#self idenity

[embrace-the-misunderstood]

1/13/2025

Gender identity is a very complex topic for me. In person, I guess I dress very non-binary in the grand scheme of things. I usually only wear jeans and a hoodie or a band T-shirt rather than a dress or a skirt. I feel more comfortable when I’m not dressed in a hyper-feminine or a hyper-masculine manner. My hair is always down and in a wolf-cut, and my body language is closed off, along with the fact that I rarely smile or show emotion at all unless I need to. However, online, I don’t think I’m much different. I only post pictures that I feel pretty in or more “done up” in, so I suppose my online identity is more feminine than anything. I avoid being hyperfeminine or masculine because it just feels wrong, like I’m not being true to myself at all. I will wear dresses and long skirts, even shorts, from time to time when it’s hot out, but I get severely insecure. I also don’t feel my best when I’m wearing anything masculine, like a button-down shirt. I do think instead of a fancy dress, I would much prefer to wear a suit and tie. Something about baggy clothing makes me feel more comfortable. When I do go out of my apartment, I do feel the need to wear makeup to hide my acne. However, I still have my hair down and wear my baggy jeans and band t’s. Online, I avoid posting pictures of me smiling, but I am still in clothes that seem to scream "feminine." For example, tank tops, skirts, corset shirts, etc etc. 

For around 10 years I have struggled with my very own gender identity. I used to think I was a transgender male due to harsh gender stereotypes about the way I felt more comfortable dressing. My (very toxic) friend group at the time also semibullied me into constantly changing what I thought about myself in every single way, from sexuality to gender to my personality. Little by little, I lost touch with myself. There were times I would only dress hyperfeminine, other times hyper-masculine. I went through a time where I declared myself transgender and changed my name to something that now causes me trauma to hear or see anywhere. Due to the external conflict, it created a lot of internal conflict as well. Along with conflict and confusion about who I was, it also caused major body dysmorphia. Going into middle school, I was extremely "girly." I would wear pink, flowers, pastel colors, shorts, dresses, and skirts; even sometimes I’d wear flower headbands. In those detrimental 3 years, I was always confused about myself due to peer pressure. It wasn’t until high school that I began to figure myself out once more. Due to all of the dysmorphia, I only wore hoodies and jeans; I felt more comfortable that way, hiding my body. Everyone wore hoodies, male or female, so I felt some sort of sanction within this way of dressing. 

Now that I’m in college, I’ve been able to be on my own. I haven’t had to deal with my mom begging me to dress feminine or comparing me to how I used to be before everything changed and I began to become more insecure. All I can say is that now.. I’m still conflicted. I know my gender. It’s female, and I’m comfortable with it. However, sometimes I wish I was a guy. It would be so much easier. Men are safer in society, and being a woman has always been dangerous. There are always constant threats to my well-being due to my gender. I have, however, decided that instead of changing my gender, I’ll just accept being called any pronouns. He, she, they, it. I don’t mind as long as I’m being treated with respect by my peers. This also means I can feel more comfortable with myself and put my inner child to rest in a way.

[fiftxxn-aka-0llie]

ATTENTION PEOPLE WHO DON’T DO SELFSHIPS/YUMESHIP! Just because people make a Yumeship/Selfship doesn’t mean they’re simping over them, no it’s mainly for funnies. Like, I could make myself X Kevin Barnes as a joke lmao, not because I have a crush on him.

[sheltiechicago]

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[summerdazze]

my self insert with Theseus 😙🫰

[widowshill]

"for most of my life, i've wanted a place where i've belonged. a place where I could feel at home again. feel loved again. and i've found that place, here at collinwood." this is actually what it's all about babey

[randomness-and-madness]

LET PEOPLE EXPLORE THEMSELVES.

I really liked Michelle Obama's memoir, Becoming because she talks about how we are always in a state of becoming. We are never finished until we're dead. We can keep growing, keep exploring, keep learning about ourselves throughout our entire life. We should never stop this road of self discovery.

It's human nature to be inquisitive and curious, to pursue understanding of the universe and of ourselves.

“what if kids identify with something and it ends up just being a phase-?” good. stop teaching and expecting kids (and adults honestly) to formulate permanent traits and ideas of themselves. everything in life is a phase. that doesn’t make it any less legitimate while you experience it. let people explore themselves and know it’s okay if what you think about yourself changes.

[arcadequeerz]

Sometimes u just gotta think about the themes in ur story.

[forthill]

i am done procrastinating my procrastination so now im just procrastinating.

