#myspace bulletin survey

[roseblushwrites]

ao3 wrapped [writer edition]

I know it's supposed to be an ask meme but I am not going to sit here and wait to be asked when I feel like just answering all of them right now! It has been like two decades since I last got to do a MySpace bulletin survey and frankly I miss infodumping about myself!!!

How many words have you written this year? 125,547. Which, quite honestly, does not seem like it could possibly be true.

How many works did you publish this year? 17

What work are you most proud of (regardless of kudos/hits)? Probably Lovers in a Fable and Engraved Upon My Heart, they're my two longest one-shots and I managed to get some actual plot in with the smut for once.

What work of yours has the most hits? Lover, Be Good to Me

What work of yours got more feedback than you expected? Known in the Ache. It was the first fic I'd posted in 13 years and I was not expecting a single person to notice or care.

Favorite title you used? The Force of Forbidden Love by Jusjuli Doutgods makes me laugh every time I see it still.

If you use song lyrics, which artist’s songs did you pull from the most? Hozier.

Pairing you wrote the most for this year? Cal/Merrin

Favorite pairing you wrote for this year? This is mean. I'm going to say Cal/Merrin though because they have more content to be inspired by than Jyn/Cassian, and they didn't require me to do the work of making up an OC, like Gale/Tav. So they were just easier to write about.

What work was the quickest to write? I honestly don't remember! I feel like for the most part my one-shots take an average of the same amount of time to write.

What work took you the longest to write? Known in the Ache. I wrote all of it before I started posting, over about five months. The first draft was only from Jyn's POV and was about half as long as the final version - I rewrote almost every part of it for the second draft and added in all the Cassian POV sections at that point.

How many WIPs do you have in your docs for next year? Seven, lol. Though most likely at least one of those will get written and posted before this year is over.

What’s your longest work of the year? Known in the Ache, 41,632 words

What’s your shortest work of the year? Watch Me Unfold, 1,963 words

What WIP are you taking into next year with you? For sure Hope to the Edge, my Merrical cowboy AU... but I also accidentally wrote an outline for a smutty one-shot in the urban fantasy Merrical AU setting I thought would never exist anywhere other than my own brain, so also that one.

What’s your most common “Additional Tags” tag? Aside from the obvious ones like "established relationship" and "shameless smut" and tags for various sexual acts that are basically on all of them, the answer to this is probably "consensual voyeurism"

Your favorite character to write this year? I have to say Cal. I have not loved a character the way I love him in yearrrrrssssss. He is just so earnest and I love his journey. And I just think he and Merrin deserve to fuck nasty 🤷‍♀️

The character that gave you the most trouble writing this year? Gale Dekarios. Good lord. I love this sweet man but his vocabulary and speech patterns can be so hard to get right. I think (hope?) I've mostly gotten the hang of it now, but every fic I still have to basically write the version a normal person would say in the initial draft and then "Gale-ify" it on the edit.

What’s one pairing you want to explore next year? Um... recent developments have me thinking a lot about a Karlach/Wyll/Dammon OT3. I've never written anything like that so it would be a challenge, but I am thinking about it 👀 kind of a lot 👀👀👀

Which work of yours have you reread the most? I actually have no idea. I usually reread everything I post several times in the first day it's up (and spot all the tiny edits I missed or new things I want to change 🙄) but after that I kind of... never look at it again lol.

How many kudos in total did you get this year? 2,433 😭♥️

Which work has the most comments? Known in the Ache, because it's the oldest and longest

Did you do any collaborative works this year? No 😞 maybe next year!

Did you write any gifts this year? Yes I wrote Lovers in a Fable for Sarah aka dangerwillrobinson aka @icapturedthecastle because it was her birthday and I wanted to do something nice for her 🥰 my love language is dedicating smut to my friends

Did you receive any gifts this year? Sarah dedicated free to a good home to me on my birthday because she's the best. clone club 4 lyfe

What’s your most common category? F/M

What do you listen to while writing? Most of the time it's Goodnight Moon ASMR videos because they're always so cozy and comforting but aren't the kind of ASMR that make me sleepy, but also aren't really distracting (which music tends to get for me).

Favorite work you wrote this year? My favorite is usually whichever one I just finished, so Engraved Upon My Heart at the moment.

Favorite line/passage you wrote this year? I'm going to be annoying and do lines from each character in my pairings. Favorite Cal line: “I know that first one was for you,” Cal panted into her mouth. “But this one’s gonna be for me, okay?” (Bedroom Hymns) Favorite Merrin line: “You bumbled too much for it to be lurking.” (The Force of Forbidden Love by Jusjuli Doutgods) Favorite Cassian line: “It’s okay,” he said. “I’ll keep you warm.”(Known in the Ache ch. 10) Favorite Jyn line: “Can I at least get a knife or something?” (Known in the Ache ch. 9) Favorite Gale line: “Oh, but maybe we’ve already arrived at that point.” (Lover, Be Good to Me) Favorite Tav line: "You might be made of magic, but magic is not made of you." (Engraved Upon My Heart)

Biggest surprise while writing this year? Honestly, that I could still do it 🙏

[vissenya]

▬ 𝖦𝖤𝖳 𝖳𝖮 𝖪𝖭𝖮𝖶 𝖬𝖤 ▬ & nine people you want to get to know better

tagged by: @lucarias THANK YOU!! :*

tagging: not tagging anyone because I HAVEN'T BEEN HERE IN AGES AND I DON'T KNOW ANYONE'S USER ANYMORE LOL. but as always, please do this and tag me in it if ya do!

last song: porcelain by moby (it's in the generation electronica spotify playlist ok)

favorite color: pink/purple/lime green PRETTY MUCH EVERY COLOUR?

currently watching: castlevania nocturne!

last movie: we just watched stonehearst asylum, it was OKAY-A! the last movie i saw in theatres was a haunting in venice, it was also OKAY-A!

currently reading: gyo by junji ito, my favourite :)

sweet/savory/spicy: absolutely all three, i will not choose

relationship status: married binches!!

current obsession: SPENDING ALL MY MONEY LOL. and king of the hill. but also my alice in wonderland phase is back in full swing too

last google: jeremy allen white.......... .... .. .. ....

currently working on: trading for customs, and petpages for my neopets!

[oldinterneticons]

One of the other old blog sites things I really enjoyed was surveys. There were whole communities of people (on Livejournal and Xanga especially, but I think most people associate them with MySpace bulletins) who would write and fill out these long lists of questions and you’d answer them about yourself.

I still have a ton of them saved (I mostly did them in a word doc like a little diary because I was too scared to share a lot of stuff online lol). Would anyone be interested in a side blog of those? Not with my personal answers, but just blank for anyone who wants to fill them in. Idk if the internet has the attention span anymore for that to become a thing again but I really liked ‘em.

[almostempty]

get to know your moots

thanks for the tag @yxtkiwiyxt, i can never resist a classic myspace about me bulletin survey throwback bc i yearn for the days of agonizing over finding the perfect profile song

what's the origin of your blog title?: it's too much pressure to create a witty name, i've used such gripping online usernames as waterbottle, casual-stapler, oldfruit, etc..

favorite fandoms: this is all i participate in actively! but i do enjoy being exposed to other fandoms through y'all here and there

OTP(s) + shipname: i just want all of the various fictional ppcu characters for me

favorite color: black n yellow 🖤💛

favorite game: nothing recently, but i enjoy zelda games, rdr2, elden ring, and roller coaster tycoon (1999)

song stuck in your head: listening to Sativa - Jhené Aiko, Swae Lee currently

weirdest habit/trait?: dissociating in car (parked)

hobbies: reading, writing, finding new/old music, making myself laugh over silly memes, swimming, solo adventures, people watching, going to da movies, etc.

