#our mlm experience

[our-mlm-experience]

Daily reminder to stop harassing people who live in a different way than you. If they express love platonically, fucking let them. Love ≠ Sex

[our-mlm-experience]

Reblogging this late but oh well.

It's June 1. It's time.

Go be gay.

[our-trans-youth-experience]

Sorry for the vent but it’s so hard wanting to date as a gay trans man pre everything

I present femininely because my parents don’t approve of my transness but I’m out at school, and I want to date but the other transmascs around me are either younger or already dating someone. I know that even when I introduce myself with my pronouns and say outright hey I’m a trans guy, people still end up reverting to she/her.

I don’t want to date anyone who’s only attracted to me because they think I’m a girl, and it’s all just ugh. I hate it here

-Alex

Hi Alex,

I'm aroace myself, so probably not the best guy to give advice about this. That being said, I'd recommend checking out @punkspacepirate's blog.

[lovelyrotter]

yknow i love transmasc/tboy dirk always and forever but the way some ppl treat transmascness vs transfemmeness in HS's narrative........kinda sucks. like the whole thing about how being transfeminine is a literal transient experience and lets the character in question (any character) truly escape the oppression of HS's narrative-as-a-character which is patriarchal and toxic (lord english, hussie-the-character to an extent. i guess. idk ive seen a lotta ppl lump SI-hussie in w/ this), which is great and does hold weight as an analytical lens esp with how hussie irl is nonbinary. but where does this leave transmasc characters. why are we treating (headcanoned) transfemme HS characters like this and then tbh gleefully dooming (headcanoned) transmasc characters to eternal narrative suffering brought by LE and then mocking them for being ''gross tboys'' full of ''icky testorerone'' so its their fault theyre in this perpetual torment really? because they ''''chose to be a man''''? dunno man its starting to feel bad. especially since some bnf's who are really into this fan theory do actually kinda treat the general idea of transmasculinity like somthing to hold with tongs at arms length away from them. as if its alien or infectous or something and then get really mad when equally dysphoric transmascs do the same with feminity. why are we dooming dirk strider to eternal toxic-masculine suffering and what does that say about how we treat real life transmasc folks both in and outside of the fandom

[our-mlm-experience]

Need reassurance. Is it bad of me to have a preference for trans men over cis men? I still like to date cis men, but I just prefer trans men. Somebody told me that it makes me a "chaser" because I'm a cis man. I just think it's beautiful that somebody would *want* to become a man is all. It's not that I actively "seek out" trans men. I just find myself to be more attracted to men who just so happen to be trans. Trans men are always so handsome and attractive to me. I've always found trans men attractive. I think it's more of a confidence thing, because the trans men I've been with always have this confident aura about them.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.

Having preferences does not make you a bad person.

[chipjrwibignaturals]

literally so fucked up i can’t realistically just do socio-communication research my entire life. why must i have a “career” to “make money” and “care for myself”. i want to study fujoshis.

[our-sapphic-experience]

im not sapphic but. the solidarity between gay men and lesbians means the world to me. shoutout to my best friend <3

literally my best friend is a gay man!! we’re in each other’s corners <3

[our-mspec-experience]

I’m aro, allosexual, and mlm and mlnb. Those are the only things I’m sure of about my orientation anymore.

Certain Events I Won’t Get Into fucked me up enough to either lose interest in women or have that interest suppressed by anxiety and fear of the past repeating itself. I thought my orientation excluded women to the point where I was attracted to any gender where there wasn’t a trace of girl in the person. But then I met a girl at a trans support group meeting and she was cute but I wasn’t terrified? Maybe it’s just cis women I’m terrified of doing anything with, but maybe even if that’s true I’m transmisogynistic for feeling this way? I don’t know. Doesn’t help that I got a fantastic message from a trans woman on my kink blog I’m the past and spent multiple days getting over it.

I’m aro. I’m m-spec. I’m mlm and mlnb. I met a cute girl. Another cute girl has winded me up a bit. That is everything I know. And I gotta say, having some level of certainty is nice.

i’m glad you’ve found some certainty in your identity!

[our-mlm-experience]

Ditto.

Calling All Queers!

This is a blog for all your queer questions, advice, vents, and more! I know it isn’t the typical “our _ experience” blog, but @our-queer-experience and @our-transmasculine-experience and others like that have been super inspiring! I’m here to take your calls and help in any way I can!

