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just tried typing out a nuanced post about the concept of disability as horror (it's problematic) (it's also, like. sometimes Just Fucking True), but then i realized what's Actually happening is that one of my fingers has degenerated badly enough that chopping it off with a kitchen knife feels like it might provide pain relief. which is putting me in a fucking Mood about bodies.
so. suffice to say. i will Not be having any nuanced discussions of how disability is written in the horror genre. or in mainstream media in general. i can't really do thoughtful back-and-forth, even with people who are contributing positively.
everything i would have said was super smart and correct, though.
#the tldr would basically just have been#disability as shorthand for othering/grotesque/punishment/fear = bad.#disability not existing neutrally in ANY media genre = bad.#however. disability as horror comes for every single one of us unless a traumatic-injury death takes us first#and if your body is not yet a horror story then i want you to know. It's Gonna Be.#and when it is. you will want stories that tell the fucking truth.#or at least. if you were me. you would.#anyway. i gotta cut my finger off and then i'll be fine.#autoimmune tag#injury
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Guys.
Y’all.
I…
I just. I just… i have discovered something. And I have laughed too much. I have laughed every time I have tried to explain it to someone. I cannot get through this.
Look. Okay.
There are two things you need to know, here.
First: There’s a style of Greek pottery that was popular during the Hellenic period, for which most of the surviving examples are from southern Italy. We call them ‘fish plates’ because, well, they’re plates, and they’re decorated with fish (and other marine life).
Like this one, currently in the Met:
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Or this one, currently in the Cleveland Museum of Art:
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They’re very cool. We’re not 100% sure what they were for, because most of the surviving ones were found as grave goods, but that’s a different post.
The second thing you need to know is that when we (Classics/archaeology/whatever as a discipline) have a collection of artefacts, like vases, sculptures, paintings, etc. and we do not know the name of the artist, but we’re pretty sure one artist made X, Y and Z artefacts, we come up with a name for that artist. There are a whole bunch of things that could be the source for the name, e.g. where we found most of their work (The Dipylon Master) or the potter with whom they worked (the Amasis Painter), a favourite theme (The Athena Painter), the Museum that ended up with the most famous thing they did (The Berlin Painter) or a notable aspect of their style. Like, say, The Eyebrow Painter.
Guess what kind of pottery the Eyebrow Painter made?
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#tagamemnon#fischteller#can you fucking imagine?#like other painters trying to explain to him that fish don’t have eyebrows#and he’s just like ‘fuck you all at least my fish have SOULS.’#and people bought them???#other people were also like ‘FUCK YEAH EYEBROW FISH!!!’#other people like me.#I would 100000% buy the eyebrow fish
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(looks at upcoming card releases)
I'm in danger :)
#art#twisted wonderland#twisted wonderland spoilers#stage in playful land#stage in playfulland#smoking#my favorite horrible crime guys are back!!!!#(my hot take is that glomas had a better story but these goobers were just SO fun)#(they should be allowed to kidnap and murder(?) at least a few dozen people. as a treat.)#man i knew there was probably going to be a fellow card and yet i still did a bad job of saving my keys#and there's this year's halloween to think about too!#normally i try to avoid leaks and spoilers but i did accidentally see some stuff and if it's real then holy SHIT#on the other hand fellow attacks by basically throwing gidel at people and i desperately need this on my team#regardless of whether or not the card is actually any good#(if they change the animation to remove gidel i am going to RIOT it needs to be either exactly the same or EVEN SILLIER)#actually it would be hilarious if their stats were terrible. just the worst. and yet...#grown man and his kid with a hammer vs a bunch of teen wizards who can shoot fire#the results may shock you#(if they do the same duos-with-the-last-release as they have been with the staff cards then i will absolutely lose it)#(please twst. it would so useless to me but SO funny)#fellow: it's showtime rollo! :)#rollo: who are you
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"but you won't be there, damn gambler."
👊after 'rota fortunae'
#hsr fanart#aventurine#honkai fanart#dr ratio#hsr aventurine#ratiorine#honkai starrail#aventurine honkai star rail#riddle doodle#i rewatched it too many times and become obsessed#i am those that think maybe aventurine knew he would be killed but he did it for ratio anyway#because better to bring him to his humanity side than stay with an intelleron perhaps doomed to die#i love this fanart video it reminds me of the dread of 2.1 and us not knowing if aventurine is gonna come back or not#and he did in 2.2 but off screen which to me was a bit anticlimatic but hey its a game#all the other videos were like happy end or bittersweet but this one is like YAAAARGHHHHH bites you and then runs away which i love thank u#even the sea au its like welp at least feixiao is happy with those sea monsters!!!
