#saying 'gay' is just easier
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Aren't you gay and a trans man?
Baby, I'm too hot and wise for exact labels
#saying 'gay' is just easier#used to identify as just a trans man but my gender is a bit more fluid than that#anyway. i like people :) and i'm ace. but sometimes i like sex. and i'll call myself a boy before i would a girl#but offline i don't care a lot#some people think i'm a girl and others a boy#messages from beyond the ask box#anonymous
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so when straight people ask me why I say I’m “queer” or “gay” instead of sharing my actual identity as a panromantic demisexual non-binary sapphic queer I just tell them “ok look, when you’re talking to someone who isn’t local and they ask you where you’re from and you either say the name of the largest city nearby or ‘town name, suburb of large nearby city’ so they can get some geographical context of where you’re located right, bc they’re probably not going to know the name of the little town you actually live in.”
but if you’re talking to a local you can say the name of your actual town bc they have a greater chance of knowing where/what that is.
ok well when I’m talking to a straight person I start with queer bc chances are they aren’t as familiar with the context of all the little towns in that big queer city and need gps (gay positioning system) to find me.
if I’m talking to another queer person and I say I live in a suburb of gay city in a town called panromantic on the demisexual side of the tracks which is in the county of queer and I live off the intersection of non-binary and sapphic, they’d probably be able to find me with little to no problems, make sense?
#personal rant lol#like saying queer or gay is so much easier sometimes#if I say anything else sometimes I get the confused dog head tilt and I’m just like ok ok I’m gay#lgbtq community#lgbtqia#demisexual#non binary#sapphic#lgbtqia+#queer#panromantic
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I actually like how this turned out :3
#bsd#bungou stray dogs#bungo stray dogs#pixel art#bsd dazai#bsd fanart#bsd dazai osamu#bungou sd#bungo gay dogs#bungo stray dogs fanart#bsd armed detective agency#he needs to calm down :P#anyway I need to study for math#monochrome is easier than coloring just saying
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A character looks straight into the camera and says "I'm not interested in romance" and people will still say "No, it's not confirmed they're aromantic!!!" "They could change their mind!!!" "it's a challenge for them to overcome!!!" "They'll have character development that makes them fall in love"
It's like they are given the most blatant answer to a character romantic orientation and they actively ignore it. all the while all it takes is subtext for people to speak as if it is fact for a character to be any other sexuality.
#text#yes I'm calling out the hypocrisy within queer readings of a text and how often people dont see aromanticism as queer#and thus they will hear a blatant omission that a character is aromantic and still say it is not enough#mean while a character saying 'im not interested in the opposite gender' is rightfully taken as the character being queer#the queer community hates aspec characters because they don't match their perfect idea of sex sex relationships as being peak queerness#aphobia#aro#aromantic#aspec#aroace#im sorry but n oit isn't a difference of opinion if you blatantly ignore a character outright saying 'im not into this'#like y'all complain abt ppl turning gay ppl straight but will defend ppl erasing aro identities all the time#fandoms will throw a fit if you ship gay characters in straight relationships but ppl shit aro characters and we r told to shut up#im so fucking tired of this bs#I will keep complaining and keep calling this shit out#until it is drilled into ur skulls that you are being APHOBIC becaue WHAT? You want to REALLLLLY SHIP a character?#Because you'll die if you dont???#fuck man just say you hate aspec ppl and move on#it's easier than dealing with your 'im not aphobic ur being unfair i supposed aspec people really' bs
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woah more of them who would've guessed
#legends of avantris#curse of strahdanya#silas shepherd morgan#sarnax of the edelwood#shepnax#my art#noah draws more of the gay cowboy and lizard fork found in kitchen#when i say they have a death grip on me i mean it#the way they are so gentle and caring with eachother drives me up the wall#like just kiss already please it would be easier to watch than whatever they have rn#they will be the death of me
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my sonadow boom vision ( cuz i think boom shadow is fucking stu- )
sonic: would you do me a big favor? shadow: who do you want killed? sonic: heh. i'll do my own killing.
