#part of me wants to check insta or fb and see how people are doing these days but i know thats a bad idea

[savethepinecones]

oh i did a bad nostalgia

[loftec]

Weekly tag Wednesday Thursday part 2

Hello beautiful kittens! 🐈‍⬛ Today’s tag game is about our wonderful fandom 😍

Thank you for the tags, @deedala and @wehangout! <3

How did you get into the fandom? 

I was watching gay compilation videos on YouTube and found the Gallavich season 1-4 video, then watched too many seasons of Shameless UK (because I didn't have access to US) then watched five seasons of Shameless US, then spent 3 months reading the whole tag on AO3.

How long have you been here?

Since... 2015?

What’s the first fandom channel you found? (Youtube, Reddit, Tumblr, Insta, Twitter, FB, other?)

I would say AO3, because I was on there reading people's fics for a long time before I started following their links to tumblr.

What’s your favourite now? 

Tumblr!

Which mutual have you known the longest in the fandom?

@the-rat-wins for sure, but also @wideblueskies @damnnmilkovich @grumblesandmumbles @beckyharvey29 @mimilaroo and a few others that aren't really active anymore

Which tumblerino’s did you have your first fandom crush(es) on and want to get to know?

I'm so bad at like, retaining what I thought of people before I get to know them? But I'm pretty sure I got @the-rat-wins to follow me back by photoshopping a picture of Cam and Noel at an event together? I absolutely remember thinking I wanted to be friends and what makes better friends than a creepy little photo manip gift?

First Gallavich fan fic you read (or that blew you away that you remember)

I have no idea, I read so much fic. Here are my old rec rambles.

First Fan art that blew your mind? 

Most likely @luluxa 's art of Mickey...

Fanfic trope that you were sure wasn’t for you but now you low key (or high key) love?

Not sure if there is one, I have tried most tropes just to check them out, and I have liked tropes I don't normally like when it's just the once and it's done in some interesting or particularly skillful way, but I don't think I've ever done a 180 on something? I suppose! I usually start out only reading canon compliant fic when I'm first entering a fandom. Then I will either run out of steam or start reading AU, or fully just transition to only reading AU (which is what happened with Shameless, more or less). So I normally start out not liking AUs and then given enough time and steam, I will make AUs my whole personality.

What surprised you most about this fandom?

I'm really surprised by what it has become, it's so nice to see all the crafts and community building that's going on here every week, and how nice and drama free (from my vantage point anyway) it has become, in the last few years. I'm not very good at participating, but I really want to because it feels like such an open and welcoming and community-focused space.

Moment in the show (or YT vids if you’re one of those) that you fell in hyperfixation with Gallavich?

I had zero context for this scene when I first saw it, but oh. My god.

Ian or Mickey?

Uuuuuuh I mean. Ian.

Which Gallagher or Milkovich are you? 

Probably Liam haha?

Do you want to answer some q:s? Consider yourself tagged!

[rahleeyah]

So I have SO MUCH second hand embarrassment and anxiety over people commenting to the new show runner. Like walrus was one thing bc he was so ugh, but cmon people! 🫠

Like for one, it’s crazy what people say to him on his Instagram. People have no shame. Leave the man alone, especially when the comments are negative in nature.

Secondly, I wish the comments would just stop, mostly the negative ones as mentioned, bc just like m, he will pull away from the fandom OR start responding in a negative way. Also, could the fandom cause some negative consequences? 🤷🏻‍♀️

People are also veryyyy flip floppy. (I.e. the news about kelli today) Unless you are a diehard rollisi, there is no room to complain. No one should be taking this out on the new show runner when he doesn’t make those decisions? Esp when everyone was all over him until recently and praising him.

We all wanted eo, and if rumors are true and this is the way to get that, im personally ok with it? The way I’m looking at it is there have been SO MANY arrivals and departures over the years of cast members and characters and this would just be the latest one. Although Amanda has been there for 12 years, that is usually the exception and not the rule.

Wasn’t it canon that the average to be in svu was like 2-4 years bc of the nature of the job? It makes sense for her to want to see her girls grow up and have a more steady work/life balance and get out of svu (major speculation on my part here). Bring in some new blood, characters, diversity, story lines, etc.

Although disclaimer: I am indifferent to the Amanda Rollins character. I do not love her nor dislike her. I would for sure feel different if it was someone I had more of an attachment to, admittedly ����

I know you stay out of the drama, but I just needed to vent. Thank you for coming to my Ted talk lol.

Congrats to you anon for being the one to break the kelli news to me, literally got this message and had to be like "hang on babe lemme check twitter real quick" so thank you for that. lemme try to hit this in order.

yeah first up i'm not gonna tell anyone else what to do but engaging with the showrunner directly is never gonna be something i wanna do. i firmly believe that fandom and creators are happiest when we stay in our respective corners but. again. that's just me and what i prefer and what i would do. i don't check david's insta so i don't see what people post there, except for what gets reposted other places.

i wouldn't worry about the fandom causing negative consequences. like. these people have a job to do. they get some negative comments, they get lots of positive ones, they go to work, they do their job. fandom sometimes overestimates its own impact; no amount of comments on insta is gonna change the plan for tptb. if that was the case they'd have thrown out eo bc of the people on fb. for good or bad, they're gonna do what they're gonna do.

i agree no one should take this out on mr david as it obviously wasn't his call, and the responses of his that i have seen have been graceful. i understand that people are upset - were we not all devastated when chris left the show? - but like, that upset needs to be directed at the people who are responsible.

i don't see any connection between kelli leaving and eo. i have a hard time imagining they were sitting around going "we can't do eo unless we get rid of a cast member." that just doesn't make sense. yes losing a long time cast member frees up some $$ but they are bringing in new people and i promise they are gonna find ways to spend what's left of that money that aren't solely eo. the math isn't mathing. and the only people i've seen make that particular connection aren't making the most reasoned arguments in general.

they try to say early on that most people only last two years in svu which is laughable now considering how long most of the cast has been there. i do think they need some fresh blood - still salty about losing kat, tbh - if only bc these characters have been there for so long and new perspectives are necessary from time to time. 1.0 didn't shake up the cast too much after s2 but they had new adas all the time and that kind of helped keep things fresh,

i'm not sure what i want rollins's reasons for leaving to be. i don't really see her wanting to leave svu, tbh, i think it would have made more sense for carisi to go work with a different branch and amanda stay on in svu to avoid the conflict of interest but obvi that's not what they're doing. i'm wondering how much of carisi we're going to continue to see after kelli's exit and if they will use carisi to keep amanda alive and fresh for us even when she's not there.

idk anon it's a lot

[monster-bait]

Hey there! I just had a couple of questions? First being, while I know its hard to get started with followers and traction on tumblr - especially lately - Do you have any tips for tags I could use or blogs that wouldn't mind being tagged in the monster fics that I've begun writing? I really want to join this community of awesome monster lover authors. Which brings me to ny next question, can I tag you in my stories? Tumblr notifs are very dumb but I hope you'd enjoy them! Thnk u -Kat

First off—OMG YES, PLS TAG MEEEE!!! I miss SO much, you guys. I reblog what I catch onto my bookshelf page, but I miss a ton of great writing from the community at large, so please, feel free to tag me, always! And that goes for anyone reading! If you’re writing exophilia/monster stories or adjacent-themed fanfic, you can always tag me! I encourage it! I’ve been introduced to so many great writers in the community by being tagged in their work— @margoteve, @frostsinth, and the wonderful @weasleasley, just to name a few!