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The leftism/anticapitalism leaving people's bodies the zeptosecond you imply that disabled people who aren't "productive" still matter in society and need to be treated like intrinsic equals who have a place in this world:
#disability#disability advocacy#described images#image description in alt#ableism#ableism tw#my full-time job is my disability and you're lucky that i am still 'productive' as-is#your boss doesn't care that you think you're superior for being hired by them. they're still going to treat you like profit machines#it astounds me how people will capitulate for oppression because they place their intrinsic value in their ability to be at the top...#...or at least 'at the top' compared to others. it's the same impulse that makes people think their cisgender status makes them superior...#...you are placing your worth into systems which not only oppress others but offer you no true sense of worth...#...ESPECIALLY if you're also being exploited (even if just a bit)...#...you have a job sure but... do you actually get treated like a human being? are you actually paid? are you actually safe?...#...if the answer to any of those questions and more is 'no' then why do you place your value in capitalistic production. genuinely.#and why would you DEMAND disabled people to have the same exploitation you experience. why do you DEMAND productivity if you are proletaria#yes being a leftist and anticapitalist are linked but. some people still internalize capitalism without questioning it#being a leftist is about challenging that rather than assuming you're correct i think#also scientists were very silly when describing time that's like. less than a millisecond i think
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Oh I have so many thoughts on aroace Curly, I think it brings so much on the table when analyzing the game's story.
Amanormativity ties in with the reoccurring mentions of the nuclear family, from Wrong Organ making 1950s mock advert posters, to Swansea talking about how getting a wife and kids didn't bring him any fulfillment in life.
In the cake cutting nightmare sequence, where Jimmy talks with Dream Curly about the mediocre cake, Dream Curly begins to talk about how sometimes you can only get the subpar stuff in live. Sometimes he'll get promoted, buy a house, fall in love. But other times he'll just have some awful fucking cake with his friend.
I think there is that subtle implication that Jimmy does buy into Amanormativity, with him projecting his beliefs on Dream Curly that a platonic relationship is lesser then a romantic one. But we never see Curly suggesting that he wants such a thing in the pre-crash.
With Jimmy thinking that Curly has everything in life, except for the desire (although I think Jimmy would view it as Curly not having the skills for it) to get a romantic partner, he would heavily lean into getting the one thing that Curly couldn't get in life to one up him.
THATS EXACTLY WHAT IM THINKING!!! AMATONORMATIVITY BE DAMNED!!!!
Looking at Mouthwashing through an aroace lens is interesting
"Jimmy thinking that Curly has everything in life, except for the desire", well said, well said! And references to the nuclear family fit in very cleanly thematically for Mouthwashing.
Jimmy leaning into amatonormativity is a smart observation. Jim internalizes all the social norms and standards on what you have to do to have a normal and desirable life, who sees everything Curly has and what Jimmy wishes he had, and is offended that Curly isn't satisfied, that he has the "audacity" to be unhappy. Curly meanwhile only wishes for his life to be something he doesn't have to run from, because by all means, he has already reached a point where he should feel accomplished, but isn't. Curly doesn't want to be a freighter captain his whole life, he doesn't want to settle with his sustainable position, he just wants to be happy. Like Swansea who has reached the "ideal" outcome of his life, having a wife, kids and a good career, it will never feel as good as embracing all what society deems undesirable yet right for you.
Jimmy does imply to seeing himself as lesser as a friend, "fall in love" being a goal and a "cake with a friend" being something he "has to settle for", it's all in the subtleties with underlying themes of "what you're "supposed to want" by society's expectations" against "what feels right for you". Jimmy is frustrated that Curly is going to "leave the dirt behind him", when in actuality, letting the crew and him go is the last thing Curly wants. Curly wants to be with his friends, he deeply cares about his crew, and about his close friend.
Mouthwashing as a whole reads to me as platonic through and through. Swansea and Daisuke having such a meaningful familial bond, Curly and Anya being sweet, playful and caring without romance, Anya and Daisuke having something of a siblings dynamic are dear to me. Also it's really rare to get to see representations of "toxic friendship" in media. Its always toxic romance this, toxic yaoi that, toxic family there, however in reality, friendships aren't excluded from being as rotten and abusive as the others, yet they're often overlooked. Jim and Curly are especially unique in this way. It's very impressive how they managed to showcase Jimmy's mistreatment of Curly in such a platonic way (at least that how I read it). Jim too, like Curly, in general avoids hints at romance and attraction explicitly related to him during his gameplay, not with Curly, nor with Anya (dear god thanks for that at least). It's all spite, annoyance and parasitizing off of these two. (That man's dry and lowkey hates everyone and everything) No attraction attached, no desires except hoping it hurts.