[tenth-sentence]

They use tech to give individuals what tech has taken from them: belonging, self-confidence and identity.

"Going Dark: The Secret Social Lives of Extremists" - Julia Ebner

[carmelcholate]

Unsavory Waver's

When I saved you when I fell

When life brought me back

Who am I?

Where am i

Where are we to go

If no one wants me to go

How far is the end

Is it near then it looks

How will I know to overcome my wishful thinking

Through what paths do I take now…

The places to go vary in my mind

Uncertainty that lies ahead of time to where am i…

So where is it do we all lie greathy unflunece n to dry out

What can do when I am in a world full of fools

They too uncertain with rising aeons ahead

For decades and centuries to rise and glories to come

From an arm length to another zeroing into feels of something

But atlast we all will lay together at once in one bonded by the wines of time

Had i know whats best i would have without a doubt held it close

Thats currently not there as i melt away into my own unsavory Dilemma

~kiwi's

[22ayla21]

I have two Idea now about amphoreus male husband

I love your writing! 🤭✨

This is the first one :

How trio amphoreus husband( separate) react to their wife get Flirted by a man who don't even know she is already married, the man just thought the ring in her finger is just a accessories.

You are very brave... but not very smart

The reaction of the men of Amphoreus when a stranger decides to flirt with his wife, not knowing that she is already married

Mydei notices immediately that someone has dared to flirt with his wife. His eyes instantly become colder, and his gaze acquires a predatory focus, as if he is assessing the prey before striking. He does not make a scene, does not intervene immediately, but first watches how his wife will react. If she coldly brushes off the impudent man, he will only smirk and mentally praise her.

If the man is too persistent, Mydei approaches his wife and simply stands next to her. He does not say a word, just stands, towering over the situation, his arms crossed over his chest. The very fact of his presence is more pressing than any warning.

When the man finally understands that this terrifying crown prince of Kremnos is her husband, Mydei only smirks. Without malice, but with a clear subtext: "You're in trouble, buddy." He does not make scenes of jealousy, because he knows his wife and trusts her. But if the man continues to pester, Mydei will step forward and say something like, "You're very brave. But you should be smarter."

In extreme cases, if the man doesn't get the hint, he simply puts his hand on his wife's waist, pulling her toward him. Or, even better, he takes her hand and lazily plays with her ring, showing that it's not just jewelry.

He doesn't raise his voice or threaten, but his posture, tone, and icy gaze do the trick. Even the most self-confident suitors usually quickly realize that it's best to retreat.

Anaxa does not make a scene, but his expression becomes stony, and his gaze becomes piercing and appraising. It is as if he is calculating whether it is worth wasting energy on eliminating this misunderstanding or whether it is better to wait until his wife sorts everything out herself.

If the man goes too far, Anaxa casually mentions something like, “How interesting your method of communicating with other people’s wife's is” or “It’s amazing how careless some people are in choosing an object for flirting.” He does not make any sudden movements, but simply comes closer, standing behind his wife or next to her, creating an invisible but tangible comfort zone around her. His height and posture alone can make another man think.

Anaxa does not give in to emotions, but steel appears in his voice. If the man continues, he asks something like, “Are you this persistent with all married women?” - and in a voice that makes it clear that it is better to answer correctly. If a man considers a ring on his wife's finger to be just an ornament, Anaxa can calmly remark: "I wonder if your jaw is just an accessory, too?" Depending on his mood, he can hug his wife around the waist, kiss her temple, or simply call her by an affectionate nickname so that the rival has no doubts.

If he sees that his wife herself cheerfully and confidently puts the man in his place, he simply stays aside, watching the situation with a slight grin.

But if the flirting goes too far. Then the voice becomes icy, the smile disappears, and the man feels that an unknown weight is suffocating him. Even if Anaxa does not say a word, it becomes clear to everyone: it's time to apologize and leave.

At first, he watches. Phainon does not immediately intervene if he sees a man trying to flirt with his wife. He evaluates the situation, her facial expression, the tone of her voice. If she is clearly annoyed, he acts faster.

If the suitor is too persistent, Phainon approaches and calmly places his hand on his wife's waist or shoulder, while casting a silent warning glance at the stranger. He does not immediately reveal his identity, but rather asks with a slight grin: "Well, I hope you at least asked her husband for permission to flirt with her?"

If she laughs or enjoys the situation (knowing that Phainon is nearby), he only smirks slyly, allowing her to "deal" with the suitor herself. But if she feels discomfort, this is a reason for quick intervention.

