#okay i hope this helps anon!!!!

[twirlymarimo]

hiiii do you have recs for things to do/places to eat in Tokyo?

matter of fact i do anon! im not sure what you like but i’ll do a couple of different kinds (disclaimer: i dont like going to viral places as much as possible):

restaurants:

yakiniku - a chain called yakinikulike! there should be multiple locations everywhere. a very affordable yakiniku /japanese bbq where u have your own grill and you can order different types of meat. my fave for a quick and cheap eat!

sukiyaki - kyutaro! this is on the pricier side (9,000-10,000 yen) because its wagyu beef but it’s worth it in my opinion, the meat was so tender and buttery 🤤

beef cutlet - motomura gyukatsu, sadly this is a viral chain but i think its worth the hype? i would go to locations outside the busy areas like shinjuku / shibuya to avoid long line up

sushi - sushi kaiten ginza or touryumon sushi ginza onodera, i missed to go to these last time and so i will go this time! ive heard great things about these two locations!

things to do / neighbourhoods to check:

kichijoji (a cute little nontouristy area, ghibli museum is nearby but my fave is inokashira park), daikanyama/nakameguro (river for cherry blossoms, also great for lowkey shopping), cat street (for shopping), nakano broadway (heaven for anime lovers aside from akihabara lol), yoyogi (quiet little area filled with independent cool stores and restaurants).

oh i forgot to say for daikanyama, there is a miffy cafe there and this denim store where you can customize japanese denim called betty smith jeans! for this you need to book an appointment and no walk ins.

i would only go to shibuya to go to magnet 109 to visit the one piece store with shanks and sanji’s full size statue 🤭

also final thing to mention: i love eating dinner with food from either a convenience store or like takeout at shibakoen and just chill on the grass with the tokyo tower view!

[dykedvonte]

I keep seeing fanarts of ppl's OC's being on the ship, so do you think that if there was 6st crewmember (specifically, another woman) Anya would've been more safe? Like, someone to actually call Jimmy's begaviour out, someone Anya might wanna trust? Is there a possibility something might have changed (even if a little) or it would not have mattered at all?

-💀

I feel like the game would make it part of the commentary on where she would believe and help Anya but still be sort of dismissive? Like the whole “don’t waste time crying and being scared keep going and move on, don’t let him win”. It’s supposed to be positive and reinforcing but sometimes it does more damage in those times of mourning and grief, it feels patronizing, like you don’t understand what you’re going through but they do. Even if they did call out his behavior it’s still on Curly to act and while another voice would help, it’s still 4 against 2 on guys that don’t get it until they have to vs women who always have to.

I don’t mind mouthwashing OCs but I do get a bit bored as they tend to be borderline saviors or like Jimmy aligned. They are either more complicit than Curly or just Jimmy haters for no reason, outside of what the creators know about what he did to Anya. I am never irked by OCs but in a story like mouthwashing you really need to think about what your character adds to the commentary, especially if they are there during the crash. It’s nice to have like characters on Anya’s side more whole heartedly and interesting to see characters who placate Jimmy but sometimes it’s one note.

I can’t and don’t want to police peoples OCs it’s never my intention when I comment on trends I notice, but I do feel like the way people make their OCs interact with these two characters and especially Curly, really show a grave misunderstanding of the narrative and these characters as people vs roles in the story. Still, I know people just make up characters for fun and that’s fine. Great even, but I guys I’m focusing more on OCs that are supposed to have those serious dynamics. My favs tend to be pretty-Tulpar or post-Tulpar au OCs.

The inevitably of the crash is on Jimmy. He did that not because he wasn’t stopped but because all his means to kill Anya were taken. The gun, the axe. Even if Curly did strip him of his co-pilot privileges and try to keep him contained there’s only so many people. An extra body helps but they have jobs they have to do, he’s the only one steering the whole ship and Jimmy would likely have an out: food, bathroom, etc. He’s not new and if he couldn’t crash the ship directly, who’s to say he wouldn’t sabotage something else? A clunker like the Tulpar wouldn’t take much. An extra person helps but it’s just another thing that prolongs what a person like Jimmy is willing to do to shirk responsibility.

It’s more than just needing someone to stand up to him and think that’s what is missing when it comes to inserting a character into the mouthwashing setting.