Curly to me is very much aroace, or at least on the spectrum. Like, the trivia fact that one of Curly's fondest memories is that of his friends putting in effort to make a shitty awful cake, tells us all we need to know on how dear his friends are to him. Platonic relationships mean so much to Curly, even when it's Jimmy fucking Mouthwashing, the worst friend ever imaginable.
#apologies I'm gonna rant a bit too#amatonormativity runs rampant within this fandom as well it seems tho#looking at you jimcurlers who think#“there's no way Curly and Jimmy were ”JUST“ friends there has to be something ”MORE“ to their relationship”#“because obviously two guys can't be close and toxic and NOT be having say gex with each other”#on the other side there's people who undermine or dismiss their friendship entirely#on this note I wanna say that as long as the ship isn't romanticizing abuse and consent is present it's not that much of a crime#and harassment of real people is worse than questionable fictional saygex#i just think it's heavyy mischaracterization of at least one of them#like swinging and missing the mark#I'm saying this to curlya enjoyers too despite me being one#they care for each other they're playful they're teasing#but they don't have to be in a romantic relationship to be just as friendly or doomed#but i don't get to judge on which is the correct way to enjoy characters#I love these characters#hooollyy yapp#would you guys also hear me out on demiromantic demisexual anya#mouthwashing#curly mouthwashing#jimmy mouthwashing#asks
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🎇INPRNT SHOP OPEN🎇
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YIPPEE I FINALLY DID IT THIS TOOK SO LONG OH MY GOD. But yeah you can now buy my prints if you wish!!!!!!
Including way too many pieces from the desertduo daily challenge i did #dddaily4sherin and a whole bunch of other pieces, all requested by you guys <3 tysm to everyone who helped me select my pieces!
Giant shout out to thello sillyfairygarden for helping me out with this too, go check out her prints too💥
and now i will stop rambling GO CHECK OUT MY SHOP :D There's a 15% off sale going on too ending tomorrow! (Sept 22)
rbs are super appreciated too🫶!
#inprnt#my art#grian#goodtimeswithscar#desert duo#mcyt#mcytblr#hermitblr#trafficblr#dddaily4sherin#ig?? LMAO#illustration#SORRY THIS IS SO LAST MINUTE FOR THE SALE IM SO BAD AT TIME MANAGING HASJDHAEHEggoeG#BUT YIPPEEE IM FINALLY FREED FROM THE INPRNT MINES KAJSKDLJKSI!!!!!11#i need you guys to know. how much pain it is to adjust the pixels and dpis for almost every piece AND title them AND tag them#AND INPRNT WONT LET ME COPY PASTE TAGS I TYPED DESERT DUO TOO MANY TIMes#at least the chibis were fun to do BHAHSDHAHA#for legal reasons I need to state that despite the fact that i drew 3l scar there. this is not a scam i promise /SILLY#wait also SHOUT OUT TO THE PPL WHO ALREADY BOUGHT PRINTS WHY ARE YOU GUYS INSANE. USAHDJAEAWJIEJA TYSMMMMMMMMMMMM#if anyone wants to show me how the prints look on their walls/anywhere once they got it absolutely feel free to!!#I would love to see it ueuuaehuaeeuh💥
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Gil-galad Variations, featuring all the gil galad theories i've encountered.
