#practice: mary soria

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Neilo: Why am I not a banana?

Lily: Because your genetic code dictates that you are human. However, you should be pleased to know that you share fifty to sixty percent of your DNA with bananas.

Neilo: Thanks, Lily.

Mary: Are you saying that some people are ten percent more banana than other people

[sincerelykdr]

When you eat can be just as important as what you eat by Mary Halton

Read the article here, XX

Photo by:  Raúl Soria

It is pretty common knowledge that your body is your temple and what you eat is your fuel. In order to survive we have to have energy and the ability to store it. Food is where humans get their energy. For us to maximize our potential for energy and storage we have to eat the right things. Now, recently conducted research is suggesting that what time you consume food is just as important as what you actually consume.

Following the research of chronobiologist Emily Monoogian, she states that not only is it important to eat healthy it is of equal importance to eat whenever your body actually need its, not just because. Emily Monoogian has found through research that adjusting when you eat is what could could improve your life just as much as changing what you eat. She conducted her research by observing the daily timing habits of about a thousand people per day in different part of the world. 

I like how she includes in her article what the circadian rhythm of life was and how it affects certain bodily functions. Everything that is a process inside of the human body has a circadian rhythm. For example, whenever your heart beats it has a certain rhythm that it has to keep up with in order to keep you a live. Similarly, so does our digestive system. Monoogian states that “The two biggest cues you can give your body to tell it the time of day [are] light and food..” Considering we live in a world with artificial light and food available to us at all times of the day, our circadian rhythm is way off.

To avoid circadian-rhythm related diseases such as heart disease and diabetes, Monoogian recommends “time-restricted eating”. Restricting the times in which you eat will help your body to distinguish between it being day-time and night-time. She also recommends practicing less light stimulation at night time so your body can get the proper rest it needs to maintain the rhythm. I think her conclusion is appropriate because her facts are solid and the research that was done was supported by other experiments. It did leave me with one question at the end; “Will humans evolve to have a new circadian rhythm?”

I’ll consider this next time it’s time for bed and I am aimlessly scrolling on my Twitter feed with a chocolate-infused late night snack.

                                                                      Until next post,

                                                                         -Sincerely Ki

[newyorktheater]

The dog days of August turn out to be full of theater news – even about dogs; these comfort dogs were watching Billy Elliot at the Stratford Festival, reportedly to practice what it’s like to help their handlers navigate through a theater. (So where are the handlers?) If there is relatively little actual theater happening for the rest of the month,  there have been a huge number of announcements — about new shows, new seasons, complete casts. Plus: theater and politics, and the tawdry side of Broadway.

Week in New York Theater Reviews and Previews

  Rave Theater Festival: Sweet Lorraine, Ni Mi Madre, Stormy Weather

What a sweet surprise to discover Valisia LeKae, so exquisite in her Tony nominate role as Diana Ross in Motown five years ago, portraying Lorraine Hansberry in Sweet Lorraine.

  Make Believe: Bess Wohl’s Elliptical Look at Child Neglect

48 Hours in Harlem with Ntozake Shange

On The Exhale: Gun Violence as Adrenaline on WNET

  The Week in New York Theater News

From the stage of the Lunt-Fontanne during his last performance, Barry Manilow announced that his long-aborning musical, Harmony, about German/Jewish singing group Comedian Harmonists, will be presented Feb 11 – March 29, 2020 via National Yiddish Theater Folksbiene, at the Museum of Jewish Heritage.

I have a personal interest in “Harmony,” because I interviewed Roman Cycowski, the last surviving Comedian Harmonist, shortly before he died at age 97 — such a famous Jewish singer that he actually met Hitler once, and lived to tell the tale

Diana, a musical about Princess Diana, will open on Broadway, March 31, 2020 at the Longacre Theater. Jeanna de Waal will be portraying Diana, joined by Roe Hartrampf as Prince Charles, Erin Davie as Camilla Parker Bowles and Judy Kaye as Queen Elizabeth, all of whom will be reprising their roles from the world-premiere production at LaJolla Playhouse. Christopher Ashley (Come From Away) will direct the show, written by the Tony Award-winning team behind the musical Memphis, Joe DiPietro and David Bryan.