As far as who else to tag, I have no idea and can’t speak for anyone but myself, but I’m sure it’s a question others have as well, so if you’re reading this and you’re a blog who enjoys being tagged in other people’s writing, sound off in the comments or reblog!

Second—check my #writing woes tag for posts specifically about starting out and building a following and keeping a following, I know I’ve written them. 

Tags: the tags I use on every single thing I write are: exophilia, monster boyfriend, monster lover, monster x human (if that’s the kind of story) _ _ _ girl/boyfriend (fill in the blank with creature type), and my own tag, monsterbait writes. I will say, when the tagging system is working, it makes some decent recs on my dash. If you go to the actual tracked tag’s page, it’s a frustrating mix of the same handful of creators (not that they don’t deserve to be there, but often the “top blogs” and posts are accounts who are no longer active, which I imagine is extremely frustrating for a newbie reader/fan!) but the recs generated on people’s dashboards are by most recent post, so new writers and stories without 600 notes actually have a chance of being seen by more than just their followers!

My writing woes tag will have more, but I will give you this bit of advice, because I think it’s important for a creator just starting out: this isn’t an easy platform to break into, but it’s by far the kindest to creators. I have NO idea how to get people to follow me on Insta/FB, short of begging (which I’ve done.) ((It still hasn’t worked.)) 

Gaining followers at a steady clip is a numbers game—the more content you churn out, the faster your follower count will increase. A bit of caution, though: the faster you churn out content, the faster you burn out the part of this that’s supposed to be fun. Ignore jerks in your inbox, write stories you love, and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for not writing fast enough/the story they want. 

Good luck, don’t forget to tag me, and I can’t wait to see you show up on my dash!! 💖💖💖

[universal-kitty]

   I plan to return to my favored coping method when I need “I’m not me” time- roleplaying- but before I did that.... I wanted to talk about what happened. Why I’ve been so depressed. Why I’ve been quiet. Because for the first and last time....... I don’t have to worry about what my stepdad thinks of me.

TW: transphobia, misgendering, mentions of a lot of -isms (sexism, racism; stepdad is an ASSHOLE), mentions of suicide and depression

   TL;DR: I finally told Marshal- my stepdad- about being nonbinary. Not only did he react the way I knew he would, but my mom largely defended him before all of this and even said my pronouns were “confusing” to her. I had been hoping to have support from her, so this broke my heart. I officially don’t live with them anymore, but I struggle to find a single place to be in, due to my boyfriend’s dad being uncomfortable with me being home without Cam (my bf).

   ....Alright, let’s get into a bit of a doozy of a story...

   It started with another fucking day of Marshal being on his bullshit. The day previous (13th), he made a comment about how “and that’s why women shouldn’t be cops,” because, while he and mom were watching a true crime show, a woman police officer brought up an acronym. Mom guessed it, was wrong, and Marshal brought that out there.

   Yikes.

   The day of, he was watching a kid’s movie with his daughters (the younger three; the movie was Hotel Transylvania) and he wanted to know if there was a derogatory term for Irish people. He was going with “potato eaters”, but wasn’t sure if that was right, or if there was anything worse he could be saying. (And he wanted to know so he could say it.) He tried to ask mom, citing a Jewish slur, but she said she didn’t know so he could shrug and go back to “potato eaters.”

   After they left to go to a birthday party, I overheard a video on his phone mention “...the hypocrisy of the left...” and decided maybe it was time I had enough.

   ....Except she defended him when I brought it up. “Oh, he’s half-Irish, so....” “We can’t change what he believes in. He was raised like that and the construction site reinforces his views. Even Google shows him more and more of that kind of thing.”

   I got understandably upset that my mom was defending him and didn’t understand why I’d be feeling unsafe around someone like that. I left to go back on the computer and talk to friends. Buuuut because I was in tears at that point, mom felt like it was time to pursue the issue.....by standing right next to me. The monitor was HUGE on the family computer. (My laptop wasn’t at the house due to it crashing the internet a lot.) So I felt even MORE cornered.

   In came a talk about MY GENDER turning into politics. How Republicans and Democrats don’t talk anymore, how the parties think of each other like family, and it just sucks, to her. I bring it back to the ACTUAL talking point..... Only to get the reaction I mentioned in the TL;DR: she thinks that singular “they” is weird and not viable for pronoun usage. No matter what I say or try to.

   My sobbing draws out Marshal from upstairs, who asks what’s going on. I decide to power through and talk about what’s been delayed for months, if not almost a full year... I’m nonbinary and want he/they pronouns.

   See, though... His mom had called him when I attempted “social suicide” on Facebook, coming out originally. Despite having explained myself and my gender/sexualities, miss grandma decided to tell this to Marshal as, “I think there’s something wrong with Rachel.”

   .....Which was then followed up with what I knew was coming: “I think there’s something wrong with you. I think you hate your body. You’re always going to be a beautiful girl to me.”

   Now, maybe it wasn’t a wise thing to scream. (Did feel good, though. Emotional turmoil calls for a good scream, even if I still wonder if I frightened our neighbors.) It was a less wise thing to hit myself... Though I also thought Marshal had left the room. He had not; instead hovering at the bottom of the stairs or on the stairs themselves, hovering over us.

   .....It’s an emotional situation, I do lash out in screams, and I’m not proud of it. But I do want to note that it’s hard to be autistic and talk about things like this when NOBODY ELSE is the mediator. (I talk about my dad a lot when it comes to this part. He took me being polyam very well, as though he didn’t understand it, he made sure to deescalate my panic and explain it more in-depth, so he could get a better idea of what it is I’m doing. Why it’s healthy, why it makes me happy... Stuff like that. Ending it with, “If it makes you happy, awesome.”)

   Mom? She....wasn’t doing much, at that point. Sitting in a chair and sobbing. Misgendering me- literally- behind my back. “She thinks you’re not accepting her.” (Because he isn’t? Duh?)

   Long story short of Marshal also trying to needle mom into saying something against him, as the only religious person in the room has decided he feels VERY attacked and wants to hear his wife say some shit, too..... Cam shows up to pick me up. I stumble out of the house in slip on shoes and a pair of ancient PE shorts.

   ....Went back later to pick up some stuff w/ him and a friend of ours in silence. Mom was still crying. She’d try to eventually use that against me to paint herself the victim and gaslight me into making ME feel awful for....... [checks notes] Wanting my gender to be respected.

   I made another semi-bad decision of making a FB post talking about my anger and mentioning LBGT+ suicides, because being perceived as only female was really putting a damper on my mood, on coming back every day (after hanging out with Cam) and dealing with depression. I was NOT happy in that house and it definitely was a rising factor in why I often felt hopeless and, well, depressed.

   I let my friends respond to family since I was gonna be out anyways and I also trust these people with my life. I very commonly mince my words or try to give some ground out of politeness, thus never really getting far when it comes to arguments. (Everyone always seems smarter than me and I end up feeling so stupid after....) Of course, that then resulted in my mom and Elo’s mom feeling targeted and attacked by my friends and boyfriend (who had EVEN MORE RIGHT to say shit), apparently the latter even going on to say this was a “family matter” and my friends (and boyfriend!!) had no place in it.