#silm#silmarillion#gil galad#gil galad son of plothole#<- best tag lol#personally i like the maglor theory#son of lalwen is probably my second favorite?#also that would make him the 16th known finwean grandkid#the aegnor/andreth peredhel variant is interesting#also i feel like when everyone meets him in valinor/the halls finrod would just look at aegnor like :/#finrod: 'if you were just going to ignroe my whole speech you could have at least told me so i could get birthday gifts for the kid!'#the russingon one looks very much like nerdanel lol#both the maedhros ones' hair is *just* dark enough to not cause a diplomatic incident#the elured/elurin one is really funny#like. hes 0% noldor not even related to finwe at all. like. theyre descended from different cuvienen families. they literally are 0% relate#he was raised by cirdan who is also 0% noldor#but he is somehow a better king of the noldor than like 90% of the previous ones#even funnier if hes Just A Guy#did they accidentally switch the real finwean baby? did they just grab a random kid and go 'oh well close enough'? who knows?#i think princess-faelivrin has a FAQ about the leading version of fin-galad (gil galad being finduilas)
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bro chill. that's your girlfriend
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JENNIFER: Well, what d'ya think? Do I make a good cowboy? MARTY: o////o MARTY: Yeah! Good! Great! Good. Good cowboy. Great. Good. JENNIFER: Ah. JENNIFER: Aw, you really think so? MARTY: Aaugh. JENNIFER: Y'know, Marty, you make a pretty good cowboy yourself- MARTY: I do? JENNIFER: Yeah, you do. DOC: [LIVE DOC REACTION] DOC: *AHEM*. When you're done with that... about the Delorean... JENNIFER: (forgot he was there) OH MY GOD.
#back to the future#bttf#bttf fanart#marty mcfly#jennifer parker#doc brown#kit does an art#oooh jen in 1885 au.... save me jen in 1885 au#wanted to put the nice big colored piece as it's own post bc it got real buried in the other comic#and then of course i got an idea for a comic so.......#had a lot of fun drawing this one who knew hats could actually be enjoyable to draw#big floppy hat enthusiast now. baseball caps however.... the devil#marty covering your face makes it more obvious!! least discreet guy ever#the O///O face is so fun to draw tho. top tier expression: down bad#doc in his natural human form! rare to come by on this blog these days#i think if jen was in 1885 they would be 100% more obnoxious about doc and clara#bc doc would keep getting annoyed with marty and jen doing Couple Things and tell them it's no time for that! they gotta get back#to the future!#and then clara comes into the picture and doc is so down bad for this bad bitch so obviously#jen and marty are like. what were you saying doc? i thought you said there was no time for that#doc would make a bunch of Doc Noises and then change the subject#cowboy jennifer
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Erin the comparison of JL vs the Avengers to Camp Jupiter vs Camp Half blood is toooo accurate 😭
JL: There’s an established system in place and contingencies for every foreseeable scenario
Avengers: fuck it we ball
peter thinks that the Avengers have it all together because they're his teachers and they're constantly telling him to use his brain but it's really because they, for the first time, saw their own "fuck it we ball" mentality in a teenager, and thought "oh my god maybe that is like... super dangerous." like when a parent was younger and they partied a lot and sometimes got into dangerous situations and thought "this is normal" until they had a kid and they quickly realized "oh that's why my mom was insane."
that didn't make them any better, it just made them hypocrites. peter just doesn't know that because they act super responsible when he's around
#it takes a village#and in this case the village are a bunch of idiots that have no idea how to raise a teenager like peter#their perspective is so funny#peter is a superpowered genius that was one bad day from snapping and they saw that and went “oh fuck that's our job now isn't it”#peter CAN be hard to handle#but like in a loving way#if ben and may were alive i do believe i'd have written them to know about peter's powers#and i think at least one fic where May realizes she can't keep up with peter and he needs mentors would be very fun to write#what was i talking about#oh yeah#the way peter talks about the avengers makes them sound so put together and like technically yes they are#but after first impressions are done the JL soon see the Avengers are WILD#they all fight like siblings rather than teammates#which is so funny#peter has no idea he embodies that avengers mentality#i love him for it#ao3 fanfic#leap of faith ao3#peter parker#thank you for the ask!#leap of faith catch me if you can#peter parker in gotham
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rip to the person from tmagp ep5 but if you get a mysterious invitation to a private horror film in a black envelope at your house from a contest where you had only given them your name and you go anyway then you fully deserve whatever’s about to happen
#the magnus protocol#tmagp#i don’t care if they were being magically influenced. you would not catch me in that mess#least genre savvy person in the world#you know when you’re listening to an ep and it’s like man. you kind of deserve that#yeah#he was a HORROR FAN TOO
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[jttw swk oc children] tried out giving them some new clothes but I dunno bout this one… 🤔
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#drawing them again because I love them#you Will Look 🔫#/threat#digital art#my art#journey to the west#jttw oc#jttw sun wukong#jttw au#original character#for those not aware these are my swk children ocs#they’re powerful but obviously not as much as their dad#I imagine they just have high ranking roles in his monkey army and defend huaguoshan while he’s off journeying#shooting comet and frozen river#my son tomato and his brother turnip#tomato was born first#I’m torn between making them twins or half brothers born at the exact same time#tomato’s actually very nice but other monkeys find it a bit hard to read him cuz he’s always making the monkey#face equivalent of killing intent face#turnip was born without eyes so he has no problem just letting em bangs hang#I imagine they were like toddlers when swk left and when he comes back he gets like two full grown adult demon monkeys thrown at him like#welcome back father!!! and he’s just befuddled standing there like who are you people 🗿#they have so many other half siblings I think#don’t ask me who their mothers are#I hc swk as on the aroace spec now but back when I first started getting into jttw I imagined he would have a lot of concubines#or willing partners at least - of both genders of course I’m not stupid#his advisors looking for him like where is dasheng??! 😨#meanwhile there’s a pile of babies with a suspicious tail peaking out from under them
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taash said "they were doing it" and people ran with the interpretation of an npc that doesn't know solas or the history of the elvhenan even when bellara interjected and said, no, that's not right. that's not how it was for the elvhenan. they formed bonds before they had physical bodies. and people ran to doompost or create weird anti-solavellan shit even though mythal & solas refer to each other as old friends and when she releases him there is no tenderness or love in it. it is the act of unchaining a dog from his post, the stepping down of a general. but to each their own ig.