Paula Vogel

Playwright Paul Vogel returns to Broadway (after her long-delayed debut “Indecent”) with her Pulitzer-winning, 1997 play How I Learned to Drive, with its original Off-Broadway stars Mary-Louise Parker and David Morse, directed by Mark Brokaw. The story of a child molester opens April 22, 2020 at MTC‘s Samuel J. Friedman Theater. This will be Parker’s second Broadway show in the season: She’ll star in Adam Rapp’s  “The Sound Inside” at Studio 54 in the fall.

The Lightning Thief: The Percy Jackson Musical is coming to Broadway, opening October 16, 2019 at the Longacre and running for 16 weeks. I saw this five years ago Off-Broadway. (My review.)  Still just an hour long?

A Christmas Carol will play at Broadway’s Lyceum Theater November 7, 2019 – January 5, 2020, in a version written by Jack Thorne (“Harry Potter and the Cursed Child”) and directed by Matthew Warchus, who directed Broadway’s “Groundhog Day.” Cambell Scott will star as Ebenezer Scrooge.

“Installation on America,” FREE collaborative theater piece exploring race relations, by @LabTheaterNYC (eg @johnortiz718 @DaveAnzuelo @nycbatwife @Kellrod@AaronRWeiner et al) thrice nightly August 22-24 at @CherryLnTheatre, in support of @RAICESTEXAS & @ACLU pic.twitter.com/EqQqZJTV8O

— New York Theater (@NewYorkTheater) August 16, 2019

  The cast of “The Inheritance,” a play by Matthew Lopez about a new generation of gay mean that opens November 17, will feature Lois Smith, John Benjamin Hickey and Jordan Barbour, Jonathan Burke, Andrew Burnap, Darryl Gene Daughtry Jr., Dylan Frederick, Kyle Harris, Paul Hilton, Samuel H. Levine, Carson McCalley, Kyle Soller, and Arturo Luis Soria (whom I just saw in his solo show “Ni Mi Madre”)

Nineteen actors portray 50 characters in Robert Schenkkan’s  “The  Great  Society,” his  follow-up  play  about  President  Lyndon  Johnson, opening Oct 1. Here’s the full cast list:

James Cusati Moyer and Ato Blankson-Wood

Sullivan Jones and Annie McNamara

The cast of Slave Play, which opens October 6 at Broadway’s John Golden Theater and runs through January 5, will feature the actors who appeared in it Off-Broadway — Ato Blankson-Wood, James Cusati-Moyer, Sullivan Jones, Chalia La Tour, Irene Sofia Lucio, Annie McNamara, and Paul Alexander Nolan — joined by Joaquina Kalukango who will create the role of Kaneisha for the Broadway production. The cast is being understudied by Eboni Flowers, Thomas Keegan, Jakeem Dante Powell, and Elizabeth Stahlmann.

Mary Beth Peil as Duncan  will join Corey Stoll and Nadia Bowers as Macbeth and Lady Macbeth in Classic Stage Company’s production of Shakespeare’s tragedy, October 10 to December 15. The cast will also feature  Erik Lochtefeld as Banquo, Barzin Akhavan as Macduff, Raffi Barsoumian as Malcolm, N’Jameh Camara as Lady Macduff, Antonio Michael Woodard as Fleance/Young Macduff and Jade Wu as Ros

Consummate director Anne Kauffman (Marjorie Prime, Marvin’s Room, Maple and Vine, Mary Jane, and dozens of plays that don’t begin with “M”)  will helm Sarah Silverman’s musical memoir The Bedwetter, which will begin performances on April 25th, 2020 at the Atlantic Theater

