#proofs you're enby

[li-nox]

@anotherobsessedsomething no more words needed 🤭

[genderqueerdykes]

ik there's a lot of examples of why transandrophobia is "valid/real" and whatever. but I think one that stands out to me is when people make comments like "men shouldn't rest or feel safe until menstruation products are free/men have 0 say in any laws surrounding uteruses/men can't ever know what it's like to be a *insert traumatic experience commonly happening to young girls*" and stuff of the like. just conversations that ignore a large portion of the tmen/masc communities existence (and probably some intersex folk too yh?? and enbies who are like man-aligned or js like. yeah transandrophobia effects a lot of ppl) and experiences and I'm like. so what word do I use to describe this? "just use transphobia" what if I want a word to describe my unique experiences for once that isn't an incredibly broad one for the whole community?? Maybe I want one that quickly describes this unique forgeting tmen exist completely js so you can angrily yell at men without repercussions.

what if I'm sick of yelling "transphobia!" just to be told "oh... no I'm talking about CIS men" as if I'm not actually a man, that cis men are more man than I will ever be and like this is a good thing. or being told I'm being hostile and are proof testosterone makes you evil. what do I call it then. you can't separate the man from trans, I'm a TRANS. MAN. and I deserve a word to describe the things I've experienced just like transfems and transwomen and nonbinary people without being told I'm "speaking over anyone"

idk, food for thought maybe infighting and attacking your own community isn't the way forward. maybe hating men, trans or not, will never be the liberating progressive feminist movement you think it is. maybe just maybe hate is not something you're immune to just because you're hated. maybe we all need to calm the fuck down and revaluate some shit and process our own bigotry /nay

this is a great ask, thanks for taking the time to send this, i appreciate you for telling your story and giving feedback. this is the exact reason i made a post a few days ago about how we have to stop holding back on having genuine conversations about queer experiences and the diversity and struggles transness bring. no trans person has it easy. none. we all suffer because cisheteronormative patriarchy hates the concept of transness. it hates trans men and mascs too

just conversations that ignore a large portion of the tmen/masc communities existence (and probably some intersex folk too yh?? and enbies who are like man-aligned or js like. yeah transandrophobia effects a lot of ppl) and experiences and I'm like. so what word do I use to describe this? "just use transphobia" what if I want a word to describe my unique experiences for once that isn't an incredibly broad one for the whole community?? Maybe I want one that quickly describes this unique forgeting tmen exist completely js so you can angrily yell at men without repercussions.

This entire line of thinking has been so pointlessly rude for no reason this entire time. This is legitimately one of the dumbest, pettiest things I have ever seen in my life and I'm saying it like it is: trans women and transfems do not own the concept of having a specific kind of oppression when it comes to transness. Whether or not you want to accept that trans men are also oppressed under patriarchy isn't our business. But it's the truth. And getting upset because transmascs and men wanted to coin "transandrophobia," what exactly is that solving? Genuinely how is that talking over trans women.

what if I'm sick of yelling "transphobia!" just to be told "oh... no I'm talking about CIS men" as if I'm not actually a man, that cis men are more man than I will ever be and like this is a good thing. or being told I'm being hostile and are proof testosterone makes you evil. what do I call it then. you can't separate the man from trans, I'm a TRANS. MAN. and I deserve a word to describe the things I've experienced just like transfems and transwomen and nonbinary people without being told I'm "speaking over anyone"

Absolutely, you and every other transmasc and trans man and related person deserve to be able to discuss your struggles and experiences. Let's have an honest conversation about it for once. Creating a term, and thus a space and forum where people can go to to have a conversation, share experiences and identify with one another means that there is now a dedicated space to having that conversation. That space is not built directly on top of transfem and trans woman spaces. It is built beside it, laterally. This means that if people want to talk about the specific forms of transphobia trans men, transmascs, and some intersex, nonbinary, genderqueer, genderfluid, bigender, agender and other queer people, there is a specific space to do it, reducing the amount of people who are in specifically transfeminine spaces talking about struggles that are not the same.

