#not so safe for the workplace
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thinking thoughts and idk about y'all but there's a world of difference between 'you should go along with the toxic boss's bullshit' and 'please don't unnecessarily antagonise someone who is in a position of power over you' and while i don't think the first will happen for obvious reasons i can kind of see the second for reasons that feel equally obvious to me. idk if it's an age thing, an experience of toxic workplaces thing, a growing up under section 28 thing or what but 'protect yourself where you can when you have to' is like...the queer experience 101 for me. and like, i LOVE that for some people that isn't it, but it's okay that for some of us it is.
idk, i don't think i'm expressing this well, but i think what i'm trying to say is that gerrard could be a source of conflict for them without either of them being in the wrong
#911 abc#bucktommy#i can't stop thinking about this#me: why am i so invested in this fictional pairing why is this the thing that's got me back into fandom after so long#also me: was my wife's bisexual awakening and had to move workplace to feel safe being out by default and missed out on#some formative experiences because the closet is a nightmare that keeps you safe and you'll feel complicated about it forever#lol I'm so fuckin predictable
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rituals and such
#this was for grumble week but my spouse lost her job so we’vebeen quite busy and i never managed to finish it :(#i try to keep lighthearted on this blog which is why i’m keeping this in my notes but my spouse was fired because she is trans#her old place of work found out due to a coworker outing her and they fired her because of#“misconduct in the workplace#(being trans)#we are going through a rough patch in our financial stability so i won’t be one here as much#but keep your self and your families safe#you owe no one your identity#hermitcraft#hermitblr#hermitcraft fanart#mumbo jumbo#grian#grian fanart#mumbo jumbo fanart#grumbo#my art#grumboweek#dayoneprompt
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It's really frustrating being trans sometimes with cis loved ones because other cis people will go, "oh but it's such a huge adjustment for them! They're grieving for your pre-transition self/they aren't used to the change yet/it's hard on them!"
It's just so frustrating that people forget that trans people's feelings on this matter, too. Cis people aren't the only ones who have adjustments to make. Frankly, as much as I sympathize with cis people in this position, I can't help but be really jaded about it because so often, cis people jump to the defense of other cis people and they will seemingly forget to or refuse to give the same grace to trans people.
#trans#transgender#lgbt#lgbtq#ftm#mtf#nonbinary#like at what point is it 'they aren't used to it yet!' and it morphs into 'that person is actively refusing to acknowledge you'#i'm at a point now where i have been out as trans for half my life. at what point is this willfully refusing to see *me*#it's just amazing that it doesn't matter what the trans person could do because it's their fault for bringing 'burden' onto cis people#i UNDERSTAND that it can be hard for family for instance to flip a switch with their trans loved one...#...but i can't help but notice that so often it's because they *refuse to try*#why is it that cis people can do almost anything to trans people but trans people must be perfectly understanding and perfectly...#...content with whatever cis people in our lives have to say about how hard it is on THEM...#...like that's insulting to me. imagine being so willfully incompassionate...#...i'm worried about if i'm safe in my own workplace or in my gym or in a medical setting...#...i feel like we need a sense of scale about who is most affected by transness in this scenario...#...because i would RATHER be grieving over somebody's transness than worrying if i'll be hatecrimed...#...there's a difference in the experience between a trans person and the cis people in that trans person's life learning to adjust to...#...that person's transness. which is why i don't think it's comparable to say that cis people have it just as hard in this case#transphobia#transphobia tw
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Doodles made moments before I learned of a creepy man taking pictures of the inside of my car 💔
#my art#sketch#im fine theres a lot of safety precations in the workplace rn#police report and everything. crazy#also think its so funny that i drew myself in a car right before this. the prophecy#stay safe and. aware of your surroundings everyone 👍
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getting outed at work sucks 👍
#statement.txt#young queer at my job outed me to one of our coworkers#this is the THIRD PERSON she has outed me to#i live in the deep south bro i may use my name but i girlmode otherwise#im so worried that this is going to wind up being a bad situation for me#my workplace is queer friendly but we also again live in the deep south#do you really think that this is actually that safe.#im gonna have to have a talk with her bc the first ppl she outed me to were older ppl who very easily could have been EXTREMELY transphobic#luckily they were not transphobic to me but like. HELLO.#one of those people apparently does want her to be straight and doesnt understand her being queer so like why out me to her?????????
