#rach talks

[localwench]

how do I tell him I want to feel him inside my guts in a cute, dream girl way

[mandoalorian]

og pedro pascal stans do u all remember rough day

[omgrachwrites]

Hellooo my little cherubs. I'm so sorry for the radio silence, I'm working on leaving a toxic job but I'm off for 8 days after today so I will be posting again.

My next Dalton fic will be up tomorrow and it may have a little spice 🥵

[a-kyber-star]

somehow it never occurred to me until now that j'zargo is trying to kill you to eliminate his competition when you do his quest

[rachelwritesstories]

Your characterization of Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) does sound sad! In the hope of brightening your day, I asked my Board Certified Behavioral Analyst (BCBA) wife about the items in your parenthetical, whether they’d correct these so-called “bad behaviors” in their work.

(I found your post this morning while I was scrolling in bed, recovering from poor sleep due to a 3 a.m. meltdown. Z was buttoning up their favorite goth-vacation-uncle shirt, getting ready for a day of in-home supervisions.)

Z responded that they wouldn’t correct most of your listed traits:

Eye contact: Z has never and will never force a client to make eye contact. It wouldn’t be ethical to do so.

Stimming: Z would never attempt to correct a client’s benign stimming, and they’ve educated many parents who have requested they do so. Stimming is addressed only when it is dangerous or so disruptive it completely prohibits the client from learning.

Overstimulation/meltdowns: Overstimulation isn’t a behavior, and ABA can only address behaviors. Regarding meltdowns, a related behavior, Z wouldn’t force a client to stop a meltdown, and they pointed out that attempting to do so would only lead to a more severe meltdown at a later point.

Socialization: While many treatment plans include social skills, Z never forces clients to socialize in a session, though Z acknowledges that clients do have to interact with the therapist during treatment. During break periods, clients can play by themselves, though many still seek out playing with the therapist.

Your post shows great empathy for autistic children, and I hope learning about ABA ethics provides comfort. When clients’ parents ask “when will my child be normal?,” Z addresses their assumption with patience and mindfulness to their biases. ABA therapy isn’t about fitting into a box of normalcy. The goal is to develop skills that improve the clients’ quality of life—including the communication skills to give informed consent.

As Z left this morning, knowing they’d be leaving me home alone for 11 hours—me, on four hours sleep, racked with suicidal ideation, and with a goal to apply to jobs, one of my most triggering activities after being fired for spurious reasons related to my autistic traits—my wife looked at me so dearly. “Be gentle with yourself today.”

When you have fears and agonize over social forces that demand normalcy, I hope Z’s words bring you comfort too. Instead of an ABA strawman, picture my queer, disabled, and pink-haired wife and caretaker modeling language skills by providing enthusiastic commentary as a child stacks blocks. Picture Z’s delight when we started weightlifting and they could better meet stimulation-seeking clients’ demands for more swing pushing, tickling, and tossing on the couch. Picture Z empowering non- and low-verbal clients to request their preferred reinforcement, whether that’s iPad time, outside time, or sitting on the couch time.

There are people who want you to live a happy, fulfilling life—and who understand that your innate traits are part of that, not a hindrance to it.

I was never put into aba therapy but the whole idea of putting a disabled/autistic child into therapy to correct their "bad behavior" which is actually behavior that are common autistic traits (no eye contact, stimming, overstimulation, socialization, etc) to fit into a box of normalcy is absolutely horrific. also given the fact that a majority of parents are often pressured into putting their children into the program, their children never truly being unable to consent to this as well is so sad.

[localwench]

being a whore who doesn’t have sex is so hard

[localwench]

my boobs are sooooooo suckable in case you were wondering

[localwench]

WARNING!!!! Category 5 unhinged girl behavior due to lack of affection. Proceed with caution

[localwench]

future bf will have many titty pics coming his way

[localwench]

gf whose tits fall out of her shirt while she naps

[localwench]

all of the pretty girls on my little device i love you

[localwench]

mutual to walk around museums with (mtwamw)

[localwench]

for health reasons I need to feel his mouth on mine and his fingers knuckles deep in my pussy

[localwench]

don’t talk to me unless you’re planning on keeping cute polaroids of us inside your wallet like us kissing and of me nuzzling your bulge

[localwench]

hope your abuser is living a joyless life

[localwench]

mutuals I am slicing up a baguette and halving cherry tomatoes and drizzling extra virgin olive oil and sprinkling sea salt on top and baking it until the tomatoes are sizzling & fragrant and pouring a dash of balsamic on top as a snack for you