   ....Except I let them and the only negatives that came from that was my mom having to face facts that she WAS gaslighting me. Oh, and didn’t use my pronouns until AFTER a friend of mine called her out for it. But okay.

.:.

   At this point in time, I....definitely am bitter on how my mom has chosen to go about certain things- the gaslighting and a convo on Insta (that I have screenshotted) where she said “if you cut out all the people who have different opinions from you, you’re going to lose a lot of people”- but I’m not as mad at her as I used to be? (Or maybe it’s the gaslighting. I can’t tell anymore.) It just hurts a shitton to realize that the only reason I couldn’t talk this out with her.....was because of Marshal.

   She wanted to play both sides and that isn’t POSSIBLE when “both sides” are “choose between your LGBT+ child or the racist, sexist, transphobic breadwinner and father to 3 kids.” You know who she’d choose. And she did.

   (Also, consider that “different opinions” should REALLY mean “we agree on some things, disagree on others, but that open-mindedness keeps us close” and NOT “befriend a person who makes suicide jokes, thinks your gender is a fad/fake, and makes racist remarks, “but it’s just a joke, bro”.” Like?? Just me????)

   Definitely pissed at Marshal, though. That’s been a constant from day one of me realizing how garbage he is. Even a friend who defended my mom said fuck him, which really goes to show how awful the man is, without needing to know all of the other things he’s said before. (And he’s said a LOT.) And he’s also the reason that I’m not going back to the house. Why I’m going to try to be moving out.

   If it was just my mom, I’d consider it. I’d give it a month to think about things and what I want to do, where I want to go...but Marshal involved? No thanks. Never again. She thinks I’m going to “get a dose of reality” and come crawling back home? Nope. And if she keeps talking like that, none of my future kids are going to meet grandma. >:/

[bisluthq]

See I don’t really use my FYP because I’m bad at TikTok so I don’t have this problem so much. Like I watch creators I like (I’ve listed some before) and then if I find a sound funny I’ll go onto the sound page and watch a bunch...

🤯🤯🤯 That's sooo clever! Not you lifting my wretched curse under 13 seconds. It's true what they say : not all heroes wear capes 🙌

Yeah I just don’t like algorithms and knowing shit is being curated and shit for me so I avoid it as much as I can. On my personal Insta I follow like personal friends and colleagues/peers and some creators I like (fitfluencers and like people who do stuff about Judaism) and I find new ones through like who people I follow follow, on FB I check family members’ pages and read Groups I’m a part of (my neighborhood one and work ones), and on TikTok that’s how I go about it. On Tumblr I also rarely read my dash but I check particular mutuals’ pages and sometimes I read like social Justice blogs because it is a good way to learn about like identity issues that doesn’t affect me in a way I find like no other platform can do. I don’t really use Twitter except for searching for specific shit and I also always search what I want on YouTube.

Like I’m just very aware of algorithms and falling into a bubble tbh and I make a point to not.

[real-bjd-recast-community]

As admin of this blog we’ve talked and need to address the current elephant in the room.

Everyone must already know what we’re talking about and they sent a lot of messages asking our opinion and our personal view on the matter. Everyone wants to know if we are friends or foes to their personal opinion during this madness rampage (we can all agree this is madness from one point or another), and we’ve decided to tell everyone we don’t have a personal or public say on the entire trademark vrs recast debate.

We know you guys want to hear from us it’s wrong, or some that it’s right, or some that we don’t care. And it’s not just that simple. We are pro recasts because we’re against hate, Admin O and me, we agree that we cared for recast owners being trashed unfairly and will defend them and give them a friendly place or help them out when possible. We deal with people, not with legal situations. We don't know about legal situations, we’re not experts, and don’t know how this will end or how will play out.

We do have personal opinions of course, but we agree our personal opinion is that we don’t know much about laws and don’t want to (because it’s not our place and have no interest on it). What we do or don’t it’s completely irrelevant to the outcome. If we hate recast or sellers, or if we love them unconditionally, that will not affect (let’s say, because I have no idea) the outcome of a trial for the trademarks. We are not among the jury or among any party involved. All we know is that even if (let’s suppose) Luo shuts down his business there will be a list of other people in china willing to fill the demand for recasts. Because there will be always a demand for recasts or reproductions of every other product and the only undeniable truth is that you can’t do anything about it either you like it or not.

So we will answer to our best knowledge some (just a couple) of confessions sent to us in the last day or so because we see there is a real worry from one side or another (some of this confessions might be anti recast but don’t contain insults).

Admin C + Admin O.

Sorry anon, we have no idea and personally think no one really does. Many use questionable proof or questionable insight knowledge to tip the balance to their side, but this is a situation that exceeds our comprehension and therefore we’re responsible to not giving an answer because anything we say will upset one side or the other and our place here it’s to avoid such confrontations to comfort recast owners when they’re treated unfairly by anti recast (or pro artist) community members. Many other blogs will give you a detailed list of their side. Have in consideration the interpretation of facts might be completely different depending on who you talk to, so basically, it’s all too messy and no one knows even if they claim to do so.

Admin C.

The doll market will not collapse anytime soon. Please let’s don’t panic. I can’t count how many times people in the community have told me the market will collapse and bjds will disappear permanently. Every now and then people get scare about a new event and start blaming each other and at the same time having this irrational fear of dolls disappearing or artist become extinct. The business of bjds (not even going as far as to talk about dolls in general) has existed since 1936 ? (starting in germany if I don’t miss recall with the Hans Bellmer dolls, correct me if I’m wrong), and expanded to asia in the late 90’s (volks 1999), and it’s 2018 and bjds are still a thing. There is no reason to think they’ll disappear. People loves dolls since time immemorial, people have artistic skills since the dawn of humanity. Things might change a bit over time but as long as humans exist, they will not collapse or disappear. So please try to remain calm and coherent about it.

Admin C.

We understand that social media can become overwhelming about some news, but I can’t personally tell if you’re more worried about the amount of notifications or the problem itself. Might recommend you to maybe stop checking for a few days or turning off notifications might work. Dolls will be here after all this is over so you won’t miss a thing and can skip right to the end.

Leaving aside its obvious how you stand in this debate, like I’ve said before, we don’t have a particular opinion about the subject because all information available it’s tainted by what side it’s telling the story. This is the DoA list of companies manufacturing inside chinese territory: Resinsoul, Dollzone, + (follow link). But not all this companies are based on china (many just sell to china but are not from china), and many others, the ones who are, as scummy as you think Luo is by doing this, if he was able to start the trademark process for their sculpts it’s because they haven’t done beforehand, and “scummynes” aside, they should have done it to be protected from a risk that was real. Recast aren’t a news for anyone, so why if you have a company and think you’re at risk, will not cover all your legals just to be safe? And no, I’m not blaming the company, I’m only reinforcing the idea that this situation it’s a product of actions on one side just as the other. If what Luo did was scummy, he was only able to do so because on the other side you have a company that didn’t protect their intellectual property properly for some reason, and that’s bad business. Many legit companies closed a long time before recast became popular or we even knew they existed outside china. Bad business practices happen all the time, including bjd companies. So if the two parts are to blame, then there is no way we can take a side.

There is no possible way we can tell “who's fault is it” that we come to this point, and that’s why there are legal systems that will have the job to decide the outcome. What I do know is that recast owners can’t be blamed unless you can analyze each owner personal situation or how the recast came to them and if they deliberately went looking a recast just to give their money to Luo (or any other seller), and if this is the case, then people might just sent them money for free (if they’re evil and don’t care about the dolls they get but only about giving free money to unknown chinese people).

