#please send advice for this :[

[allhailthemightyquattro]

Seeing the hate Luke Newton is getting for the crime of having a girlfriend who isn't Nicola Coughlan, I think a few people need to consult Father Dougal's diagram.

[ohno-wallace]

And the rest is history 💌

[confessyourship]

Sigh… Wanting desperately to fully join the proship community, instead of watching from the sidelines as I have been for years… But knowing there’s a few proships that triggers me for personal reasons, and I might seem like an exclusionist or make people feel guilty for what they like. Ofc I have nothing against people who like it, but idk if I can avoid it without seeming like I do :(

(Feel free not to post it if you don’t want to, I understand!)

Hi! I am going to give you some advice as a proshipper myself. I do have my own ships that I am uncomfortable with (and my own triggers), I just block and move on. I am still a member of the proship community. Because it does not mean you have to agree with every ship, just as long as you do not harass anyone. Also just a little note "proships" is not really a thing, because the pro in proship does not mean problematic it means for (an example would be pro-choice where you support making their own choices). But it is a okay to block people for any reason, you are still welcome in the community.

🩷

[unknownn-girl]

please teach me your ways

[ins4nebxtch]

genuine cry for help ‼️

im posting this here cos ik i can’t post it anywhere else without facing backlash (people on reddit are ruthless) . the mentally ill tumblr community might get this so here goes.

tryna keep this as short as possible. there’s this girl who has genuinely turned my life upside down, and turned most people ik against me. she’s one of the most manipulative people i’ve met and no matter how hard i try to sort things out im really not that good with communication and end up making it worse while she smoothly lies her way out or twists stuff to make me seem worse and get away w it. i considered her my bestfriend at one point and turns out she was playing me the whole time. i cannot sort this out with her as knowing what kind of person she is, that might make things worse (she’s already got everyone on her side). i spend everyday in absolute paranoia, scared of what she might do next. i can’t go to class without getting anxiety attacks almost daily and this has really taken a toll on me, making my mental health worse and worse. ive tried to ignore it so that she stops but im not sure that she is (it’s been going on for months now). i just want my life back, im willing to do whatever it takes to show everyone that i’ve been mislabelled and im not who she makes me out to be.

edit: i think an ex of mine is involved in this and it’s both of them together who’ve been plotting against me. and people believe them too as it’s both of them + their friend groups against me alone

please tell me what to do, i’ve had about enough. if it isn’t too much please repost, im trying to seek advice from as many people as possible.

[paxthepuppycat]

Can I request a bug stimboard? (totez okay if not plz dont worry <3) would b cool if it had a focus on bug antennas. any bugs r fine.

I thought an Bee Stimboard might be cool :)

lmk if you want a more specific bug species!

[agent-44mc]

I need a seasoned author/writer to help me figure out some things with my book

I love the concept and I’ve got it all planned out so far but something about it doesn’t seem right + crucial plot points are making me frustrated because I don’t know how my characters are suppressed to actually figure out the mystery. I’ve put it off for too long and it’s time to get some help instead of being a sigma lone wolf or whatever.

it’d be super cool if you’d do it out of the goodness of your heart bc im broke and I need an advisor :’)

[basement-bird-girl]

Guys i’m trying something new. The hard outline is just looking so ugly??? So im trying it without outlines. Also ✨blending✨. Hows it looking?

[irhabiya]

i went to the gym today.....finally

[dinasangel]

maybe potential wip????

- cowgirl!abby x reader au

synopsis : abby has grown up in a secluded, frequently sunny small town in Reno for a long time. She knows everything and everyone inside out, so when a pretty girl who belongs far from here makes her arrival, could anyone really even blame her for taking an interest?

a/n ; tried to keep this vague because 1) i don't know how to do this embarrassingly enough, 2) it might not happen and 3) i dont know if i feel all that y/n stuff 😕

[imbecominggayer]

Help With Publishing And Networking

From @kathartic-kat we have a desperate plea for help: "Could I ask about like publishing (indie and trad) and building like a network/presence as an author/aspiring author?"

Unfortunately, I don't feel comfortable answering such an influencial question so i'm turning this out to you!

