#polle says: asexuals are valid!

[th3cadav3r]

Hello! I think a nice sfw fluff scenario for the Tulpar crew would be headcanons of how each character would react when the reader hesitantly tells them they don’t like sex or are asexual. Reader can be gn. Thank you, I really like your headcanon writings!

SFW Mouthwashing Headcanons—Asexual Reader

content: fluff, kissing, cuddling, mentions of sex, very very very slight acephobia from Jimmy(but with a happy ending)

author’s note: Keep in mind that I am not asexual therefore I cannot understand or fully grasp the asexual experience. I just tried my best based on what I’ve seen and heard online. Hope you enjoy!

Daisuke

You and him had been dating for about three weeks

You always held hands and made out a lot, but nothing more than that

His libido is pretty high because of his age, so naturally he wanted more

You were making out on the couch when suddenly you felt his hands start to wander

It was fine at first until his hand started reaching a little too low for comfort

“Wait—”you blurt out

He stops immediately, retracting his hand

“Sorry, did I do something wrong?” His voice is full of genuine concern

“No, it’s not your fault. I just uh…don’t want that”

He was a little confused. “We can move to my bed if you want” He suggests, thinking that you just wanted more privacy than the living room provided

“No, I…I mean I don’t want to have sex. It’s not you, it’s me. I just don’t like it”

He didn’t expect that but he understood. He smiled reassuringly

“That’s alright. I get it”

You breathed a sigh of relief and your body relaxed. You felt like you truly didn’t deserve such a sweet boyfriend

“Here—we can just cuddle instead” He offers with his arms open. You gladly accept

You spent the rest of the afternoon napping together and playing video games when you woke up

This was definitely different for him compared to his previous relationships, but he didn’t care. He loves you for you

Anya

You started dating towards the end of the trip

She’s more of a words of affection girl than a physical touch girl, which is perfect for you

At one point when things started to get a bit steamy, you finally told her

“Before this gets too far…you should know something about me”

You tell her how you feel no desire for sex but that you still love her the same. Of course she’s understanding once you explain it to her

“I appreciate that you told me”

You both have a long discussion about what is and isn’t okay in regards to your and her comfort. And you both come out of the conversation with a much better and deeper understanding of each other

Now whenever you and her get touchy, she knows exactly what to do to make you feel good without crossing the line

Curly

There was no doubt about it: You were the captain’s favourite

You spent a lot of time alone with him in the cockpit just chatting about the most random things

He definitely grew a liking to you and you to him. One day he asked you what exactly he was to you

You confessed your feelings to him and he does the same. While the moment feels amazing, you can’t help but feel worried about his reaction to your sexuality

“Hey, I should let you know–” You decide to just tell him now. “–I don’t really want this to be a sexual thing, okay?”

He’s a bit taken aback, you can clearly see that in his face. But he is by no means offended or upset

“No worries, then,” he reassures. “Thanks for telling me”

For the next few days, he was very overly cautious. He asked if you were comfortable before he gave you any kind of physical affection. It was a bit exhausting at first, but you appreciated that he cared so much

Swansea

Let’s be real: This man is old

His sex drive is almost all long gone

And he let you know this when you told him about your lack of sexual desire

“Yeah, so what?” he says gruffly and bluntly. “I’m fifty-fuckin’-six years old, sweetheart. Just thinking about sex makes my back hurt”

You were totally expecting that response. It still made you smile from ear to ear though

He wasn’t really a lovey-dovey type of guy when the others were around, but when you two were alone in his bedroom he was a lot more affectionate. Cuddles, kisses, caresses…everything he did was so gentle and comfortable

Jimmy

You’re definitely a lot closer to him than anyone else on board, even Curly

Neither of you really knew where you stood in terms of a relationship, but your “hangouts” included a lot of making out and touching

This was fine initially, but at a certain point it became too much for you

“Hold on—”You grab his wandering hand and move it off of your body

“What?” He was genuinely surprised that you stopped him

“This is going a bit too far for me”Your body tenses up, anticipating a very awkward and uncomfortable conversation

“What do you mean?” He sounded a little hurt and a bit annoyed

“I don’t…have a drive like that. I don’t want to do sexual stuff”You laid it all out for him

He was quiet for a bit. You couldn’t exactly read his face so you were starting to get a little nervous

“It’s not because of me, right?”

