#queer bars

[farmerlesbian]

I read two interviews and an article about the new book, Moby Dyke by Krista Burton and am wondering what y’all’s experience is with going to lesbian bars. I’m talking historically Dyke bars. Hard to define sometimes but if you’re unsure, take a look at the pieces I linked above, then answer!

As usual, add your thoughts in the comments or tags or explain if it's complicated!

[360degreesasthecrowflies]

On a gender presentation update:

I had the most successful night of my life at the local club after I went out in my work clothes not intending to go for a full night out. (I was just dropping in on my friend who works there after their shift finished and we ended up staying) Apparently even in the queer clubs here people who look like the gender they're "meant" to is actually what people find attractive (????)

So much for queer people being more discerning or whatever!

Then a week later I went out abroad in my full club kid getup and was extremely popular there dressed in that way soooo....

Now I'm just confused. Maybe this is another sign I should move away or something.

[joy-haver]

In response to: “How do lgbtq+ bars feel about straight/cisgender women going to them? I want to respect them but also feel safe”

:

If your going for an event where you are going to pay queer performers: I encourage you.

If your going with queer friends who invite you: I encourage you.

If your going because you just like the bar and the people: cool, I hope you make friends

If your going because folks their have previously rly enjoyed your company and told you they hope you come back: cool, I hope you make friends.

If youre going to learn more about queer folks : there are often better avenues for that, tho not always.

If youre going for safety from shitty dudes: there are often better avenues for that, tho not always.

If youre going to gawk at how strange we are: fuck off

If youre going to “prove” you support the queer community: fuck off

If your going on a night that’s specifically for queer people to meet other queer people: fuck off

But in general, just being aware of the fact that it isn’t your space, that you are a visitor to it, is the most important thing.

Treat it like the home of someone you care for. Be comfortable, ask for what you need, socialize, and contribute. But don’t try to take ownership over the space, and acknowledge that there are times when you shouldn’t be there

For example, Yesterday was Trans Day of Remembrance. Many people, including non-queer ppl, have reasons to go to events relevant to that. However, if you don’t feel like you have a personal reason to go, if you don’t have a solemn conection to what that day means, if you are going for fun, then queer bars are not for you on that day.

I hope this clears things up at least a bit, and I hope you find lovely community to be with.

[lesbianloveisreal]

Reminder if you go to queer spaces and then see someone from one of those spaces out in the world, unless you know they are out you didn't meet them at said queer space.

[atompowers]

"The memories, the friendships, the feeling of belonging and those joyous moments on the dance floor. The bars evolve as we do. They come and go and sometimes come back again. The spaces may be fleeting, but what they’ve given us is permanent."

—D.C.’s Gay Bars: An Oral History, Citypaper

[bethelctpride]

Bear Night Friday April 5th 2024 11PM-2AM

Trevi Lounge 548 Kings Highway Cutoff, Fairfield, CT

[acewriter]

Alphabet Community Bar Names

Introduction

I have been writing a series of books that center around the LGBT (or Alphabet) Community in a fictional city. Several years ago I started collecting bar names. I've since learned how few women's / lesbian bars there currently are, where there were quite a few 30 years ago.

This list is incomplete but I'll be adding information as time goes on.

This post will serve as a master post, linking to individual posts of each bar. The goal here is to gather information. So if you want to contribute information, please tell me and I'll credit you accordingly.

Bar Names

California

San Francisco

Marlena's

Lexington Club

Peg's Place

Maud's

Amelia's

Clementina's Baybrick Inn; aka The Brick

Colorado

Colorado Springs

Club Q

District of Columbia (Washington, DC)

As You Are

Florida

Orlando

Pulse Night Club

Georgia

Atlanta

Phase One

Other Side Lounge

Louisiana

New Orleans

Upstairs Lounge

New York State

New York City

Bum Bum Bar

Stonewall Inn

Tennessee

Memphis

Avershot & Lorenzo's

Dru's Bar

Madison Flame

Texas

Houston

Chances Bar

Virginia

Roanoke

Backstreet Cafe

Washington State

Seattle

The Grand Union

The Silver Slipper

The Wild Rose

[brainrockets]

One time I searched for queer bars in a place I was visiting and the only result was an Applebee's. Which was funny then but I have since watched Fantasy High and it's now way funnier.

