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[heretherebedork]

Married? You can't talk to him or realize he had a reason for doing something without telling him to never show you his face again. What kind of marriage would that be? Every fight is just Jack kicking Joke out and Joke breaking down before pulling himself together and having to win him back? Again and again?

Everything is always on Joke's shoulders, the blame and the actions and everything and each time he opens up a bit more, each time he tries to dream a new dream, he is punished for it because to get that he had to do something and he's incapable of making the choices Jack wants him to make.

Joke is just as self-sacrificing as Jack, it's just that he does it differently and that hurts them both so much. Because Joke throws himself on a knife because he doesn't think he's worth loving, because he doesn't think he's worth anything. He'll forgive anyone and everyone because he desperately wants to be forgiven himself and doesn't think he can be.

Jack suggests marriage and Joke admits he's never thought about it and they adopt Toi Ting and love her and love each other but Joke still can't be forgiven, Joke still can't be listened to, Joke still doesn't get a word in even though he's the one who labeled his own betrayal.

I am just a little disappointed that Joke is doing the work again. That Joke has to always, always, always be the one to do the work. Jack will do work with Boss, yeah, sure, but Joke is the one who, again and again, takes on all the emotional labor in their relationship. Jack loves him but Jack has never had to work to love him or work for his love. Because Joke will always forgive him. Joke will always love him. But Joke?Joke always has to work for everything, for every ounce of love, for every moment they have, for everything... Joke's always working.

Jack is doing a lot but what he's not doing is having good character development in his relationship with Joke and that's a problem because Joke is having good character development in his relationships.

(I really do love this show and both boys but that doesn't mean I don't get frustrated sometimes. Don't get my started on The One Ring which grants Magic Plot Armor that doesn't make any sense because it is literally Just A Ring?!!?! What!??!)

[easternblocrelics]

SPN Banská Bystrica, Czechoslovakia Color negative 1980s

[cherryaire]

Thought some people might like to know that the two crusaders in the comments of this are calling people who look at public, linked profiles cyberstalking, aka a SERIOUS CRIME and also likening a rape and abuse survivor to the predator Nick Fuentes for pointing the fact out that no matter what you wanna call any of this, cyberstalking is NOT it. Speculating isn't cyberstalking EITHER.

All your credibility in raising awareness is shot the moment you start lying about crime and likening people to rapists. You have spat in the face of every actual cyberstalking victim by calling looking at a public social media profile the same thing. To be stalked is to live in constant, unending fear that they're going to show up again, not that some random person is going to read what you publicly posted on Twitter.

You don't get to claim people need and deserve respect and then turn around and do that. It's hypocrisy at its finest.

Stop using terms you don't understand to describe what social media is for—looking at other people's linked pages. Am I or everyone else engaging in stalking the minute they look at someone's profile? No. We're not, because that's what it's there for. You assuming everyone is doing what the one person you're very unsubtly vaguing in the tags is bullshit on your end.

Don't call shit crimes that aren't and don't liken people to Nick Fuentes because you disagree with them. Not very Clever Coop of you, is it? Harassing people who don't agree with you is some bottom of the barrel shit and I know for a fact the man in question has told people not to fight on his behalf and you seem to have missed that message really, really hard if this is how you act.

Once again reminding YOU to be respectful of the people you watch and be mindful of the boundaries they’ve expressed. The amount of speculation/assumptions about people’s private life’s and relationships because we see them on a screen is truly beyond belief!

They will disclose information to their communities if/when they are ready to do so. If they are not disclosing something it’s private for a reason.

It goes beyond parasocial and is literally cyberstalking… you wouldn’t do it to random stranger and you wouldn’t like it done to you!

- it does affect their relationships & interactions

- your breaking boundaries they have continually expressed they’re not comfortable with

- A lot of them have expressed they’ve had safety concerns previously

- it’s not ok to go to their family/friends profiles who are NOT online in the same way accounts public or not to out find details about their life they haven’t disclosed. And especially then to take images/videos.

Thank you for coming to my ted talk!

[dire-vulture]

I keep seeing posts like "people wanted unique dragons and now that we got one they're mad" but like fkdkfk are we sure these are the same groups of people. I wanted unique dragons, and all my friends wanted unique dragons and more diverse body types and we're all pretty thrilled personally c:

[azulbun]

Vent - I just want to vent somewhere, and It seems safe and quiet over here.

