#my friends are atleast as important as my romantic partners

[thefleshyougoveggie]

honestly i think a lot of people these days and most popular media i encounter (atleast ones that are focused heavily on romance like heartstopper) tend to not truly show and understand the importance of platonic affection and love and i am just so happy that heartstopper does. because we truly need more platonic love in this world, especially portrayed as as important as it is!! bc honestly idk what i would do without my friends and it doesnt matter if i like someone romantically, my friends will always be suuuper important to me

season 1 tao's "once you get into a relationship, friendships don't matter anymore" vs season 2 charlie writing "charlie ♡ tao" on the heart locket + "wait, isn't that for you and nick?" "no."

sorry yeah I'm just lil emotional over the portrayal of platonic love as something that can be just as worthy as romantic love. i'm okay.

[tarotofhope]

PAC: ♡ Channelled Love Songs from your Current/Future Romantic Partner ♡

(Please Read My Pinned post *IMPORTANT NOTE* before selecting a Pile)

Pick an Image by meditating and selecting the image you feel called to. You can be attracted towards more than 1 image. If you are not able to select maybe this reading isn't for you.

(You can find all the songs mentioned in the Piles on SPOTIFY. Unfortunately Tumblr only allows 10 audio links per post🥲)

Pile 1

Songs - Aaya Jado Da by Asees Kaur

Screen Time by Epik High ft. Hoshi

Don't Forget To Breathe by Aaryan Shah

Welcome to your reading, Pile 1. First of all, lot of green ink occured in your pile. Your partner seems very caring, nurturing and protective of you. They might be a very caring and loving person themselves, very protective of their belongings and loved ones. They like to have a quick check on you(like not in a toxic or negative way). They want to know you better and your little quirks. They genuinely care about your well being. They might be very cautious, structured, organised individual, a fitness freak as well. They seem kind of very picky, they don't open up to just anybody, they might have very few close friends. They're mostly not interested in flings and one-night stands. They take relationships seriously so they'll only jump into it when they see some real value in it. This person is like a 'husband/wife material' person or atleast a long term partner. This also seems like a long distance relationship to me or getting into a relationship after a series of personal hardships when you've become very mature either age-wise or experience-wise.

So, that's all I got for you, my dear Pile 1.

Hope you're with this person or find this person soon 😉

Hope, light, love and peace to you..🌸🌼🌻

Pile 2

Songs - Talk About Love by Callum Beattie

Seven- Clean Version by Jungkook

Tenu Khabar Nahi by Arijit Singh

Welcome to your reading, Pile 2. Have you guys currently been in separation or broken up with your partner? This could be a recent past energy as well. See, now this also looks like an ex's energy(I don't like to go into this topic because it creates unnecessary confusion but it appeared in the reading so I had to) and whether ex or not, if you strictly don't want this person back into your life, you must then very well know that you've ended up for good and you don't need to allow this person back or this pile totally isn't for you, you should select another pile. One thing is prominent though, one of you has done something bad to the another person..and that was the main reason for your guys' separation. I'm nobody to judge you guys, you know yourselves better. Well, whoever this person is, they want to reconcile with you or you're currently reconciling already. It could be a different case for everyone choosing this pile. It could be so that this person or both of you might still have feelings for each other. This person wants to make things better or do things right. There is a promise of not making the same mistakes again. This person is asking for another chance. Now, you need to decide for yourselves, what's good for you and what's not. It's totally up to you.

That's all I see in the cards for you, my dear Pile 2.

Hope, light, love and peace to you..🌸🌼🌻

Pile 3

Songs - Tera Mera Hai Pyar Amar by Ahmed Jahanzeb

I'm Gonna Love You by D.O. ft. Wonstein

Can't Help Falling In Love by Elvis Presley

Welcome to your reading, Pile 3. This person looks so in love. But more so, this person is very sure of you, there feelings are very intense, too. As they are saying, that it's so easy to fall in love with you, either it's a love at first sight situation or there is a certain clarity about choosing you/about wanting to continue further with you. Nothing can change their mind about you. They are giving me strong future spouse energy because they just want to take you away as soon as possible. So, they'll be very assertive in their approach towards you in the courtship period itself. I also think that they'll be the first one to approach you if you've not met this person already. They'll make sure that you know they are not just fooling around, that you're in for a very long ride. They'll also want to make sure that you too, feel the same way for them before going very far because they want it all or nothing. They'll definitely try to win your heart over, Pile 3.

That's all I got for you, dear Pile 3.

Hope, light, love and peace to you..🌼🌸🌻

Pile 4

Songs - Young And Beautiful by Lana Del Rey

Every Second by Baekhyun from EXO (Record of

Youth OST- 3)

Aadat Se Majboor by Benny Dayal

Welcome to your reading, Pile 4. This person might be a heart-throb. Popular person energy(for their work or looks). Everybody swoons over them. Their energy is quite charming and charismatic. They are bold, fun loving and outgoing, life of the party kind of person. You both might be quite the opposite of each other. They will be very confident in their approach. They might just be nervous about how to woo you because you are different from others and they don't want to make any mistake. They don't want to look like a creep. If you've already met this person or in a relationship, you know. They are someone who'll totally make a fool out of themselves to make you laugh. They love to see you smile and laugh but also, you don't laugh a lot, it seems. There seems to be a lot of people who are sexually attracted to them, but they choose you because you are special to them, you're not like the others according to them. They might've got their heart broken a couple times earlier due to which they're afraid of losing you but that's not going to be the case because they're sure of one thing that you're very firm in your decisions, rock solid and you won't run away when life gets bad. You guys are going to be like a power couple, each helping the other person where they are lacking, each completing the other.

So, that's all I got for you, my dear Pile 4.