All hail @LaMaMaETC‘s forthcoming 58th season, which celebrates founder Ellen Stewart’s centennial & features premieres by Philip Glass, Andrei Serban, Estelle Parsons, Theodora Skipitares, Anne Bogart & many morehttps://t.co/mZOSiDLR9v pic.twitter.com/ffe4FWchSr

— New York Theater (@NewYorkTheater) August 14, 2019

“The reason why I’m sitting here talking to you & not dead or in jail is because the theater saved my life”- @theebillyporter on why he stays in theater (latest: directing @Huntington) despite @PoseOnFX TV fame.@AmericanTheatre interview w/ @diepthoughthttps://t.co/YdTCP5WPuf pic.twitter.com/6Abbfk6XD0

— New York Theater (@NewYorkTheater) August 16, 2019

Politics and Theater

Margaret Trudeau, mother to one Canadian prime minister and ex-wife to another, will perform her solo show, Certain Woman of an Age, for three nights (September 12-14) at Audible’s Minetta Lane Theatre. “She opens up about her wild child days, isolating marriage, motherhood and disastrous romances with famous men.” This is part of “Special Audible Performances” which will be recorded as audio books. (Later in September at the Minetta Lane: Diana Nyad’s “The Swimmer”)

  More than a thousand protesters in Hong Kong sang Les Miserables’ ‘Do you hear the people sing?’ at HK international airport with their calls for free election and democracy

More than thousand HKers sing Les Miserables’ ‘Do you hear the people sing?’ at HK international airport with their calls for free election and democracy. Here is the Ground Zero in the war against authoritarian rule. That’s the reason for us never surrender. pic.twitter.com/1MkTp4BkVg

— Joshua Wong 黃之鋒 (@joshuawongcf) August 10, 2019

  Can live theater help spur climate action?

The Tawdry Side of Theater

Ben Sprecher, “duped” producer of Rebecca.

Ben Sprecher, a Broadway producer best-known for the “Rebecca” debacle,  was arrested on child porn charges. Ben Sprecher, 65, of Manhattan, was charged with possession and distribution of child pornography

Faye Dunaway in Tea at Five

Michael Rocha, Faye Dunaway’s $1,500-a-week assistant on Mathew Lombardo’s play “Tea at Five” during its Boston tryout, filed a suit against the actress in  Manhattan Supreme Court accusing her of “regularly and relentlessly” subjecting him to “abusive demeaning tirades” that included calling him “little homosexual boy.” Rocha claims that after he complained about the behavior, he was fired, told  Dunaway “is not comfortable with you anymore.”

The producers of the solo play about Katherine Hepburn fired Dunaway, after accusations that she abused the crew, and scrapped plans for the show.

  Rest In Peace

Peter Fonda with daughter Bridget Fonda

“Henry Fonda’s son: That’s how everybody identified me until Easy Rider came along.” Peter Fonda, 79, who was also a Broadway veteran, appearing in the 1961 “Blood, Sweat and Stanley Poole”

  Opening in NY: Manilow’s Harmony, Diana, How I Learned to Drive, The Lightning Thief, A Christmas Carol. Tawdry Broadway. #Stageworthy News Up The Wazoo. The dog days of August turn out to be full of theater news – even about dogs; these comfort dogs were watching Billy Elliot at the Stratford Festival, reportedly to practice what it's like to help their handlers navigate through a theater.

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SIMBANG GABI (Night Masses)

SIMBANG GABI (9 Day Christmas Novena) 

Filipinos celebrate the longest Christmas in the world. By late September, it is not unusual in the Philippines to hear the familiar strains of Christmas carols being played in the airwaves and piped-in music at department stores. Holiday decor like the parol (Christmas lantern)start to appear, and the anticipation for the coming celebration of the Lord's birthday on the 25th of December slowly begins to build up in both the young and old alike. And yet, for the Filipino the holiday season does not end on this date. The Christmas spirit continues thru New Year and until the first Sunday of January, when the observance of the feast of the Three Kings finally signals the end of the Christmas season.                                   

