#present perfect

[absolutebl]

Hii

Thank you for so much info and effort in your posts ✨

I have a question: which couples (main or not) feature men with facial hair?

Facial Hair in BL

OMG that is a so rare and I have never gotten this ask before.

I'm posting an answer but this is something I do not track, so I will need help. Keep an eye on the comments for the ones I missed.

BL's with facial hair

HIStory 2: Right or Wrong - this is an age gap romance and I suspect it was done, in part, to age up the protag, this is usually contrary to BL casting needs.

The Immeasurable (Taiwan), but that's a short.

I Feel You Linger in the Air, briefly and badly. Keep Thailand away from fake hair in general (their wig game is atrocious).

Present Perfect, but it's kinda for travel reasons.

Tonhon Chonlatee the sides. Man has it been a long time since I thought about that BL. (Did GMMTV let Mike have facial hair in 2gether too? I can't remember.)

Given's sides. Although nothing much happened with them.

Ossan's Love (SIGH) the love triangle

I feel like I have a memory of Earth, of EarthMix having fuzz on his face at some point. Seems like a sin since his angles are so good.

Our Days maybe?

The coach in the original Waterboyy? But do we want to remember (or even think about) that?

More?

Korea is mildly obsessed with jaw lines so I highly doubt we will ever get it from them, unless they go for a true BL historical. Even then it will be a side and they rarely do sides... so unlikely.

So far as I know, nothing from Vietnam. But one of the first Tein installments might have had something in an alt timeline.

Philippines is not unlikely. In fact, if I missed any major ones it's probably from there.

BL facial hair right now?

The sides in My Dear Gangster Oppa.

Upcoming Taiwanese BL VIP Only looks like is has a main with facial hair.

I mean there are some wisps on Jimmy in Last Twilight but do we call that facial hair or laziness?

Which should tell you this post is dated late 2023 and may not be updated after that date.

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[twistednuns]

September 2024

Being the first one up in a quiet house. Sitting outside journalling, enjoying French sea salt butter and passion fruit jam on toasted pieces of baguette. The view of the sea. Painting, reading, a nap. Vacation mode.

The familiarity of it all. The house, the area, the people.

Snorkelling in Les Issambres with C. Trying to snatch away stones from octopus tentacles. Hanging out on the SUP together. Many cute kisses here and there (C. was in a very good mood).

Learning to communicate a little better. Slowly, slowly.

French supermarkets. The greedy first day haul.

Working on a mixed media painting which turned out useful for Trypophobia exposure therapy. I kinda like the depth of it though and the interesting shapes I created.

A chubby restaurant cat called Patate at Pampelonne Beach. I secretly call her Chonkita. She was very happy about my scritches!

An amusing sight: the lady in St. Tropez who was walking through town with a pack of about ten tiny dogs.

Little intimate moments with C. Analysing my friends and my relationship to them. Also: the realization that a chapter is closing. That I'm ready for something new that'll be so much more what I need.

A trip to Grasse. Walking through the medieval old town, visiting the perfume museum, shopping at Fragonard (I got a hand-marbled oversized shirt in earthy colours). Iced cappuccino with flower petals at Café Fleur. Eating a rich and delicious Galette in Fréjus.

The gorgeous light and shadow pattern on all of us when we were having drinks at the beach.

Driving through the back country to eat at a fabulous little restaurant by the sea. I had a three-course-menu: summer truffle burrata with roasted nectarines, zucchini filled with black olive tapenade (with puree, breadcrumbs, chickpeas and salad) and a delicious pistachio semifreddo with balsamic prunes.

Getting everything I want at the supermarket so I have a few kitchen souvenirs that'll make me smile when I think back to this summer.

Strawberry-flavoured sparkling water. The Maison Perrier x Magnetic Juice water in strawberry/kiwi is such a delight.

And, a final delight on the way back: a large cappuccino and a box of tiny Pocket Coffees at Autogrill.

Desperate measures after a weekend hiding in bed, trying extra hard to pretend not to exist: an evening at Therme Bad Wörishofen with Manu. Drinking a strawberry cocktail in the warm pool. Talking, no pretense.

The jay (Garrulus glandarius) I keep seeing behind my house. I just looked up its meaning and apparently it's connected with accepting responsibility for yourself and mustering up the courage to master a hard test. There are so many signs reaching me at the moment. Teachings about personal responsibility in the Gestalt therapy book I'm reading. Instagram bombarding me with messages about Eclipse Season and that something old has to go in order to make room for the life I've always wanted. It's slowly starting to sink in but I'm still so afraid. Stuck with my insecurity, between different needs and feelings. Inside a contradiction between safety and sensibility on the one hand, taking a risk and stepping into freedom and my full potential on the other.