Having different terms is a very good thing because it means that people who share the same experiences can come together. This means that trans men and mascs now have a place to talk that lowers the chances of them accidentally or even intentally talking over trans women and transfems. This has never been a bad thing. It's a good thing. If transfems and women get to make specific spaces for ourselves, so are transmascs and trans men. They don't have to "just use transphobia". What they're experiencing is unique to them and you don't have the right to tell them what they are and are not experiencing.

If you as a trans woman or transfem do not want to hear about how transmascs and trans men have it, please feel free to go to spaces that are focused around transfems and trans women where you can talk about the similar experiences you have. Don't take our space away from us just because you don't want to listen, though. Trans men still deserve to be able to talk. You don't have to shut up trans men in order for trans women to be heard.

[airasora]

saw someone say stolitz is handled better in fanon than in canon because "there's not a lot of obvious signs of them falling in love." thoughts?

... what.

Not a... not a lot of signs of them falling in love??? My dude, my girlypop, my enby... ARE WE WATCHING THE SAME SHOW 🤣🤣🤣

I could write an essay about how obvious it is that they're both pining for each other, but I'll just make a list instead.

Stolas

Love at first sight

Brings Blitz and his coworkers to The Harvest Moon Festival just because (not to fuck or for safety, but just to be nice to them all)

Instinctively knows when Blitz is in danger ("I have my ways", oh, please, Stolas, you're keeping an eye on him cause you care)

Watches soap dramas while pining for Blitz

Is excited about their first date and goes all out with his looks for it

Wants desperately to actually TALK with Blitz

Asks Blitz about his day

Wants to hang out with Blitz just to hang out

Understands and validates the importance to Loona's shot despite being in actual danger himself

Has TWO songs about being hopelessly in love with Blitz

Goes out of his way to give Blitz a way to go to the human world without him even though he risks Blitz not wanting to see him anymore

Despite Blitz' initial rejection, Stolas doesn't cry until he thinks Blitz thinks low of him (proving that he was understanding if Blitz wanted nothing to do with him anymore

Despite being angry, sad, and drunk, Stolas still helps Blitz hide at the all of Blitz' exes party

Instinctively looks at Blitz for permission to dance with the "Better than Blitz" guy

Blitz

Millie calls Stolas Blitz' boyfriend (confirming she knows Blitz has feelings for Stolas)

Gets flustered when trying to explain his situationship with Stolas (if it was purely professional, why does it make him nervous to talk about?)

Despite only inviting Stolas on a date to spy on Millie and Mox, when Stolas tries to actually talk with him, he turns to face him and tries to talk too

Blitz is clearly very hurt after the Ozzie's incidence

Blitz immediately parties hard and tries to hook up with multiple after Ozzie's (a typical response to someone who is hurting romantically)

Gets flustered from seeing human Stolas (there's a tiny blush)

When Blitz realizes Stolas can actually get hurt, he looks terrified

The entire apology tour is legit just to prove something to Stolas (and himself)

Despite having hurt many people, Blitz clearly cares the most about having hurt Stolas

The way he looks at Stolas when he's confessing his love for him AND during their talk at the party

Gets hella jealous when Stolas kisses someone else

I haven't watched episode 10 yet nor the last two shorts, so I could probably add more to these lists, but even without those, there's plenty of proof of them falling in love.

Whoever said this must not be good at reading in between the lines. No shame, but... they're objectively wrong 😂

[yourmisogynistfriend]

Imagine going on a misogyny KINK blog and calling someone a "beta" unironically😂

Also, if you think someone being enby means they can't hold problematic views or do problematic behaviours (not you, just the idea that "calling yourself enby makes women think you're 'safe' as opposed to cishet men") gives away way more about how anon views "actual" enby people (positive discrimination and gatekeeping much?) than your KINK blog makes you look "bad" to anyone with half a braincell and no uninterrogated knee-jerk reaction to "problematic" kinks.

Hey! Don’t laugh at him! Poor hater had a bad day and wants to feel strong for once by sending anon hate! That’s sad, not funny!!

