#piedestal

[francoise-larouge]

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[toutplacid]

L’enfance de Bacchus, sculpture de Pierre Traverse, 1938, parc de la Butte-du-Chapeau-Rouge, Paris 19e – mine de carbone, carnet n° 134, 31 octobre 2022.

[eyebulb]

30 means nothing in terms of whether you have your shit together or not…

Stolas falling in love with Blitzo is like a fangirl simping for her favorite anime character whether they're a good person or not (I would know).

Because Blitzo? He's not a very good person, especially not to Stolas. He didn't care in the slightest about Stolas or his feelings, manipulating him to get the things he wanted, insulting him, and overall just being straight-up uncomfortable around him. He voiced very clearly how much he didn't like him. Yet for some reason, Stolas chooses to ignore all of that and flirt with him regardless???

That's giving off major fangirl energy. I really hate how much of a teenager he acts like and he's frikin 30!!!!

[lowpop]

Lisa Lach-Nielsen, Piedestal

[kerizaret]

OH I see what you mean now yes,,

And oudghh... yeah I guess... gonna be honest with you it kind of is a reality because I had friends telling me I'm That One Friend Their Mom Compares Them To and I've heard parents compare others to me and its,, well, not the best feeling. I don't rly like this image personally, even when it's meant positively

But yeah I'm kind of just 😭😭😭 I didn't even realise myself how much its been until now when i wrote it all down,, 😭 idk man. Its the autism

Keri you are like the mom's friend to me. /pos but positively dumbfounded

Wait do you mean "mom friend" or like a friend of your mom lmaooo??? And why is it dumbfoudning???

[fredtougas]

Piedestal

[rayadraws]

I recently read a book about motivation and I found it quite interesting - and couldn't help but see a lot of parallels related to artists and art block. I thought I would share some of the points the book makes, which might be interesting for artists, writers and other creative people.

Motivation

We need motivation to start on and continue working on a task. We can find our motivation in different things, each with good and bad side effects - some of them have a tendency to shift our focus (for instance if you're motivated by feedback/praise you may end up spending more energy chasing that than at the task at hand).

Motivation can broadly be divided into external and internal.

External - rewards, compliments, likes

Internal - your own drive to do/finish a meaningful task

When possible, internal motivation tends to work better than external motivation, we’re more tenacious when our motivation comes from ourselves rather than outside sources. Internal motivation is strengthened by:

- Learning to master a new skill

- Experiencing autonomy (making your own decisions, this is self-rewarding)

- Being part of a community

- Feedback from others

- Performing a task that's suitable for our skill level/previous experience

- Getting to choose your own task

By contrast, external motivation can consist of:

- Bribes, such as treating yourself after finishing a task. This is a double-edged sword - it will further convince your mind that the task isn't worth doing for its own sake, but if the alternative is that you won't finish the task at all this is a better alternative.

- Grades, can motivate but also cause stress and be associated with personal worth, which is detrimental. If you can view grades as neutral feedback you can utilize them best.

- Social influence, such as not wanting to disappoint others. Can strengthen internal motivation but also cause fear or an unwillingness to challenge yourself in case you fail.

- Status, power, money, you can become addicted to these factors.

If you want to be more motivated you need to first understand why your motivation is lacking in the first place. A common issue is that you're too worried about what others think about you.

Self-worth & the idea of talent

There is also our feelings of self-worth and how capable we view ourselves that influence our motivation. If we knock ourselves down ("I bet I can't do it anyway") it'll lower our chances of success. If we believe in ourselves and our skills we're more likely to succeed.

When possible it's valuable to have a role model, having one can motivate us a lot. Is there none? Perhaps you'll be the first role model for others following in your footsteps.

In modern society we often put the idea of "talent" on a piedestal, of having been given the gift of expertise without putting in the hard work. In truth no such kind of talent exists, expertise comes from hard effort.