From experienced publishers and networkers:

How?

[firewolf111]

So I doubt anyone is going to see this, but on the off chance someone does, I could use some help.

So a question to the aromantics and/or asexuals. How do I tell my girlfriend of 2 years that I think I may be aroace but still want to be in a relationship with (although in a slightly different way)?

Like I've tried to tell her I'm asexual, but I don't think I was direct enough. And I am way too terrified to bring up the fact I may be aromantic.

Not to mention, how do you know if you're aromantic?

Like I'm freaking out, and could use some advice from someone who is experienced with this.

Plz help.

[the-fifteen-horsemen]

chat am i cooked

ok so one of my friends since like. 1st grade. has recently been saying some rlly disrespectful stuff abt religions (hes a christian) and its making me really uncomfy :[

like today he called muslims tower gobblers, made fun of buddhists (this one hit hard since i have family with buddhist beliefs), etc. and im actually fed up with it. he also supports israel just because the us government supports it and makes sa/rape jokes.

guys how do i tell him hes making me uncomfortable 😭😭 if he keeps this up im actually gonna cut off this friendship idgaf if ive known him for years

[chlobody]

Hi beautiful Chloe!

I love your amazing content whether you're posing alone or with other women, which leads to my question, and I apologize if you've already answered this at some point...

How do you talk friends into posing nude with you for shoots?

I once knew someone who did photoshoots with other women for her OF, nothing sexual, but they were always set up with each other by the photographer.

Is that how it is with your photoshoots, where the photographer is the one who sets it all up with other women, or are they your actual friends?

I ask because I would love to do photoshoots with friends one day, but I don't know how to ask them.

Thank you 💜

Great question, and thanks for your kind words! Often, my shoots with other models are set up by photographers. Occasionally, I will more organically meet another model through social media and then we plan to shoot together, but about 9 times out of 10, I meet other nude models through photographers wanting to set up group shoots.

I have met so many truly amazing and inspiring women through these group shoots and cannot be more grateful to the photographers that included me in those experiences.

Know this: if you feel like your friends would share an interest of capturing nudist art in nature with you, GO FOR IT! Don’t be afraid to ask your true friends about a photo shoot like that. Your real pals will either let you know that’s not their thing and love you anyway, or be so down! People surprise ya sometimes!

Remember - It’s important to communicate openly and present a nudist art shoot to your friends with as much info as possible. Set it up with a trusted photographer in a safe, comfortable and secluded space.

[soracities]

Hi Mim,, I wondered if you or any of your followers have words/advice on going long-distance with a beloved partner. I have to move far away from my love of 9 years(!) to attend my dream PhD program and we won't be able to reunite for another 3 years while he finishes his schooling. Every day takes me closer to the move and has me more heartbroken even though this is what I want and I believe we can make it through. Any words of comfort from the soracities community is so welcome and needed. <3

I have no experience with long distance relationships so there really isn't much advice I can give, but what I can tell you anon (if you haven't already) is: plan, plan, plan!!! Long distance is always going to be difficult and there's no way around that difficulty so one of your best bets is for both of you to work as hard as you can to maintain open, attentive, consistent, and deeply honest communication.

Figure out how much communication you need and what kind you value most--what about your partner? What are the ways you can make time and space for these despite the distance? Then sit down with your partner and work out a schedule for phone calls, video calls, daily (or weekly) check-ins etc and, most importantly: hold each other (and yourselves) accountable to them. Set out a game plan for how you will tackle conflicts over long distance: if you both are having packed school weeks, or feel you really need to talk about something, agree on a code word that says "I know you are busy but I desperately need you to make some time for this issue / for me" and then agree on a timeframe in which the other person will address it.

For example, you can schedule it so that you both ensure you have at least one weekly catch-up, and one fun date, on separate days that you always keep to: if you can manage something extra, great, but if not: have a baseline minimum you both honour alongside your commitments to your work and education and daily lives (you can even just have a study date where you both do your work together via video call)--your dates can be anything: you can do a weekly movie night with Hyperbeam or Teleparty (or visit the cinema on the same day to watch the same film and then call each other to talk about it), if it's feasible, take a walk together when you're on the phone and make a whole thing of it: pick a nice scenic spot in your respective places, plan your route, let the other know what it's like where you are, bake something together over video call, etc. Whatever routines and rituals you had together, see if there is a way you can carry them over remotely over the next 3 years, or even vary the things you do to make up for the fact that it is remote for now.