“No, of course not,” you reassure. “That’s just how I am”

He sighs. Whether it was out of relief or frustration you couldn’t tell

“Alright”

The atmosphere between you and him was a little awkward for the next few days. You couldn’t help but worry

“Sorry if I was being distant,” he finally told you one afternoon. “Just thinking things through”

“That’s alright” You were lying; you were a little upset that he basically ghosted you after you were so vulnerable with him, but you were willing to just let it go, at least for now

“I know you have your…thing. But I still like you”

Well that was a surprise. But a good one. Definitely a good one. You told him that you liked him back

He was a bit disappointed that he couldn’t do everything he hoped to do with you, but he still liked you a lot. Besides, he could always just “take care” of himself in private

[anistarrose]

If you were an a-spec exclusionist (or even "neutral") in the 2010s on Tumblr, if you remember laughing at "cringe aces," and have since come around to realize "hey that was kinda shitty, obviously aces and aros are queer," then you've obviously taken a huge step forward. But if you haven't actually evaluated what subtler forms of aphobia look like, and unlearned those too, then you absolutely need to do that, or else internalized biases will persist in this community that make a-specs feel unsafe.

The most rampant and insidious type of aphobia on Tumblr in the past few years hasn't been about explicitly saying you hate/want to exclude asexuals. Aphobes themselves say they've moved on from "discourse blogs," now preferring to make superficially "normal" posts with subtle aphobic dogwhistles, and people who don't consider themselves "exclusionists" still pass those dogwhistle posts around! And sometimes, "subtle" is giving the aphobes way too much credit, because a-spec terminology and microlabels are still constantly mocked, and used as punchlines.

Below, I've linked a variety of posts about what aphobia looks like, what commonly misunderstood/mocked a-spec terminology really means, and how a-spec people differ from common stereotypes and misconceptions. I don't expect everyone to read every one of these posts. There are some long ones. But I know Tumblr would be a significantly less hostile experience for a-spec people if everyone unlearning aphobia looked at, and reflected critically about, at least a few.

Subtle Aphobia; A-Specs and Sex Positivity

[Plain text: "Subtle Aphobia, Aces and Sex Positivity."]

Sex Repulsion Vs. Sex Negativity - Know the Difference

“Anti-Sex” and the Real Sexual Politics of the Right (Spoiler alert: religious purity culture is not "anti-sex." Rather, it's actually opposed to sexual autonomy.)

Acephobia and Ableism, Queer Social Spaces "Discourse"

Common Modern Aphobia, Critical Thinking Questions About "Cringe" Ace Posts on the Dashboard

"Virgin" as an insult just perpetuates sex negativity

Tumblr polls as harassment bait

Hey, What Do Those Terms We Mocked Actually Mean?

[PT: "Hey, What Do Those Terms We Mocked Actually Mean?"]

Origin, Use, and Etymology of "Allosexual"

Why "Queerplatonic" Doesn't Have a Set Definition, and Why That Matters (from the actual people who coined it!)

"Queerplatonic is to relationships what nonbinary is to gender"

"Amatonormativity" as Defined by Dr. Elizabeth Brake

Amatonormativity Affects More Than Just Aces and Aros

On mocking people's labels — "I want to limit your ability to communicate"

Masterpost of A-Spec Readings

Aromantic Allosexuals (Yes, Including Men)

[PT: "Aromantic Allosexuals (Yes, Including Men)"]

"Aroallos are often treated as inherently "more sexual" than other allosexuals. Here's why that assumption happens, and why it's bullshit."

