#office women

[digitalfossils]

Computer Graphics World (1992)

[icexprincess]

Nobody hates women more than a woman who works in an office.

[ato-dato]

*genders your bent*

[the-expose-on-girls]

On Repeat

We all know at least one person who likes to tell the same story over and over, getting as much mileage as possible out of it. Some people don't have interesting things happen to them very often and some are just innocently proud of those cool moments. But others have darker motives for sharing their tall tales on a constant loop to anyone who will listen...

Imagine this...

You're at work and hear a higher ranking coworker sharing a story in the break room to a small group of people. With nothing else to do, you listen. She tells this long-winded story about how she used to be in a very high position at another company a number of years ago. She made a lot of money in that position and definitely had the rule of the roost. With her pushy personality, you don't doubt that one bit. The story takes a quick detour as she shares how she left that job voluntarily to "sort out" her son, who was dealing with some issues at the time.

"Because I'm a single mom, I had to be there for him, y'know? The job comes second," she adds in, sounding fairly sincere.

Next, she explains how she came to work here, where she has to work harder and work more hours, only to make about $200 less per paycheck than her previous job.

"But it's worth it, y'know? I get more time with my kids," she says, nodding. "It's been hard trying to find an affordable place to live though. I need at least a two bedroom apartment for me and the kids, but the only way to afford that is with a roommate! Being a single mom is hard!"

You think to yourself, "maybe she's not so bad?" She seems to put family first above work, a contrast to her treatment of others on the job that can often seem heartless. Perhaps you misjudged her? Maybe you should make some amends to the view you have of her, from her first impression... and every impression after. With a shrug, you go on about your day.

The following week, you once again end up in her general vicinity as she's having a one-on-one conversation with someone. It doesn't seem private, so you don't leave. After a few minutes, she rolls right into telling the same story again, almost word for word---the only difference seems to be that she exchanged "because I'm a single mom" with "because I'm a good mom". This time, you got to hear the beginning and you notice that A) no one asked any question to provoke her monologue, B) she had to completely change the current subject to tell her story, and C) the person she's telling it to had been in the group she told last week. The person she's talking to patiently and politely stands there listening to her chatter on like a broken record.

Now, let's point out the red flags, the reasons this is not some innocent story repeating.

She changes the topic to tell her story. Doesn't matter how awkward or out of place it may seem, she wants to tell everyone and that's what she's going to do whenever she feels like it. No one asked, no one brought it up (probably because they've all heard it before), but she's going to tell them anyway.

She makes the speech to the same people repeatedly. It doesn't matter if she realizes it or not. If they haven't heard before, then they must know! If they have heard it before, then they must be reminded!

The emphasized parts of the story highlight her being "a good person", rather than details others might be interested to know. Any part where she seemed like the hero or overcame a struggle will be emphasized and beaten to death in her retellings. If you get to hear it enough times, you might even notice she escalates and embellishes with every loop. (Notice how she went from "because I'm a single mom" to "because I'm a GOOD mom"?)

The version of herself that she pitches to others in these stories doesn't quite match up with how you have seen her behave towards anyone else. If she's such a good, wonderful person, why is she mean to coworkers? What you see at work is a lot of yelling, attitude, impatience, stubbornness, exclusion, and so much more. Where is this holy saint she speaks of?

The combination of these red flags can mean a few very important things:

She's pitching herself SO HARD as "the good guy" because she's actually not the hero of this story. There's a reason for the discrepancy between the way you've seen her treat others and how she acted in her story. It's quite possible (in this example) that she ACTUALLY got fired from her previous job for the exact behavior you see from her every day. Spinning it as voluntary resignation for family reasons changes the narrative so she looks good and the truth is hidden. Also, notice how she shines such a stark spotlight on her reason for "leaving", while keeping details about her actual time at the job in the dark? Normal people with good jobs brag about the job, NOT the reason they left. It would be interesting to hear what former coworkers have to say about her time at that office...

She tells this good guy underdog lie so often, without considering who has heard it before, because she's actually trying to convince herself it's the true story. No one else knows the truth, so she doesn't have to cover up anything for them. She's covering up the truth for her own mental peace, because she can't look in the mirror and face her own behavior and its consequences.

Her motive is to manipulate others' opinions of her to be more positive. This sob story is perfect, because it claims she has good character AND that she's an underdog. Hopefully, by the end of it, people will admire her AND feel sorry for her, right? She can play the hero card AND the victim card at the same time. Bonus points!

Pay close attention when you hear a woman retelling a story to death. Watch for the red flags. If there aren't any, GREAT! Cut her a little slack, because we all have some cool life moments we like to relive. But if you notice any red flags similar to those above, proceed with caution around her.

She likely doesn't have any other stories to tell where she looks good or where the story can be twisted to make her look good. She retells this one because it's literally all she can scrape together in the positive PR department.

She loves the positive attention she gets from telling it. Even when people have heard it before, they are good sports and still give her a figurative pat on the back. It helps her satisfy her constant thirst for attention.

[splendidfemalelegs]

I always like to relax my wife after work 👌🏽😍❤️

[gatoburr0]

Unfinished Marinetta anyone?