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Helllo mimifans
#.mimiming ❜#im in a . well . a state at the very#least#anyways . have you people been keeping up with political status of the worl#like the whole quota protests in bangladesh and the moumita case in india#the moumita case is about. hm i forgor how trigger warnings and all work so ? tw sa and rape#a woman got gang raped in her workplace and the wedt bengal govt AND the india govt are . doing nothing#we celebrated the 78th independence day on the 15th and . well#what independence is this if women aren't safe in their workplace and#fucking .#people are raping three year old#kids . gang raping dalit girls#she was fourteen for fucks sake#moumita was raped in her fucking workplace#sorry i open tumblr to be silly but i kind of live in this country so.
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Folks I really need to [remembers suicide jokes are detrimental to myself and others] book an emergency psych session
#personal#raven rambles#im really struggling#found out today that if my dad's workplace bullying lawsuit doesnt go in his favour next month#that my nesting partner and the labrador and the mini foxie and I would be kicked out of the granny flat#and we would have to rent the back room of my parents house#which is basically the situation we were living in seven years ago#so essentially my nesting partner and I are looking at marie kondo-ing our possessions and packing them#because the moment my parents find out is when we are being told we either get to stay or have x amount of time to get out#and i am NOT about that life I hate my parents having so much control over where I live#basically hes looking at selling his car so that he can buy us a place to live that moves#silver lining is that maybe if we live in a caravan or a kotorhome#also lmao i cannot schedule an emergency session because I have $5 left til february 10th#ya know what that means!!!#i dont have enough money for chicken nuggets :(#anyway im fine like im not at all okay but im fine#i am not going anywhere at all i am safe i am just venting
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Jeng is a great boss, but I think the reason that Pat isn't responding to him as a boss right now is because he's giving direction but not giving the context for the direction.
Jeng is absolutely correct that Pat shouldn't have presented something without running it by him first. He needs to tell Pat why. It's not because he doesn't trust Pat's judgement and his work. It's so he, as the boss, is aware of everything in the presentation. It worked out well this time, but what if it doesn't work next time. What if their next client is upset that the idea wasn't part of the presentation as a whole and calls them unprofessional again? That reflects poorly on the whole company, and Jeng, as the boss, is there representing the company. He needs to not be blindsided when they're with clients.
Jeng is also right that Pat should make sure the slides are clean and consistent and that the accompanying images work with the information present. If he was able to correct it all himself in one night, why have Pat stressing over it by himself? Why not have taken that time to work with Pat to show him how to clean up the slides. Give Pat examples of images.
Pat has been doing the bulk of the department's work for who knows how long and no one has properly trained him how to actually do his job. Having Nan help Pat was a great idea because his work improved vastly under the supervision of someone experienced.
Telling Pat that he needs to be careful about rumors spreading between him and Nan was wrong. Nan is in the higher position? That discussion should have been had with her. Jeng also should have done something to stop the gossiping himself. It's not their business and it was distracting them from work. It's his job to make sure that employees feel safe at the company and that inappropriate discussions are dealt with. Now I just need to see that man who felt it was okay to comment on Pat's bed preferences get in trouble for that.
#step by step#step by step the series#step by step bl#i cannot explain how happy i am to finally have a good boss in a bl#he's good but he's not great#i've had good managers and bad managers and i've also been a manager before#and i can safely say that any time i struggled with management it was because i didn't understand why or why i should care#and when i was a manager whenever i had an employee struggling i would always explain why i did things the way i did them#and it worked almost every single time#but also if someone in my workplace spoke to me the way that dillhole spoke to Pat#i would immediately report them. immediately#i've been at my current job only a little over a year and already i reported inappropriate conversations with my deskmate#they weren't directed at us we just overheard them but still#that shit is not okay and the fact that man felt comfortable enough to reach for Pat's butt made me so angry that i needed to pause#and take a lap
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People keep complimenting my clothes ???? Confused. It's a plain dark green cardigan. Why.
#yes it's nice kind of it's not a negative but this is not standard workplace conversation and idk why it's happening or how to respond#(some form of thank you)#being looked at enough that people notice new or rarely worn clothes on you is a potential risk factor for some type of trouble#makes me nervous#people can say a nice thing about you to you and a bad thing about the exact same thing about you to a coworker or friend#being ignored is the safe zone and i am apparently not inside it in this workplace#ridiculous thing to be nervous about but someone who hates your personality notices details about your personality#other people generally do not notice or care to find out things about you. people only do if they have a reason to#i can't just turn the danger radar off#but also it's a pretty standard social script for people to compliment each others clothing and it can even be considered polite#so it's not reasonable to assume it's a bad sign or discourage it#the brain works in mysterious ways#i need to find a way to turn the threat radar off
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LOOKBOOK: SABLE HART
Although technically an academic, Sable is always ready to be onsite at the drop of a hat. Comfort and practicality are her priorities every day -- most of her clothes are loose fitting and flowing, held up with suspenders. She has a couple of more form fitting things (see bottom right) for when she needs to dress up, but her students are more used to seeing her lecture in practical clothing.