if you work, what's your profession?: drug and alcohol counseling and juvenile justice advocacy

if you could have any job you wish what would it be?: obligatory i do not dream of labor, but like @yxtkiwiyxt, for my next trick i'd like to be a digital nomad somehow

something you're good at: i have a good picker for friends, i'm occasionally funny, dogs like me

something you're bad at: being concise, perception/management of time in any manner and remembering

something you love: music, all day, every day, non stop

something you could talk about for hours off the cuff: various rants about capitalism (i'm fun), movies i haven't seen but feel like i could accurately guess the plot of, my fav cursed double features

something you hate: my poor perception of time and memory issues, executive dysfunction, facing my demons aka doing IFS work in therapy

something you collect: concert vids, i think i'm the only one that rewatches them?, books, nearly dead peach ice Lost Mary's

something you forget: plans, texts, objects and people not in my line of sight, if a memory real or a dream/idea, if i've already told you the story i'm halfway through (but i still think it's funny so i intend on finishing it either way)

what's your love language?: i know it's an innocent question, but i have mad beef with the author of the book about love languages and the christian gender roles perpetuated in the book and lack of empirical research around the concepts, and the creator's homophobia, but i digress (i told y'all i'm fun)

favorite movie/show: some movies: office space, SLC punk, eternal sunshine, the thing, drive, bottoms; don't make me pick shows rn

favorite food: been unable to stop getting nachos and the poblano crema from the taqueria on my block for the last ~6 weeks

favorite animal: big time animal lover here, shout out to my dogs!! i can't choose a fav otherwise

are you musical?: i can play a couple instruments, i wish i could sing

what were you like as a child?: a pleasure to have in class

favorite subject at school?: art, but i pursued science

least favorite subject?: i never took chemistry because everyone complained about how hard it was and i figured out you didn't need it to graduate, but i suppose technically i didn't take it so can't confirm

what's your best character trait?: adaptability (i just took an updated personality test lmao to help me figure one out)

what's your worst character trait?: perfectionist (not with editing heheh)

if you could change any detail of your day right now what would it be?: a few interpersonal interactions

if you could travel in time who would you like to meet?: maybe an artist from the 27 club, just to see them perform

recommend one of your favorite fanfics (spread the love!):

two completed longfics i enjoyed <3, best kept secret- enemies to lovers/bodyguard din by luckbealincoln on ao3, vampire waltz - idiots in love/ max phillips by absurdthirst, wardenparker on ao3

obligatory free memes if u made it this far

tags, but no pressure: @auteurdelabre @gothcsz @lovely-vamp-princess

@slimybeth69 @swankyorange @syd-djarin @itwasntimethatdidit40 @probablyreadinsmut @thundermartini @ace-turned-confused

@persephone-girl @thischarmingmandalorian @pinkypromisepascal

@hoelaris @lilac-boo if u read this and i didn't tag you, tell me all ur secrets and tag me anyway <3

[killallyourfrendz]

i always reblog things about like reaching out and talking to mutuals or followers or just tumblr users in general but i also never do that lol so i kinda like those little inbox/ask chains/prompts. I really miss myspace bulletin survey chains tbh lol

[alsjeblieft-zeg]

017 of 2025

Trends: Which trends have you took part in?

I own a smartphone. I wear jeggings and/or skinny jeans. I love to text. I watch a lot of movies. I watch Netflix. I own a pair of leggings. I listen to pop music. I’ve been to a concert. I use facebook regularly. I used to use Myspace regularly. I watch youtube videos. I’m a youtuber. I listen to music with earbuds. I have an ipod. I own a digital camera. I take selfies. I use a selfie stick. I wear Converse. I straighten my hair. I own a boho mandala tapestry. I have my wedding planned out on Pinterest. I Pin crafts on Pintrest. I drink green tea. I’ve tried yoga. I used to post myspace bulletins. I take surveys regularly. I post in the message boards. I make surveys regularly. I meditate. I’ve donated to charity. I wear all black or mostly all black. I own an off-the-shoulder top. I own a romper. I own an oversized sweater. I’ve worn a beanie. I’ve knit a scarf. I use emojis. I’ve typed “lol.” I have my ears pierced. I have a tattoo. I have my nose pierced. I own flats. I own riding boots. I own a cardigan. I like Justin Bieber. I like boy bands. I listened to Britney Spears, *N Sync, and the Backstreet Boys as a kid. I was a Spice Girls fan. I grew up watching Nickelodeon. I always wanted to be on the show All That. I always wondered what it would be like to get slimed. You use Snapchat. You have a Twitter. You have bumper stickers on your car. You own oversized sunglasses. You listen to rock music. You played with Barbies as a kid. You collected Beanie Babies as a kid. You read the Harry Potter series. You read The Hunger Games. You played with legos as a kid. You have played Mario Kart. You owned a GameBoy. You’ve worn bellbottoms. You’ve tie-dyed a shirt. You’ve worn a choker. You’ve worn silly bands. You’ve worn macrame bracelets. You own a class ring. You own a varsity jacket. You’ve been to a high school football game. You’ve had highlights in your hair. You’ve dyed your hair. You’ve owned a Discman. You’ve owned a Walkman. You’ve owned a boombox. You used to collect pogs. You used to collect Pokemon cards. You used to wear a “Livestrong” wristband. You smoke cigarettes. You smoke weed. You’ve owned a scooter. You used to play Four Square. You’ve had colorful bands on your braces. You wear contacts. You’ve worn black-rimmed glasses. (still do) You own something tribal print. You own something from Aeropostale. You’ve shopped at Hot Topic. You’ve shopped at Deb. You’ve worn a studded belt. You’ve taken a quiz to find out your Hogwarts house. You’ve taken a quiz to find out which Disney princess you are.

[hayleybaaby]

Bringing back surveys!

Y’all remember back in the day, when MySpace bulletins were where we poured our hearts out in survey questions?!? It was totally fun lol I used to do this on my last Tumblr account. I can’t access it anymore, so I’m starting over here 🩷

Tired of those surveys made by high school kids? ‘Have you ever kissed someone? Missed someone? Drank alcohol?’
Here are 40 questions for Grown Ups:

1.What bill do you hate paying the most?
it’s a tie between the light bill & land/vehicle taxes smh 🙄

2.Where was the last place you had a romantic dinner?
honestly y’all it’s been so long I literally do not know 😅😂 hubby & I’ve never been out without children lol y’all gotta think my oldest two existed when I met him, so it was never an alone moment 🙂‍↔️

3. What do you really want to be?
I always wanted to be a psychologist, but that’s too many years in school & now I’ve got too many kids lol so it’ll have to be a nurse probably.. I’m really leaning towards Lactation Consultant 🤱🏼

4. How many colleges did you attend?
just one, online.

5. Why did you choose the shirt you have on?
it’s actually a romper from Temu lol it’s all about comfort as well as accessibility… for a breastfeeding 2.5 year old 🤱🏼

6. Thoughts on gas prices?
I don’t have to worry about getting gas cus my husband & I currently share a vehicle 😂😩 it definitely isn’t convenient when all he does is work 12–15hr shifts & only has off on the weekends.. or I can drive him one hour one way (leaving my house, at the latest, by 4am.. with 4 children).

7. First thought when the alarm goes off in the morning?
since it’s still summer break for my oldest 2 kiddos, the only alarm I am currently having to hear is Monday — Friday to get up with my husband & make his breakfast n lunch for the day. It’s quite relaxing to know that I then don’t have to rush up two cranky kids at 6am to get them to their school bus (with our van that’s only meant to be on our road as it’s got some issues — now the worst part is that the battery is constantly dying, leaving me unable to get them to the bus stop on time). ⏰ my life is pretty simple tho I just wake up thankful for my husband who provides for us, my blessing of kids, & the fact that we’re never hungry or sick. But I’m not gonna lie, my mental health is a big factor when I wake up. A lot of times I have to forcibly remind myself of those amazing things in my life or I won’t want to move from the bed. Period. Having severe depression, severe anxiety, ADHD, OCD, PTSD, etc isn’t something fun to live with… like I’m forever battling my own brain 24/7.

8. Last thought you have before you go to bed?
are my children really happy? Am I doing my best? Then of course I think about my husband & his life as well. Is this what he wanted?!? 4 kids (2 bonus kids for him although he’s never considered them his stepkids) & a wife who solely depend on him whilst he pulls nasty trashcans in the hot sun for up to 15hrs a day with barely any peace at all…

9. Do you miss being a kid?
I took being a kid for granted. BiG TiME. I dealt with my mental health issues since I was very young, so I never got to truly enjoy my childhood. The freedom, the peace, the happiness, the absolute zero fkin cares in the world! I wasn’t depended on for anything lol & I had NO BILLS 💸 I literally thought that I knew what sadness n stress was bahaha NOPE 🙂‍↔️ now that I’m an adult, I do wish that I would’ve cherished my childhood & parents more. They weren’t perfect, but they loved me & only wanted what they thought was best for me. I was their main focus besides my sister. They kept the fridge full, lights/internet/Dish network/mortage/any other bills paid, worked, my Mama always cooked, & I had plenty of nice belongings. My Dad kept me with some of the latest technology (although he’s always been anti-Apple & it’s all I’ve ever loved lmao) & my mama always took me to the mall or good stores to buy us nice clothing! 🫶🏻 I was very blessed as a child. 🩷

10. What errand/chore do you despise the most?
the worst chore would definitely be the dishes 😂 I don’t get to run many errands cus I mean Rome is constantly working with the vehicle lol. But I hate dishes. Maaan. Not having a dishwasher is some BS 🖕🏻

11. Up early or sleep in?
tbh sleeping in is always my favorite 😩💜😅 but I’m forever up early now due to my husband’s job. He’s gone for usually like 15–16hrs; that’s usually plus the 1hr trip to & from. But oftentimes he will work a 15hr shift & be gone even LONGER. His days begin so fkin early & end insanely, miserably late…

12. Found love ?
yesss, in a few places. Specifically my beautiful children & hardworking, handsome husband 🥹 we’ve been together for 5 years on April 26th, 2019 & married for 3 as of March 23rd, 2021 💍👩🏼‍🤝‍👨🏾

13. Favorite lunch meat?
i love either deli sliced turkey or ham haha & I enjoy some buffalo chicken, too… I used to have a fave brand, but they don’t always have it anymore so I can’t ever get it smfh it’s Sara Lee but now all they ever have is Prima Della or whatever UUUUGGGGHHH.

