#ofos butchfemme

[scuderiabutch]

Someone needs to address the big elephant in the room and saying that the amount of posts regarding butches being basically sugar daddies to femmes is quite weird. First of all our culture stems from working class women, the first femmes were strong and Independent women, most of the time they were the one paying for their butches, because they were unemployed due to how they present themselves. Now, things have changed quite a lot, and mind you I loooooove spoiling my femme, from big gifts to little simple things, however! This comes from within me, it's my desire, not an imposition. I'm pretty sure most butches want to do that, even in the past, that chivalrous attitude inside of us you know. However, it is not required and it's not something you should expect from us by default. I saw a lot of young butches struggling with this, or struggling with the fact of not being "strong enough", having a weaker physique or for not having the right amount of finances to support their femmes and this is crazy! There's no such thing as a right way of being butch, and if there's one, surely it's not being forced into the financial caretaker role. You're entitled to your own weaknesses in your relationship, whether being them psychological, physical or economical, you're not less of a butch bc of this

[50sfemme]

some ways in which my old-fashioned / old school butch shows me love in traditional ways :

- she always keeps space in her bags to bring a spare pair of shoes in case my feet get tired from heels

- food is usually split 0/100. i swear i sometimes try to object, but it does not get me very far 💌

- she always walks on the side of the road, no matter where. because of this, we often do little spins when the roads turn to accommodate, which i find it very sweet

- she builds and fixes everything, and lets me decorate

- she tries her best to make sure that i never get up to get anything for myself when we are at home. it usually takes me going ‘darling?’ for her to instinctively know if i need a glass of water, a blanket or anything else

- she makes the important decisions, but lets me know that my word is final if i ever decide to veto anything

- and of course she holds my bags no matter when or where, no matter the amount of bags 💌

[fumblingfawn]

thinking of how who I am and my identity has evolved over the years. like planting a seed to watch a flower grow. only the flower of the seed I planted died, and grew another in its place.

forming an identity out of protection only to realise it was not fitting under my skin. ignoring the way it burned until I couldn't. enough to say it's okay if you weren't right the first, second, third, fourth (etc) time.

existence was a soup I was drowning in until I remembered how to swim. realising I am a lesbian was my rememberance of how to swim. melting into the realisation I am a high femme lesbian meant realising I am better at swimming than I ever believed I could be.

and for that, I owe my butch. I owe him an awful fucking lot. he is a breath of fresh air that fills my lungs to capacity and beyond. they are a miracle unto themselves. there are not enough words through language alone to express how truly I adore them. the more time passes, the more I realise what we have is divine, it's fate written by hand.

being able to reflect on how I've changed over time. remembering versions of myself that I hold within me, in a tight hug. the safety I dreamt of as a child, the unapologetic weirdness I craved as a teen and the understanding I became almost desperate for in my adulthood was all found within my butch.

it is sensational to realise the qualities of myself I always tried to be consistent in and proud of were written into the identity that feels like home to me.

butchfemme love (romantic, platonic or otherwise) is sacred. it begs you to look in the mirror, and dares you to even utter that you aren't enough. and it knows you won't. because you know that you are more than enough exactly as you are.

[pinkfairyprincessfemme]

Can a rich butch wife me up rn cus I am working nearly 60 hours a week and I do NOT like it

[celesteange]

little list of flowers to offer your femme this summer: (also known as:

"my favorite flowers")

(might post butch flowers ideas later ^_^)

(keep in mind im NOT a florist or know anything about flower language. this is simply my personal favorite flowers,, dont take it too seriously if youre more about learning flower language (˶◡‿◡) ) enjoyy

─── ･ ｡ﾟ☆: *.☽ .* :☆ﾟ. ───

✿ chrysanthemum ✿

✿ peony ✿

✿ ranunculus/ buttercup ✿

✿ carnation/ oeillet flowers ✿

✿ hortensia/ hydrangea ✿

✿ violets ✿ (bonus point if i can eat them)

✿ lavender ✿

✿ lilies ✿

✿ hibiscus flower ✿ because i have some very fond memory of how i came across this flower theyre important to me in a lesbian way

and voilaaa if u have suggestions for flowers to offer to your butch dont hesitate to comment or use my ask box!!

luv u xx

[ribbonfemmefangs]

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(non definitive version)

this is my butchfemme blog. entirely dedicated to butchfemme culture, my endless love for butches, and of course my butch lover (ilysm)

i might post articles, archive, poetry maybe more

most posts will be about me. i will chronologically talk about my own experience with lesbianism and how i came to live as a femme specifically.

text posts are gonna be long. this will be a narration (?) focused blog. me babbling. nothing else. (maybe poems or articles or archive i found interesting i will share)

another thing to note* this is a side blog. i will keep it that way until i know how to code better. when i do i will only post on this personal blog. i wont use tumblr as a blogging platform but more as a normal social media. this is my last blog. it will be long. im learning how to code. when my blog is over (ish) i will move there

i dont think i have anything else to say.

blinkies.

[pinkfairyprincessfemme]

If you look like this hmu

lesbian businesswoman Sharon Dixon in front of lesbian bar Fannies c. 1980

[scuderiabutch]

There are so many butchfemme cute zines I want to buy but most of them are made by people who live in the US and the expedition fees are too high 💔

In general I feel like if you're not from the US or the UK it's really hard to access butch4femme content ):

[50sfemme]

reminder : lesbians adhering to traditional values and traditional gender roles doesn’t make our relationships patriarchal, oppressive or anti-feminist. butches and femmes who engage in a traditional lifestyle do it for the love of giving, for the love of each other. butch-femme love is sacred, always — and so are our traditions and our history of courtship, love and devotion.

[pinkfairyprincessfemme]

REAL

single femmes who stay inside all day and only go out to go to work, daydreaming about a butch just randomly bumping into them in the way the romantic movies do. i just want to let you know you are real, seen, and loved.

[sapphicides]

the women of america were once promised that butch dykes would be lurking in all corners of society, ready to corrupt our minds and turn us all gay. what ever happened to that. where are the butches uncle sam.

[lovergirldyke]

As a certifiable sleepy girl nothing feels more romantic than cuddling up for a nap with someone. Please play with my hair as I fall asleep, I’ll melt into a puddle.

[celesteange]

anyone up for a butch/femme groupchat oomfies?? non-moots butch/femme welcome 💋💋

if theres a few people in im gonna share a discord link <3

[pinkfairyprincessfemme]

U get me

BUTCH COWBOYS BUTCH COWBOYS BUTCH COWBOYS

[ribbonfemmefangs]

hello! welcome to my 5 followers especially my butch i love you 💋💋

so i have a hugs draft about coming around femme identity (in french) idk what to do about it.. should i post it part by part and maybe translate so theres 2 versions? or should i post everything all at once when its done?

[opalstonedyke]

The sickest moment of my adult life by far was when a goth femme couldn't draw a cig out of her kuromi case because of her nails so I picked one out, placed it in her mouth, lit it for her and then smiled as she blew the smoke in my face