#sonic the hedgehog#shadow the hedgehog#sonic boom#sonic#shadow#sonic x shadow#sonadow#shadonic#boom sonic#boom shadow#boom sonadow#why try to kill your 'rival' when you could kill FOR him yknow#its easier to be gay than to hate just saying shadow#this also works for sonknux don't fucking @ me i think knuckles would kill for sonic-
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I can't resist bothering you with more questions. I'm sorry! I want to put Killie in a basket and carry him around with me like a purse dog. Did Charlie always know that he wasn't going to be a horse pilot forever and that he would find a way out of his family's net, or was he never going to escape if him being kicked out hadn't forced him into it? My heart breaks for him a bit, even though he seems the most well-adjusted person in that family. How old was he when he ended up on his own?
(In reference to Killie the jockey OC, crown prince of a horse-obsessed family, and his identical twin brother Charlie, who was disowned/ escaped the orbit of the Horse Planet)
You are never a bother. Nobody could be anything but grateful to have such insightful, brave, witty and inspiring people to talk about their OCs with! Are you kidding?

That’s such a good and deep question - I don’t think that Charlie knows the answer himself. He certainly was quite a talented apprentice jockey. In terms of his place in the family, his parents and siblings all adored him - he is warm and charming and funny - and thought they understood him. He has that special child-of-rotten-parents survival-mode sensitivity to reading a room, that in Charlie translates into useful skills, like “changing the mood of the room” and “sensing what people want him to say”.
But Charlie has a strong sense of identity, and with it, a hard internal limit on personal sacrifice; there are parts of Charlie you can’t have.
And despite being a fifth-generation jockey of impeccable pedigree, the whole “stoic, fearless, impervious to pain�� thing appears to be a state of mind - not a physiology thing, but a mental one, engendered by passion for the sport. Charlie has had passages of his life where he’s carried off the Jockey Constitution (TM), but a problem with armouring yourself with a mental state is that if you are an especially clever little liar yourself, like Charlie, you catch on to the trick.
And the sport is inextricable from the horses in their family. So Charlie stormed out (was thrown out) of both family and sport… but I think he does like horses and he was good at it. And it would’ve been hard, in that family, in that immersive and passionate world, to break out naturally - especially when you are so beautifully built for it. It would again come down to Charlie’s strong sense of self.
I think a lot of his sense of identity and resistance came, early on, from connecting honestly with his bisexuality. He’s clever and sneaky, and likes mind games and code-switching and putting on characters, and when he realised the necessity of masking early on, it felt like a secret identity. He was simply Built Different, and couldn’t change it, so he made a game of tap-dancing on the tightrope.
Then he left to build that secret identity into his real self, on purpose, and he threw himself into The Opposite of Being a Jockey. He was not only the first in their family to go to university, he went into academia. He covered his bills by bartending and busking (take that, Dad). He eats cake. He is valued for his mind and brain. He is NOT COMPETITIVE AT ALL. HE’S COLLABORATIVE, EVEN.
…He was just about eighteen. And perhaps it affected him more deeply than he’d say. But what saved him - what always would save Charlie - was a sense of identity.



