#psycholgy

[lifenconcepts]

If you’re not cool with violence in metaphors and poetic expressions of my inner self then you litterally don’t deserve me. If you don’t let me bite you while dreamily reminiscing about cannibalism then you don’t love me. To want the viscera of another out on display is as vulnerable and gentle of a desire as nudity, and just as consent is important in one, it is important in the other. Tear yourself open for me so I can allow my eyes to rest on what makes you up, allow my touch to send electricity through your nervous system unlike ever before. Tell me - what is the difference between pain and love? Where there is sensual touching and tender restraint, it isn’t inherent either, but both. To softly trace the wounds that you could expand on, only to allow the warmth to fester through the cold. Tell me tell me.. is there anything more honourable than being brought to half consciousness by another, what difference if it’s through intercourse or through agonising actions brought on behalf of thought of love and care. In lieu of any better explanation, we poets resort to the thing you most fear - macabre and the grotesque. If you can’t handle the percievable pain you could experience, then neither are you ready for the pain of a relationship. To be fair with yourself is to allow both to exist in equilibrium. And just as one is a virgin physically, a phenomenon to form the concept of being untouched by another with such intentions, does not mean you’re immune. But rather, just as some haven’t yet been exposed to sexual acts (and for the better), some have never begun to understand the peak of connotations that the consequence of violence can bring on. I am not speaking through a fetish nor a desire but a lack of better explanation- an asexual cannibal. the romance is not from the pain itself but the tenderness and tension it shows without irreversible consequences. The connnection that forms is more beautiful than any love letter because it’s through sheer raw unfiltered fight that we love, and the light that’s within is no different than the scorching sun nor the sweltering flame, despite both giving out the heat you so crave. This is not to excuse abuse, as such a game is dangerous to play with the belief that all intend well. through kisses and hugs can become just as suffocating as pain, and yet, sometimes people just express differently. And who are you but to deny them the right to fanaticise? Admit discomfort, yes, for you have a fight to receive the love you want even if it’s through another.

[xenofact]

Getting a Handle On The Messiahs

I live in Silicon Valley, which as we’ve seen, has spawned people with Messiah Complexes. There’s always someone out there ready to save the world with their new solution or idea - you can check the marketing materials. And if you think you know who I’m talking about, you’re probably wrong by the odds - because we’ve got a lot of them.

I also move in spiritual and political spaces. There’s plenty of messiahs there to, ready to tell you how to save your soul and save the world., sometimes at the same time It’s the same old gig we’ve seen for thousands of years, really. Oh, and once again if you think you know who I’m taking about you’re probably wrong because of, again, the odds.

Now you may think I’m going to talk about grifters and opportunists. I am, tangentially, but I’m also talking self-proclaimed Messiahs in general. Because Messianism goes pathological if it didn’t start that way.

Think about what it takes to think you’re a Messiah. You have to believe that you are the one or a small amount of the ones who will save the planet. You have to know that it’s up to you to do everything, that you’re the linchpin of human history. You have to think you’re really special, if not touched by God or his/her immediate stand-in.

Know what you also have to believe? That everyone else is useless without you.

To be a Messiah is to know you’re special and by contrast everyone else is lesser. A Messiah may not say it, may not think it, but they must believe everyone else is lost without them. I don’t’ buy the superiority of these Messiahs, but it seems obvious many of them didn’t just buy it, they got a subscription.

In fact, to be a Messiah, you need other people to be worse than you. Messiahs are nothing without someone to save. To be the savior is to need people who need saving, and without that a Messiah means nothing. If your identity is bound up in being a Messiah, then other people automatically get a downgrade in your book.

What of those people who don’t think they need you? To many a Messiah, they’re the enemy, the disbeliever, the opponent of humanity. To get in the way of the Great Savior by not believing in them shakes up the entire Messiah’s belief system.

Being a Savior needs the saved, and needs someone to explain why the salvation isn’t happening.