This debate (recasts) hasn’t being analyzed over and over yet again because it’s easy to come up to a conclusion. It’s anything but easy to tell who’s to blame (if there’s anyone at all). This blogs it’s a safe place for recast owners as we acknowledge them as humans and we empathize with their situation and how others might pick on them just for their dolls regardless of how good or bad the person might be (on a personal level, having a recast doesn’t makes you a bad person or makes you a human being with questionable morals, you need to analyze each situation properly and personally, and that’s simply impossible. Some might get a recast from a loved one or a family member who doesn’t knows the difference, some because the company it’s no longer producing that sculpt or it’s closed, and in the two last cases the only market affected it’s the resale MP, not the company nor the original artist since they no longer get any money from that sculpt. And I understand people selling their legit for twice the price might get upset because they aren’t having as many sales, but the artist and companies are not being harmed, and the second hand seller will eventually find a buyer sooner or later if their price it’s actually fair for the product they’re offering). So no, I can’t agree nor disagree with anyone taking sides. It’s not my place to do so, we’re here for a different reason. This blog exists because we value the people regardless of their dolls and their origin, price or material.

We will not longer be given any further statements about this, it’s already crazy in other blogs, insta, fb, and social media, so if you want to discuss this and jump into the endless drama please do it outside this blog. Thank you for understanding.

Admin C

[saltydogscast]

How To Handle Conflict

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  This blog was originally posted by Darin Eubanks at KingdomBringer.com.

There’s something I’ve learned about myself over the last few years that I’ve been hesitant to admit until very recently. It’s a truth I have only learned through experience. I can’t say I’ve fully accepted it as a part of my identity or if it’s just something I’ve adapted into. I don’t know if it’s something that has produced more positive experiences or if it has generated more pain. But the reality of it’s existence is something I can no longer deny. I understand this could be considered a shocking statement. If we’re friends, this may be a startling revelation. If we used to be friends, you may have experienced this truth first hand. Here it is…

I REALLY LIKE CONFLICT.

How’s that for honesty? It’s true. I’ve come to the simple conclusion that most of the reason I’ve experienced so much relational tension in my life is due to the fact that I like conflict. I’m drawn to it. And on top of that, I’m actually okay with it. The more I really think about, the more I’m convinced that it’s an important quality for a Christian leader to possess. Okay, maybe not every leader needs to “LIKE” conflict, but I do think that it’s imperative that they at least aren’t afraid of it.

Conflict is not a dirty word. At least it shouldn’t be. It has become some sort of big bad wolf within the church and it’s leadership circles. It’s the kind of thing that, when it rears it’s ugly head, sends the boldest of pastors running for the shadows. It has been a daunting chasm that has created impassable division in leadership teams and church communities. It has found itself atop most pastoral leaders’ list of “THINGS TO AVOID”. And while it may seem like a dodged bullet, side-stepping conflict can (and usually will) create more problems than actual relief.

I’m not totally immune to the temptation of eluding conflict. I’m also not so naive as to think that everyone is going to agree with everything I have to say. Not everyone is going to accept what I bring to the table as worthwhile or even good. But I have seen, too often, the affect that making decisions to avoid conflict has had on personal and corporate visions and dreams. I’ve seen leaders promote people and agree to and compromise with, things that don’t line up with the vision and desire that God had put on the their hearts for their respective ministries and missions. All for the sake of evading conflict that may lead to hurt feelings, loss of support and lack of approval. There are a few things that are important for us to understand, if we are going to start handling conflict in a more constructive manner.

“If we are going to truly carry ourselves as KINGDOM BRINGERS, we’ll need to start looking at conflict differently. ”

— Darin Eubanks

First, we need to start seeing conflict not as a hindrance but as an opportunity. We need to stop rejecting it and learn to truly embrace it. If we really want to know if the Holy Spirit is producing Kingdom fruit in our lives, we need to be open to experiencing moments of conflict for that fruit to be revealed. For example, do you really know if patience is something being produced in your life if you never allow your self to be around people or things that test your patience? How can you tell if you’ve truly matured in Kingdom peace if you haven’t walked through some type up relational storm? Conflict comes for all who live and breath, even those of us that follow Christ. And it can be an awesome opportunity for training and growth. In the bible, Proverbs 27:17 mentions that iron sharpens iron. It’s not talking about the reckless clanging of two dull blades . It’s talking about two sharp swords strategically being buffeted against each other, removing every snare and every nick, for the sole purpose of making them even sharper and more effective for their created use.

Secondly, we need to look at how Jesus handled conflict. We can easily understand that he absolutely experienced it. But we need to see that it wasn’t just him sitting back and dealing with the conflict that came to him. As the original KINGDOM BRINGER, Jesus understood the power and authority that he carried. And he had a unique perspective that allowed him to believe he had the opportunity to restore and redeem. He actually looked for things that weren’t in alignment with the Kingdom of God and considered it a privilege to confront them. The Apostle Paul talks about this in Colossians 1:20 – “Through Jesus, God reconciled everything to himself. He made peace with everything in heaven and on earth by means of Christ’s blood on the cross.” That means that Jesus was on a mission to bring into alignment the things on earth with the glory of Heaven. He confronted sickness, demons, low self-esteem, broken heartedness, pride and even (especially) the religious. He knew that in order for God’s true glory to be revealed in and through THE CHURCH, there would have to be conflict between the freedom of God’s Spirit and the false authority that comes with the structure and rituals of man. Because of his great love for God’s greatest creation, Jesus faced conflict with authority. He didn’t pull punches and he didn’t waste words. He was also determined to teach his followers to do the same.

Lastly, we need to understand that healthy relationships are growing relationships. In order for real growth to take place, there has to be a willingness to learn and be stretched. Conflict provides opportunity for that. I’ve been in relationships where there was a fear of confrontation. A fear of offending each other. True feelings were never discussed and true struggles never got dealt with. Real Kingdom relationships require truth. And honor. And love. They require a pressing in. I’ve also been involved in relationships where conflict was handled intentionally. Where the yearning for greatness was more of a priority than the temporary satisfaction that comes from bypassing a dispute. There may have been pain when truth was spoken. But when there is truth, there is freedom. And when the door for truth is opened and ultimately stepped through, the atmosphere is set for hearts to align and for God’s plan for thriving relationships to be a reality.

I’ve heard it said that conflict leads to intimacy. I haven’t always seen that to be the case, but I haven’t always embraced conflict either. It’s been a fairly new adventure for me. I can honestly say that as I’ve learned to see conflict differently, I’ve found it to be more of a friend than a foe. It’s caused me to understand that not every mole hill is destined to be a mountain. And not every disagreement is a vow of disapproval. It may not seem like the easy road, but it’s the better one. And I do believe that when love is the highest goal, then truth is the path that leads there. And if truth is something you find worthy of seeking, then conflict is a bridge worth crossing. Sometimes it’s the only way to get from one side of the chasm to the other. From one glory to the next. It’s inevitable. It’s coming. Embrace it. And maybe you too, will learn to like it.

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[materealgirl]

*Squeak *squeak – it’s been awhile, and I’m a little rusty.  OKAY.  Glad we got that out of the way.  Also, please tell me you sang STAIND, ‘It’s Been Awhile’ to yourself after that cheesy intro?  If so, you are definitely my people.  Here we go!