Hope, light, love and peace to you..🌻🌼🌸

Pile 5

Pile 5

Songs - Lover by Taylor Swift

Spider By Hoshi

Tere Mast Mast Do Nain by Rahat Fateh Ali Khan

Welcome to your reading, Pile 5. Your person seems very Venusian(very lovey-dovey, full of charm, likes fine art) and Neptunian(very dreamy) to me, a hopeless romantic even. Some of you might also be attracted to Pile 4, because this pile has got some similar vibes. They are magnetic, could also be popular for something that they do, something that only they create. They have a good taste in music as well, could be a musician or they like to play musical instruments. Dancing and singing could be their hobby or talent. They are also someone who knows flirting like the back of their hand. It comes naturally to them, sometimes they don't even know that they're flirting. They might also like good food and fine-dining, might also love to cook. You might not like this person in the beginning because you think they're a flirt and they don't look serious, but you'll eventually start liking them because they're not what they seem from the outside. It is giving me the vibes of 'One fell in love first, but the other one fell harder.' Their heart is so pure and innocent. They'll woo you with their heart, Pile 5. You seem like a tough nut to crack to them, someone who's hard to get. I also think you've got pretty eyes and a resting b**** face. They love it. There's going to be a playful banter between you guys. Everything will be worth it in the end.

So, that's all I've got for you, my dear Pile 5.

Hope, light, love and peace to you..🌻🌼🌸

Thank you so much for being here. I post PAC readings every Tuesday and Friday. Do love and support by reblogging, liking or following.

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[dearweirdme]

https://www.tumblr.com/dearweirdme/756239745546387456/whoops-i-feel-like-i-invited-a-bunch-of-nasties?source=share

Well atleast they aren't disappointed in me 🥹.

Just a few quick notes before I go (sorry can't help myself 🫣)

"none of these things that this obviously ignorant anon has written is how real relationships work" hey but that was my point. That is for sure not how real relationships work. Real relationships aren't dependent just on specific occasions. That's why my hypothetical me broke up with my hypothetical bf 🤷🏻‍♀️

"...because in the real world, people don’t feel the need to stick to their partners like that all the time and they definitely wouldn’t ignore their friends or coworkers just because their partner is there." Well....IRL people don't straight up ignore their partners either 😬. And they for sure don't leave them behind without asking them to tag along. Or maybe I've been doing relationships wrong all my life??

The way Jk behaves with Taehyung in public (aww so you see it too?? Aren't they the cutest? 🥰) shows more than anything that those two don’t have anything to hide-Btw, going as buddies in the military or shooting travel shows as a duo doesn't come under the "hidden couple" category either.

"I also don’t see you or any of your anons asking why during HS concert, Jimin and Jungkook “disappeared” together for almost 20 minutes" Yes I didn't ask this anywhere. But there's a reason for that, the reason is- I had no idea that they "disappeared" bcs believe it or not, I am not in-charge of their pee pee schedules. And trust me you don't want to assert the point that they were using those 20 mins for making out in the concert venue loo, bcs by that logic, taekook have been making out at almost every other award show, since they've had a habit of "disappearing" together during shows.

"Y’all must think this is some drama or something where those who are in love can’t keep their hands of each other IN PUBLIC." You say this and then you start talking about 20 min disappearances. Be consistent please 🙄.

"..would openly display their affection towards each other by holding each other while singing romantic songs, sticking close to each other, wispering to each other and all." There were four members at the hs concert. Two stuck together like glue, the others did their own thing. There were three at yoongi's concert, two stuck together, the other one was more focused on yoongi. There were 6 and then 5 members in '23. Two stuck together, the others did their own thing. Now if you want to believe that those two are just coworkers(bcs jikookers don't even believe in their friendship), and I am ignorant and don't knwo how real relationships work, then I'd rather have this coworker relationship than that relationship with a boyfriend.

Hi anon!

Well, they are probably sitting around being all mad because I once again hid their ask from all of you 😂. Thanks for coming back, I think the tone of your ask was pretty lost to them.

My reason for not believing that Jk and Jm are together will always be that I do not see it in their general interactions. Sure there's some moments that out of context look sus, but when you look at them in context.. they are clearly just friends (which is by all means just as important by the way, people should stop acting as if calling two people best friends is some sort of insult). No matter how many birthdays or couple days they spend together, no matter how happily Jk talks to Jm in his lives, no matter how often they are seen together in general.. I just do not see it in the way they interact. Never have, not once! So for Jkkrs to come here and use arguments about Jkk to debunk Taekook.. it just makes no sense. It is not as though we are not aware of Jkk moments, or that we are not aware of Jkkrs theories.. we know! We deal with the same footage, Jkkrs literally send their opinions to our blogs. I am just never going to see it. I still will not see it even if it ever turns out that Jk and Tae are just friends.

I can never take a Jkkrs opinion on Tae and Jk seriously, because I think a lot of their opinions are based on unrealistic views. Had I thought their views on Jk, Tae, and Jm as individuals are correct, perhaps we would have more room to discuss.. but with how they usually describe the three, I don't think there's a possibility of that happening.

[todomemolesta18]

Aang character is my biggest salt on atla. Now before people misunderstood what i'm saying, aang is a great character but not a great romantic partner. I really hated how he doesn't try to see from katara perspective or even try to understand. Even if aang don't agree with katara action he should just keep that word to himself. I was like ok fine this show not gonna make aang take revenge ok cool, then we get to see how aang reaction to katara anger great now it's just turn into the worst. Aang and katara should not end up together they should just stayed as friend, sokka nah he's romance are great, zuko romance it's fine. Now this make me wonder why is katara is always the one who empthasized but not aang. Aang is also dealing with genocide too he should have atleast understood the pain and trauma

Thissss. I dont hate Aang, I love him, but like you said, he wasnt a good partner for Katara. She had to do everything, she always tried to understand him. Aang barely does this. And in the most important moment, were Katara needed to confront HER MOTHER´S KILLER, Aang started preaching about his beliefs...

