#polyamorous ace

[our-polyam-aspec-experience]

Hey everybody!

My name is Oryn and I wanted to create a space for people who are Aspec and also polyamorous!

This blog can be for anything relating to that.

I also run @polyam-aro-culture-is

You might have seen me mention a discord so if you are interested let me know! (Though I’m aiming to have it be 18+)

I might do a proper intro post later but I am 23 and my pronouns are he/they.

[incognitopolls]

We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

[1tz-4ll-m3]

Unpopular opinion: Two or more consenting adults don’t have to have sex with people they’re romantically and/or sexually attracted to, you guys can have sex purely just for fun and still be happy being friends.

[fragrant-stars]

You know what happy pride to the detransitioners who still identify in some way or other as "not cishet".

Happy pride to he/him lesbians, boygirls, and other people with ""contradictory"" identities.

Happy pride to aroace people, bi people and polyamorous people, along with everyone else the panderers and gatekeepers try to alienate from the community.

Happy pride to all the closeted and questioning people out there.

You're loved, you matter, and you belong, whoever you are.

[thefrogginbullfish]

Happy Mother's Day 🌈

[bookmothic-dyke]

An aro-spec allosexual girl and an alloromantic ace girl crushing on each other seems like it shouldn’t work. But from experience, it’s oddly functional lol.

Just INCREDIBLY slow burn.

[our-aroace-experience]

My aroace experience is thinking that polyamorous people are the exact opposite of aroace people, before learning more about them and coming to the conclusion that aroaces might actually have more in common with polyamorous people than we do with monogamous people. Okay hear me out:

Not feeling jealous/territorial about "sharing" people ✅

Not fitting the "settle down with one other person and have kids with them" narrative ✅

Being weird in middle/high school because everyone else has one specific person they have a crush on and you don't ✅

Either forgotten about or deliberately excluded ✅

Frustrated that marriage benefits are only between you and one specific person, no room for unique relationships ✅

Other people thinking you have commitment issues because you don't only share your heart with The One ✅

"Find 'the one?' Lmao no thanks." ✅

Being astonished by how many monogamous couples fall apart because neither of them wants to communicate like adults ✅

Anyways, aroace and polyamorous solidarity for the win.

🧡💛🤍🩵💙 🤝 💙💙❤️❤️🖤🖤

i’ve never noticed that, it’s very cool! i feel like queer people all have a lot more in common than we think! aroace and polyamorous solidarity for the win!

[hues-of-purple]

Drew these 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[arden-wings]

i don’t think essek was flirting with dorian personally, i just think he knows some gay shit is happening with him and orym. no one can convince me that essek wouldn’t be a jealous ass partner and be possessive of caleb.

[tyjmluv]

marinette said: polyamorous and aroace rights!

[chatdomestique]

Honestly, as a polyamorous bisexual, I feel like I have much more in common with the aro/ace community than I do with the gay or lesbian communities, which sounds counterintuitive until you really think about it.

[fossilized-beetle]

We need to make QPR shipping (canoeing) and Polyam shipping more popular RIGHT NOW RIGHT NOW IT NEEDS TO HAPPEN ASAP GET ON IT GET ON IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[nocturnal-riptide]

Homophobic/transphobic people: i don't feel safe around queer people and i dont want them to be in the same bathroom as me.

Queer people: *getting arrested, hurt, killed, executed, assaulted, attacked, etc* I wish what you said was true and you actually feared us.

Also the same case for racist people

[noahizslay]

🏳️‍🌈 happy pride month to all: 🏳️‍⚧️

• gays, mspec gays and turigirls

• lesbians, mspec lesbians and lesboys

• bi, pan, ply, omni, abro and other mspec people.

• trans and non-binary people

• queer people

• intersex people

• ace and ace-spec people

• aro and aro-spec people

• apl and apl-spec people

• xenogender people

• polyamorous, ambiamorous and other non-monogamous people

• queerhets

• and to all other queer people not mentioned here

i love y'all and fuck queerphobes, they're jealous cause we slay and they don't 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️💞

[anodyneocean]

So, I love the concept of the Relationship Anarchy Smorgasbord Tool, but my brain has a hard time navigating the layout of the official version, and it contained a lot of things that weren’t relevant to my close intimate relationships.  I ended up creating this simplified version to specifically suit my own needs. Some people in my FB groups have greatly appreciated the easy-to-read boxes, so I figured I’d offer it here too!  (I included a filled out version for anyone wondering how to use it.)  Also, remember, this is good for ALL types of relationships, you don’t to be a relationship anarchist to benefit from this kind of transparency! 

[6point5crows]

If you seriously tell people they can’t headcanon a character as trans, queer, ace, or anything along those lines, I’m going to need you to shut the fuck up and learn to let people deal with their suffering and lack of representation.

“But the character lore-“

“But the author said-“

“But I headcanon-“

I don’t care.

These headcanons exist because if those characters can be those labels and still look like that, still find happiness, then maybes there hope for the rest of us.

If Wylan van Eck can look that much like a boy and be trans, then maybe there’s hope for those of us so desperate to be seen as a boy.

If Kanej can still flourish and exist while still being ace, then maybe there’s hope for those of us who desire the same respect and type of love.

If Kuwesper can exist and be seen and work out their relationship dynamic, then maybe there’s hope for those of us who are poly and wish to just be seen as valid for a single fucking day.

Let people have their headcanons even if they differ from canon (that’s what a fucking headcanons is, dumbasses) or from your own perspective on the characters, because you may have no clue how much that headcanon may mean for somebody.