14. What do you get at Walmart every time?
without fail, always fruits 🍎 🍌 🍉 🍓 & so much more lol like diapers, wipes, etc. but my kiddos will go through a large like $5 container of strawberries IN ONE SITTING. 🪑 it’s bs haha they eat an entire bag of oranges in one day as well as an entire thing of bananas. The grapes?!? Those don’t last 24hrs either. I hide the green & red apples in the back, but when they run outta immediate fruit, they go for these n they’re gone within 24hrs as well 🙂‍↔️

15. Beach or lake?
the beach 🏖️🌞🌊 it’s getting closer for our beach trip.. leaving on my birthday on Friday! ♋️ July 12th 🥳 but we also enjoy the lake trips we have with MawMaw (my mother). 🏊🏽‍♀️

16. Is marriage outdated?                                                                                                                                                              Most definitely not. 💍 if it isn’t your thing then okay, but I love being my husband’s wife🖤 it’s such a beautiful feeling. March 23rd, 2021–Forever ♾️

17. What famous person would you like to have dinner with?
Marilyn Monroe. 🤍 Y’all never said if they’re alive or not lol.

18. Ever crashed your vehicle?
yessss 🥺 the most traumatizing experience of my entire adulthood (other than my ex trying to take my life & abusing me, but I meant like I guess technically something that was in MY so-called control). it was my Mazda. I only had a GPS to rely on. It was back in April 2019, a few weeks before I met/began dating my husband. Either way, I was otw to get my iPhone fixed at the only local Apple Store.. my phone had broken the day before. literally over an hour away from where I was living at the time (with my parents in Prospect, VA). I’d just drove over the Chesterfield line when I ran off the road, & instead of past the white line to your right there wasn’t more pavement BUT GRAVEL. Idfk why they do this cus tbh it caused my wreck 😞 I was going probably 60–65mph (basically the speed limit cus I never speed with my kids). Instead of wrecking into a tree head on into the woods directly to my right, I overcorrected & flipped my car 5 TIMES into the median that separated both ways of traffic. I’m blessed cus it could’ve kept going & landed on the opposite side of traffic ☹️ my oldest 2 were my only children at the time. Miranda was 4 years old while Leonardo was only 2ish. I was told by the police & first responders that if I hadn’t properly strapped my kids into their seats, they wouldn’t have made it 💔💔💔 Same for me wearing my seatbelt. They told me that my lil car did her job protecting us & that if it’d had been a Honda, it would’ve balled ALLLL up (I used to drive a Honda before my Mazda, so that was a scary image). I couldn’t imagine man I smacked my head each time we flipped.. if my babies hadn’t been strapped in, omg.. they wouldn’t be alive. & all I could think at the moment in the accident was trying to get back there to my babies cus at this point I’d lost complete control of my vehicle & knew that there wasn’t anything else I could possibly do – when we finally stopped flipping, it was like.. slow mo. I couldn’t. I wouldn’t look in the backseat. I just had to get them out. My driver’s side was crushed in as well as my entire front windshield. My back windshield was completely blown out as well as most of the windows. I. Was. Petrified. I kicked out my passenger’s side door. The silence was deafening. Neither of them screamed. But after the door was ripped opened, I was met with 4 wild eyes. They were definitely terrified of course. My oldest claimed that she blacked out (that’s obviously not how she said it, but that’s what had to have happened cus when I asked her what she remembered she couldn’t tell me at all). My two year old began crying because obviously I’m in a state of real panic & terror. & he’d just been in a tragic accident. I instantly ripped them both outta their car seats. Other people on the road pulled over to help/comfort/figure out what happened. I couldn’t even fkin call 911 because my phone was broken, hence why I was even in the vehicle otw to where I was. I met one of my closest friends at the time (she lives & works in that area; I believe that she’d just gotten off from work at her teaching job). She sat with me after the police & EMS left. I was beyond grateful. We waited for my mother to pick me & the kids up. We couldn’t go anywhere cus after an accident, those car seats are basically useless. My mom & I were currently not on great terms cus we’d been arguing BADLY for several months. But I’ll never forget the fear in her voice & the relief when she finally got to us. Over an hour away, as I stated. I also believe that she was at work at the time it occurred, which was even farther from where I was located cus she worked the opposite way from where we lived. But either way, it was scary & I wish that we’d never had to experience it. Although my oldest two don’t remember, I do. It’s forever in my heart. Still makes me cry to this day! 🥺😪🤧 I posted some images from the wreck in this thread.

20. Strangest place you’ve brushed your teeth?
idk, at a campground I guess?!? lol like outside of our tent? 🏕️

21. Somewhere you’ve never been but want to go?
there’s quite a few places! I’d love to travel. I want to visit Italy (both of my grandmothers are Italian) & Egypt. I’ve always been fascinated with the pyramids, the beautiful people & culture. Then of course I’d love to take my kids to both Disney World & Disney Land 😀 I’d also LOVE to visit Mexico, as my oldest 2 children are 50% Mexican 🇲🇽 But idk I doubt it’ll ever be more than a fantasy cus my toxic, volatile, extremely abusive ex was deported there after he attempted to kill me (& some other really fking traumatizing things happened, in front of my then newly 3 year old & almost 1 month old). I try my best to educate my babies on their heritage, but I’m the white patent who isn’t super educated other than what she learned in Spanish class in 10th & 12th grade plus the college course I took. I do my own researching of course & I’ve got many Mexican mama friends online, but it’s definitely NOT the same.

22. At this point in your life would you want to start a new career or relationship?
I wouldn’t mind a career in a few years. I’ve got too many small children to care for right now. I’m truly more than likely going to pursue a career in nursing! It’s never too late 😃 especially as a recovering addict, I can assist with a lot of that stuff as well. But my true dream would to become a lactation consultant 🤱🏼 as a Mommy who’s been nursing for now about 10 years almost straight (I took off maybe a year because I’d weaned my firstborn son {my 2nd child} a little after 2 years old then fell pregnant with my 3rd child a few months later). Other than that, I’ve forever been producing breast milk 🥛 it’s something I’m insanely educated on & very passionate about 🤍🩷💛

23. How old are you?
I’ll be 30 on July 12th! ♋️ 🎂 🎉 🎈 🥳 🎁

24. Do you have a go to person?
it’s always my husband & then if not him, my mother. two of my biggest supporters 💜🖤 I also get a lot of love & support from my babies, especially my oldest. She’s always trying to comfort Mama 🥹

25. Are you where you want to be in life?
I’m honestly content with my life but could be happier if I was able to help my husband provide for our family. But I’m super happy to be a Mommy. I’m a young Mama, started having kids at 19… I never imagined that for myself tho. My dreams & plans were to attend college & become a psychologist! 👩🏼‍⚕️

26. Growing up what were your favorite cartoons?
rugrats, rocket power, hey arnold, pinky & the brain, ahhh monsters, courage the cowardly dog (a top fave), catdog, sssooo much more lol

27. What about you do you think has changed since you were a young kid?                                                                         Obviously my looks lol & maybe the way I see life now. I have much more to live for now as well 😊

