#nonbinarism

[rjalker]

You can also have the Sphere be any gender you want, not only because the character is public domain but because canonically, the narrator never bothered to ask, and just assumes that the Sphere is a man who uses he/him pronouns because of his own biases.

The same way the King of Lineland assumed the narrator was a woman who used she/her pronouns.

In Lineland, Straight Lines are considered men. In Flatland, Straight Lines are considered women. This is a very blatant challenge to everything the narrator views as self-evident, and a challenge for the readers as well.

There's no reason you have to go along with the narrator's assumptions about the Sphere's gender. He never asked, and he had many opportunities to do so.

The King of Lineland assumed the narrator was a woman. The narrator assumed the Sphere was a man. We know that one of them is blatantly wrong, and Edwin Abbot Abbot did that on purpose. So why assume that the other one is right?

[sickly-sapphic]

my lil contribution to intentional nonbinary peoples day 🤍✨️

[ID: A swirly background with the flag colours of the nonbinary flag - yellow, white, purple and black - as the background to all slides. Purple text reads; What even is... cisgender nonbinary? Background by xrainestormx (pinterest).

The Basics. Cisgender Nonbinary isn't the most well-known identity, so it's not a shock that many people have no idea what this label means, or how a person could be cisgender and nonbinary - especially since transgender nonbinary is a far more common identity.

Gender Neutral Parenting. Overtime, the idea of raising your children outside of a gendered environment - including not labelling them as male or female and not using gendered pronouns - has gotten more popular, especially amongst gender diverse parents. These children, raised with no gender, are now growing up and finding themselves in a unique position - cisgender nonbinarism!!

Assigned Not-Your-Business At Birth. For some people, they view their assigned gender as irrelevant. They are nonbinary because they always have been, regardless of assigned sex or gender they were raised as. Identifying as transgender may not feel right, because it feels less like transitioning and more like... existing how they always have.

Intersex Nonbinaries. While the idea that intersex people are "cis nonbinary" is a misconception - some intersex people do identify this way. Due to their intersex variation, identity, or whatever reason they may have, they view their sex as nonbinary and therefore cisgender nonbinary feels most comfortable.

CisTrans and Unlabelled. Not every nonbinary person with fit conveniently into the cis or trans boxes. Some will feel their identify lays somewhere outside these two boxes, or mixes within it. CisTrans is an identity slowly clawing its way into common knowledge, as are unlabelled nonbinary folk.

Respect Cisgender Nonbinary People. End ID]

[the-delta-quadrant]

binary transgender person: i just use pronouns according to people's gender presentation and ask when i'm not sure.

me: this still doesn't leave space for nonbinary people though because perfect androgyny is impossible. it also doesn't leave space for any gnc people either. me wearing earrings and a dress isn't an invitation to call me she/her. you're still misgendering people.

binary transgender person: how dare nonbinary people speak over trans women??

if your binarity is so fragile that you think us wanting to be recognised and pointing out you're advocating for mass misgendering is "talking over trans women" then i can't help you

and we all know it's code for "how dare these fake transes talk over us real transsexuals?!"

meanwhile binary transgender people constantly use their binary privilege to erase us and silence us, to throw us under the bus so they can get the advantages of cisnormativity. they're not even "talking over us" because we don't even get a proper voice.

[amalias-whatsoever]

the genderfluid experience is not understanding the concept of non-binarism until you do and understanding the concept of binarism until you don't

[matiasthecamilion]

Sometimes it's feels like I'm boy bc definitely I'm not girl

[radiomogai]

[PT: Nonbinarist Flag. End PT]

Nonbinarist Flag

Based on flags of feminism and masculism, using non-binary symbol colored with yellow in front of two stripes of green and purple. 

Nonbinarism: advocacy of the rights and needs of nonbinary people and enbies/xents. A movement of non-binary pals and folks. Similar to abinarism/abinarist, neutrist/neutrism, (gender)queerism/(gender)queerist, gender centrism and neutralism/neutralist, but this one exists independently/autonomously. 

- AP

[scootarooni]

asexual pride VFlower!!

