#perfectionism and abandonment issues

[theusernameiwantisntavailable]

Lights out

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[its-opheliasgarden]

umbra boulevard | download (belated simblreen treat)

welcome to umbra boulevard of forgotten hollow—a realm of charm shrouded in mystery. sip coffee at midnight brew, explore hemlock's books and antiques, or grab a bite to eat at winslow's. But tread carefully; whispers of locals vanishing into the night have cast a shadow over this once-bustling spot. as darkness descends, the dive bar, fledermaus bend buzzes with nervous laughter, while the abandoned hotel harbors forgotten tales. every corner holds a secret, and trust is a fleeting shadow.

type: cafe, lounge, library, bar, museum, etc. price: §412,388 size: 30x30 location: fledermaus bend, forgotten hollow play tested: ✅ (see notes below) download:  ⬇️ umbra boulevard (cc).zip (10.6 mb) ⬇️ umbra boulevard (cc free).zip (426 kb)

notes: cc free now available and cc-lite, cc included. if you want to use as a multi-functional lot, i'd recommend spawn npc mods such as: spawn refresher (zerbu), "vendor" everywhere (kuttoe), auto employees lot trait (littemssam). i've resolved all major routing issues, but one minor routing issue is that the attic in abandoned hotel is not accessible unless you teleport your sim there.

it's finally here! thanks for being super patient considering this was suppose to be a simblreen gift...smh! tbh i did hit a creative wall for a bit but the new pack did help me get some much needed inspo especially for the vampire lounge. also i still hate the restaurant but i'm letting go of my crippling perfectionism...

if you run into any major issues, please let me know. enjoy and please tag me if you use it! <3

-d.

[farshootergotme]

Now that I have the confidence to send you asks, fully expect me to bug you periodically from here on out

Anyways- do you think Dick qualifies as a scapegoat? Cause I 100% think he's a scapegoat. People always try to shove the 'golden child' role onto Dick, and it always confused me cause like. He doesn't fit it at all if you actually look into what a golden child is.

Dick is definitely one of the scapegoats of the batfamily (Jason being the other) and it makes me sad that people always label him a golden child when he's the exact opposite. Seriously- he's hit, beaten, unfairly blamed, lashed out at, not told about important things (Jason or being replaced, Jason dying, Jason's funeral, probably other things, i wouldn't be surprised), etc. Definition of a scapegoat to me.

It's also why I hesitate to label him the 'favorite' even when the comics try to say otherwise. Mostly because... favorite children aren't really treated this way. Favorite weapon, maybe, as I've said in a post I've made before, but that's it. Bruce wouldn't kill for him or any of his kids. He's come close, yeah, but he's also come close to killing the Joker too after Jason's death and had to be threatened into not doing it. Every time, it's in a strong surge of emotion, and the second Bruce thinks rationally- well, he doesn't do it. Dick isn't at all unique, Bruce wouldn't kill for him either.

I think Bruce is the most proud of Dick, and has a unique relationship with him due to knowing him the longest and the parentification, but I don't think that makes him the favorite. Maybe to the other batkids, but probably not in reality.

I don't think Bruce really HAS a favorite- Dick is probably the closest to it, but still.

Though, if you wanna play around with angst and fanon ideas, maybe both Dick and Jason are the favorites and that's why Bruce treats them the worst? Dunno, it'd make a fun fic, even if it's not really grounded in canon (though I ignore RHATO and Comic UTRH).

Idk. Just,, gestures. Dick is a scapegoat to me.

Hope my 2 am rambling made sense lol

Okay, I see you, but I'll argue:

Dick Grayson is both the scapegoat and the golden child.

Now, you might not believe this since he doesn't tend to be both at the same time, and it isn't common for these roles to exist within the same individual. But Dick Grayson is praised and favored as much as he's blamed and pushed.

A golden child is the one who carries most of the expectations in the family. The parent expects them to be perfect, make no mistakes, take on roles they're pushed into with no issue (thus parentification can happen), and continue on and on to be good enough and meet the criteria so they don't make the parent disappointed.

