#reflecting and realizing how good things are getting🤍

[thevirgodoll]

so in awe of the woman i am becoming. getting to know HER has been such an honor. it is a true blessing to experience myself and witness this metamorphosis.

i love ME. REAL BAD. 💕

[thedivinetarot]

Is this happiness?

Your views of love

☆How to chose the perfect pile for you?

1) Close your eyes.

2) Clear your mind.

3) Take a deep breathe.

3) Ask the question in your head. And the picture you are drawn to the most is your pile.

☆Note:

- This reading will help you reflect on how you see love, especially the romantic love.

- It also analysis your current energy.

- Before you chose any pile take a step and focus only on the intention of finding how you view love.

- Pile 4 is triggering, read at your own risk.

Stay safe❤

Arya

Pile 1

How's your current energy?

Hello pile 1🤍 (this pile is for people in committed relationship, if you are single or not seeing anyone then it is not your pile. Even if you have a crush or dating short-term or hooking up, kindly chose something else)

So, right of the bat I see that you may be a little bit ungrounded and you feel kind of imbalanced? I see that you may have had a disagreement with your partner. But not that big you broke up, no, he may be in the next room setting there doing his own thing. Or maybe he is trying to understand the problem from your perspective. I feel emotional guys, you both madly in love with each other so don't worry. The problem will be solved and you both will be able to look back and laugh of how silly it was. It is like a little disagreement between you two. He might be a water sign (Scorpio, Pisces or cancer) or he might have those placements. And you might be an earth sign (Capricorn, virgo and taurus) or you have those placements. I see you two had this disagreement because of a woman around you, she might be a friend of yours or his. Don't let her affect your relationship. Give yourselves some time then come back to discuss what happened or how you feel. Anyways, let's get into the reading.

How do you view love?

This pile’s energy is so sweet and innocent. They view love as this everlasting thing that make you stronger. You might be someone who was miserable and devastated before meeting your partner. And when your partner came into your life, you had this spiritual awakening and you started to realize how sad and depressed you were. I see that you may be someone who used to do alot of good things to people, you have like this cute little sunny energy but unfortunately people who was drawn to you wanted to suck up on that light. Or it might be your partner (take what resonates). Anyways, so when your partner entered your life he might opened your eyes and showed you the bigger picture if you know what I mean. He might helped you to be more authentic or powerful. I have this image of someone who was ungrounded or is clueless of their own potential and when your partner entered your life he helped you to be more aware of how powerful you are. So, you started to see love as this powerful energy that transform your deepest strength into power. I see that your partner might be older than you or he might be a gentle dominant. Like he doesn't really pressure you to do what you do not want to do. Also this pile is a sweetheart; you see love as belonging (I feel like crying). You might feel like your partner is your whole family, he is your home. He make you feel content and happy that your views on love are so pink and Disney like. I see that you see love through pink colored glasses. Love is that HUGE wonderful thing that you can feel with your partner. Your partner always elevate you and make you feel more confident in yourself. You might be someone who struggled with self worth and you always linked your outer beauty to your inner worth. It doesn't have to be but that's how you viewed yourself.

Thank you for reading

Stay safe🤍.

Pile 2

How's Your current energy?

This pile might have been dealing with spiritual awakening. I see you simultaneously trying to do shadow work but it is not over. If you constantly working on your negative beliefs and consume endless content about spirituality without taking breaks to reflect and reassess yourself you might get confused. I see you feeling sad and depressed, you may think that you belong no where. Your family life is chaotic and no one is there to understand what you are going through. You are in a transitional period. I see that the chapter you are trying to close is not finished so it cause you further frustration and you keep wondering if you are doing the right work or not. I see that from inside things seems chaotic; it is like you are on a roller-coaster, up and down. This is a part of spiritual awakening pile 2, you need to embrace it. I know it is hard and unpredictable but believe me you'll feel good after a couple of months. Try to meditate at night it will help you fall asleep, also you don't have to take everything on your shoulder. Try to break the task step by step. Try Journaling it is going to help you so much. I feel like there's still things that you need to work on in order for this chapter to finish but Do NOT try to rush healing. It takes time and effort but it will be worth it. Now let's get into the reading.

How do you view love?

You view love as stability pile 2. You want stability, you want long term commitment, you want someone whom you can depend on emotionally and you provide for them financially. You may be someone who take ages to trust people and let them into your life. I see that you are very generous with effort and money, you give your heart and serve it on a golden plate. I also see that trust is something very important. Like if you don't trust someone they will never know anything about you. I see that in the past you trusted the wrong people, you gave them everything you have that it caused you to feel devastated and frustrated. People might used you financially or for your money. I feel like this pile really like to support people by providing for them, you might give people that you love money, food, and other materialistic things like gifts and you do it A LOT. you are someone who is afraid to repeat the same mistake by giving people chances and helping them so you are now putting walls around your heart. I see that you are rejecting many romantic offers even if those people seem nice and your type. You don't want anyone pile 2. This pile is so generous financially tbh. Listen to me pile 2, there's nothing wrong with helping others but don't let the past define your future. Not everyone is interested in the materials, especially money. I mean yes money is important but it is not everything. And I'm sure you'll find good people whom you share your life and resources with. Also I feel like this pile like to watch others from afar and observe them. The dominant energy on this pile are earth signs (Virgo, Taurus and Capricorn). Anyways that's all I have for you pile 2.

Take care❤.

Pile 3

How's your current energy?

I see that this pile is isolated and if not isolated then you may be reflecting on yourself a lot. I see that you are pouring all of your focus inward. You truly are in the hermit mode. I see that some people in this pile are feeling nostalgic to someone, there's this urge of reaching out to this person. I think they miss you too pile 3, and if you don't reach out they will. I see a lot of feelings between you two you might be connected to each other on a spiritual level. Others in this pile are in fact are nostalgic to their childhood? You may be thinking of how you used to enjoy things in a child's wonder but it is not how it used to be. This pile are working on themselves, I see you may be doing inner work (meditation, reflection, shdow work) or outer work (losing weight, working out, trying to change something about your appearance like your hairstyle or hair color or your style). Anyways, I don't really see any dominant placements for this pile. I see also that this pile is living mundane life, like there's this unbreakable routine to you guys. Like you might be waking up, doing the same things that you did yesterday and then go to sleep in endless cycle. Try to get out pile 3, go watch the sunrise or sunset. Don't waste your life waiting for opportunities. Go make them yourself, make memories. Reach out to that person, play with children, book that trip. Do something pile three don't waste your time waiting for life to happen.

How do you view love?