[bigmack2go]

Why do disabled people, fat people, authistic ppl and nonbinary always get hc’ed as asexual?

Dgmw have your headcannons, some of them i have too but it’s like all of them are fanon ace? Like i love the representation but is it really representiom if it’s just a concstant stereotype thats e v e r y w h e r e? And mostly no one else gets hc’ed as aro/ace it too! Like do you think just because i’m authistic and disabled and nonbinary i’m ow so innocent and i can’t have sex??? What??

[wereoz]

they all look so dykey here idk how to explain it

[the-delta-quadrant]

i love this, because while actual feminism does include all genders, it often does so in an exorsexist and generally transantagonistic way.

like, if you're unlucky you'll find a branch of feminism that only cares about cis women. if you're a bit more lucky you'll find a branch of feminism that cares about all women, but only women.

and if you're very lucky, you'll find the kind of feminism that pretends to be for everyone who is oppressed by the patriarchy, but still keeps defining people by their supposed proximity to womanhood and fails any men who are oppressed by the patriarchy, i.e. transgender, nonbinary and intersex men.

nonbinary people are way too often invisibilised by feminism, still put into two distinct categories, our experiences boiled down to "kinda like women" or "kinda like men" (where "woman" is always the oppressed group and "man" is always the oppressor group), not really having our specific experiences recognised at all. this "anyone but men" feminism harms oppressed men, but also nonbinary people who are perceived as men, were assigned male at birth, relate to masculinity etc.

then there's transfeminism which centres transgender women, but also doesn't properly account for nonbinary people or transgender men.

i still believe feminism is for everyone oppressed by the patriarchy. in german we have an acronym for this: FLINTA (women, lesbian, intersex, nonbinary, transgender, agender), which is good in theory but in practice is used to mean "women and people i think are women, but definitely not any men", completely ignoring that transgender, intersex and nonbinary men are included in this acronym, and that you can't actually see someone's gender, sex or gender modality by looking at someone.

this is an issue with even the best kinds of feminism, where it's all about "women and people i think are women". my specific experiences as a nonbinary person are not recognised. i also can't trust any feminism that's not normal about men who are oppressed by the patriarchy. feminists who aren't normal about men are usually not normal about nonbinary people either (even nonbinary feminists), especially if we're perceived as men, and i have no interest in standing for something that ultimately harms my brothers too. just the other day i saw a post talking about "femininity, bisexuality and sexual violence", continuing to talk mainly about bi+ women and sometimes saying "feminine bi+ people". i politely commented and said "i'm not a woman or feminine in any way, but i'm often perceived as such and i have also experienced the things talked about in this post. where do i fall into this without having to misgender myself?" i never got an answer. i think this is a prime example how feminism can fail nonbinary people by expecting us to still misgender ourselves and choose the "right" side of the binary. i don't entirely blame the person who posted this, but it's frustrating and i would have at least appreciated a reply to the comment i left. this is why we desperately need a movement that centres or at the very least actually includes nonbinary people, because even the movement that's meant to be for everyone oppressed by the patriarchy is oppressive towards us.

back in 2919 i strongly identified as a queerfeminist but since then i have grown more and more frustrated with all kinds of feminism.

out of all these terms, i probably align with nonbinarism most, i don't know why. other terms feel a bit too specific for me personally, i guess. nonbinarism will ultimately also help binary transgender and cisgender people.

i also feel a deep kinship with transgender and intersex men as other groups that are often forgotten or outright demonised by various feminisms and i'd love to see a movement over there too.

Happy Pride! Here's a maverism introduction post for you!

[rjalker]

If you see the post going around with this meme, it's just very blatantly fucking exorsexist and misogynistic. Non-binary people and feminists in languages with gendered grammar have been fighting for decades for gender-neutral language.

This shitty bigoted argument that is infantilizing everyone who has a problem with male default language (which is almost always the fucking default for a goddamn reason), is just pretending that these people don't understand how their own fucking languages work and is pretending that male default language and enforced gender binary language is just perfectly normal and doesn't have anything to do with your actual gender, despite all of the people who speak these languages that have been fighting against it for decades.