[wheeler-fan]

Well I see ur last answers on Byler and Mileven post and I would like to add my perspective on both of these ships realistically (because I like to poke my nose into others businesses /jk)

Well honestly speaking I love Byler, but here I'll try to be as unbiased as possible. Realistically speaking, both ships have their own pros and cons. Mileven did looked cute around 1-2 seasons (if we see it from general audience perspective) and while Byler (for me atleast) looked so much cute and healthy in season 2.

But look let's forget the fact that Mike can't say ily to El for a moment. Their ship still won't make sense, because Mike (when he asked El out) was around 11-12 yrs (as much as I remember). He cared and loved El but not romantically. He showed a genuine care for her because he suddenly founded her in woods (plus he thought she might know about Will). At this time I don't think he had crush on her. El was the first girl who had talked to him without being mean, so that is also the reason for him to act more soft towards her. But since it was first time for Mike to talk to a girl, so the other people around him (like - Lucas and Nancy) thought that he liked her. And Lucas was the one who was pushing this idea that Mike might be in love with her, and after sometime Nancy also confronted him about this. And since surrounding does affects you and it was his first time being friends with a girl, he later thought yes that might be the case. And El didn't even knew what a friend was, so how do we expect her to know the meaning of love is? In conclusion I think that both El and Mike likes this idea of being in love and they do love each other but as I said not romantically. They both don't act like themselves around each other and in last season they both lied to eachother. Both of them need to explore themselves and what they like and then should be in a relationship with someone they like.

While for Byler, I do believe it is much better than Mileven but again Mike still needs to find what he really feels and think. And as for Will, he does know that the kind of love that want is "not normal" in the sense of 90s. He do love Mike in a romantic way but he still tried to fix Mike's and El's relationship, because he cares for both of them. I'm not a Mike hater but him in season 3 and 4 just gives me mixed feelings. Mike outted Will and he during the time when he was supposed to find his "girlfriend", he started talking about how Will didn't talked to him the whole day. Which is actually kinda umm, weird? Like bro u are supposed to find ur girlfriend, so don't change the topic lol.

I'm still looking out for Mike's character development in season 5 because he has so much potential and he is more than "El's boyfriend".

I to be honest wouldn't mind if Byler doesn't becomes canon (actually I will but that's not the point here 🥲) but if Mileven becomes endgame then tbh it would be a kind of a fanservice. Like let's take bylers a side, the large number of audience are general audience and other are Milevens. Most of the general audience are homophobic and they go with basics . Not forget to mention that people still say in this date that "wait people ship Mike and Will??" El is a character who needs to be independent, her story doesn't revolve around finding a boyfriend but it's revolve around finding herself and learning the normal world. Mike is just boiled down to being El's boyfriend but he is more than that, so many people find him relatable and it's not a bad writting if something like this happens. If see from Will's perspective, then his story doesn't fully revolve around finding a partner but it still plays a important role in his character (since he thinks that he can't be loved by someone how he wants). I'm such huge fan of Will and I want what he feels is good for him, I just want to see him happy. I still hope that he comes out to Mike and Mike to comfort him, them having a heart to heart while comforting each other.

Mileven as a ship held a big potential in past but it wasn't taken serious as it should've been. Same goes for Byler, it have potential to be a good friends to lover story and duffers are giving us bit of hints but we will only what is gonna happen to them in season 5.

At the end I want all my three babies to have a happy ending which they deserve (⁠〃ﾟ⁠3ﾟ⁠〃⁠)

I'm gonna be honest with u right now, this is one of the best explained views on a byler pov I've seen!! It was really nice and you've got a point!! i love nice byler fans with all my heart i swear❤️❤️

The first thing i want to say is the fact that we all are getting so mad sometimes about these ships probably bc no one wants to be in a situation where we get to know that we believed in some delusions for years 😭😭

I personally see mike with el, I don't know if things are gonna work out for them but i hope so, yet the most important thing for me is a happy ending for my fav character- Mike, and if you're the one who has right, if byler actually's gonna be endgame, as long as mike is actually happy i think I'll be happy too (well i really hope so but i want mileven to be endgame please lord😭😭😭)

But even skipping the part about who does mike actually love in a romantic way, can i ask u something? Can you really see it, how mike and el break up and then immediately mike goes to his best friend and his ex gf brother and they become a couple? I know that you would really like that to happen but the question is do u really see it happen?😭 Because i just can't I'm so sorry i don't know how it is supposed to happen, we actually don't have much time it's the last season 😭

And I have another question like this is kinda personal but I need to know, do u have something like this sometimes, that you're starting to stress- ,,what if my fav ship actually won't be endgame? what if I'm being delusional?" Don't get me wrong I'm asking these questions to myself all the time because i have to be honest with u it's stressing me out that there's so many byler shippers like it have to mean something right?😭😭😭

[steve-brules-rules]

It’s so important we educate ppl on the warning signs of abusive romantic partners, so I wish we talked more about how platonic friends can be abusers too. Younger me could of been way less traumatized by just learning some of the warning signs that were there since day 1 (I’m sure there are more I’m not thinking of)

Making private conflicts public or making other friends pick sides

Talking about people behind their backs

Getting other friends to confront people for them

Gossiping/spreading rumors

Refusing to talk about what’s wrong after they’ve taken time to cool off

Acting obsessive/hyperfixating on another friend (it’s often called lovebombing in relationships)

Cause the thing that sucks, is they’ll turn around and do all of those things to you. Somebody might innocently believe they’re different, that they won’t be treated that way. That’s what I thought too.