The love is conditional hence they develop this unhealthy perfectionism and self-esteem and self-worth issues that will follow them till adulthood even when they're out of that environment and living their own lives.

The reason why a parent might choose a specific child (or children) to be the favored one is because they tend to see this child as an extension of themselves. And consequential to this, they will project their insecurities onto said child and force them to improve—be the best—where they fall short. All of their capabilities are overvalued, making the parent see them as special and much better than the rest, causing the unrealistic expectations a child must hold and fulfill so as not to “fail” their parent(s).

Although this child might seem like the favorite and who could do no wrong on the outside, the love they receive isn't something they can take for granted.

When a golden child underperforms or isn't as good as they're expected, the parent’s demeanor might change. They will feel the disappointment and fear this might cause the treatment they get to change. Sometimes the child might even fear abandonment or rejection from their parent as a result of their failures.

The mix of all this turns into a person who's over-competent, hard-working and someone that tends to take charge of things so they aren't at risk of failing, making them ‘natural’ leaders in any group they might be part of.

Sounding familiar yet?

Now, let's move on to the scapegoat:

A scapegoat child is the one that is blamed by all the things that go wrong in the family. They are constantly criticized and shamed by things they might've not even been part of, but somehow they're now involved and taking all the blame for the others so there are no consequences for anyone but them.

(All the blame also messes with their perception of certain events, making them prone to self-blame for the problems that occur in the family or their behaviors towards them.)

The scapegoating in the family may be due to subconscious projection from the parent when they're dealing with difficult emotions such as shame, guilt, rage, etc. They feel threatened by their own feelings and therefore they will try to escape from them by externalizing those feelings and making them their scapegoat’s problem.

Because of this treatment, the scapegoat might become an outsider in the family, feeling excluded and isolated from the rest. And for this, when push comes to shove and they're going through a rough patch, they will not have any reliable support they can go to inside the family as they'll be ignored or otherwise unfairly treated, having their feelings be invalidated.

Like the golden child, there's some aspects the scapegoat shares with the former:

Being treated differently by the parent/family.

Having unrealistic expectations placed upon them.

Being pushed into roles or responsibilities the child isn't meant to take.

Fear of expressing how they feel.

Self-worth issues and low self-esteem.

Although they're usually roles that are considered opposites, they aren't as incompatible as one might think. A child can alternate between being a scapegoat or the golden child, and this usually happens when the parent is very emotionally unstable, commonly due to a disorder such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or borderline personality disorder (BPD).

(I have so many thoughts about the latter applying to Bruce, but I will refrain from elaborating to not make this longer than it needs to be)

Having all I've said until now in consideration, I'm sure you've noticed how Dick meets both criterias—dare I say the golden child more often than the scapegoat.

Bruce is always speaking about how Dick is “better than him” and “the thing he's ever done right”, but in both of these statements you can see he's taking who Dick is and making it as something that's part of him, comparing Dick's accomplishments to his and putting him in this pedestal, and because of this projection happens and Bruce starts seeing Dick as an extension of himself.

This is why, when he or Dick fail, Dick will suddenly become the scapegoat, contrasting with the former golden child position he was in.

Here you can see the high expectations, praise for his accomplishments, his siblings feeling like Dick is better than them (i.e. treated differently than the rest), and you can also see how when he doesn't meet the expectations, he's met with disappointment (see: Alfred disappointed he's not as bright as he usually is) or judgment (see: Bruce angry at him because he isn't committing to his cause as much as he expects him to).

And these are examples of Bruce being too harsh on Dick and expecting him to do better, blaming him for his brother's death, and in result Dick having a habit of blaming himself and accepting mistreatment, thinking it must be his fault.

More often than not, Dick is put on a pedestal by his family and even his friends sometimes. They praise and love him, but when there's occasions in which he's acting less than perfect, the treatment towards him can change.