An indispensable part of this tradition is the 9-day novena of early morning Masses (usually at 4:00 a.m.) known as Simbang Gabi (literally translated in English to "Night Masses"). Sometimes it is referred to as Misa de Aguinaldo (Gift Mass), while others prefer Misa de Gallo (Mass of the Early-Morning Rooster)—although this term is applied by most to the Midnight Mass on Christmas Eve, which is the culmination of the novena that began on December 16. After the Midnight Mass, Filipino families gather for a sumptuous feast followed by exchange of gifts and celebration until the crack of dawn to welcome Christmas day.Origin

Simbang Gabi traces its roots in Mexico when, in 1587, the Pope granted the petition of Fray Diego de Soria, prior of the convent of San Agustin Acolman, to hold Christmas mass outdoors because the Church could not accommodate the huge number of people attending the evening mass.

During the old times, the pre-dawn mass is announced by the ringing of the church bells. In some rural areas, an hour before the start of Simbang Gabi, a brass band plays Christmasmusic all over the town. It is also believed that parish priests would go far knocking on doors to wake and gather the faithful to attend the misa de gallo. Farmers as well as fishermen wake up early to hear the Gospel before going to their work and ask for the grace of good harvest.

This novena of masses was introduced in the 17th century by the Spanish conquistadores. It was held before dawn so that farmers and fisherman would be able to participate in them before the usual early start of their labor for the day. In fact, the flickering candles in the star-shaped parols or Christmas lanterns that adorned the humble houses gave light to the early-morning churchgoers on their way to Simbang Gabi.

Then and Now

The changing of times does not break the preservation of celebrating Simbang Gabi although it is celebrated in new ways. Still, the tradition of Simbang Gabi continues. Part of it are the colorful lights and lanterns that fill every streets. Beautiful parols are hung in every window. Songs of the season are played everywhere to warm the hearts. Families, friends and even individuals find its way going to the nearest church to attend the nine-day novena. Shortly after the Misa de Gallo, families gather in their homes to celebrate Noche Buena and feasted on various delicacies like queso de bola, bibingka, puto bungbong, or a drink of salabat or hot chocolate.

Simbang Gabi is celebrated as a Stational Liturgy, moving from church to church within every Archdiocese in America. It is a testament to the cultural diversity of each Archdiocese and the Filipino-American community who warmly welcome people from all parts of the archdiocese and the world.

The masses are in English and Tagalog, celebrated by the parish clergy. Some prayers and carols are in Filipino. But no matter the language you use when you pray and sing with us, you will realize how truly universal indeed the Christmas spirit is.

In the Philippines, it is the same gospel (the Annunciation) and readings for all the 9 days. But there is always traditional hot food and drinks after every Mass. In some churches, the panuluyan is reenacted showing the effort of Joseph and Mary to find a suitable birthplace.

Significance

Simbang Gabi has become one of the most popular traditions in the country. But it is not just a tradition that is celebrated because we need to do so. It is a significant moment not only because it strengthens relationships among family members but also because it is the time where our faith is intensified. This is the time where we mostly feel the presence of the Lord because it is the spiritual preparation for Christmas, the birth of Jesus Christ. It does not matter if one has the stamina to complete the novena or not, what really matters is what is inside the heart. The blessing does not depend on the number of mass attended, but what is important is the disposition of the person who receives the Lord’s blessing.

Liturgy and Popular Religiosity

By Noemi M. Castillo

One of the traditional values that has remained strong and integral in Filipino life – whether it be rural or urban, whether it be in the Philippines or here in the United States - is the love for celebrations.  We celebrate every significant milestone in our life – birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, promotions, burials, and so on.  We celebrate important liturgical seasons like Christmas and lent.  Our traditional celebration of advent, however, differs from the western advent celebration symbolized by the advent wreath.  Our advent celebration is Simbang Gabi; it is more festive than the lighting of the advent candles and more community oriented. 

