#not so safe for the workplace

[qpenpals]

rituals and such

[uncanny-tranny]

It's really frustrating being trans sometimes with cis loved ones because other cis people will go, "oh but it's such a huge adjustment for them! They're grieving for your pre-transition self/they aren't used to the change yet/it's hard on them!"

It's just so frustrating that people forget that trans people's feelings on this matter, too. Cis people aren't the only ones who have adjustments to make. Frankly, as much as I sympathize with cis people in this position, I can't help but be really jaded about it because so often, cis people jump to the defense of other cis people and they will seemingly forget to or refuse to give the same grace to trans people.

[originalaccountname]

alright i gotta ask, and of course youre free to not answer (of COURSE) but what led to all the reblogs regarding shipping? did something happen, are you okay?

I've had to unfollow someone whose art I liked because of them spouting "anti" rhetoric and making a low-key callout post for someone who isn't even on tumblr and now I'm doing my part in counterbalancing any potential damage

[naturalbornlosers]

getting outed at work sucks 👍

[iqmmir]

Helllo mimifans

[iguessitsjustme]

Jeng is a great boss, but I think the reason that Pat isn't responding to him as a boss right now is because he's giving direction but not giving the context for the direction.

Jeng is absolutely correct that Pat shouldn't have presented something without running it by him first. He needs to tell Pat why. It's not because he doesn't trust Pat's judgement and his work. It's so he, as the boss, is aware of everything in the presentation. It worked out well this time, but what if it doesn't work next time. What if their next client is upset that the idea wasn't part of the presentation as a whole and calls them unprofessional again? That reflects poorly on the whole company, and Jeng, as the boss, is there representing the company. He needs to not be blindsided when they're with clients.

Jeng is also right that Pat should make sure the slides are clean and consistent and that the accompanying images work with the information present. If he was able to correct it all himself in one night, why have Pat stressing over it by himself? Why not have taken that time to work with Pat to show him how to clean up the slides. Give Pat examples of images.

Pat has been doing the bulk of the department's work for who knows how long and no one has properly trained him how to actually do his job. Having Nan help Pat was a great idea because his work improved vastly under the supervision of someone experienced.

Telling Pat that he needs to be careful about rumors spreading between him and Nan was wrong. Nan is in the higher position? That discussion should have been had with her. Jeng also should have done something to stop the gossiping himself. It's not their business and it was distracting them from work. It's his job to make sure that employees feel safe at the company and that inappropriate discussions are dealt with. Now I just need to see that man who felt it was okay to comment on Pat's bed preferences get in trouble for that.

[deus-ex-mona]

s. s ave me, meoto…

[shirefantasies]

One of my besties is hyping me up to ask a new coworker out but I have never done that before I am do a frighten

[motherfucker-somewhat-limited]

spotted a little brown dogy wearing a hi-vis vest with led lights embedded along the reflector strips

[dandyshucks]

even online i cannot escape middle-aged adults trying to tell me their life story and hit on me,,,,,,,,, help,,,,,

[unloneliest]

i wish the world was not so ableist and horrible bc i am anti psych & work so actively against ableism in myself and people around me. but i know that isn't universal. and talking about the ways i was traumatized by ex friend and the ways that what happened were shaped by ex friend's mental health would be healing for me, but there are So many people in the world who would use my experiences to re-affirm their deeply ableist worldviews.

so i don't talk about it online, and it's hard even to talk to people in my life abt. not because i am traumatized in a way that makes me feel obligated to protect/defend ex friend, i don't think. or at least not mostly that. but i would feel used in a violating way by having someone take my experiences as fodder for further stigmatizing certain diagnoses. it freezes me up.

i don't actually think i would be inclined to talk much abt my experiences with ex friend online—i am well past the point of wanting to be deeply vulnerable like that in public. so it feels like this should be a small complaint.

but it would be nice to be able to talk to people with similar experiences who share my values. it'd help me so much to be in community with people who had experiences like mine AND people who have similar mental health diagnoses to ex friend. to find liberatory ways of being in community even when things go wrong and people get hurt.

i did my best to navigate a very hard and complex situation with integrity and compassion towards someone who was hurting me. i want to know it's possible for there to be healing and amends after something like that, for both parties to have their needs met. i want better tools for the future.

[ashtcnirwin]

🌻

[tierra-paldeana]

☠🌏– ''I've kissed Wooper all my life so AT SOME POINT I'll become immune, y'all see-''

[saturdaymournings]

Health and social care students don’t make fun of disabled people challenge !!!!

[inverse-problem]

lmao can't believe I forgot that people will just take jokes to their obvious conclusion here and also that not everyone is used to just being able to walk 2 minutes from where they live and stand beside an active construction site (this is re: my robot sex construction site joke post lol). I mean obv lots of people are also joking but I sure hope people don't think I'm literally recommending people to just wander onto a random construction site. because uh, don't do that. stay outside the barricades, they're up there for a reason

for context there's so much construction where I live that I walk right beside at least 2 active construction sites on my way to work. because I live in a densely built-up city area, it's literally impossible to avoid. obviously I stay outside the barricades and I do not linger if they're doing something loud because I value my hearing. but sometimes I get to see cool shit like when they use an excavator with a drill attachment, or when a crane lifts something big up onto a skyscraper, or when there's a huge hole in the ground, etc. it's cool when you gradually see a building go up in a place you pass by regularly and then suddenly there's just a building there. that catches me by surprise sometimes

there was one year where I was woken up every weekday at 7 am by the noise of reversing trucks and the like because there was a large active construction site directly beside where I lived. now for a few years there's been a construction site directly beside where I live, but thankfully on a different side of the block, so at least that one isn't audible to me when it would be bothersome lol. so anyway I guess what I'm saying is if you want to hear construction noise then try to visit your nearest moderately-large or larger city (if there's one in your area) because then you can walk by plenty of construction sites (safely outside of whatever barricades they've set up, for fuck's sake). or just watch some videos online

[monstermp3]

just saw the craziest take on tiktok that women should "not try to look too attractive at work" because "men are visual creatures" and it could be a "distraction". and also we can't look too pretty because "women feel the need to compete against each other" and so other women would feel threatened if we dressed up too much. yeah no it sounds like a company culture issue please don't try to give weird advice to young ladies just starting out. stop teaching that how we look = how competent we are!! we could look drop dead gorgeous and still slay in our work and anyone who can't appreciate that duality can stuff the nasty misogynistic opinion that ~pretty women are necessarily incompetent bimbos~ up their ass. that or we could just leave this workplace that obviously doesn't appreciate us for what we do AND who we are