Dick Grayson can be the golden child as much as he can be the scapegoat.

[astroa3h]

lilith through the houses ✨🥀

Lilith in the 1st House: Here, Lilith influences your self-image and personality. It’s like having a shadow self that’s rebellious and defiant, constantly challenging the way you present yourself to the world. You might struggle with anger or impulsiveness, feeling like an outsider even in your own skin.

Lilith in the 2nd House: This placement touches on your values and possessions. Lilith can manifest as an intense, sometimes destructive relationship with material things and self-worth. You might experience deep-seated fears about security and survival, or find yourself obsessing over possessions as a way to fill emotional voids.

Lilith in the 3rd House: Communication gets a Lilith twist here. Your words might carry a sharp edge, often veering into taboo or controversial territory. Misunderstandings can be frequent, and you may feel like your true thoughts are too dark or intense for everyday conversation.

Lilith in the 4th House: In the realm of home and family, Lilith can stir up deep, unresolved issues. This placement often points to a tumultuous home life or unresolved trauma from the past. You might feel like an outcast in your own family or struggle with a sense of belonging.

Lilith in the 5th House: Lilith’s presence here can bring intense, sometimes tumultuous experiences in love, creativity, and pleasure. Romantic relationships might be fraught with obsession, power struggles, or taboo elements. Your creative outlets could also be a source of inner turmoil, expressing the darker aspects of your psyche.

Lilith in the 6th House: In the house of work and health, Lilith can manifest as a rebellious attitude toward daily routines and responsibilities. You might find yourself in constant conflict with authority figures or grappling with issues around control and perfectionism in your work or health routines.

Lilith in the 7th House: Relationships are a battleground with Lilith here. Deep fears of abandonment or betrayal might surface, or you could find yourself drawn to partners who bring out your darkest qualities. Relationships may feel like a power struggle, where intimacy is intertwined with control.

Lilith in the 8th House: This house is already about transformation and deep bonds, but with Lilith, it goes to another level. You might have an intense fear of loss or betrayal, or find yourself drawn to dangerous or taboo aspects of sexuality and intimacy. It's a realm of deep psychic wounds and transformational healing.

Lilith in the 9th House: Beliefs and higher learning take a dark twist with Lilith here. Your belief systems may include taboo or unconventional elements, and you might feel a deep sense of alienation in your quest for truth. There's a potential for fanaticism or an obsession with dark, forbidden knowledge.

Lilith in the 10th House: In your career and public image, Lilith can manifest as a fear of authority or a desire to rebel against societal expectations. You might feel misunderstood by the public or struggle with a public persona that feels inauthentic or oppressive.

Lilith in the 11th House: Your friendships and social circles may be impacted by Lilith’s darker energy. You might find yourself drawn to social groups that are unconventional or taboo, or feel like an outcast among your peers. Your hopes and dreams could also be tinged with Lilith’s intense energy, leading to a sense of disillusionment.

Lilith in the 12th House: In the realm of the subconscious, Lilith can bring up your deepest fears and insecurities. You might struggle with feelings of isolation or be haunted by fears that you can't even articulate. This placement often indicates a deep need for inner healing, as Lilith brings to light the darkest corners of your psyche.

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[theplatypusblue]

The most basic thing to say ever but Lloyd’s childhood has affected him so heavily as he’s grown up. When he was trying to imitate his dad, back when he was “bad” and “evil,” he was totally alone. He was basically ostracized that entire time during and after Darkley’s. It was only after he got taken in by the team and becoming a “good guy,” the destined “green ninja” that he was given even a little bit of support and love. Which is like pretty good, right? He stops being a little menace and gets the support and the guidance he’s so desperately needed his whole life.

