#realmoms

[mitravesiademamaamaestra]

Se vale llorar

Casi todos los días puedo sentirme mal en algún momento.

Soy perfectamente feliz, amo a mis hijos y me encanta mi vida.

Busco la forma de ver lo positivo en todo.

Pero no soy infalible. Si no tuviera oportunidad de llorar o sentirme mal, no estaría completa.

Me abrumo con todo.

Puedo hacer mil cosas y correr por todos lados y completar lo que necesito, pero en ocasiones también me abrumo.

Y de repente de la nada y casi por nada me puedo quebrar, me siento vulnerable y puedo casi explotar.

De repente igual de la nada me siento de la patada y no se que hacer.

Ese momento esos instantes son donde tengo que recordar que las cosas no siempre son como uno quisiera.

La regaré una y otra vez y mis decisiones tendrán que adecuarse al momento en que voy pasando.

Mis hijos me hacen llorar.

A pesar de hacer todo por ellos a veces siento que no es suficiente y que soy la peor madre.

Es la verdad. Hay segundos o minutos en que me pregunto de verdad cómo puedo estar tan mal o cómo la estoy regando.

Pero mas allá de sentirme mal, mas allá de ese momento turbio. Tengo algo que me levanta.

Yo.

Si, yo me levanto.

No puedo explicarlo pero esa fortaleza me llama y me dice, recupérate que hay mas tiempo que vida y todavía podemos rescatar (lo que sea que esté pasando).

Afortunadamente no soy perfecta.

Por suerte estoy llena de defectos.

Es un alivio saber que me equivoco un montón.

Y aún así, puedo levantarme y seguir adelante.

Me sigue costando trabajo pero lo voy entendiendo mejor día a día.

Tengo que llorar y me voy a sentir muy mal.

Estaré triste sin aparente razón pero eso me ayudará a saber que cuando todo se acomode disfrutaré con mayor entusiasmo esos destellos de felicidad  y alegría.

Porque para tener un equilibrio debo estar en contacto con las dos partes. La triste y llorar y llorar y llorar, para así dar paso a la alegría y reír , reír.

También se vale llorar para poder disfrutar.

[gor3-hound]

has anyone ever written for realmom!jill like im dying from deprivation of jill rn

if they have... i unfortunately have not found it 😔😔 jill is so mommy too omfg

[supermaricela2]

To the #realones the #realmoms hang on there it will get better, God will not let us down. https://www.instagram.com/p/CWoSwcFPHln/?utm_medium=tumblr

[everydaymamaof3]

An awakening in a new decade...

2020, A new decade. A decade where we seem to be a bit more awakened to the world and to all of the bs, corruption and harm in it! We care about our planet and it’s species, more now than ever...and it’s funny because this was the prediction for 2012. The mayans predicted an awakening felt across the world. So maybe this awakening is just a little bit late.

For me personally, it’s also a bit of an awakening, this is an amazing decade ahead, of things I’ve manifested. I plan to expand my business. My first born daughter is getting married, and has followed her career dreams. My husband is doing incredibly well in his position. My girls are thriving. My friendships are genuine and real. My self esteem is on point. My focus is clear. My goals are precise. But it wasn’t always this way. And I will continue to be a work in progress. I manifested my main goal in life, to be a good mom, inspiring, and an honest role model. Even though I made some terrible choices in the past, I still managed to do this. You are not your past.

Some things that I’ve learned from the last decade about myself are, I still suffer a very small amount, from insecurities due to other people’s views of me. It’s psychological I’ve realized. It’s from emotional trauma through my period of self destruction. People can be so cruel. There’s no way to sugar coat this. And through my difficult time, other people’s views affected me more than they’ll ever know. Whispering, judging, spreading rumours...it DESTROYS people. It took me 12 years of clarity, to finally feel and realize that people do this out of their own insecurities. A good trick I’ve learned, is to look for the good in people, and ask yourself, why are they the way they are? Why do they find me so interesting. Why do they whisper about others? Why do they treat people that way? Why do they need other people to make them feel whole? When you turn bitterness, jealousy, and envy, into empathy or even sympathy and curiosity, and start to think about them and their choices and surroundings, it’s much easier to swallow and to move past it. And you know what, if you have these feelings, that is OK! Whether people are or aren’t judging you. If you didn’t have these feelings, you wouldn’t be human! We all get jealous, or envious, or insecure. Just figure out how to deal with it. How to release it. It’s NOT your burden to carry what others think of you.

