#nonbinary on T

[sandrune-art]

I started T two weeks ago and obviously I had to make a comic to celebrate it <3

(Comic under the cut)

[lemonlilactea]

Im visible for now .......

[traaansfem]

We just realized that we know someone with a name on EVERY SINGLE ROW OF THIS LIST.

That... um.

Aha. Hah. Hahh. Hahhhhhh .

[yuribeam]

for whoever needs to hear this:

starting HRT doesn't have to be a huge momentous all-or-nothing decision. you can just try it like you would an antidepressant you've been informed of the risks of.

there won't be any immediate irreversible changes overnight. you can always stop, change your dose, change your delivery system, decide it's not the right time. you can even microdose if you want to.

you don't have to tell anyone. you don't have to announce it if you don't want to.

stop waiting for a perfect time in your life because it won't come.

stop waiting to reach a mythical level of certainty that never comes to anyone, for anything.

you've been thinking about it long enough. if you have the opportunity, just give it a shot. you're worth the courage it takes to make a change in your life.

[house-rat]

Reminder that the response to “you’ll never be a man/woman” is not to list off all the ways that hrt has profound changes on the human body but to reject completely any sex-based or hormone-based definition of gender.

I get the impulse to justify yourself, I really do, but it is impossible to justify yourself to bigots, and trying to do so leaves behind so many trans and intersex people who don’t fit the acceptable narrative you’re trying to create.

[captainsamuelmorrigan]

PSA for trans people, trans mascs and fems, and enbies & intersex folks on T or E injections (or injections in general):

Your injections should AT WORST feel like a hard pinch if you hit a vein on accident. It should NOT sting the whole time, itch, be tender for more than a day, and should not cause significant bruising. (Edit!: This is the weekly injections, the monthly or longer lasting injections are sore for a while because the liquid is THICC.)

I was not told this when I started, and missed that I was allergic to my shots for the first 2 months I was on T. There is more than one type of carrier oil, and the type of T they prescribe most often is more likely to have allergic reactions (cypionate with cottonseed oil). You should not have to suffer more just to get your gender juice. You can also gain allergies over time, so if you start experiencing these symptoms, check in with your doctor!

(Another Edit: PLEASE talk to your doctor before assuming stuff, I'm just a guy on the internet trying to make sure that y'all have more info.)

Tips for less painful/irritated injections I've gotten from people (all anecdotal, again, check with your doc):

-Intramuscular injections are usually less likely to be irritated than subcutaneous ones.

-Rub VERY hard with your alcohol wipe before injecting to numb up the skin a little bit.

-Make sure to rub the vial between your hands to warm it before using the draw up needle. It makes the fluid less thick, so it’s less painful to inject.

(I'll add more if people share)

[i-like-swiss-cheese]

GUYS THE PORN BOTS HAVE ESCAPED THE ASEXUAL TAG THEY ARE EVERYWHERE

THE WAR HAS GONE GLOBAL

WE MUST ALL FIGHT

REBLOG, TAG OTHERS DO WHATEVER WE MUST SPEAD THE WORD

GET RID OF THESE FUCKING PORN BOTS

THEY EVEN HAVE THE GIF TAB

TAG EVRYONE YOU CAN

GET LARGE BLOGS INVOLVED

JOIN THE FIGHT

WE MUST STOP THESE FUCKING THINGS FROM ESCAPING

HERE IS ALIST OF A FEW OF THE BLOGS BEHIND THIS

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lady-nancy1 (nominated by @justannoyingbear)

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[everythingisliminal]

I did it. I called my parents, told them they need to use they/them for me for us to have a healthy relationship, and it worked.

My dad said his love for me is unconditional and he's invested in getting this right. My mom asked in a strained tone how this affects my relationship with my husband, how she's supposed to refer to me with people in her life, etc. (best case scenario given how abysmal this convo went with her a year ago). And we ended it all with our life updates and "I love you"s.