I’ve been told that I walked right into it, that I was asking for it, that it’s my fault for being friends with a crappy person. But it’s like relationship abuse: none of us victims are ever to blame. If you’ve ever been abused by a friend, I see your pain. I don’t blame you for what happened, even if others in your life do. You’re not alone, and I hope you can find healing, or atleast some peace.

[sapphic-aroace]

hi! i hope ur doing well ^^

so i know im aromantic (or on the spectrum somewhere) and acespec

ive never felt actual romantic feelings but i feel attraction like being attracted to someones looks (but pretty much only women/ fem presenting people)

idk if i actually feel romantic/sexual attraction, i atleast havent so far but im only interested in fem presenting people but idk if im attracted to them romantically?? i hope that makes sense lol

like, i want to be in a relationship but i dont think i actually experience love ://

and the only times ive been attracted to someone i feel like its just me telling myself i like them but i dont bc im friends with them (everytime ive been attracted to someone its lit just me being like 'this persons my friend and theyre cool, ig i have a crush on them now' but deep down i know i dont actually feel that way towards them, yk?)

but i rlly dont want to be completely aro (ik that sounds terrible sorryyyy) i want to be in a relationship and have someone love me and me to love them back! i want like a slow burn like bff to lovers thing but i dont think ill ever have that bc i might be completely aromantic

i guess i call myself sapphic aroace but idek if thats accurate ://

hello!

I'm doing rather well today, thank you for asking 😊

about for not wanting to be aro, know that many other aros feel the same. I know I used to. for a long time. it can be hard to realize you're aro, that you'll probably never feel or experience what society tells us about romantic love. that it's magical, the most important relationship in your life, that only a romantic partner can see all of you and love all of you, that it's the most intimate relationship you'll ever have, both physically and emotionally.

that is not true. this is a romanticized version of romantic love.

also, deep, meaningful and intimate relationships don't have to be romantic. I, for example, have a platonic relationship like this and it fulfills my emotional needs.

what I want to say is that your feelings are not unusual, you are ok. it *is* hard to get over amatonormativity.

I also think you should look into the cupioromantic label, I think it would resonate with you.

as for calling yourself sapphic aroace, only you can decide if the label suits you and if it would be useful for you. you do fit the definition if it's what you're worried about.

[galene-gothic]

Who has a crush on you?

PAID SERVICES

Pile 1

I'm getting a quieter person having a crush on you. I'm getting them being pretty popular though. I just heard that audio 'walks like an angel, talks like an angel.' I feel like it describes their perception of you and also their own way of carrying themselves and going about charming others. They might be an air or water rising. I'm getting for some of you this person might have a really unique name. Someone's name starts or has something to do with an 'R'. This person seems to have it easier in life, I mean ofcourse they have their own fair share but they seem to be really lucky. I feel like if you found out that this person likes you, you'd be all happy. I'm getting you dressing really well and making sure you look even better than you always do to meet this person. Lmfao, I'm getting a different energy here, it might be the same person or a different one but this seems to be someone who's mean to you 😭 (heavy on the enemies/rivals to lovers.) "I'm the sweetest girl in town so why are you so mean?" I'm getting both of them being popular among the opposite sex that is if they're different people. I feel like you'll be overwhelmingly loved by either one or both of these people, maybe you're just not used to receiving affection. "This song reminded me of you." They smile while thinking about you whenever you cross their minds. You're kind of their escape, they're surviving solely on daydreams about you. Someone might have a wrist fetish ☠️ (I think it's one of them.)

Hints: blue sweater/jumper, sketching, strawberries, love notes, red jacket, pocky, Harry styles, 505, holding hands, platform or combat boots.

Pile 2

This person is probably on the quieter side too but not with you ☠️. Others might be like "they're so cold", "they're really introverted" or "they're really quiet" and you're just there like "what? They literally never shut up..." They might find the corny relationship stuff really cringe but not if you're the one in question. They seem to admire you as a person. They're a simp for you. It might as well be your best friend or something 😭. I feel like both of you are really comfortable with each other. "He/she's my home" energy is really strong here. You make each other feel like you're not alone. I love this pile, it's so soft. You're the only one for them. It'd be really shocking if you had no clue. This person seems to be someone who's seen you crumble completely and rise again, stronger than ever. They see you as an angel. I love this pile ahhh. One or both of you seem to have a swan like presence (I feel like it's you.) You're really really elegant. "Rosewater runs through my bloodstream and my heart is quartz."

Hints: gold chain, roses, mirror, writing, tattoos, second chances?, rings, cigarettes, japan, mint green, mint chocolate, high on green tea, "oh to have a friend like you."

Pile 3

One of you might love or like the moon or just space in general. They think of you while looking at the moon. Ah... This person has family issues, I feel like they simply adore you since they think you'd be someone who could actually love them and be there for them the way their family should've been. It's sad because I feel like this person still unconditionally loves their family (especially their mother.) Oh my god, this is so soft, this might be your crush/partner or atleast someone you show a little affection to. 'POV' by Ariana Grande is coming through as their feelings. "Cause nobody ever loved me like you do, I'd love to see me from your point of view." I feel like they knew from the start that you'd grow into someone important to them. This person finds effort really attractive and you seem to be the type to put some effort into your connection with this person regardless of whether it's platonic or romantic. "God created my family and sent Y/N as an apology." For them, if it's not you, it's not anyone. This person likes your eyes/eyelashes/eyebrows and might have even pointed it out. You give them so many butterflies. They seem to ride or die for you. You might value this person's intensity.