I’ve learned that my body is beautiful, I love it. It brought me my beautiful daughters. My husband finds it sexy. He loves my curves, my strong arms, and even my little bit of cottage cheese on the backs of my thighs. Yep I said it. And cellulite sucks. Bless sarongs.

We live in an era now where social media is taking over the world, almost forcefully it seems. It’s become a normal part of our lives. It’s how people communicate, stay in touch, blog, inspire, sell, promote, complain...which isn’t great, but hey, better out than in (wise words from Shrek). People are open about anxiety and depression and panic attacks, and the struggles of parenthood, and many more struggles, and it’s much more normalized now, because it IS part of being human. A big trend in society is wellness. Documentaries on thinking yourself well, how the mind and attitude contribute to your overall health. Which, I mean, how great is that? There’s a huge abundance of it on social media.

I personally get anxiety from time to time, I recognize it, I share it, using writing to express myself, I move past it, and I find a lot of inspiring, real life women from across the globe, posting about the very same thing, and how they personally cope and manage. It’s a great tool for advice, tips and feeling human.

Exercise is my go to for EVERYTHING! Same routine for the past 10 plus years. Up early, coffee, workout, start the day. I love working out in the comfort of my home, I didn’t always, but once I got into a good groove, I really started to love it, and as I’m aging, I’m also noticing more tweaks and pangs in my body, so I listen. I alternate workouts, whether it’s running, or yoga, or HIIT, or my newest passion, spin!

I feel good, I feel fit, I’m not skinny. I’m strong, and maintaining muscle mass as we age is crucial in keeping our bodies strong, so if I can emphasize one thing, it’s be, and stay active. Good for mental health and good for physical health. And please don’t diet! It’s a short term solution! Be patient and consistent with just a well balanced diet, smaller portions, better choices, vegan is seriously amazing, and do something active everyday for at least 20 minutes.

Now back to the social media thing...it’s a wonderful tool, but it’s also a very damaging tool to people suffering from low self esteem or who are comparison living. I find myself getting caught up in it too sometimes. And I notice my emotions drastically change. I don’t feel great, and it turns into irritation, and mood swings. Hmmm irritation and mood swings from scrolling social media? Sound familiar? Yeah...because it happens to most of us. What is it exactly? Jealousy? Annoyed? Just an overload of pretend? Comparing? So guess what...change it. Unfollow. Hide. Or eliminate. Anyone who doesn’t make you feel good when you see their picture or post, should not be on your feed. My biggest goal this year and forward, quality in life, over quantity. “The little red heart on Instagram is now widely considered currency for public approval” ~ Health Canada How unhealthy does that sound?

Some don’t like my honesty, but I’ll never change who I am because of it. I like to share personal and honest so that whomever out there, even if it’s just one person, can read it, and exhale and feel normal or not alone.

You don’t have to accept aging if you don’t want to. You can express being overwhelmed. You don’t have to be a part of something that you can’t be yourself in. You don’t have to go to that family function. You don’t have to please people. An actual statistic, 64% of women have people pleasing coping mechanisms!!! 64%!! That’s 6.5 out of 10 women are trying to please others at the cost of what?

You are the only person who can protect your peace and those who matter in your life, really don’t mind. Remember my blog about the ripple affect. It’s very real. Push yourself to be or do what you don’t really want to be or do, and watch it ripple down into other aspects of your life. Relationships shift, weight shifts, work is harder than normal, motivation tanks...it all gets affected when you aren’t living true to yourself. And when I say true to yourself, I mean, when you are feeling at your best, not questioning anything, or putting yourself in uncomfortable situations, when you feel like the best version of you, stop and take note of what’s exactly going on in your life, and strive for more of that. It’s not all gonna be perfect, there’s always gonna be ebbs and flows...but you shouldn’t be living everyday feeling awful on the inside, but smiling on the outside. Reach out. Or write it down and burn it. Find a way to get back to you. Have a time out.