#Killie#the twins are 4’10’’ or 4’11 Ciara is about 5’2’’ as an adult and while everyone acts like Colm is massive he’s like 5’8’’ or something#apologies for Colm’s proportions. don’t worry about it. he does that.#Ciara (Irish) pronounced Kiera as in Knightley and Colm pronounced like#ughhh#a bit like Gollum with a C but if you were trying to say it as one syllable#Coll’m#(Irish ppl pls do correct any of this)#I made a strong effort to mentally rename Colm to Colman even thinking it would be easier but no. didn’t stick. he’s too Colmish.#like a small amphibious creature like a little autumn colored newt hiding in a little mossy puddle under a gently rotting leaf#defenseless staring up at you with the resigned eyes of something#fully expecting to be eaten. easily squashed.#with a resigned sigh I make a note to myself to Do Something About Colm.#what does he need I wonder.#actually maybe he is genuinely tall. that would be funny#he should be.#tall colm actually doesn’t need to be fixed he just needs to move out.#I was chatting with a colleague who is a 5’9 man and his brother is a 6’10 man and he brought this up to tell a story about how the brother#moved to the USA on the strength of it to play basketball. but in photos the brother would bend his knees to be jn the same frame#as my colleague so nobody ever believes him about this story or his brother because he cannot prove it. any photo he has of his brother#feature the man sort of melting downwards with an apologetic expression.#maybe colm’s like that.#hmm each sibling has their own identity narrative. Charlie’s is the strongest#Killie forcibly does a reinvention speedrun. straight Tory asshole to tenderly gay married in like a year. Ciara gets radicalised online#and Colm shall get a personality for uhhhhh (spins wheel of holidays) Beltane#or maybe World Book Day.#Killie and Charlie
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I want to hold your hand I don't want to hurt you
More of @fiestylittlebeetle's Malether propaganda they have been parasitising off my brain especially now that I've drawn then once have more hand language *grins*
#malware#malware ben 10#aether#oc#ben 10 oc#ben 10#oc x canon#fanart#i also literally have a headcold#so since i'm plagued with human malware i might as well pay tribute to the character malware as well#also i know i did the same fucking border thing i did with them the last time but shhhh this time i gave it narrative purpose#sent this one to my group chat and as always had to guess if this was ben 10 related (they were right)#immediately clocked as gay don't know if it's just track record or something specifically in the image but#verrry accurate#i like hand emotions they are so fun#i was gonna say 'as always' as if i've more consistently drawn them but 'as i have started doing' is more accurate#as i have started doing (don't know if this is accurate) but i make mal's hand emotions kinda more blatant than aether's#his face or rather optic ring isn't NOT expressive but he defaults to anger a lot- his hands are easier to read#mostly because of the veiled threat of bared claws or when those claws relax- or rn when those claws turn inward#ball into a fist with all the desire TO touch yet filled with the heightened urge to PREVENT touch#terrified that if he clings on to dear bloody life- sticks his claws in with all the want and need for contact mal is starved of#that it'll be his worst mistake#in comparison i made aether's hand emotions less emotive- this is where the 'don't know if that's right' comes in#instead of flinching into a retreat like i made him do in the previous art his hand just flattens into the non-descript surface#mal already having fled from his already loose 'grasp' that he doesn't need to back off much#rather he keeps his hand nearby- not holding out impatiently waiting for their 'moment' to come back#but sitting with mal and still being close enough that if he's still in the mood he can just- place his hand next to his#maybe the touching is over and that's okay- aether isn't 'waiting on the perfect scene'- he's giving him space#and THAT makes it a 'perfect moment' because :P#or whatever that's the intended hand language
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as a persona fan. i HATE atlus. like, theyre always SOOOO close to having really good social commentary on like, pretty much anything in general i guess. but. they pussy out and it has the opposite effect!! like, biggest example that i actually have well formulated thoughts over is persona 4.. i wrote a long ass essay type thing that id honestly like to rewrite now that my thoughts are more solidified on this but, tl;dr… :
kanji isnt gay and naoto isnt trans. kanji’s story is about accepting that hes got feminine traits and learning to stop internalizing what everyone says about him to be true. naoto’s is about accepting that she is a girl, and she IS everything that people look down on her for, and learning to stop rejecting herself just so she isnt disrespected and dismissed by others.
kanji isnt gay and naoto isnt trans, but they should have been. being queer is very obviously a theme in their stories, and without looking deeper into the characters and their arcs, on the surface level, the story is saying that they’re learning to accept that they ARENT queer. which is pretty clearly homophobic and transphobic.