If the suitor persists, even after hints, Phainon may feign indifference, but say something like: "You know, you're not the first one to mistake her ring for an accessory. But the previous one was smarter - he realized his mistake in time." He does not make a scene or behave aggressively. He simply takes his wife by the hand or puts his arm around her shoulders, leading her away, leaving the suitor to digest what happened.

Despite the outward calm, if someone has gone too far in flirting with his wife, Phainon will not forget it. He will not do anything right away, but the person who crossed the line may feel invisibly "pushed away" from Amphoreus's society in the future. Phainon knows how to make unpleasant people cease to exist in his world, without even realizing why.

[ladyofthenoodle]

marinette does have adhd but i do not believe she has developed enough self awareness yet to realize she’s bad at time management. marinette actually thinks she’s superior at time management and that her multitasking is very efficient and actually the best way to get things done. how could she be bad at time management when she’s juggling school, superheroing, hobbies, friends, family, a boyfriend, secret iden—what do you mean school started 20 minutes ago???

[amogii]

You really think in a world of magic fuckery a person wouldn't be able to extract the soul essence (or dna) out of a person's hair, spit, blood, ect and combine it with thier own within themselves to make a child in ways that don't align with what we consider the natural world?

All I hear is that no one is willing to push the limits of unethical gene jacking to make offspring

The pregnant evil queen smirks as she places a hand on her swollen belly. "Now hero, you won't kill the mother of your own child, will you?" "Lady, I am female, infertile, and never had sex before, so that lie is not going to work on me."

[edenfenixblogs]

I respect your opinion that screenshotting is a normal part of discourse, however, that behavior is restricted to online communications and has only recently become normalized in certain communities, which does not mean that it is normal. I cannot understand that you think my comment about how Jews can function as white in certain contexts has led you to remark the following (forgive me if I mistake you): "I don’t hate you. But I am scared of you. I am scared that you hate me and my people, because so many people do and have shown that they do." Please reconsider your position on deleting both posts, and I offer you my promise that I will never speak to anyone on this site on any issue ever again, as I have very rarely ever used this site for that reason. I respect your feelings regarding virulent hate that you've received in comments, but I am a very private person, and I do not like having my blog name across parts of tumblr that I do not frequent. I only responded when your post came across my dash by chance because the statement that Jews are emphatically not white struck me as ludicrous insofar that it suggests that there is a kind of immutable Whiteness that *is* real. In the course of my response, I have been called an "ass" by your followers; a lifelong reader, my "reading comprehension" has been insulted by one excessively pleasant Jennifer; I was told that "race as a social construct is very much real" by someone in Germany, as if I don't know that after living my entire life as a woman of color in America. I have been, in short, utterly baffled and horrified by my communications with all of you. My comments were not intended to be a statement on antisemitism, or whether Jewish pain is real (of which I believe you accused me), or whether Jewish people can be considered "other" in this century or centuries past, but that is how they have been universally interpreted by you and your bullying, hectoring followers.

So there’s a lot going on here. And I’m not sure how I feel about all of it. So I’ll attempt to break it down.

1. I respect that you’re a private person. I will consider altering my post so that my commentary beneath it is removed on only your words as you wrote them will be visible. I will also delete your username from the screenshots. I may also delete the post entirely, but if I do that’s something I’ll need to mull over for a few hours to a few days. The reason I cannot outright commit to deleting the whole thing right now is because of the aforementioned need to archive comments that trigger trauma responses in Jewish communities.

2. I don’t want you to feel like you cannot speak on any issue. You can and should speak on issues if you’re passionate about them. But you should understand that when you’re speaking on communities of which you are not a part, you may be met with ire at the way you speak on things triggers issues you may previously have been unaware of. And not everyone will be patient or kind when you do so.

3. Name calling is not something I encourage or participate in. Followers, please don’t call people names on my behalf, although I very much appreciate your attempt to defend me. It is not necessary and doesn’t foster peace.

4. I don’t think you understand: your reading comprehension was poor in this case. This is not an indictment of your intelligence broadly speaking, nor is it an indictment of your general reading comprehension skills. The point of my post was to explain that the racial categorization of Jews is unfixed. Even white-passing Jews have to contend with uncertainty of how they are perceived with the ever present fear that this can change at any time. While some Jews may self-identify as white, most that I have met do not. Neither do many of us identify as POC. We are a liminal group in between.