A hit of nostalgia when I heated up the milk for my cereal. It was soggy and disgusting but reminded me of my childhood.

Realizing that I've never seen the last season of The Umbrella Academy!

I have very cute and supportive friends. Who tell me how talented I am and that something better is waiting for me at the other end of this crisis.

Making a decision. Seeing psychiatrists. Informing my headmaster. This is the beginning of a transformation and it's not gonna feel nice for a while but I'm sure it'll be worth it. I'm excited about what comes next.

Little trinkets: a glass bottle with a round wooden lid, a green glass candlestick holder, and a yellow T-shirt.

Spending a few days at Christian's place. Staying in my comfort zone. Honest communication and support.

Baking a buttery mirabelle cake. Sharing it with a few neighbours at the garden table.

Feline affection: The orange cat who was waiting for me outside the doctor's office. All that crazy Findus energy. And cuddling with Charlie who was sleeping inside the little blanket fort in the garden.

Going on a little bike tour through the forest on a beautiful afternoon with golden light. It smelled of moss and mushrooms. And I couldn't resist squeezing a few Impatiens seed pods, of course.

Reading a great book about the origin of Gestalt therapy. Analyzing my own process.

Spending an afternoon in Munich with C. and L. We went to the Archeological museum and Haus der Kunst where we had a snack at Goldene Bar and then I saw the exhibitions alone. Of course I found an interesting book about Marina Abramović at the bookstore there.

Productive procrastination. Observing myself in my avoidance of hard tasks and difficult feelings. Self-compassion.

Finding a small book about sleep, dreams and the night on a park bench. Cutting out poems and illustrations.

Birthing a chestnut from its spiky uterus.

Meeting Madeleine, a Gestalt therapist who works with somatic techniques, voice and breathing. I felt seen and I think we have a very similar approach to healing. She said that self acceptance might be something she could help me with. I'm curious and excited about working together.

Primavera Energiekick spray. It smells so good. I got it in an esoteric store after my first Gestalt Therapy session along with a tiny golden Om ornament. A few houses down I also discovered a little Indian shop and got two pictures of Kali/Durga. My last treat: three stalks of yellow and dark red Chrysanthemum.

My first meditation in a while. I actually craved it. I looked into the mirror, moved my hips, felt the need to turn inwards and connect with myself. I felt gratitude, joy, safety, confidence. Now I'm trying to reprogram my brain to get rid of my negativity bias and addiction to suffering.

Being helpful: translating something for a Chinese family at the supermarket. And forgetting about myself for a moment to be there for others: genuinely caring for Lucie, asking about how she felt after her cold - and leaving it at that. Not forcing my own problems on others for once.

Back on track: returning to yoga and choir practice after the summer break even though I already had two appointments in the afternoon.

Waking up energized with a desire to move.

Making coconut rice pudding with chunky mango cubes.

A vision that came to me during savasana: a cluster of luminous white diamond shapes and sparkles against a dark background. I wonder if I could paint what I saw or use it as inspiration at least.

Visiting Becki and Janina in Augsburg. A staredown with their cat Leo. Their gorgeous apartment and the tea book that Becki co-authored.

An evening dedicated to tantric rituals at Lachdach Pling. It was different than expected but a lovely event nevertheless.

Cat therapy. Having Findus lying on my chest, purring. It feels so soothing and nice.

The sickly summer lilac I planted in Christian's garden actually started to bloom again!

[trolledu]

[zhaozi]

사랑합니다

[kissablelips-desireslure-vol1]

PRESENT PERFECT (2017)

KRITSANA MAROUKASONTI (as Oat)

& ADISORN TONAWANIK (as Toey)

[trolledu]

This one was from another year coz I’ve seen it before

Someone captured the solar eclipse on an airplane

[ingkonulari]

ingilizce konu anlatımı present perfect tense konu anlatımı

[hopefulpenguincreator]

Present Perfect vs. Past Perfect

Past Perfect (had)

To express something that occurred (for a while) BEFORE another action in the PAST; our reference point is the past.

So, it's used to express a timeline like this:

Past Perfect -> Past Simple -> Now

Example: "When Sarah arrived, Paul had left"

Present Perfect (has) - what I use most in SV study

our reference point is the PRESENT.

started in the past and CONTINUES to the present.