#let the record show i think love was there. do I personally perceive it as romantic / sexual? no.#mythal's perception of love & care is warped in and of itself#i think they loved each other. but she loved what she could take from him and what he could give in terms of service#not because she was romantically into him#also i wish we knew more about her & elgar'nan. her regret prison form says she holds no love for him anymore#and it makes me wonder when that love soured. was it when she was blighted? before that? was that love also born of duty and companionship?#this is the last post i'm gonna make ab this i think#bc i believe people are too caught up in the modern western ideas of love as thing we give solely to our romantic partners#and we literally have a character go ”our perception is warped bc of the age we live in” and some of you are still being purposefully obtuse#and i think trick saying it's up to interpretation is basically admitting EA had them dumb down the game anyway#if everything ab the rise and fall of the evanuris in game#was condensed to five 2min cutscenes it says enough that whatever the writers wanted#was swiftly cut down by corporate dept. basically saying it's in the fans' court now#also bc it's an easy cop out around new players & non solasmancers who are indifferent ab him / dislike him#as a way to appeal thru a more sympathetic lense of look!! he loved and was led astray#not to mention the clear justinia / leliana parallels#and leliana gets angry if you imply she was romantically involved / in love w justinia#and the romance descr when you remake your inq saying the dread wolf could not predict what it would mean to fall IN LOVE#implying he had never fallen in love before or at the very least experienced a romantic love#also him saying drinking from the well would make you a slave and he gets really upset#yet ive seen takes of ”hes doing this for her cus he dgaf ab lavellan” ?? he got mythal killed when he told her ab the blight#whatever feelings of admiration he had for her have rotted. he is literally burdened by his mistakes and his choice in joining her#i feel like if i were a spirit bound and twisted into a weapon i would need my creator to tell me i am Free. i would need that closure#like when cole says its not abuse to bind him if he asks and solas said thats not always true???#if you perceive her interaction w him in vg third act as#anything more than the way justinia released leliana in inq then im sorry maybe youre just obtuse#solavellan#mythal#dragon age meta
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You know what? You know what I think?
I think that if we lived as we were meant to, in larger intimate ("extended family") groups and with more shared labor and time to do it (UBI NOW) people like me would not feel so useless and burdensome because there would be people around to help and to do what neurodivergent people can't while making valuable space for the neurodivergent to do what they ARE good at.
The way we live right now, all right, the way we live right now forces units of two adults to be able to do EVERYTHING or PAY to have someone come do it for them. I have to do the housework. I have to do it! But I am having to do a million different things and most of them I am not good at. I suck at them.
I wouldn't feel like shit, okay, if I had more than one other person around who was not a child and who could do the things I can't, like do the yard and cook and do repairs and basic maintenance; and someone else to split everything else that I like but is too much for me. It would free me to do what I am good at and enjoy. Cleaning, as in the sink and toilet, the windows, the blinds. Taking out trash. Folding, hanging, and sorting laundry.
But because all the shit I can do often relies on other shit being done first, and I can't do or have trouble doing those things, the shit I can do often can't be done. And even the shit I can do, I can't do ALL of it. So I can't keep up, and things get very bad.
We aren't meant to live like this. We are not meant to live like this.