Disclaimer: I am not a professional in anything, and any advice I can offer is based off personal experience or knowledge, take everything I say at your own discretion. Please do not come to me in place of professionals should you need serious help.

If it isn’t clear: hate and exclusion are not tolerated here. If you have anything bad to say about anyones identity or life, don’t.

My name is Synn, and my pronouns are nie/nier and zy/zyr/zyrs

[forgondor]

the biggest mistake the internet made in relation to the queer community was convincing bi women that they had more in common with bi men than with lesbians

[boyfailurr]

every straight person that has said ‘is he 💅’ to any mildly effeminate man owes the entire queer community their soul . hope this helps

[bongwatershots]

I would hate to be so miserable and hateful towards other people in my community that I only chose to only surround myself with people who have the EXACT experience or label I do.

[echidnana]

absolutely loving exploring lesbian masculinity and gender. this is awesome

[gallusrostromegalus]

I was raised agnostic and tend to remain ambiguous on theological matters.

-but my house has a porch on the second story that affords me a terrific view of my neighborhood and the Colorado Front Range and I was partaking of some peace before the 4th Of July Finger-Loss Festivities begin, and I have had a

~*Spiritual Experience*~

I just watched my neighbor try to unload an actual wooden pallet that had to have been forklifted into the back of his insecurity pickup worth of fireworks.

Except that he does not have a forklift in his garage.

He does have so much sports memorabilia and cardboard boxes of unsold MLM Merchandise and patriotically themed camping gear and posters of women in bikinis and flags of suspect political organizations in his garage that there is only BARELY enough space for the fireworks and certainly none for his truck.

So he had to unload the individual boxes of recreational explosives from the back of his truck and stack them in the minimal space he had cleared by hand. This is a tedious and time-consuming process as this neighbor has purchased a wide variety of recreational and locally illegal explosives instead of many of just a few types, so the individual boxes are rather small.

He begins, and this is crucial to what happens next, by cutting apart the industrial-grade saran wrap his explosives dealer had so carefully wrapped his merchandise in, and discarded it unsecured on his lawn.

Where Outdoor Conditions sometimes happen.

His process for unloading the fireworks is to 1. Climb up through the gate into the bed of his pickup truck (a feat made unusually difficult due to the slope of his driveway, and this man's fascinating decision to wear the world's Siffest and least Flexible Denim Overalls. 2. Once in the pickup bed, he selects ONE (1) box from the pile He is apparently from a niche religious institution that doesn't believe in stacking things. 3. Carries it awkwardly around the palette that barely fits in the truck bed 4. His wife yells "Be careful!" when he nearly falls out of the pickup. 5. He Yells "SHADDUP!" back at her. 6. The Large German Shepherd barks from inside the house. 7. He yells "SHADDUP!" back at her too. 8. He sets the (1) box down on the gate 9. Slowly and awkwardly climbs out of the pickup bed 10. picks the box back up, and carries it into the garage.

Question: Aren't you going to help this poor man? Answer: Absolutely Not.

There's four military veterans, MANY dogs, and several people with dementia in this neighborhood, all of whom are terrified by this chicanery every year and many neighbors have repeatedly asked him to maybe do the fireworks somewhere else. (This is the Eighth Year Running he's held a major demolition event in his driveway, and for those of you who can do math, you may be able to guess the precipitating incident to this little ritual) Additionally, I live in Colorado, a state marginally less prone to spontaneous and catastrophic conflagrations than a rotting grain silo, but only marginally. Our recreational explosives laws are written accordingly.

I am in fact calling the Non Emergency line to report Fireworks violations, and reading off the brand labels to someone named Dorothy, who is gleefully totaling up a SPECTACULAR fine for my oblivious neighbor.

However, while I'm on the phone with Dorothy, I notice the wind begin to pick up. and by "Notice" I mean "The Industrial Saran Wrap he left on his Lawn earlier is suddenly swept up about 100 feet into the air by an updraft intense enough to make my ears pop" And by "Pick Up" I mean "I look up to see the sky has turned a fun and exciting shade of glass green, and the bottoms of the clouds are bumpy and rounded, and the overall effect is not unlike looking up through the bottom of the cup at God's Matcha Boba Tea."