28. Looking back at high school were they the best years of your life?
F no lmao I was kinda like the weirdo loner kid who didn’t like nor trust anyone 🤣 I’d been hurt too many times & bullied ALL throughout my entire school education. I began fighting back tho in 8th grade 🤷🏼‍♀️ maybe a lil younger when two boys were picking on me during a test & I’d turned around, snatched one of the loser’s tests & threw it in the trash 🙃 the teacher literally smiled lol. Smh. But either way, I’d gotten into too many fights/trouble (I legit stayed in ISS & OSS plus detentions) my 9th grade year n Prince Edward threatened to expel me – they then “agreed” to suspending me the first 10 days of the 10th grade school year. My mama wasn’t having that 😭🫠 she pulled me from public school & enrolled me in our local dreaded, racist ass private school y’all lemme tell ya 😩😤 I couldn’t stand that place. I’d legit eat lunch in the bathroom. It was depressing. I didn’t really make friends either. I didn’t try to tbh. I begged to return to public school, & my mom made me promise that I’d stay outta trouble or she’d send me right back cus all she wanted was what was best for me! I did my best mostly throughout my 11th grade year. During my senior year, I kept skipping classes to go to work at my daycare job looool 😝 they literally tried to fail me cus I didn’t attend my last 2 blocks of the day (an English class that was combined into 2 blocks due to it being advanced English). I was very capable – I scored a perfect score on my SAT in writing. ✍️ But I wanted to go to work, & I was always depressed at schools. People try to always say (since we’re now all adults), “Hayley, you were so mean in school!” Naw, y’all bullied tf outta me, causing me severe anxiety & severe depression, which made me misunderstood 🫥 it’s cool tho I’m glad to have graduated cus I mean, I did well in school. I even received an academic jacket for having a certain GPA level in school 🏫 I wish that I’d participated more now that I’m an adult. Screw the jerks. I missed out on both proms as well as refusing to play sports with my schoolmates, & I was a lover of softball 🥎 once I aged outta youth league ball, I played one year for the private school (it was about favoritism & who your parents knew, so I NEVER got played). I’ll never forget when my school ball coach stumbled upon one of my youth league ball games & saw how much the team literally relied on me. My fave base was 2nd base & then I loved to pitch, but they literally put me EVERYWHERE! If they knew that the girl was a hard hitter, I’d be placed in the outfield to ground the ball or catch a popup 🤷🏼‍♀️😁 But I literally played every single base y’all one inning I’m on 1st base then next I’m pitching (I did a lot of pitching btw) then I’m on 3rd base & then next I’m in the outfield 🫠😂😅 I would get legit mad af cus I only wanted to play 2nd base 😒 But it was AMAZING. I loved my last year playing softball for PEFYA!

29. Are there times you still feel like a kid?
honestly..? Maybe. I mean. I don’t work. I don’t physically provide for my family. I literally have to rely on my husband’s income. It’s just.. stressful. When my youngest ones are old enough to go to school, I’m going to start working again. I haven’t worked since 2013, exactly 1 month before my oldest was born 👶🏽 it’ll be.. different 😵‍💫👀 but it’s worth it in the end.

30. Did you have a pager or one of those old flip phones?
I definitely wasn’t old enough for a pager lol 📟 But I had one of those cute lil badass pink flipphones that stayed charged up for DAYS! I received it for my 12th birthday 🥳 I’ll never forget how I was gifted it.. my dad took my sister n I up the road to check the mail more than likely, & otw back to the house, a phone starts to ring. My dad’s all grinning & excited. He finally hands it to me & tells me that it’s MY phone 📞 I was so hype lol back then those things were THE SHIIII 🔥 I remember when I went over on my texting limit & got in soooo much trouble when I was in 8th grade 😭

31. Was there a hangout spot when you were a teenager?
y’all. I’m from Farmville. Our “chill spot” in the early 2010’s was Walmart or the bowling alley 🤷🏼‍♀️🫠 & remember ya gotta be 21 to get in the bar to drink. So, a lot of us chilled at Walmart & would literally walk around it lmfao 🤣💀🤧 you’d think we’d have chilled at the park or maybe even tried to hang on the local university campus (Longwood), but nope. Walmart it was 🤪

32. Were you the type of kid you’d want your children to hang out with?
absolutely! I’m loyal AF & always have been 💕 to the point where I’ll genuinely make mistakes trying to defend or help you & instead possibly make the situation worse 😬🥴 I ride for my people.. I don’t have many close people in my life. It’s literally my husband, my 4 kids, & I speak to my parents. I have relatives I keep up with, but I mean, my CIRCLE is my family 🫶🏻 I also always stood up for my friends NO MATTER WHAT. I’d go to war behind them! I hope that my babies have amazing friends whom they are able to remain lifelong friends with. I never was able to have that..

33. Was there a teacher or authority figure that stood out to you?
most of them were total assholes 😅😆 but I did have two favorites. My 11th grade history teacher n my government/psychology teacher for 11th n 12th grade I believe.

34. Do you tell stories that start with when I was your age?
I definitely do this with my kiddos 😂😂😂 I cannot get over the fact that I’ll be 30 on Friday! It’s unbelievable at times 😱🤯🤬

35. Are you religious?
let’s get real right quick. I wasn’t raised in a super religious household. My dad will tell ya he’s a logical man & simply cannot find comfort in stuff like that, which was strange to hear recently from my Dad… cus growing up I always knew that he wasn’t a religious man or anything but didn’t know he thought the EXACT SAME WAY that I do! It’s interesting to hear. My mother says that she does believe in a God, that someone or something is definitely up there & there’s something after this. I truly wish that I could believe that 😞☹️ my life would be so much more positive. Instead, I live in constant fear of death cus I believe once you’re lying in the ground, that’s all. Ain’t nothing after this 😢 i want to spend every waking moment with my loved ones. I have to enjoy the time that we have 😪 I don’t want to think this way, but I’m a very logical person & so it’s hard to believe anything else. My husband was raised Christian but converted to Islam when he was a very young adult ☪️ I love that about him tbh it’s such a beautiful religion in itself. But idk I just don’t have the capacity to truly believe in that stuff.. why are there SO MANY RELIGIONS?!? Which one is real?

36. What’s your favorite subscription to watch?

I’m obsessed with Paramount+ right now. Binging The Challenge’s last few seasons since I got super behind when I moved in with my husband over 5 years ago! I was also trying to catch up on Are You The One? I love my garbage reality love trash TV 💕💕💕 I’m also in love with Discovery+ for the True Crime as well as YouTube Premium, my general go to. For the true crime as well plus music & my sleep sounds. 🎼

37. Are you into politics?

I was very into politics, for many years. Idk, kinda gotten outta them. Everyone’s fake af & it’s terrifying. But I fkin hate Trump. He’s the TERRORIST! He’s a racist bigot who says harmful things. People will literally try to defend this man’s “running” of the country due to gas prices being so low when he was in office in 2020.. cus.. well.. I DUNNO.. the fkin COVID PANDEMIC JUST HIT!?! 🤒 nobody was leaving the damn house! It’s scary. My children are ALL biracial. Oldest 2 are half Mexican while the youngest 2 are half black. They must learn that hatred is completely WRONG. I’ll never support that sh*t. I’ll never forget when I was finally old enough to vote! It was 2012. I’d just turned 18 back in July. Booooy, was I grateful that I had just turned 18 to be able to officially vote in the presidential election! 🗳️ I voted for President Obama, of course. Proudly ☺️

38. Do you own any animals?

Yes, we have a pitbull named Jax & then a so-called Frenchie named Prissy, but the older she’s gotten the more… bully she’s looking 😩😭 I don’t even like thinking about it! Spent all that money to more than likely have gotten straight up ROBBED 💔 we also have outside cats named Ren featuring her baby kittens, Princess, Kiko, Libby, & I can’t recall the other one’s name rn 🐈 I’m not a big fan of animals lately tbh they’re very messy & it’s difficult with 4 children. I’m doing my best, but wooooo 😮‍💨 I miss my ferret. She was amazing in every way & super easy to care for ☹️ I miss my girl.

39. Do you have any children?

Yes! 4 beautiful babies 🫶🏻 Miranda Analena (10 years old), Leonardo Eduardo (7 years old), Zarriah Devonne Lynn (4 years old), & Khaza De’Onte (2.5 years old). 👧🏽🧒🏽👧🏽🧑🏽‍🦱

40. What’s your favorite meal to cook?

I like to make chicken Alfredo or surf n turf 😋 🤤 also tacos n burritos or chicken quesadillas 🌯 the kids would prefer burgers, chicken sandwiches, chicken nuggets, pizza, & fries over a good ass meal tho lmao smfh 😅

[suckitsurveys]

Have you ever been on a laptop inside a vehicle? Yup.

While on the road, do you play any road games? Sometimes.

Do you have a button up shirt? I have a couple.

Has there been a word you thought you were spelling correctly but then you find out that it isn’t? What was the word? I can’t think of anything but I am sure there was stuff when I was younger.

Do you have a garden in your backyard/front yard? Yeah. Our backyard has a flower garden and a veggie garden. The front of the building is lacking though. Our landlord just ripped out a bush and now the front of the building looks so plain, but we don’t use the front so I don’t really care.

What color is your water tower in your city/town? We don’t have one, our water comes from the lake.

Have you ever picked apples before? Yes, its a new tradition with my nieces.

Are you scared of semi-trucks? Especially when you’re driving next to one? I mean, I prefer not to be traveling next to them.

Have you accidentally put lipgloss/lipstick on your teeth before? It’s possible. Not like, completely applied it to my teeth instead of my lips, but maybe slipped and got it on my teeth?

If you wear chapstick, do you have any special flavors or just the regular kind? I prefer a flavored one but it’s not a necessity.

Do you think little babies look cute in overalls? Sure, they can.

Have you ever been to the site www.someecards.com? Yeah a long time ago.

Have you ever tried Crystal Lite? If so, what’s your favorite? I have and I do not like it.