See pile three now I understand why you are living like this. You are waiting for the kind of love that is going to set you on fire. What I mean you see love as this exciting and otherworldly thing? You might be influenced by movies and love songs. I don't know why I keep singing "off to the races by Lana Del Rey", this song has literally all the things you want in your love life. You want excitement, danger, possessiveness and awakening to your potential. See that one scene from the vampire diaries where Damon met Elena and heard her talking on the phone about breaking up with Matt, this scene here. That's what you really want pile 3. You might be someone who was in a long term relationship but after breaking up with that person you felt drained and tired. It left you collecting the pieces of your heart by yourself. I see that you took a lot of time healing. Ooooh yes I got it now pile 3! You might be someone who is afraid of the idea of love because you get sucked in and consumed by it. I see that you are someone who might have attachment issues, I see that you can get the love you desire but you need to figure out how your attachment style work. You can search about attachment style and see which one is yours so you can know how to deal with it. Also I do see that you need a partner who is going to keep your identity in the relationship without really losing it. I think that's what you need pile 3 to keep your identity without being mixed and dissolved in one another and a lot of passion and this giddy nervous feeling. I see! That's why you are waiting for things to happen instead of making them, because that thing you consider is very hard to get. But you can have something like that if you find the right person. Sorry that I didn't write a lot in this pile since I included many things that suggest how you view love.

Take care pile 3 and stay safe❤.

Pile 4

How's your current energy?

Pile 4 Are you being challenged on your healing journey? I see that you either been challenged or you are being bullied by someone. I see that this person has a nasty energy. They are not leaving you alone and they are always picking up fights with you. Like they love how you react and how tormented you feel. This person is literally draining the light out of you. I see that someone is being abusive to you. I don't see a partner here and if it is please you don't have to stay with them. It is like someone here is being abused and challenged, like cornered by someone else. I see that this person (whoever that person is) isolating you and paralyzing you. You might be grounded? I mean in your house? I see that you are trying to pick up the courage to face them, please do it Pile 4 so you can get rid of them. Returning to the first case; if there's no one abusing you, then you might be feeling challenged on your healing journey. There's this beliefs that is keeping you stuck or paralyzed you are isolating yourself because you are afraid of someone hurting you. I'm seeing that you were being treated unfairly by others. So, as an outcome you became so afraid to live authentically again. I see that this fear is taking the light out of you. But I see courage, like you started to realize that there's light at the end of the tunnel. And that you shouldn't be afraid because you already took the lesson. And now I see that you are trying to enjoy life after being afraid of it. This pile has also mixed placements so I don't see any need to writing it down here.

How do you view love?

This pile got the worst cards and it is so terrible. As a tarot reader I've never seen something like that before, at first you got good cards but then the bad ones kept jumping out. So, I returned them and reshuffled but they fall again soo🤷🏻‍♀️. Okay let's start out, I see that this pile see love as a torment love story. At first you tell yourself that everything is amazing and great and there's this sharing of resources between two partners and then boom everything is going to turn out to be abusive and heartbreaking. You guys might have dated a lot of narcissists. John and the letter K can be significant? I don't know why all of sudden I get that. Anyways, you know how narcissists at first treat you so well you think that is too good to be true and your prince charming has finally arrived but then everything suddenly turn 180° with them. Like they start controlling you, limiting your interactions, then they isolate you to abuse you furthermore and then after they take what they want they leave you for someone else. This pile’s view of love is very sad and distorted. I see that you view love as devastation. Like you might die because of it. You might be someone who has been to a lot of karmic lessons with narcissists or people who have extreme mental problems. You might see yourself as their savior but I return to you getting abused and mistreated. I see that a lot of times you were the victim in a relationship that you thought was love but it is not love pile 4! Number 5 is significant, you might be life path number 5, or your birthday have this number. Love is pure and genuine, this pile is almost the opposite of pile 1 (you can read it to know how they view love). Listen pile 4, love is something so pure, so gentle and heart warming. But what you felt wasn't love. It was attachment, manipulation and control. It was not love! Also love put you at ease, I see that you may be someone who might have CPTSD. Now I got it pile 4! That's why at the beginning of this reading I felt like someone is mistreating you! Hey don't let that person play you and walk away. Start walking away from that situation, move on. There's plenty of people out there who are going to treat you well. And if you are already walking away then I'm saluting you. Stay strong pile 4. You can do it! I believe in you!

Stay safe❤.

Post date: 29th/Aug/2024-Thur

*Feedback is appreciated

[jungwondazed]

not sure if your asks are open or not but I’m obsessed with your writing and was wondering if you had any thoughts on jungwon or Sunghoon + mirror sex? i hope you have a good new year!! 🤍

i don't see jungwon as one that has mirrors in his room for the sole purposes of fucking, but when he happens to realize wherever you two are staying does have a mirror, ideas start forming in his head. jungwon enjoys mirror sex when you both stay at a hotel where the wall mirror faces right across the bed. his grin is smug as it's the first thing he notices when he walks in. he seduces you by giving you sloppy kisses on your shoulder when you're checking yourself in the mirror. "you look so pretty today, incase i haven't told you" and you're always shy at his words of affection. his gentle hands fondle your breasts and move down to your waist, and at this point you're a panting mess who knows exactly what he wants.

sunghoon keeps a full length mirror in the corner of his room that conveniently faces his bed. when you first come over you assume nothing of it, everyone has to look at themselves in the mirror right? and with a face and physique like his, you don't blame him at all. it's not until you get intimate with him when you realize how often he brings your gaze to the reflection, and he's staring right with you. sunghoon pushes your arch down with one hand on your lower back, and the other hand deep in your hair, forcing you to keep your gaze straight at the mirror. he loves seeing you watch your struggling face as he pounds into you.

[theambitiouswoman]

how to not worry when people say mean things about you or be weird with you or love to pull you down? like how to not be affected by the things other people do? you seem like an awesome , happy , smart , and amazing person and i don’t know if people do weird things but how do you not take it personal and handle it? i feel as though i give my energy away by confronting everyone and i need to learn to not engage and treat them like they’re irrelevant but it can be hard so i need a new mindset

I know it can be hard to not feel affected about what people say about us. What’s helped me is realizing that most of the time, when people are mean or try to pull you down, it says more about them than it does about you. None of those people I would switch places with. And none of those people pay my bills. I think once you become secure with yourself and have goals that are important to you, you stop caring about outside noise.

To be honest, I don’t know what people say about me anymore lol I don’t think people say bad things behind my back but who knows. And if someone says something hurtful to me I extremely quick to cut someone off, ignore, laugh, if I’m bored I’ll say something spicey haha It’s just irrelevant to me. Personally I am only receptive to people when I know they care about me and that’s the only opinion I’ll trust come with good intentions. I can tell you with absolute certainty that no one disrespects me IRL.

Before I used to get so much hate, bullying and judgement literally just for existing and I actually believed it. Looking back I realize now that none of those things were even real and those people were actually absolute miserable insecure jerks :) still are too. Lesson in there!

You shouldn’t have anyone in your life that makes you feel bad about yourself. No matter who they are. If they care about you and you express that what they said hurt, they would fix it. If they don’t fix it, they don’t care and have to GO! We worry about others because we crave connection and fear rejection or judgment. We seek validation, compare ourselves to others, or avoid conflict to stay in others’ good graces. If we are unfulfilled, we might cling to others to give us the approval were not giving ourselves. Past negative experiences can also make us overly focused on people’s opinions. But the truth is, others’ opinions don’t define you—what matters is staying true to yourself and your values.