Romantic Attraction Is Not Required To Respect Women

You can't support aroallos without unlearning sex negativity

Further Readings on Aphobia

[PT: "Further Readings on Aphobia"]

The problems with "Asterisk Acceptance"

"Aces are Valid" doesn't cut it

Compulsory Sexuality Is An Issue For Everyone

When sex-positivity in fandom swerves into compulsory sexuality and othering aces. (This is the only "fandom"-adjacent post I'm linking, but doing so because 1. I know the demographics of this site, and 2. this post is so well-put that its point is generalizable to non-fandom topics too.)

Aphobia Was Bad, It Was Bigotry, It Was Part of the TERF Pipeline

Bi person discusses parallels between aphobia and other queerphobia

Bi and trans person discusses parallels between aphobia and other queerphobia

Asexual Women of Color Navigating White Patriarchy

"Trauma is not a factor by which queerness should be measured" - excerpt from Refusing Compulsory Sexuality, and related discussion

Arophobia: "You say you accept aromanticism, but..."

A-Spec Experiences Growing Up in Purity Culture Religions

"The World is Not Made For Single People"

Asexual Theory Masterpost

[aspecmemesdaily]

I saw a poll about "should k!nk be allowed at pride", and one person commented that if you chose the first option (that it should be only allowed at 18+ pride events), you are a traitor to the community. And it upsets me. The first option didn't say that it should be forbidden, it says that it should only be in adult spaces. I'm a sex repulsed asexual and a minor. Does wanting to avoid things that make me very uncomfortable makes me a traitor?

(God, overthinking sucks)

Dear anon,

No, wanting to avoid things that make you uncomfortable does not make you a traitor to the community. Pride should be a safe and inclusive space for everyone, and your comfort levels and boundaries are not any less valid or important than anyone else's. Please don't rack your brain over the comment of one person.

Actually, I share your opinion. If movies, games, etc. involving sex are FSK 18, if strip clubs or adult shops are 18+ (or so I presume), then why should a live display of kink be accessible to minors? That does not mean I'm totally against kink at non-explicitly 18+ pride events—I think they should display it as long as the display isn't explicit and they're considerate of others (this especially includes minors, sex-repulsed acespecs, other people who are uncomfortable seeing such displays, victims of sexual assault and rape, other people with trauma related to such topics, the list goes on...) because they too have a responsibility to respect others.

I want to say that I totally support kink to be a part of pride, but as a fairly sex-repulsed minor myself, I think that those who display kink at all-accessible pride events have the same responsibilities to respect and be considerate of their fellows as anyone else, and should give a warning, because it can cause serious harm if not handled appropriately, especially to people like those listed in the small brackets above.

[bardace]

I’m genuinely curious bc I saw a post saying it was widely accepted that eugene finch is aroace, but I personally haven’t seen a lot of aroace eugene stuff? I hc him as aroace for reasons I could write a paragraph about but I won’t so as not to influence the poll but I’m curious what people think (and all hcs are valid!! he doesn’t have a canon sexuality so it’s ok to hc whatever you like!!!)

[kayak-lmao]

just wanted to say i saw the dumbass poll about "🤓 oh aro men aren't actually lgb-"

Yes?? They are???

The A in lgbtqia+ literally stands for the Asexual and Aromantic spectrums as well as agender (which might also be a spectrum but im unsure)

Just because they are men doesn't give anyone the right to exclude them. Just because certain predators try to use the label as an excuse to abuse women does not mean that actual aro men aren't valid. The fact that so many people voted that they don't count actually disgusts me. If you think that certain people don't have a right to certain identities due to things like gender, race, or sexuality please try to do more research and educate yourself :)) ♡

[queeringclassiclit]

Please make gay sex an option

Kissing is simply not enough.

bahaha I'm going to make a wild guess that this is the same person who reblogged the Gilgamesh/Enkidu post with "where's the hardcore gay sex option" two minutes earlier

I agree with the sentiment, especially in cases like Gilgamesh, because they explicitly do kiss within the text so it is more a question of if they also fucked nasty

but I think "they at least kissed" covers all bases ranging from 'they drunkenly kissed once and were so embarrassed they never mentioned it again' to 'they are basically married and get down and dirty on the regular' (and you can have fun in the notes debating where a pairing stands)