Have you ever had a dream that your teeth were falling out? Probably.

Have you ever went on www.dreammoods.com to interpret your dreams? Nope.

Do you own any pajama bottoms with a design on them? Explain what it is [or you can post a picture up if your heart desires to.] I have ones with bats on them and ones with the fair isle christmas print and some pikachu ones and some garfield ones.

Do you sometimes wonder how surveys were created in the first place? Was someone just so bored that they decided to ask someone random questions? That’s a good question. Did this start in MySpace bulletins or on LiveJournal??

Do you like eating shrimp? I do.

Ever heard of Rochester, NY? Yes.

Do you have a fence? Yes, but it doesn’t close in the yard; there’s an opening where the driveway is.

Do you have any signs on your bedroom door? Nope.

If you have any pets, do you talk to them in a baby voice? I do.

Does your head hurt when you cry?: Sometimes yeah.

Who was the last person to comfort you?: Mark.

Are you currently wearing any socks?: Yes.

What’s the closest thing to your right hand?: My mouse.

When was the last time you made a wish?: I don’t remember.

Have you ever watched a foreign film with English subtitles?: Yeah.

When was the last time you wore athletic shorts?: Yesterday, if bike shorts count as athletic shorts.

Do you think that in the end, everything will fall into place?: I don’t know.

What’s the closest transparent object to you?: My coffee cup.

What was the last thing you swallowed?: Coffee.

Do you like mayonnaise?: Sure.

Anyways… When was the last time you went out in the rain?: The other day.

Have you ever seen a Tim Burton movie, like Coraline, 9, etc.?: Yes, I’ve seen most of his movies.

Do you keep 3D glasses after you’ve left the movie theatre?: I don’t like seeing movies in 3D.

When was the last time you heard a British accent in person?: Last weekend. One of the contractors we work with at my job is British.

Who was the last person to unsurprisingly disappoint you?: My sister.

Do you know what FTW stands for?: Yes.

When was the last time you went bowling?: It’s been a while.

Do you like cats?: I LOVE cats.

Do you use aerosol hairspray? It’s bad for the environment, you know…: I don’t use hairspray regularly.

What was the last food you choked on?: I don’t remember.

Who was the last person you disappointed?: I don’t know.

Do you really miss someone right now?: Yes.

Do you think anyone can really reach “Nirvana” at some point?: Sure.

What’s the capital of the state you reside in?: Springfield.

What is the last advice you gave someone?: I have no idea.

Do you ever dip your fingers in wet candle wax?: I have.

When was the last time you sweated really bad?: I have been SO sweaty lately. Like especially from my forehead. I was sweating doing my hair yesterday haha.

Do you write it, alot or a lot?: A lot, because that’s how it’s written.

Does it annoy you when people are always smiling and happy all the time?: Whatever.

What was the last rule you broke?: I’m not supposed to be doing this during work but oh well.

Have you ever hazed someone or been hazed?: No and never to both.

Miley Cyrus rings your door bell, and asks for some shelter. You say..?: She’d get our upstairs neighbors if she rang a doorbell at our building.

What would you say if someone called you at 3 am to have a casual convo?: I mean it would depend on who it was and if I was already asleep or not.

Have you ever made a SERIOUS typo, and couldnt go back and change it?: It’s possible but I am drawing a blank.

Have you ever yelled at an authority figure?: Nope.

When was the last time you had to pee really badly?: Yesterday.

What was the last thing you regretted eating?: I don’t remember.

Have you ever met anyone famous?: Yes.

Do you like screamo music?: I don’t hate it.

Do you know anyone with some serious talent?: Yes.

When was the last time you made fun of someone?: Yesterday, just teasing my friends.

What was the last thing you yelled?: “Benny!” at the Pride parade yesterday when the Chicago Bulls float come by lol.

Whose bed did you wake up in this morning?: Mine.

Are you in a relationship?: Yes.

Have you ever skinny-dipped?: Yes.

What’s the longest amount of time you’ve gone without sleeping?: Just a little over 48 hours.

Do you make a wish at 11:11?: Sometimes.

What’s the worst thing someone could ask you?: I don’t know.

What did your last text message say?: Mark texted me about eating the sandwich I left for him lol.

Who was it from?: ^

Do you like surprises?: I like surprise gifts and things like that but not surprise parties or situations that would make me the center of attention. I don’t like that.

What inspires you?: My family and my friends.

If you could go back in time, where would you go and why?: I just wanna spend a day with my mom again.

Are you proud of the person you’ve become?: Not right now.

Have you ever tried weed?: Yes.

How important is music to you?: It’s important in that I love it and it makes me feel good and I love experiencing it live.

Do you need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be happy?: No, but I prefer to be in a relationship.

Do you care what other people think of you?: Everyone does.

What’s your biggest fear?: Having my fears used against me.

When was the last time you received a compliment?: Yesterday.

What was that last thing you said out loud?: I don’t remember. I haven’t talked to anyone at work like all day lol.

Do you have any regrets?: Eh.

Where were you at noon today?: It’s 11am.

Do you think someone’s thinking about you right now?: Sure.

What’s on your mind right now?: A whole buncha shit.

How has your week been?: It’s Monday. but the past 7 days were rough. I was sick most of the week.

Have you ever thrown up because you were crying too much?: Nope.

How much effort did you put into your last relationship?: Eh.

Last thing to really piss you off?: My sister.

Are you a patient person?: I am, but I have my moments.

Do you know anyone who’s taking drugs?: Nobody that I’m aware of, no.

Do you face your problems or run away from them?: I can do both.

What would you do if someone grabbed your ass?: I can’t say how I would react.

Do you have impulse control?: Sure.

Do you have a reason to smile right now?: I do.

Are you gonna get married soon? I am married.

Would you ever get a significant other’s name tattooed on yourself? No.

Do you get shy around the guy/girl you like?: Nope.

What’s it like where you’re from?: It’s Chicago.

Do you remember your dreams?: Only very occasionally.

Are you happier now, or 3 months ago?: I’m happier now, it’s summer.

Do you play video games?: Eh.

is there a song that when you hear it, it takes you back to a certain time?: Of course, there’s plenty.

What’s your favorite movie?: Wet Hot American Summer.

is there someone of the opposite sex that you can tell everything to?: Yes.

Would you do anything on a dare?: No.

[nghiazet]

WEEK 10: ONLINE HARASSMENT

What is cyberbulling?

Cyberbullying is the intentional and repetitive act of causing damage to others using electronic text as a medium (Patchin & Hinduja, 2006, p.152). Cyberbullying can occur through various means such as text messaging, email, and instant messaging on the internet. It can happen in chat rooms, personal websites, social networking sites like MySpace, internet bulletin boards, and other online platforms. Cyberbullying often encompasses typical bullying actions, such as name-calling, spreading rumors or lies, and making threats, but these actions are carried out electronically rather than in person.

Additionally, cyberbullying can involve behaviors that are specific to the Internet and do not have equivalents in traditional bullying. For instance, "bombing" refers to the act of a bully using an automated program to inundate the victim's e-mail inbox with a large number of messages simultaneously, which has the potential to result in the breakdown of the e-mail software or the whole computer system. The crucial aspect of this definition of cyberbullying is the deliberate and recurring infliction of damage. Online victimization that is limited in scope or without malevolent intent does not align with our definition of cyberbullying. Instead, it fits under the larger classification of "online harassment."

Statistics

According to the 2005 poll, the majority (89%) of young individuals who experienced internet harassment were between the ages of 13 and 17. These findings indicate that those who experience online harassment are often older than those who experience offline bullying, with the latter mostly affecting middle school-aged individuals. More over half (58%) of the targets were female. More than half (55%) of the individuals who engaged in harassment were individuals that young people had encountered online and were not personally acquainted with. Engaging in instant messaging, participating in chatrooms, and maintaining online diaries or blogs were shown to be associated with experiencing online harassment.

Cyberstalking is a component of the broader issue of stalking that occurs on college campuses. According to the National Institute of Justice (1996), around 8% of women and 2% of males have experienced stalking at some stage in their life. Regarding college campuses, there is data suggesting that stalking may exhibit a distinct profile compared to stalking on a national level.

A study conducted by the National Institute of Justice in 1998 examined a total of 4,446 female students from 223 colleges and universities in the United States. The study revealed that 13.1% of the women, which is equivalent to 581 individuals, reported experiencing stalking during a 7-month period in 1997. Furthermore, 24.7% of all the victims stated that the stalking they experienced involved the use of e-mail, as reported by Fisher et al. in 2000. Brownstein (2000) conducted a comparative analysis of data from two institutions and national data. The findings revealed that the university sample had a much greater percentage of male victims, with 42% compared to the national average of 22%.