Surround yourself with people who truly inspire you. Who are consistent in their behaviour. Who you feel really good around. Not unsure, or uneasy. That, my friends is your intuition speaking to you when you don’t feel quite right around a person or people, or in a situation you shouldn’t be in. Listen to it.

Yes it’s great to step out of your comfort zone, but not at the cost of your peace.

I used to feel bad about being such a home body, I’m missing this and that, but in the past few years I’ve stopped feeling bad about it, because this time, right now, this tiny window of time that I have with my kids is so valuable and important to ME personally. Travelling with my family, weekend activities, downtime.. I’ll have all the time in the world to do other things when they’re grown. And that’s just me. Some women thrive on ALL of it! And you are amazing too! I feel overwhelmed and get run down easily if I pile my plate too high...maybe because I’m an energy absorber? Maybe not. But I’ve learned that I don’t function at my best on mom auto pilot. I’ve learned though to say, I’m tapping out, BEFORE the eruption of motherhood. That’s part of getting to know yourself. Time with your spouse. Time out. You time.

Don’t set unrealistic goals, don’t force yourself to do things you don’t wanna do, celebrate yourself with self care as much as you can, confide in your spouse, or closest confidantes, and nobody else, change jealousy and bitterness to empathy and curiosity about why people are the way they are. And use challenges with people as growth.. what did I learn from this.

Everyone’s fighting a battle we know nothing about! Even the happiest people in the world have struggles now and again!

I’m enjoying the shift I see happening in the universe. People calling people out for their wrong doings. Not accepting that in our world more and more. Reusing more. Not ashamed to state we buy used. Used clothing is no longer taboo! People are spending more time with family. More time getting to know themselves, FOMO is becoming a thing of the past, as it’s now trendy to enjoy being a homebody, listening to a podcast. Women are empowering each other more than ever. If a woman is body shamed by one or two, one hundred or two hundred are defending her. Magazine covers are curvy women, elderly women, disabled women...and they’re just as beautiful, as any model that graced the covers in the past. Men are allowed to cry and show emotion, and promote being family men and active dads over “bread winners and workaholics”. Skinny is out. Healthy is in. Strong is in. Kindness is in. Vegan is in. So even though the world still seems a bit scary, it is shifting...focus on the positives. And allow yourself to have days where you see the negatives, but don’t stay there, allow it, move on. You are human. It’s not only unrealistic, but unfair to yourself to not have bad days! They’re growth days ♥️

Living your life simply, true to yourself, focused on the right priorities, knowing you are loved, and giving love back, is how you manifest all the goodness and goals and dreams. Living otherwise is putting a block on allowing good things into your life ✨ Just be you and watch the magic happen.

[responsiveparenting]

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 Repost @momisdrawing #responsiveparenting #attachmentparent #allyouneedislove #realmoms #happymothersday❤️ (at Toronto, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/responsive_parenting/p/BxYs5d5gZHL/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=rxbzppw3cf8y

[iamtmurph]

Who remembers when being ashy was a #sin in #BlackHousehold? Your parents would snap if you went outside without no lotion on. Look how things have changed 😩. P.S. no parents were hurt in the making of this video 😂🤣 . . . . . . #imlivingmybestlife #Funny #Love #Parents #Mom #Dad #Silly #TheShadeRoom #ShadeRoom #WorldStar #TiffanyHaddish #KevinHart @snoopdogg @chrisbrownofficial @theshaderoom #tekashi69 #chicago #iLoveMom #BlackFamilies #RealMoms (at Chicago, Illinois)

[momcave]

You might laugh until you pee at the memes from @six_pack_mom 🤣😉 . . #mommingainteasy #momlifeyo #momlife101 #mommyjokes #momjokesfordays #funnyparentingmemes #momproblemslol #parenthoodmoments #realmoms #momlifeunfiltered #parentingmemes #motherhoodunplugged https://www.instagram.com/p/CRRceYKMviw/?utm_medium=tumblr

[drrkmishra]