Simbang Gabi is one of the legacies of faith that the Spanish missionaries had given to us.  They used an evangelization approach using church bells to remind them of their faith life which, during the Spanish times, included praying the Angelus at 6:00 p.m., family rosary at night, blessing the children with the sign of the cross, and many others.  It was experiential in that it involved the church, family, and community, and was integral in the lives of the natives.  Simbang Gabi, for example, was introduced to teach the people the meaning of Christmas and how to prepare as a people waiting for the coming for the Messiah. At the same time, it was also used to catechize the people on the meaning of the Mass.  Simbang Gabi, from the onset, was a catechizing and evangelizing moment, when rich and poor, men and women, children and elderly, came together as a community waiting for the coming of the Lord and rejoicing in the promise of the Messiah.

At the time of the coming of the missionaries to the newly discovered string of islands on the Pacific Ocean, the heads of household were either farmers or fishermen.  Missionaries celebrated the Masses before dawn in order for the farmers and fishermen to be with their families in church before they go to their farms or to their fishing boats after the break of dawn.  That was the context of their time.  

In rural areas, church bells would ring loudly as early as 4:00 a.m., or even earlier, to call everyone to church for the celebration.  To add to the festive atmosphere, bands would sometimes march on the main road to lead people to church.  Because the Masses were held when cocks began to crow, they were called Misa de Gallo.  For a people who love festivities, Misa de Gallo soon became a favorite tradition and celebrated in practically all parishes in the Philippines.   Because food played and continues to play an integral role in every celebration, native delicacies were served outside the church and added to the festive mood as churchgoers lingered on in church courtyards to share puto bungbong, bibingka, puto, cuchinta, and salabat with relatives and friends.  

As generations passed, and especially during the period of the Spanish American War at the turn of the 19th century when church leadership in the Philippines was in a vacuum, Simbang Gabi continued to be celebrated but without the accompanying catechesis.  It soon became a cultural tradition during Christmas season where social festivities and “salu-salo”gained more prominence.  The religious meaning got relegated to the background as people went to church not so much to prepare themselves spiritually for the coming of Christ, but to meet families and friends, boy friends and girl friends and socialize after Mass.  This was how Simbang Gabi became a form of popular religiosity.                                                                                                                                                                        

Prior to Vatican II, the official church looked at popular religiosity with some kind of skepticism because the negative aspects were emphasized more than the positive elements.  But since Vatican II called for liturgical renewal, popular religiosity could no longer be ignored nor treated with disrespect or indifference because of its richness and because in itself popular religiosity represents a people’s relationship with God.  But, as Vatican II stated, these pious exercises have to be evangelized so that they become mature and authentic expressions of faith, so that they can be purified and directed towards liturgy.

This renewal touched on Misa de Gallo and brought back to the people’s consciousness the original meaning of the celebration, and examined it in the context of modern times and needs of modern society.  As a result, some churches in metropolitan areas began to celebrate the Masses in the evening, to allow more people to participate in the novena.  Thus, Misa de Gallo became more popularly known as Simbang Gabi.  Today, whether the novena of advent Masses is celebrated traditionally at dawn or in the early evening, it is still called Simbang Gabi.  

Maligayang Pasko At Manigong Bagong Taon!Merry Christmas & Happy New Year to All!Source: Roman Catholic Archdiocese of Anchorage, Alaska

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I use this picrew maker by @sangled

I have so many ocs, but I'm going with my Practice ocs. Now, I'm going through the names and their orientations.

Cyrus (aromantic agender), Arcia (genderfluid), and Victor (gay ftm)

Neilo (gay), Maeve (nonbinary), and Lily (panromantic asexual)

Mary (lesbian), Ashley (bisexual demigirl), and Winnie (bisexual).

If you want to know more about them, ask me!

