#outside of that dysfunction

[rottenlittlefink]

Ahhh like… vent in tags i guess (i said what i said :3c)

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

[cavennmalore]

the dynamic between the sencens is so endlessly fascinating to me — especially with the idea that they do love each other. like they are three people who are forever tied together even though they cannot stand each other and underneath that they care about each other so much they despise it. lord cassius is the cruelest and most callous man in the lost cities and when you look into his subconscious it’s filled with love for gisela and keefe. keefe hates his parents and still grieved when he thought gisela died. gisela did nothing but use her son and husband relentlessly for her own gain and still was upset when they discovered her identity bc it meant losing the pretense of family. your family are the worst people you know but also the ones you can’t let go of.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Autism From the Inside vs the Outside

Mrs Speechie P

[havenotwillnotreadthebooks]

You know what would really kill you with either tears or laughter?

All those “Unhealthy Kidnap Dads” fics but with M&M surviving via Divine Peredhel Intervention. So now M&M, who are codependently attached to each other in despair and love in equal measure, have to live confined in an apartment or something within Lindon.

And of course, the elves have to keep an eye on The Kinslayers™️, right? And Gil-Galad is demanding at least a status report once a week about The Kinslayers™️

Anyway so M&M, as is their way, are still doing their unhealthy bullshit to each other and the Lindon Elves are slowly but surely starting to intervene whenever a despairing Maedhros snarls at a hopeful Maglor, or an angry Maglor throws a wine glass at a solemn Maedhros.

Eventually, the Lindon Elves are straight up like “We need an actual mental health professional before we put these two grown-ass elves in time-out”.

And Gil-Galad, of course, is being harassed daily by Elrond about the difference between Sickness and Evil, until he just grants Elrond’s request for a mind healer (or the closest thing they have to one at the time).

Anyway, the summarized concept of this is that M&M makes the Lindon Elves see them as people not because they wish to die, but because they so obviously live in despair.

[wangxianficrecs]

To Speak Up by Vrishchika

🔒 To Speak Up

by Vrishchika (@vrishchikawrites)

M, 6k, Wangxian

Summary: To be silent is to be complicit. Kay's comments: I've re-read this story numerous times and it always goes so hard. Vrishchika decided to apply what we know of the novel canon Jiang family dynamics in a modern AU and suddenly, it feels much more icky than it already did in canon. Luckily, Wangxian are already established in this story and Wei Wuxian has the Lans and Wens looking out for him as well. Still, it's heart-breaking how willing he is to bear it. Excerpt: Wen Qing is tempted to push but she doesn't, she can't. She can't bear the thought of this kind boy, her little brother's best friend, dealing with his wounds alone. Because that’s what he’ll do if she shows too much worry. Wei Wuxian is ruthlessly practical and doesn’t like to be vulnerable. If he thinks he’s troubling her, he’ll find someone else to care for his wounds. Someone less competent. His back is littered with scars and Wen Qing wonders at the extent of his nerve damage. She prays there's nerve damage because the alternative is chronic pain from the extensive scarring. She aches to drag him to her hospital and get him examined thoroughly. Wei Wuxian is a strong, athletic man and if she hadn’t seen his scarring up-close, she would’ve never believed he had any. "You will eventually need to address these, Wuxian." She tosses the soiled cloth away and carefully applies an antibiotic ointment on the wounds, "I'm prescribing you painkillers and some antibiotics to help avoid infection. You will take them religiously." Wuxian huffs, "I always take medicine, Qing-jie."

pov alternating, pov outsider, modern setting, modern no powers, dysfunctional jiang family, jiang family dynamics, bad parents jiang fengmian and yu ziyuan, not jiang cheng friendly, hurt/comfort, established relationship, families of choice, child abuse, blood and injury, hurt wei wuxian, caring lan wangji, good uncle lan qiren, good sibling lan xichen, child neglect, no jiang cheng & wei wuxian reconciliation

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[eleilinnrallin]

I wish in general discussion of ADHD that executive dysfunction wasn't used to just mean difficulty with task switching and task initiation.