I know this is just a silly post but it's also worth saying that I don't want to imply that a relationship without sex is 'not enough' or not as valid, so I feel that the current poll options are more inclusive of asexual interpretations

[fuckyeahasexual]

Hey, I just wanted to say that I don't think that the poll about whether asexuals are part of the lgbtq community should be circulated. It made me feel pretty uncomfortable seeing it on my dash and I don't think it should be given any attention because it's not cool that people keep making polls about us like that. I get maybe wanting to make sure we get the right result but I don't think it's worth it

I understand why people dislike polls that ask 'are ___ valid' questions, but I also understand that many people who make these polls don't circulate them out of any malice, just another little bit of content to reach out to the community.

There's lots of content that this tumblr won't ever intend to promote, but we also want to minimize the exclusion we'd practice. Different opinions, different approaches, different experiences, they all matter and aren't Bad.

-Fae

[trykefag]

i'm MANIFESTING this fucking site gets normal about asexual people. note: i cant tell if im overreacting or not, sorry. (its also quite subjective)

edit: i know that celibacy means that you dont have sex, but it's mainly used in religious contexts and i take it in a religious "prude" way by default. you can simply say that one is absent from sex or they "dont have sex". this vent is a person word choice i got really pissy over. my point that the people on this hellsite still mocks asexuals not having sex and calls people "hopeless virgins" is still a valid fucking argument.

"omg haha this site is filled with virgins" get a life and stop using virgin as a baseless insult. there's nothing wrong with not having sex.

that fucking gay sex poll (dont harass anyone in this btw) was funny then the fucking celibacy gifs... the fucking tags and comments just forget asexual people exist. another poll appeared in the rbs and there wasn't even a asexual option, but instead it was "celibacy button".

jesus fucking CHRSIT im tired of being invisible. im exploding allosexual people with my mind im so tired. ASEXUAL PEOPLE EXIST STOP FUCKING FORGETTING US.

also YES i know the gay sex poll was a joke, i get that, but there's genuine exclusionism and its not the poll that was the problem but the reaction.

[cloudcountry]

Seeing the rb poll of relationships made me uhhh self reflect a bit? And realize that I literally have no reason to feel bad about being ace now (like many exes used to make me feel bc they didn’t wanna understand) and now I’m like FUCK YEAH IM ACE MOTHERFUCKKEETRRSSS—

Idk that was just very validating for me?

Hope that’s not unloading but yeah just wanted to say that and I am glad you have a lovely person now! ✨

NO you DON'T allosexual people can be so shitty to asexual people because sex is super important to them but you they just . have to realize that some people can live without being fucked and sex doesn't matter to everyone. also some asexual people do have sex they just don't really want it as much as others. I HOPE YOU KEEP THAT MINDSET ,,,, THIS WORLD IS SO CRUEL SOMETIMES

but yes i have my lovely little squishy and he is. so lovely. ^^

[forgottenyear]

[I wrote most of this earlier. I wandered in and out of dissociation throughout. I thought this would be something easy to talk about. I always think it will be easy.]

(the previous was obviously not the trigger warning I intended it to be, sorry)

[tw: sex, sexuality, unwanted sexual attention, rape, CSA, gender dysphoria, body dysphoria]

(I hope that covers it. I hope it covers the whole fucking lot of it.)

--

Apparently, this is the point where I loop back over the subject of gender.

I told a friend that if I could look like her, I would transition. Just half an hour later, another friend reblogged the poll about certainty of one’s gender.

If I could look like my friend, I would immediately go out to wherever people could see me, and I would revel in not being seen. And I would probably be traumatized quickly, because this friend was complaining that her body is overly sexualized.

What I like most about the body I have is that I can blend into the background. I do not attract attention. It has been rare for anyone to be overtly attracted to this body [in my time] (mostly, people are attracted to our heart and mind, and the body is not an objectionable container).

What I hate most about this body is that it is suspect, understandably and necessarily so. I must always expect to be perceived as wanting sexual gratification and as unwilling to accept “no” for an answer. I hate that I cannot just be a human being among human beings.

--

Angela was fetishized. I cannot cope with that.