That thought hurts so much because being able to flee the birth family is integral to survival for so many people. I'm so afraid that living in larger family groups would create more opportunities for, say, queer kids to be isolated, rejected, bullied, and abused. But if we gave people enough money to survive, and stopped considering children the property of their parents with no system in place to help them escape bad situations except a system that is often just as bad, just different.
I'm aware that communes and collectives aren't all that successful and are kind of a joke. I don't mean that. I mean a fundamental shift to multigenerational families where taking in "strays" (which my family did) is also normalized so people escaping abuse into existing households was accepted, with these families centered in maybe a couple of different larger residences so not everyone has to buy and maintain their own fucking washing machine and vacuum cleaner, and so people can benefit from large group meals that yield leftovers, and so child and elder care can also be centralized.
Then disabled people and the neurodivergent and sick and injured people, and pregnant people, and grieving people, would not have to either labor through all those stressors or consign themselves to living off an unlivable pittance or being put under legal guardianship.
I'm not saying anything new. People live like this in other parts of the world and maybe it sucks and I am wrong. But I'm just really mad right now because I can either do laundry or clean the sink but not both, and I really think we could improve society somewhat by making it so I did not have to choose one without sacrificing the other.
#im feverish feeling (not a real fever just malaise that i have no other way to describe) from the IBS (which can affect you like that#)#and i don't actually want to do ANYTHING#i would have to even living with others but it would be easier#at the very least i wouldn't have had to clean the microwave earlier which is hard because my arms are like the size of a meerkat's#and i can only reach the back with my fingertips#where is my BF in all this?#WORKING FULL TIME WITH BACK PAIN#yes i AM going to want him to have to do as little as possible when he comes home#he's neurodivergent too and struggles with the same shit#it's all a mess#we are doing way better i didn't realize how deep a drain three very sick cats were#but there's still only two of us#if you are disabled physically OR MENTALLY you should at least get in-home household help once a week or so#there's places that do that but the limitations are usually severe and always rule me out#because im not single im not an elder im not a veteran and im not physically disabled#if we have to ration that sort of thing i can see how on the whole it is more caring to allocate those resources to for example elders#but the fact that i celebrate what help there is doesn't mean i don't get mad that more people can't access it#is2g if i was functional enough snd physically sound enough i would start a charity that did intervention cleaning for people like us#who have fallen behind and can't catch up but can MAINTAIN#and who helped people clean for a few months during and after an illness pregnancy trauma major loss etc. so they could stay on their feet
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If I had a nickel for everytime Joel member of the Family (it was Gem, 5:53:52 [rabbit holing, it might be Oli]), pretended to be Grian, I would have two nickels! Which isn't a lot but it's enough to annoy Jimmy weird that it happened twice right?
[Grian's 7 hour long server tour video and Oli's making Wild Life music video]
#joel smallishbeans#smallishbeans#grian#grianmc#oli orionsound#theorionsound#(technically)#get this technically out of here maybe he is fake Grian#geminitay#hermitcraft#hermitblr#mcytblr#mcyt#trafficblr#wild life#now I would love to tell you I found it was Joel because I made it to that point in the video and paused it at that moment to realise#but I didn't#I realised because someone who was watching brought up there was a fake Grian and I remembered that someone else had Grian's skin#who was playing Guess the Build so I checked and found Joel#this screenie I took just confirmed it. lol#well done past me you were at least close with the guess the build group being it#well unless it’s Oli but that will make me happy if anything
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fucking crying real tears of laughter at the idea of lucanis letting out a sigh of relief at finally leaving the endless wind-whipped halls of the grand necropolis behind only to find that rook has brought the cursed giant skeleton statues back home with them. and turning to look directly into the camera as only a man who has slept six hours altogether in the last week and is animated only by coffee and spite at this point could. the nevarran lighthouse decor my beloved.
#the things a man will put up with for love#sorry that you'll be spending so much of this game with these two skeleton freaks lucanis. the subject will probably grow on you.#or at least you will find peace in just being happy they're happy as they enthuse over a well preserved tibia lmao#this is going to be a 'me my partner and their emotional support fifteen meter tall haunted statue of a corpse' situation eventually#dragon age#dragon age: the veilguard#dragon age: the veilguard spoilers#dragon age spoilers#lucanis dellamorte#rook ingellvar#rookanis#rook x lucanis#oc: Ellaryen Ingellvar#my headcanon is that rye didn't even mean to pull the necropolis back with them into the fade they were just that relieved to go home#and now all of you have to deal with the looming figures and skulls everywhere. I think most of them would be happy for him tho#creeped out. but also happy for him
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