Or you might have had a seperation with this person already. Pisces and Taurus are coming through. To them you're ethereal, almost ghostly. No matter how much time passes by, they simply don't seem to get over you.

Hints: black hoodie, blue iPhone, 777, 17, 7, August, unconditional love, park Ave, yellow hearts, "cross oceans for you", falling in love - cigarettes after sex.

[pandancakes]

Your headcanons make me feel shrimp emotions, could you please drop your hc's for how Risotto acts around somebody he's interested in? 👀🖤🖤🖤 (Thank you)

no, thank you shrimp anon for this beautiful prompt

Risotto won't even realize his feelings at first, he really just assumes he likes your company alot. He's like having a huge tree follow you, it's silent but you can just tell it's there because seriously it's a massive tall blob. He awkwardly shuffles around corners just enough so you're in his view when you're in the next room, please help this socially awkward giant of a man. Sometimes when he actually feels comfortable enough to approach you, he'll sit in the nearest seat to you even if the entire couch is empty. It's strange but he thinks being around you may absorb your positivity into him like a magnet or something, it does boost his mood so he considers it to work.

Is talking to the rest of the team about how he feels about your currently platonic relationship, the more he describes it everyone is just kind of like, "bro,, you like them." Risotto just completely stops there and leaves the room silently. Not because he's upset at them or anything, but he actually needs to take a moment to figure out his own feelings. Goes to his room and blanks out for a minute, him in love? Who would've thought. The next morning he decides to start subtlety pursuing you romantically, though you'd have to be a detective to figure out that he had any feelings behind his actions.

Starts bringing you little snacks and preparing meals for you throughout the day, he's made it very clear if anyone touches your food, he will personally make them choke on nails. Loves to leave you little gifts and trinkets with a note in your room when you're away. Did you lose something? Wow how strange he just happened to buy a brand new thing of exactly what you needed. Though if you lost an article of clothing like a shirt, dare I say underwear, it's probably in his possession now, let it go my friend. Tries to take on alot of your workload to give you an easier time if you're feeling particularly stressed about something, 50% of missions you do complete are partnered with him recently.

Eventually decided to call you into his office to speak with you about "an important matter" late in the evening one day during your free-times. He really really wanted you to catch on to his "hints" independently, but honestly nobody would be able to tell. Stares at you silently in the dim lit room for atleast a minute, it feels more like a day with his intimidating gaze though. Finally says something about this being highly unprofessional, but he can't help how he feels about you romantically. Super blunt, he needs social help desperately, please just tell him you like him too. After that he will pick you up like a sack of potatoes easily and takes you to his room to sleep.

im tired n hungry so this is probably really bad and im sorry, hope you could enjoy some of it anyways <3

[aroaceconfessions]

I hate HATE how many people consider their romantic relationships to be more important than friendship. I didn't want to go on this rant because to me it sounds extremely selfish but screw that, I deserve to be selfish once in a while. My friends are dating and that's fine. They're happy so I'm happy for them. But recently they started completely neglecting me and one of our other friends who is also single (and also acespec though I don't think that's too important here). They're always with their friend group. Whenever me or the other friend bring it up they go "well I'm there because my partner is there", and we really can't even ask without them being like "are you jealous??? do you have a crush on me???" No, we want to be friends again, but if you're gonna be like that, maybe we shouldn't be

I still like them. I think. It's weird, they used to be my favorite people and now I feel like I wouldn't miss them if they left me. I wish I could atleast talk to them without being dismissed or "of course I'd rather be with my boyfriend, we're dating, and you're meaningless"-ed. They never actually say that but I can't help but feel that way whenever I'm with them. I'm just waiting to get over them I think

[96xie]

touch

if i havent already said it, i am a BIG physical touch kinda person. i dont mean it in a very sensual way: i love it when people hug me, hold my hand, link arms, etc. im in no way starved for physical affection (sometimes) but its something i love because for me, it gives me a sense of security that “oh, this person places their trust in me,” or “because this person likes me, and i like them, i can feel safe with them (mutual trust).” again, i mean this in the most platonic way ever. in a romantic sense, i hope my future partner can understand this. also! my future partner better be willing to hug me alot! >:)

over the weekend, i got to witness one of my good friends since middle school get married with the love of his life. it was so sweet, so warming UGH i just enjoyed every bit of the wedding. love is real yall lol. before the reception, the friends and i got to talk and stuff. i have a friend that has eczema just like me, but i feel like his case is less severe. often i talk to him about our eczema, because nobody else really goes thru the same experience as us, so i talk about what medicine/creams i use, what works what doesnt, etc. for MONTHS my hands have become so damaged. its wrinkly, red, open cuts, etc. im at my wits end. so i was talking to him about how my hands have become the most affected over the past few months, and i was showing him all the wrinkles and stuff. he motioned his hands for me to place mines on his palms so he could take a look at it and said they looked fine while he caressed my fingers with his thumb. for some reason, i really liked that, like it made me feel safe. my dad used to do that to me as a kid so i guess thats why i felt secure. a little later before eating, lisa did the same at the table, i was telling her how i tend to hide my hands because its just awful. she held my hand and told me that i was fine, that it was okay. and again, i just felt safe. i think its the same case when my friends play with my hair. i guess i do like the sensation of people touching me, again not in an erotic way. omg what if its the over-anxious part of me that finds relief in sensory stuff? possibly huh? gotta ask my therapist about this one.

those very actions made me feel like “im okay. my hands are ugly, theyre wrinkled, red, just so different but my friends say i am fine. i am okay. i am loved.” atleast thats how i perceived it as they held my hands. i love them so much, i dont think they know how much their small actions and words mean to much to me. words are important, but touch is just as important too. i wish this could happen often lol. i just feel so much love from that