These early experiences completely inform his perspective on things though, maybe at a more subconscious level, I guess. I think it all gets interpreted in his brain like this: When I’m evil I’m sad and alone, and when I’m good I get to be safe and happy and stuff. Which again like, maybe those are the kind of associations you’d want to instill in a child. But Lloyd really, intensely does not want to be left alone again. And he feels the only way to ensure that this does not happen is to be as “good” as possible; pushing down any kind of bad feeling or impulse he might have. Lloyd feels like he has to be “perfect” or else everyone will leave him. And anytime he does end up losing someone he interprets it as him somehow not being good enough to save them/help them/whatever. Which is obviously illogical cuz he is just some guy at the end of the day and that means he’s gonna do things that are considered “bad” sometimes!!!! Its the abandonment issues + the perfectionism I’ve cracked it I’ve cracked what’s wrong with our boy (<<< is repeating what ppl have probably been saying forever)

[drdemonprince]

Do you have any favourite scary movies?

I love the ambiguity and grief of The Orphanage, and the main character's emotional journey is absolutely gutting.

The Strangers has some of the most subtle, dread-inducing scares of any horror film of its era; if you liked the hidden ghosts in Mike Flanagan's Haunting of Hill House, it owes some inspiration to this film, I think. It truly gave me nightmares.

The newer Suspiria has really stayed with me, and I loved Flawed Peacock's analysis of the film on Youtube as well. I watched both this and the original back-to-back a few months ago, and they're both great in different ways, but nothing tops the haunting, sickening beauty of the end of this one.

28 Days Later is the only zombie movie for me, and yes part of that is because Cillian Murphy was so fuckable in it. I'll never forget the quiet, contemplative air of this movie, which is rivaled only by The Last of Us games. The zombie genre is bloated with derivative crap, but this movie rang in a whole new generation, and did it so well you don't need most of the rest.

The original Saw is a hell of a stage-play-slash-bottle-episode, and it's far more sophisticated in its writing than any of the rest in the series. It really holds up in my opinion.

The Cell isn't really that scary, to me, but it's fucking cunty as hell with incredible costumes and set pieces, and I enjoyed every minute of it. Bonus points for having a minor corruption/hypnosis aspect really tickled my imagination. I just wish that element had lasted for longer.

Speaking of movies that are actually plays -- there's no better Stephen King adaptation than Misery. Kathy Bates absolutely crushes in a nauseating, confining performance here, and the hobbling scene is one you just never forget. To me it's a perfectly paced film, and it holds up shockingly well in the era of stans and superfandoms.

Ghost Ship is my favorite bad stupid horror movie. The opening scene is enough creative nonsense carnage to justify its existence, but stick around through the end for a very weird trip-hop montage.

Dead Silence is another goofy one that gets really inventive with its gore. I love horror movies that do just downright disrespectful, creepy shit with corpses, and that's what this one is all about.

The Boy is a fucking laugh riot to me. The entire premise is so transparent from the very beginning and the thrills are so awkward and tame that it's a great Halloween party movie. If you're anything like me, you and your friends will walk around the house talking about the Boy for days afterward. Brahms is an age regressor king

Some people find Aronofsky's movies to be too over-the-top to connect with, but I think he nailed the internal horror of perfectionism, codependency, sexual repression, and eating disorders with Black Swan. Barbara Hershey's character is so perfectly unsettling that it sets all my people-pleasing, abandonment-fearing issues alight every time. Everything about this movie is confining and distorting, which is exactly how it feels inside when you narrow your entire life to a singular pursuit and are governed by impossible rules.

The Others has exactly what I need for a horror movie to have good replay value: just like The Orphanage, it's final reveal is more depressing and unsettling than it is pure scary, which makes it cut deeper, and it recontexualizes the whole rest of the film. The interiors and aesthetics are great.

Possession is easily the most disturbing movie on this list. This one cuts deep in a confusing, unmooring way -- it makes you feel sick in your soul, hopeless, and put off from relationships. Filming it reportedly ruined Sam Neil & Isabelle Adjani's lives for a good while, and you can see why. This film is the psychological reality of divorce in its unabashed form. To really leave behind a life you once committed yourself to, you have to become almost unrecognizable to yourself, and do great violence to both your former self, and the ones you love. This film gets that, and it's painful. It makes you feel disgusting for wanting things or for staying in a place where you're unhappy.

