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All those words to say you're a woman?
what words have I said to indicate that I'm a woman. pretty sure it was none cause I'm not lol.
#not sure if you're acting clueless or being transphobic or both ig#respect nonbinary people#maybe by NOT asking them dumb shit like this.#nonbinary#hi fairyd0g#asks
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You know, I'm not a cheerleader for cis people who get gender-affirming care (especially if it's "gender nonconforming," such as a cis guy who gets vaginoplasty) because I think cis people are superior or that they should be coddled, but rather, because I don't want people to respect my gender-related care simply because I'm trans. I want people to respect my bodily autonomy because... I'm a human person. It sometimes feels like people want you to prove that they should respect your bodily autonomy, and that's something I fundamentally despise.
I shouldn't need to be open about my transness in order to be respected because... that's not information you're inherently privileged to, nor are you entitled to somebody's transness/gender situation in general. I prefer that we start seeing gender care as something that isn't "for" one group of people when that's not how the world will work, y'know. There will always be people who seek specific care no matter what or who they are, because they're human people who can make decisions.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#and like sometimes i personally don't 'get' when a cis person makes gender-affirming care decisions because we're different people!!!#you don't HAVE to 'get' it to respect it#and sometimes it comes across almost as... objectifying? when people only respect my gender care because im a trans male...#...like to me it comes across as 'you have now proven your trans insanoty and it would come across as wrong for me to deny your autonomy...#...so i GUESS i respect it' and maybe that's not what people mean but it does sometimes come across like that#like... i guess WHY is it that your respect for one's gender care hinges on if they're trans or not
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All the jokes about Ken and horses are good but I just wanna say it's such a good parallel to how actual young men get swept into misogyny and the patriarchy.
Like they're told to believe it means men get to be cool and manly and have this power but with that comes extremely rigid commands of what they can be as a man and a cycle of self hatred for never matching those gender roles perfectly. Patriarchy tells men that if they just do exactly what is expected of them, then they get all the "cool stuff" that comes with. That doesn't work though when there's only a small group that actually gets that power, but men will keep trying to fit into those roles in hopes that they can.
In the end there are no horses or the myth men are told, it's just endless cycles of self hatred and ingroup fighting.
#barbie#barbie movie#barbie spoilers#ig#ive got a lot more on how barbie looks at feminism and the patriarchy cause god they did it#not to say there isnt faults such as very little conversation about intersectionality#but i can also understand the impossible task of talking about EVERYTHING in one movie#not everyone will be happy and thats fine#anyway i think something barbie did really well is fight this battle of both wanting so deeply to love (romantically or not) men but also#not dismissing the fact its mens job to solve their problems themselves#that even if women need to be the front runners of breaking the patriarchy men cannot rely on them to solve their own problems completely#also just god im so glad this wasnt a girl boss slay movie#women deserve respect and love and life regardless of accomplishment#we should not have to be ceos and presidents and world problem solvers to gain equality#i can also understand if nonbinary people feel left out/disconnected from the movie#but as always gender abolition and acknowledging the gender binary (ie the one societially impossed) go hand and hand 👍#just incase cause idfk terfs dni the barbie movie is not for you#barbie literally states constantly that her gender has nothing to do with (non existent) genitals so f off
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I think there needs to be some kind of bridge between "do what you want forever, labels are made for you not the other way around" and "these labels mean something and the community around them might get hurt if you don't treat them with respect and also some specific experiences deserve their own specific labels"
Like, I get wanting to be accepting of everyone but at the same time treating queer labels like they actually mean nothing and anyone who tries to say "oh hey maybe don't do that" is just a cop who wants to exclude people isn't great.
Like obviously exclusionism is bad and people who just hate anyone who isn't like them shouldn't have their opinion respected but at the same time it's like... These words are important and the people being like "they're just words who cares" clearly don't respect the history and community effort put into them.
