 💪 Be like Alexis Rose (in later seasons) of Schitt’s Creek. 🫶

[groenewold]

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[adiyo]

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Compassion: The Real MVP of Self-Worth

Ever notice how often we’re told to “believe in ourselves,” to “boost self-esteem,” or to “be confident”? And yet, it doesn’t always seem to be enough. One day we’re on top of the world, and the next, we’re feeling like we’ve got it all wrong. It’s exhausting, right? That’s where self-compassion comes in—like self-esteem’s more reliable, supportive sibling.

Self-esteem says, “You’re great, but only if you’re doing things well.” It’s like a rollercoaster, up one day and down the next, constantly needing outside validation. But self-compassion says, “You’re worthy no matter what.” Even when we mess up, fall short, or feel lost. It’s not about how good we are compared to anyone else; it’s about recognizing that everyone’s a work in progress, and we’re no different.

Self-compassion gives us room to be imperfect. It lets us be gentle with ourselves when we’d usually be our own worst critics. It’s not about lowering our standards but about knowing we’re okay even when we fall short. We don’t have to have it all figured out, and that’s more than okay.

Imagine treating yourself with the same kindness you’d show a close friend when they’re down—offering patience, forgiveness, and encouragement. Self-compassion is like that: the thing that holds you steady even when self-esteem falters.

Next time you’re hard on yourself, remember: it’s okay to want to do well, but it’s even more important to be kind to yourself along the way. 🌱

[thephidang]

Home is Within You

Within you there are so many answers you are afraid to acknowledge. Instead, shift your focus to living a life that revolves around your path and purpose.

The purpose of your life is not to love yourself but to love being yourself.

I saw it explained on social media this way, ‘be the subject, not the object.’ Game changer. Go out on solo dates. Romance yourself.

love & positivity ✨ phi

Phi Dang(@thephidang)

[mariaxmariaa]

“Silence your inner critic and boost your self esteem (How To)”

[otaviogilbert]

10 things i did to *finally* start loving myself

In this video, I'll share 10 things I did to finally start loving myself. These personal insights and self-care practices have made a significant difference in my self-esteem and overall well-being.

[reikisthan]

Reiki with Magnets + Singing Bowl Sound Bath for ALL CHAKRAS (Limited Talking) | Chakra Healing

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[safehavenpositivity]

5 Ways To Practice Self Care That Really Helps If you find these tips helpful, give a ❤️, and share to everyone that needs it Click the link in the bio for more self care tips #selfcarefirst #selfloveclub #anxietysupport #selfcarethread #selfcareroutine #selfcareday #mindbody #mindandbody #selfcaredaily #selfcareaccount #takecareofyou #selflovetips #selfcareisntselfish #selfcaresaturday #selflovematters #selfcarelove #putyourselffirst #selfcaretip #selfcaresis #selfcarepage #selfcareeveryday #selfcarequotes #selfcarehacks #selfappreciation #skincarethreads #skincarethread #selfcareisnotselfish #selfcarecoach #taketimeforyou #selfcarefriday https://www.instagram.com/p/Cqc31tvqJIF/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[mackygl]

Entender todo es un poco soberbio Querer explicar todo es un poco por nervios 🧷 . Thank you Jen @iamawildmuse for making me feel and look so fierce 🔥 . Que el amor propio siga siendo mi guía ♥️🥰 . . . #selflove #selflovequotes #selflovejourney #selflovetips #selflovery #selfloveclub #selfloverevolution #selfcare #blackandwhite #bnw #bnwphotography #bnwmood #bnwphoto #bnwinstagram (en Playa del Carmen, Quintana Roo) https://www.instagram.com/p/CqBmlvCObdg/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[acunirvana]

For entrepreneurs, business owners, or anyone with a chronic illness.

If you run your own business or have a chronic illness, this video for you! And as promised, here is the book I recommended: Boundaries and Protection by Pixie Lighthorse. She cautions each reader, “While reading, you may become aware of instances where you have violated someone’s boundaries. Don’t let it stop you from carrying on. Don’t let it send you into a spiral of shame. You can make amends…

[groenewold]

🌧️ . . . . #triste #tristesa #depresive #depresion #amor #love #loved #lover #hartbroken #sad #sadness #art #illustration #skull #skeleton #dead #death #calavera #catrina #selflovetips #selflove (en Mexico) https://www.instagram.com/p/CoctMiwO3ND/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

[raseckkiel]

don’t you dare come to me and say it’s nothing 👦🏼

[thephidang]

Criteria to be loved

Through all the conditioning and programming, we have come to believe that we have to meet certain criteria in order to be loved.

Even though you weren't taught self-love, its never too late to love yourself. you are never too old for the love you deserve to give yourself.

love & positivity ✨ phi

Phi Dang(@thephidang)

[makeuhealthy]

Self love is a responsibility only few can handle!!💯❤️

So all the singles reading this...here's the way to shower yourself with love - Dinner Recipes for Singles!!

[cupoflove7]

A thread 🪡 A lesson in “emotional baggage,” and expecting people to wait because you simply aren’t ready 🤎 SWIPE #selflovejourney #selflove #selflovequotes #mentalhealthawareness #loveyourself #mentalhealth #confidence #selfloveisthebestlove #selflovetips #selfcare #mentalhealthmatters #anxiety #meditation (at Antioch, Tennessee) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cnu2zZKvHgi/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=