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I'm still getting used to this xD

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Practice Incorrect Quotes: (12/???)

Lily: Synonyms are weird because if you invite someone to your cottage in the forest, that just sounds nice and cozy, but if I invite you to my cabin in the woods, you’re going to die.

Mary: My favorite is “butt dial” vs “booty call”.

Arcia: Also, “forgive me father, I have sinned,” vs “sorry daddy, I’ve been naughty”.

Lily: Great news! Language is now canceled!

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Practice Ocs: Sexual/Romantic Orientation and Genders

:D

Cyrus: A snarky pansexual man from hell.

Neilo: A gay man with a heart of gold.

Arcia: A flirty abrosexual genderfluid witch who uses she/her and they/them pronouns.

Victor: A gay trans man who is mute, but he has cute expressions according to his boyfriend, Neilo.

Maeve: A biromantic demisexual nonbinary who doused on sarcasm and bluntness. There's no in between.

Lily: A sweet panromantic asexual woman that is in a wheelchair, but it doesn't stop her.

Mary: A lesbian woman who loves inventing and her girlfriend, Lily.

Winnie: A bisexual man who is a werewolf.

Ashley: A fierce bisexual woman who will fite.

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Practice OCs as background characters in a fanfic

Cyrus: He will flirt with person A to make them uncomfortable as possible because they can be closer to person B and jealousy equals tension. ;) Known as the creepy dude.

Arcia: Same as above. She's the blonde bitch because she wants to see her otp being funky. ;)

Victor: He definitely will play a song for his otp at a fancy restaurant. Known as the violin guy.

Neilo: Probably that guy to yell out "KISS KISS KISS". What? He doesn't like pinning. :P

Maeve: They will make sure that person A, B, or both to get their shit together. The advice person, but won't hesitate to kick your ass in gear.

Lily: She gives person A or B a treat, so they can give it to each other. Also, has good advice.

Mary: Same as Neilo, but will try to help her otp out despite Maeve holding her back.

Winnie: Doesn't want to get involved, but he gives good advice from time to time.

Ashley: Same as Winnie, but she will put a "Do Not Disturb" sign on one of otps apartment room.

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Mary: What is this? *brings out paper*

Ashley: All I hear is you bringing out a paper, but I assume you're referring to what's on the paper.

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Things I say/do are now my Practice OCs quotes (1/???)

Cyrus: Why does Death look like a twink?

Arcia: You either clench or clap your booty.

Victor: *eats popcorn*

Neilo : It's good to be gay!

Maeve: What are you gonna do, smile at me?

Lily: *plays piano intensely*

Mary: *sips on a tall straw that is put in a small box of chocolate milk* Yeet

Winnie: I don't like being intense because that makes me being even more intense than before.

Ashley: I have the power of God and Google on my side! AGGGHHHHH-

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Practice Incorrect Quotes: (1/???)

Mary: Ya think I can fit 10 marshmallows in my mouth?

Lily: You're a hazard to society.

Maeve: And a coward. Do 20.

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inspired by @/qyukie and @/nicadenic. i’ll do those group ones since i tend to categorized for whatever reason sakjhadkhj

i somehow remember some of their last names wtf

it’s a long one f o l ks

- practice ocs: 10 chaotic fucks - maeve evermore, winnie evermore, liam, ashley, arcia oregon, lily, mary soria, neilo, victor, and cyrus.

- next time: kinda a next generation but it’s bout maeve’s two younger bros?? - daniel evermore, george evermore, ciel, hydra, ester, lian, and zack.

- seong-jin who is like daniel’s future boyfriend bcuz why the fuck not???

- glitched love: a bunch of cryptid ocs who used to be apart of a dating game(s) before it got deleted - mc, n4m37355, c00k13, and incognito.