With that being said!

Don’t take it personally. Their their actions are a reflection of their issues, not your worth.

It’s your world and you decide who you want to be in it. Not everyone deserves to be in your world and not everyone deserves a response either.

If it triggers you, it’s something you should address with yourself. It’s not your fault and it may not be true but it bothers you for a reason, so address it with yourself so you can gain confidence in that area.

When you know your value, it’s easier to let irrelevant people stay irrelevant.

It’s a skill and it takes practice, but it does get easier 🤍

[ronkeyroo]

A positive Update

Friends, kind folk - Hello Again 🤍

Ever since my last update post, I've been thinking about it , a lot ;; I knew I needed time to cook and reflect, and im so glad I gave myself that...

2024 started rough for me; I fell severely ill again - I was too busy cursing my life and dwelling over how betrayed I felt by things still not getting better despite my efforts that I didn't realize I was walking into a self fulfilling prophecy. Its true that the struggles I'm going through are yet to be solved, that its gotten so much to the point giving up seemed easier, and that a couple individuals haven't been making it easier on me either; I swayed and i rattled and I steered within feelings ranging from confusion to anger to dismay and all of this back and forth did nothing but remind me of yet another self-destructive loop I just don't want to allow in my life anymore. Its exactly the kinda stuff that made me ill to begin with, and I've been so lost dealing with everything in between that i forgot to tend to the actual core centering all of this...

It grew unbearable how much emotional and physical turmoil I was pushing myself into, and knowing how intertwined these two elements have been; I had to draw a line before i majorly screwed myself over, gathering any bit of inner will to discipline myself back into some sort of clarity, enough to at least look through a lens OUTSIDE my pain for once, towards the kind of life I want to lead, and the kind of life I don't; and I came to an understanding.

From my physical state to my mental, to the people and memories I've experienced, both the good and the bad - I want to prioritize the good.

Not in a shitty ass, toxic optimism kinda way but in a "I want to prioritize knowing and living the possibility that even when it hurts, even when i want to be gone, even when life doesn't align - There's still every good reason in the world to keep moving forward, to face things from a perspective of growth & compassion, and to grow to love the promise of a better tomorrow even when today was unbearable." To know that I don't end or begin in my suffering, that the infinite potential I speak so fondly of applies to me, as well...

I want to be able to wield and create and share that goodness, too, Especially when it is already in decline...And for all gods sake, to internalize that all of this STILL exists and STILL matters even when it doesn't work the first couple or dozens of times.

As for my place here in Tumblr...I know the sentiment might feel silly to some but the experiences, memories, and connections I've made here have truly been such a significant force in my life, and i don't want to give up on that ;; Not because of my own insecurities, or an inner state of hopelessness, and especially not over a bunch of emotionally immature Anons that dont know how to handle themselves; I want to forgive all of that.

I'm stubborn, and there's an unyielding force within me that no matter how many times it is struck down, it proved itself ridiculously resilient. I'm perking up with with a fiery confidence realizing just how many times it rose back up, enough to realize it is an unchangeable part of me ;_; I shouldn't underestimate that force, and I want to keep living by its side. Whatever positive change I can sprinkle onto my life and the lives of those I care for, I will! And the reason why this space in particular is so important to me, is because so much of that already exists here, alongside you folks;

THAT'S the kind of energy i want to nourish and walk into the new year with! I want to continue growing as a person, challenging my inner turmoils, undoing the self punishing dogmas that still haunt me, stop flexing my teeth over things that don't deserve my time and god DAMN, just - indulge in the stuff that makes me happy, even when I'm going through unhappy times.

So yeah...I guess that means, I'm back & I'm staying ;_;)🧡

I know i may seem like a broken record when it comes to expressing gratitude but - Thank you, thank you thank you everyone who have reached out for me, who so fondly kept me in their thoughts and kept encouraging me whenever i was hurting, both then and now...You folks mean more than whatever ailment or struggle I can go through, and while I'm unsure of how the future will look like as I'm still going through various challenges- I couldn't have asked for a cooler, sweeter audience to have by my side whenever Its time to take a rest or hype over our sexy delicious blorbos!

Speaking of which....................I have been cooking quite a lot of things in the time i was away 👀✨ I most definitely intend to serve them, eheheh

[die-rosastrasse]

I'm about to turn 25, your blog is so elegant, do you have any tips on growing out of the angsty early 20s into an elegant mid twenties?

Welcome and thank you! Right now I am 25 as well and believe me, the angst is still very much there. Sometimes there's so many fiery emotions brewing inside me, I feel like I'm going to burst and burn half the world with me. I'm still deeply moved by unfairness and bad intentions of people, the evil in the world, the greed, the violence and injustice of the society that we didn't have any impact on. I don't think elegance and maturity is about suddenly losing all of these feelings. I think maybe it's about how you rise above them, what you're doing about them and how you choose to present yourself to the world. There must be a balance between the angst and your inner peace. In your daily life, there must be a harmony between chaos and neatness. With time, you realize that there is a difference in worrying about things that you can change and those you can't. If it's the people around you that make you cross, you cut them off. If it's the path in life that makes you dissatisfied, you pick a different one. But if it's the sorry state of the world right now, what can you do? You build yourself a new, private world out of good things, inspiration, people you love, art, the things that make you happy, bliss, elegance. Piece by piece you can create a personal space, inside and outside, that reflects what's the best in you, that can stay beautiful despite the evil that is out there. This private world won't change the grand scheme of things, at least not all of it. But I believe that it's very much worth saving, and if everyone would try to be more kind, elegant, open and well-intentioned, the world would be a more beautiful place. So collect the exceptional things from your surroundings, make meaningful memories, be sensitive to beauty, prioritize your peace and help those around you. Go to therapy, learn to spend time alone and like it, make art, expand your language, make your daily life more fancy, smile to strangers, read a lot, treat others with the most impeccable manners, always be the one to lend a hand. People will view you as elegant not because of the anxiety in your heart, but due to the kindness that you give to the world. This message proves that you already rise above the negative feelings, because you have the need to get better. That, I think, is the quality of someone elegant and refined. I wish you all the best in becoming the greatest version of you 🤍

[knizai]

Hii!! I saw your event and wanted to send in a request! Please take as much time as you want<33

I feel a little shy requesting this but for the character, could it be Tecchou and my name will beeeee Mélisande! Melissa for a nickname :3

Melissa is like from an anti-hero organization, they’re not necessarily good nor bad! She’s a medic and she owns an illegal clinic. Honestly, if you have any idea for those two, I would love to read it! I’m up for anything!! Fluff, angst, anything apart from nsfw is fine! Mélisande seems quite intimidating but she’s a very smiley and mother like character! She knows when to have fun but mainly she’s calm and likes to tease. Oh, not sure if this will be useful but she struggles from night-terrors!!!