This momma is getting a makeover 🙌 "In less than a week from now I'm having a Tummy-tuck and a breast lift at My Cosmetic Surgery by Dr. Mishra. To be honest, I'm nervous but highly excited and can't wait to get back to my pre-baby shape. Why am I doing this? Well because, I've worked really really hard but the issues like sagging breasts and loose hanging skin on tummy plus the diastis recti (abdominal muscle separation) after housing and birthing two babies, not to mention the gaining and losing of more than 15 kgs each time, there is not much that can be fixed with just exercise and diet. I workout everyday but the abdominal muscles separation has started taking a toll on my back. I really want to fix this. Plus, getting my girls back to where they belong while I'm already getting inside the OT is a cherry on top ���� Fixing breasts at the same time seems logical too. I'm not looking to be get the figure like models but I want to feel the same outside as I feel from inside- a healthy, fit and strong woman. Such decisions are not everyone's cup of tea so I don't expect everyone to understand this. I'm doing it for myself and I'm happy with my decision." A real patient from Lucknow, 34 years. Swipe to see what a mommy makeover can achieve. Best time to get this done is when you've finished having kids and live a healthy lifestyle. Call/Whatsapp 09795 800800 Website- www.mycosmeticsurgery.in Email- mycosmeticsurgery@gmail.com #mycosmeticsurgery #drrkmishra #SIPSHOSPITAL #plasticsurgery #cosmeticsurgery #aestheticsurgery #realpatients #realmoms #postpartum #tummytuck #mommymakeover #breastlift #mastopexy #tummyfat #saggingbreasts #lucknow https://www.instagram.com/p/CFe44BVnO6F/?igshid=1tm1wq02c0pqh

[nogames411fe-blog]

#realmoms #motherslove❤️ #lovemymomma #thisiswhatrealmomsdo

[doctor-mommy-speaks]

Parents don't give up. This lockdown has been tough on everyone, Parents, kids alike. These few months have proven to be mentally most taxing. Literally, every single day is a task that we try to accomplish. Our kids testing us in worse possible ways. Every day I feel I am on the verge of a mental break down but then I remember I am a parent and I have Lil humans to care for. It's not a very motivating thought but their smiles are. I remember the old younger days without kids where living carefree was the only way I knew. Now I have learnt to respect my parents more than ever.  They did the same things and did an even better job than us. Didn't complain, didn't have mental break downs, provided the best for us. I wonder How did they do it I wonder is it that they were better at it than us and we are the weaker generation or maybe Parenting in this era is actually a feat in itself. Whichever be the case I have understood one thing That looking back at this time I am going to pat myself on the back and pamper myself for having done it amidst this pandemic.  I think parents are superhumans n moms, rank higher in that hierarchy I sometimes sit and think at bedtime that did I really get through today.  The day that seemed like it wouldn't end! Thankyou COVID 19 for making me realise how great -a job parenting is…. Period. . . . #raisingkids #raisingdaughters #raisingboys #howtoparent #parentingishard #parentingdoneright #parentingmoments #raisingsuccessfulchildren #parentproblems #parentingtips #tiredasamother #momtruths #realmoms #marriedwithchildren #doctormommyspeaks #doctorsofinstagram #doctormomlife #tiredmom #exhaustedmommy #indianmomblogger (at India) https://www.instagram.com/p/CCYKneMF91M/?igshid=b8retlctvrm1

[gcastillion]

#DoveChatPack #DovePartner #Chatterbox #HousePartyFun #BeautyBar #Dove #HouseParty #sponsored #ProductReviewer #FreeSamples #NOTSoap #RealMoms #TryBeforeYouBuy (at Lacombe, Louisiana)

[tracilala]

🥺😂 . Reposted from @krayons.n.tequila Ummm yea like I thought we were going straight to hoodies & sweaters 🤣🤣🤣 You know FALL WEATHER : : : : : : : : : : : : #parentmeme #kidmemes #toddlersofinsta #toddlers #parenthood #funnyparents #toddlermomlife #toddlermommy #kidmemes #livingwithkids #thatmomlife #realmoms #parentblogger #mommemes #momproblems #dadproblems #parenting #motherhoodunplug #bless3dmama #krayonsntequlia #blessdedmama #momsupportingmoms #pregnacylife #sahm #scarymommy #familymemes #parentlife #parenting101 #mommode #dadmode #workingmomlife https://www.instagram.com/p/CBBrD0kpYX-/?igshid=8np1vmgn64ow

[everydaymamaof3]

New year thoughts…

The New Year. Always a time to reflect, because the calendar says so.. me personally, I’m always reflecting and learning and growing. It’s almost like a nice little boost maybe, or recharge changing the calendar, but, how we see our lives, our ups and downs and ways we need to grow and define, sharpen a little, or let go, doesn’t happen in one night, or with one change of the date.