A separate study conducted on a single college campus revealed that around 26.6% to 35.2% of female students and around 14.7% to 18.4% of male students experienced incidents of stalking (Fremouw, Westrup, & Pennypacker, 1997). The comparison of Finn's survey on online harassment and stalking is challenging owing to variations in the concept of stalking and the research methodologies used. Colleges across are seeing a growing number of incidents involving cyberstalking (Lee, 1998; Olsen, 2001). Students are particularly susceptible to stalking and cyberstalking due to their residence in a rather insular community where class schedules, phone numbers, and email addresses are readily accessible.

What is the impact of online harassment?

Online harassment has widespread and harmful consequences on people, groups, and society at large. Initially, it may result in profound psychological ramifications for individuals, resulting in heightened levels of stress, anxiety, sadness, and perhaps post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Individuals who experience online harassment often express feelings of insecurity, helplessness, and social isolation, since the abuse may intrude upon their personal boundaries and persist across several digital channels.

Furthermore, online harassment has the potential to impede people' engagement in online discussions, restricting their ability to freely express themselves and reducing their online involvement due to fear of further abuse. The suppression of free expression hampers the fundamental values of democratic dialogue and might result in the suppression of voices from underprivileged communities.

Online harassment has a significant impact on the trust and unity of online groups, leading to a hostile and dividing climate. It has the potential to discourage people from participating in online conversations, so denying communities of vital viewpoints and contributions.

Reference:

Wolak, J., Mitchell, K. J., & Finkelhor, D. (2007). Does Online Harassment Constitute Bullying? An Exploration of Online Harassment by Known Peers and Online-Only Contacts. Journal of Adolescent Health, 41(6, Supplement), S51-S58. https://doi.org/https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jadohealth.2007.08.019

Fremouw, W. J., Westrup, D., & Pennypacker, J. (1997). Stalking on campus: The prevalence andstrategies for coping with stalking. Journal of Forensic Sciences,42(4), 666-669

Lee, R. (1998, Spring). Romantic and electronic stalking in a college context. The College of William and Mary Journal of Women and the Law, pp. 373-409.

Olsen, F. (2001). Michigan deactivates Internet program linked in several stalking incidents. Chronicle of Higher Education,47(7), 34

[lascapigliata]

i was tagged by @halftruthsandhyperbole​ and for once am actually going to DO THIS instead of just having a reminder in my drafts for a year:

MOVIES: (unexpectedly this was by far the hardest one)

lord of the rings (the whole thing)

stardust

academy award® winning captain america the winter soldier m

mad max fury road (keeping this one)

attack the block

10 things i hate about you

silverado

clue

john wick

the sting

BOOKS - SUPPORT YOUR LOCAL BOOKSTORE INDIEBOUND.ORG:

the blind assassin by margaret atwood

in the woods by tana french

the world to come by dara horn

the amazing adventures of kavalier and clay by michael chabon

the goldfinch by donna tartt

ballad of the whiskey robber by julian rubinstein

daevabad trilogy by sa chakraborty

bellweather rhapsody by kate racculia

broken earth trilogy by nk jemisin

a tale for the time being by ruth ozeki

MUSIC (this will probably change like TOMORROW):

green day

queen

bruce “the boss” “i’m from new jersey” springsteen

tété

bleachers

carly rae jepsen

the struts

cowboy boy

hozier

the killers ? (choosing #10 is impossible)

TV SHOWS:

lost

black sails

leverage

schitt’s creek

harlots (rip)

the borgias

big 3 hbo shows: the wire / deadwood / the sopranos

avatar

star treks tng through voyager

the expanse

I am tagging: @hibiscusly (a retag), @hohomylad, @isleofapplepies, @mayyouwalk & to ditto sonja as always no pressure :)

[seventhsyzygy]

I'm a Pepsi person; English is my stronger subject; sleeping with socks is a no-go, for sensory reasons.

@susdyke your turn 😸

are u a pepsi or coca cola person? math or english person? pro or anti sleeping with socks person?

[music-for-them-asses]

@angiepants tagged me in this myspace-esque survey. Jesus Christ, this takes me back. Thanks for the tag!

1. Do you ever make your bed?

No, I’m too lazy and I don’t see the point unless I have company over.

2. What’s your favorite number?

4. Variations of 4 are also good, but just 4. (And 182 because, y’know)

3. What’s your job?

I work at an insurance company.  I don’t decide what claims get approved or denied lmao.

4. If you could go back to school, would you?

If someone else wants to pay for it, sure!!

5. Can you parallel park?

Yes, I had to do in Denton all the time. Haven’t done it in a long time, tho.

6. A job you had that would surprise people?

Babysitter at my church growing up. I don’t like kids much and I’m def not a good role model, sooooo

7. Do you believe aliens are real?

For sure! I don’t think they’ve visited Earth, though.

8. Can you drive a manual car?

Absolutely not.

9. What’s your guilty pleasure?

Trashy TV shows like Botched. I cannot help myself.

10. Tattoos?

Just the Beasties one, which I still love. Plan on getting a blink or Clash tattoo this year on the other arm, but no concrete plans yet.

11. Favorite color?

Any shade of blue, I like teal/ocean blues the best.

12. Things people do that piss you off?

Ignorance in general grinds my gears on a daily basis. People driving slow IN THE FREAKING LEFT LANE ON THE HIGHWAY. Pickups tailgating me when I’m already going over 80. Driving in general!

13. Any phobias?

Small spaces and bugs are probably the most irrational.

14. Favorite childhood sport?

Softball, I played soccer too but I really enjoyed softball. (I know, me, athletic??)

15. Do you ever talk to yourself?

I live by myself with two cats, of course I do.

16. What movie do you adore?

Don’t do this to me. Off the top of my head, Spirited Away.

17. Do you like doing puzzles?

Yes, I don’t really do jigsaw puzzles but I love crosswords and sudoku.

18. What’s your favorite kind of music?

Punk, shitty pop punk, 90′s hip hop, “classic“ rock

19. Tea or coffee?

Coffee to stay awake, tea to calm down.

20. First thing you remember wanting to be when you grow up?

Veterinarian. Turns out I’m squeamish at blood and surgeries, so that didn’t work out lol.

I tag @daemonmatthias, @doomenergy, @spaceviking, @horrorjew, and anyone else who wants to do thisssss

[seojvns]

everything you didn’t care to know about seojun yoon. 

basic statistics.

full name: seojun yoon. 

nickname: jun, junnie, seo. 

how'd they get it?: they’re just... variations of his name...

age: twenty one. 

date of birth: april 27th. 

zodiac: taurus. 

gender: male. 

sexual orientation: pansexual. 

when did they realize this?: around the age he started being interested in people. it’s never been something he’s struggled with, it’s jus how things were/are. 

nationality: american.

hometown: daejeon, south korea.

current residence: cortland, wisconsin.

occupation: freelance photographer. 

for how long?: umm, probably since high school?? he started out doing it for free, to build his resume, and over time he began building it into something he could actually make money from. not much, but !! getting paid for doing something he loves?? really couldn’t ask for more than that. 

do they like his/her job?: obvs!!! does he wish he could have a lot more clients?? ya, but he’s patient and he’s got the time. 

salary: mm, depends on the job but probably anywhere from $150-250/job. 

family.

any significant ancestors?: ummmm, no. 

grandparents (describe relationship): he was really close to his grandmother, on his mom’s side, who passed away a few years ago. he’s close to his grandfather from that side too, but he’s a bit old fashioned in his views and sometimes conversations are... not really something he can take much from. but he likes his company, and overall they have a good relationship. his grandparents on his father’s side both died before he really got a chance to even know them. 

aunts/uncles (describe relationship): there’s definitely a distance. when he was younger, he’d see more of them, and his cousins too, but as he grew up... it became less of a tradition his parents and his aunts/uncles bothered to keep up with. he sees them at family gatherings, usually around holidays, but that’s about it. 

parents (describe relationship): there’s a lot of distance between him and his parents. his father’s always been distant, even at a young age he wasn’t very invested in seojun. but he’d buy him things, assuming that was a decent enough way to show his ‘love,’ but it only made seojun resentful of the money he tried to use in an attempt to get out of actually caring or showing interest. his mother, on the other hand, cared. but only when he was young. from the time he was adopted, at age five, until about eleven. after that she became more disinterested in him. she also started nitpicking him a lot?? like no snacks, finding a poem and critiquing it, etc. support wasn’t something he was given, which is why he’s become such a desperate lil people pleaser. 

are they still together?: yes, yep. 

what is the character's family life like: it was really lonely growing up, cause even if everyone was home they’d all be off doing their own things. usually seojun was in his room writing, or out exploring and taking photos. he probably would’ve found his way to his hobbies regardless, but their neglect definitely encouraged him to explore them in a way he might not have done much sooner. 

what does their family love most about them?: hmm, probably his manners. he’s a good boy and he’d never embarrass them or anything when they drag him to events or parties, so, yeah! 