[eiloh-dystonic]

Jotakak headcanons

Slight part 3 spoiler warning

Also I refuse to acknowledge kakyoins actual fate

They love sparring with eachother. Fighting in general is a big part of their relationship. Being able to trust eachother enough to hold their own in a match without seriously injuring the other, and to have their back in a battle is super important. Its a major form of intimacy for them

The adrenaline, the trust, the physical closeness, the intimate understanding of eachothers strategies, thought process and movements. They just love sparring ok

Their sparring matches can get pretty emotional too. It's difficult for them to confront and express their emotions with other people. So they use fighting as an intense emotional release that makes it easier for them to talk about things after. Its not uncommon for one of their sparring matches to end in one or both of them crying about their share trauma or something similar and holding eachother

Jotaro doesn't want to use time stop in their sparring matches at first, but kakyoin insists that he's comfortable with it. Jotaro is worried about hurting him more than he already has been with it, or scaring him. kakyoin trusts jotaro enough to use it safely in matches and he really wants to push himself to find good counters to the ability. It takes a long time but he does eventually find a few that work reasonably well (don't ask me what they are, my brain is basicly just a small plastic dinosaur toy)

Neither of them like p.d.a. much, especially jotaro. The most they are comfortable with is occasional hand holding but even that they wouldn't do around strangers. Jotaro gets super self-conscious about it and it makes him feel like he's being weak and vulnerable. Kakyoin just thinks p.d.a. is rude

They don't really do pet names either except for ONE. They were joking one day about how awkward they think pet names are and how they don't like them. Jotaro jokingly calls kakyoin "angel" and kakyoin realizes that he actually really likes that one and that one ALONE. jotaro likes to say that it doest suit him and he still finds it kind of awkward, but he will still call kakyoin "angel" occasionally because he knows he likes it. (And because its easier to sweet talk him into things when he uses it agfjdjfj)

Jotaro fell in love with kakyoin way before kakyoin fell in love with him. Jotaro started really feeling for kakyoin about mid way through their trip, but kakyoin didn't realize that he was in love with jotaro until a while after they got back to japan. Kakyoin was still processing what having friends feels like for the first time. I think he would have needed a calmer, non-life threatening environment to process all that and sort his emotions out.

Their relationship would best be described as queer platonic, though I don't think they would ever use that word. Its a semi-romantic, non sexual, and deeply committed relationship. Their commitment to eachother and level of emotional intimacy is outside the range of a typical friendship, but they don't really know how to distinguish if their feelings are platonic or romantic.. They would have a really hard time defining their relationship and they would never really know if it was platonic, romantic, or something in-between. So they just gave up decided to do whats best for them without really labeling it. That, the lack of p.d.a., and the fact that they call eachother their "partner" instead of "boyfriend" tends to confuse a lot of people

They have a sort of separation anxiety for a while after the trip. Kakyoin is worried that jotaro only really liked him for his utility in fights and now that they aren't fighting for their lives, jotaro will get bored of him and leave. Jotaro is irrationally afraid that kakyoin will suddenly die or just dissapear entirely. They tend to visit eachother or atleast call for a few hours once a day for a several months after returning to Japan. They eventually return to being able to maintain a healthy distance when its necessary, but it take them a while

Holly LOVES kakyoin. she would really treat him like a second son and kakyoin would find it easy to confide in her. He would also help her around the house and with cooking and things too. They just get along really well

Kakyoin's parents do not like jotaro much. They sort of blame him for kakyoin "running away". And they think he's a bad influence. They don't say much though because this is the first time they have seen their son have a friend and be this happy. Their interactions with jotaro are still pretty tense though

Both of their love language are bullying and info dumping

Ok their ACTUAL love languages are quality time(jotaro) and acts of service(kakyoin)

Jotaro is the little spoon, enough said

Jotaro thinks kakyoin is hilarious (this i take as 100% canon)

Jotaro's favorite qualities of kakyoin's are his strength/confidence and his ability to understand him

Kakyoin's favorite qualities of jotaro's are how caring he is and his selflessness

Both of them keep in contact with polnareff after the trip. Particularly kakyoin who calls him atleast once a week and schedules his calls so they're at a reasonable hour in France, even if that means staying up super late

That being said, polnareff had no idea that jotaro and kakyoin were together until like 2 years after they started dating. They both just kind of assumed the other one had told him already.

Despite them being in a gay relationship themselves, they love to bully polnareff and Abdul for acting gay. Gay and homophobic kings

[captnjacksparrow]

Hello! I love your analysis and I just wanted to know what you think of team taka. For me personally I'm not a fan of taka because they aren't really friends, just a means to an end. I see a lot of people say Sasuke was better off with them but I really don't believe that as not a single one of them wanted to actually understand him. They followed him but they weren't close with him and weren't very important to him. I love Suigetsu and Jugo and I'm meh on Karin (she kinda gives me some scary vibes), but I don't see them as the besties that I've seen several people say. I've only read the manga through Shippuden (working on watching the anime though) so I was wondering if the anime adaptation added more to make it seem as though they were closer. I was just wondering what you think

Great Ask, @narusasudestiel 👍🏼👍🏼

I see a lot of people say Sasuke was better off with them but I really don't believe that as not a single one of them wanted to actually understand him.

I know why people say this. 

To be honest, no one really wanted to understand Sasuke other than Naruto. 

Kakashi knew the truth about Itachi and still tried to kill him. Ms.Pinky never even bothered to know the truth, but she also tried to kill him. And later, blindly accepted him anyway without even knowing what he has went through. That’s pretty self-explanatory from the way she was guessing whether he wore specs or not!!!! Because she knows nothing about him. 