I feel the best trope for them would maybe be something like rivals to lovers? Everything is honestly up to you, go wild! 💗

I really like your theme btw🤍(⁠ ⁠◜⁠‿⁠◝⁠ ⁠)⁠♡ take your time, health is first!

I love you, I'm Sorry

EEK DIS IS SHO KYUTE IK I SAY THIS FOR ALL BUT OMGIEE!! HURT TO COMFORT WITH THE NIGHT TERRORS!! I LOVE RIVALS TO LOVERS SM ≽^•⩊•^≼

The commotion outside the illegal clinic had become a normal sound for Mélisande, who was just getting ready for the day to begin. She sighed as she buttoned up her white medical coat, and grabbed her bag, readying herself to deal with the mess that she was sure would happen. She looked at herself in the mirror again, putting a blue bow into her long black hair, fixing it and making sure it was perfect. She nodded at her reflection and walked out of the back room and turned to face the front of the clinic. As she stepped out, She felt her vision turn fuzzy. The air felt hotter outside than it had been in the past couple of weeks. Her legs started to give way under her, and she couldn't help but fall to the ground. It took all of her effort to keep her eyes open but still failed as she passed out. Tecchou just happened to be in the area when he spotted someone collapsing in front of a certain illegal clinic. He raised an eyebrow, curious about what he saw. As soon as he got a closer look at the person's face, he noticed that it was a young woman, and immediately froze upon recognizing her as Mélisande, the medic from the illegal clinic. He paused for a moment, debating on leaving her there, but her health still concerned him regardless. Tecchou gently placed her on his bed, making sure she was comfortable. Something in him couldn't help but notice that she looked more vulnerable unconscious. He couldn't help but notice how beautiful she was, with her long black hair framing her face, and her cyan eyes now closed to the world...Now was not the time to think about such things. She was his rival, and definitely on the opposing side. She moved a little in his bed, making small noises of discomfort. Her face contorted to worry, and she looked a little distressed as she started mumbling something in her sleep.Tecchou noticed her moving in her sleep. He furrowed his brows in confusion, and walked closer to the bed. Her breathing started to pick up, and she seemed more uncomfortable. Her face was scrunching up, as if in pain. Her mumbles turned into soft whimpers, and she seemed to toss and turn slightly, like something was bothering her in her sleep. He picked her up into a sitting position, and gently held onto her, rubbing her back as she mumbled in her sleep. he tried calling her name, hoping it would wake her from this nightmare. He gently shook her shoulder and continued to whisper her name.

She seemed to startle awake, her eyes flying open,her body tensing up. As soon as she realized she was being held, she immediately tried to push Tecchou away, not realizing where she was. Tecchou was slightly surprised as she tried to push him away, but he immediately stopped touching her. "Whoa, You're safe, you're safe.." She paused, trying to remember what happened. The last thing she could recall was getting ready for work, and then passing out. As she remembered, she looked up and saw Tecchou, and immediately went red in the face. She tried to move away again. Tecchou held his hands up. "Hey, you passed out outside your clinic earlier, I took you in, that's all I did. I promise I mean you no harm...I swear." She looked around and slowly remembered passing out from the heat. She relaxed but didn't move away from him as much. She remembered that he was one of her rivals, and the last thing she wanted was to be used as a hostage or something. As the two began to catch each other's eyes, their hearts started to beat a little bit faster. Mélisande felt herself lean in a little closer, and her lips slightly parted. She couldn't help but glance at his mouth before looking up at his eyes. Tecchou realized how close she was, and his breathing started to pick up a little. Something about her felt magnetic, and her closeness was starting to create an almost gravitational pull. His eyes glanced at her lips for a moment, and he swallowed. Their lips touched, and the kiss became something they were both waiting for. He brought one of his hands to her waist, pulling her closer and deepening the kiss. As they pulled away, she whispered, her tone soft.

"I love you..."

[bloomingdayswithyou]

Heyy, how are you? İ saw your requests was open so here i am 🧍can i request a hongjoong fluff or hurt comfort type of thing?? Im studying animation and game design in uni but i dont feel like i belong here. Finding motivation was always hard for me but its worse than ever in uni and my depression isnt helping either haHa- like for a while i stopped eating properly, not sleeping more than a few hours in a day and always do oil paintings, kinda locked myself home alone and cant find any strength to do something.

İf you cant write its alright tho!! Love you and your works <3

Guiding Light

Pairing: Hongjoong x gn!reader

Warnings: none, just angst with a good ending<3

Word count: 646

Author’s note: hi!! thanks for the request🤍 honestly I’m kind of going through something similar and just wanted to say that you’re not alone in this even though it might seem like it. Wishing you strength and healing on your journey as you pursue game design and animation or whatever you feel is right for you. 🌸

You sat alone in your small apartment, staring at your computer’s screen which displayed a few unfinished assignments. The room was dimly lit, mirroring the haze of emotions that consumed them. The weight of depression and anxiety had become almost too much to bear, leaving you feeling lost and disconnected. Hongjoong had noticed the subtle changes in your demeanor over the past few weeks. As he knocked softly on the door, his heart filled with concern for the person he cared deeply about.

"It's me," Hongjoong called out gently, hoping to offer some comfort in your darkest hour.

Slowly, you opened the door, your eyes reflecting a mix of sadness and relief at seeing Hongjoong's caring face. "Hey," Hongjoong said softly, stepping inside and closing the door behind him. "I brought something for you." He held out a cup of warm tea, knowing it could be a small source of comfort. You took the cup with a weak smile, grateful for Hongjoong's presence. You settled on the couch together, the soft glow of the lamp casting a warm light around you.

"You know," Hongjoong began gently, "everyone faces moments when they doubt themselves or feel overwhelmed. It's okay to have those feelings. You don't have to be strong all the time."

Tears welled up in your eyes, and you couldn't help but spill your emotions to Hongjoong. You shared your struggles with finding motivation, your fears of not belonging, and all of the other burdens that seemed to weigh you down. Hongjoong listened attentively, his heart aching for you. "You're not alone in this," he said, placing a comforting hand on your shoulder. "I'm here, and I care about you so much."

He pulled you into a warm embrace, creating a safe space where you could let your emotions flow freely. Hongjoong's presence was a guiding light in the darkness, offering solace and understanding.

"Sometimes, we need to take a step back and breathe," Hongjoong continued. "And it's okay to ask for help when we need it. You don't have to carry this burden alone." You clung to him, finding comfort in his words and his unwavering support. You realized that you didn't have to face your struggles alone, that Hongjoong was there to walk beside them every step of the way.

With Hongjoong's encouragement, you began to open up about how you feel with animation and game design, the dreams that had once fueled your creativity. Hongjoong listened with genuine interest, reminding you of the talent and potential you possessed.

"You are meant to be here," Hongjoong said firmly. "Your art and your creativity are unique and special. Don't let anyone or anything make you doubt that."