Do not fucking listen to any of the people insisting that you don't need gender neutral language. They are completely fucking ignoring and erasing the people who have been fighting for gender-neutral language for decades. Since before the fucking internet.

Feminists and non-binary people in heavily gendered languages are not just ignorant of how their own fucking languages work. Arguments and memes like this are literally just fucking bigotry.

Imagine if this just said something is fucking useless as "they don't know that they is only plural and can't be used for a single entity" or something else like that.

It's just blatant fucking bigotry and purposefully ignoring and now infantilizing all of the people who have been fighting for gender neutral language in their own languages.

Do not fucking fall for this shit. The people who speak these languages who are unhappy with the gender grammar are not just ignorant of how the fucking language they've literally grown up speaking works.

[ID: Meme drawing of four people socialising and enjoying a party while another stands in the corner watching and holding a cup. Text next to this other person reads: "They don't know gender in languages is just a grammatical category that can be related to but is not the same as human gender identities"]

This literally wants you to think of anyone who has a problem with gendered grammar is just fucking ignorant and doesn't understand how their own language works, and is getting upset and "causing problems" for no reason. It is extra sexist it is misogynistic it is just pure fucking bigotry and vandalizing the people fighting for equality and recognition.

It also wants you to assume that the only people who are upset by gendered grammar are outsiders who don't speak the language so that you can easily dismiss them as not actually worthy of consideration or respect, the way everybody still pretends that Latinx was created by fucking white people as a slur despite the fact that it was literally created by people who self-identified as Latinx in order to fight back against male default language and binary default language.

Anytime you see somebody arguing against the need for gender-neutral language by insisting that the current setup is perfectly fine and no one who really matters has a problem with it, it's bigotry.

This would be the equivalent of somebody trying to imply that the only people who want the existence of singular they then pronouns is people who don't actually speak English and just don't understand how it works. To erase all of the people who use they them pronouns in English. That's literally what this is.

[doodles-in-sand]

Have I ever posted warden who stares at gay people

Here they are

[the-delta-quadrant]

i made nonbinarist and maverist symbols.

[hotsugarbyglassanimals]

“well what does butch and femme even mean!!”

butch = complete rejection of femininity, and reclamation of masculinity (as a woman or nonbinary lesbian) to solely attract other women/sapphics.

femme = subversion and reclamation of femininity (as a woman or nonbinary lesbian) to solely attract other women/sapphics

These two identities are gender nonconforming due to the fact that womanhood itself is defined as a compliment to manhood. Historically, womanhood was only considered to serve men. Lack of attraction to men has oftentimes defined lesbians as “failed women”. For example, you can see this in how medical gatekeeping forces trans women to have to perform hyperfemininity and heterosexuality in order to receive access to transition care because those standards were considered the defining features of womanhood. This gatekeeping was significantly more widespread in the past (and I hesitate to say if that’s gone away in the present).

Butch and femme are two sides of the same coin. Counterparts. They are nouns, complete identities, not just descriptions. Butches protect femmes, femmes protect butches. They are also not mandatory or required to be a lesbian, so it’s not necessary to fit into either category. They are not “another gender binary.”

Butches are not “basically men” and they do not benefit from masculinity. Femme does not inherently mean hyper feminine, and it does not require performing patriarchally imposed expressions of femininity (such as wearing make-up, shaving, only wearing dresses). Butches and femmes are still butches and femmes even when wearing plain t-shirts and pants some days. It’s not an outfit to take on and off.

“Futch” does not exist as a material identity because butch means a strict rejection of femininity, while femme is a subversion of femininity. There are also roles that are considered with butch and femme, while futch does not have anything of the sort. “Futch” = neither, essentially.

This post is meant to be simple to get the basic idea across, as there’s more aspects to butch/femme culture that I didn’t go over. Butch and femme also involves specific behaviors in relation to courtship, roles, or protection of each other. You can read stone butch blues to get a better idea of that aspect as a starting point. That’s all! 👋

[richierambles]

yknow... when my friend first told me garrison went straight man -> gay man -> straight trans woman -> lesbian trans woman, i didnt believe her

now, well... holy fuck man

[k-wame]

nah bruv thats not wot we boutta do