From what my friend says, her body is also fetishized.

In both cases, our culture leans toward victim blaming. “If you would dress to express extreme shame and loathing for your body, maybe then you would not be asking for it.”

--

My friend is a wonderful person. I got to know her before I saw her photos. I struggled for a while with whether I should unfollow, after I saw her selfies. Living as a middle-aged man, people assume I am on tumblr for one reason – the same reason my friend copes with every day. My friend does not dress to express extreme shame and loathing for her body, so people assume she is asking for it.

--

My brain goes offline. I am not asexual, but maybe that is part of the problem. I traumatize myself, possibly more often than I realize.

The mere perception of anyone fetishizing anyone else – against their will – sends me into dissociation. It does not matter which “anyone” I could be in a given perception,

--

I am not sure what I am writing anymore. I want a body that cannot be fetishized, although I am sure someone out there would find that sexy. I want a body with no trace of sexuality. I want to be able to talk with my friends without anyone concluding I am just a desperate sexual organ trying my chances with what I perceive to be another sexual organ.

I do not like the connotations behind a middle-aged man talking with a young woman. I do not like that I had to risk these implications to offer the support I feel a friend needed. I do not like that If I said the wrong thing, my effort could have produced the opposite result and made her feel still more sexualized.

My friend was grateful for what I wrote (anonymously) and said that she felt “seen.”

--

I think it is obvious that I am pretty messed up right now.

I saw a need to validate a friend’s humanity.

I would do it again without hesitation. It has to be done.

But I also know the times it was not done.

And that is what has me shaking and crying and feeling nauseous.

The times when this body was not human in the eyes of others.

That we were too bad, too stupid, and too worthless for anyone to care.

That we were "obviously asking for it."

--

Angela’s time was years before my friend from today was born. People like Angela were not human beings. Angela was a diagnosis in a psychiatric hospital (Gender Identity Confusion). Angela was just a homosexual who got confused by the clothes he wore to attract men to satiate his deviant wantonness.

Angela had to travel two states away, to find company with other such deviants. We had to go to gay bars because we would not be allowed entry anywhere else. We risked arrest on charges of vice. We had to go as a group for safety in numbers. Even the gay waiters in the gay bar were disgusted with us.

And when Angela got what she was “asking for,” there was nothing we could do about it. Telling anyone would require admitting we left the safety of acceptable society to keep company with inhuman deviants.

We were already the family scapegoat. A liar.

We had already, at a much too early age, employed our wanton deviousness to lead the father astray by looking too much like our sister.

--

In writing to a friend, I wrote to this body and to its occupants.

As much of my heart as I put into the words I wrote to a friend, the words fail to be heard by us. They are too little, too late. We heard no such words in the long months we spent in the hospitals.

We were kept and we were stared at, this boy who looked like a girl.

--

In ordinary circumstances I do not interact much with my friend. We are not that close, either here or irl (five time-zones difference, I believe).

But when I read what she wrote this morning, their need was right here, in front of me.

Their need is my need. Is Our need.

I know this person well enough to know that they needed someone to say something, to do something, many times in the past.

If I can be there. If I know. I cannot remain idle. I cannot be exactly what they need, and I may always be too little and too late, but I cannot look away.

How failed a human being can look away?

--

[maybe TMI]

I am ashamed that I am covertly hypersexual (alone), but I frequently dissociate during, and never finish.

Can it be more complicated?

Yes. Apparently, it can.

I have seminal fluid hypersensitivity. I am allergic to myself (and others, we discovered the hard way) (with our first boyfriend) (it does not help a guy’s ego to learn that his junk makes you sick) (we so wanted to prove ourselves and ended up embarrassed and ashamed instead). Without care, and sometimes with, I can be burned, inside and out. The burns can last an hour or two before they fade into mild discomfort.

Since the allergy is not limited to the finish (much to our boyfriend’s disappointment), I sometimes dissociate to where I do not take the necessary care, and then I have an hour or two to wallow in my burning shame.