We also have to watch out for over-commitment, which can lead to stress, exhaustion and anxiety. Two major risk factors are the feeling of being watched/judged and a lack of balance, typically the concept of talent again - the end result should be perfect, but should also appear as if it took no effort, an impossible task. The concept of talent leads us to the next point:

Deliberate practice

There is the concept of deliberate practice, meaning that how we practice is more important than how often we do it. You can spearhead your growth by making your practice intense, conscious and tenacious. To use drawing as an example, you'll learn more by practicing something you feel uncertain about than just repeating what you already know. Likewise, learning more about different fields/parts/subjects makes us more well-rounded in general. For instance, if you learn to draw one kind of animal it'll be easier to draw animals related to that one. Learn to draw a completely different animal from the first one and you'll struggle less with animals related to that one too. We grow and learn the most when we manage to find the right balance of staying inside and stepping outside our comfort zone.

You can think about how video games are set up and draw comparisons with a good way of learning a skill - you start at an easy level, gradually add more challenges and focus on your progress rather than your mistakes (just don't fall into the trap of a bonus system of quick rewards).

Our brains need to be challenged to grow, but we also need time to recover. In other words, alternate between trying new things and doing what's familiar.

If you are putting a lot of effort into a task it's a sign that you're learning. If things are too easy it's time to raise the difficulty.

Mindset

Mindset is about how you react to when things go well - and when they go badly. You can't change your mindset before you're aware of it.

We have a tendency to let feedback we receive (or lack thereof) colour our feelings of self-worth. Viewing your accomplishments as part of your personal worth is a surefire way to ruin your motivation, your tenacity and eventually your health.

A poor view of your self-worth also steals a lot of energy. You view your skill as a personality trait and base your inherent value on the feedback of others, such as the number of likes you receive. You run a higher risk of failing a task if you’ve tied it to your self-image or if you're addicted to praise.

On the other hand, positive affirmations are actually not as helpful as we’re often told, they mostly reassure people who are already very confident. High confidence is not automatically tied to successful accomplishments but can be a source of joy and determination - though that confidence can be at risk of quickly shattering if things don't go as we hoped.

Focus

When we pick up a new hobby we're often very motivated at first. This tends to stem from being at a suitable challenge level for our skill level, we get in the "flow" and we can easily see/follow our progress at mastering a new skill.

Over time it becomes more challenging to balance our challenge level with our skill level, risking us growing bored or frustrated. To counteract this, learn to compare yourself only with your own growth, not anyone else's, it’s not relevant to you.

Feedback

Contrary to what one might think, feedback is not always helpful. We're often already aware of our mistakes and having them pointed out is not helpful unless we ask for it.

Negative feedback is much more helpful if it leaves room to adjust/fix the issue, otherwise it's not really helpful. Mark the difference between small slips (not worth bringing up) and mistakes (that can be corrected).

Many of us are addicted to praise. It gives us a form of external reward, feedback and it makes us feel valuable, but there's risks too, such as setting too high expectations and thinking you only have value while you're productive.

Feedback associated with our feelings of self-worth, like "I'm the best", adds nothing. Focus on your achievement, not your self-image. If you view failed tasks as failures of yourself as a person you'll run a high risk of giving up. Constantly focusing on high achievements will eventually lead to exhaustion.

Giving feedback to someone else:

- Be gentle

- Help a person stuck in a negative spiral to formulate a less destructive way of thinking of themselves

- A failure is just a failure, it doesn't define a person

- Keep offering praise even if the recipient isn't used to it and try to wave it away

- Usually we should focus on the achievement, not the person, but it's fine to also give person-based praise sometimes ("you're the best!"), as long as it's not always the main focus

Source: 'Motivated' by Alva Appelgren

[nellasbookplanet]

While I'm not necassarily optimistic about the upcoming hunger games movie (I rarely am about adaptations, though I generally try to stay positive until proven wrong), I am in fact very curious about how they'll handle Lucy and Snow's relationship. Like, we all seem to be on the same page about the original movie trilogy turning a social critique with a side of romance into a romance with a side of detached tragedy (ironically mirroring the Capitols approach because we live in a dystopian hellscape). That approach was possible because we more or less always knew the boys' feelings for Katniss were honest, and that while she certainly used them (Peeta especially) to survive the games and was uncertain regarding her romantic feelings, she genuinely did deeply care for them. There was a romance, the movies just over-focused on it because it was the easiest (and in my opinion least interesting) way to go about the adaptation.