hate?: they see him as too shy, and lacking of a personality, but really that’s just because they’ve kind of made him feel like he should just keep quiet and do what he’s told :/ and that’s exactly what he does. 

does the family have a specific set of values?: his parents are very much the type of people who want everything to look perfect on the outside, and not care much about how they actually are on the inside. 

what would their family be described like by another person?: reserved, well put together, successful. 

have they ever had any pets?: he did! he had a dog, a samoyed, which he got from his parents for his seventh birthday. his name was ghost,, original, i know!

what happened to them?: he died a few years ago :/ it was a rly rough time for jun, who basically had him throughout his entire childhood. 

relationships.

are they a virgin?: umm, nope. 

how did they lose it?: i’m embarrassed just thinkin abt it. 

have they ever cheated on a partner?: never would he ever!!! 

has a partner ever cheated on them?: probably. 

how did they react?: better question - did he ever find out? doubtful. 

who was their first crush?: hard to say :/ he gets a new crush everyday :/ 

are they in any kind of romantic relationship?: no!! 

how serious/relaxed is it?: hmph. 

describe the relationship with their current partner: this is... pointless... 

how did they meet?: why ask so many questions based on the POTENTIAL of him bein in a relationship... 

who made the first move?: prob not seojun in any situation ... he’s not very bold 

how does your character truly feel about their partner?: this.... is so redundant... 

when did they realize this?: thank u, next! 

who is your characters closest friend?: minnie uwu 

how did they meet?: umm they’ve been bffs for as long as seojun can remember okay!!! so how they met is just one of those things he doesn’t... rly remember bc it feels like he’s known her his WHOLE entire life, u know?? 

why do they get along so well?: because they’re both cute and soft and they just vibe together well ok,, why question these things?? there’s been so many late nights up talking about anything n everything, so many heartbreaks that she’s been there for, so many adventures they’ve had n have yet to have... she’s his other half!!! <333 

describe relationship with any other significant friends: adrian’s one of the most important ppl to him ?? like ever?? cause he’s jun’s best friend but also a lot more than that. even though they can’t seem to get things right, he’s always gonna have feels for adrian. kian......... gross where do i even begin!!!! seojun would literally die for kian. he’s more than his roomie ok seojun’s so disgustingly attached that no matter what kian did he’d never leave his side lmao #dedicated. jiwon is who seojun would be if he could choose his life sjfsfks she’s jus so,, uwu perfect n everything he aspires to be. he LUVS her even tho she can lowkey be a lil scary?? not in like a way that he’s legit scared but like... she can be intimidating a lil bit. rt if u agree

favorites.

favorite foods: sushi, korean fried chicken, fries. 

least favorite food: black licorice, celery. 

favorite colors: pale yellow and light pink. 

least favorite color: whatever the fuck u call the color blue that tumblr chose for the new bg color fksdjfs

music: pop, r&b. 

literature: mysteries!! 

smell: honeysuckles, bonfires, fresh bread. 

feeling: affection uwu

season: autumn. 

pets: dogs, but... he loves cats too :/ 

place: hmm, he’s really drawn to the woods?? like when he was younger he’d go into the woods with his camera and a book and just spend all fucking day out there. there’s something really peaceful about it ?? and there’s just so much to experience... the woods jus make him soft, k?? 

favorite sport(s): huh

possession this character values most: his camera!!!!!!!! his journals filled with poems about everyone he knows. 

why is it so important to them?: um, his camera is p obvious?? his poetry filled journals, well, that’s p obvious too. he doesn’t want to forget how he felt in the moments where he was inspired to write whatever he wrote. 

physical characteristics.

height: 5′8′‘. 

weight: 130 lbs. 

body build: slim. 

eye color: brown. 

glasses or contact lenses?: contact lenses, but sometimes he’ll wear his glasses when he’s feelin’ lazy. 

hair color: naturally it’s black, but he prob keeps it either light pink or blond.  

scent: tbh idk what to answer for this, describing someone’s natural scent... hard. 

voice: he’s got a soft voice :/ 

mannerisms: says ‘um’ and ‘uh’ too much, whining about nothing, watching anything/everything with subtitles, turns the tab on a soda can sideways. 

style: comfy clothing mostly?? like loose fitting tops and form fitting bottoms. 

how do they walk?: like a fucking model tbh??? 

what are their nervous tics: he’s blushing 99% of the time tbh,, nose scrunches, averting his gaze 

usual body posture: umm, i’d say he’s got p good posture?? idk,,

preferred clothing.

underwear: boxer briefs babey!

shirts: loose!! t-shirts, flannels, hoodies. anything oversized. 

pants: usually black jeans, like, 9 times out of 10. 

skirts: nah. 

jackets: more oversized shit. 

shoes: prob jus black boots? 

accessories: earrings, rings, make up. make up isn’t an accessory rly but i dunno where else to put that so yayuh that’s a thing. 

formal wear: umm he’s a classic black suit kinda guy, prob w a bowtie, idk. 

sleeping wear: t-shirts and boxer briefs,, do ppl ... actually have real pajamas? like in real life? 

swimming wear: swim trunks ig?? weird question but ok. 

intellectual/mental/personality attributes and attitudes.

did they go to school?: ya, duh. 

where?: west bridge!!! 

what did they learn?: he’s studying photography :-)

what were their grades like?: uh, they’re alright... could be better... he wants to do better but his focus is usually just... anywhere but where it should be. so he procrastinates, and turns in things late a lot, and still is trying to do better. 

native language: korean. 

do they know any other languages?: english. 

how smart are they?: not... very... both book smart and street smart. 

what is their strengths?: creativity, generosity, compassion. 

weaknesses?: time management, insecurity, awareness. 

character's short-term goals in life: don’t go to jail, pass all classes. 

character's long-term goals in life: have a lil photography studio and live happily ever after uwu

how does your character see themselves?: umm, he’s self aware enough to know that he’s kind of sheepish?? he feels like he’s probably awkward in,, so many situations, rip, but he tries his best to not be too weird skfjs 

how does your character believe they are perceived by others?: as a soft boy who wants to be everyone’s friend?? hopefully?? 

how self-confident is your character?: UM LOL NOT AT ALL

what makes their self-confidence waver?: everything,, he just never feels like he’s good enough?? prob because of his mom’s nitpicking, his parents’ lack of interest generally, and the fact that he just has a low self esteem overall. 

what would embarrass your character the most?: being put on the spot about anything, having too much attention, falling for someone who doesn’t like him. 

how does your character feel about love: he!! loves love!!! he rly thinks that there’s someone out there for everyone... maybe not in a ~soulmates~ sense, but he thinks that companionship is a big part of happiness.

about crime: he doesn’t commit crimes... often... but if he does it’s because he can be talked into almost anything. 

people of a different sexuality?: loves everyone, thanks. 

different nationality/race?: loves everyone, thanks. 

how does your character show affection/love?: listening to them n remembering things they’re told, hand holding, doing literally anything they ask. 

how does your character handle grief? not well. especially in the case of manon, which has left him with a terrible sleeping pattern and the heavy feeling of guilt. 

what are they like when they cry?: prob like really dramatic,, like cry a lot while curled up in his bed under the covers kinda cry. 

what can make them cry?: betrayal, loss, anxiousness, stress. 

how does your character handle physical pain?: not well, he probably whines a lot and pouts even more. 

emotional pain?: even worse. he’s so forgiving that even if someone hurt him emotionally, he’d forgive them, but he’d probably be lowkey sad (but in a self blame kind of way) about it for awhile.

is your character typically a leader or a follower?: big time follower. 

what kind of energy level does your character typically display?: soft, upbeat, 

describe their sense of humor: prob either lame or softly sarcastic. 

hobbies: takin pics, writing poems, making playlists for people that’ll never hear them, watching shows instead of studying. 

talents: ...takin pics, writing poems, making playlists for people that’ll never hear them...

extremely unskilled at: focusing! and sports. 

if any, what musical instruments can they play?: piano :-) 

emotional characteristics.

how does the character relate to others?: through soft interactions and deep conversations. he’s pretty honest and open, so if someone asks him something, or even just talks to him, chances are he’s being as open with them as he would be with his close friends. 

how does the character deal with anger?: not well, but when he’s angry, he’s usually more upset than angry? and he wants to resolve things as quickly as possible, otherwise he’s stressed abt it until it’s fixed. 

with sadness?: listens to sad music and cries in the shower. drama queen. 

with conflict?: he’s always the first to apologize. 

with change?: he’s actually pretty adaptable for the most part?? but if it were like a major change, maybe not as good. 

with loss?: ummm, could be better!! probably gets a lil distant when he’s dealing with a loss. 

what does your character want out of life?: happiness :/ 

what would your character like to change in his/her life?: the whole manon thing JFKLSF

what motivates your character?: his future, or at least the ideal future he has in mind for himself. 