As the night wore on, you felt a glimmer of hope reigniting within you. Hongjoong's words acted as a balm to your wounded soul, soothing the ache of self-doubt and depression. "I'm here for you," Hongjoong said, brushing away a tear from your cheek. "And we'll get through this together. Your art, your dreams, they matter. And so do you."

In the days that followed, Hongjoong stood by your side, offering unwavering support and encouragement. They started to find motivation in your passion once again, your creativity slowly returning like the first rays of dawn after a long night.

As time passed, your art flourished once more, fueled by the newfound strength and love you had found in Hongjoong's embrace. Through the darkest of storms and the brightest of days, you held onto each other, knowing that with Hongjoong by your side, you could weather any storm and find the courage to embrace your dreams once more.

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[ohyespotatous]

Fri, May 31, 2024

🌲 End-of-month reflections 🌲

"Easy wins" vs "Eat your frog" ⚡🐸

I see this pattern of me falling into a prolonged slump (3-4 months) after maintaining pretty consistent and productive days for a month, and then I need quite a long time to get back on track again. I realized this some time ago, and I thought I shouldn’t push myself too much or beat myself up if I couldn’t achieve my ideal day. I acknowledge that my productivity could ebb and flow.

But the thing is, once I loosened my grip, even a little, I fell into this dark hole again. 

Sometimes, I’d wake up in the morning and do not feel like doing too much, so I let myself rest. However, I got carried away, which continued for days or longer. Sometimes, I’d start my day with good energy, but I spent too much time on smaller tasks, so I didn’t have enough time to do the crucial tasks. 

So, to keep my days going in any situation, I think I need to switch between the “easy win” and “eat your frog” strategies based on how I feel in the morning and how important the tasks that I have to complete that day are.

If I feel energized and motivated and have a “big task” to finish as soon as possible, I’ll eat my frog first, when my brain is still fresh and I have a lot of energy. But if I don’t feel it when I wake up (or if I wake up late), I need to accomplish my easy wins first, so I feel motivated to tackle bigger tasks.

For the best results, I need to make nightly planning (or listing whatever I need to do the next day) a habit so that I have an idea of how the day should go. 

On learning languages 🧠

I didn’t identify myself as a language learner, but I think I need to dedicate some time to studying my own language and English. 

I feel like I’m losing my ability to use my mother tongue because I’m exposed to English media too much and rarely interact with real people in person. I used to live in a boarding house full of workers who came home late (and I work remotely), so I only talked to them when we met in the kitchen or the living room. I have moved back in with my dad, who also comes home late, so we only have the chance to talk around dinnertime. It feels awkward when I try to write in my language because I barely use it these days, but when I write in English, I still can’t express myself freely the way I intend to 😅

I’m literally relying on my language and communication skills for a living when in reality, I suck at it!!! I must survive :(

I want to work on my spiritual wellness, finding peace and meaning in life 🤍

I think one of the reasons I struggle these days is that I don’t have a good sense of purpose. I don’t know exactly what I’m chasing or what I'm working for. I think I need to connect with my inner self to figure out that purpose so I can navigate through challenges with greater resilience. I want to have a balanced and fulfilling life. I want to experience a deeper sense of satisfaction and contentment mentally, emotionally, and physically.

How was May? 🌼

May wasn’t the most productive month, but it was way better than April. In April, I was almost like a living corpse, never leaving my room—or bed, even—to the point that my body was stiff, and I had thigh pains. In May, I started to feel alive again. I started finding my routine again and caught up on some responsibilities. Everyone has their own challenges, and this is the tiny win of the challenge for me. But that doesn’t mean I can ease up. I need to put in more effort to be better.

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[fortpeat]

Hi! I hope you are doing ok. I know this might be coming out of the blue, but I feel the need to spread the word so other fans can see this and not go through the same that I have been. I recently joined a FortPeat server on Discord. I saw the invite on a tumblr tag and I thought it could be a good idea since most fandom spaces I've been in were usually wholesome and nice to meet new people and talk about the things we all have in common and love. I will be honest with you that I had actually thought the server had something to do with your account since I always see you in the fortpeat tags (I don't really use my tumblr account, I'm more of a lurker, I just recently got into the fortpeat fandom) and you always seemed to be like a lovely person. I was actually told by this server owner that you were also one of the server owners at some point, and I remember seeing one of your posts talking about "the discord incident"… I have no idea if both of these things are related to each other, but I understood immediately after talking to this server owner why you'd leave that place. This server is extremely toxic. I and another member were kicked out simply because we harboured a different opinion than the one from the server owner. She is a grown-ass woman and treats people in a really childish manner. She's condescending and passive-aggressive. She deleted our messages for no good reason and then said we were free to leave if we were not happy with her rules. The other member called her out on it and this is what got us kicked out. That was it. Nothing else. I thought for a second that I could've been somewhat rude, but another member of the server reached out to me in private to tell me this had happened many times before and that neither I nor the person who was kicked out were rude. So, my point with this ask is I hope whoever's still stuck in that graveyard filled with toxicity, please leave as soon as possible. I had other people reaching out to me since then to tell me that they also experienced really bad things there. I'm really sorry if you went through some shit because of it, but yeah. I hope the owner reflects on her attitude if she intends on keeping up with a server she clearly has, currently, zero capabilities of running if this is how she treats her members. Thank you so much, and I am sorry for the huge ask. I think it's important to let people know when fandom spaces are nasty. Love your blog! 🤍

Hi Nonnie ✨🥰

First of all sorry for the late response I needed some time to think through a proper response since it's a sensitive topic and I am typing this out while in the middle of a program and my Wifi is wacky so I don't know when you might get this 🫣

Now I am not gonna lie, when I first received this ask I was sceptical about even posting this. I tend to avoid all kinds of drama as I quite don't have the time for that but then I realized won't that mean I too am ignoring you the same way the server owner did and essentially cutting you off and I am not that kind of person. I believe that everyone deserves to have their opinion heard and from what you told me I think you deserve it especially when you are definitely not in the wrong.

But first things first. I am so sorry you went through something like that. Nobody deserves it least of someone who joined a server believing that it might be something good. I will tell you it used to be good but then everything kind of fell apart. I left that server back in Nov due to personal reasons and a disagreement with the server owner.

Now the discord incident.. it was more or less connected to this but it was also me and my best friend joking around coz the both of us have had bad experiences with it. I never thought anyone would pay attention to it 🫣🫣😂. Now I don't want to dish out my personal experiences publicly like this so if you ever want to talk privately my DMS are always open 🥰 I promise it to be safe space for you and anyone who wants to talk.

I would also like to thank you for opening up like this I am sure it must not have been easy to trust me especially after your experience. I hope in the future this doesn't cloud your judgement towards future servers you might want to join. There are lots of lovely people in the fandom and there are some in that very server as well.

