#notcourse

[qlikestoyell]

love when singlets dont believe u abt ur system bc “wouldnt i have noticed??” like no. you literally wouldnt have. the whole point is that its a covert disorder that not even the host normally knows abt. besides youve spoken to an alter with a heavy british accent for 30 min straight and didnt notice it wasnt me so maybe ur just an idiot :/ /s

[profudanshi]

Just to make things clear:

Himejoshi and Himedanshi are both also equally welcome to the blog! I love you all and would gladly share my fries with everyone!

For those that don't know, Himejoshi and Himedanshi are the GL/Yuri equivalent to Fujoshi and Fudanshi respectively.

[qlikestoyell]

tysm!! this rly helped thank u

hey!! just saw u mention the age where did develops can be pushed back a lil by neurological or developmental disorders? dyou have a source on that + im assuming but asking anyways does it include autism? bc if it does that,, explains a lot lmao -q

Sources for this are scarce-- it’s more like jumping through hoops and following a logical progression of information. There’s no one easy to find paper or article that discusses this in-depth (that I can find, at least). 

Before I get into this, let me preface this by saying that this logical progression of information is different from what the endogenics are doing-- they’re taking a LACK of information as proof that something is real, and applying theories to nonscientific and unproven concepts. 

What I’m doing here is taking several studied and recognized concepts to create a cohesive narrative across a single point.

First--  What causes DID? “DID is understood as a chronic complex post-traumatic developmental disorder where adverse experiences usually begin in early childhood and in which the dissociative identities result from the child’s inability to develop and maintain a unified sense of self across various discrete behavioral states.”

Second-- When does a child create a unified sense of self under normal circumstances? There are so many different theories and ideas about how and when the sense of self is created. Some put the cap at 5 years old, but others say that the sense of self is still developing in a social aspect until 8, and some say it’s still developing until the age of 12. It really depends on what theory you follow and if you agree with the evidence behind it. It’s generally accepted that the sense of self is completed between 5-8-- at least in any way that could be disrupted by early childhood trauma.  

Third-- What could affect/delay a child forming a unified sense of self?  “Various neurodevelopmental disorders, such as autism spectrum disorders, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, developmental language disorders, and schizophrenia, as well as acquired disorders of the right brain (and traumatic brain injury) impair ToM (Theory of Mind). ToM is a composite function, which involves memory, joint attention, complex perceptual recognition (such as face and gaze processing), language, executive functions (such as tracking of intentions and goals and moral reasoning), emotion processing-recognition, empathy, and imitation. Hence, ToM development is dependent on the maturation of several brain systems and is shaped by parenting, social relations, training, and education; thus, it is an example of the dense interaction that occurs between brain development and (social) environment.”  

The takeaway from this article is that some neurodevelopmental disorders can put children “behind the curve”. “Normal children will pass this test by 3–4 y of age. Children with autism typically do not pass; those who do, pass the tests a later age than children without autism.”

This is just one link for each point, but there’s so much research out there about all of this. 

[qlikestoyell]

hi big shoutout to “able bodied passing” disabled people who have to deal w/ doubting themselves and being called hypochondriacs and told theyre faking bc they dont fit society’s preconceived ideas of a disabled person. yall are doing great <3

[qlikestoyell]

there is no threshold of trauma that determines whether or not you’re ““allowed”“ to have did/osdd. you were a kid. anything could’ve been detrimentally traumatizing. you don’t need to go through something absolutely horrific to “count” as a system. if it was traumatizing to you as a kid, it is “enough” trauma. 

[qlikestoyell]

if u have a dissociative disorder you used to be/are currently weirdly interested in at least half of these things

-body swap

-possession

-literally any paranormal things really

-at least one rick riordan series

-body sharing trope shit

-body swap 2: specifically freaky friday for some reason

-the movie inside out

-warrior cats (i cant even explain this one)

-psychology

-shapeshifters

-specifically werewolves??

-telepathy

-i cannot emphasize body swap enough

-wicca/practical magic

-astral projection

-fucking body swap

[profudanshi]

Aw, why not:

Eat at least 2-3 meals a day!! I've gone several days where I ate 1 thing a day, and let me tell you, it fucking sucks. And no, two granola bars and a bowl of cereal doesn't count.

Keep clean! Try to shower at least every 3 days, max. Every other day is actually healthier for you!

In case of emergency, lightly brushing through your hair with baby powder will get rid of grease. This is a one time/emergencies only and it should be washed after!

Sleeeeeeeep! For real. Take a break and have a nap. Try to sleep at reasonable times. You have all the time in the world, don't try to cram everything you can into a single day every day.

Try to change your bed sheets and pillow cases once a week, maybe every two weeks if you're busy. A clean bed is soooo nice to lay in

Start your day with a good cold glass of water! It will help you wake up just as well as coffee.... And you can still have your coffee and/or tea after too. <3

Make sure to try and use the bathroom when you have the urge! You become more irritable when you have to pee, making it so much more difficult to focus on your hobbies.

2018 tips:

unfollow blogs that post things that negatively affect you

stop hate-reading

learn to cook one new thing a month

make one cute aesthetic change to your life

stop giving a fuck about idiots on the web who literally do not affect the quality of your life in the slightest

let something die. vines that tie you down do not need to thrive

[qlikestoyell]

TODAY’S SHOUTOUT GOES TO SYSTEMS WHO CANT PIN DOWN THEIR GENDER IDENTITY!! SHITS WILD ITS OK TO NOT KNOW WHAT THE FUCK IS GOING ON. GENDER IN SYSTEMS IS FUCKED. LOVE YALL <3

[qlikestoyell]

anyways i hope every factive in a did/osdd system has a great day today

[qlikestoyell]

positivity of the day!!! you are not required to know everything about your system! in fact, it’s normal not to!! you don’t have to be able to name every member, you don’t have to know everyone’s distinct interests, you aren’t required to even be able to separate each other all the time. having a system is confusing and that’s normal and good communication + understanding of your system comes with practice, not naturally. you’re doing great !!

[qlikestoyell]

splitting does not make you a bad person. it’s ok to split. it happens. you don’t control it. it will be okay.

[qlikestoyell]

anyways shoutout to ppl who are still struggling to come to terms with having did/osdd. thats normal and youre doing great. it’s hard to accept shit sometimes and it’s so easy to decide ~i must be faking~ but i promise you aren’t and there is nothing wrong with having a dissociative disorder. yall are wonderful.

[qlikestoyell]

workbook my therapist gave me: ppl with cptsd are often wrongly called hypochondriacs bc they have a lot of unexplainable physical symptoms

me: surprised pikachu

[qlikestoyell]

yeah im good at coping *creates an entire self-sustaining alternate sitcom reality to avoid confronting the truth* lol

[qlikestoyell]

fortnite is a good game yall are just too deep in cringe culture

[qlikestoyell]

GENDER IN SYSTEMS IS A FUCKING DISASTER MESS YOU THINK YOU FIGURED IT OUT AND THEN SOMEONE FUSES OR SPLITS OR SMTH AND NOW YOU HAVE 92 MILLION DIFFERENT GENDER IDENTITIES THAN YOU DID YESTERDAY