the entire game is about accepting yourself for who you truly are. for the character that is EXPLICITLY stated to be gay and for the character who EXPLICITLY lives socially as a male despite being born a girl to both have their true selves actually be “normal” is… counterintuitive. while it does fit within the theme of accepting yourself, it’s saying to accept yourself as “normal” and “correct”, not as someone who doesnt fit into societal norms. it undermines the idea of being true to yourself. it’s SO close to being a great message that anyone, no matter who they are, can relate to, but it singles out the unusuals, the people who really need to hear that it’s ok to be whoever you are. i could go on and on about how it’s honestly impressive that the writers managed to miss the mark by such a small amount that it ends up completely undermining the entire thing, but it would be redundant (just like my use of the word ‘undermine’ within two run-on sentences..), and i want to take this back to my original point
the writers at atlus are very, very skilled. its amazing, i really really respect them. but at the same time, i think that their ability to write amazing characters and themes and weave them together into a universe with such inconsistent rules is exactly what makes this so infuriating. i KNOW they’re 100% capable of not being misogynistic in their portrayal of women, i KNOW they’re capable of not being homophobic, i KNOW they can take topics like misogyny and homophobia and transphobia and explore the reasoning behind why people are close minded and hateful, and how it affects people who are at the receiving end of the hatred.
but they dont, because either the writers themselves are prejudiced, or what i think is faaaarrr more likely, the executives think it’s too “risky” to talk about and criticize bigotry, and that they want it to be as palatable to everyone as possible. unfortunately that means no gay people, no trans people, no “controversial” minorities in general.. sure, we can have a few complex and well written women as a treat, but they either have to be fanservice or largely irrelevant to the rest of the plot.
no conclusion paragraph this isnt english class
thanks if u read my 11:00 pm hyperfocus fueled rant i am sending you joy and happiness and good things
#life would be so much easier if instead of liking spinoff jrps game series i liked normal things#like… cooking… or gardening#or at least something written for the gays cuz then i wouldn’t have to worry abt this shit#but you know what they say#the best yaoi is made by straight men who dont know they’re making yaoi#habit post#persona#atlus games#persona 4#p4#persona 4 golden#p4g#kanji tatsumi#naoto shirogane#i did not write that for my cries to go unheard#i am in fact tagging for reach#i wanted to add a third statement but couldn’t think of one so im just putting this here#generic farewell
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Gyjo in the fandom
cw: light discussion of ableism
Gyjo… what am I thinking about gyjo…
I like them. I like them a lot, actually. They have paralleled narrative arcs, they complement each other nicely, the romantic subtext is incredibly obvious to the point that even the most homophobic fan you know will admit they understand why people ship it… so why do I also have a problem with it?
There’s a lot of good fanart. Hell, I’ve reblogged plenty. Maybe it’s just something that’s more pronounced in fic.
I’m trying to word this correctly. My issue with gyjo has nothing to do with the text itself. I think my problem is just how people portray it in the fandom.
Maybe it’s because it’s so popular, or maybe it’s the sheer prominence of applying ‘Character A’ and ‘Character B’ dynamics without considerable regard for the characters involved, but I feel gyjo is very prone to flanderization. I believe the intersection with how ableist people are toward Johnny (intentionally or not, subtly or not) and the old tropes these two get shoved into makes it so I have trouble enjoying fics in the fandom.
I’m not saying it’s bad to enjoy certain tropes. I’m not saying headcanons are bad either. What I am saying is that writing is hard, but if you’re going to write fanfiction please have consideration for the characters you’re writing. The arcs of these two are complex and multilayered, which is why I think they have such staying power, but I also think they also provide a good opportunity for us as writers and artists to examine our biases when it comes to the portrayal of certain groups, personality types, mental illnesses, queerness, disability, etc. and maybe come out better people for it.