Yeah their opinion on gender is weird and they don’t seem to know what a kink is

And their last ask was just another proof of how jealous they are of my MASSIVE MONSTRUOUS PULSATING 34 INCHES LONG COCK

[thelaughingmuse]

A brief history of US women's financial rights

Until 1848, married women in the US were not allowed to own property. Any property a woman owned became the property of her husband once she married. Same for any property that she might inherit during the marriage. The state of New York was the first to pass laws protecting married women's ability to own real estate by themselves. Most other US states adopted this law, or a very similar one, by 1900. (Yeah. It took them over 50 years.)

Until 1963, women in the US had no legal protections insuring that employers pay women an equal amount for doing a job that a man was doing. Once the Equal Pay Act passed, more women who were in the workforce could build their own wealth through having and using basic bank accounts, and had the ability to be customers for financial products. Women could open bank accounts before this point - but often only as "Mrs. Someone", not as themself.

Until 1974, women in the US could not apply for a credit card or get a home loan. Even if a bank would lend to a woman before 1974, the women were often charged higher interest rates than men - the thinking being, women are a bigger credit risk since they would leave the workforce earlier to take care of children, banks had to protect their investment SOMEHOW. Then in 1974, the Equal Credit Opportunity Act was passed, and banks could not require that a woman have a man as a co-signer on any account or financial product. (Some of the goatwanking control freaks probably STILL kept charging women higher interest rates, though.)

Until 1988, women could not apply for a business loan without - you guessed it - a male cosigner. Ronald Reagan (yes, that guy - proof that the most noxious boil of a human being can occasionally luck into doing something positive) signed the Women's Business Ownership Act, creating government support for women-owned businesses. Before this point, women had to get a male relative to co-sign any business loan.

But let's look at the Equal Credit Opportunity Act. That gives women the access to credit, which can sometimes be as important as having your own cash because it builds a credit history which can be used to prove to other banks that you're a stable credit risk, that lending money to you is highly likely to be repaid*. This landmark was what let women get mortgages =in their own name=. That lets women buy their own house - if they can afford it - which, in that time and place, set women up for a bit more stability than being a renter and gave women the huge financial equity that a house confers. (Now very few individuals can afford to buy houses in the US unless they come from wealth. But I digress.)

The US has only had widespread female financial emancipation and equal financial rights for two human generations. Fifty years. I was in kindergarten before my mom or any of her three sisters could have gotten a mortgage in their own name.

Ladies and female-appearing enbys, know your worth and know how to handle money. Don't settle for substandard pay. Unionize wherever possible. And for fuckssake, always have your own checking and savings account...and at least one credit card that you pay off every month. Also - when possible - have enough cash on hand to get yourself and your dependents to safety if things go kerflooey.

Credit scores now actually reflect more of how much interest you generate for lenders...who can all go gargle a golf ball.

[our-plural-experience]

The plural experience of having to compromise on appearance :(

My host has a mustache and he doesn’t want to shave it. I respect that. He has spent his life being infantilized and belittled and his mustache is proof that he is in fact an adult man. It’s very important to him.

But god does it bother me as a feminine enby.

Yeah, we get that. It's difficult for us to find a balance between our very fem headmates and very masc or even neu/androgynous headmates. Hope you're able to find something that works for you guys :)

[faerrothinks]

How does being Ace-spec fit into being Masculine?

"Do you actually want a girlfriend or do you just feel like you have to?" was a question my best friend asked me when I was 18. I told her I got on dating apps and was talking to some girls I met online. She was advising me to take it slow, make sure I actually want this. Me, being someone with a fragile sense of masculinity wanted to just get in on the scene, prove how I was masculine, how I had sexual value.

And I think, that's what I find so difficult about being a male Ace-spec. So much of your value as a man is bound to sex. How many women you've been with, how good you are in bed, the "quality" of the women you've been with.

I think it's this view of masculinity is what fucks people up so much. You've got all these men and boys so attached to proving themselves by needing to have sex. They go through all these trouble to become "Men", then you realize it doesn't STOP. Ever. You have to constantly prove your manhood, that's at least what I always felt like at least.

I kept feeding that need to be a man for years! I'm 23 now, and I can't say I feel any manlier than I was at 18. This is despite having dated different women and having sexual experiences. It doesn't matter how many people I've been with, I'm always hungry to prove to myself I'm a man.