#this post isnt advocating for exclusionism btw#im just of the opinion that labels should be#used with good faith and respect#as well as being well informed about the meaning of the label itself#and that people who point out a lack of these things#should be listened to#instead of immediately being labeled a cop#idk what to tag this as#exclusionists dni#queer#lgbtqia#queer discourse#idk im just gonna tag my own shit#aspec#aro#aromantic#arospec#alloaro#aroallo#bi#bisexual#intersex#intersexuality#actually intersex#nonbinary#enby#genderqueer#trans#transgender#sapphic
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One of the things I just adore about the fannon portrayal of Jehan Prouvaire is how most people depict him as effeminate or nonbinary, somewhat introverted, shy, and disinclined to aggression, but they do so with nuance.
Jehan isn't shown to be defenseless or weak-willed, he fights for what he believes in and generally doesn't fall into that delicate twink stereotype. So often, I find the characters I relate to most cannot be shown as both the queer, eccentric, and introverted type as well as the assertive and strong character. Jehan stands out, however.
#probably because he's a character largely written by a bunch of queer people who understand how one can be fem and “demure”#and also a fighter and a leader#fannon jehan has definitely helped me reflect on my identity as a nonbinary queer and fem person and recognize that those traits don't#detract from respectability#anyways good morning I'm ranting about dead French twinks again#les amis#les mis#jehan#jehan prouvaire#queer characters#les miserables#barricade boys#popcornwithnate
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#respect peoples pronouns#lgbtqtext#lgbtq text#animated text#word art#pronouns#green#trans#transgender#nonbinary#lgbtq#lgbtq+#lgbtqia#queer#trans positivity#transgender positivity#nonbinary positivity#queer positivity#lgbtq activism#trans safe#transgender safe#nonbinary safe
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madam e, lying down in the tattoo chair as ink5oul holds her down and causes her unspeakable pain: I think I hauve covid
#the only thing about madam e I respect: horniness for mean nonbinary people#tmagp#tmagp spoilers#marina marvels at life
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#this user is not comfortable with being called queer#queer has been widely reclaimed but not entirely. please respect people's boundaries!#tw queer#tw q slur#tw slur#lgbtq-userboxes#lgbtq userboxes#lgbtq userbox#lgbtq+#lgbtq#lgbtqia+#lgbtqia#userbox#userboxes#trans#transgender#lesbian#gay#bi#bisexual#pan#pansexual#ace#asexual#aro#aromantic#aroace#nonbinary#enby
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and if i said that part of the reason a lot of ppl aren't as into C3 is because of the dearth of truly mass appeal M/M options.
#even in the best case scenario you have to deal with one of them being a non-standard body type. nonbinary. or perhaps scariest of all: old#the closest by far is dor/ym and the amount of people who have spent years singleminded on dorian coming back/#people coming out of the woodwork now or who get this ship but not what the rest of c3 is going for#or who think it works so well but that imodna is boring and underdeveloped is.#well its interesting.#crposting#cr discourse#<- will regret that tag but im half asleep and trying to respect blacklists
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Oh, I learned about a new thing at the summit this weekend and I'm curious about other trans people's opinions on it!
A therapist who spoke mentioned that some parts of the community & medical field are pushing to use the term "blending" as an alternative to "passing." The explanation given was that "passing" has the implication that there is one ideal way to be a certain gender and that trans people should/ are pressured to work towards that ideal, while "blending" acknowledges that there are multiple ways of presenting that will still allow you to blend in with the general population.
He'd apparently learned this term from practitioners in the West Coast area, but none of us in the Midwest had ever heard it and we had a very interesting conversation about it! So I'd love to know if anyone else from the community has heard this before and what your takes are!
#my personal take was that passing and blending feel like two separate goals#but now that I've had more time to think about it i think that it might be a good idea to present this to young trans people#who are especially concerned about passing#just to give them the idea that there is no one way they have to look in order to be safe & respected & valid#idk though! im still thinking about it!!#2pm in the morning#trans#transgender#lgbt#nonbinary#queer#queer terms
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Here's a reminder to love EVERY trans person in your life. Yes, even "those ones". ESPECIALLY "those ones".