Happy watching!

[chloeangelic]

Love Me Back masterlist

Joel Miller x f!reader Explicit, 18+ No use of y/n

Series summary: Who catches you when you let go of your comforts and chase what you fear is out of reach?

Warnings: No outbreak modern AU, smut, age gap, mutual pining, angst, friends with benefits, self worth issues, abandonment issues, perfectionism, body worship, size kink, self destructive tendencies, academic anxiety, daddy kink, a lot of sea creatures.

Extras:

What does LMB Joel look like?

Gracie's moodboard

Cheeto!Joel and Grogu Sarah

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[skittlewaffle]

…

Just… Hear me out…

Two cute and pretty gender nonconforming jesters from space who are so silly and sweet and a little bit fucked up and loud and have anger / abandonment issues and two sides and pretty eyelashes and whore eyes and names that start with S.

They have a baby (also from space). She gets that passion for theater, great fashion sense, celestial theme, and a sprinkle of perfectionism from her dad; and the humor, temper, creativity, and ability to kick major ass from her mom. Cute as fuck like both of them, too.

This was supposed to be an impulsive 3AM joke ship. I will now refer to it as Sunel Starlet.

[iamvercnika]

ㅤㅤ❪ ⠀ VERONIKA ⠀ ❫ ⸻ ❝ here is how i spend my days now. i live in a beautiful place. i sleep in a beautiful bed. i eat beautiful food. i go for walks through beautiful places. i care for people deeply. at night my bed is full of love, because i alone am in it. i cry easily, from pain and pleasure, and i don't apologize for that. in the mornings i step outside and i'm thankful for another day. it took me many years to arrive at such a life. ❞

₊‧⁺˖ ⠀⠀⠀ IDENTITY  ! 

LEGAL  NAME  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ choi yoona ( 최유나  )

ARTIST  NAME  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ veronika  (  베로니카  )

NICKNAMES  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ nation’s  witch,  nana,  blooby

BIRTHDAY  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ april  30,  1997

ZODIAC  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ taurus

ETHNICITY  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ south  korean 

OCCUPATION  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ idol, producer, actress

LANGUAGES  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ korean,  english,  japanese 

₊‧⁺˖ ⠀⠀⠀ PHYSICALITY  ! 

BODY  TYPE  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ mesomorph

BUILD  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ athletic

HEIGHT  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ one  hundred  sixty-two  (  162  )  centimeters  |  five  foot  & three inches  (  5’3”  )

DISTINCTIVE  FEATURES  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ piercing eyes, sharp jawline, full lips, beatific smile, a cybersigil tattoo on her left thigh, big scar on her right knee ( always covered with a knee pad or pants )

FACE  CLAIM  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ kim bora  (  dreamcatcher  ) 

₊‧⁺˖ ⠀⠀⠀ PERSONALITY  ! 

OVERVIEW  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ VERONIKA exudes an air of mystery, often leaving fans intrigued by her enigmatic persona. she embraces the unknown and is not afraid to delve into darker themes, both in her music and her public image. she faces challenges head-on and is deeply involved in the creative direction of her music and visuals, showcasing her creativity and artistic vision. VERONIKA enjoys pushing boundaries and experimenting with different styles, keeping her fans engaged and intrigued.

POSITIVE  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ VERONIKA's ability to connect with her audience on an emotional level, sharing her own experiences and struggles, nurtures a sense of empathy and understanding among her fans. she demonstrates remarkable resilience in the face of adversity, bouncing back from setbacks and using challenges as opportunities for growth. she treats others with respect and kindness, valuing the contributions of her collaborators and showing appreciation for her fans. despite her dark image, VERONIKA is deeply compassionate, using her platform to raise awareness of social issues and advocate for positive change.