Since it took a lot of research to find articles more suited to adult children coming out as trans/nonbinary, here's the list of (primarily non-aggressive) resources on terms and mindset I texted them in case they can help anyone else:

Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes (new pronouns = softer sweater metaphor)

Your adult child just came out as non-binary. Now what? (terminology)

The Wonderful World of Gender: What It Means to Be Nonbinary (terminology)

What Does It Mean to Misgender Someone? (terminology)

8 Things I’ve Learned Parenting a Non-Binary Kid That Might Help You (acknowledges parent's emotional response)

Edit:

OMG Y'ALL MY MOM JUST TEXTED THIS

"I know I was quiet in today's conversation but you are my child and I love you and support you. I want nothing but happiness and a healthy life for you!!!😉😀"

[frenzyarts]

I just started T and I want to talk about how it’s affecting me but I’m having difficulties talking about the sex part because it makes me feel like this:

[oro-junestar]

By cutting out the TQ+, you also cut out:

-Intersex people

-Two-spirit gays and other culturally connected gays

-Gender nonconforming people

-Those who are questioning their sexuality

-Gays, lesbians, and bi's who are supportive of trans people

-Millions of kind, loving, supportive humans who have gone through indescribable, traumatic abuse and wish to build a safe, welcoming community

Why are you so eager to exclude and belittle people? Why do you tell them they 'don't know what real struggle looks like' when their healthcare, their future, and their lives are under attack? Do you truly value 'love', or do you just want to swat away as many people as possible? Why do you continue to hide under a rock and dig yourself deeper into festering hatred, when you can simply come out and support people who can help you?

Wouldn't it be easier to unite with our trans and nonbinary friends to help defeat the growing threat of genuine fascism in our country? Those conservative Christian nationalists and white supremacists who tell you you're "one of the good ones" would gladly turn around and shoot you in a heartbeat, because when they say they're fighting the 'woke gender ideology', they'll mutter in the same breath that you gays are 'degenerates', 'sodomites', and 'animals'. Why would you side with the villains, who see you the same way they see us?

We cannot let oppression continue in any form. We will all be on the winning side of history as we step closer to ending the cycle of hatred and bullying. Open your hearts and minds and you'll find that the everyone around you is just as human as you, and are more similar to you than you'd think. Trans people are people, just like you, and we need your help and support just as much as you need ours.

Isn't it neat how people who are supportive of all LGBTQ+ identities are also kinder, more loving, more empathetic, and more caring towards their friends and loved ones? Just something to think about.

Love wins. Trans rights are human rights.

[lemonlilactea]

Nobody warned me about taking t and not only the long toe and finger hair but also NOSE HAIR it's visible and I'm crying inside

[canigetahuuuuu]

Eroticizing tgel application. Putting on gloves and massaging you. Rubbing your strong shoulders and working my fingers into any knots. Tracing my fingers down your torso and stroking your happy trail. How lovely that your body is getting hairier with each dose. I pump the gel onto my gloved hand and rub it into your skin. I love helping you create the body you desire

[uncanny-tranny]

I think it's incredibly important to remind folks on testosterone or folks who want to reverse patterned baldness about their options, but man, does it sometimes suck wondering how much of our insecurities about our hair stem from backwards beliefs that to strive towards beauty is not only preferable but "makes you good."

As someone with a rather masculinized body pre-medical transition, patterned baldness has always seemed neutral. Hair is incredibly important (hell, much of my own energy is spent on my hair because I like it), but the pressure to have hair, to have hair the "right way" is something that I absolutely loathe.

I'm not here to judge people who don't want patterned hair loss or baldness, I'm here to say that those traits will never make you lesser. Not only is it neutral, but it is also just as worthy and beautiful.

[daensaism]

Happy (late) Trans Day of Visibility! We’re not going anywhere. 🏳️‍⚧️⚧️

[thuesdaynightdykelife]

I think they should have testosterone gel in public bathrooms next to the hand soap. Or like, in the little vending machines with the tampons and condoms.

[aliyahali]