[cometcare]

Tired. Of everything.

may the world be kinder soon

[simplydnp]

crying bc i'm literally gonna be nearby during the SD show but im not going to TIT

i'm unable to go alone and i ain't taking my parents with me, especially after seeing spoilers.

i could buy a ticket! i could go! i could fill up a seat! but i'm too embarrassed and scared 💀 also i don't wanna out myself like that lol

i don't know your situation, so your safety is of utmost importance. if you think it'll out you, and that that will have serious consequences, don't go.

however

if that is not your scenario, and it is something else holding you back (shame, guilt, anxiety, etc) then i am going to gently encourage you to go.

you say you are unable to go alone, so this is me assuming you can't transport yourself there & back, hence the parents mention. i would also not take my parents to TIT--even if my dad wasn't extremely homophobic--bc good lord i could never look them in the eyes again and my mother would ask Too Many Questions.

if it's something you're really considering, see what you might have to do to make it happen. it may be easier than you think--dnp work their magic like that sometimes. (siblings, aunts/uncles, friends in the area, trusted local transit--there are options. but again, safety is your priority)

in terms of embarrassment and fear--i understand feeling that way. i've got a lot of shame tied up in any of my interests. it's hard to 'be my full self' in front of people. but i also know i was so fucking sad i couldn't go to ii. and then the hiatus happened and i Vowed that if they ever toured together again (and if i had the means), i would go. so i'm pushing that embarrassment aside bc ykw? it's cool to like things, actually. it's awesome to have a passion. kill the fear of cringe.

you didn't mention where your fear is centered, so here's an interpretation. it's scary being in a room full of people that like what you like. bc they Know what you like. and that's terrifying. but it's also kind of freeing. bc these are your people. they're full fledged humans. and guess what? they also like dnp. so it's okay. you're okay

[bitethedevil]

Not about Raphael! If my ex is now going out with my friend is it it weird? I can’t understand why people say it’s fucked up situation..

Again, this is a Raphael thirst blog 😭 But I think it’s very sweet that you value my thoughts like that.

[rose-n-gunses]

I'm late to the party, what's going on in hellcheer land?? I knew grace is dating a johnny depp fan but has more happened? (Feel free to just ignore this if you don't wanna answer btw, i know you might not wanna invite drama onto your blog!!)

I am going to risk answering this but only because I have no idea.

I am honest to God probably the worst person to ask about this because I am so extremely Out Of The Loop when it comes to the goings on of celebrities because, to be quite frank, I don't care. What famous people do in their personal lives doesn't affect me and my opinions on things are rarely anything more than "oh cool" or "ew". The most involved I get is following some on Instagram but even then it's only a select few.

I think a lot/the majority of whatever is going on is/was happening on twitter and i don't have twitter so i've only ever seen whatever's trickled onto here (which even then is very very little because, again, it doesn't affect me and also I think I've just tailored my blog to my tastes so that stuff doesn't typically cross my feed beyond the occasional reblog from a mutual or that one anonymous ask I got one time)

That being said, fiction ≠ reality and characters ≠ the individuals who portray them. I am in hellcheer land, as you put it (which I like that btw, I'm going to keep using it lol), for Hellcheer The Characters. I will acknowledge that there is "drama" that is either starting or continuing to infiltrate hellcheer land even though it has no place to do so. Hellcheer is fictional and fandom is supposed to be a fun community experience and by allowing your feelings about Certain Matters to significantly affect the fandom and other people you are making it an unfun community experience and that's kind of mid tbh :( If there's going to be drama (which there inevitably will be) it needs to, imo, not be brought into hellcheer land because, again, hellcheer is fictional and characters are not real people and real people are not characters

[theshadowrealmitself]

pretending I got frozen and am waking up centuries later to garden on a peaceful earth. your star trek oc posts are getting me through it! thank you for posting

No problem!! It makes me so happy that people are still enjoying them!! I keep meaning to get back to them but lately I’ve been hyperfixating on a fandom I was super obsessed with as a kid (too embarrassing to admit what it is) (regression going hard with all this stress)

I was actually just thinking about maybe doing more fandom posts so we aren’t all doomscrolling but I’m not in the right headspace to think of anything nice, maybe I should be looking at those old posts too 😭

[sunkissedliterarylightofchrist]

Hi! I saw your previous ask and I had a question if that’s okay. I wanted to ask that if you’re not supportive of LGBTQ+ then how do you feel about the caracters in zombies run? Like Maxine, Paula, Sam, Eugene, Jack, etc. Are you ok with their story lines but not real life people? Just feels wierd

Questions are always welcome!

With any and all media, its the same as real life. I love those characters for their personality and who they are as people, I just do not support that specific aspect of each of them. And it literally would be the same with any other thing- if there was a character in the game named Micah who had a gambling addiction, but was a good person, I would still like him and enjoy his character, just not support that one specific part of him, his gambling. You can love and enjoy and appreciate a real person or a fictional character without loving and supporting every single part of who they are or what they do.

Maxine is one of my favorite characters in the game ever, I adore her <3 And those others are great too!! Love em.

