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Divorce Is As Devastating As The Death Of A Parent

Marriage is an emotional, physical, and financial commitment that we make to a person that is supposed to last forever.  The dissolution of a marriage, divorce, is like a death.  It is as emotionally devastating as the death of a parent. It is the death of your relationship. In coping with divorce, you should treat the divorce emotionally the same way you would grieve for someone who died.

Consider counseling if you feel you need help with the emotional aspects of divorce and the changes it will bring to your life;

Consider a support group for yourself and your children if you are the parent who has custody;

Be careful about making major decisions immediately after the divorce or separation;

Take care of yourself, do little things to pamper yourself;

Do not be afraid to feel badly.  Some depression is normal—but be careful not to share your negative feelings with your children.  You should seek professional help if you feel it is getting out of control;

Avoid over indulging in drugs, alcohol, or food;

Take the time to accept your part in what caused your relationship to fail.  It is rare for one person to be solely at fault in a divorce.  Forgive yourself and work on forgiving your spouse.  Trying to take some of the anger out of the situation will help you deal with details that have to be taken care of in finalizing a divorce.

Although coping with divorce is devastating, not all aspects of a divorce have to be negative.  Consider the divorce as an opportunity to rediscover yourself.  Take time to do things that you may have enjoyed doing but stopped doing because your spouse did not enjoy them.  Reconnect with friends you have not seen or heard from in a while because your spouse did not like them.  Find new friendships.  Divorce is not just an ending it is a beginning.  Accept mistakes you made learn from them and then move on.

As trite as it sounds, all things do get better with time.  It is hard to believe when you are going through the anger and disappointment of divorce.  It is difficult getting used to being alone again or being afraid that you will always be alone.  One day when you are doing some routine task, you will realize that you are happier now then you were when you were living in a dying relationship.  No one wants a divorce, but it is better than an unhappy marriage.

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Ghosting

Ghosting is when someone cuts off all communication without explanation. It can just be a friend not responding to your texts or phone calls; or even worse a lover who is ending a relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring your attempts to reach them. When someone has stopped responding to your calls or text messages, they are "ghosting" you.

Ghosting is a form of silent treatment equal to emotional cruelty. It's really important to realize that if someone ghosts you their behavior says more about them than about you.

The advent of technology seems to have made this worse. It can be very hurtful if a friend has cut you out of his or her life and you can still keep track of them on Facebook and Twitter. Some people don't have the guts to tell you that they are no longer interested in having you in their life, so they ghost you. They find it hard to deal in person with ending a relationship. Or maybe they have tried to tell you and you just wouldn't listen!

The term has already entered the polling vocabulary: In October 2014, a Huffington Post poll of 1,000 adults showed that 11 percent of Americans have "ghosted" someone. Elle magazine polled 185 people and found that 16.7 percent of men and 24.2 percent of women had "ghosted" someone at some time in their lives.

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Treat Your Divorce Like A Business Deal

You need to treat your divorce like a business deal—because that is the way your husband will.  A marriage is nothing more than a contract. Divorce is nothing more than the dissolution of that contract.

Do your research! Read "The Divorce Survival Guide for Women" to learn every aspect of the divorce process. Read the articles and blog posts @www.preparefordivorce.com for even more information.

Consulting with a divorce attorney before you actually need one is the best way to research about what to  expect during the divorce and the divorce process in your state.  This will help you avoid mistakes that could cost you dearly later.

Although it is very important that you hire the best, most experienced divorce attorney that you can afford, you must always remain in control.  Just giving a divorce attorney a retainer and letting him take over is a huge mistake. You need to be involved in every aspect of the divorce process.

Settling your divorce out of court is the ideal situation. You don't want a judge making the decisions that will affect you the rest of your life. Everyone loses in court—from the cost, emotionally and financially—to the chance of getting a bad judge (and most of them are bad). The only winners are the attorneys!

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Many Reasons to Meditate

People all over the world, for thousands of years, have been meditating. It is not necessary to pay anyone to learn to meditate. Even though they tell you their meditation is different, it's not. Meditation is meditation. It's just a way for them to charge for their "course." There is really nothing difficult to learn to meditate. And meditation is nothing mystical.

Daily meditation is good for stress—but it has many other benefits too...

Meditation isn’t just for people who live a stressful, fast-paced lifestyle. While daily meditation can provide a sense of peace and serenity, it also has many other health benefits. There are many ways to meditate, including mindfulness meditation (concentrating on your senses and the present moment), focused-attention meditation (centering around a fixed object), loving-kindness meditation (focusing on loving yourself, friends, strangers, and even people you dislike), and open monitoring meditation (being attentive to thoughts and sensations without judging or engaging them). Try one of these methods to start enjoying the benefits of meditation for yourself.