Her hair is worn braided for practicality, and when she needs to get it out of her face she will tie it back with a cute little bow - which is one of her only daily nods to girliness.
Daily vibe is: sensible workboots caked in years of sand and mud (the mud is probably all that's keeping them together); a giant bag filled with books, equipment, water bottle, first aid kit, snacks, anything useful; long sleeves and trousers for protection from the sun; waistcoat and a bow if she's trying to be a little bit fancier.
#inspo.#sable turns up to a council meeting in dungarees with dirt on the knees and leizu wants her DEAD#this is 100% opposite to her younger self#in her twenties she was princess girlypop everything was pink and pretty and ultrafeminine#her cute lil bows are so she doesn't forget the little girl she was#but the comfy clothes are so she is SAFE and COMFORTABLE in the WORKPLACE
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My coworker trying to set me up with any man that comes in is absolutely hilarious.
Was the technician cute? Yeah kinda. But he also turned out to have a wife and a 19 year old child so my initial “ah he’s a technician and therefore and expert and therefore probably way too old for me” was absolutely correct.
Also one of our coworkers but while he’s cute he smokes which is an instant dealbreaker. Like if I come in when he’s smoking I have to hold my breath through my mask it’s so fucking bad. (This goes for everyone that smokes outside the entry door but. Anyway)
#she’s. yeah. I’m not bringing up that I’m queer. she’d probably be ok bc she knows a coworker has a boyfriend but. I don’t want to.#shatters’ fragments#shatters’ nonexistent love life#and again. I’m not going to try to build a life with you if I don’t generally feel safe with you#and most people don’t wear masks anymore#so I’d never really feel safe with them#and this is kinda huge for like. boundaries I enforce and revelations#bc I’d rather be lonely than six feet under now#whereas before if you promised to say you love me I’d let you do anything to me#which. I know. is Bad#and it’s all still hypothetical bc I haven’t fucking dated anyone#and still flip flop on if I even want to (the yearning says yes. the mind says uh. no wtf not right now at the very least)#bc the physical touch I yearn for is. again. literally. a cuddly cat would be perfect fuck people I don’t need them.#and if it’s sex (which I am also unsure I want bc texturally it’s a nightmare for me) I have toys#like yeah maybe my bar is on the floor ‘wears a mask and is nice’#but also my willingness to use some Time that I could be doing literally anything else (art/friends/etc) to be now put aside for a romance??#UNSURE#sure it would be easier if someone else finds someone for me. but do I even want that?#(visions of being snug in the middle both being spooned and spooning another dance in my head.)#(but toss a heat bag over my waist and nestle myself between two giant stuffies and it’s close enough on my twin bed anyway)#hmm. could always say If You Want Any Chance At Grandkids You Have To Pay For My Therapy but. hmmm (I’m still owed therapy bc I said so)#(they took it as a joke when I said if they went with that option they’d owe me therapy for it though)#bc fuck bodily autonomy of children amiright 😭#I used to have crushes that I would TRY so hard for. but currently I just? don’t. well.#maybe that one couple that has come to both my workplaces as customers were nice THEYRE CUTE and they wear masks. for them I’d try probably#but there’s literally no reason to assume they’d ever want me. or that they’re polyamorous. or that they’re open. or anything.#but I very much enjoy seeing them around town every time I do :)#I always prefer to be enamoured with characters instead. it’s safe bc it’s not real. (I don’t want to examine that rn)#I’ll probably turn right around and change my mind and have a crush on my Sailing Guy again next time I see him but. alas. he’s wonderful#idk idk. I should. I should get up and have food
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I said I was gonna get worse in 2025 but I’m starting now.
I just know in my heart of hearts, that Selkie from my hero is absolutely hung and I’m tired of not speaking of it.
#my hero#not safe for the workplace#selkie my hero academia#his hands are so thick#I’m thinking something else is too#I just know his dick game is crazy
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watching hush and the lil "it could be one of your prophetic dreams or it could be part of the eternal mystery that is your brain." he says that soooooo lovingly like u can Hear the <3 emoji @ the end of that sentence
#i am having a normal one#something abt their relationship in season 4 in particular!!!!#it is like. giles is no longer in the workplace and buffy isnt answering to the council anymore#so they are reaching out to each other so much more deliberately now!!! they are choosing this!!#and we have the costuming here too like hes not all tweeded up he is at home in his cozy sweaters#like yes he is in a deep depression and midlife crisis rn but also#i think that is Part of how their relationship is the way it is this season bc he and buffy both feel out of place#between unemployment and college#but they are familiar to each other and they are a safe place to go back to#so they are just. Comfortable acting like family and having thanksgiving dinner at his home and dont get me started on something blue#this is a tangent i didnt plan to go on. but here we are#i love s4 i am tired of being silent (i was never silent)#just bc the adam and initiative arc didnt hit i dont care. this is Cozy this is a comfort season.....to Me.....#buffy brainrot tag
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I'm so glad your friends are both okay. That's so horrible.