I'm not even sure if I do like it. Yes, the experience is pleasant, but every time after I just get this horrible sense of guilt, shame, and regret. Just this realization that I don't, I can't, want this person as much as they do me. Not in the way they want me to at least.

The kicker is, I don't even like sexual things because it is sex. I like them because it validates me. It makes me feel like I have some sort of sexual value, a masculine value. Proof that I am valuable for someone out there. A partner I had said "You're not straight, bi, or gay. You just want attention." If that wasn't the truest thing about me, I don't know what is. Honestly, that's what got me to start questioning if maybe I actually was asexual instead of straight.

I wish I could find some way to redefine masculinity that doesn't involve me throwing myself at women so they can make me feel better. I am tired, I am hurt, and I am sick of hurting people. Either that or just reject it completely and just go enby.

In conclusion? I have to go back to my friend, tell her she's right about everything, and apologize for not listening for 5 years.

[tigerbears]

You delete the YouTube comments lol "bucko". It's not normal to avoid mentioning or retweeting LGBT supportive things for ten whoole years as soon as you make it big and don't need them anymore if you're an ally. Bringing attention to how long it's been was bad move but you can't take any kind of criticism apparently without telling people to touch grass or deleting comments I guess

The only comments/accounts I deleted bucko were those who where vehemently transphobic. (Using transphobic slurs, spreading transphobic lies about the Olympics, or calling us mentally I'll.)

I didn't see your comment while looking through it so either YouTube somehow nuked it and didn't even put it into filtered comments, or your lying. If you want proof, look through my comments and you'll probably find someone claiming that Kris isn't enby or something.

There's nothing productive from these asks so I'm just going to ignore you as your very likely a troll who's already wasted my time and can't seem to acknowledge my arguments. Go away, I won't be responding to any more of your asks.

[redtail-lol]

heyey dw abt dykepridee

everything theyve sent was in assuming bad faith and theyre not worth arguing with. they're just trying to stir up discourse to feel superior about themselves

dont worry, dont waste your energy, Im sorry theyre bothering you. they came up to me and 2 other people as well, assumed I romanticised stalking with 0 proof past the gender itself, called faunic attraction 'no-dick attraction' which is super insensitive, and reblogged someone else assuming a term related to sleepiness must be romanticising... narcolepsy, out of every other possible sleep disorder?

I have no idea how someone is okay with being a pan lesbian while they constantly assume bad faith about identities theyre unfamiliar with, aka you know, the same thing people are doing to mspec lesbians.

@kirugorture

Thank you. I don't get why someone, especially someone who is nonbinary, sees a post that essentially boils down to "nonbinary people are not men or women and they shouldn't be misgendered by people calling themselves monosexual because apparently being attracted to nonbinary genders 'doesn't count' as mspec because they're not one of the 'REAL genders' and people who are attracted to women and enby genders only can call themselves mspec lesbians or just lesbians but by calling themselves mono they are saying those nb people are just women" and has an issue with it.

Also good to know about faunic, because I literally... Am faunic?? It's not "no-dick attraction" it's being attracted to people who are not men, and I'm actually favorable to dating non-op trans women and AMAB enbies. I'm a non-man and I'm attracted to non-men and I'm allowed to have a label to describe that. If it's a bad definition for lesbian then fine now it isn't for lesbian it's for faunic/daunic. Not being attracted to men, and wanting a label for that... Isn't wrong? At all?

(also genital preferences are valid so L + Ratio dykepridee people are allowed to not like dick or not like pussy and that's FINE.)

I don't think they even understand what I was saying. I wasn't excluding nb-attracted lesbians from being lesbians, or even exclusive lesbians. I am one! I call myself an exclusive lesbian all the time. It's just not mono. It will never be mono to be attracted to women AND to people who are not women!! Yet exclusionists constantly define themselves as mono even though they include nb folk, which is misgendering them, and my post was to call out the rampant misgendering of nonbinary people that these lesbians partake in, even some being nonbinary themselves, because otherwise they'd have to acknowledge that mspec lesbians make sense and are valid

In short: my whole purpose in writing the post was to call out the rampant misgendering of nonbinary people within the (exclus) lesbian community for the purpose of pretending lesbian is a strictly monosexual label. People never talk about it and it needs to be talked about.