#gyjo#steel ball run#sbr#jjba#very rough idea of my thoughts concerning their portrayal in the fandom#imo there’s weird implications in any situation where gyro is written as johnny’s doctor or some such since it presents many power issues#again: what I am Not saying is that you can’t have a medical kink or whatever it may be#it’s just that#there’s a prevalence of ableist presentations of Johnny in so many ways but for me it’s especially bad in gyjo fic for whatever reason#perhaps it’s people continuing to write heterocized power tropes for a gay couple#on top of an already complicated presentation of disability and mental illness in the form of Johnny#(thanks Araki)#and to be honest gyro is not treated much better. he’s usually very ooc. I think its probably due to just how much he changes that#people could just find it easier to pick a certain aspect of his personality and make that the whole thing#but I just don’t enjoy the gyjo that’s in the ao3 tag. and I want to emphasize there *is* good stuff by people who do treat these topics#with respect#but it’s not the norm which makes it just not enjoyable to check out the tag#at least to me#vent post#kind of#my posts#gyro Zeppeli#Johnny Joestar#ugh I don’t even know why I’m writing all this#to reiterate this is me talking. on my blog. please don’t hate spam or w/e
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"Awwww my bl mind 🙈" girl go touch some grass because wth
#everyone who sais stuff like that is a red flag in my book#also everyone who's always reading these 🍇 bl manhwas idk#and 'the spice'#straight girls are getting too comfortable fetishizing and sexualizing gay men and it's making me uncomfortable#not art#text#this is a real comment I've seen btw I'm not making it up#I've seen SEVERAL actually not just one#it's ok if you like bl or gl regardless of your sexuality or gender but fujoshis are something else#I love mlm ships too but not only... (also it's easier to like them especially in older media because sometimes there weren't even 2 women)#Anyway if you unironically call yourself a fujoshi reevaluate that choice + understand that it not healthy to obsess over mlm ships so much#it's like when dudes obsess over wlw ships. it's fetishization#there's this one girl on Instagram that's like so obsessed with bl it's making me very uncomfortable#and they're all addicted to 'spice'. that's not healthy either. if you can't follow a story because it doesn't involve boomshakalaka :(
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consider a swap smp aa au where Miles is the pixl
HI I absolutely RAN to my ipad upon seeing this ask to make sure I had some sketches down. Ended up working out some coherent designs ehehe
Man I lowkey like these designs more than I had for the initial AU :') Also OUGH I think Phoenix getting so fucked up and sad that he ends it all is just...kind of neat actually.
#i didn't see the full ask in the notif bar and deadass thought you were gonna say 'where Bleck and co. are in court'#which has been on my mind for sure lol. but i didn't think abt a role reversal version of this au before AA#i love doing the pixl designs it's all about SHAPES#ace attorney#super paper mario#miles edgeworth#phoenix wright#spmaaau#for Phoenix/Nikki I designed Phoenix's clothes and worked out his pixl form based on tbat#for Miles it felt easier to draw a pixl of him. Miles just has a lot of shapeable things going on lol#and then made that gay little outfit#i kinda like the name Mille for him...#you can say it the English way or the French way#the latter meaning Thousand. like he knows a thousand things as a pixl#anyway thanks for this it was incredibly fun to draw these
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Aye yam make king a powst awn tuhmbler dott cahm
#this is spelled correctly#I am not wrong#I'm gay and good at words#actually I'm lesbian-leaning bisexual and good at words#gay is just easier to say#happy pride 🌈
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This post is something that can actually be so personal and no I am not done talking about it. There's a whole concept behind it and the fucking hair ties are just one way of channeling it but oh boy is it a good one. This works so well with the hair braiding too and i cannot think about it to much or i will spontaneously combust, but I had to so I hope you enjoy the result of it.
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Joel has a hair tie on his wrist because Ellie forgets to take a spare and when the first one breaks or she loses it somehow, he can offer it to her before her hair becomes an annoyance.
He has one because she gives it to him sometimes when they're laying on the couch and her ponytail makes resting her head on a pillow or against his chest uncomfortable. At times she also takes it out simply because her scalp is especially sensitive that day and the constant pull becomes painful after a while. There's always another one in his jacket pocket, too, so when Ellie asks him for braids afterward or allows him to do her hair he isn't limited to simpler styles.
It starts with hair ties in Jackson but there are months of different acts preceding it.
Joel carried whatever he could for her, taking more than necessary sometimes because the slim line of her shoulders being weighed down by her backpack made his heart ache even when he couldn't admit it to himself back then, not at first at least. There are water bottles, sweatshirts she cannot quite fit into hers that day, all of their food, whatever first aid materials he can find, even a spare bar of soap.