With Lucy and Snow, that same approach doesn’t exist. We never truly know how Lucy feels, whether she’s only using Snow to survive or if she actually cares for him (my personal interpretation is a bit of both), but Snow... He never sees her as a whole person. She’s a romantic ideal, a mirror of his trauma, this perfect girl who isn’t like the other people from the districts (because if she were, he'd have to reckon with how the districts were treated), and the moment she falls from the piedestal he's put her on any care he'd held for her immediately evaporates. She was never real to him.

And I worry that the movie will try to turn them into these tragic, star-crossed lovers instead of a traumatized, entitled teenager projecting onto another traumatized teenager and chosing murder when she becomes too much of her own person for him to continue doing so. Please, please don’t try to turn Snow's story into that of a tragic, romantic fallen hero rather than the villain origin story that it is, I beg.

[jechristine]

Yeah he was born with this face idk what anon want him to do about it😭 He would look even more ridiculous if he tried a model stare or something

I think he looked fine in most of the pictures at the Indian festival tbh. Just looking at the camera, smiling with his little signature pose and he's good to go. People who are dragging him for his face will keep doing it but why would he stop leaving his house just because of it and also why do you, as a fan, put their opinions on such a piedestal 🥲

Yeah it can come across a bit awkward on red carpets and in some photoshoots, but Tom’s resting scared face is what gives his characters so much pathos (even when it’s not really necessary as with Nate) and one reason, I suspect, why some fans feel so protective of him.

Big puppy dog eyes 🐶

He looked better than fine in India! He’s handsome <3

[toutplacid]

Piédestal du monument à Raspail, fondu en 1942, square Jacques-Antoine, place Denfert-Rochereau, Paris 14e – feutre, carnet n° 109, 26 avril 2016

[maidenvoyage42]

i might regret posting this, but tumblr is so annoying right now.

of course it happened again, you put somebody on piedestal (david jenkins), and the moment something happens that differs from your ideal outcome, you want to 'cancel' him.

i know that shows and characters are important to all of us, and ofmd is truly something else and means a whole lot to all of us, and izzy's death hurts me too.

but please please be able to see nuances, to watch a show critically, to absorb its positive and its negative sides. please don't fucking say that one of the queerest mainstream show of our age is suddenly homophobic, just because you are sad that your fav character died. it is not and you know it. izzy's death made narrative sense, and good stories have chatartic losses, too, because that is part of life also. and yes, you can disagree with me, and say that it doesn't make narrative sense, it is really okay to debate if a writer's choice is good or bad. but don't pretend that one bad choice cancels out all of the good. (or label the show something that it is not because of it.)

and of course, you can be sad, i'm fucking sad, too and that is appropriate in this situation, because good shows make you care. what is not appropriate is to lose all of your common sense and turn on something that is ultimately one of the best things that came out from last decades' mainstream media. this is not sherlock or supernatural all over again and don't pretend that it is.

[takovanormalnielie]

14.1.2024

Nominovala jsem svojí crush z filmu pro pamětníky do turnaje štrámaků/štramand tady na čumblru a myslela jsem, že budu jediná. Chtěla jsem už už začít kampaň, ale byla jsem zvědavá, jestli bude někdo další, kdo jí nominuje taky. A světe div se, nejsem jediná, kdo zbožňuje Zorku Janů. Zorka na hrad, pódium, stupínek, piedestal, nebo prostě kamkoliv, kam patří vítězky!

[opily-zajic]

Akademický titul z umění mi na trhu práce zpřístupňuje jedinečnou pozici nabízející všechno a zároveň nic; zkušenosti získané díky několikaročnímu věnování se cítění estetickému v sobě nesou skryté benefity, které mě možná doopravdy posouvají výše než ostatní uchazeče o práci, z byrokratického pohledu se však jedná o piedestal fiktivní a neaplikovatelný pro reálný život. Jedinečnost mého vzdělání je zdrojem mého jedinečného přístupu. Jak mám ale personalistům a šéfům soustředících se na kapitál vysvětlit, že mou hodnotou nejsou peníze, nýbrž hodnota naprosto nepopsatelná, nehmatatelná a nespočítatelná?

Už od počátku studia jsem vedena přesvědčením a vychovávána myšlenkou, že jako umělec nikdy nebudu mít peníze. Vtipy linoucí se komunitou, jejichž nejčastějšími tématy jsou nezaměstnanost, chudoba, život ve službách a bolestně známé rozhodnutí mezi nákupem jídla nebo materiálu, mě už doprovázejí skoro deset let. Naše situace je vyplněná zamlženou budoucností a zbývá v ní jen prostor pro smích.