Hey there MG peeps, I’m back for a quick post and hopefully just in time to help you out with your Back to School shopping lists.  I hosted a party with my local Mall of Georgia Vera Bradley this past weekend and was totally inspired by all of the backpacks and back to school accessories they had displayed.  To be honest, when I was a kid this is the part of getting ready to go back to school that I lived for.  Shopping.  A new backpack, new stationary, new school supplies, and new clothes!  As a parent now, I’m honestly not as thrilled about dropping some major cash on things that my kids will most likely destroy. So when I do, I want quality items that will last as long as possible.  It also helps that my daughter loves so many of the current Vera prints and styles, which means less headaches and arguments.  Side note: MY GOODNESS, she’s eight – eight years old going on eighteen – so very opinionated, assertive, and certain of her own style (I wonder where she gets that from?)  

So I had Miss Chloe try on some of our favorite combinations for you all to give you some ideas of how to pair some of Vera’s current prints and fabrics.  Let’s check them out! 

Chloe is wearing the Iconic Campus Backpack in Rose Quartz.  The Tossed Posies print pairs perfectly with the Rose Quartz, pictured Lunch Cooler and matching water bottle.

Chloe is LOVING the all of the lavender this year (me too!)  Here she is wearing the Iconic Campus Backpack in the Lavender Pearl color way.  We chose to accessorize the bag with the Iconic Lunch Bunch and Umbrella in Lavender Meadow.

And for Chloe’s final selection – and also the backpack she will be sporting herself this school year – she chose the Lighten Up Grand Backpack in Lavender Botanical.

You’re about to feel less lethargic about school shopping and more enthusiastic.  Well, maybe.  I mean I’ve been out of school for about a century and I’m already thinking of ways I can justify the use of these items in my life.  A life where I no longer attend school or am in need of a school sized backpack? Sure.  Anyway here are some photos I took during my event, and as usual the MOG VB store looks beautiful.  

These patches are so cute!  Chloe got a couple for her own bag and we are super excited to see how they look with her print.

Thanks for stopping by!  And if you want to check out everything that Chloe will be using this year from Vera Bradley, be sure to follow me on FB and Insta where I will share those specific items on my stories.  

Back to School with Vera Bradley *Squeak *squeak - it's been awhile, and I’m a little rusty.  OKAY.  Glad we got that out of the way.  

[marlythemother]

What to do when shit hits the fan...

Would it be ok if we just slowed down for a minute? 

Early in the year, we had miscarriage after being 12 weeks pregnant. Long story short, it was a shit time but thankfully I am a relatively strong woman. I’m resilient and positive in nature so staying sad was an emotion I did not want to sit in for a long period of time. 

As weeks went on, I started to feel better. The days of random outbursts of tears lessened at work and I learnt how to manage my emotions. The way I dealt with it was continuing life as best as I could and it made me feel better. This was how I coped and being “strong” was all I knew. 

So,  I continued to work.  |I helped others with their health goals.  I participated in training, went to conferences and spoke at events to inspire others.  If my friends needed me, I was there.  I did not go on hiatus.  I was “strong”. 

Earlier in the year, in Brisbane with friends who I now call my family.

I know that some people might have thought I wasn’t dealing with grief properly but at the time, I knew one thing - staying sad does not fix shit. It doesn’t make me pregnant again and it sure as hell doesn’t pay the bills. 

So after March, I felt like I finally got back into the swing of things. I had life, love and work under control. The list was endless. 

Our house had finally finished its build; Paulo and I had just come back buzzing from our annual conference in Brisbane;  work was going well and our little family was happy.  Not to mention, we were treated to a trip to Fiji - a competition we won with other entrepreneurs. 

But then, my body started to show signs that it wasn’t coping. 

I started to bleed even though I would finish my cycle. (Apologies to the guys for the TMI if you guys are reading this). 

In my head, I was thinking “what the f#%¥ is it now?”. 

So after lots of $$$ at a special women’s ultrasound clinic, the wand highlighted that after several months, there were still remains" inside my body from the miscarriage. 

Mother f#%?*¥!!! 

Just when I was starting to get into a groove, I had another thing to clear on my plate on top of full time work, organising a new house, preparing to pack and move whilst keeping my head afloat. 

Straight after Fiji, I took my sorry ass to Royal Prince Alfred hospital and checked myself in for a curette. 

I knocked out, woke up high (my friends on insta knew how buzzed I was), carried on with life, took two days off work and returned back to back supplier meetings. 

Again, I recovered well and continued to be “strong”. Just like Mother’s continue to do, right? 

I’d think to myself, “Alright, now I can get back to getting sh*t done".

So after that ordeal, once again I felt like I finally got back into the swing of things. I had life, love and work under control. 

Then one morning in May, I randomly decided to pee on a stick. 

I remembered the day so clearly. 

I woke up, scrambled through the bathroom cabinet and grabbed a digital pregnancy test. Did my business but like a typical mum, I put it aside on the bench as the clock started to prepare the result and did some house work. I ran down stairs, went straight to the dishes and cleaned up. I went back upstairs thinking it was ready with the result as a “not pregnant” but the result was still processing.   

So downstairs I went, but this time I grabbed some clothes along the way and put on a wash. Five minutes had passed so I went to look at the screen but instead of it having the “not pregnant” sign, Lo and behold, it displayed “1-2 weeks pregnant”. 

Fuck me. That surgery must’ve been the magical pill I needed to swallow because I was super fertile after a few short weeks. 

So there I was, looking at the test in shock, with excitement and also a hint of nerves. To be honest, I think I secretly knew I was pregnant because that whole week I was going to the toilet heaps and I was tired at work (and I’m NEVER tired at work). 

Back to the story, I told my a few of my closest friends and I was so over the moon to have pregnancy symptoms. 

The frequent pissing, the tiredness, my boobs blowing up like balloons, my insatiable appetite and feeling nauseous - yes betches, give it to me! I was on top of the world. 

Each time I went to the toilet, I’d quickly check the tissue and prep myself for bad news just in case - but nothing. Happy days. 

Life was good and I based this from toilet tissues and the nausea I was feeling. 

Then one early morning at work, the tissue from the toilet at a tinge of red. 

Mother f#%?*¥!!! 

“Ok.. don’t panic”, I told myself. 

I gave myself another 30 minutes and then went to the toilet to check the tissue post tinge. Nothing. Phew! All clear. 

Nonetheless, I carried on to work until I felt it coming. If you’re a woman, you know the feeling. It’s the moment you can feel it beginning. Back to the toilet and it’s red. More like bright red. 

I had a blank stare. I walked through the work corridor and put on a brave face in front of my colleagues when I really just wanted to go to sleep and never wake up from this nightmare.

I called my doctor to say I was dropping by, quietly packed my stuff, told my boss a lie and said “I’m not feeling well” and took my sorry ass to the medical centre. The doctor recommended a series of blood tests to check my HCG pregnancy levels but something inside told me not to bother. So I went home and slept the whole afternoon off. 

A few days before Mother’s Day, I experienced another miscarriage. 

A perfect picture of a mum juggling life's plates.

It wasn’t as physically painful as the other but emotionally it beat me up and this time, I decided to take a different route. 