Example: "I have lived in this city for six months"

or

an action that happened before now (UNSPECIFIED time - dont say specifically when something happened). Listener is not waiting for more info bc you have caught up to the present with this tense.

Example: "I have been to Japan twice."

If "I had been to Japan twice" was used instead, more info (past and maybe present) would be expected by listener.

Sources:

[absolutebl]

I saw you reblogged your post about BL directors and also recommended The New Employee again. I actually made a post about the other (gay, since he has a few non-gay) works of TNE’s director Kim Jho Gwang Soo that your followers might be interested in! Besides directing the CLASSIC Just Friends? he has some other really good work, my next favorite being Made on the Rooftop. Much like TNE it’s more queer than most Korean BL (bc it’s not really BL or for a BL audience I don’t think), and some of it isn’t exactly happy, but some people might find his stuff worth checking out. If you’re interested: https://www.tumblr.com/archiveofmystuff/707288674854912000/the-other-works-of-the-new-employee-director-kim

I'm not wild about Made myself, but you are right others may liek it. For me it falls into the Present Perfect or ITSAY category of gay cinema.

Which, while I get it, is no longer strictly to my taste. I think maybe I just feel like I lived through it once already, or something?

[trolledu]

This is what you've been searching for

This is what you’ve searched for

[twistednuns]

January 2025

My New Year's kiss. It's lovely to have somebody around I can kiss whenever I want. Listening to a weird Siberian song at midnight. It's been stuck in our heads for days now.

Going on a long walk on the first day of the year. Findus the cat kept following us. Frozen ponds with interesting air bubbles and plant patterns. Ice crystals on every twig and leaf of grass. Crunchy steps. Breaking the ice. Literally.

Cuddling with Mara. Reading a book together in bed. Making her a cute ponytail.

Starting the year with a health food challenge. No sugar, no flour, low carb. And I don't even have to do it alone which helps a lot!

Eating big bowls of salad with delicious dill dressing.

Watching The Substance - Body Horror at its best.

A fun way to think about relationship dynamics.

Slow days playing board games, watching animal documentaries, coming up with tasty low carb recipes, painting and drawing together, doing housework. Simply existing together in this little domestic bubble.

Solo cuddle time with Findus. Sinking my face into his belly fur.

Greek yoghurt with milk and fruit for breakfast. Almost tastes like ice-cream.

Lazy TV massages. / Another amazing massage from Ploy.

Spooking a few deer on our snowy forest stroll.

Watching birds trying to fly in heavy wind.

Tinned mushrooms as a low calorie snack.

Long, trippy dreams.

Nightly painting sessions listening to the Cosmic Matrix podcast.

Petting, scratching, cuddling Thea. Such a gentle little black cat. She was really into it that evening.

Bringing two whole containers worth of snacks on the train. Eggs, olives, cheese, veggies, apples.

Two nights at a hotel in Würzburg. The crisp white sheets.

Mushroom burgers and a cute art store.

Playing the piano with Georg.

Standing at a laptop in the living room at Claude's party. Adding songs from 20 years ago to the queue. Singing along to Such Great Heights by The Postal Service. C. remarked what a beautiful song it is. I feel down a 2000s Indie Rock rabbit hole and made a whole playlist on Spotify. How great is Staring at the Sun by TV on the Radio?!

Ripping apart my sudoku book because I was too obsessed.

Buying a bunch of Sennelier soft pastels and pastel crayons at Gerstaecker. Getting new paper, too.

Discovering Agnes Lawrence Pelton's art and the Transcendental Painting Group. I ordered a gorgeous book about the painters but it's not available yet. I'll have to wait up to three months for it to arrive...

Those little moments when I feel seen. Appreciated. Cared for. When C. commented on the amazing smell of my lavender marjoram hand cream and wanted to try some. When he noticed that my lipstick didn't really match the colour of my shirt. And when he ran my finger over a little naked patch of skin on my love handle and said he'd discovered a nice spot. When he carried my backpack because my shoulder hurt. Checked if I was keeping up when we were running for the train. And he already thought about ways to check in at the hotel without my involvement because he knows I hate that. And he added a song I played to his favourites. And kissed me at the bookstore because apparently I looked very intellectual which made me even more attractive.

Signing up for the info event at the art academy. Thinking about applying for visual arts, too.

Cutting train rides very short by sleeping most of the way.

Meeting Franzi and Marie! A cozy evening with a crazy cat, Indian food and easy conversation. I love it when people just get each other and still feel super close and familiar even though you don't see them very often.

Getting to know Anja. Being weird together. Coffee walks in the morning. Watching rom-coms in bed, singing along to Britney Spears songs.