Vím, že bych si kariéru zvládla vybudovat. Vím, že nejsem dostatečně hloupá na to, abych na to neměla. Nikdo z nás není tak hloupý, aby to nezvládl – vždyť jsme, ať už je nám toto označení často odmítáno, akademici – ale nikdo z nás to neudělá. Už jen z toho principu, že jsem umělec, to prostě neudělám. Práce na plný úvazek znamená méně času na umění. A absence peněz je přece vhodná pro úplné prostoupení uměleckého potenciálu. „Umělci vytvořili svá nejkrásnější díla tehdy, když byli hladoví,“ čtu tato slova a vaří se ve mně nenávist vůči státu a narůstající obava, že hlad možná už nikdy neodejde. Zachrání mě status umělce? Nebo dá mému trápení pouze jméno?

Nestuduji obor přesně navazující na konkrétní uplatnění. Na rozdíl od jiných a dalších univerzit a oborů, které v naší zemi jsou a které tyto kvality mají, je právě ta moje o to více ošemetná. Mohla jsem jít studovat jinou školu. Mohla jsem si vybrat konkrétní uplatnění. Všichni jsme si mohli zvolit obor, jehož role je tak jasně daná, že se jeho jméno a deskripce nezmění ani při překlenu ze statusu student do statusu zaměstnanec. Vybrat si cestu, která vede k jedinému a viditelnému cíli – přesto však studuji obor, který je pro mě příležitostí otevřít těchto cest nespočetně více, než vrstevníkům z jiných univerzit. Tohle jsem si vybrala sama a dobrovolně. A jsem ochotna se za to obětovat.

Nejsem jenom umělec. Za mou tvorbou stojí neustálý kontakt s akademickými texty – jejich čtení, rozebírání, psaní a přednášení – stojí za ní práce v těchto textech, ale také práce praktická, zkušenosti v dílnách, v kancelářích, v mailech, v logistických plánech. Stojí za ní práce neustálá a práce nekončící opuštěním akademické půdy. Nepřetržitá zaměstnanost v nezaměstnanosti a schopnost hledat neobvyklá řešení. Schopnost něco obětovat a riskovat. Riskovat svůj vlastní rozpočet, svůj vlastní krk, své vlastní zdraví.

Mohla bych studovat lepší školu. Mohla bych si udělat kurzy zařizující mi vyhlídky na budoucnost, které by obsahovaly vyšší než minimální plat. Ale neudělám to. Nikdo z nás to neudělá – protože kratinké pohlédnutí klíčovou dírkou za dveře zítřků, které by se mi možná klíčem náhody podařilo otevřít k vyhlídce úspěšné umělecké budoucnosti, je možná lákavější, než pravidelný příjem a pravidelný život. Pracovat na poloviční úvazek v zaměstnání i umění. Být umělcem znamená toho hodně obětovat; jak už pro umění, tak pro samotné přežití.

[suntaiciblog]