I think one of the hardest things to contend with is the sudden lack of physical proximity to each other, and the loneliness that follows especially if you see people around you in relationships having that, so I would also recommend finding stand-ins for that physical closeness. You said you won't be able to reunite until your partner finishes his own schooling--I don't know if that means quick weekend visits are out of the question (either through sheer distance or financially) but if they aren't, absolutely see if you can plan a visit either from your end or his. If not then maybe, along with your virtual dates, write each other letters, or send each other small tokens, postcards, silly little missives, anything to offer a physical piece of yourself to each other but also to remind the other that you're thinking of them and missing them and they can physically touch and hold those thoughts in a physical form.

I can absolutely understand your fear, anon, and it is definitely not easy and incredibly daunting, but I think it is something beautiful that you have had 9 (9!!!!!) wonderful years with your love already and the fact that you are brave enough to take this leap for your own dreams AND have such faith and trust in your relationship and its strength is a true testament to what you have built together over these years. You both should follow your dreams and fulfill them and I wish nothing but the best for the future awaiting you both where you get to combine those dreams and continue building another chapter of your lives together 💗💗💗

[justmejpg]

Older lesbians, I need your guidance in how to handle this😞🙏

Wuh Luh Wuh / wlw rant

WLW SITUATIONSHIPS I SWEAR TO FUCKING GOOOOOOOOOODDDDDD

Context:

I have this friend, let’s call her Cherry. We’ve been friends since 6th grade—years of friendship. We were each other’s only friends (like literally everyone else ignored us in the school, so whole support system as well) when our larger friend group (8 other girls) dropped us. They claimed we were “too close.” Ironically, one of those girls (strawberry, I’m gonna rant about her in a different post) was a situationship of mine, even though she identified as “straight.” (Strawberry? She’s a lesbian now and said I was her “gay awakening”)

Cherry is into both girls and guys, while I’m only into girls. Cherry and I flirt daily, but she insists it’s “just friends.” For context, I’ve had casual lesbian friendships before—kissing and playful flirting were no big deal—but this isn’t that. Cherry flirts, listens to me, and even gets jealous when I talk to other girls or when I sent another girl nudes. But again, she swears up and down, side to fuckin side that it’s nothing more than friendship.

She’s jealous even when I casually talk to people—guys included. That’s right, just talking to people, NOT EVEN FLIRTING. For example, when I was trying (and failing) to be into a guy (internalized homophobia sucks, I was still accepting myself😞), I mentioned I thought he was cute. She ignored me for the rest of the day?!

I’ve tried to address this with her multiple times. I’ve texted, tried talking in person, and even openly admitted I’d be willing to try a relationship with her. She refuses to engage. How am I supposed to figure “us” out if she won’t even acknowledge the situation?

We’re completely dependent on each other, and I’ve realized how toxic that is, but she won’t admit it or discuss it. She’ll say things like, “You’re my soulmate” and then quickly add, “Platonically, of course.” Yet, she never shares anything serious about herself, leaving me feeling like I barely know her.

It’s exhausting. I’m walking on eggshells to avoid making her jealous, trying to keep her happy, giving her affection, and essentially acting like her stand-in girlfriend—but with no title or clarity. She’ll randomly ignore me or vent about her family (the most I know is that BPD runs in her family, and she’s scared of becoming like her mom, and like, that could add into why she’s like this?!).

I’ve asked her directly: Is this just a casual friendship? A talking stage? A relationship? Shit, am I just the bitch she keeps in the back corner? She won’t give me an answer, she WONT TALK ABOUT IT.

I’m done wasting time on some girls who’s not mine, and won’t FUCKING commit, especially when I could be out dating, meeting people, and having real experiences. Instead, I’m stuck in this limbo with Cherry, who clearly doesn’t want to define or deepen what we have.

What do I do? I wanna just drop her honestly, because it’s so draining, I’m so done.