1. Meditation can help decrease symptoms of stress.

Because meditation enhances a person’s sense of peace and relaxation, it’s no wonder mindfulness meditation has been shown to decrease stress. In two separate studies of cancer patients and healthcare professionals, two groups that tend to have high levels of stress, daily meditation was shown to improve mood, decrease stress symptoms, and improve quality of life. Focused-attention meditation helps draw your mind away from things that cause stress and allows you to concentrate on a fixed object, your breath, or a repeated sound or phrase, such as “I am at meditating.”

2. Meditation can help manage anxiety disorders.

Mindfulness meditation has been shown to reduce anxiety symptoms, both subjective and objective. Other anxiety disorders, such as depression and panic attacks, also saw similar positive benefits. In a three-year follow-up of a small study, people who had experienced panic attacks reported they had fewer and less severe attacks after starting to meditate regularly. Loving-kindness meditation has been shown to increase positive emotions and decrease symptoms of depression. In many studies, these meditation benefits appeared over time, making daily meditation an important factor in decreasing anxiety disorder symptoms.

3. Meditation can improve the quality of your sleep.

Millions of people suffer from insomnia or other sleep problems, and stress is often the culprit. Mindfulness meditation has been shown to improve sleep by calming the mind, helping people take their attention off their to-do list or other stresses and instead focus on being fully aware of the present moment. Research has shown spending just 20 minutes in daily meditation can reduce sleep disturbances. And yes, sleep meditation can be practiced during the day, and you’ll still reap the benefits at night.

4. Meditation can boost cognition and immune function.

In a study involving just four sessions of meditation training, researchers assessed participants’ working memory, visual-spatial processing, and mood, among other factors. All these measurements were improved, and the participants also experienced reduced fatigue and greater ability to pay attention. Another study showed the practice of mindfulness meditation gave participants a better ability to multitask, greater focus on tasks, and lower stress levels while completing assignments that involve multitasking. Loving-kindness meditation has been shown to reduce stress-induced immune reactivity. Another study showed mindfulness meditation increased antibody production after participants received a flu vaccine.

5. Meditation can be a component of pain management.

Daily meditation has been found to reduce both pain intensity and unpleasantness. Research has shown meditation to reduce pain unpleasantness (how much it bothers you) even more than it reduces pain intensity (how strong the pain was). In one study, just four days of mindfulness meditation training helped reduce participants’ experience of pain. In that study, researchers noticed changes in brain function that causes the subjective experience of pain. Study participants reported that the open monitoring method of meditation was more effective at reducing pain than focused-attention meditation.

6. Meditation can make for healthier relationships.

Beyond personal improvement, daily meditation has been associated with higher relationship satisfaction. Studies have shown several links, including lower personal stress levels as well as a greater ability to respond well when stress occurs within a relationship. People who practice meditation also were found to have more positive perceptions of their relationships, both before and after conflicts. Meditation practitioners also tended to have better communication within their relationships, including an increased ability to control anger.

Also read my Blog post "How to Meditate"

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Dating Rich Men

"I'd rather be a rich man's darling than a poor man's slave"  goes the old vaudeville ditty.  Rich men are a breed unto themselves.  They can be selfish, arrogant and domineering toward their woman (or women).  Too many of them feel the need to conquer and control, and once they have succeeded, they are often contemptuous of their conquests.

Dating a rich man can be interesting and fun, but they expect more than a kiss on the cheek at the end of the evening.  Rich men like to have a beautiful woman on their arm—"eye candy."  Excessively wealthy men view beautiful women as objects to be bought.  There are so many examples of women being treated like chattel by rich men—and there are too many ex-trophy wives.

Beautiful, young women marry a rich and powerful man usually for one reason—money—and for several years they have everything they dreamed about. Then they start to lose their looks, get older,  get too secure in the relationship (even when children are involved) or their husband gets bored with them, and they get dumped the same way the woman before them was dumped. Of course there is a very tight prenuptial agreement in place.

How many times have you read about a rich man dumping his wife (not even his first wife) for another, younger woman—or the nanny!

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Divorce is as Devastating as the Death of a Parent

Marriage is an emotional, physical, and financial commitment that we make to a person that is supposed to last forever.  The dissolution of a marriage, divorce, is like a death.  It is as emotionally devastating as the death of a parent. It is the death of your relationship. In coping with divorce, you should treat the divorce emotionally the same way you would grieve for someone who died.