Also thank you for raising this awareness. I never would have thought things would get this bad there. That too in a server that represents our beautiful Fortpeat and Paisky who has taught us nothing but the importance of proper communication 🥺🥺

I hope you have a good day nonnie 🥰✨

Here's some Fortpeat hugs to feel better 🥹🥰

[fleetingpetal]

end of the year post.

heads up. if i sound sappy in some parts, i'm not sorry 🤍

as of me writing this, it's but a mere 20 minutes before it is officially the start of a new year.

it's a little surreal to believe that 2023 is coming to an end. a year that admittedly, was more emotionally and physically hectic for me. but i pushed through, and here i am going into 2024 as hopefully a better me.

to be honest, this year has been nothing but self reflection, realization and a lot of acceptance as well as embracing parts of myself that i thought i'd never return to. hobbies of mine like writing and drawing were ones i strayed away from for so, so long in 2023. but it more or so lead back into the tribulations i was facing then and still recovering from now.

it's a little surreal to me that months after months of doing nothing but reflection and getting back into what i love doing most just months before the year ended resulted into the me who decided to step into tumblr again and share my kuni ideas for the fun of it. that halloween fic i posted? just for shits and giggles at the time. but the fun i had writing it was a fun i wasn't able to feel throughout the entirety of 2023, and i admit the motivation boost i got from posting the fic afterwards, alongside checking in on the authors i used to follow just made something inside me click. and i went for it.

a bit more off topic but i still remember how i came back to genshin after a good five months or so in version 3.6 and doing the main event without knowledge of the sumeru quest line because i was avoiding spoilers. that day, i just finished taking an entrance exam for college and was exhausted from both the exam and from wearing myself out. midway into the introduction of the contestants; i was greeted with wanderer, or kuni in my vocabulary, being in the event and i was just smiling from ear to ear at the mere sight of him. feeling that same overflow of good emotions just take me whole to be honest, i was simply beyond happy. the way he spoke about writing about inazuma's societal issues because he was bored genuinely had me laughing for the first time that day.

i guess it's that simple little moment that hit me hard. it's silly, i'm aware, but it meant everything to me in a way. since that day in june; i was determined and full of creative drive to hopefully share at least one thing before the end of this year. look at me now, i have a series published that's yet to be finished so i can start on the next one in spring ( hopefully ), a one-shot to share for a moot and lastly... just a lot. i have a lot in store.

i have no right to say such things regarding my immense gratitude for the support i received from the few things i published, but the support i ended up getting on said few things — big and small — has made me realize that maybe i still feel very passionate about writing. that maybe i want to pursue the desire to publish all i have for that one fictional character that had my heart swoon the moment i saw him in a promotional trailer three years ago.

the ending note to 2023, starting october 31st when i published my first fic was a day that i'll always hold dear to me, my mutuals as well as the wonderful authors i follow made these past three months an absolute joy, and i cannot wait to make the most of my journey supporting each one of them ~

honestly i'm just rambling. but i am a professional yapper and to be honest i am writing all this on one cup of tea and like, six something hours of sleep i am absolutely not in the right headspace lmao. regardless! i am so so very glad to be here, to have survived an emotionally draining bitch of a year that was still an eventful year regardless to me, and starting the second of january... i shall be the bane of the scaranation's existence <3

we don't talk about how being that is actually a goal of mine because i think it'd be funny but i digress... 2024 will hopefully be just as much of an eventful year for me, for you, and everyone too. i believe that this year will be at least a little kinder to those who got absolutely shat on by 2023 ( pleek no more physical torment for me ) and if you're reading this, remember that this random stranger on the internet who's attempting to spread the kuni agenda is cheering you on for the year <3

i have a lot of stuff to share going forward. december was initially gonna be the month for all that but i had stuff going on that i ended prioritizing ( mainly my health ) so those initial plans will now move to the first month of a new year. mundanities with kabukimono will be finished in january, january 2nd will be interlocked eternities and lastly a late winter special that's actually a birthday gift for a mutual of mine ( mochi i am coming for you /menacingly )

oh it's 12 a.m. now, happy january first and happy 2024 everyone 🤍 may you be blessed with many wonderful days ahead. i shall see you on the second and third of january ~

[moonspirit]

Oh, another writer ask game, I'm in! I'm glad you rb it :3 💫🌈🦋🌿🍉🎀(yep, again, because your writing is amazin!)🎈💝🤍💥🎙️💋💌

OMG WAIT, I SCHEDULED THIS SOMETIME LAST WEEK TO POST LATER BUT THEN THERE WAS THAT OTHER ASK GAME AND I FORGOT TO DELETE THIS ONE WEOFIHWEIFUHWEIJ-

GODDAMNIT. aNYWAYS. Now I can't delete it #_#

💫what is your favorite kind of comment/feedback? Any and all comments, really! I'm a crumb person and easy to please, you can send me a heart and I will have enough motivation to write the next chapter xD However I do especially like it when people find the symbolism or thematic relevances that I incorporate :3 Makes me feel like "yeah, I did good this time. good job me."

🌈is there a fic that you worked *really fucking hard on* that no one would ever know? maybe a scene/theme you struggled with? Recently I've posted everything I've written, so... there's nothing nobody won't know. However I did struggle with that whole bonfire dancing scene in TFLM.

🦋what are you most insecure about when you post a fic? Since I'm currently only writing AruAni, I feel like making Armin smart is a really fucking hard job xD For his character development, I need him to use his stellar brains, but that means I gotta make him use his stellar brains... and... T^T yeah, I worry a lot that readers will find what ultimately happens sounds silly/not clever enough.

🌿how does creating make you feel? VERY satisfied! Incredibly so! Makes me happy to write and post and share what I've created with people :3

🍉in what ways has writing helped you process trauma and/or navigate through your own life? My fics are all a representation of things I want in my life, both the big and small. For example, in Chap 3 of VBEOW, Armin and Annie share hot chocolate in the kitchen in the early hours of the morning; that kind of comfortable intimacy and quiet shared space is something I also crave. Another example is in the very first part of the series where Annie gets Armin to cry and grieve - it's a reflection of the fact that I too want to care for someone in that kind of way. xD This is prolly TMI xD Sorry xD

🎀give yourself a compliment about your own writing Hmmm. Okay Moon, so, I'm very glad you started this series, tho it wasn't planned, it has made you very happy and you're managing to fill canon timeskips with something that is hopefully, making readers happy too.

🎈describe your style as a writer; is it fixed? does it change? I'm really not sure xD I think it's mostly consistent thus far (?)

💝what is a fic that got a different response than you were expecting? I believe Falling into Neptune was received better than I expected. I hadn't written anything that intense in a very long time, so I was pleasantly surprised when it got a hotter reaction than I was expecting. It made me realize I can create tension without making the characters take off their clothes -- a fact I am a bit proud of T^T Sorry.

