#polyamoryphobia

[puppyoclock]

a recent study came out about stigma faced by polyamorous youth (ages 12-17), by assessing and surveying over 300 teens at an LGBTQ+ summer camp:

A notable aspect of the findings was the impact of the supportive environment provided by the LGBTQ+ camp. All adolescents, regardless of their relationship preferences, showed improved mental health by the end of the camp. Both depressive symptoms and anxiety levels decreased significantly after spending time in this accepting and affirming setting. This highlights the importance of creating supportive spaces for marginalized youth, where they can explore their identities without fear of judgment or discrimination. Despite the overall improvement in mental health, the study revealed that many polyamorous and ambiamorous adolescents did not feel safe being open about their identity in their home communities. Less than half (44.4%) of these youth felt safe or would feel safe disclosing their polyamorous identity at home. The qualitative data provided deeper insight into this issue, with many adolescents expressing concerns about being misunderstood, judged, or stigmatized if they were open about their relationship preferences.

source article / original study (paywalled)

[exculis]

had a dream i got into an argument with someone who was like 'honestly i think that polyamoryphobia and misogyny arent as prevalent as misandry in todays society' and i was like. hm. as a polyamorous man who is also a woman, i disagree.

fascinating that my dreams are just making up guys to get mad at now tho. i thought i had to be awake to accomplish that

[bloodyqueeres]

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[magdaclaire]

steven/adam/andrew "I almost said I couldn’t believe you did that, but I remembered who you were and stopped myself.” only if u have time!! (p.s i love ur writing it gets me thru the day)

 Can I get uhhhhh this is the cutest prompt I have ever received? 

Also it didn’t like ask for a high school au but this is what came to me, if you want a do-over, I am more than willing to provide

Adam keeps to a reasonable pace after his boys, and anyone on the outside looking in might wonder if he truly enjoys his self-appointed job; let it be known, dear reader, that he loves it with every fiber of his being. It’s a school trip to the fair, something that should be simple and pretty well organized, but instead is a free for all, as most supposedly well organized things in public schools are. The seniors are allowed to wander off on their own, so long as at least one member of their group is eighteen; Andrew turned eighteen last month, and the three of them are taking it to as much of their advantage as they can. If that means Adam watches while his boyfriends act like children, that’s okay. They’re cute enough to balance it.

“Addy! Come with us, please, please, please?” Steven asks, pulling Andrew back to Adam and attempting to drag both of them at once. While Steven has the height advantage on both of them, Andrew and Adam are quite a bit more solid, so it’s a bit funny for their small boyfriend to try to pull them along. Andrew and Adam look at each other before grinning and following along, Steven between them, holding both of their hands. When compared to Steven, Andrew is actually a functioning adult; it’s when he’s around Steven that Andrew begins to loosen up a bit. Thankfully, Adam likes being the adult between the three of them. His boyfriends are adorable.

“I’m coming, Stevie. You don’t have to drag me, you can just hold my hand,” Adam says quietly, leaning over to his taller boyfriend’s ear. Steven blushes a little and stops walking so fast, squeezing Adam’s fingers and, so far as Adam can tell, Andrew’s as well. Adam squeezes back instead of saying the It’s okay, baby, that comes to mind, if only because it would embarrass Steven further and Adam knows from experience that neither he nor Andrew can handle a blushing Steven for too long. He’s too cute to be allowed in public. 

And then Adam starts noticing things he doesn’t like: lingering glances, people noticing them for too long, stares too piercing for a fucking trip to the fair. He looks around at what they could be looking at before zeroing in on his own hand around Steven’s, dwarfing the other boy’s long fingers, and Andrew’s own doing the same. Adam squares his shoulders and keeps his tongue securely behind his teeth, willing no one to say anything. 

“Oh my god, look at those three f-” some guy in a university jacket starts, but he’s just close enough for Adam to slam the side of his head into the side of the brick bathroom building. Steven gasps and begins pulling again, removing them from the situation with the quickness of a man who is truly terrified of conflict. When they’re in a place behind some stadium-looking bleacher-like seats, Steven just stops them and stares. Adam almost can’t take the suspicious look Steven is giving him when Andrew speaks. 

“I almost said I couldn’t believe you did that, but I remembered who you were and stopped myself,” Andrew says, completely breaking the ice in Steven’s eyes. Steven throws his head back when he laughs like that, and he’s so breathtakingly beautiful that Adam would take on as many assholes in public fairs as it took to see him do that for a long time. They’re still in school, and he’s only been with Andrew and Steven since the middle of last year, but he can’t imagine being with anyone else. 

“Thanks, Drew. Really makes me sound like a great character,” Adam jokes, following along on the coattails of their chuckling. It reignites both of their laughter and Adam basks in it, looking at the crow’s feet already developing around Steven’s eyes, the laughter lines by Andrew’s mouth. They’re so beautiful and adorable and he doesn’t deserve them, but he wouldn’t mind feeling like that for a long time. 

“If you get arrested, I’m not bailing you out,” Steven says, feigning sternness before dissolving into laughter again. They all know Steven would at the very least try; he looks adorable when trying to say no to either of them though. Adam squeezes Steven’s hand, only now noticing that they’re still linked together by that. Steven squeezes back and Andrew grabs Adam’s other hand, twining their fingers, both of them with thicker hands that Steven’s, and so a little harder to put together. It still feels just right. It goes from holding hands in a circle to a group hug embarrassingly quickly, three teenage boys standing in a circle, both Andrew and Steven tucked against Adam’s shoulders to haul the youngest of them in. 

“I love you guys,” Adam confesses, and feels his heart stop beating in his chest. It’s not the first time any of them have said it, because Steven gives out love like Halloween candy or free samples, but it is the first time Adam’s said it. He likes the way it tastes in his mouth but still doesn’t look at either of his boyfriends, instead looking at the ground when the two of them pull out of the hug to look at him. His eyes don’t detach from the pavement until Andrew is planting kisses all over his face, cradling the edges of his jaw carefully, like he’ll break. Steven is holding both of his hands now, and Adam loves his boyfriends. 

“We love you too, Adam. We definitely love you too,” Andrew tells him, his hands growing a touch more firm on Adam’s face before pulling off of it entirely. Both Andrew and Steven intend upon giving him space, but Adam pulls them closer without even thinking about it, initiating another group hug in which his boys are held against him. He grabs their hands and pulls their arms back around his shoulders, cocooning himself in their warmth, feeling almost childlike between them (he ignores the fact that he hasn’t felt very childlike in many years). They go willingly, though that’s no surprise; they nearly always do. 

[jakemorph]

something that probably never went through Freud's feeble little mind is that you can fixate on the oral and the anal and the genital all at once if you have enough girlfriends. likely the problem here was polyamoryphobia