So, you see how dysfunctional Team 7 is. 

That’s why people think, if Sasuke’s old Team 7 members couldn’t even understand him properly, then it’s better for Sasuke to be with these Team Taka guys whom Sasuke chose by himself. Atleast they are suited to his goals, that is wandering along the road and helping people. As time goes, they might come to understand him better. The Anime adaptation doesn’t add anything much to enhance their bond actually. It was almost similar to the Manga, with very few added scenes.

Sasuke made it very clear,

This is their dynamics throughout the Anime. 

Whenever Sasuke finds them becoming a burden, he always abandoned them without any care. Because he wasn’t bonded with them. 

And at the end of 699, I feel Sasuke is not looking for more friendships and stuffs. He was still that same Sasuke who wants to do stuffs in his own way. But the difference is, unlike before, Sasuke happily accepted his bond with Naruto and was willing to share their pain and dreams. There’s no more denial. For him, A closest Bond who can understand him, in the form of Naruto is enough. He doesn't care if others understand him or not.

All Sasuke need is a team who can work well with him on the road and help people as a way of his Atonement and to achieve his goals, that is to remove the hatred and unite all five Villages.

Someone from Team 7 went along with chased after him and what happened??? A family he never wanted and all that Black Humour drama that entails in Boruto right now.

Imagine what would have happened if Team Taka went along with him?? Sasuke would have been more pleasant than what he is now in Boruto series. He was never a romantic or family person to begin with. The family he always wanted was his own family with his parents and Itachi in it.

He was a goal-oriented person and always will be. That was clearly established in Chapter 3 and that’s why he abandoned Sakura for a decade because he places his goals above his own family. Just like how Itachi once was. Just like how Naruto is now. 

Which is exactly why I feel that open ending in chapter 699 is the best for everyone involved. No pairings and shit. Everyone pursuing their own path to achieve the same goal. On his journey, Sasuke could partner up with Team Taka and could form a new friendship too. That would've been lot better than Sakura going along with him.

My opinion on Team Taka is neutral. They didn't understand him yet. But they would've if they were given some time and chance.

[usertoxicyaoi]

hello faiza, hope u r well!!! i wanna watch skam espana and like,, wanted to ask u if it's good?? i trust ur taste and yeah wanted to hear ur opinion on it before i watch the whole thing and get dissapointed lol is every season good, do i need to watch all of it or could i just watch season 3 and 4 bc they look the most interesting to me?? thanks!!

hiii anon!!! siiiiigh its. i haven't watched s3, so i have no opinions on it. but its 4 seasons, and you can choose to watch all of them, or pick and choose if you like!

s4 is .... there's a Lot going on. so i feel like equal importance/time isn't given to the several different plots going on (all of which are v v important!) and bc of that, characters feel underdeveloped, kasim being the Biggest victim of this treatment. also idk i'm just v v upset that this is a season about and for muslims, yet ... we barely see the muslim characters/interactions??? and that annoys me. let amira be around muslims more! let her seek advice and talk to them, like her parents/muslims friends/kasim! instead its just .... her love interest, dani, who is a white non muslim boy, has somewhat become her only source of strength and comfort and someone to confide in. and ... it just .... rubs me the wrong way bc he Doesnt get it. but amira HAS fellow muslims in her life but they're depriving her of these important conversations, some of which are issues that are a intra community/intra faith thing, like the topic of muslim men and their behaviours/habits, of physical touching in relationships before marriage, of dating etc.

and oooft amira's love interest, according to all the skams, was supposed to be a moc. but dani isnt. so the disconnect is even stronger. and ok. so lets say they wanna portray a r/l between a muslim poc and a non muslim white person, then atleast make the non muslim white love interest show that he is Trying to understand his partner's religion and boundaries and respects them and adheres to them. but ... he isnt. and the backlash of that was amira being called a prude and backwards thinking.

which leads to my main issue of this season. they introduced kasim, a muslim moc. the way they did so made it set up and feel like HE was amira's love interest. no skam has EVER shown 2 muslim characters be in a romantic relationship - this would have been the first time, and it would have been Huge if they had gone thru with it. idc if its a het romance, i do not care. i would rather have a positive healthy het romance between two muslims of colour be shown on screen, bc THATS what is needed to be shown in the west.

but no, they made kasim gay and demonised him (and what good did that do? Nothing. it wasnt a Woke Move to have a gay muslim moc at ALL bc the audience Hates kasim now) and had amira instigate kasim's coming out to his sister and like ..... what's up with that, man. when you had the better option RIGHT THERE of pairing up kasim and amira, and yall do this.

[zzapzzaptasers-a]

hi :) I'm confused by your shipping rules and was wondering if you could elaborate on them?

oh gosh yes hi!Thank you for asking! It’s always nice to have people who care enough to ask!

So, like, I’m trying to expand outside of shipping because I feel like I mostly just have ships and this is because 1) Darcy is easy to ship. She crushes on anyone who makes her feel the slightest bit important or needed and she also just doesn’t have a problem with casual sex partners or casual dating2) I’d say like 90 percent of my rp partners are friends that I’ve been writing with for atleast a year and honestly I feel like friendship often lends itself to shipping

so! In order to try and slow that down, I decided on two main ships for this blog.1) The AU this blog is based off of assumes a relationship between Darcy and @despair-with-walnuts Bruce/Hulk/Fixit.2) Anything else assumes a relationship with @harkthestormbreaker‘s Bill.

Of course, if there’s a certain chemistry and we both agree, I’m more than willing to make AUs for new ship dynamics (ie the branch of the first AU I have with @infamouscabal)Overall, I’m trying to prioritize story over romantic relationships -- not because there’s any shame in shipping but because I’m just...kinda burnt out on it. I try to make each ship individual and unique, like every relationship irl would be, and its kind of a lot of work to do that?So.Yeah!

