#respect nonbinary people

[fairyd0g]

All those words to say you're a woman?

what words have I said to indicate that I'm a woman. pretty sure it was none cause I'm not lol.

[mcsiggy]

its been awhile since i posted any artemis or athena so uh here you go.

[uncanny-tranny]

You know, I'm not a cheerleader for cis people who get gender-affirming care (especially if it's "gender nonconforming," such as a cis guy who gets vaginoplasty) because I think cis people are superior or that they should be coddled, but rather, because I don't want people to respect my gender-related care simply because I'm trans. I want people to respect my bodily autonomy because... I'm a human person. It sometimes feels like people want you to prove that they should respect your bodily autonomy, and that's something I fundamentally despise.

I shouldn't need to be open about my transness in order to be respected because... that's not information you're inherently privileged to, nor are you entitled to somebody's transness/gender situation in general. I prefer that we start seeing gender care as something that isn't "for" one group of people when that's not how the world will work, y'know. There will always be people who seek specific care no matter what or who they are, because they're human people who can make decisions.

[tomurakii]

Seeing Silco and Vander together in the AU lowkey feels like watching your based nonbinary best friend get back with their shitty ex boyfriend who misgenders them. Girl he's a centrist and he tried to drown you stfu about "forgiveness"

[thedandelionresistance]

[ugly-anarchist]

I think there needs to be some kind of bridge between "do what you want forever, labels are made for you not the other way around" and "these labels mean something and the community around them might get hurt if you don't treat them with respect and also some specific experiences deserve their own specific labels"

Like, I get wanting to be accepting of everyone but at the same time treating queer labels like they actually mean nothing and anyone who tries to say "oh hey maybe don't do that" is just a cop who wants to exclude people isn't great.

Like obviously exclusionism is bad and people who just hate anyone who isn't like them shouldn't have their opinion respected but at the same time it's like... These words are important and the people being like "they're just words who cares" clearly don't respect the history and community effort put into them.

[popcornoncemore]

One of the things I just adore about the fannon portrayal of Jehan Prouvaire is how most people depict him as effeminate or nonbinary, somewhat introverted, shy, and disinclined to aggression, but they do so with nuance.

Jehan isn't shown to be defenseless or weak-willed, he fights for what he believes in and generally doesn't fall into that delicate twink stereotype. So often, I find the characters I relate to most cannot be shown as both the queer, eccentric, and introverted type as well as the assertive and strong character. Jehan stands out, however.

[lgbtqtext]

[annabelle--cane]

madam e, lying down in the tattoo chair as ink5oul holds her down and causes her unspeakable pain: I think I hauve covid

[lgbtq-userboxes]

[astralleywright]

and if i said that part of the reason a lot of ppl aren't as into C3 is because of the dearth of truly mass appeal M/M options.

[hiimcanadia]

Oh, I learned about a new thing at the summit this weekend and I'm curious about other trans people's opinions on it!

A therapist who spoke mentioned that some parts of the community & medical field are pushing to use the term "blending" as an alternative to "passing." The explanation given was that "passing" has the implication that there is one ideal way to be a certain gender and that trans people should/ are pressured to work towards that ideal, while "blending" acknowledges that there are multiple ways of presenting that will still allow you to blend in with the general population.

He'd apparently learned this term from practitioners in the West Coast area, but none of us in the Midwest had ever heard it and we had a very interesting conversation about it! So I'd love to know if anyone else from the community has heard this before and what your takes are!

[uncanny-tranny]

With how dangerous binding and tucking can be, it's wild to me that in so many ways, the onus of having your basic humanity respected often hinges on ensuring that you do whatever you can to minimize your body. And it's extra wild when you're told how nobody will respect you, but I have had plenty of interactions with (just to name a couple of examples) men who don't bind and women who don't pack, and it's actually so easy to engage with them without laser-focusing on their body.

I was always told that respect hinges on earning it - a trans person earns respect (see: people almost begrudgingly seeing and/or affirming who they are) when we prove ourselves. As a kid, I didn't have the financial or familial support to bind, so I used bandages. Like, I remember leaving class to take them off because I was in so much pain, and it just makes me think that there is a whole lot of difference between the workloads of trans people and certain others. I don't think putting my body in physical risk like that is the same mental and physical workload as... using a name, using pronouns, seeing the person and who they are.

[silliestcreature196]

Here's a reminder to love EVERY trans person in your life. Yes, even "those ones". ESPECIALLY "those ones".

Do not make "others" out of your peers.

Boys who don't bind deserve your love.

Girls who don't shave deserve your love.

Enbies who don't present perfect androgyny deserve your love.

Anyone who doesn't actually go on HRT deserves your love.

Folks that don't voice train deserve your love.

Love them, while they're still here. Don't lose them. Cherish them. And by God, if you compare any mildly-chubby trans girl with messy hair to Chris Chan I will fucking crucify you on the evening news.

[legalownerofufoemoji]

Hi your friendly neighborhood Satt/Tee/直斗 here, this is your yearly pride announcement that both "not all intersex people are queer inherently" and "an intersex person calling themselves queer means they are queer even if you don't understand" are both true statements at the same time! And if you don't respect ALL types of intersex people and include them in your fight for equal rights, get the fuck off my blog, thanks!

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

sorry just every day i think about how people not only use “transmasc” and “transfem” as a new rigid gender identity but also a sex binary where if you’re a Vagina Haver and trans you’re automatically transmasc and if you’re a Penis Haver and trans you’re automatically transfem and if you don’t fit neatly into that I guess you just don’t exist or something bc people forget intersex people exist even more than nonbinary people yet steal their language 🙄

like, bro. male and female, or even “masculine” and “feminine” are not the only options. you can be both male and female. you can be a third gender. you can be neither. as long as you have very rigid sex and gender binaries like that you’re inherently explicitly excluding any nonbinary or intersex person who doesn’t fit into your extremely narrow view of what being trans is