Consider counseling if you feel you need help with the emotional aspects of divorce and the changes it will bring to your life;

Consider a support group for yourself and your children if you are the parent who has custody;

Be careful about making major decisions immediately after the divorce or separation;

Take care of yourself, do little things to pamper yourself;

Do not be afraid to feel badly.  Some depression is normal—but be careful not to share your negative feelings with your children.  You should seek professional help if you feel it is getting out of control;

Avoid over indulging in drugs, alcohol, or food;

Take the time to accept your part in what caused your relationship to fail.  It is rare for one person to be solely at fault in a divorce. Forgive yourself and work on forgiving your spouse.  Trying to take some of the anger out of the situation will help you deal with details that have to be taken care of in finalizing a divorce.

Although coping with divorce is devastating, not all aspects of a divorce have to be negative.  Consider the divorce as an opportunity to rediscover yourself.  Take time to do things that you may have enjoyed doing but stopped doing because your spouse did not enjoy them.  Reconnect with friends you have not seen or heard from in a while because your spouse did not like them.  Find new friendships.  Divorce is not just an ending it is a beginning.  Accept mistakes you made learn from them and then move on.

As trite as it sounds, all things do get better with time.  It is hard to believe when you are going through the anger and disappointment of divorce.  It is difficult getting used to being alone again or being afraid that you will always be alone.  One day when you are doing some routine task, you will realize that you are happier now then you were when you were living in a dying relationship. No one wants a divorce, but it is better than an unhappy marriage.

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Treat Your Divorce Like A Business Deal

You need to treat your divorce like a business deal—because that is the way your husband will.  A marriage is nothing more than a contract. Divorce is nothing more than the dissolution of that contract.

Do your research! Read "The Divorce Survival Guide for Women" to learn every aspect of the divorce process. Read the articles and blog posts @www.preparefordivorce.com for even more information.

Consulting with a divorce attorney before you actually need one is the best way to research about what to  expect during the divorce and the divorce process in your state.  This will help you avoid mistakes that could cost you dearly later.

Although it is very important that you hire the best, most experienced divorce attorney that you can afford, you must always remain in control.  Just giving a divorce attorney a retainer and letting him take over is a huge mistake. You need to be involved in every aspect of the divorce process.

Settling your divorce out of court is the ideal situation. You don't want a judge making the decisions that will affect you the rest of your life. Everyone loses in court—from the cost, emotionally and financially—to the chance of getting a bad judge (and most of them are bad). The only winners are the attorneys!

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Prenuptial Agreement

No one should get married without a Prenuptial Agreement in place! It doesn't matter how much or how little you have, you always have to protect yourself! You are making the biggest decision of your life to marry someone.

And second and sometimes third marriages—and the extended families that sometimes come with them—require financial and estate planning. Forty percent of new marriages include at least one spouse who was previously married. A Prenuptial agreement is especially a necessity when getting married after the first time.

There are two key issues every Prenup should address:

The first is how the assets will be divided in the event of a divorce or a death. The time to address this is before you get married. Divorce rates for second marriages, third marriages, etc. are even higher than those for first marriages. While you hope this marriage will work, you just never know. You should have at least three to six months before the wedding to work out the details and have the Prenup finalized.

The second is deciding how your personal accounts and other assets, such as real estate will be kept separate after marriage. It's crucial that you keep them separate.

Typically a Prenup will spell out what each partner is bringing to the marriage—including income, real estate, retirement savings—and whether each asset will be treated as separate or joint. Most important is that a prenup can shield one partner from any liabilities accumulated prior to the marriage, including student loans, credit card debt, and alimony and/or child support. It is very important that how to treat debt should be decided prior to the marriage and in the Prenup. In the event of a divorce, sometimes courts try to divide debt equally between the two parties. You have to be sure to protect yourself.

Any gifts given during the marriage should not be considered marital assets but should belong to the person receiving the gift.

More than one-third of adults said Prenups make smart financial sense, according to a Harris survey. “The time to plan for a divorce is not when you’re in a state of hate,” says Suzie Orman. You can’t fully protect yourself against a marital heartbreak, but at least you can protect your assets.

Be sure to have a divorce attorney write the Prenup. Just any attorney cannot know the specifics that have to go in one. It has to be done right so there are no loopholes. Unfortunately, in today's world, Prenups are being challenged in court.

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Treat Your Divorce Like A Business Deal

You need to treat your divorce like a business deal—because that is the way your husband will.  A marriage is nothing more than a contract. Divorce is nothing more than the dissolution of that contract.

Do your research! Read "The Divorce Survival Guide for Women" to learn every aspect of the divorce process. Read the articles and blog posts @www.preparefordivorce.com for even more information.

Consulting with a divorce attorney before you actually need one is the best way to research about what to  expect during the divorce and the divorce process in your state.  This will help you avoid mistakes that could cost you dearly later.