Sunt într-o relație la distanță de 2000 de km eu locuiesc în Germania și el în România la început a mers totul bine a fost foarte frumos avem amintiri frumoase era atât de îndrăgostit a început să vină la mine în Germania des a fost totul perfect.. dar cu timpul s-a schimbat totul.. am fost despărțiți un An m-a făcut să sufăr m-a distrus tot anul am fost foarte obsedată de el îmi făceam conturi fake sa i scriu am venit acasă am fost la el am plâns eram foarte distrusă nu am vrut să accept.. după când am fost în țară din nou după 1 an de zile m-am împăcat cu el deși toți me-au spus ca nu e bine dacă ma lăsat odată o să mă mai lase la orice ocazie.. dar n-am ascultat. A fost bine o perioadă după s-a schimbat tot mai în rău.. nu mai îmi scrie cu zilele când îl sunam pe cameră găsea numai scuze mă simțeam un nimic în fața lui.. am încercat de multe ori să i spun ca mă deranjează comportamentul lui și mereu îmi spunea ca am chef de ceartă și mă înjura.. la un moment dat am încetat și eu să i scriu să văd dacă îi sunt așa neimportantă am așteptat 7 zile și nu a scris nimic i-am scris eu din nou ca nu e frumos și ca ar trebui să facem ceva trebuie să își schimbe comportamentul ca simt ca mă distrug enorm nu îmi e deloc bine la care el era online dar nu a scris nimic.. după o zi a scris ca nu mai merge nu mai e înțelegere și el nu mai poate la distanță (deși înțelegere nu mai era ca nu comunica deloc cu mine deși eu voiam…) mereu când îl sunam spunea ca nu avem ce vorbi ca mai bine scriem în mesaje de data asta când am observat de mult ca eu mai mai sunt nimic pentru el am spus ca o sa accept decizia lui și nu o sa îl mai deranjez și l-am blocat pe toate rețelele. E bine ce am făcut? Îl iubesc atât de mult 😔 cum trebuie să procedez ? Mă doare enorm ca l-am blocat dar mă distruge.. nu mai știu cum să gândesc 😔 îmi întoarce vorbele să par eu de vină deși eu mereu am încercat sa fie bine.. ce sfaturi îmi dai ? Dacă îl deblochez din nou știu ca nu o să se schimbe nimic dar îl iubesc și am nevoie de el.. aș vrea să îl țin un timp la blok sa văd se mai interesează de mine sau chiar gata relația nu mai vreau să mă rog din nou de el 😔

Cum să nu fie bine cum ai procedat? Chiar asta te-aș fi sfătuit să faci, să-i dai un mare block, pentru că doar își bate joc de tine. Iar pe lângă asta, chiar îți sugerez să apelezi și la terapie/un psiholog, pentru că nu e okay cum faci și cum gândești, l-ai pus pe omul ăsta pe un piedestal de parcă el e tot scopul existenței tale și e extrem de toxic pentru tine să ai o mentalitate de genul. Un partener nu trebuie să fie așa centrul existenței tale, să nu mai poți fără el și să te înjosești mai mult de un an de zile să-l ții lângă tine. E deja obsesie în cazul tău, nicidecum iubire, și ar fi mai bine să încerci să îți regăsești niște scopuri sănătoase în viața ta, să ieși cu oameni noi, să faci lucruri pentru tine, să te conectezi mai mult cu tine. Viața ta nu a început și nici nu o să se termine la bărbatul ăsta, a fost doar un pasager în viața ta și atât.

[whentheynameyoujoy]

No, but Betty is so much better at cracking the whip than Armando ever was. Because at the end of the day, the only weapon Armando had in his arsenal was the constant yelling. Meanwhile, it took just two heartbreaks for Betty to awaken her inner Regina George.

Betty: Hey, fail-son number 5, how many beautiful women would you say there are? Roughly, on the entire continent?

Hugo: Phew, that’s an easy one. Barely any and they would fit comfortably in this room! The role of fashion is to remind women they’re insufficient, to make them gaze upon the impossibly high piedestal fit for the select few and weep! I spit on the female form, its very existence is an affront to the divine goddess of beauty herself!

Betty: Oh, so you agree that the way you as a representative of the fashion industry have defined beauty leaves the majority of people out and that we cannot afford to keep catering to that extremely tiny market segment if we want to save this company from the mountain of debts my ex-boss-slash-ex-boyfriend I totally don’t love anymore saddled it with? Uh-uh, great, so here’s what we’re going to do. We’re going to invent the Dove campaign and you’re going to do something interesting for fucking once in your career by tailoring your horrible “I’m an 11-year-old girl with her first sewing machine” designs to regular women and they’re going to be modelled by the employees of this firm you’ve called ugly for *checks notes* being too tall, too middle-aged, too poor, and too black. Oh, you’re not going to do that? Well, I guess you’re not up to the challenge, then. What was that, you are? In that case, chop-chop, bitch, the clock’s ticking.

Armando: *silent, erect, writing his millionth Please Forgive and Fuck Me note*

She really did bite off a cigar and said “who are you trying to kid, your job’s easy, the conventionally attractive models are doing all the work for you”, didn’t she.

[icypiece]

Choose your fighter, NF drummer edition: Meelik’s drummer on a moving piedestal, or Portion Boys’ drummer on a segway