#not diagnosed but peer reviewed

[actuallyadhd]

I have the weird situation where i talked once w a psychologist in passing and she told me point blank that I'm too well behaved to have ADHD, but at the same time, 5/10 people i meet on the regular either ask me to my face or claim i feel very ADHD

I guess I'm not diagnosed as much as I'm peer reviewed

( it also isn't mean when they say it and it doesn't change the way we interact, but it's interesting)

Sent April 28, 2023

I used to work for a psychologist (her daughter was autistic, this was what I did back then) and in a meeting we had in her office one time, she told me I was "like a butterfly" because I "flit[ted] from thing to thing" (talking about my career, I believe). Which, well, accurate. I had been diagnosed at the time, but I hadn't told anyone. So she was picking up on it without realizing it.

I was recently told of a family that took their middle daughter to their family doctor because they thought she might have ADHD. The doctor said there was no way because "she's too calm". The parents brought up that they thought ADHD presents differently in girls, and the doctor said "that's a myth." (Parents did not give up, child has diagnosis and is able to access the supports she needs as a result.)

One conversation definitely does not a diagnosis make. I can say that we tend to recognize our own, though, and if you think it may be accurate and that accommodations/treatment might be useful, it could be worth looking into getting assessed.

Either way, you're welcome here. Peer review is valid!

-J

[lorthelady]

My trick is to live in a studio, can't end up in a different room if you only have one room!

more adhd things

[aithusiel]

A yes, the three kinds of Autism:

(RE: was found on video referencing Autism)

[ablaze-bats]

Catman's attraction is such an interesting thing because, if you analyse it, he can be read as being in the aroace spectrum very easily, even though I don't think that's what's happening.

He was clearly attracted to Cheshire but his only move was sitting next to her. That wasn't even out of his own volition, he wanted to be somewhere else, but Parademon threatened to eat his throat if he didn't let Ragdoll sit there. Obviously he still chose to sit next to her specifically, but that's not quite a good flirting technique.

I obviously can't talk about Gail Simone's writing of Cheshire without mentioning orientalism. Cheshire in villains united and secret six is the final boss of the Asian baby mama trope. It could be that Thomas' apparent disinterested is simply orientalism on Simone's part, and I can't deny that most of their relationship is based on the harmful tropes surrounding Jade as an asian woman.

Looking at it from a simple character perspective: it seems that Thomas is just really uncomfortable with flirting.

However:

He immediately jumps on Helena Bertinelli. It's so uncharacteristic of him to do that that Scandal comments on it as "rather foward".

My interpretation is that Thomas is so deep in the naturalist connected to nature and the lions thing that he sees sexual desire as something that can be easily ignored, but the moment he finds someone romantically interesting he beelines for them. He basically proposed to Helena in this issue and, while that's a very relatable thing as Helena Bertinelli is a badass, it's not exactly something you just do.

All this to say that, while I don't personally think that Catman is in the aroace spectrum, I think he represses sexual desire until the subject to his attraction makes themself available. Even when posing the argument that trying to sleep with Jade in the situation they were in was a bad idea, trying to date Huntress, a known hero, while the Six and the BoP actively fought one another was also Not Ideal.

Recently Thomas and Minhkhoa Khan had a thing in 2023's DC pride special. This relationship puts a damn wrench in my theory but I have an idea. Thomas isn't as insane about Khoa as he was about Helena (I mean he wasn't spewing the "we'll be together til the sky falls apart" bs on him), but he's not cold and distant like he was with Cheshire either.

He very much flirts with Khoa, which could mean nothing but:

"Wanna cuddle?" When this is how he acts with Jade

This funnily enough makes Thomas one of the few characters in DC to be explicitly and undeniably cisgender

He desperately (and I do mean desperately) chases people he's romantically interested him. He doesn't turn down sex but he doesn't seek it out. Romance, on the other hand, he actively seeks out when someone is interesting to him, whether or not they initiate flirting or not is irrelevant when he wants to date somebody.

I do think he's romantically interested in Ghost-Maker but that this was a more recent development rather than something they started out on. Obviously there's literally nothing about their relationship out there other than a single panel in a Christmas special where they're apparently on a date, so this is just me being crazy about Catman and overanalyzing every little aspect of his character.

I should make one of those about his relationship with Floyd, that would be fun

[bumblebeehug]

in Sweden we call people like Natsu “bokstavskombination” and I think that’s beautiful🥹❤️

[starstruckodysseys]

the best kind of hcs are the ones you accidentally imply in ur writing and then look at and go. hm. maybe im onto something

[jade-dhound]

wait the random bouts of rage are a symptom of ADHD?!

[jachtjager]

I do not wish to be human anymore. I would just like to be vaguely human shaped and squeezed tremendously tightly. Even more so I would like to go hitchhiking through the galaxy with a human shaped alien from Betelgeuse V. I would like to visit an island full of genetically engineered dinosaurs. I would like to go on a quest to find a stolen lightning bolt. Considering what is actually within the realm of possibility, just a good tight squeeze will do.

[ashes-onthewind]

your boy just got the official autism diagnosis (his girlfriend said she agrees he does have autism) so you best believe I'll be making so many autism jokes about myself.

[trannydykes]

ngl, self-diagnoses doesn't harm anyone.

"They're taking away resources from actually autistic people!" where. proof for that. Also, most resources that non-diagnosed autistic ppl can get are just DIY remedies(headphones, sensory toys, ect), how is that taking away from your remedies.

i think instead of saying "no you cant self-diagnose or can only under specific circumstances", we should be sharing resources to help people who are questioning if they really have a condition or not

if you want ppl to stop incorrectly thinking they have autism, maybe we can just make content where we talk abt what autism actually entails and what is/isn't an autistic trait. instead of saying all self-diagnosers are faking on purpose

Information is the best killer of misinformation actually if you didn't know

[macattac-trades]

Thoughts/behaviors that are hella autistic, in hindsight:

Not sending a message/thought in a group chat until someone else does first because I don’t know what the “appropriate” amount of time to wait to switch topics is (especially if the previous topic was sad/heavy or celebratory).

Full-on copying wording and movement from employers/people of authority because anything they did without being judged for got added to the “socially acceptable in this context” list.

Waiting until I was alone to jump up and down, shake, or squeal.

An infinite amount of other things I will continue to notice and recognize.

[dukebee]

When the idol you look at and see copious amounts of autism says if people want to know what he’s like they should look at Most Stereotypically Autistic Guy from popular anime All These Dweebs Have Autism

[jazzrazzberry]

You ever have the thing where you have time to be creative so you’re like yes time to be creative on this project I need to do! And then the serotonin does not sero or tonin and instead wants to you start a NEW and DIFFERENT project that is not necessary

[ceo-of-sloppy-women]

My mom just tried to pull the “self diagnosed autistic isn’t valid” on me, as if me, her whole ass child, did not memories the entirety of cloudy with a chance of meatballs 2 by watching it enough times to cause concern

[maliciouscigarette]

I’ve been successfully peer reviewed and I’m pretty sure I now have tenure 💅

[new-bug-ideas]

Hiii! I'm doing a paper on the ties between bugs and neurodivergence and I'm trying to create a group of ND people who like bugs but also I don't know how to do that so I'm just sending this to a lot of people who are frequent bug posters! if you'd ever feel comfortable with me asking a few questions please let me know! Hope you're having a really good one!!!

I find it really funny that you guessed corectly that I'm neurodivergent. Also ya I'll answer some questions!!!! Use dms though i don't wanna fill up my blog with non bug ideas