Thanks, anon. It was about a decade ago (although the incidents happened in different years), so time's marched on. They're both doing well now.
#it was actually at the same festival#i volunteered there for a year and worked there for another two#and the assaults happened in that time#it's actually part of why i left the festival#it was a bunch of artists basically descending on a regional aus town every year to create art and learn and develop#and the nature of it was that the festival wanted diverse artists to attend#particularly lgbtqi+ artists#and then did nothing to protect them once they were there#i had huge issues with it especially as at the time i was working in marketing / publicity#and felt we were marketing to audiences we would be putting in danger#it didn't help that everyone who worked at the festival was extremely young#like god#i was about 21 or 22 i think at the time and i think the festival director was only 25#and i was not very good at advocating for my own opinions although tbh i also don't think i had the vocabulary for it that i do now either#but y'know#it's given me a deeply rooted passion for artist safety#which sounds extremely uncool lol but i've worked in and out of the field ever since#a large part of my current job at the theatre company is in safe and equitable workplaces#actually right now even i'm working on a safety strategy for working with deaf actors and artists#as we're developing a new show which has a lot of them#so i've been doing a lot of training and interviewing deaf people and advocates to develop it#work's even paying for me to learn auslan which has been amazing#and like the fact that my job even exists now i think is a sign of how far we've come over the last decade#but still#probably revealing too much about my real life here right now haha
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s. s ave me, meoto…
#n o t me clinging to meoto to retain my sanity bc g o o d l o r d today was the worst#today was truly a very bad; very horrible day indeeeeeeed#man. today truly was a comedic tragedy in every way possible. i’d laugh if i were anyone else tbh#first i couldn’t start my workstation bc we were out of this cleaning acid thing.#t h e n this other branch lab sent over a precise amount of [reagent] that we needed to make the cleaning acid thing#*and* what’s worse was that they also demanded like. 1/5 of the acid we mixed. like bro. make it yourself mans.#but the worst part was when i tried to use a dropper to poke this sediment out of [tube i was supposed to be cleaning]#bUT THEN HALF OF THE DROPPER MELTED BC THAT BUGGER CAN’T HANDLE HIGH TEMPERATURES AAAAAAAAAAAAAA#stupid new droppers man. the old droppers could handle 100 degrees just fine. s o now the tube is clogged with melted plastic and it’s just.#life’s *really* great sometimes yk~~~~? (ʘ‿ʘ)#and so the night shift dude who came to take over the workstation against expectations seemed kinda pissed that i hadn’t started anything#and im just there. with my intestines wriggling about like internal abdominal worms. tryin not to cry in the face of my mistake.#while he’s fumin’ away like a freakin’ chimney or sth. like. man. no one asked you to take this workstation. you came here on your own. :(#anyway i ditched him and left for my break to calm myself down only to be approached by some random terribly lost middle aged to old lady#who was looking for directions to *somewhere* but she only spoke chinese aaaaaaaa#and i can’t read maps/i don’t even live in the area of my workplace so i have no idea if the lady managed to make it safely#but. lol. the lady showed me her message screen when she asked me for directions to her destination#and by pure coincidence the person she was texting is apparently related to someone with the same first name as me#the cons and cons of having common names man. i hope the lady managed to find her friend with the same name as me though lol#anyways. pls hw im begging. pls drop the crossfade for lxl birthday tmr i n e e d more meoto to carry on—#s o b s this is what im living for now ig. meoto………..
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One of my besties is hyping me up to ask a new coworker out but I have never done that before I am do a frighten
#coworkers#dating#I have confessed over a text once & once in person where I knew they didn’t like me so I was safe & felt brave but v sad#asked a guy to hang out & then had him turn it into a group thing at the last minute so oof told me all I need to know#WHAT DO YOU MEAN LOOK THIS MAN RIGHT IN THE NICELY COLORED EYEBALLS & ASK HIM TO…I DON’T EVEN KNOW DO AN ACTIVITY??????#so scared of becoming the latest workplace tea or the store creep even though this guy is so polite he doesn’t give off tea spiller vibes#what do I do y’all how do I get that stuff the kids call ‘rizz’ these days#have had conversations with him the past few days though that’s something#ya girl needs help 🤕#I swear I AM writing though I promise I’m chipping away at a long request!#marti irl
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