This is a pretty toxic mix. You have to believe people are worse and that you’re the best or better. I also am pretty damn sure many a self-proclaimed Messiah started with the dislike of other people or increased self-regard, and then built up from there. I imagine many an honest, sincere Messiah even lost their metaphysical marbles confronting all of these psychodynamics.

Even a potential benevolent Messiah risks getting pretty goddamn pathological. I’m sure in this day and age many of the mass-media Messianic Maniacs started pathological and only went up from there - or down, depending on your viewpoint.

So no, I don’t trust Messiahs. I trust people, folks as messy as I am, hands dirty, getting busy just trying to get things done. There’s lots of those, working every day. Some of them may be legitimate Messiahs . . .

. . . but you’d never know it. And maybe it’s better that way for all of us.

Xenofact

[sumpix]

[fastcarsgovroom]

The Lando haters on soc med are so fascinating. They:

1) expect him to do well but dismiss his talent and abilities;

2) hate on him if he does well, sometimes for really inane reasons;

3) hate on him if he doesn’t do well, because he should have done well but at the same time doesn’t deserve it;

4) hate on him for sth as silly as Driver of the Day. (If this isn’t satire I truly think these peeps need a more productive and less stressful hobby).

Truly fascinating.

[caddyheron]

Controversial opinion of the day:

Karen and Gretchen my beloved <3

However, they make such bad decisions that they are genuinely terrible people. I love the plastics they suck so much, they aren't even good for each other

NO YEAH REAL.

The plastics are all terrible people. Regina is the most overtly terrible - she is actively mean and rude and judgemental and critical to everyone, she is the definition of a mean girl. But Gretchen lets her people pleasing nature and her want to be there for Regina cloud everything. She doesn't stop Regina because she knows she doesn't have the power and it's easier to be complicit and complacent than stop something. She also, obviously, actively tries to give Regina more power. She's a bad person. Karen is the least actively "bad" member of the plastics to me, but she's complicit and complacent too. She lets Regina be awful, lets her treat Gretchen terribly, and she lets Gretchen spill everything about everyone to Regina so Regina can use it to her advantage. The Plastics are all mean people, they all suck. They're supposed to suck! But as a fandom we need to acknowledge how much they all suck, including Gretchen and Karen. They're pressured 16 year old girls, so it's not like we can demonise them, but we have to acknowledge how much popular high school girls can be awful, and the Plastics are caricatures of this.

We also need to acknowledge that Cady did things wrong. Not as often, openly or terribly as the plastics and we all know I'm no.1 Cady Heron Defender, but she was in control of her own actions. She was manipulated by Janis (who is also a mean girl!! An understandably and traumatised mean girl, but the whole thing about Mean Girls is how everyone does things wrong. No one really gets out of mean girls without having done things wrong, that's basically the message of the musical / movie), but her actions, especially after Revenge Party, are her own and her own decisions. She's an active participant in the downfall of Regina, she hurts Aaron, and it's likely that Gretchen and Karen become complicit and complacent for Cady's needs during Cady's "reign" too.

It's hard to place sole blame on anyone in mean girls because it's everyone's fault, at its core. It's their faults, it's their parents faults, it's society's fault... etc etc. I think about this a lot, how humans are a product of all of their environments and how environment is such a major factor in how genetics display. Cady is such an interesting example to me of nature vs nurture psychological debate but I won't get into it here. But know I'm now thinking about the psychology of the characters in mean girls.

Anyway, back to the original point, I think everyone in mean girls has been a terrible person in one way or the other, but I also think it’s majority explainable, in the cases of basically everyone. Gretchen and Karen weren’t born terrible people, they’re products of their environment, they’re products of Regina, and of their own mental health. Then again, Regina is a product of her environment too. No one person is singularly born in one way or made into another - there’s always a combination of both. The Plastics are all terrible for each other, they make each other worse and bounce off each other’s awfulness. The only way to become better was by what happened in canon, forcibly divide them, split them up, make them realise, come to terms with how terrible they are and how terrible things have been.

[kalifissure]

Imho, this is what is happening right now.