It’s a process. We’re all a work in progress. That’s the beauty of life.

I found this year some of my growth came the most in my career, with the build and new programming, and as a mom, as well as in my own self awareness. I mean granted, that was kinda forced on all of us, to take stock in our mental and physical health and well being, pretty much on a daily basis, living in a state of worry and what’s next, for 3 years.

I really grew as a mom in so many ways though, navigating an adult, now married, a tweenager, and a young child.

I’m still growing, but realizing that sometimes things happening in their lives affect me more than they affect them, was a big one this year! I know right, only took 25 years of being a mom to figure that one out 🥴

I needed to learn to harness that. I mean don’t get me wrong, that mama lion isn’t far from the surface, but she’s doing more watching than reacting now. Mostly… let’s keep it real here..

2021 threw us a curveball, with childhood anxiety, which was a very interesting road, but one that I learned to manage my own anxiety with. And the beauty of anxiety is it’s front and center now. It’s normal. It’s common. It’s ok. And anyone who judges it, is clearly misinformed or lying about their own. It’s a part of being a human. Whether you call it nerves, or worry, or unsure, or whatever words people feel more “comfortable” using, it’s anxiety. Its natural. Don’t mask it. Or bury it. Or apologize for it. Work with it. Accept it, so that our kids, or we, can recognize it throughout life, and not be ashamed by it, because in the past 50 years, it was a taboo subject. “Stop crying. Dust it off” when crying is the bodies natural way of releasing toxins and stress. That’s like saying stop breathing. It’s our body’s alarm system, and sometimes some have a louder alarm than others. We rocked our way through it. And will again and again if it presents itself. But for now it’s at bay.

I planned a wedding for my first born, gained an incredible son, lived amongst a huge renovation, juggled life as a mom, a working mom, a worried mom, a “I have to fix this” mom, lived in a pandemic, again, with the rest of you, wildfire season take 7, and I’m still sane, so that’s a bonus.

Another big realization, was that I learned to stop beating myself up for not giving enough of me all the time to my 3. When they need me most, I’m there 1000%. And in the middle our marriage and my self gets the attention it needs. But honestly, as nauseating as it may sound, our marriage is so good. It always has been, and I hope always will be. I never take that for granted.

Finding and keeping balance is hard though! It’s really really hard. But I’m no longer striving for something that sometimes is just not achievable. Sometimes our world gets thrown for a loop and we find our groove again. But having this constant pressure to be “balanced” is such a farce. I love the memes, the quotes, the celeb posts about how crucial balance is, but this is real life. And the scale is gonna tip one way or the other sometimes.

I don’t wanna worry about “am I doing enough” in so many of the roles I play. It’s such bullshit. I AM doing enough. Everyone is happy and thriving and my friendships are solid, my marriage is solid, my career is solid, my family is solid. I am solid. That’s what matters.

We still live in a world of comparison. Quantity over quality. Highlight reels. Blah. Doesn’t impress me.

But we’re also starting to see the world be honest and open about hard truths. Entire pages and influencers with bellies after 4 babies, rockin bikinis. That impresses me. People posting their stories. Their hardships. Their struggles. That impresses me. Real connections and relationships, that impresses me. Things that are actually real life relatable.

It’s shifting. Being content and selective about who you have in your circle is trending. Being content and alone is trending. Showing your hidden talents, DIY, being thrifty is trending. Being kind and helpful and selfless is trending. Being honest is trending.