For those of you who do not live in places with Inclement Weather, these conditions mean "You have about 30 seconds before a Major Meteorological Event Occurs."

I move under the eaves. "Hang on Dorothy." I say, nose filling with Petrichor. "The show is about to be cancelled." "Oh, that doesn't matter!" Dorothy cheerfully informs me. "It's illegal for him just to possess those, no matter if he actually gets to set them off or not." "Terrific, because he's gotten maybe five boxes out of a hundred inside."

Sometimes, the weather gods are Merciful and give you a verbal warning, typically in the kind of thunderclap that makes your ears ring.

The Gods were not merciful today.

It's not often that I am in the time, place, correct angle or in a properly observational frame of mind to see this, But I got to see it today. Huh. I thought. I've never seen a cloud just DIVE for the ground before. Oh. I realized as it got closer. That's RAIN.

Sometimes, a thunderstorm will form in such a way that the rain that would normally be distributed over an area of say, five to tent square miles, is instead concentrated into an area of say, my neighborhood exactly.

So today, I was granted the rare privilege of being able to actually see the literal wall of water descend from On High and DIRECTLY onto my porch, my street, and my neighbor's truck, and his pile of unwrapped fireworks.

The sheer impact force of the downpour immediately scatters the teetering pile of fireworks boxes in the back of the truck, like the wrath of God striking down the tower of Babel. Boxes tumble, then are washed out of the bed of the truck by the deluge. Smaller Boxes are carried down the road in a little line by the stream forming in the gutter, like little impotent explosive ducklings.

My neighbor was definitely yelling something, but I could not hear what over the DEAFENING noise several million gallons of water makes upon high-speed contact with the earth's surface, but there was a lot of arm-waving and faces turning red as he went looking for the saran wrap that had probably blown to Nebraska by now, while his wife started disassembling the complex three-dimensional puzzle of interlocking material goods in search of a tarp. They do not have a tarp. They have one of those wretched Thin Blue Line flags though, and my neighbor jogs out in a futile effort to cover what's left in the truck.

Which is when the hail begins.

"HELLO?" Yelled Dorothy. "HI!" I shouted. "WE'RE HAVING SOME WEATHER!" "OH GOOD!" she shouts back. "WE NEED THE MOISTURE!"

I watch for a minute longer, but the loss was immediate and catastrophic- the hail is the size of marbles and dense and cares not for your pitiful cardboard and cellophane, ripping the boxes asunder and punching holes in the few things covered in plastic. The colors on the Thin Blue Line Flag are seeping all over the remains of that it was supposed to protect in a particularly apt visual metaphor. Not even the few boxes that made it into the garage are spared, as the German Shepherd escapes from indoors, and in an attempt to assist her humans, jumps directly into the small stack of not-yet-ruined boxes, scattering them into the driveway and deluge. She even picks one up so her humans will chase her around the yard, before dropping it in the gutter to be swept away.

So. I was raised Agnostic -but even I can recognize when God slaps someone upside the head and shouts "NO!" at them.

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[our-mlm-experience]

Just wondering

Reblog for sample size and such.

[our-demiboy-experience]

awsome!!!

putting together a comprehensive list of all the our-blank-experience blogs

@our-queer-experience

@our-transmasculine-experience

@our-transfeminine-experience

@our-bisexual-experience

@our-transgender-experiences

@our-demiboy-experience

@our-demigirl-experience

@our-mspec-experience

@our-pansexual-experience

@our-agender-experience

@our-transhet-experience

@our-bigender-experience

@our-mlm-experience

@our-nonbinary-experience

@our-abinary-experience

@our-queerplatonic-experience

@our-aroace-experience

@our-asexual-experience

@our-aromantic-experience

@our-questioning-experience

@our-unlabelled-experience

@our-genderfluid-experience

@our-genderqueer-experience

@our-genderflux-experience

@our-polyamorous-experience

@our-xenogender-experience

@our-multigender-experience

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blogs yet to be made as of now:

our-intersex-experience

our-lesbian-experience

our-wlw-experience

our-gay-experience

our-aspec-experience

our-gendernonconforming-experience

our-polysexual-experience

our-otherkin-experience

our-demisexual-experience

our-demigender-experience

(these are just the ones i could think of feel free to add more blogs that could be made)

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i will update this post as new blogs are made and feel free to add new blogs or ones i missed!