🤍what's one fic of yours you think people didn't "get"? Hmmm. So Time Falls like Moonlight is a mammoth of a story to get through, but I put a whole lot of thematic depiction in this (it literally has 10+ scenes) and maybe it is the fact that it's very long and also that it's got a sequel already going on, so it feels like people have glossed over it. But oh well xD I'm happy with the reactions I have received :3

💥find your least kudos'd fic - say something wonderful about it. The Lamplighter, Tokyo Ghoul. A fic about the relationship between Amon and his foster father Donato, with a slightly supernatural/fantasy twist, but still remains true to canon. It has very little kudos or interaction but I expected that, because people usually come to read romantic pairing fics and this is strictly a father-son fic. I still really like it though, it's probably badly written for the me of today's POV, but it's got a special place in my heart xD

🎙️which one of your fics would you like someone to make a pod-fic of? O_O Oh.. uh...that's a thing? xD I totally didn't know! But what works for a pod-fic tho? Dialogue heavy fics? Action/emotional monologue heavy fics? Maybe everything works? In which case... anything really T_T I'd be over the moon (pun intended)

💋when you leave comments on a fic, do you want to hear back from the writer? If they want to reply back, sure! Most of them do these days, tho there are fics I've left comments on recently which were written one or two years ago, and the authors are prolly busy with their lives. But I'm always happy to read their replies, no matter when that is :3!

💌share something with us about an up-and-coming work (WIP) that has you excited! Oh, okay! Chapter 5 of VBEOW spoilers:

When done, she glances at Pieck who's still sitting on her stool, motionless and staring off into space, wet hair sticking to her back and shoulders, and a handful of shampoo resting on her knee, facing palm up.  "Pieck?"  "Hm?" "Are you not feeling… uh, want to go back?" "No," Pieck hums softly. She raises her cupped palm up. "Need to shampoo my hair but I'm feeling a little too tired." Annie lets her eyes roam over her deflated frame. Pieck, always buoyant and carefree, now limp and lifeless, and she’s never seen her like this before.

Thanks for the ask, tho this was completely an accident post #_#

[theambitiouswoman]

I’m working in a chancellery as a student since 3 months, I’m sitting at the reception. I really like to work there and I’m doing a good job. Every lawyer is very kind and friendly. Just this one lawyer never says hello to me or when he comes in he doesn’t even look at me. I didn’t care at the beginning. Last time I opened the door and saw him coming towards me, so I waited for him and held the door. He didn’t say thank you or even smiled. Since then it’s bothering me a little bit, I think his behavior is rude.

I stopped looking at him to or smiling at him, because I feel dumb when I’m doing this. With the other lawyers and workers there he isn’t like that.

Do you have an advice?

Thank you🤍

It's understandable that his behavior might bother you. People have different ways of interacting, and it's possible he may not realize his actions are coming across as rude. He may be the type of person that can take a while to be open to new people. He may just not be a friendly person at work. He may be a rude guy. Or he may not have any interest in talking to you. None of these things are a reflection of you. You could try giving it some time, and if you feel comfortable, you could address the situation politely and express how you feel if it comes to a point where he’s disrespectful.

This is your work place and I still think you should be polite. However there is a difference between being polite to someone you do not have rapport with and going out of your way to wait for someone to get to an elevator. Especially someone who doesn’t acknowledge you. That’s just doing too much and is probably why your feelings are hurt. Stop going above and beyond for people who do not even extend the courtesy of a simple hello. It’s not going to make them like you more. Boundaries.

[allthingsfook]

Hi! I just saw your ships post and I’d love one if you are still doing them :))

I’m a cancer sun and a leo rising. I have short red hair but i dye my bangs different colors all the time. I’m 5’8. I have a tattoo on my ribs of a bouquet of flowers. I wear a lot of funky earrings and love bold eye makeup! My love language is acts of service 100%. I am in school for theater and dance. I have been obsessed with music for as long as i can remember. My parents are artists. I love collecting records, poetry, and visiting local coffee shops! I love a good cry session! You’ll most likely find me spending time doing witchy and ghostly things. I’m pretty quiet and don’t speak much in public settings, but I have a lot of emotional intelligence and strength, which is my favorite quality about myself. I love my car! I drive a bug that is filled with stickers and greenery! I love planes and traveling. I’m uncomfortable when I’m still for too long. I think that love is the most important thing on earth and I genuinely take time each day do my best to find the beauty and love that is scattered around this planet (as corny as it sounds haha)! I hope that’s a good enough description!

Thank you for doing these! I have so much fun reading them :))

Hello beautiful Anon!!!! I ship you with….

Danny 🤍✨

I think Danny would notice your style from across the room and immediately be intrigued. Only to meet you and find out that you are wickedly cool!!! The first time he gets a glimpse of your tattoo (I imagine him noticing it as you change in the bathroom, door slightly ajar), he would admire the beautiful detail 🥰 Then reflect on how he’s always wanted one but never could decide on what he would get. Maybe that’s an excuse for him being a little nervous that it would hurt.

Through acts of service, which I feel all of the boys identify with, Danny and you would be volunteering at animal shelters, benefits, and charity events. It truly is a sense of community and accomplishment when you know you are helping those around you 💛🤍

Danny would take great interest in theatre and dance. He’d support you in every way possible. Whether it’s giving you alone time to practice, helping you prepare for a show, and most importantly, cheering you on during a production. He’d always have a bouquet of flowers ready for you 💐 Also, Danny would get along with your parents so well! Not that he wouldn’t win over any dad 😉 He’d be curious about their careers and stories throughout the years.

You and Danny certainly are the ones of the group that just sit back and take in all the goofiness of everyone around you. With a group of friends like Josh, Jake, and Sam, he has to let them get all their energy out. There’s no doubt that you two would have the greatest time during a night out, watching all the other’s crazy antics!

I love that you identified such amazing qualities in yourself, and Danny would admire that too! Emotional intelligence and strength….. that sounds so attractive!!!!! Danny definitely gravitates toward someone who is authentically themselves and independent. That shows him that you can stand for yourself when he’s away. Although it might be hard, he’d appreciate the dedication and strength it takes to be in that sort of relationship. Besides, he’d so do anything to make it up to you when he got home.

To build off that, travel would be a huge part of your relationship. As much as you think he’d be tired from the demanding travel schedule with his work, and want to stay home…. He loves to vacation 🏖️ All of those boys are incapable of staying still! Go ahead and be Danny’s little wanderer! (Check out Little Wanderer by Death Cab for Cutie!!! It’s such a Danny song!)

You are gunna have to struggle to get Danny from his Corvette, but once he rides in your bug, he’d realize how much he loves the aesthetic! Imagine road tripping it to the coast in it. His lush curls flowing in the sea salt breeze!!!

Your appreciation of love would be the biggest thing that brings the both of you together. Most of the time we don’t discuss our need of love and giving it to others, we more often show it. Isn’t that beautiful?! Our actions really speak louder than words, and that’s so pronounced with love. Although, when your dealing with a band like GVF, they tend to paint amazing images in our heads with their words…. And Danny did write a lot of Light my Love 🤍🤍

Let me know what you think!!!! I thought it was amazing 🤩

[poopandpraydotcom]

Mary, Martha, and Marthy: The Mythical Middle Sister's Hack to a Biblical and Balanced Life

Hey there, fellow poopers and prayers! 💩🙏

Have you ever felt torn in the all-too-familiar struggle between being productive and being in the moment? Keep reading to learn more including how to get your very own FREE Marthy’s Wonder Wheel and Journey Journal printable designed to help you find balance in your life.