I chose to sit in the pain and slow down instead of cover it with activities. Even though it’s hard to be still, I wanted to take the chance to soak in the pain so I could use it as fuel to rebirth myself and make myself unstoppable. A person who was truly strong with an unshakable force that could live a life of purpose - something I’ve desired for the whole of my life. 

Surprisingly, this led me to think of what I wanted, what I enjoyed and how I want to be remembered. 

The things that brought me joy was service, contribution and helping others. No surprises there. 

Because of this, each day I’m doing things to make a difference to help mums be the best versions of themselves and it can be whatever they want it to be too. It isn’t under my terms at all. It could be a healthier body, living a lifestyle that doesn’t stress them, a better diet, a calmer mind, less yelling, more confident or happier being. It can be whatever they want and my job will be to be a little nudge or a big fat push into the direction they want to be in. 

So if you see my tips, random posts or FB lives, read it, tune it, comment, scroll ahead, roll your eyes, unfollow me or unfriend me but know you know why. 

What I’ve endured in the last 6 weeks led to me being in the “slow” lane for this brief period of my life and I’m forever grateful for it. If it wasn’t through this time alone, I wouldn’t have had this realisation and ultimately, what I focus on now and the lives I help over the next decades will fulfil my life’s purpose. 

To the mums who are reading this and can relate to a piece of me, especially the part of being “strong” for the sake of the family, I wanted to know you’re amazing. 

However when shit hits the fan, although your usual instinct is to "carry on", maybe for once, sit in the emotion and slow down. Feel the hurt but don’t allow it to break you. 

Your family will still love you, the friends who were meant to be in your life will never have left and your skin will grow thicker over time. 

Know that you are much resilient than you think and most importantly - please remember, sometimes things fall apart so that better things can come together.

Lots of love, Marls x

[fratboykate]

People that are constantly bragging about themselves are usually covering up for massive insecurities inside. If you're great at what you do, you don't need to broadcast it. You think Spielberg goes around posting letters and awards on tumblr? lmao. A truly successful person lets his or her work do the talking for him or her. The reason why you are forced to post this junk is because no one knows who you are.

Lol being recognized by peers is “junk”? You’re funny. You don’t know what I do every day. You have no idea who knows me, who doesn’t know me, who has written letters of recommendations for me, or what I have or haven’t done. You don’t know what my circumstances may or may not be and how they affect my career. I posted that cuz another big mouthed anon was talking shit in my inbox just like you are now because y'all like to talk shit all day long. Just because you don’t know me, doesn’t mean no one else does. Since you know so much, pull up my IMDB pro and look at the entertainment law firm that reps me is and who their other clients are. Not a bad client list to be a part of. You might even find some flop cast members on there amongst some pretty other huge names.

No, I’m not Spielberg and I’m not trying to be him either. At all. Not even remotely. We have very different career paths. Also, that comment is completely ignorant. There was no social media when Spielberg was coming up so the comparison isn’t even applicable or relevant. 

Honestly, I don’t understand why y'all insist on following me if you hate me. Why? This is *my* space. I post what I want when I want. If it bothers you so much why still follow me? It makes no sense. Y’all have some weird fixation. It’s starting to be slightly creepy at this point.

I accidentally deleted your other message about “what I’ve done”. I haven’t submitted to whatever you mentioned because I 1) have a manager who has been repping me since 2012 thus I’ve never found the need to apply for any of those and 2) for reasons I will not go into I would not be eligible to apply either way. I’m in a rush because I’m about to leave where I am so I’m not dwelling on it too deeply, but this is what I knew I could quickly dig up.

All the way back in 2013 when I was only 23 years old, the biggest, most renowned, and oldest newspaper with the most circulation in my country wrote a profile about me and my work as director on the entertainment/film section. Here’s a scan:

In 2014 I officially made the Top 100 list of Directors being considered for the NBC Directing Fellowship. I kept moving forward and at one point I had to drop out of consideration for personal reasons that I will also not discuss here. Proof?

In 2015 I directed not one but two projects that were reviewed by networks, one cable the other one of the big five. In both cases I never went to them, the people in charge of producing these projects sought me out because they had seen my work. Two screenshots of that.

Getty Images curators invited me to be one of the filmmakers who creates video content for their collections in 2015. 

Last year an LA Magazine named me one of the “most interesting, high-quality photographers” in the city. They also eventually included my film work. You can find that article pretty easily if you want to confirm. Since you’re a stalker, I’m sure you will. 

This isn’t something that is only discussed on Tumblr. These are things that my family and friends and professional contacts all know about through my other social media platforms. Things they see unfold first hand with A LOT more detail than the scraps I give you. Pics from the set of the network pilot are on my Insta. Feel free to check there too. You’ll find things on twitter and FB as well. Stop acting like you know me or have any idea what I’m about. You don’t. You haven’t even the faintest clue. 

[4ufitness-blog]

Episode 76: The Ugly Truth about Business Coaches and Mastermind Groups!

Aren't you all sick of it by now?! 

  Anybody with a microphone, with a podcast, a camera, computer, or a phone can position themselves in front of you as a so-called “Expert".

  SLXLM​​

  Yet they have not done anything to show they deserve the title.

  It's difficult 4U to decide who is real and who isn't, and most people don't take the time to investigate the truth because these “Experts" are all over the internet with their content. They are just flooding the internet with content to stay in front of you, so that you trust them. 

  It's the "IF I SEE THIS DUDES FACE ENOUGH HE MUST BE LEGIT!" 

  Which of them has built a real company? Who had or has a gym right now? Is it one location, is it 100? Are they still in business? 

  The problem is that most of these people have mastered the game of content and online marketing. Not the skill that they are teaching or selling, just the online marketing part. The sales funnels and squeeze pages and Insta/FB and YouTube marketing part.

  Quite frankly most of these should be marketing for that expertise since you bought into it and not into their crap gym Sales Classes & Sales Coaching on how to close customers... 

  For example, the person who is teaching you how to scale up your gym or close customers or build the most fantastic team to get you there might not know anything about any of that stuff and more than likely never even had a group of people to lead, maybe 1-5. I've researched 100s of them, and they are a team of one yet they’re selling how to build a team?! 90% of the time they legitimately have no real background or experience in building a real Fitness Business let alone a team. 

  So to learn from these people on how to hire your first, second, 20th employee, might not be the best decision since they have never had a real team themselves.  

  Most of these people just learned how to get in front of you enough to 

1) Position themselves as the expert and 

2) Earn your trust by having you see their your face over and over and over again with nothing really to show for their success. 

  There are many decent ones who use their customers to tell their success stories. However even a BROKEN CLOCK IS RIGHT 2 X PER DAY, and you might want to ask the question to yourself did these customers with the fantastic results get the results because of this "GURU," or they earned it because they are actually great…? 

  So what to do? How to find out if they are REAL or FAKE? 

MXLLS​​

    Do your own investigation and google their name. Ask people about them. Look around. Is he or she all over the media? Being featured, being at speaking engagements as a thought leader? Has this person written a book? No, a REAL published book, not an e-book, cute. 

  If the REAL business that they have sold or still have and are running is legit and you can find some real stories, features, and results about it you can start trusting that person more. But a good rule of thumb is to only learn from people who you would want to switch places with. LOOK THEM UP! 

  So if your goal is to have more than one studio, you might not want to learn from a person who never had one or only had one to show for, especially if it is one that is not even open anymore. 