NEGATIVE  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ her dedication to her craft can border on perfectionism, leading to self-criticism and a reluctance to release new music until it meets her high standards. VERONIKA's introspective nature may lead her to withdraw from others at times, preferring solitude to social interaction, which can create challenges in building and maintaining relationships. VERONIKA's strong-willed nature can sometimes manifest as stubbornness, making it difficult for her to compromise or consider alternative perspectives in collaborative settings. may use her music as a means of escape, withdrawing from reality or avoiding personal challenges rather than confronting them directly.

₊‧⁺˖ ⠀⠀⠀ OTHER  ! 

HABITS  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ staring into the distance / spacing out, playing with jewellery or accessories, nail tapping, twirling hair, humming softly in random moments, subtle smirks, stirring drinks clockwise FEARS  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ loss of identity,  abandonment, being trapped, betrayal PET  PEEVES  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ interrupting her creative process, disrespect for boundaries, disorganisation, being treated as a stereotype HOBBIES  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ songwriting, reading, collecting crystals, yoga, collecting plants, gardening, cooking live, photography TALENTS  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ singing, dancing,  visual art, production,  acting, voice mimicry, calligraphy

₊‧⁺˖ ⠀⠀⠀ BIOGRAPHY  ! 

PRE-DEBUT  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ VERONIKA began her musical training in her early teens, studying vocal techniques and music theory. inspired by a diverse range of musical genres, including rock, pop, and classical, VERONIKA honed her skills as a vocalist and songwriter. in addition to her love for music, VERONIKA also had a passion for the arts. she enjoyed drawing, painting, and exploring different forms of creative expression. this early interest in visual arts would later influence her approach to music videos and stage performances. despite her natural talent and passion for music, VERONIKA faced challenges along the way. like many aspiring artists, she encountered moments of doubt and insecurity, wondering if she had what it took to succeed in the competitive music industry. however, her determination and love for music always prevailed, driving her to continue pursuing her dreams.

PRESENT  ⸻   ⠀⠀⠀ since her debut, VERONIKA has continued to push the boundaries of music, exploring themes of darkness, mysticism, and empowerment in her music. she has released several successful albums and singles, each showcasing her evolution as an artist and her commitment to her unique concept. VERONIKA's influence extends beyond music, as she has become a fashion icon known for her bold and avant-garde style. she is also actively involved in various philanthropic efforts, using her platform to raise awareness of social issues and support causes close to her heart. despite her public persona, VERONIKA maintains a relatively private personal life. she is known for her introspective nature and deep connection to her art, often drawing inspiration from her own experiences and emotions.

[spork-supremacy]

The least hear me out you've ever heard me out

but just Jay and Nya becoming some form of primary mentors or if you want to, have them as adoptive parent (that is after the inevitable memory gain) to Sora specifically

Nya already was paired off with her a lot during season 1 of DR

All three know the struggle of intense identity issues for years.

Both adults felt abandoned by their parents, either while as a child or after finding out later in life despite either hoping or knowing it was for their own good. And Sora was disowned by her own parents, their beliefs chosen over her.

They could both comfort her after losing Arin (assuming he isn't found already) because they know what it's like to lose a best friend after making the wrong descisions that felt right in the moment e.g Jay beating up Cole out of jealousy or Nya considering other options even when in a relationship because she was second guessing her choices. (Just the entire love triangle thing. I so believe that Jay was Nya's best friend outside of her brother when she moved in, even when they were dating and I'm dying on that hill because of the little screen time she gets with anyone that isn't those two, or a ten year old that more becomes her little brother and an old dude.)

Lessons could be given over building tech or fixing cars. They even have little competitions to see who could do the best original work or make the most improvements to an old one.

Jay has the most extensive weapon catalogue and could help her choose which primary one she would like to work with. As well as maybe try to expose her to several of his many side hobbies.

Nya can teach her how to deal with perfectionism and not feeling strong with your own element in those times that Sora's still having doubts about her capabilities despite being tournement champion.