Like, there's so much more that is a part of executive functioning! Executive functioning includes impulse control, emotional regulation, working memory, attention, awareness of time, goal formation, planning, and that's not even all of it. It's a broad catogory of cognitive processes, not just a single symptom.

ADHD symptoms do mostly fall under executive dysfunction because ADHD is an executive functioning disorder.

In general terms, it's not wrong to include difficulties in task switching and initiation in executive dysfunction! They are certainly a part of that! But oversimplifying executive dysfunction to only be task switching and initiation difficulties isn't accurate and gives an inaccurate picture of ADHD as a whole (or at least, from what I've seen, it impacts the discussion surrounding ADHD negatively).

It might just be me. idk. But discussing precise problems while calling them by a blanket term can make it hard to identify what exactly the block is. For example, if I'm having trouble getting started on a task and I just say "oh I'm struggling with executive dysfunction right now" that doesn't tell me anything about what's wrong. But if I say "I'm struggling with task initiation; I keep meaning to do it but don't know where to start" then I can think through the steps to start. Or if it's motivation, "I'm struggling with motivation" means I can think of how to overcome that. "This is overwhelming" means I can plan. "I don't want to stop what I'm doing/this is a task switching problem" means I can decide if I need to finish the task at hand or trick my brain into swapping.

(This is a separate problem but then you also have people saying execytive dysfunction is laziness or results in laziness when they are meaning that difficulty with task initiation. Even if it was true that difficulty with task initiation was laziness (it's not), saying that executive dysfunction = laziness is so incorrect. That would mean poor short term memory = laziness. That would mean hyperactivity = laziness. That would mean emotional dysregulation = laziness. And none of these are even CLOSE to true. That's another issue though.)

[harbingersecho]

WODtober 14 > Lines Drawn In Blood ⥄ RVBtober 14 > Crossover

"He and I are closer than friends. We are enemies linked together. The same sin binds us."

So. Here's some possible bg/lore mixing - idk if normal, 'non-secret service/intelligence agency' humans in this universe know vampires exist but disregarding that -

I think a lot of the vampires, esp the ones in space, are pretty high generation or thin-bloods (i.e. they're weak). Originally Locus + Felix were on the v edge of being thin-bloods (like gen 13) but... they're not anymore. The wonders of diablerie - not that they really advertise it. Views on that haven't really changed. They're also autarki aka freelance/mercenaries, but I dunno when they were Embraced; could've been before, during or after the War. Doesn't rly matter that much, they can all work imo but at least for Locus post-War works best

Locus could have either the Blood Addiction bane or the Noxious Blood bane since I think both could work for him, and Felix would have the classic Ravnos Bane of needing to move around.

I'll post more thoughts abt why I chose those clans for them + more abt sharky etc a bit later bc I don't want this to be too long lol <3

[orangerosebush]

Arguably the only dynamic that is more sub-textually Horrifying than Artemis and Butler’s dynamic, is Angeline and Butler’s dynamic.

[feline-evil]

Never gonna be over how unutterably pathetic and in dire need of ANY kind of companionship or friendship that doesn't revolve around their band the entirety of dethklok are. I love these horrible idiots who are so devoid of any real connections outside of themselves that they will latch onto anyone unfortunate enough to get too close to any one of them! And GOD help anyone they latch onto!!

[uhblognamewoodone]

Merrin and Cal are the kind of couple to argue over who pays the bill despite the fact that they share a bank account

(Cal is insisting he pays the bill and merrin is insisting she pays the bill)

(They're at pyloons so they don't even really need to pay)

[neurantics-theythem]

I feel every fabric, every wrinkle, every seam, every crumb, any change in air pressure, any temperature shift… I feel it all & I’m constantly trying to Not feel it all.

Yet when I have to pee, do I get up to use the bathroom right away when I feel that?

No, why?