[palukoo]

"i also fundamentally don't really understand what makes some lesbians fixate almost exclusively on mlm ships and male characters" I've tried to watch/read wlw content but it got so physically exhausting bc no matter if it was happy or sad, I'd bawl my eyes out each and every time because I'm unloveable, nobody has ever made me feel otherwise and to think of love feels so unbelievably, deeply pathetic as a disgusting dog of a woman. All I can take is "oh gay dudes, same hat, good for them" but anything of self-inserting or thinking of other women being happy makes me want to hang myself

hey i don't mean this flippantly or whatever but um have you considered therapy?

also... based on context i would assume you are attracted to women but do you like women? "thinking of other women being happy makes me want to hang myself" is actually not a good or normal take to have! willing to accept or believe this is just bad phrasing and like i accept its surrounding context but...

saying that you don't engage with wlw content because you (presumably a wlw based on the phrasing?) hate yourself isn't actually a counterpoint

[chaotic-orphan]

take care of youself too please 💛 enjoy a few days off give yourself some rest. it's totally fine to take a hiatus if you need it, don't force yourself to keep going

You sweetheart🥹 Thank you so much for this💛

Actually, Christmas is my time off stressful life, so I have time to write but thank you so much for this message Nonny darling

My hiatus is lifting for the holiday season ahahahahah, I mean I’ve mostly been editing other series’, but I am hoping to have intoxicating fear next part out tomorrow, but at the latest it should be Christmas day!!!

Everyone mind themselves!!! I hope you have a good Christmas if you celebrate, and if you don’t, just enjoy some time off baybay— but most importantly look after yourselves too💛

[gently-decaying-flowers]

what do i do if i can’t get over someone? like, i’ve told them my feelings for them, they don’t reciprocate. but i still have such intense feelings for them sometimes and the feelings won’t go away?

oh god hi anon

it can be really hard to get over someone- trust me i know.

i don’t know what your situation with that person is- if you’re friends or just acquaintances- what your past is like… but what i would do is try to get some distance

allow yourself time away from them to take them off your mind, show yourself that you don’t need them. maybe focus on something for yourself that you can devote time and thought to, like writing or drawing. or anything really.

feelings can suck. we can’t control them so we have to learn to accommodate and live with them in a way that’s healthy for us

aaaa i hope this helps a little <33

[imminent-danger-came]

Is the LMK fandom the way it is because most people in it migrated from TOH fandom, where characters flaws don't go beyond "cares too much" or "clumsy"

TBH I think it's from the n*njago overlap, and it's just a younger fandom in general. The fandom standard used to be ship and let ship, and now purity culture is very widespread you know you know. The TOH fandom is just part of a larger trend

[stormyoceans]

do you remember what made you feel better when you finished watching vice versa and knew you wouldn't see them again? i'm going through it right now (with other show) and 😭😭😭 i guess i'm so sad because i enjoyed it a lot and that's a good thing but still i hate goodbyes 😭

I REALLY WISH I COULD BE OF ANY HELP ANON BUT TWO YEARS LATER IM STILL MOURNING VICE VERSA LIKE IT ENDED YESTERDAY SO. I MAY NOT BE THE BEST PERSON FOR THIS ;;;;;;;;;;

it's always hard getting to the end of a story and having to say goodbye to it, especially if we enjoyed it a lot and it was important to us. i think for me, and in vice versa's case in particular, there were two main things that helped me out dealing with its loss

one of them was the fact that i was perfectly satisfied with the way it ended, both when it comes to the main series and the our skyy special, so there was a sense of closure that, for example, i don't feel with last twilight. it's not like there aren't things that i still wish we could have seen about puentalay, but when i think about them i have this firm belief that they are together, and they are happy, and that it's gonna be like this for the rest of their life, so i feel at peace, however silly that may sound

the other thing that helped me out a lot was keeping the show alive. vice versa doesn't have a very big fandom, even now that jimmysea's popularity has grown a lot, but that never stopped me from just screaming into the void about the show and puentalay, and i've been lucky enough to have people scream back at me from time to time, and that did help me reframe the feeling of loss, because no matter what, i will always have this show. i can still watch it. there might not be more of it, but at the same time nothing can take it away. i still have the things it taught me, and the happiness it keeps giving me, and the bonding i've had with people over it

so, yeah. tl;dr: i guess my best advice would be to keep the show alive. talk about it, make up headcanons for the characters, organize a rewatch party, read fanfictions, create a playlist...... just keep yourself involved with the story while you allow yourself the time to process the ending, and know that the show is still gonna be there for you if you ever needed it again

[ask-steven-stevenson]

-Eldi nuzzles key as if they were a cat-

-after that eldi rocks key in her arms caressing the back of Keys head-

[poor key </3]

[fobnsfwdoodlesbackup]

pride asks woo !!

12, 15, 25

and for 35:

how do you deal with frustrating people like homophobes and transphobes or people just being generally shitty towards the lgbtq+ community?

Answers under the cut!