Book below as backup.

https://archive.org/details/MassPsychologyOfFascism-WilhelmReich

[lostboys-fangposting]

demetri once tried teaching the palazzo cats fetch upon felix telling him that they were boring

only the tabbies caught on, but refused to bring back toys unless bribed with treats

[hauntedhappenings]

sometimes you try to do your homework bcs it's tech sunday tomorrow but you have unfortunately become deeply obsessed with psych but way harder than any of the other times so you're just like dying here

[kalifissure]

Thomas Morton was an enlightenment entrepreneur who came to America, saw the puritans , considered them a social blight and wrote a screed against them. The first book banned in the USA.

[vivisunnyxd]

about me

basic info:

I use she/her pronouns

I am 17 years old

My birthday is on the 28 of october

I am from Belgium

I speak Dutch, English, and a tiny bit of French

music I love:

Mitski

Lana Del Rey

Loona

Red Velvet

Fleetwood Mac

the cure

the Smiths

Tyla

Tinashi

Kara

Snsd

Beyonce

Rihanna

Victoria Monet

...

movies and tv shows I love:

Gossip Girl

Pretty Little liars

Gilmore girls

Skins

Glee

Nana

Iasip

Girl Interupted

Black Swan

Requiem for a dream

Fight club

pulp fiction

to the bone

the possesion

Pearl

other things I love:

make up

skin care

spotify

bows

pink

flowers

cats

hello kitty

cuddling

dancing

psycholgy

philosophy

rainy days

blogging

pinterest

pilates

diet coke

gum

theather

shopping

xoxo

[chaotic-so3k]

I'm watching ep 6 (season two) of nbc's Hannibal and Hanni is chopping up a HUMAN HEART right in FRONT OF ALANA

Alana, may I remind you has a PhD in psychiatry which is a MEDICAL field

There are VERY few medical fields that you can get a doctorate in w/out learning human anatomy and as far as I know psycholgy is not one of them

Where I'm going with this is that she SHOULD be able to recognise a human heart, because if you see it that many times I doubt that you can be gullible enough to think it's a pig's

[herejusttosufferalong]

Jack and A didn’t really date did they, cause I see mentions of it here and there? Cause what kind of shit friend would that make Luke. You repay the guy that lets you crash on his couch when you didn’t have a home by stealing his girlfriend? I can’t see Luke doing that considering he does really seem loyal to his friends however weird vibes they give off. 

Being around men groups having two elder brothers and some boyfriends 😉, and also been married for years, my experience is that this happens in certain type of men groups. Only in the ones with not very good dinamics though. It's about competion and hierarchy.

I do not have any degree in psycholgy so these are only my thoughts.

I don't think L would have done that. I think it was the other way around. Maybe J and A broke up and she become available. L seems to be sy who mostly avoids direct confrontation.

It happens very often that the alfa breaks up with the girl who starts to date one of the beta 's. I am almost sure L is not the alfa in the group, it seems like its R now but might have been J? Before he left?

J could not handle L is more successful now? Him disappearing can be a sign of that.

Also shows that A is really into this group, less the person. She is like a groupie of a bánd. Happens often,when someone is young and impressionable.

I had a bf when I was in my twenties who I broke up with. I am not proud of that, but I moved on really quickly and seeing this he started dating a girl his best friend broke up with just aroung the time. They were bonding over heartache. Did not last long. So that is also possible.

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[kelin-is-writing]

Hi, I know you hate endevour and his fans..but whay if people like him because of his psycholgy, he is an intresting character..

Honestly, I hate Endeavor but I don’t really care if peoples likes him or not; y’all can like whatever characters you want, it’s really none of my business at the end of the day.

What I don’t like and find embarrassing, it’s rude fans that come into my inbox disguised as Anonymous only to attack me because I hold him accountable for things he has in fact done and for supporting his victims, while not caring about what happens to him.

I mean— Why do you care if 1 out of billion other fans doesn’t like Endeavor (for fair reasons)? It’s just like when bullies in middle school hate on someone for their looks. Like, the other person is allegedly “ugly” and you get mad on a personal level because of it? Very questionable behavior.