Social media is a huge part of our lives now, and I feel like it’s changing. Almost like it’s transitioning to a modern vintage. New technology and tricks, but old ways and photos, and appreciation for the simple things. A simpler, but full life ♥️ Freckles and stretch marks, scars and wrinkles, although I’m still not quite ready to embrace those yet! I’m very personally anti wrinkle! Not gonna lie.

Podcasts are big. Reels are big. Real is big.

I have again, this past year, stayed consistent in who I am. I’m a creature of habit. I’m honest about me, life’s ups and downs, and still use writing as a form of expression and self care. I feel whole when I write. It’s as much a part of me as my blonde hair, heart on my sleeve, or incredibly bang on intuition. I still feel 25 on the inside, with the only reminder of my age, being when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror, or get up off the floor after playing with a toddler.

My family is my world, obviously. My health and well being are at the top of my list, as always. My work is my calling. And my dreams never stop. I love “what’s next”. I’ve learned to accept that I am not that person who can just be and slow down and meditate. I can’t be still for long. My body and mind just aren’t built that way. I live in a go state because it’s me. It’s in my genes. It’s part of who I am, and movement makes me happy! It’s ingrained in my brain that being active and honouring my body is a gift.

I love adventure. I love being home. I love quiet sometimes. I love authentic conversations where I don’t have to worry if what I said was taken the wrong way, or gonna travel beyond our conversation. I love the women in my life who will go to bat for me, and are the same behind me as they are in front of me. The people who clap for us when good things happen, and are there for us when bad things happen, consistently, those are our people.

I love that the pandemic has taught me to value simple things a little more. To care more for the environment. Be more mindful of my daily habits.

I found documentaries more appealing than movies this past year. I took better care of me. More like, I was more aware. Even though it felt like one of the busiest years of our life so far, next to having newborns.

Maybe that’s why I took better care. Because I knew I needed to, to wade through it all.

What a beautiful thing it is to know yourself so well.

I feel a huge sense of gratitude to be given this personal strength every day! And I also feel gratitude for not beating myself up on the days I just wanna crumple up and feel shitty. I have those days, I feel them, and I release them.

It was a year of confusion. But also a year of clarity. A year of fear. But also a year of bravery. A year of protecting our peace. But for some, one of the biggest mental and emotional battles they’ve ever fought, getting caught up in it all, getting consumed by it.

2022. I’m looking forward to what lessons you’ll teach me, as I swim through the ebbs and flows of life ♥️ I feel like I have so much more to do…

[estebandahost]

Good morning everybody.... to all the deserving Mothers out there, today is your day, make the best out of it during these crazy times but God bless and keep up the good work.... SHOUTOUTS to the Mothers to be too #FuckCovid #FuckCorona #RealMoms #RoyalShit #Focused #Blessed #Gracious #LoveLife #LiveLife #OneLife #OneLove #GodBless #HeyBoo #MiBebe #HeyFiancé #Muahz #MrHumble #MrAmbition #MrPositive #MrWontStop #MrFuego #MrXplosion (at New York, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/CAAdvHbDR63/?igshid=1seqg5pc15sxb

[shesthehonestmom]

💯😂💯😂💯😂💯😂 Sad, but I felt like this 😏 Go listen to your Mama! Credit @someecards #saturdayshenanigans #saturdaymorningvibes #weekendvibes #weekendwarrior #momlife #realmomlife #momhumor #realmoms #realmom #momproblems #mommyproblems #workingmomproblems #mommyhumor #funnymama #funnymom #funnymoms #thisismotherhood #thisismomlife #funnyparents #familyhumor #someecards #honestmothering #honestlymothering #kidsbelike #momsbelike #mombelike #lifeofamom #lifeofmom (at Howell, Michigan) https://www.instagram.com/p/B0-7Jb6g-sX/?igshid=9y5wbia9iolq

[momcave]

This is so true it hurts 😂 @onefunnymummy knows where it’s at! . . #selfcareformoms #selfcareformums #momjokesfordays #mommyjokes #momproblemslol #funnyparentingmemes #momlifeyo #momlife101 #funmom #seriouslytho #mommingainteasy #momjokes #momlifeunfiltered #realmoms#momproblemslol #singlemomsdoitbest https://www.instagram.com/p/CQjPR_HsIHd/?utm_medium=tumblr