- desires: just a group of people who got a psyche that is a animal-spirit like thing. #totallynotdemons - aster & yume (sheep), mon & brock (racoon), kanani & deli (spider), gabby & leon (cat), ye-jun & minnie (mouse), jess & sonya (bird), and louis & vin (snake)

- some random yandere girl

- angelica (angel) and demonica (demon) with their younger sister rain. including another pair of twins, dia and osbi.

- just a women named caitlyn doing her best

- just a nonbinary named hion trying to survive

- magical girls u w u: just normal magical girls except one is a man and one is a nonbinary bcuz i said so - alma, natsumi, phoenix, sol and luna.

- jshk: myeong and his namelss younger sister.

- sonic: look. my hyperfixation is w i l d. - samson the wolf,  jericho the rabbit, perfume the cat, comet the hedgehog, mateo the bear, iris the deer, and swift the canary. also saia.

- isekai au???: nameless kitsune, nameless yome (you know what it means), and hoshi

- osgd ocs but i dont remember their names but im assuming its 14

- lucid dreamers: im too deep into idol hell so ocs it is - hiroto, ryu, karou, charissa, barry, alani, akane, ji-su, and kanna

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picrew

from left to right

Cyrus, Arcia, Victor

Neilo, Liam, Maeve

Lily, Mary

Ashley, Winnie

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How to raise financially responsible kids

Raúl Soria

Teaching them about spending and saving is good, but our lessons need to go beyond that, says financial planner Ellen Rogin.

Anyone who’s ever heard a child say a very grown-up word they definitely didn’t learn in the classroom knows that kids are sponges for adult behavior. And this applies to money, too.

“Kids hear how we talk about money, they see how buying decisions are made, they notice how we react to financial situations. They’re always watching, absorbing our stress and our attitudes. Even if we don’t talk about them,” says Chicago-based financial expert Ellen Rogin.

Which means how our children will manage money in the future is being shaped by the atmosphere around finances at home right now. Most parents are quick to teach their kids about concepts like saving, investing and shopping for bargains. These kinds of lessons are necessary, says Rogin, but they’re not enough. “We’re missing the opportunity to truly cultivate those skills to help our kids … to have a healthy relationship with money.”

The missing pieces are gratitude and generosity.

“One of the best ways to lower anxiety levels about money is to focus on what you’re thankful for,” says Rogin. Her family began a daily gratitude practice with their children when they were young. Each night before bed, they each share five things they are grateful for.

Even though it’s not directly about money, Rogin believes this can change how they think about finances. Gratitude, she says, “moves our attention towards what we want as opposed to what we don’t want, and directs our thinking [away] from scarcity.”

Learning to give is also important. Encourage them to use some of their money to contribute to causes they care about, and show them how you decide your own charitable donations. And show them that giving doesn’t have to mean sending cash; spend an afternoon with them volunteering at a park cleanup or walking dogs at a shelter, take them with you when you drop off unwanted books or clothes at the thrift shop, and tell them about volunteer work you’ve done in the past.

By cultivating gratitude and generosity in your kids, you’re teaching them that money is about so much more than getting, spending or holding onto.

You might not see the effects of these lessons for years, but trust they’ll have an impact. Rogin says, “Imagine a world where people are confident instead of fearful when they talk about money… where we’re focused on what we’re thankful for instead of what’s lacking in our lives.”

Watch her TEDxSevenMileBeach talk here:

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Mary Halton is Assistant Ideas Editor at TED, and a science journalist based in the Pacific Northwest.

This post was originally published on TED Ideas. It’s part of the “How to Be a Better Human” series, each of which contains a piece of helpful advice from someone in the TED community; browse through all the posts here.

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[book-of-my-ocs]

Mary: Hey, wanna read a fanfic where Vanohm is in a friends-with-benefits relationship?

Maeve: Sure. That sounds-

Arcia: Spicy~.

Maeve: THIS DOESN'T EVEN HAVE SMUT!!!

Arcia: But friends-with-benefits!

Maeve:

Maeve: Fine, but don't make any inappropriate jokes.