Although it is very important that you hire the best, most experienced divorce attorney that you can afford, you must always remain in control.  Just giving a divorce attorney a retainer and letting him take over is a huge mistake. You need to be involved in every aspect of the divorce process.

Settling your divorce out of court is the ideal situation. You don't want a judge making the decisions that will affect you the rest of your life. Everyone loses in court—from the cost, emotionally and financially—to the chance of getting a bad judge (and most of them are bad). The only winners are the attorneys!

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New Year’s Resolutions

Many of us start off the new year by making New Year’s resolutions.  It’s a great tradition that has gone on forever. Unfortunately, most of the "resolutions" we make we will never keep. The beginning of a new year is the perfect time to think about how we'd like to improve our lives. Don't set your goals too high, because you are setting yourself up for failure.

One of the first things you should do to start off the new year is to unfriend your ex!  Whether it is your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, ex-husband or ex-wife, an ex-lover, or someone who has been negative energy in your life—the old-school way of going cold turkey and cutting off all contact with that person is the best way. The effects of remaining Facebook friends with that person (or even simply keeping an eye on their activities online) can disrupt a person's ability to heal emotionally and move on with their lives. Delete them now!

Among the top ten resolutions each year are financial goals—such as getting out of debt or saving for retirement. Your financial goals should take top priority. Carrying too much debt is bad for anybody.  You should  make a concerted effort to pay off all your credit card debt. Then you should consciously try not to pull out your credit card so quickly to pay for something. Think about this:  if you had to write a check or pay cash for it, would you buy it? You would probably think twice about buying it and probably not do it.

Saving for your retirement is also very important.  The more you put in, the more you will have when you need it.  Regular investing is the key. Social Security may not be there when you need it, and it doesn’t pay that much anyway.

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Credit After Divorce

Every woman should be establishing her own credit from the day she gets married—if not before.  You should have at least two credit cards—an American Express and a bank Visa or Mastercard that are in your name only—no way linked to your husband.  You should also have at least one or two department store credit cards.  Make little purchases every month and pay them off on time to establish credit in your name.  You should have your own checking and savings/money market and a stock account,  also in your name only—not tied to your husband in any way.

If possible you should also have a piece of property in your name only.   At the very least, any piece of property you buy with your husband (house or apartment, for example) should be in both of your names, with "Right of Survivorship."

Your name should be on some of your household accounts, like the electricity, gas, phone and cable. All these are so important in case a divorce should happen to you.  This will help you establish your own credit (it is very difficult to get credit as a divorced woman), and keep your husband from canceling your credit cards, bank accounts, shutting off the electricity, etc. and leaving you helpless and vulnerable.

You have to think ahead and protect yourself every way you can.  If a divorce doesn't happen to you, you'll still be better off having established your own credit. Unfortunately, sometimes life throws you a curve ball, and a divorce happens when you least expect it.

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Hiding Assets

If you are a woman going through a divorce, the chances that your husband is hiding assets is great—and it happens much more frequently than most women expect. Hiding assets during a divorce is sneaky, unethical and illegal—but it happens in almost every divorce!  If your husband is hiding assets, that means that you won't get the divorce settlement you deserve.

Many couples have complex financial portfolios. It can be extremely difficult to keep track of everything—all your assets—even in the best of times. When a divorce happens that task can be exponentially more complicated. Unfortunately, when you go through the divorce process, your husband may try to take advantage of the situation by hiding income and/or assets. Or he may have been doing it all along, especially if he has his own business.

Your attorney should establish a clear picture of your standard of living during the marriage. Not only can this be used to help determine alimony and child support, but it can also serve as an invaluable tool to help determine if this are hidden assets or income.

Here are just SOME ways your husband may undervalue or hide marital assets:

1. Stash cash in a safe deposit box either in someone else's name or out-of-state.

2. Under-report income on tax returns and/or financial statements.

3. Have hidden offshore accounts, that he never reported to the IRS.

4. Purchase items (like art or antiques for example) that can be easily overlooked or undervalued.

5. Overpay the IRS or creditors. He can get the money back after the divorce is final.

6. Defer his salary, delay signing new contracts and/or hold commissions or bonuses.

7. Create phony debt. One way is to create credit card debt.

8. Set up a custodial account in a child's or girlfriend's name, using their social security number.

9. Transfer stock/investment accounts into a child's or girlfriend's name, business partner or dummy corporation.

The list goes on and on. Hiding assets, income and creating debt is not only unethical, but it's also illegal IF discovered. If your husband has been hiding income and assets over years or decades, it will be virtually impossible to find them.

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