The allergic burns may have lead to the breaking of the amnesia. There were many other events at that time, but an allergic reaction to a cooking oil bore a strong resemblance to the burns we experienced after the rape, and in locations my heterosexual lifestyle has not replicated.

--

This has been exhausting.

The subject of gender is a direct link to trauma.

The subject of sexuality is a direct link to trauma.

Both are burdened with heavy shame.

Both also appear to be ongoing arguments within the system.

I write that I am ambivalent about my gender and would sooner leave well enough alone – and with no awareness of contradiction, because there is none in the moments of writing – I write that I would transition in a heartbeat if I could have every hint of maleness removed. I know both statements are true. [I forgot that I have also written that I would like to have all sexuality removed from the body.] [Or just the body itself.]

--

I think I will write a simple thing, and then my head explodes.

[canon-asexual-poll]

I just found your blog today and I gotta say, I REALLY respect the hard lines you draw when it comes to who counts as Asexual

Of course Aromantics are as valid as anyone else, and they should be treated with respect, but that's not the target audience for this poll

That said, would you be willing to do an Aromantic poll in the future? If so, would you include Aro Aces that were featured in this poll?

Thanks, I have to give credit to the original host of the tournament in terms of drawing the hard lines. I'm mostly following the precedent set after I took over. I really want to be true to the nature of the tournament.

I love aro characters too and they definitely deserve their own tournament, but as I'm alloro I'm not sure I'd be the best person to run it. If anyone else wants to though I'd be happy to help give a shoutout on this blog and would definitely be interested in watching it play out :)

[a-method-in-it]

I'll throw my very asexual two cents into this to say I pretty much agree. And I'll also add that my general impression is that most of this type of discourse isn't being driven by aces because in my experience aces just kinda...don't get this hung up on sex.

I know that people often think of asexuality as being some sort of intense sexual repression or whatever, but it's kind of the opposite. There's nothing to repress. There's no tortured obsession. And like, I haven't polled the community or anything, but in general I think most of us just don't think about sex much at all.

Speaking for myself, I think I actually have fewer hang ups about sex than most allos I know, because...I mean, I'm not interested in having it and I no longer feel weird about that fact so what is there to even get hung up about?

There absolutely are aces who are sex repulsed and aces who have all sorts of complicated feelings about sex, of course. I don't want to take away from that. Those are real and valid feelings. But part of being sex repulsed, as I understand it, is you probably are not going to spend your time talking about how other people should bone.

I don't know. I am not sex repulsed and don't want to speak over anyone who is, but it just...

Any time I see discourse like this pop up on my dash or in some other corner of the internet, it strikes me how utterly different it feels from any asexual spaces I personally have ever experienced, online or IRL. I have such a hard time reconciling the two that I tend to assume that this sort of discourse is not really being driven by aces at all, even though we are often held up as the justification for why some seemingly very sex-obsessed people need to dictate everyone else's behavior.

Anyway. If you feel the need to tell other people they have a sex addiction (which is probably not a real thing btw) because they have sex in a building that also contains children then I really suggest you go to therapy, because asexual or not, you are obsessing over other people's behavior and trying to dictate other people's behavior in a way that strikes me as deeply unhealthy.

I don't want to start world war 3 but I believe there is a difference between disinterest or sex repulsion in the context of yourself having sex and getting so repulsed by physical intimacy to the point you get emotionally triggered and don't want it even mentioned in your presence. I think you should talk to a therapist if you get such intense emotions around sex or think parents having sex while their kids are in the house is sex addict behavior.

I'm saying this with compassion as someone who spent their teen years convinced I hated the idea of dating and relationships but it turned out I just had a lot of attachment issues and a phobia of physical intimacy that I had to work through over several years.

To be clear I'm not implying there's such a thing as "fake" asexuals or ace people are just eggs that need to be cracked. Just like any sexuality label there's a chance your future self may not feel like it fits you anymore, but if you feel ace in the current moment then yes you are currently ace end of story!