I've been struggling emotionally for a bit, I just wish to turn my brain off. Feeling alot chest pain from how emotional I'm getting. It really hurts. It's like I have a hole in my chest. I can't seem to relax. I can't sleep well, and I keep forgetting to take my ehalers.

Don't like myself or where I'm at either. Maybe these feelings will past in a week, idk. It's just hard sometimes. That's about it.

[carnivalcomics]

Didn't come out as planned Buttttt ITS MAJESTIC AT LEAST.

Yeah went WAYYY off than I imagined.

[jikupikus]

I actually hate “minor coded” Daisuke just say you view 18-19 year olds as children and move on. Just say you view Asian men as inherently infantile and move on. Just say you view victims of manipulation as inherently “child-like” and move the fuck on. I can’t stand some of your asses.

[spectrumgarden]

Something very weird about not speaking with (specific) people is that some of them are very quick to suggest you shouldn't be allowed to do every day things based on that single fact.

I dont speak with 90-97% of people, call it what you want but that's what it's like. It's not a choice, it's not anxiety, my brain just won't brain the words and my vocal chords refuse to do their job too.

Anyways. A few years back I ordered a present online for my at the time boyfriend. But the package arrived half torn open and looking generally speaking, awful. It was electronics so it having gotten damaged (internally) somehow through whatever it was put through while getting delivered was a real fear. So I checked, and they only had a phone line to help with issues like this, not email (email is already really hard for me, but like, can we please at least offer it? I cant FUCKING SPEAK WITH YOU! It doesnt work!). I asked my mother to call them. Well, what followed was an at first fairly nice person on the other end, who then quickly got tripped up by the difference in my mothers name, and the name the order was filed under (mine). What I then heard was something like this:

Mother: "No, I didn't order it, my son did"

Worker: "well I will have to speak to him about it"

M: "no he cant speak to you, hes autistic. Hes sitting right next to me hearing you though. He can nod or shake his head to questions and I can relay the answer"

W: "I will need verbal confirmation from him that I can give you information about the order"

M: "he. He cant do that. He doesnt speak."

W: "are you like, his legal guardian or something?"

M: "no, hes an adult, no guardianship... I just do his phone calls cause he doesnt... Speak."

W: "well are you sure he should be making purchases online? I dont think that's okay-"

M: (interrupting) "he can definitely order things, he knows how to handle money and it's His Money. Again, theres no guardianship. Legally hes absolutely allowed this decision."

(Insert long discussion about how to verify the information being allowed to be given out to her. I think we settled on sending a scan/ picture of my signature via email that now suddenly existed.)

My issue isnt that they dont wanna give out information to others easily, I appreciate privacy laws. It's just that they frequently make shit Not Accessible and then when people try to help their disabled relatives / friends / ... we are questioned why we arent under a fucking conservatorship or something when we dont Need That, we just need things to be a little more accessible! And preferably, without having a stranger talk about how we should actually not be allowed to make purchases, or have any sorta autonomy.

[lastoneout]

Ya know when people told me "when you're finally safe enough that you can leave survival mode and start to let go of and process your c-ptsd/trauma things are probably going to get really, really bad before they slowly start to get better" I thought that was reasonable. I did not understand that by "things are going to get bad" they meant "you're going to find yourself in the worst mental state of your entire life, but dw, that means it's working" and tbh I simply wish someone had been more clear.

Edit: If everyone could please take a minute and think about what it must feel like to be struggling and then have multiple strangers say to your face that they find the prospect of going through what you're going through so horrifying that they'd rather kill themselves and then stop leaving comments like that I would greatly appreciate it.

[happyherringbonkpickle]

[headspace-hotel]

Oh my god I'm sooooo mad right now

So. I have no business telling people not to collect wild plants/materials.

I do it all the time.

However.

The words "wildcrafted," and "foraged," even "sustainably harvested," are terrifying to see in an ad on Etsy or Instagram

There is a such thing as the honorable harvest where you ASK the plant if it is okay to take, with the intention of listening if the answer is NO. Robin Wall Kimmerer talked about this, She did not make it up, it is an ancient and basic guideline of treating the plants with respect.

Basically it is not wrong to use plants and other living things, even if this means taking their life. But you are not the main character. You have to reflect on your knowledge of the organism's life cycle and its role in the ecosystem, so you can know you are not damaging the ecosystem. You have to only take what you need and avoid depleting the population.