Maybe they can try teaching her spinjitzu outside of Lloyd's scheduled training and show what worked for them (It's definetly helpful that one of them was the first to learn it.)

I'm not saying once she achieves it they both would be like "whoo, I taught her that!" but they totally would.

like imagine how proud they would be once she goes from learning spinjitzu to reaching her full potential after working through whatever her primary issue is (I still don't know exactly maybe it would be something to do with a need to fix things or take over because you don't have the fullest faith in the capabilities of others and learning to trust others to do it or fix the issue themselves. It's been a long time since I've seen season 1 so just spitballing with what season 2 gave me)

I have a vision and I hope I'm making it very clear.

I like this vision very much.

If you want try throwing in a wlid Jordana.

However it's quite hard when someone made her possessed the entire time Jay was with the wolf clan and we didn't have him interacting with anyone that isn't Ras.

Yes I'm still salty even if I've known for months. The lost dynamics can never be salvaged into canon.

[l3xistentialism]

Saturn ♄ in the Signs Keywords

♄: time, maturity, obstacles, challenges, distance, barriers & boundaries, discipline, effort  

♈︎: obstacles early in life, challenges with getting things started, takes a lot to motivate them, self-sufficient & self-reliant, impatient, expects things quickly

♉︎: ages like a fine wine, obstacles come from stubbornness, long-practiced creative pursuits, materialistic, need patience to find success  

♊︎: struggles with communication/speech, delayed understanding, difficulties with being adaptable, takes time to adjust and be more open minded

♋︎: abandonment issues, difficulties with their mother/maternal figures, defenseless, grow to care for themselves and others as they mature

♌︎: difficulties taking the lead, dependent on others, beholden to outside opinions, distances themselves from attention/the spotlight, keeps true feelings hidden

♍︎: perfectionism an obstacle rather than a strength, may be inexperienced/guarded, fears keep them from experiencing life fully, methodical & detail-oriented, health a persistent struggle

♎︎: struggles with decision making, success in mediation/counseling, prefer traditional forms of connecting & communicating, obstacles require a measured approach  

♏︎: difficulties with secrets/hidden actions, sexual repression & hang-ups, success in investigative careers, latent occult abilities, distrustful & suspicious, hard to get close to

♐︎: obstacles come from high ambitions, striving for greatness & recognition, need self-control & discipline, success in foreign affairs & athletic pursuits, challenges are embraced

♑︎: achieve success the old-fashioned way, struggles with accepting failure or defeat, old souls with old bones, take time to warm up, disciplined & independent

♒︎: struggles with carving their own identity, nerves & anxiety create obstacles, success found in unconventional lanes, through time comes self-acceptance

♓︎: struggles to ground themselves & their beliefs, can be easily swayed/gullible, difficulties come through picking one lane, success in spiritual and creative pursuits

[hey-hey-j]

2. 3. 4. and 19

Since you erm said I could :3 (I love this man so much my god)

character ask game

(not sure if the 1. is a request or part of a bulleted list but I'm answering it anyway!)

1. Canon I outright reject

A canon I reject about Branch? Uh.... I don't think I have any, actually? lmao it's a product of Branch being a blorbo but not THE blorbo you know? To me he's pretty much good as is.

2. A canon or headcanon hill I will die on

📣👏 HICKORY WAS BRANCH'S BI AWAKENING IN WORLD TOUR👏📣 World Tour for me becomes infinitely better if you presume Branch is harboring the BIGGEST crush on Hickory the entire movie and just. Does NOT know how to deal with it because he's never had a crush on a guy before lmao. Stupid sexy cowboy.

(also Poppy and Hickory both have two hands I'm just saying....)

3. Obscure headcanon

I believe wholeheartedly that Branch is a No Sabo kid. I feel this in my soul. I'm a lifelong LA kid. I know.