Do not make "others" out of your peers.
Boys who don't bind deserve your love.
Girls who don't shave deserve your love.
Enbies who don't present perfect androgyny deserve your love.
Anyone who doesn't actually go on HRT deserves your love.
Folks that don't voice train deserve your love.
Love them, while they're still here. Don't lose them. Cherish them. And by God, if you compare any mildly-chubby trans girl with messy hair to Chris Chan I will fucking crucify you on the evening news.
#rambling#positivity#trans#transgender#trans pride#trans rights#transfem#transmasc#ftm#mtf#respect trans people#enby#nonbinary#trans enby
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Hi your friendly neighborhood Satt/Tee/直斗 here, this is your yearly pride announcement that both "not all intersex people are queer inherently" and "an intersex person calling themselves queer means they are queer even if you don't understand" are both true statements at the same time! And if you don't respect ALL types of intersex people and include them in your fight for equal rights, get the fuck off my blog, thanks!
#satt speaks#temporarily pinned post for pride month!#but this is true year round#if you don't respect intersex people genuinely block me#thog dont caare#intersex#nonbinary
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I think the thing people sometimes forget about the Pronoun Debate is that it ultimately isn't about the pronouns
It's about people who are upset that trans people have the nerve to say we don't want to be disrespected anymore.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#people who say that they/them is 'ungrammatical' for instace... many of them KNOW that they use they/them all the time...#...but it isn't about 'they/them is ungrammatical!' it's about the fact that people are requiring you to respect their personhood
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sorry just every day i think about how people not only use “transmasc” and “transfem” as a new rigid gender identity but also a sex binary where if you’re a Vagina Haver and trans you’re automatically transmasc and if you’re a Penis Haver and trans you’re automatically transfem and if you don’t fit neatly into that I guess you just don’t exist or something bc people forget intersex people exist even more than nonbinary people yet steal their language 🙄
like, bro. male and female, or even “masculine” and “feminine” are not the only options. you can be both male and female. you can be a third gender. you can be neither. as long as you have very rigid sex and gender binaries like that you’re inherently explicitly excluding any nonbinary or intersex person who doesn’t fit into your extremely narrow view of what being trans is
#like. literally all i ask is for people to stop acting like the only trans people that exist#are Vagina Haver transmascs and Penis Haver transfems. perisex of course#like that’s literally just transmedicalist shit but you replaced trans man and trans woman with masc and fem instead#and I don’t believe for one second people who do this actually would respect gender identities that aren't able to be binarised#like. I’m not even asking for much just stop acting like nonbinary and intersex people don’t exist#intersexism#exorsexism
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to be honest, volunteering my preferred pronouns for the student roster/grading platform (it's attached to my name and face and supposedly all faculty look at it), having it nearly the size of my name on my required nametag, and at each new-group introduction (being brave when no one else volunteers their own) and still being misgendered multiple times a day every day at least 5 days a week, like it feels like I might as well just wear clown make-up at this point
#not to say being nonbinary or being misgendered makes me or anyone a clown but it makes me feel so foolish#like its hard enough to hear people being wrong but when to try and start the conversation and say hey here's a way to show basic respect#and then be ignored lol#its vulnerable and kinda difficult and tbh nerve-wracking in a room of literal strangers responsible for my success#also sorry for all the gender/pronoun rants as of late but it has officially caught up to me#and it is. week 13 of 52 :')#delete later#the speaking clown
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i understand the frustration with “i made this gay pairing cis x trans so they can still have biological babies” with no thought to other methods and how ppl assume thats the case when it comes to mothpool aus where mothwing is also the mother of the three, but also…. idk i kinda dont give a shit if someone wants to do that and i dont really think its inherently transphobic as long as its handled with care and respect.
