#pregrieving

[mentalisttraceur]

Incidental Pre-Grieving

The way I usually explain pre-grieving is as an intentional act. But it often happens as just a side-effect of other things, such as:

You have a well-developed imagination and empathy. You read/hear/watch stories, real or fictional. You swap in yourself, or people you care about, as you relate and process - and bam! suddenly you're faced with a real emotional reaction to the loss of someone or something loved or important.

You figure out, for example as an aspiring actor, that you can cry on cue by imagining something that naturally brings tears.

You are abused, betrayed, let down, and so on, too many times. You grieve not exactly the person themselves, but some trait you thought they had, the person you hoped for or wanted or needed, the person they were only some of the time... if it's bad enough, eventually there's nothing left to grieve of the person that they actually still are.

[mentalisttraceur]

Pre-grieving. It is healing, at least if you use it right.

It lets you feel the grief and learn to be okay again in small chunks when you still are okay and can stop grieving by just taking a look around, instead of all at once when there's no going back.

It gives you perspective, reminds you of what you have, and can help you stop treating people in ways you'll regret before it's too late.

It can help anxiety by taking the unknown out of it.

been thinking a lot about anticipatory grief lately. i love you so much that i know losing you will devastate me. i haven't lost you yet but i already miss you. we still have time, but it won't be enough. i think about what i would say at your funeral, and say some of it to you now cause i need you to know how loved you are before you go. you will go where i cannot follow, but you will never really leave me. it won't make it hurt less but it is a part of healing somehow.

[mohntilyet]

continued rook-lucanis sketches from the last week or so <3

[clowndensation]

also kendall and roman "you thought you were dad, tried to dad it, but you fucked it" and the implicit "but it's okay, because i went up and fixed it. you fucked it, and i took care of it." there can only ever be one dad. theirs is dead, someone has to step up.

[oltenia]

[megabuild]

im literally constantly thinking about alliances in 3rd life+ as a metaphor for terminal illness btw but that might hit a little too close to home for some people so lets just nod politely and pretend i didnt say that

[siohbhanroy]

i still cannot believe that this is last succession sunday ever like wdym there is no more succession

[batterseas]

I STILL THINK! that we can do something about this. that they won't actually end it next week . didn't kieran say in that interview that jessie had a few ideas just off the top of his head??? and and. it just. i'm sure there's someone i can talk to about this. it's not. we can. we can work something out Jesse Armstrong. pls. i can't. you can't actually do this to me Jesse Armstrong.

[thatsdefinitelytaken]

"I'm fucking gone...it's over for me" what happened to pre-grieving Roman?

[biorg]

Need to read a book about divorcees getting back together and the thing that brings them back together is something murky like covering up the fact that their child is a murderer and I need the husband to be kind of submissive and both of them to be kind of insane but the wife like ESPECIALLY so because all of the daddy issues and did I mention that the wife has to have killed her parent too and get away with that. And add a bitter homoerotic rivalry with her husband's first love he seemingly didn't move on from

[childhoodtheme]

man what the fuck it still hasn’t occurred to me that i’ve watched the finale and all the threads have been tied and it’s OVER….like it legitimately refuses to compute in my brain. i’ll be dramatically performing l to the og in the kitchen for my family completely forgetting that kendall is miserable rn and will probably kill himself in a few weeks in succession time. im just so unready to part ways with these characters i’ve subconsciously blocked off the part of my brain that would allow me to do that

[myvirtuesuncounted]

alright guys today is me pregrieving the succession finale

[lepidopteragirl]

does anyone know if we have torture labyrinth (succession finale) today

[violentdevotion]

i havent seen the moth today :(

[tar-miriel]

anyone who doesn't wanna see kieran culkin's face 85 times this week please blacklist succession. i medically cannot be held responsible for my actions at this time.

[killjoycatlady]

its great and normal that the only person ken has been vulnerable in front of after logan died is stewy