4. Favourite line

oofgh I actually have a couple that always spring to mind:

- "Lived underground to get away from the world / when I had my life changed by a beautiful girl"

- "I had breakfast! It was avocado toast with two poached eggs, cayenne for a little kick, and you know what it was delightful!"

- *sarcastically imitating Hickory* "'Trolls is trolls' woooow...."

- "I'm sorry you mean my clue board? That I made? We like the clue board now??"

19. Vices/bad habits

well there's his canon habit of closing himself off and bottling his emotions

but also. His one line at the start of Band Together, "It's my fault, I ruined everything," combined with his abandonment issues and his frantic behavior in Holiday in Harmony makes me think that Branch has this huge self-flagellation problem that probably stems from witnessing JD's perfectionism at an early age and the ensuing abandonment/singing killed my grandma incident? Poor guy's been primed to blame/punish himself for everything that's ever gone wrong in his life and it's gonna take a while to break out of that mindset.

[aeroblossom]

scara mommy issues, yes. but what about albedo mommy issues?

despite her cold, strict attitude and apparent deficiency of concern for her creations, he still seeks her out, admires her. even though alice asks him to call her as mother too, albedo insists on calling her his aunt instead. he clings to his true mother. the perfectionism, the constant threat of being deemed a failure or abandoned by her - the constant threat of being assassinated by his own siblings for rhinedottir's attention, if you will. the fact he probably doesn't know the expanse of his entire family, nor the consequences of the quest she's given him. that he woke up one day and just didn't find her next to him ever again. that he had to travel all the way to mondstadt by himself for the first time. klee asks him why he doesn't call alice mother, and he just stares with a wistful smile, responding only that his mother is still out there, and he's waiting for her.

[mythica0]

I had more thoughts on a new wish. Although this was partially inspired by another post I saw.

I can imagine that Angela would immediately know that something is wrong with Dev’s home life as soon as he and Hazel have a play date at her house.

I picture Angela just intently staring at the two of them playing with a notebook, Marcus walking up to her and saying. “Um… what’re you doing, Honey?”

Then Angela just whispers back “Shh… I’m watching.”

“Whyyyy?”

“My therapist senses are tingling.”

Then after the hang out Angela has a full page of notes on Dev and his behavior and a conclusion on his home life. She tells Marcus and also plans to talk to Dev next time he comes over. And Marcus is all like “you got all that.. just from watching him?”

And then she just nods and he’s like “impressive.”

The notes would be something like this;

-Abandonment issues.

-> overcompensates by pushing people away.

-Inferiority complex. Projects insecurity by acting like he’s better than others.

-Touch starved. Level unknown but likely high.

-Doesn’t know proper emotional regulation or communication skills

-seems to look up to his father, but also seems afraid of him.

-> seems to feel like he isn’t enough for his dad

-Heavy perfectionism. Feels as though if he isn’t perfect that he isn’t worthy of love.

-Doesn’t understand his own emotions or feels the need to repress them. Maybe both.

-Views emotions as a weakness or annoyance to others. Feels as though he’s burdening others.

-feels as though he does not deserve emotional connection or comfort.

-mom is never mentioned. Out of the picture? Surrogate mother? Not raised with one?

-Conclusion,

EMOTIONALLY NEGLECTED.

———

And the conclusion is underlines like three times.

Idk just a thought.

[wentasch]

Junto‘s parenting

Characters are Junto Takami Harima from @sleepwalkersqueen from the fanfic „Fear of You“ on Ao3.

Andd @takami-flock‘s Oc Hayato Takami Harima and my Oc Tsumi Takami Harima (the kids).

For context: Tsumi asked to go home after having a horrible month on the Harima ship (her brother and her grew up far away from it) which made Juntos issues and trauma kick in and he made sure to tell his kids that they’re happy on it and well their life.

If you mix abandonment issues, projecting your life mistakes on your kids, unresolved trauma and very toxic perfectionism in a parent you’ll get Junto

And let me tell you it’s not good for the kids.

Worse thing that these two still love him far too dearly.