what frightens your character?: the fact that they could get caught for covering up a murder perhaps??? terrifying. 

are they afraid of the dark?: ...yes, but he acts like he isn’t cause he’s embarrassed. 

death?: not really?? like he doesn’t WANT to die or anything, but he’s not afraid of death.

what makes your character happy?: listening to good music, giving people things that make him think of them, the photo editing process. 

sad?: being alone, the fact that his parents never care to check up on him, films where the main couple doesn’t end up together.

angry?: people being rude to his friends, being lied to, unnecessarily passive aggressive people. 

aroused?: neck kisses, being called baby, someone who’s rly direct and just kind of... does what they want skjfsl 

annoyed?: people who speak over other people.

guilty?: covering up a potential murder, turning things in late, lying. 

is your character judgmental of others?: no. even if he doesn’t agree with their opinions/things they do he still tries to refrain from judgment. 

is your character generous or stingy?: generous af. 

is your character generally polite or rude?: polite!! angel boy. 

optimistic or pessimistic?: optimistic. 

introvert or extrovert?: lil bit of both?? 

daredevil or cautious?: cautious. 

logical or emotional?: emotional lmao. 

disorderly and messy or methodical and neat?: he thinks he’s methodical and neat but he’s actually disorderly and messy. 

would they rather be working or relaxing?: working, even though he thinks he’d rather be chillin he’s kind of terrible at doing nothing. 

how do they feel about animals?: um... he loves them?? he’s the kind of person that’d accidentally let a raccoon in his house and let it stay. 

what is their best quality?: his sincerity. 

what is their biggest flaw?: how trusting he is. 

[hippiecatsims]

Get To Know Me Tag

Thank you for the tag, @whyeverr! 💗

nicknames: kiff, cat, cath

gender: fem

sign: sagittarius

height: 152cm. 5ft

time: 12:45pm

birthday: December 21, another Christmas baby!

favorite bands: Where to begin. I am a Parawhore from waayy back. I also really dig Icon For Hire, Halestorm, A Day To Remember, We Are The In Crowd, Incubus, Marianas Trench, Bring Me The Horizon, Every Avenue, No Doubt and Tonight Alive. All of the boybands and girlbands of the 90s. I also grew up with and absolutely love the Dixie Chicks. But my all time fave is Killing Heidi.

favorite solo artists: Kacey Musgraves, Anne-Marie, Paul Kelly, ZZ Ward, Avril, Maren Morris, Carrie Underwood, Tori Kelly

song stuck in my head: troublemaker by flo rida.. fml

last movie I watched: TH1RTE3N GHOSTS. the Jackal been giving me nightmares since 2001 but i love it

last show I watched: the good wife... surprisingly addictive!

when did I create this blog: a couple of months ago maybe? not long

what do I post: Not So Berry and Shameless legacy challenges mostly

what did I last google: batch process file type in ps cc, refreshing my memory lol i usually just use lightroom these days and only ps cc to add moodlets

other blogs: my personal one which is completely separate and a CC finds blog @hippiecatcc. and i think i might make another soon to track my garden. probably hippecatgardens lol

do I get asks: nope, only for simblreen. i think i have virtual resting bitch face and well as actual resting bitch face, sorry (i am actually nice i swear! just also kinda sarcastically pessimistic) 

why did I choose this url: well, i am a bit of a hippie. my name is cat, i like cats. i also like sims. and so here we are

following: 147

followers: 72

average hours of sleep: never, ever enough. i try to get 8 but i’m always tired

lucky number: i don’t have one. maybe i’ll choose one now... 4.

instrument: my main instrument is vocals, has been forever! i’ve been in bands my entire life, i grew up in a very musical family. but i’ve also played guitar for 12 years, since i got my first electric for my 16th birthday. i started playing piano properly (keyboard really) about 4 years ago but i don’t find it quite as fun. ukelele was pretty much an extension of guitar and i just play it occaisonally.

what am I wearing: old jeans and a plaid shirt at the moment, gonna go do some gardening dreckly

dream job: i don’t really have one.. to not have to work at all and just travel around australia in my van would be great though!

favorite food: TACOS ARE LIFE

last book I read: The Inaugural Meeting of the Fairvale Ladies Book Club by Sophie Green. great read

3 favorite fandoms: sims, shadowhunters, and iconarmy

I tag: @blurri-sim-kid @goneril-capp and @galaxsims because i’d love to get to know you guys more, but only if you feel like it, no pressure! :)

[andyelson]

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RIP Vine

1. Do you ever wonder what other people think of your survey answers? I really enjoy reading what the previous person wrote, and it never dawned on me that other people read mine when they copy and paste these. Hello, whoever you are! *waves*

2. Are there any survey-takers that you simply do not like because of their answers? Hahahah no

3. Has anyone ever said anything in response to a survey question that offended you? I’m offended no one has said anything in response to my surveys ;P lol

4. Which of the following sounds more appealing at the present moment : a bag of chips, a handful of cookies, a slice of pie / cake, or some crackers? Any particular kind? I ate too many cheesy ruffles earlier, those are my weakness. I could go for some cookies, CHOCOLATE CHIP OMG i love chocolate

5. How many pets have you had in your household at one time? When I was growing up there was Max, Simon, and Frankie: dog, cat, fish

6. Do you know anyone that works for a cable company? Not that I’m aware of

7. What was the last thing you heard / read / saw that made you want to face-palm? An episode of Friends

8. Have you ever watched the show Raising Hope? If yes, what did you think of it? I thought the premise was clever in the first episode but it lost me real quick. It was nice to see Tig though

9. Name one person on Xanga that you would be interested to be friends with. Or, if you are uncomfortable doing so, is there even anyone on Xanga that you find interesting & that you think you could be friends with? I don’t know anyone, I get all these from badsurveyshit. She seems nice, I think I’d like being friends with her

10. Is it cold enough to comfortably wear pants where you are, without getting too warm? Sure

11. What do you / does your family pay for rent? Do you think that your home is worth that amount? It’s just short of 2000 for a 3 bed 1 bath. The house wasn’t put together very well but it’s nice to not be living with my parents.

12. Are your walls pretty sound-proof or is it easy to hear other people talking even if they’re several rooms away from you? Ughh my room is not soundproofed at all. >.> Wood floors throughout carry the sound too. I can hear people talk in their bedrooms if they aren’t using hushed tones. Oh god, they must know I’ve watched an entire season of Friends today..

13. Have you ever had family portraits done? Is this something you are fond of doing, or do you dread it? We did some family photos in 2007, also had head shots done in 2008. I’m fond of it.

14. When was the last time you had oatmeal, if ever? Do you use milk or water in it? OOOOOOOO I introduced my boyfriend to Dinosaur oatmeal last week!! There are dinosaur eggs in the dry oatmeal, then pouring hot water will “hatch” the eggs to reveal little candy dinosaurs!! It’s the best!!

15. Do you have anything on your bedroom door? Have you ever? I almost always have something on my bedroom doors. In most recent years it’s been “The Little Mermaid” poster from the playroom at my grandma’s house. These days I’m keeping a clean polished look for the door - we’ll see how long this lasts. My Uncle did a custom build of the door, as we were converting the back room into a bedroom and the doorway is not a standard size.

16. Have you ever worked hard on something, only to have someone ruin it [whether literally or figuratively]? HAHAHAHAH IT’S CALLED LIFE

17. Does taking medication make you nervous? Is it something you avoid as much as possible? Depends on the side affects really. I try not to become reliant on medication but I take it when I need to.

18. Do you ever learn new words [or even “remember” old words] that you become addicted to saying & repeat them in almost every sentence? Nah, I’m not like that

19. Who do you know that suffers from bad dandruff, if anyone? What an odd question? no?

20. Do you think that after the age of 90 you should stop caring so much about what you intake & just eat / drink whatever you want because you might as well since you’d be on the verge of death anyhow? Be good to yourself, whatever than means for you.

21. Are the bottoms of your feet dirty? Yes

22. What do you do with your gum after you are done chewing it? Use it for arts and crafts

23. Do you know someone that [unintentionally] types in caps a lot & then afterward apologizes for it? Do you watch what you are typing to ensure that you don’t make mistakes like that, or do you tend to stare down at the keyboard as you type? Hahahaha I know people that intentionally type in caps with no apologies. I usually watch for mistakes, but half the time I don’t care.

24. Are you at all interested in the lives of celebrities? Why do you think people care so much about the lives of people that they don’t even know? I’m not too concerned. Though, I do have an emotional attachment to Hilary Duff cause I loooved her when I was a kid. I’m also interested in Brendon Urie. He’s a defining musical influence and I’d love to know more about him. I don’t want to stalk him at his favorite fast food restaurants, but rather learn how he interprets his life into his music.

25. What is a site that you go to when you need a good laugh? YouTube. Vines. Repeat