Their "counterpoint" that no one cares in real life is so... Bad. It missed the point, it was pretty clear they had entirely missed the point, and also, "no one in real life cares" is a stupid counterargument in any "debate." For one, I exist outside of tumblr and I care. For two, I don't care what happens at pride parades. Misgendering nonbinary people (who do not identify as women at all) is not okay, no matter how much people at a parade care about strangers. If you can't actually prove why I'm wrong, your point is null and void.

Also "I'm almost 30, my back hurts, and I just woke up" bitch nobody gives a fuck about your back hurting, it's clearly too early for you to use your brain, and you're a whole grown adult arguing with a child online. That's real mature.

[li-nox]

lino: Vince somehow gives me hope...

perse: Vince's a good one!

perse: Oh and did I tell you the new one at DJÄ [Young Docs - a german medical soap] (the one w/red hair) is queer

Eeeeeh @anotherobsessedsomething 😅🫣

[pajarinwrites]

BETA READERS

Hiya, I'm looking for people who'd like to proof-read my work for me. Especially poc, chubby readers, enby readers, etc.

I want to be more inclusive with my language and my descriptions of reader, but I will inevitably miss some things.

Shoot me a pm if you're interested or fill out this google form <3

[csmingy]

I agree, if someone is believing something you are personally are against, but aren't actually hurting anyone/breaking rules, ok? just block them. It's weird you think mods should be banning people just because you don't like them. It reminds me of people who have issues with users who draw nsfw and try to burn them at the steak. Where will we stop? Someone who uses a word you don't like but is ok in their culture? Someone who has a fetish you don't like? Someone who said something mean when they were a kid? Someone who is Russian or is Jewish? Someone who writes a serial killer? Who gets to decide? Better to block and not spend a lot of time worrying about someone online who is a stranger. (Also if this is who I'm thinking it is... Didn't that person never say they were transmed and there was never any proof of them misgendering anyone and having any actual transmed opinions? Don't forget transmods are disgusting shit heads who think all enbies are faking and you need to have disabling dysmorphia that makes you want to un-alive yourself or else you're not a real trans person! Not defending the person but why are you worried about them when there are a lots of child groomers in cs? It is really badly a problem that pedofiles are in the species and I think they should be banned from all of the internet to not harm children.) sorry for the long message I got angry at the pedofiiles... :-(

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[foxfairy06]

HIIIII poookkksss its ollie, u banned me so ill yell at you on tumbllrrr <33333. YOU ARE A JOKKKE. "No cause i literally got diagnosed on the phone but ok hunn go off". okay sure, seriously doubtful because you could lie over the phone... did you know that... bet you didnt. anyway. like thats your reply to what u actually have to do to get a diagnosis, so your over the phone shit is actual bullshit. like its not covid no reason to do that, and also they need to see you in person and have you explain how your feeling aswell as your movements and the way that you respond to questions to get a diagnosis, or they will ask your family and friends or your teaching if they have noticed behavior that is needed for your diagnosis. so BULLSHIT BULLSHIT :333. Telling me to touch grass, god you so basic oml. also calling me a hypocrite when your a literal exclusionist , which you get to decide what is and isnt in the lgbtqia+ community is hypocrisy. from the merriam webster "a person who acts in contradiction to his or her stated beliefs or feelings" and something you said in our messages, "The basis is lgbt topics. It's meant to be a place for lgbt exclusionists to gather" you say you support ppl of lgbtq but if they dont meet your criteria or if you dont think their queer you exclude them. thats hypocrisy. anyway hope you actually get the help you need so you can WAKE THE FUCK UP for you stupidity <3 which i will continue to state because my proof above proves it <3.

-ollie p.s you are still a ball of sperm we all are its not rude its a literal fact

p.p.s if you bring up what i said in the server here is a message i sent to you "i was spewing BULLSHIT" which you know is because i am a troll and i was gathering dirt on you pooks

p.p.p.s i have screenshotted all of out chats <3 karmas a bitch she is coming for you.