This isn't a post saying if you don't like sex then you need therapy to change your mind, this is me saying if you're an adult and the topic of physical intimacy really riles you up or seeing a sex scene in a movie throws you off emotionally for the rest of the day please consider talking to someone! You deserve peace of mind and to feel safe in your day to day life

[wordswithkittywitch]

We've all seen that very incomplete poll of "who is the most attractive Doctor", now I'm going to roast everyone based on which Doctor you find most attractive says about you:

First Doctor: You already knew that grandaddy doms were a thing.

Second Doctor: You just want someone who can make you laugh. A funny little guy. A little jester guy. Someone you could put in your pocket and carry with you to give you hope in these trying times.

Third Doctor: You have, or at very least you think you have, a taste for the finer things in life. The idea of being swept off your feet by a knight in shining armour makes you all fluttery. You also unironically enjoy disco.

Fourth Doctor: I would like to study you.

Fifth Doctor: I'm not saying that five is a twink, I'm saying everyone else you've ever been attracted to is. You started saying "daddy" as a joke but you're no longer sure whether or not you're still joking.

Sixth Doctor: You spend a lot of time trying to explain yourself. No one is willing to listen to you. Also, unrelated, but you probably think putting some opera on your MP3 player and going for a walk in the woods sounds like a really good time.

Seventh Doctor: You want to be a sub, but only for a very specific dom.

The Warlock: You just can't take a man seriously until he grows a beard. You probably have also thought some variation of "I could fix him." but not necessarily about the Warlock.

Eighth Doctor: Well, fine, if you want to be objectively correct, pick eight. I can't stop you.

Ninth Doctor: You just want someone you can dismantle capitalism with.

Tenth Doctor: You put almost no thought into this selection. I very much doubt you ever considered the other options. You are a fool, and you will learn.

Eleventh Doctor: Much like those attracted to four, there is something deeply wrong with you. Unlike those attracted to four, I don't care what it is, just that you keep it away from me.

Twelfth Doctor: There was no point in your school career where you did not have a crush on at least one of your teachers.

Thirteenth Doctor: You are a lesbian. I have not forgotten that heterosexual men exist, I just haven't met many who look at a woman eating dirt off the ground and thinking, "I want to marry her."

Fourteenth Doctor: Based on vibes alone, I would say first, that you're extremely valid. Secondly, you are probably confused about 80% of the time and that is, if anything, more valid.

You have no opinion on which Doctor is most attractive: You probably haven't been in this fandom long. If not, you are even more asexual than I am, so, congratulations.

[confessionsofareindeer]

I've been talking to some friends and realized this could be a cool poll, sorry I don't have everything listed but I got the main ideas, remember that you are valid and I do consider aro/ace LGBTQ but some people don't so I thought I'd add it to see what everyone in the community thinks, feel free to tag or elaborate in the comments

[theridgebeyond]

St. Joseph: Most Chaste Heart of Joseph? Sounds pretty asexual to me. I’m kidding I’m kidding, but I have a feeling he Gets It.

St. Andrew: I saw the guy’s skull, so.

St. Martin de Porres: I, too, feel very called to religious life but also barred from it for reasons beyond my choice and control* but I refuse to let that stop me, so I have a feeling he Gets It. (*Note: my reasons are not race and bigotry related, so I can’t exactly say that I Get It.)

St. Kateri Tekakwitha: She said “I’m going to be single forever” and is so valid for it.

St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross: idk, she’s kind of followed me around. The first time I went to mass with my mom (in the most gorgeous chapel I’ve ever seen and likely ever will see) they were celebrating her feast day, and it’s stuck with me ever since.

St. Dennis: His feast day’s the day before my birthday, and one of my ancestral surnames means “Dennis’s son”.

St. Catherine of Siena: Do I need to explain?

St. Fieri of Flavortown: iykyk

[bestsapphicship]

yelena is NOT canonically asexual or aromantic. those are both (valid) headcanons. the comic panel people use to say she is aroace is taken completely out of context. Yelena's creator has taken to twitter to say that yelena has no canon sexuality and that people can headcanon her as whatever they please. so you're fine with keeping bishova in your poll.

alright, thanks! I feel like just to be sure I’ll double check, but thanks anyways anon glad we could clear that up