  Know what you want and seek out the people who have mastered it. The only reason we are launching OUR MASTERMIND GROUP in 2020 is because we had enough people reaching out to us about it. 

  I personally did not think about launching it till I "retire" and have someone else entirely run my company while I sit on the board and focus on the mastermind group and the retreats with you all! However, when you see a need, you jump on it. And there is a need big-time; I am not gonna lie the "FAKE GURU" crap did push me over the edge as well. I want to create the NO EXCUSES success formula 4U that will get you results or your money back. Just like our Fitness Studios all over the world! 

  And as you might already know, my mission in life is to eliminate obesity, and this allows me to do it faster. As long as you are successful, you are getting clients to be healthy and successful, so we are just working together to eliminate obesity. 

    Even if we never do business together, I hope that this article will help you as a guide to able to make the right decision when you pick your coach or mastermind group! They are handy, and there are so many amazing coaches out there, you have to make sure you do your homework before you sign up with one. 

Even if they are amazing, they might not the best fit 4U! And a REAL business coach will tell you that.

Check out this episode!

[meperkinsown-blog]

D&AD Project

A case for her

Saying your on your period should be an accepted blanket statement that just means that. With no negative stigma, but even today it immediately tarnishes women with the negative associations that have been attached to periods.

OR

Saying your on your period should be an accepted blanket statement that just means that. With no negative stigma. But even today it immediately tarnishes women with the negative associations that have been attached to menstorating.

This is a problem that runs deep, write down to the vernacular used by everyone like ‘sanitary’, adding products on the end does change the strong associations we have with it. So lets rid ourself of that word right now. We want period positive words and association so the next generation of menstruators, who single handedly make human life on earth possible, don’t think that their monthly cycle is anything but positive and necessary.

Our actions must also be checked, no hiding pads or tampons up your sleeve, its fundamental to life, don’t be ashamed. try starting a period positive conversation today, you don’t have to get into the ebbs and flows, but bringing it into conversation will break down the walls up put but those who don’t know how truly detrimental negative period shaming is to women, and how subconsciously seeing how well blue liquid absorbs, will not be telling her what she goes threw every month is natural and a sign of good health.

As far as progression in this bloody field goes, we have a long way to ahead.

Explaining your on your period should not be come with bad blood, but it does.

So lets smash the negative, by blasting positive,

It is what it is, as much a necessity, as a blessing;

we are guaranteed to bleed,

If we’re lucky.

It began as an ad campaign, using a mix of traditional advertising and gorilla advertising. Where stickers would be sent out, to anyone who followed social platform/posted on/used hashtag and then stuck threw out the country,  that would spark period positive conversations, and T shirts could be purchased and the profits would go towards period positive education. This was going to be accompanied by a short video of women walking down a sunny street wearing the emblem of G. T. B on there bums, by powerful women, who own it, love it, are proud of it. Like a bag of honour.

But from doing more and more focus groups I feel the need for platform where real conversations and information could be accessed by everyone. So from there I decided to write a G.T.B manifesto, anyone who signs the manifesto and reposts etc. gets sent stickers. The manifesto will be on a G.T.B website where there are forums where real people can talk about there experiences and find others that have been threw similar issues to do with mensuration.

Sanitary products, scarp that, bad connotation. It implies its that being on your period is unclean.

Menstral control

Period products

. Products

So

smash the negative, by blasting positive

Target 17-25 women and men

The audience was chosen for its wide reach, the younger audience will be influenced by the 17-25 year olds

Mix of gorilla advertising

And

a conventional advertising campaign, a video, possible posters made ephemera etc.

Stylized blood stain/ ‘sexy’ blood stain

To be attached to jeans, trousers etc.

in video blood stain is worn by powerful women, who own it, love it, are proud of it. Like a bag of honour

Stickers to be made of ‘sexy’ blood stain with the words - guaranteed to bleed

To be given out for everyone who signs up via email/fb/insta/twitter, Free T-shits and stickers for posts and use of hash tag we(a case for her) think is awesome

I would like to address info-structure and systems, but this is not it

https://aeon.co/essays/throughout-history-and-still-today-women-are-shamed-for-menstruating

Quotes from link above

As recently as 1980, I was told by a farmer’s wife in Shropshire that if a menstruating woman touched meat it would go rancid.

Right into the 20th century, any inappropriate behaviour or poor mental health in women was termed hysteria, after the Greek word for ‘uterus’.

The paediatrician Béla Schick (1877-1967) believed that menstruating women released plant-destroying substances called ‘menotoxins’ through their skin. In 1919, he ‘proved’ it by asking women to arrange cut flowers. Sure enough, the flowers arranged by menstruating women died sooner.

The Yurok of California believed that if a woman’s menstruation failed to synchronise with the Moon, or with her fellow women, she could balance herself ‘by sitting in the moonlight and talking to the Moon’.

It was not until 1985 that the word ‘period’ was used in a television commercial; and in 2010, US TV networks banned a tampon commercial from using the word ‘vagina’ or even ‘down there’. To this day, advertisers use a mysterious blue liquid to demonstrate the absorbency of sanitary towels.

In a comment piece for The Tablet Catholic magazine in 2016, the British theologian Carmody Grey wrote: ‘If any other event caused me or anyone that amount of pain, disruption and blood loss, it would feature largely in our social interactions … Quite simply, women bleed and suffer so that others can live … Quite literally, shedding blood for the life of humanity is just what women do.’

Menstrual Matters, Period Positive, The Bloody Waste! and Ragtime Revolution.

http://washinschoolsmapping.com/5th-annual-virtual-conference-on-menstrual-hygiene-management-in-wash-in-schools.html

Questionnaire

(Making question more normalised, less clinical for results, this also put forward the idea of it being normal thing to talk about)

Focus group of two (friends- also might bring out more information)

18-40 year olds

Im conducting a studying into to period shaming and the awareness around menstration. For the sake of the data please answers as honestly as possible and please difolge as much as you want.  

Let start with some nick names for periods

(female)

Tell me about your first period, and how was this addressed by those around you at the time

How did you feel about getting your period

did you feel prepared, did you know what to expect, and do you feel those expectations have changed

If yes, how

If no, how

did you feel supported by your family and friends

Did you feel comfortable talking about your period this with friends

Do you have a happy memory attached to having your period

Do you have a uncomfortable memory attached to having your period

do you feel comfortable talking about periods in a mix gender group

Have any positive associations with menstration that have followed you threw out your life

Have any negative connotations attached to menstral cycle followed you threw out your life

If you could giving a younger you advice concerning menstration what would you say?

would you feel comfortable asking someone else to buy sanitary products for you?

anything you would like to add to this decision? Or point you would like to talk about…

(Male)

Tell me about your first encounter with someone having a period,  tell me about it

how has your understanding changed since your first encounter (with periods)

when did a female friends first talk to you about periods

Have you ever bought sanitary products for someone else

If yes, tell me a bit about it

If no, tell me about that

Do you have a happy memory attached to periods

Do you have a uncomfortable memory attached to periods

Do you feel comfortable being in a group talking about periods

Have any positive associations with menstration that have followed you threw out your life

Have any negative association attached to menstral cycle followed you threw out your life

If you could giving a younger you advice concerning menstration what would you say?

Have you ever assumed a women is in her period from her behour

anything you would like to add to this decision? Or point you would like to talk about…

Thinking bigger

Could this be a template to tackle other issues that suppress women?

Body dismophia/eating disorder etc.