If you find him an interesting character, that’s totally fine. I don’t really have any say in it, because patronizing a total stranger is a weird and narcissistic behavior that I won’t engage in.

I just personally don’t like Endeavor nor I think he’s an interesting character, since I don’t really like nor him nor peoples who are like him irl, this because of personal reasons that I won’t disclose on here. It’s really just this 👐🏼

[1indigoisles]

Chapter 1 - Excerpt 6

This one's in Jolene's POV :)

Nobody knows her.

Dear God, why had I said that? Not that it wasn’t true, in a sense. Saying that Scarlett Raynott didn’t trust easily was the understatement of a lifetime. Scarlett had been my best friend and loyal companion ever since we were kids, and even still, I constantly felt as though I didn’t really know all of her secrets; most of them, maybe, but not all.

I pushed that thought away. We, Rowan and I, had bigger things to think about.

Like how Lila and Kenneth Teigen had taken one look at freaking Bleak House and thought, this seems homely, why don’t we move in? Like how they now lived as close to Scarlett and endless danger as they possibly can get. Like how Kenneth had actually seen Scarlett, and recognized her.

Like how the Teigens knew that Knightville existed at all.

If I were normal, I would turn to Rowan, talk about what to do next, maybe even seek assurance that everything would not, in fact, go to hell.

But I was not normal, and you knew you weren’t normal when there was something fundamentally wrong with you and there was no term in psycholgy or any other science in existence that could describe it.

There had been a time when Rowan could bring me comfort and reassurance, with his simple, meaningful words and the thoughtful arch to his brow. But now, it was all I could do to smile and be playful and take up the role sisters should, to keep the pretense, to maintain what we had as siblings. No, Rowan was no longer my sanctuary, the sanctuary he had been when I was young and normal; he was someone who injured me everyday without even realising it, someone around whom I could never be myself, someone who would turn away with disgust if he knew the truth about me.

The second the bell had rung, Kenneth had taken one look at his time-table, muttered a swift “sorry,” smiled apologetically as he did, and bolted. Rowan had looked thoughtfully at Kenneth’s back then, and I could not help but do the same. Kenneth was never meant to be so... human. He was never meant to have a kind undertone to his deep, forest-green eyes, he was never meant to have such a steady set to his face, the kind that would remain the same even if flames of the tallest heights danced on the water of oceans and turned the earth and everyone on it into ash.

I was never meant to like him in the 10 minutes that I knew him.

And as he went, I could not help but notice that he had disappeared around the same corner, where the classrooms began and the main hall ended, as Scarlett had, just moments ago.

I turned to Rowan with a fake smile plastered on my face. “Well, that went well.”

“Spectacularly,” Rowan said seriously, “your acting skills were truly flawless.”

I smiled winningly. I knew he was being sarcastic, but I also knew that going along with his sarcasm threw him. “Why, thank you, kind brother mine,” I said, adding a gallon of sugar to my smile and trying to ignore the sting of the word, ‘brother’.

Sure enough, Rowan narrowed his eyes, and I grinned triumphantly.

But of course, he just had to ask the million-dollar question. “What should we do about Kenneth?”

“No idea whatsoever,” I said cheerfully, as though I wasn’t losing my mind either. On a more serious note, I added, “maybe, for now, we should just keep tabs on Kenneth, what his classes are, where he comes and goes, and try and keep him away from Scarlett in general.”

“So basically stalk him,” Rowan said.

“Got any better ideas?” I asked.

Rowan brow suddenly cleared, and I knew what he was about to suggest. “I could always-”

“No,” I said immediately. “You could never go on for that long. It would drain you.”

And I don’t want to see you like that, I almost said, but held my tongue. It might reveal too much.

Unable to look at him any longer, I turned my gaze back to where Scarlett had disappeared, turning my attention to the issue at hand, and the reasons why the situation was this pressing.

Because everyone in this town knew the name 'Teigen.'

And we knew that name because of the two people who managed to get away.

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