There is a lot of discourse about Jewish whiteness these days, which I have discussed before on this blog. The main points here are that even white-passing Ashkenazi Jews with some ties to Europe are not white as a result of privilege and therefore our status as white cannot be associated with privilege (although we do of course benefit from white-passing privilege). White-passing Jews with historical ties to Europe are often white as a result of mass murder and sexual assault. Meaning: those of us who were too ethnic appearing for Europe were murdered. Those of us who looked “white enough” were sexually assaulted and forced to bear the whiter children of their rapists. This was done so thoroughly to Jews over the course of a few centuries in Europe that many of the surviving Jews with European ancestry today have whiter skin than many of our Sephardi or Mizrahi counterparts. And while other “white”peoples in Europe benefited from their European appearance during the previous few centuries, Jews did not. In most countries we were forced to live in ghettos, denied citizenship, only allowed to work certain jobs and then demonized as if we conspired to control those industries before finally being slaughtered in the millions by people who despised us specifically for being not white enough. In fact, Hitler described as an “Asiatic race.” American white supremacists consider us middle eastern usurpers, as do many European white supremacists. In the Middle East they call us white colonizers. And none of this has anything to do with how we look. It has everything to do with what those who condemn us hate most. Which is why I made my initial post in the first place.

Jewish white passing privilege in the United States is completely different than Irish or Italian white privileged, because of the historical circumstances surrounding our perception in Europe, America, and around the world.

And none of this even begins to touch on the infinitely nuanced experiences of black and brown Jews in America, Europe, and elsewhere. Nor does this address the loss of whiteness experienced by gerim (Jews by choice) who grew up with full white privilege and have experienced a distinct loss of that privilege after conversion.

Jews as a people predate the modern concepts and categorizations of race, religion, and ethnicity. These are words and concepts that came into existence long after Jews already existed. And as such, these terms often fail to account for our experiences in myriad ways.

To put it mildly, race as a concept is a very thorny topic for Jews.

5. If my statement struck you as ludicrous, a better course of action would have been to ask what I meant or to look into what I have already said on the subject in reblogs of that very post. But you didn’t. You came into a post by a Jewish person and imposed your understanding and definition of race onto us. As so often happens by non-Jews. And then you spoke down to us by calling us fools. That hurt. Not just emotionally. It hurt in that it causes harm to my community by thoughtlessly igniting cultural wounds. In future, if you see a cultural group of any kind talking about an experience that strikes you as ludicrous, seek understanding. Seek to understand why we feel that way.

6. I did not bully you. Nor did my followers, except those who chose to call you names. Which I do not endorse. We expressed anger at you, because we are angry. We have a right to both feel and express that anger. We are not bullies for having feelings and communicating them. While I always advocate for civility, we do not owe politeness to those who harm us. We should not meet harm with harm. But we don’t have to always be perfect and kind and sweet and understanding. Sometimes, we can be angry.

7. We have all agreed that race is a construct. You. Me. My followers. The German person who you mentioned. What we are having a miscommunication about is how the status of race as a construct uniquely affects Jews in ways that are different from the experiences of both white people in Europe and America as well as from the experiences of other racial and ethnic minority groups. We all know that whiteness is not immutable. What we are all trying to communicate to you is that whiteness as a concept does not now nor has it ever been fully applied to or embraced by Jews as a community.

I want to be very clear: I still don’t hate you. I’m upset about the whole situation—both our conflict here and the status and topic of Jewish ethnicity more broadly. I am trying very hard here to speak clearly and with understanding and compassion for you and your privacy while also remaining steadfast in communicating the feelings of my fellow Jews in hopes that you will understand how and why we have reacted to you in the way that we have. I am also terrified that you will walk away from this interaction feeling negatively about Jews in general and that this will be my fault. Because any less than perfectly sweet and emphatically kind behavior from us as a community so often held as evidence of our terrible [insert negative quality here] and used as an excuse to write us off.

I can tell that you don’t mean us harm as a group nor do you want to be perceived as antisemitic. But just like any systemic prejudice, it must be actively dismantled. Until it is examined and dismantled, its existence will continue to lead you to unintentionally harm us. Antisemitism is a deeply ingrained systemic prejudice. Literally everyone has it until they do the work to get rid of it. That is what I am asking of you. That is what my followers are asking of you. Even if we didn’t ask in the most perfectly polite and self-effacing way.

[dirtbag-dyke-hypnotist]

ego death and idenity deleteion and leaving someone a mindless husk of their former self <33333