Karma for??? Being a good person? I didn't say anything rude, homophobic, or bad to you so you have no actual leverage here. That's like saying "i took screenshots so karma is coming for you<3" to the poor child you just harassed that eas being respectful and kind to you the whole time.

For those who don't understand, green text to the rescue!

> be ollie

> be sitting at your moms computer, bored

> decide your life isn't angry enough

> create an entire Tumblr spewing radmed shit thinking transmeds will follow you

> find a transmed with a server

> start saying super homophobic shit and harass everyone

> get muted for being homophobic and transphobic and harassing people

> message all the mods and call them names for muting your

> admit you were trolling then scream and cry at the owner for being transmed while calling him names and making strawmen and adhominem

> get banned

> still be a pissbaby who can't stop being angry with his life

> decide touching grass is too much

> go leave a novel of an ask under the owners Tumblr that makes several assumptions and zero sense then question their means of diagnosis.

For those who don't have context, i am trans, I am duosex, I went to a therapy place for free, and saw a therapist. He immediately started going through the criteria for dysphoria because I asked but we ran out of time. So I'm getting my diagnosis finished over the phone. It took me two appointments and $0 to get a gender dysphoria diagnosis. So stop acting like this is difficult or hurting anyone.

It's not hypocrisy to provide a safe space for a group and exclude people. You would provide a safe space for enben that has binary people in it? Because they aren't enby. Thus they don't need that space, and could fuck it up.

You're the hypocrite calling me names and crying and screaming at me calling me crazy. Seriously get some help. Therapy is an option. If you don't feel safe in your current mental state you could always check in at an ER and tell them you need help. You could also look around. Many places provide therapy for free. Utilize these resources and stop harassing strangers online. I hope that goes well for you.

[rainyraisin]

If you're trans but don't look like ur desired gender (masc, fem, enby) reminder that angling ur phone when taking selfies can rlly change how u look on camera and is very cool for gender euphoria. Or I just have hooded eyes. I'm the only authority on this rn I need more evidence. Am I right.

Proof plus front view for comparison (ignore my bangs I'm tryna get an appointment 💔)

Makeup may also help but these are new piercings and nothing is getting near them so this is just like base face

[velvasthecrossfox]

Hiya. The names Velvas. You can call me Vel or Vee if that's easier. He/They, aceflux enby and chronically addicted to coffee. I'm an ice mage btw (pic for proof). Big fan of foxes and games and a bunch of other stuff.

DNI if you plan on spreading hate or if you're just being mean. Also, preferably, no minors please.

[automatismoateo]

A little something I wrote as part of my 'recovery' from Christianity: If Atheists and queer people said the same things to Christians via /r/atheism

A little something I wrote as part of my 'recovery' from Christianity: If Atheists and queer people said the same things to Christians "You're new to the neighborhood? Which science museum or library do you go to?" "You don't believe in evolution? It's in The Origin of the Species, it's all the proof you need!" After child comes out as Christian to parents: "No you're not. You're just confused and going through a phase." "Love the believer, hate the beliefs." "Your surgery went well? Thank the doctors and nurses for all their care and painstaking work!" "We're going to send you to therapy so you become a proper queer Atheist like the rest of us." "You're going to be trapped in a science lab for all eternity if you don't change your ways!" "I just heard that the library is holding a story hour with a priest. That's disgusting and he's going to try to indoctrinate the poor innocent children!" "Guess what? The local school district just banned the Bible from libraries and their curriculum because of the inappropriate themes! This is great!" "Trust me, I'm a good, Atheist, science trusting, enby/trans person." "Have you accepted (scientist or famous queer/trans person) as your personal lord and Savior?" "You're so unhappy because there's a Lady Gaga-sized hole in your heart." "I heard that you're really struggling after that family situation. I'm invoking Bill Nye (Sigmund Freud?) on your behalf." ​ Child: Tells parent that they're dating a Christian. Parent: "How could you? No child of mine will be with a heathen!" "I don't hate Christians, I just don't approve of their lifestyle." Submitted January 08, 2024 at 12:24AM by Free-Veterinarian714 (From Reddit https://ift.tt/Yv4RAH3)