The Tale of Two Sisters (and a Third?) 👭

Many of us have heard the classic Bible story of Mary and Martha which I used to see as a simple tale of two sisters— Mary (the original fangirl, sitting at Jesus’ feet✨) and Martha (our kitchen queen, always bustling about, making sure everyone is fed and comfy – essentially the OG Martha Stewart 🧁). 

But after digging deeper, I realized it’s more than that both Mary and Martha were beloved disciples, and this story isn’t about competition — it’s about Jesus calling each to a deeper faith and purpose. This got me thinking: What if there was a third sister? A mythical figure who was the perfect balance between both qualities? A sister who could both sit at Jesus' feet and prepare a feast? Allow me to introduce... Marthy! 🎉

How to Channel Your Inner Marthy 🧘‍♀️

Now, before you start flipping through your Bibles searching for her, let me break it to you gently—Marthy’s as real as a clean house with toddlers. She’s the sister that never gets mentioned because, let’s be honest, she’s too good to be true!

But here’s the thing—aren’t we all trying to be a bit "Marthy" in our daily lives? Trying to have quiet time while folding laundry and prepping a potluck dish for church? (Spoiler: It usually ends with a burnt casserole and a Bible covered in laundry detergent.) 😂

Practical Steps Toward Balance

So, how do we channel our inner “Marthy” and find that sweet spot between rest and productivity (without all the unrealistic expectations)? Here are some ideas to get you started:

Listen for God’s Voice 🎧 Even in the midst of to-do lists, chaos, and kids’ arguments, take a moment to hear Him. Pooping and praying, anyone? 😉😃

Set Realistic Goals 📋 Instead of trying to tackle a Mount Everest-sized to-do list, try to focus on completing a few key tasks each day. After all, don’t superheroes have to start their day with a cup of coffee and a plan? 😉

Prioritize Self-Care  ☕ Schedule small breaks for yourself— a short walk, a cup of tea, or even just a few minutes of quiet. You’ll find you’re better able to tackle anything else after a quick “power up!” 💪

Create a Flexible Routine 🕒 We might not know what is coming but we know something is coming, right? 😛 Budgeting in some “expecting the unexpected” time can help you stay on schedule while reducing the overwhelm. ✔️

Celebrate Small Wins 🎉 Acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small. Did you finally finish that load of laundry? Throw yourself a mini dance party! (Just don’t invite the pile of unmatched socks… they’re terrible dancers! 🧦😂)!

Embrace Imperfection 🧁 Let go of the need for everything to be perfect!  Sometimes, “good enough” is all you need to keep moving forward. Even a cake that looks like a science experiment is still a delicious dessert. 🎂😋

Connect with Others 🤗 Share your struggles and successes with friends, and family, or even simply write them down in a journal. Getting those thoughts and feelings out can help provide clarity and peace of mind. 🤍🍃✨️

Reflect and Adjust 📝 At the end of each week, take a moment to reflect on what worked and what didn’t. Do you need to tone down your “inner Martha” or kick your “inner Mary” into gear? ⚖️

Remember Jesus Love You 💜 Whether you're more Mary, Martha, or a “hot mess express” (because who isn’t? 😉) at the end of the day, Jesus came to save us all and that is what really matters. 💗🙌

Get Your FREE Printable to Find Balance!

To help you channel your inner Marthy, I’ve created a fun, practical tool: the Marthy Wonder Wheel and Journey Journal printable! 🎨✨

The Marthy Wonder Wheel helps you reflect on how balanced your life is between Mary (reflective, spiritual) and Martha (active, service-oriented) qualities.

The Journey Journal gives you space to set goals, track your progress, and invite God into every area of your life.

Mission Marthy (🚀🎶to the theme of Mission Impossible 🚀🎶)

So, my dear poop-and-pray pals, who’s with me on this Marthy mission? Let’s embrace the beautiful, messy middle ground between sitting at Jesus’ feet and keeping our to-do lists from becoming to-do notebooks. We’re all in this together—one prayer and one flush at a time! 💩🙏

P.S. If you happen to find Marthy, let a sister know, will ya? 😉 Also don’t forget to grab your “FREE Marthy Wonder Wheel and Journey Journal!” P.P.S. Feel free to share your own “Marthy” moments in the comments below. I’d love to hear how you find the balance! 💗

[poohrplezion]

I always remind myself that one's character is shaped by what you do with what life throws at you but sometimes some circumstances just affect you differently, to the point where we lose a part of ourselves.

So hear this if you find yourself deeply caring for someone who cannot reciprocate it at the moment. It's important to understand that their inability to do so doesn't reflect on your goodness or worth. That's where it always gets me, but hey, you have to realize it's not always about you! Life affects individuals in various ways. Understand that we are all on this Earth just trying to figure ourselves out, just trying to mend the breaks in our souls, just trying to deal with what is heavy within us, grappling with our inner burdens. Sometimes we’re ready and another person is not. Sometimes we try and another person does not. At times, we give our all to someone, and they cannot contain all that we are. Sometimes, you openly embrace possibilities, but the other person isn't healed enough to do just the same. Sometimes, we fight while the other person surrenders. Sometimes, we choose to make things work, but the other person decides it's not the right reality for them. And that's perfectly okay. It's crucial to understand that it's okay.

Because, in the end, if someone can't meet you where you are, you can't keep expecting them to do so. If someone cannot reciprocate your love, if someone cannot give you what you truly deserve, you have to understand that aching for them to do so before they are ready is a form of self-destruction. Your heart is a vast and tender thing, you cannot keep trying to shrink it into what someone else needs. Pouring your love into a vessel that can't contain it, into a soul that hasn't realized the depth of what they're receiving, into a closed heart – it will only leave you feeling empty. You must step away. Allow this person to grow on their own terms because you can't love someone into their potential. You can’t love someone into being ready. They have to do that on their own.

And yes, I understand how hard it is to walk away from someone you deeply care about. I know how hard it is to lay all of that love down, to close off your heart to all that it sees in another human being. But by walking away, you will discover how to pour all of the love you were offering to the wrong person back into yourself. You'll learn to invest it in your personal growth, in your creative pursuits, in your hopes and aspirations. You will learn how to stand up for your feeling, how to stand up for its value. And when you teach yourself that you deserve to be loved, without having to beg for that love, without having to chase that love down, you open yourself to a world where love chooses you just as readily as you choose it. You open yourself to the kind of people who see you and immediately know that you are a rare and beautiful thing. You open yourself to new beginnings, to a future that unfolds in ways that don’t hurt or break you down, but rather build you up and show you just how worthy you are of having your heart held. 🤍