Then he starts carrying hair ties once they get to Jackson and suddenly he needs to keep a brush on him, too, and with the brush comes a comb and with the comb comes a hat and with the hat comes a homemade creme he traded for since her hands are uncomfortably dry sometimes (she never said so but he knows her), and after that what started as a small piece of twisted fabric turns into him carry a bag around that is filled with everything his brain thinks Ellie might require at some point. Sure, maybe he is being a little bit overprotective and maybe Tommy jokes about getting him a purse several times, but he can offer her sunscreen and a bottle of water during summer, he gives her gloves and a scarf in winter when she doesn't remember to put them on before leaving, there's always one of her books in a side pocket, too, and as soon as he finds her a new one, her Walkman gets an especially safe place in his bag.
And yes, he fusses over her a little bit too much, maybe even to the point of being smothering sometimes (she always tells him to back off when that happens and he does without complaint), but Ellie grew up utterly alone and without someone to look after her for fourteen years, she deserves to know what it is like to be cared about by someone. Whatever she asks for, whatever she needs, he gives it to her even when she could walk home and come back with the thing in question in less than ten minutes. There's always a snack, a spare sweatshirt in case she gets cold, space for the one she takes off when she gets too warm, a small sketchbook and a pencil both as a distraction and so she can draw whenever she feels like it.
No one pays any attention to it, and while Tommy softly teases him about it from time to time, the smile that blooms on Ellie's face when he quietly gives her something she needs based on nothing but hardwired instincts before the words leave her mouth tells him everything he needs to know.
Joel might not be good with words, but he continues to carry a bag and hands her little pieces of his love time and time again, hoping she can put the puzzle together, hoping she knows.
Ellie does the same, hoping Joel notices it, hoping he knows what it means, that with every time she tells him to rest, every cup of coffee on his nightstand, every night spent in his bed when she wakes to the mere suggestion of a nightmare and brushes them away before they can settle so she can put herself in their place instead, every trashy action movie she borrows from the library for their weekly movie night, every handmade guitar pick she gifts him, every single gesture she does not have to do but does regardless because she wants to, she is saying I love you, too.
They notice, they care, they willing hand over carefully chosen parts of themselves and the puzzle they piece together is one and the same, because paying attention to things is how they show love and it is oh so easy when there is nothing to look at but each other.
#alex writes tlou#the last of us#tlou#joel and ellie#joel miller#ellie williams#fanfic#miller family#episode 3 reference because i go insane over half the lines they say fucking craig i hate you i hate you what did you do to my brain#also i finally got the bill and frank strawberry shirt and i am wearing it right now and i am in love#two old gay men living a happy life in the apocalypse is actually so defining to me as a lesbian#does that make sense probably not but its true#anyway inbox open as always it is easier to write you something if it's related to my current brain rot topic but i get to everything#eventually i just wanna do it properly
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Bad thought - what if the Daniel Molloy we've been following... isn't really Daniel Molloy?
What if the original Daniel Molloy was killed in the 1970s and the Daniel Molloy now, the Daniel Molloy we're watching interview the vampires, was some poor boy they picked up at the gay bar and brainwashed into thinking he was Daniel Molloy?
And the 'real' Daniel Molloy was that body in the bag?
#interview with the vampire#iwtv#iwtv s2#iwtv spoilers#now that I finally got a chance to see what it was armand was saying in the flashback#telling Daniel what he used to do with his dad's playboys#like this poor gay boy thought he was going home with a cute guy only to get his entire life written over like a floppy disk just because#they accidentally killed the first daniel molloy#and it was easier to replace daniel molloy with some no name rather than let the up and coming author be found murdered#OR THERE'S AN EVEN DEEPER CONSPIRACY AT PLAY HERE BY REPLACING DANIEL MOLLOY
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how do i become less of a weenie time sensitive
#i am going out of my fucking mind rn#they need to invent a me who is less afraid of having desires#or an easier way to suggest having gay sex with your friends#also all of my bedsheets that don’t have dinosaurs are packed up for moving. so.#i’m gonna lose it. get me OUT OF HERE!!!#(here being. idk the human experience)#just when you think youve hit rock bottom etc#not to show emotion but#i shant say
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