#not all men but all women are unsafe

[stfulara]

being a girl is fun and all until you dread the road to be safe so you could reach home without being cat-called, slut shamed, groped, abused, raped or murdered

[spengie]

Genuine question. I'm a single mom with two young boys, a sole small business owner, and a homeowner. I have massive student debt, healthcare is always expensive, and I underpay myself so I can pay more money and benefits to my employees. I have a second job to try to make up the difference.

Do I stay and fight, or do I run? I'm terrified that my entire means to support my family and my ability to continue to support my family and my employees and their families is going to be taken from me.

I understand the benefit of showing my kids how to stay and fight. But I also desperately want them to not have to fight for basic human rights. I don't want them to be where I am, massively in debt, struggling to pay for basic necessities, working 60-80 hours a week to keep my dream alive. To keep my community alive. To keep my kids alive.

My personal instinct is to stay and fight. My mom instinct is to protect my boys and flee.

They are at war. I am at war, with myself.

[catboykilljoy97]

So, what I've gathered based on some online sleuthing in various trans communties, is that:

Trans men feel erased in queer spaces and in discussions of trans people. Most of the attention/resources goes to trans women. Isn't that awful?

2. Trans women feel erased in queer spaces and in discussions of trans people. Most of the attention/resources goes to trans men. Isn't that awful?

3. Nonbinary people are lumped into either "basically a trans man" or "basically a trans woman" based on AGAB. No, this isn't regressive at all. Trust us.

4. Everyone involved should violently fucking hate each other and throw as much blame as possible because of this

can i go be a hermit in the woods now. i know that's like, the whole thing i'm trying to escape, but honestly it sounds good rn

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

Torn between wanting to speak and encourage other women to speak about abuse and trauma they've suffered from men and living in a misogynistic society but also not wanting them to do that too publicly because men are unempathetic monsters who harrass, dox and threaten women who do so.

[embraceyourdestiny]

It’s crazy how many parts of the quarry are good examples of the patriarchy getting away with shit. If you truly care about abi it’s CRAZZYYY to 1). See nick be aggressive with abi 2). To see nick GRAB Abi 3). And then To see nick THROW HER ACROSS THE FUCKING ROOM and you still don’t shoot him??? If he was attacking a male character or even if a girl was attacking abi way more people would shoot with zero hesitation but the amount of people who are like “let’s keep everyone alive!” And then hesitate when he fucking ATTACKS her is crazy. Y’all wanna keep everyone alive but don’t even protect abi like WTF????

[queeraliensposts]

Cis people who respond to transphobia with other forms of bigotry are the epitome of performative allyship. Like caring about trans people means caring about

Trans POC

Trans women

Neurodivergent trans people

Working class trans people

Fat trans people

Diabled trans people

Trans immigrants

Trans gay people

Jewish trans people

Muslim trans people

Latine trans people

You either care about all of us or none of us

[lady-tortilla-chip]

I will say as much as I genuinely enjoyed the Barbie movie, I reallyyyyy don’t like the response to it

[psalmsofpsychosis]

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not gonna dignify this post with a reblog, but i need you to know that people like this are the reason the f*minism movement has went to gutter and cannot climb back out: these women are victims with massive oppressor envy, they have not had a single original thought in their entire lives and they cannot concieve of a form of power outside the arbitrary "oppressed/oppressor" dichotomy, and the slightest chance they get to act of their own free will they become exactly like the very "men" whom they supposedly hate and fight against: shallow, superficial, socially acceptable mean, overgeneralising an entire half of the population thinking they're fun and hip with their barely disguised and unexamined disgust and anger. they're just as unbearable and unpleasant in their cheap gender essentialist judgements as the people who hurt them, and no, making it into a funnyguy joke doesn't save the sentiment. If the first chance you get at free expression has you literally talking and thinking like your oppressors, i'm sorry but you dont want out of the cycle, you just want the upper hand. You want to be the mean one and that's where you go whenever you can. You're literally no different people the people you hate.

[lilgynt]

as a man thing i genuinely hate men and want them dead

[wewontbesleeping]

still thinking about the time a couple weeks ago that a gay man was talking to me at the bar and started talking about the whole man vs bear thing, and was like. assuming he wasn't part of the "man" side because he was gay. and then making a joke about gay "bears" and how he'd love to be trapped in the woods with one....

[parasiticstars]

We should start ruthlessly gatekeeping and making fun of men for every single interest they have like men do women. Then we should quiz them on whether or not they’re real fans if they don’t know one (1) unbelievably obscure bit of trivia. Then tell them that x is “too feminine” for a RESPECTABLE MAN to like and he’ll never find a gf because of it, or that y is “too masculine” and he’s trying too hard and it’s embarrassing and he’s a pickme. :3

[moonstrider9904]

Dude today in a parking lot walking past my car stared at me while I was still inside gathering my things, and I felt eyes on me and made eye contact with him because usually pervs freak out when they feel someone's onto them. The dude walked on and I relaxed, but as I was about to get out of the car I checked out the window again and saw that he was at the edge of the parking lot still staring at me, and he even waved.

This was at a mall parking lot. I can't even feel safe from pervs staring at me in a mall in broad fucking daylight. And idk if this man's just stupid enough to think I was looking at him because I was into him (what a dumbass if that was the case) or if he was genuinely planning something else. You cannot be too careful.

Being a woman is fucking hard and dealing with perverted men on the daily is fucking exhausting.

[mosspapi]

This might just be a me thing but I'm so sick of the way that any GNC man is instantly assumed to be "an egg" or otherwise closeted trans woman, mostly in "progressive" spaces.

Like why is it that the second a man shows any form of femininity, it's because he's secretly a woman. Y'all do realize what that sounds like, right.

[rowanhoney]

but rationally Ik I’m going to be okay even though I feel like both a wilting flower and a black hole rn. Because 6 weeks ago my life was wonderful and I was extremely happy and not much has changed. And in 6 weeks again it will be spring which will utterly revive me. I’ll be okay. Seasonal depression is just so embarrassing

[teenagefeeling]

just learned of the existence of the 4B movement and all i have to say is fucking yikes

[genderqueerdykes]

I've been seeing a disturbing number of "queer safe spaces" describe themselves as things like "femme & them" and even worse "she+," conflating femininity & nonbinaryhood. cease this immediately. say it with me: nonbinary people are NOT women-lite and it is extremely violent and straight up incorrect to imply that all they/thems are fem adjacent. this is erasure and this verbiage does nothing but make gnc and nonbinary spaces unsafe for masc and male nonbinary people. nonbinary, genderqueer and other third gender people can be and are masculine and men, we can be hes as well as shes and theys, stop allowing yourself and your peers to view nonbinary as woman/femme-lite, signed a butch nonbinary person.