what really concerns me about this debate is how some people are adamant that you cannot portray trans people having biological children in media or youre being disrespectful. and im gonna say as a nonbinary person who doesnt want children for themself- thats kinda fucking weird? like i understand that for some people, theyre trans themselves and theyre speaking from a place of dysphoria, and i absolutely get that, which is why i think the topic should be handled with nuance and diversity in trans characters, but like…. guys. pregnant trans men exist irl. trans women get people pregnant irl. trans ppl’s ability and right to parent and have biological children are being debated irl. we get denied the opportunity to adopt as well.
in a climate like this, are we SURE we want the stance on rewrites and headcanons in the silly cat books to be “if you portray trans characters having children, especially with a gay couple, youre a transphobic freak no matter what!” does it really matter? especially if its being done by a trans person handling the topic with nuance who has a lot of trans characters with varying perspectives?
obviously yes, remember that thats not the only way certain gay couples can have kids, remember that not every trans person is fully comfortable with it and keep that in mind, remember that surrogacy and adoption are also perfectly valid ways to give fan babies- but remember that there are OPTIONS. not that you need to condemn the idea of transgender parents in the first place unless they fit the very specific criteria of “proper transgender representation” and anything that dares deviate from that is proof the op is a transphobic monster (bonus points if theyre a trans creator bc i mostly see trans people getting shit for this and it kinda pisses me off. although idm if cis people do it either as long as theyre handling it with respect)
#and this isnt getting into how trans mothwing outside of mothpool is a really good way to read her character#sorry. remembered the shit bonefall got despite being trans as well and got annoyed#that especially annoys me bc hes got plenty of surrogacies but the second hed touch a trans pregnancy#‘’no you cant do that!!! you freak!!! obviously you only see trans people as a loophole for gays to have babies!!!’’#also my gf and i were talking and obviously take this with a grain of salt bc this is our experience#but…. i think a lot of the ppl saying this……. havent really talked to trans women?#dude some of the ones i know LOVE the idea of getting people pregnant#did you know trans women have sex? did you know trans people in general have sex?? did you know trans people irl wanna start families?#did you know that? did you? or do you black out at the idea of a trans woman being anything but strictly pure and nonsexual#and OBVIOUSLY this is not every trans woman. some do have dysphoria around the idea#but im genuinely starting to wonder how these people act around irl transgender parents#whether they had kids before or after coming out#bc ngl. the attitude that thinking about this makes you a transphobic pervert?#directed at trans people making content for themselves?#im starting to think you all just dont want us to reproduce. if we reproduce we arent ‘’good’’ trans people#because a ‘’real’’ man wouldnt carry a child. a ‘’real’’ woman would carry the child. and god forbid the gays even THINK about reproducing#and being around children!#if we have children then we’re doing things that might make cishets look at us and declare we’re not perfect#we’ve proved we’re not just identical to cis ppl!! (and therefore deserving of respect!)#idk. i think this was mostly a case of tumblr going ‘’oh someone said no to this so lets push this to an unhealthy extreme!!’’#and i cant help but notice nobody really brings up nonbinary parents at all in this discussion#not that we have it ‘’better’’ or anything for that but yknow. are we supposed to swear it off?#is the idea of us having kids inconcievable? or worse…. does it mean we ‘’picked a side?’’#so its not even worth getting mad at a pregnant nb person bc ‘’well thats a woman so who cares’’b#HMMMMM.#ohhhh i bet they also get mad if you make transfem pregnancy possible too. no winning#idk really think about it when you go ‘’you can NEVER EVER portray a trans person starting a family. bc REAL trans people would never.’’#ohhh you probably get mad when trans ppl dont get surgery for one reason or another dontcha#whether we want to or its not in the cards for us for whatever reason like cost and such#(while also getting mad if we do bc we cannot win in this no matter what)
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