[saraluvsu]

my mom after taking away my sister's glasses so she couldn't read anymore:

my mom after my sister came home from college for the summer and wouldn't let my mom read her messages so she took my sister's phone and hid it in a literal bag of rice (my sister was 20)

my mom after giving me an eating disorder at the ripe old age of seven:

my mom after going through five phones in the span of three months because whenever she got mad, she would throw them:

my mom after i told her i wanted to kill myself in 4th grade and she laughed:

my mom after telling me i faked my illness and im just an attention seeker (i was violently vomiting);

my mom after weighing me and checking my BMI every day:

my mom after threatening to send me back to india and never coming to get me after i make a minor mistake:

my mom telling all my friends' mothers about how much i eat:

my mom after treating me like her personal therapist

my mom after fucking up so bad that my sister cut all ties with her (and i will too when I turn 18)

my mom after beating up my dad so badly that his ear started bleeding:

my mom after beating me because I got a 98 on a test and yelling at my dad because he told me good job (she said hes enabling me to do bad in school):

my mom after reading my emails with my school guidance counselor and beating me so hard i bawled in school multiple times the next day (ive never cried in school before and people laughed at me):

my mom after stressing me out so much all my hair fell out:

my mom after ruining my whole life:

[zeawesomebirdie]

Would anyone be interested in a fic rec list for either superbat, brudick, or batjokes? (Or more than one of these?) (Or maybe a specific character, if one doesn't care what the ship is?) I've gone through so many fics in the last three months and I'd like to put my spiraling to good use, so if anyone has requests, lmk!!

Here's what I've got:

- fake dating/undercover missions: superbat, brudick

- sex pollen: brudick

- batfam shenanigans: superbat, brudick

- Christmas/holidays: brudick, batjokes

- a variety of underage: brudick

- crossdressing: brudick, batjokes

- 5+1: superbat, brudick

- identity porn: superbat

And of course I'm also happy to just give an assortment for any given ship; there's definitely a lot of fics that don't fall into the above categories!

[gatheringkeepsakes]

i say this as someone with an ADHD diagnosis, but if you find that one of the biggest struggles you face is executive dysfunction... but you also have a history of complex trauma... consider that it might not just be the ADHD, but that you are stuck in a state of chronic freeze response.

[scarefox]

This episode they really showed how Uea wants sex to distract himself to make the bad feelings go away for a while and King is the only safe option (not the best way of coping maybe atm but it gets better). Hope they will make him talk about it because I feel many in the audience still don’t understand the link between sex and comfort and coping especially for an abuse victim who always turns to it after triggering events (still think this part is more about the mom, cause whenever the stepdad is part of the trigger he can’t have sex or cuddles ... at least can’t enjoy it as we have seen in this episode). Shortly said, an orgasm gives you dopamine, and it’s all your mind and body focuses on in that moment. Reasons why this could end up in an addiction under the wrong circumstances. Under the right ones it can be therapeutic and have an antidepressant effect.

Uea is a bit torn with King. The caring side of King is an unexpected surprise for him every time. He doesn't really expect kindness from people. But he's glad whenever he receives it from people he trusts. Which King became a part of way too fast for Uea to admit (he’s a player after all). That’s why he rarely shows King his smiles when he’s fond of him. I think the cake scene was one of the rare moments he truly showed him this kind of vulnerability to him (him being truly happy, it’s a delicate feeling easily snatched away under his circumstances). He also took a long time to even understand that King really means it, that this birthday cake is really for him because King really wants to make him happy and he’s allowed to take it. I wonder if the little cake fight and unceremonial bite into the cake is an emotional defense from Uea to not get too deep into vulnerable emotions and turn it into fun / silly & sexy moment instead while still keeping the good vibe.

He’s not ready for an emotional bond with him yet when they clearly stated from the beginning this will just be about sex and they don’t even like each other (we all know that’s a lie). I suspect Uea has trust issues as well since his stepdad always acts nice, caring and misunderstood... so Uea needs a while to learn if people really mean it or if they just want something from him.

I bet that will become a big issue at some point, when they both think the other has no feelings while they secretly do have feelings. I fear Uea will push King away for a while when their feelings get clearer.