Sexism

The Brief- to demolish the negative stima attached around periods.

Approach is to implement effective commutation with women and men, my target is 18 to 30 years old. I feel this demographic hits an even wider audience because this is an age group that influence the younger coming or age of menstration women.

Reseach from focus group I have conducted have shown

- a lack of communication, we just don’t talk about periods

-the education into periods, its not discussed how different periods can be for everyone and about its mental and emotional impact

My solutions would be a campaign with the outcomes in the form of a provocative brand identity, video, website/platform/forums and stickers and T shirts. Using a mix of gorilla advertisement via stickers, and a traditional approach via a video, with the back bone of a manifesto/declaration that people can get behind/re post/feel part of a wider community that cares and also share advice/ information.

Tone causally, humous, provocative and conversational

Script

What we need is to start having the conversation.

Taking back the power.

Once we start having the conversation, it becomes normalised, and quality of life improves for all.

Then we can start having conversations about other areas of improvement within the human race. (Fingers click/epiphany) We need a Kyle Jenner of periods,

(Friends reaction )

Yeah yeah (brushes off their surprises off), but she paved the way, the turn over from taboo to praised and idolised was impressive.

If we could get this in the home, in schools, at the work place, its only a matter of time before people stop giving a shit and get on with life.

Don’t get me wrong, I know this is a problem that runs deep, right down to the words we use… and don’t use.

(Like said like its an obvious example) Like sanitary, shoving products on the end doesn’t exactly rid ourselves of the strong reminders of sewage, does it.

We want period positive words and associations so that the next generation of menstruators, who single handedly make human life on earth possible, don’t think that their monthly cycle is anything but positive and necessary.

As far as progression in this bloody field goes, we have a long way ahead.

Explaining you are on your period should not be come with bad blood, but it does.

So let’s smash the negative, by blasting positive,

It is what it is, as much a necessity as a blessing;

we are guaranteed to bleed,

If we’re lucky.

situations

Sticker seen about

Video seen about

Person visits site

Person starts a conversation about periods

Threw out the website it promotes the idea of starting a period positive conversations.

pushing the idea by giving the power back to the indiviual, by signing up/agreeing with the manifesto G.T.B you are sent stickers to use as you see fit.

menomite- someone who has sex with women on their period

Forums

A good place to start, with a few forums set up initially to get the conversations going.

Chapter one, my first period. - a place to share stories of firsts, first period, first time you leaked, first time you had sex while on your period.

The good the bad and the ugly - home truths, facts.

there aren’t any. period - talking about how different periods can be, how no two are the same, and that lots of people have complications, a ‘you are not alone’ feel.

i don’t like tampons. they’re stuck up cunts - talking about different forms of period products. first had accounts, anecdotes.

Alternate names

Take back the power

Take back

Its ours

Some of us bleed

Some bleed

Lets bleed

Lets start

We’re in it together

in it together

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Good Things You Will Encounter Your First Week of Studying Abroad:

Now that I’ve written about all the negative stuff that happened, let me talk about some of the bright points in my first week at Paris.

1. Your program directors are pretty damn supportive.

Literally some of the nicest people I’ve met. They’ll practice French with me, they helped me with my luggage and SIM card, they always have tons of advice and recommendations. Devon, Anne-Cecil, Colin, if you guys see this, I love you. Would not have made it through my first week without you. #bekindtoyourself

2. Your roommate is nice (probably)

You can have this too by talking to your roommate before you officially pick them! Find them on FB, insta, wherever (if you can’t find them, maaaaybe don’t pick them). Ask them all the invasive questions: what’s your sleep schedule? Do you clean? What are you looking for in a roommate? What do you want to do while abroad? How much do you party/go out? Then once you’ve arrived and moved in together, set some ground rules about studying time, cleaning, etc. Everything will go much smoother!

3. Other people are in the same boat.

Don’t be afraid to tell people that you are struggling during that first week. You’ll feel better when you see the relief in their eyes as they say, “Oh, me too!” One of my friends here is a girl that I told about my little meltdown on the second day. We bonded over mutual crying and calling our moms :)

4. Taking the metro in Paris is like taking the train just about anywhere except BETTER

It is FASTER, there are less crazies, there are more stations and availability. More cities should be designed like this. Imagine how much better it could be for the environment!

5. You CAN find cheap food!

Check menu prices - most places post their menus outside and you can look at them before you sit down. Don’t be afraid to shop around and find somewhere you like. Make notes of where you can get good sandwiches and such. If you like having a drink and dessert with your panini, the formules are usually a pretty good deal :)

6. Friends are abundant

Go to your abroad office’s orientation meetings and activities! This is the best way to meet other people on your program, and the best part is, they are looking for friends too!

7. You can just...do shit? 

Like, you can just go to Notre Dame. Or jump on a train/plane/bus to Amsterdam. Maybe it’s just because it’s my first time to Europe, but it’s hard to wrap my head around sometimes. God I love Paris. 

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Dude Turned Dad Episode Fourteen: “Why Do We Take Babies To Pumpkin Patches”

When it comes to baby photos I’m not Anne Geddes. But I do have an iPhone and a baby and in the social media age, that means a certain kind of power. You want me to rack up triple-digit hearts on the gram? I got you. Lemme throw this baby in a cute onsie, get a laugh out of him, hit the SuperZoom and BOOM: the IG timeline is blowing up. Maybe you’re old school, trying to get those FB likes? Check out this selfie of my son and me in our jammies. That sound? It’s people from my high school I haven’t talked to in years racing to throw a comment on the pic. This kid is so cute I could put him on LinkedIn and people might finally start accepting my invitations to connect.

You’ve heard of “do it for the gram”? Welcome to parenting for the gram. Do you even have a kid if you haven’t purchased a personal milestone letter board? As a Dude Turned Dad I’m not above snapping a selfie of my son and I to get some likes. But it does make me wonder… how many family events are planned simply for pictures? Is this why we’re throwing one-year-olds birthday parties or taking them to museums? Is it healthy to plan a baby’s day around a photoshoot?

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These musings kicked around my head this past week, as my wife and I and our friends headed to the Mecca of Baby Insta: the pumpkin patch. No one can pinpoint the exact moment when Pumpkin Patch photos became part of the parenting zeitgeist, but newsflash: it’s a thing. So I was not surprised to see many other parents gamely trying to get their offspring to look into iPhone lens as we sat surrounded by large orange gourds. My son sat in his newsie’s outfit trying to gum the pumpkin next to him, ignoring our pleas to look at us and seemed largely non-plussed.

Somewhere between chomping on cider donuts and getting attacked by bees I realized: these trips are not for the babies. They are one hundred percent for the parents. And you know what? That’s ok. These are opportunities for new parents to feel, well, like parents. Pushing strollers, carrying diaper bags, test driving babies adaptability in a safe environment. Our pumpkin patch was filled with new Moms and Dads embracing the feeling of silliness in the air. “This is stupid, right? Leaning your baby up against a pumpkin.” It is so stupid. And that’s why it’s fun.

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My son is six months old. Time is flying. And we’re going to take him to as many pumpkin patches as we can to make memories for this time. Sure, it’s manufactured. The photos are staged. And it’s silly. But that’s why they call it “making” memories. Sometimes, you literally have to make them.

Enjoy Dude Turned Dad this week. Good luck with your #patchpics. Happy decorative gourd season, mother f**kers.

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