[the-infernal-reader]

Went to my local queer bar and found they had this cheeky boy. I've never wanted to steal something so badly. I love him!

[justdavina]

Such a HOT transgender woman! I just love purple anything. She's so sexy. The perfect outfit for a San Francisco Night Club. The only problem is that I wouldn't be able to keep my hands off of her! She so wonderful.

[azis-nebula]

listen, getting off by myself is great. But fuck it’s a lot of work. Humping my pillow and whimpering into the quiet of my room isn’t enough anymore. Fingering myself until my hand cramps up isn’t doing it for me.

I need need need a nice top or switch to just lay me down and ravage me. Show me more pleasure than I could ever show myself. Mark my skin with their nails and their teeth until it’s etched like a piece of art. I want them to sign their name with their tongue on my clit and show how I belong to them. An artist always signs their work, right?

is this too much to ask?

THIS IS ABOUT LESBIAN SEX. MEN AND MINORS DNI

[triona-tribblescore]

He's a little silly but we support him all the same <3

[diskodizzydarling]

Disko dizzy Darling 💃🏼🪩

[magicisrealandsoismyblog]

This is what lesbian bars are for!

I realise that bars aren't accessible to everyone and we need to have more different kinds of queer spaces, but they definitely exist. See if you can find a lesbian bar near you! Or a gay bar, if there's not a lesbian-specific one. You will find lesbians there too. If you can find one, I would also highly recommend going to a drag show. They're very fun and lots of queer people (including lesbians) around.

Community centres also sometimes have queer meets and things like that where you can find other queer people, although I don't know how common that is in less progressive areas. Squat houses also regularly host queer parties and safe spaces, especially if they aren't provided by the municipality.

And Pride! Go to your local Pride Week, see what kind of events they host. People usually think of the parades but some Prides also host other events. I cannot go to the parades because they're much too overwhelming, but I love going to the theatre plays (and talks after) or to the panels. If you're in school, you could see if you guys have a GSA you could join. And if you don't, you could see if you could set one up. That's where a lot of lesbians meet, in their college's GSA or queer club.

I realise that these are not available everywhere in the world and not accessible to everyone, but they definitely exist. You may not have a wealth to chose from and you may need to drive pretty far to get to a queer bar but they're out there. I promise.

Do some digging into what things exist near you, you may be surprised at what you find. (Although, if it's dangerous to be openly queer where you are they may be very hard to find). Hopefully you'll find some place that you can go to! And once you're in somewhere you can use your connections there to find other places too.

And if you can't find anything, as long as it's not dangerous for you to do so, you can always try to set something up yourself.

TL/DR: Lesbian spaces, they exist. Queer bars, community centres, squat houses and Pride are good places to start looking for them. Many of them are not super accessible and they may sometimes be hidden and hard to find, especially if you're in a place where it isn't safe to be openly queer. But they definitely exist!!

“If you’re not finding any other lesbians just go into the lesbian community 🙄”

Do people really think the lesbian community has like a secret place where we always have meetings to talk about lesbianism and talk shit about men?

Lol I wish that existed

[bizynski]

💜 The Lesbian Bar Passport is back! 💜

🌈 Every passport includes a bio on each of the 32 lesbian bars in the U.S., plus handprinted illustrations and stickers to mark the ones you've visited. There are now FIVE different designs to choose from.

You can order yours at my Etsy shop: bizynski.etsy.com

[bethelctpride]

Friday March 29th 2024- starts 9:30PM

Trevi Lounge 548 Kings Highway Cutoff, Fairfield, CT

Skynn is hosting Trevi’s 11th Anniversary, come celebrate with us. Performances by Frankie Cyanide, Ryder, Tiana Maxim, and Logan Star! It’s going to be a blast! Come ready to party and have a good time!