12) Name some queer artists/bands or songs you like most:

Dog Park Dissidents!!!! June Henry!!! Against Me!! Fall Out Boy!!! I definitely recommend finding as much queer music as you can, it's incredibly impactful to engage with art that shares your experience.

15) How has your identity changed overtime?

Overtime the main change is just that I've gotten more comfortable gobbling up any labels I want haha. When I was a teenager I identified as Bi, and then later as Pan. I came out as trans when I was 14 and that hasn't changed, but to me it coexists with identifying as lesbian/sapphic/dyke. Oh reclaiming of dyke/faggot is also a more recent change. Relating to the point below!

25) What queer discourse frustrates you the most?

The thing is. Queer history has to be sought out, and so many young queer people (or older, sure!) don't really have context around queer community struggling together and being intertwined. Discourse that feels very on-paper to me such as transmascs and lesbians not sharing community, bi vs pan, or discourse that weaves in other kinds of oppression like cis gay men being transphobic/misogynistic/racist etc. is frustrating. Our struggles are all woven together, and so is our liberation. And so is everyones!! Seeing in fighting online about how to appeal to cishet people or who's allowed to use what terms or be in what spaces feels like we're going backwards sometimes. We have important things that can be learned from one another, we have overlapping experiences and battles, we have been called overlapping slurs, and we must help one another to get anywhere in this god damn world. Talk to queer people that are older than you, younger than you, live in different parts of the world than you. Read anything you can online or at the library about queer history. We're all in this thing together and you can disagree with someone and still be in community with them.

35) How do you deal with frustrating people like homophobes and transphobes or people just being generally shitty towards the lgbtq+ community?

If it's online block their ass. Some Marco lore is that a guy in highschool stalked me for about 7 years and posted details about me on 4chan including pictures of me and where I went to school and worked. Just because I'm trans. Block them. I do think there is some value in arguing online, to practice getting uncomfortable and to signal to others that there's someone on their side, but I wouldn't recommend it generally.

A lot of my answers here are going to intertwine, but the best thing I can recommend is a robust support system. Friends, family, coworkers, pets, therapists, etc. Having people who love you helps with emotional battles, and with physical safety.

[corrodedcoughin]

eddíe coming out to steve as genderfluid - or, well. he won't know the name for it until a few years later, but after he tries to explain it and steve listens and asks questions and seems to understand it well enough. but eddie's not out yet to anyone else, sticks to he/him pronouns and they don't mind being seen as a guy per se, but they'd be way more comfortable if people knew to use she or they when talking about them. but steve wants to help, so, using the skill he learned from el, he makes eddie bracelets. every color he can find, thin enough to be hidden or passed as a gift from kids. so eddie can choose which color means what and they can wear how they feel for when steve can't ask them, or when they're around other people, steve can distract the kids from calling eddie a guy too much when he's wearing blue (not pink. fuck stereotypes, eddie said, earning a kiss from steve, because they both know steve loves pink), or try to steer the conversation away from eddie completely if they're uncomfortable. when to call him a beautiful boy and when it's simply a pretty baby. eddie thinking it's equally amazing and terrifying to be loved like this, so much that whatever eddie thinks are difficulties or faults are actually the parts steve loves most. because eddie won't survive if steve ever stops loving them, but steve always looks eddie in the eyes, and it's always with endless patience and certainly when he promises, "don't worry. i won't ever stop."

Something about Eddie being so unsure of how to navigate this space, when he's always been so loud and ready to put on a show. This though? This uncertainty in himself of how to be who he feels he is? It rattles him down to his bones. He spends god knows how long contemplating the nature of who he is and how that changes depending on the week, day, hour.

He feels on unsteady ground when he brings it up with Steve but knows he needs to, if for nothing else but a sounding board. Eddie is tired of this rotating in a morbius loop in his brain. He gets ready to run before the conversation even starts, plans an escape route, any excuse so he can avoid looking at any feelings of discomfort in Steve's eyes.

The thing is, it never comes. Not once. Eddie fumbles his way through trying to explain how 'she' feels good sometimes but so does 'he' and some days the thought of being referred to as a man, woman, girlfriend, son, makes his bones feel like they belong in a different body. That somedays he just wants to be Eddie and can't that be enough?

Through it all Steve holds on, quietly listening with his thinking face fully in action. That's how Eddie knows this isn't going to go sour, the way Steve is sitting, chin in hand with a finger stroking over his top lip. Thinking.

When it's all said and done there's a silence that Eddie can't say is encouraging but then Steve gets up with a sigh and wraps Eddie up in his arms from where they'd been pacing a groove in the floor.

Eddie ventures out a quiet 'are we okay? I'm not too much?'

to get a muffled response into his hair 'never enough if I'm being honest'

And somehow? somehow it's as easy as that