Mary Siisip Geniusz also talked about it in an enlightening way in her book Plants Have So Much to Give Us, All We Have To Do is Ask. She gave an example of a woman who was on an island and needed to use a medicinal herb to heal her injured leg or she would not survive the winter. In that situation she had to use up all of the plant that was on the island. This was permissible, even though it eliminated the local population, because she had to do it to save her life. But in return the woman had the responsibility to later return to the island and plant seeds of that plant.

And what makes me absolutely furious, is that there are a bunch of people online who have vaguely copied this philosophy of sustainability in a false and insulting way, saying "wildcrafted" or "foraged" materials to be all trendy and cool and in touch with nature, when it is actually just poaching.

If you are from a capitalistic culture the honorable harvest is very hard and unintuitive to learn to practice. I am not very good at it still. This is why it is suspicious if someone is confident that they can ethically and respectfully harvest wild materials with money involved.

So there's this lichen that is often called "reindeer moss." It looks like this:

It grows only a few millimeters a year.

This is "preserved" reindeer moss.

It is from Etsy, similar is also sold in many other online shops, many of which have the audacity to describe it as a "plant" for decorations and terrariums that needs no maintenance.

It is not maintenance-free, it is dead. It has been spray-painted a horrible shade of green. The people buying it clearly don't even know what it is. It is a popular crafting material for "fairy houses," whatever the hell those are. So is moss, also dead, spray-painted, and wild-harvested. Supposedly reindeer moss is harvested sustainably in Finland, where it is abundant, for the craft industry. However poaching of lichens and mosses is absolutely rampant.

It's even more upsetting because there's hardly any articles drawing attention to the problem. This one is from 1999. And the poaching is still going on.

There is a "moss" section on Etsy, and it is so upsetting

These mosses and lichens were collected from the wild. Most of the shops are in the Pacific Northwest or Appalachia, which are the major locations of moss and lichen poaching. There are some shops based in Appalachia selling "foraged" reindeer moss.

Reindeer moss may be abundant in Finland, but in Appalachia it should NOT be harvested to be sold on Etsy as craft supplies! Moss doesn't grow quickly. Big, healthy colonies like this took years to grow. Some of these shops have thousands of sales, all of bags and bags of moss and lichen, and thinking of how much moss and lichen that must be, I am filled with horror.

Clubmosses do not transplant well, and these ones have no roots. The buyers do not realize they have bought a dead plant because clubmoss stays green and pliable after it is dead.

This is especially awful because in Mary Siisip Geniusz's book she talked about clubmosses being poached so much for Christmas wreaths that they had almost disappeared from a lot of forests.

I don't even know if this is illegal if it's not a formally endangered species so I don't know if I can report them I'm just. really sad and angry

[heretherebedork]

I am saying this very quietly but I am growing increasingly tired of having the Same Conflict Over and Over in a show and I am not really enjoying the 'Joke accidentally betrays Jack and has to earn his forgiveness' as a plot point for the second time especially since the issue in between was just more of Joke having to constantly prove himself and failing every. single. time.

I am enjoying the show, do not get me wrong... but I really wish the plot didn't feel the same but more painful a second time around.

[genderkiller]

hey this isn't like me at all but is anyone paying attention to the fact that they just banned all gender affirming care for under 19s in alabama? is anyone paying attention to us at all?

[bamsara]

recent 1am-5am routine

[phleb0tomist]

i keep seeing this idea that Real wheelchair users all have custom active chairs, and that transport/standard chairs are just an embarrassing stereotype. “no one really uses those!” “stop drawing disabled characters in standard chairs!!”

well, plenty of us are a stereotype. sorry. custom chairs require MONEY and good medical support. meanwhile active chairs are unusable for some people. i used an uncomfy transport chair (the kind with tiny wheels and no way to self propel) for a year, and a standard chair for 7yrs. until i got my powerchair i was only ever pushed by a carer. a lot of disabled people will never use an active or custom chair. don’t pretend we don’t exist just because we don’t fit some cool independent ideal.

shoutout to people who use transport chairs and adaptive strollers and other chairs that need to be pushed by a carer

shoutout to people who use standard chairs that don’t fit their body

shoutout to people who use secondhand or makeshift wheelchairs

in my teens i literally felt invalid as a disabled person because i didnt have the ‘real actual’ type of wheelchair everyone talks about online. just my garbage transport chair that my mom had to push. ​but people with shitty wheelchairs exist and are extremely common actually