[mindsynthcreations]

Meet me in the office

[gravitcat]

idk if anybody interested in fem serirei but anyway

[cinelestial]

Friday Domestic Box Office: May 31st, 2024

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[auspicioustidings]

Bet Soap shuts down all the diet talk around the office girls by generally being outraged that they're talking about how they should do this diet or that diet (all of them wildly unacceptable to him from a health standpoint, like fuck off you work on a military base 400 calories for a day is NOT ON) and then loudly saying he is going to fuck some self worth into them while already taking his clothes off. There is a massive sigh and Gaz drags him out of there while profusely apologising (but also telling them to meet him at lunch and if they want to talk about good eating habits he can help).

Soap will spend the rest of the day pacing and grumbling under his breath about how much he would die to get stuck into these girls and how he cannot believe they think they're not hot as fuck.

[sapphosdesires]

Outside the boardroom, they kissed.... a lover's kiss.

[splendidfemalelegs]

I struggle to let my wife work from home looking like this 🥰😻😍🤗😋😘💋💋💋💋💋💋

[gophergal]

Shout-out to women who don't shave. Y'all have the right idea cause that shit is annoying

[mothknight42]

i think part of what makes the guide and nadja compelling for me is that i genuinely believe, deep down, past the annoying clingyness of the guide and nadja's casually cruel unobservant nature ....... a lot of their tension comes from the fact that nadja feels threatened by the guide. hear me out (below the cut)

nadja spends a lot of the series bemoaning her lack of close female friends. she hates how everyone assumes she hates other women, she gets so excited over girls night, she has that entire arc with jenna that is both 1) a sort of healing for her own past awkward lonely self and 2) a way to connect with and HELP a fellow woman. and yet, when the guide appears - another woman! another VAMPIRE woman! someone she can commiserate with, someone who provides her an out away from the boys, someone who is actually an equal to her unlike dolly or jenna or marwa - she rejects her with swiftness.

and sure, the guide is tight laced and annoying and neurotic. and sure, a lot of the show is a meditation on friendship, and it is clear that our main vampires value friendship highly and don't want to just give it to someone like the guide (a lapdog for the council that tried to kill them, not to mention a complete outsider with shitty people skills).

but the guide loosens up by the time season 4 rolls around! she actively helps nadja with the nightclub and defers to her as mistress! we learn she was SO crazy sexy cool the other vamps forced her into eternal servitude! and as for friendship, the guide is their friend! she tries to help them (nandor's worldwide trip planning, nadja with the nightclub/dolly getting laid, fixing the sleep hypnosis for some examples), she is there for multiple antics, she pays attention to their interests (the fencing scene with laszlo is genuinely so fun) and she clearly cares for them. as much as they dismiss her and pretend not to gives a rats ass about her, they LET her stick around and LET her help and even ask for it sometimes.

so why then does nadja keep pushing her away? the guide is no more annoying than nandor or laszlo or guillermo on a bad day, and quite frankly she tends to be a lot more useful.

but THAT is the problem. the guide is useful. she is powerful in her own right (mist power / fucking around with witch magic / old and wise and experienced, more so than our main vamps). she may be a servant, but she is one with at least SOME sway and connections to the vampiric council. and nadja is terrified and jealous of that.

cause of course she is, right? nadja, the only woman for decades with a group of egotistical men, constantly fighting to have her voice heard and respected - part of her growth arc for season four is her unlocking that killer scream power! it isn't subtle! nadja jumped at the chance to leader the vampiric council, and unlike nandor has no qualms over flexing her power to keep others in line. she was ecstatic to be offered a position on the supreme worldwide vampiric council.

and then nandor constantly undermined her and made a million dumb decisions she was forced to fix. and then the supreme council put her in a useless committee where no on listened to her. and then she came home and had to deal with her family hindering her nightclub plans. nadja is constantly disempowered by the people she loves and respects the most.

and then there is the guide. sure the guide isn't at all liked - but she is respected. she is trusted with important vampiric council duties from day one of seeing her. she has interesting and unique powers. she commands all the wraiths with barely a thought. she is knowledgeable and helpful. even when our main vamp family don't like her, they respect what she knows and what she can do.

in many ways, i think the guide has the kind of unquestioned power and respect that nadja craves - and thus nadja cannot help but be petty and jealous and intimidated, whether or not she is fully conscious of that. (and i don't think she is; dolly's flight from home proved that nadja is not always in touch with her emotions, even when they are intense and impactful to others around her).

and what is the only thing she has over the guide, her special something the guide can never have? her family, and her ability to connect with people. so of course she uses this against the guide. of course she shuts the guide out and makes her feel small and rejects her over and over ...... because secretly she feels LESSER than the guide, and thus wants to make the guide feel lesser.

it is about power, it is about control, it is about nadja never feeling like she has a purpose and meeting someone who has had a purpose for centuries and used it to become smart and powerful in ways she only dreams of.

and of course, the tragedy of it all is that the grass is always greener. the guide would trade it all for a family of her own - for close friends and companions who care about her, who like her, hell, who just acknowledge her! her 'purpose' is a punishment, quite literally! and of course, she doesn't see herself as particularly cool or powerful, so the idea that nadja's rejection of her is stemming from jealousy never crosses her mind. she is a lackey, an overworked servant, a lonely woman desperate for connection surrounded by literal ghosts.

the guide and nadja are of course very fun to look at through a toxic yuri/clingy woman and uncaring object of her affections lens but i definitely think it is deeper than that and, quite frankly, more compelling.

[seducedwithlingerie]

Taking work home has its pleasure 😍🥰😘💋💋

[sapphosdesires]

Office romances..... they're responsible for so many marriage breakups