The warm shower of compliments at the end of my Gestalt therapy training. I learned that what people admire about me is my humor, authenticity, intelligence, strength, wisdom, creativity, my voice. I know who I am. And many said they wish I could be a little more calm, relaxed and self-assured. Focus more. Tone down the drama and the fireworks and let my fragile, soft essence shine through as well.

Squeezing fresh lime over veggie curry. It adds so much flavor!

Peeling off the whole face mask in one piece.

Little signs along the way. The same drawing I'd made the day before on a house in a village I was driving through. Angel numbers. 222 everywhere.

Such a cozy and crazy last evening with C. We played a sexy card game and ended up roleplaying (I was a massage therapist in a senior home). Then I was reading from his 2009 US roadtrip diary while he showed my some photos from back then. It was so interesting to see that some things haven't changed: he's still passionate about music and DJing and still has interesting (business) ideas and conversation topics.

Dota - Für die Sterne / "Ich bin nicht hier um mich zu bemühn, ich bin hier um zu blühn."

A very active Friday. My first Nordic Walking unit (I meowed at a cat and it immediately came to me to be petted!), the first time in the gym for a while. And a yoga class. Felt surprisingly good.

Meeting a bunch of new people at the clinic. Feeling much more secure and open. This time it only took one day to fully arrive.

Music night with clarinet and guitar. Singing harmonies with Sebastian! Compliments for my voice.

Coffee and cheese as a treat.

Hot pink loafers. Soft and comfy.

Blooming tulips.

The joy I feel when I spot an animal somewhere.

People opening up to me. It's nice to see that they feel safe with me and value my observations and input.

Sending lots of letters and postcards.

The Diva Dance scene in the movie The Fifth Element.

Painting something I hated at first but loved in the end.

Another go at art therapy. I have a good feeling about the therapist!

Lena talking to me about all her creative endeavors. Breaking the ice.

Being helpful for others. Mirroring them, explaining, offering resonance.

Talking to W. about my way out. Which is: taking on a tapas. Self-accountability. Being honest and calm. Using my time with him to stop functioning so I can observe myself and heal.

A 45min walk despite the wet snow and cold wind. Feeling my body tingle and warm up afterwards. Also: when I came back I found a collection of old rusty puzzle cubes on an electrical box.

Caressing the bony part over my ankles.

Floor heating.

Watching the cranes flying over the lake illuminated by the warm light of sunrise.

Unlike mammals, birds breathe through con­tin­uous one-directional flow of air through the res­pi­ra­tory system. We take air in and breathe it out, sort of like the tide moves in and out of a bay. As a result, our breathing system is said to be tidal. Avians have a non-tidal res­pi­ra­tory system, with air flowing more like a running stream. (I didn't know!)

A beautiful sound bath with lots of crystal singing bowls and tuning forks that made my brain tickle.

A feast of damn fine veggies with tofu and nougat-filled dumplings. Celebrating every bite. Allowing myself to eat.

Boxing training. I loved the activation, aggression, using my whole body and strength. The psychological effects of having a partner (or opponent). But my whole body hurt the next day.

A few lines towards the end of Marianne Eloise's book obsessive intrusive magical thinking made me feel seen. A little mentally ill, too. But they made me think of my exiles. The parts of me I abandoned. And how I used to be as a child.

Painting an unexpected family portrait.

Starting to read a book about... soul travel. Trippy and fascinating.

A long, heartfelt message from Becky. And a thoughtful gift from my Gospel Choir: a sketchbook, a set of pencils, a novel (with the number 22 in the title!!) and some chocolates. I feel loved.

Dancing like nobody is watching. And even though I'd felt like shit all day it actually brought my energy back. And someone said the thought I had a really good feeling for my body and movements. And a lovely voice.

[zhaozi]

[trolledu]

Roman villas. I've seen the remains of a few and they all must have been lavish

‘House of  Amphitrite’, Roman Villa (2nd century) with an extraordinary  mosaics floor.  Archaeological site of Bulla Regia, Jendouba Governorate, Tunisia.

Photographs: Noomen9 /CC BY-SA 4.0 / Wikimedia Commons

[orchidvioletindigo]

Really really recommend anyone who struggles with perfectionism (OCPD or otherwise) check out the book present perfect by Pavel Somov. Your mileage may vary obviously but I'm not kidding when I say that reading this book fixed parts of my brain, and I didn't even have the spoons to do all the exercises in it.

[puppppppppy]

who is your favorite AA character? 👁️👁️

ziska… I hope capcom brings her back someday