#our mlm experience

[our-mlm-experience]

Daily reminder to stop harassing people who live in a different way than you. If they express love platonically, fucking let them. Love ≠ Sex

[our-mlm-experience]

Reblogging this late but oh well.

It's June 1. It's time.

Go be gay.

[our-trans-youth-experience]

Sorry for the vent but it’s so hard wanting to date as a gay trans man pre everything

I present femininely because my parents don’t approve of my transness but I’m out at school, and I want to date but the other transmascs around me are either younger or already dating someone. I know that even when I introduce myself with my pronouns and say outright hey I’m a trans guy, people still end up reverting to she/her.

I don’t want to date anyone who’s only attracted to me because they think I’m a girl, and it’s all just ugh. I hate it here

-Alex

Hi Alex,

I'm aroace myself, so probably not the best guy to give advice about this. That being said, I'd recommend checking out @punkspacepirate's blog.

[lovelyrotter]

yknow i love transmasc/tboy dirk always and forever but the way some ppl treat transmascness vs transfemmeness in HS's narrative........kinda sucks. like the whole thing about how being transfeminine is a literal transient experience and lets the character in question (any character) truly escape the oppression of HS's narrative-as-a-character which is patriarchal and toxic (lord english, hussie-the-character to an extent. i guess. idk ive seen a lotta ppl lump SI-hussie in w/ this), which is great and does hold weight as an analytical lens esp with how hussie irl is nonbinary. but where does this leave transmasc characters. why are we treating (headcanoned) transfemme HS characters like this and then tbh gleefully dooming (headcanoned) transmasc characters to eternal narrative suffering brought by LE and then mocking them for being ''gross tboys'' full of ''icky testorerone'' so its their fault theyre in this perpetual torment really? because they ''''chose to be a man''''? dunno man its starting to feel bad. especially since some bnf's who are really into this fan theory do actually kinda treat the general idea of transmasculinity like somthing to hold with tongs at arms length away from them. as if its alien or infectous or something and then get really mad when equally dysphoric transmascs do the same with feminity. why are we dooming dirk strider to eternal toxic-masculine suffering and what does that say about how we treat real life transmasc folks both in and outside of the fandom

[our-mlm-experience]

Need reassurance. Is it bad of me to have a preference for trans men over cis men? I still like to date cis men, but I just prefer trans men. Somebody told me that it makes me a "chaser" because I'm a cis man. I just think it's beautiful that somebody would *want* to become a man is all. It's not that I actively "seek out" trans men. I just find myself to be more attracted to men who just so happen to be trans. Trans men are always so handsome and attractive to me. I've always found trans men attractive. I think it's more of a confidence thing, because the trans men I've been with always have this confident aura about them.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.

Having preferences does not make you a bad person.

[chipjrwibignaturals]

literally so fucked up i can’t realistically just do socio-communication research my entire life. why must i have a “career” to “make money” and “care for myself”. i want to study fujoshis.

[our-sapphic-experience]

im not sapphic but. the solidarity between gay men and lesbians means the world to me. shoutout to my best friend <3

literally my best friend is a gay man!! we’re in each other’s corners <3

[our-mspec-experience]

I’m aro, allosexual, and mlm and mlnb. Those are the only things I’m sure of about my orientation anymore.

Certain Events I Won’t Get Into fucked me up enough to either lose interest in women or have that interest suppressed by anxiety and fear of the past repeating itself. I thought my orientation excluded women to the point where I was attracted to any gender where there wasn’t a trace of girl in the person. But then I met a girl at a trans support group meeting and she was cute but I wasn’t terrified? Maybe it’s just cis women I’m terrified of doing anything with, but maybe even if that’s true I’m transmisogynistic for feeling this way? I don’t know. Doesn’t help that I got a fantastic message from a trans woman on my kink blog I’m the past and spent multiple days getting over it.

I’m aro. I’m m-spec. I’m mlm and mlnb. I met a cute girl. Another cute girl has winded me up a bit. That is everything I know. And I gotta say, having some level of certainty is nice.

i’m glad you’ve found some certainty in your identity!

[our-mlm-experience]

Ditto.

Calling All Queers!

This is a blog for all your queer questions, advice, vents, and more! I know it isn’t the typical “our _ experience” blog, but @our-queer-experience and @our-transmasculine-experience and others like that have been super inspiring! I’m here to take your calls and help in any way I can!

Disclaimer: I am not a professional in anything, and any advice I can offer is based off personal experience or knowledge, take everything I say at your own discretion. Please do not come to me in place of professionals should you need serious help.

If it isn’t clear: hate and exclusion are not tolerated here. If you have anything bad to say about anyones identity or life, don’t.

My name is Synn, and my pronouns are nie/nier and zy/zyr/zyrs

[featureenvyproductions]

"Why does everything need to be Gay now it's so shallow to make men attracted to each other when they could be Pure Platonic Friends -"

oops sorry I can't hear you over the sound of me Doing What I Want Forever because I have been watching movies, TV, and animation since the 80s and have watched enough shallow heterosexual romances that would have been stronger as mlm-wlw solidarity friendships to fill the space between stars in a galaxy

[forgondor]

the biggest mistake the internet made in relation to the queer community was convincing bi women that they had more in common with bi men than with lesbians

[boyfailurr]

every straight person that has said ‘is he 💅’ to any mildly effeminate man owes the entire queer community their soul . hope this helps

[bongwatershots]

I would hate to be so miserable and hateful towards other people in my community that I only chose to only surround myself with people who have the EXACT experience or label I do.

[echidnana]

absolutely loving exploring lesbian masculinity and gender. this is awesome

[fingertipsmp3]

I am once again sad that a person I bonded with in a dream is not real

[our-mlm-experience]

Just wondering

Reblog for sample size and such.