[gg-astrology]

Helloooo :) I don't know if it is too late but, what do you think of cap sun taurus moon? :o

HAH WE HAVE THE SAME PLACEMENTS!!!! 💕 ITS CALL OUT TIME!! 💕💕

(and no ure not too late don’t worry 💕 thank u for dropping by anyways!!)

[Below Cut: Capricorn Sun - Taurus Moon 🍃]

We’re a lot more earthier than our usual earthy counterparts, like if anything if we’re not surrounded by atleast 5 trees we Will Die

It gets especially hard living in an urban city because….we might not be accessible to parks all the time.

Although we might like leafy greens and fauna, some of us may have a hard time motivating ourselves to keeping them alive/grow our own garden even when we like the ~aesthetic~

Second most self-praise thing is our voice. With the combination of Capricorn/Taurus you might realize that we tend to have influential voices when speaking to others (others see reasons/listens to us– can be kind of like the ‘therapist’ in groups of friends because they tend to give solid advice and tries to make it practical for others)

It’s a persuasive ability, where we give other people nudges towards the right direction usually through a socratic dialogue (like asking them questions and letting them find the answer themselves)

Because Taurus is ruled by Venus, we appeal to the emphathy/putting ourselves in other people’s shoes (social relationships) to show others how to view things differently

There’a terrible stubborn streak amongst us, where we feel like we constantly need time to ‘digest’ experiences in order to utilize them fully.

Our time works differently than others, 2 days weekend isn’t enough to do that. And once things start picking up we switch gears from ‘oh no I don’t have time to absorb’ into ‘fuck I gotta find my pattern’ in order to survive

Always in survival mode, the bare minimum. Keep a straight-focused outlook on things so we could concentrate on it instead (while in the moment)

Switches between moments of independency (and cherishing it) and wanting support/to be surrounded by others and help them (in the domestic life/sphere).

If your bed and your room is your friend. This is your ‘safe space’ and you can never work here. You’ll have delegated ‘spaces’ for working/productivity. Thus it becomes a conditioned ‘motive/pattern’ you set for yourself.

You can try to be soft an gentle, but you will Realize that you are a very straight-forward and blunt person. We all look constipated when we try to phrase something in a different way, often we don’t come up with a gentler phrase so we just– drag it out, cautiously to see if the other person is receptive to it or not.

Surprisingly we say ‘sorry’ quite often bc we Know other people might put it gentler than us but we don’t know how to Do It

AH most important thing— quiet doesn’t mean shy. Although we can tend to be shy early on in our childhood (*if it comes to that). Quiet is just comfortable, like ‘I don’t have to say stuff if I don’t have anything to say’ when you’re comfortable with urself/ur company y know

Most people might think we’re being ‘unnaturally quiet’ if you have an active Mercury/Venus that says otherwise— but there are moments where you’re just— chilling, and people are concerned even when you’re just ‘absorbing’ the view

When you’re stress, it shows. When you’re really anxiety ridden and nervous, others can tell it in your oppressive silence. Your face blanks out, and that normally doesn’t happen. Your eyes vacant, and your close friend can pick that up pretty quickly.

Although you like to touch and be touched, you can also be demanding about it. Like ‘pet my hair’ ‘squeeze me tight’ or something specific like ‘hold onto my rib-cage/sides’ — it’s weird I know. But it’s like, if you want something you ask for it or you go get it. 

Emotions are— hard. Because you tend to hide your own pains/bury them a lot. You’re not even aware that you feel more than what you feel in the moment. Capricorn suppresses and Taurus redirects. So you’re not even sure where your emotions go when in hiding.

Sometimes you can be in the shower and think ‘have i ever felt jealous?? envious of people???’ and it takes a little more time and retrospection to get familiar with emotions

Accepting ‘negative’ emotions and ‘ugly’ behaviors in yourself is extremely hard to do. This is because you pride yourself in being ‘kind’ to others. Thus you may be much stricter on yourself than you are with anyone else.

Doesn’t mean you don’t get strict with the people around you, you do. Especially when they’re doing detrimental things to themselves. You’re much better at dealing with them than your own problems though.

Sometimes your retrospection eats away at your thoughts at night, things to do, functions to execute, where are you now? What have you done? Are you going to be happy in say 5 years? What do you have for your ambitions?

You can be protective of people around you, especially after you see them cry or in pain. Your protective instinct kicks in really strongly, and you may have trouble letting them have autonomy without atleast giving them a hard look and saying shit like ‘ok, if that’s what you think/makes you happy’. 

With your best friends, you may used to have the idea that they’re yours. 

Your best friends. Your people. Especially in early childhood, having to ‘open yourself up’ and your friendship up to accepting new people throws you into an internal tantrum.

Still now, you might find that you better with one-on-one approaches to ‘getting close/to know people’ than large group settings. If you’re truly going to have a personal opinion on someone, you have to see them outside the context of a barrier– your mutual friends.

Your own chemistry with other people (one-on-one) matters a lot, because it lets you know how you’re doing. Who you are, what your flaws are and whether you have a different ‘side’ to you that comes out when you’re with them as well.

The thing about you is– you’re inherently honest. To the point where you can’t hide it or stifle it, even if you try your body/mind will scream at you for even attempting to do so. You’re a slave to your own honesty, but it’s also your advantage and your disadvantage.

You have immense capabilities to be understanding to others, and to help others who trust you because of this honesty. 

And because you hold yourself valuable for your integrity to people (heart-to-heart, one-on-one) you don’t ever let yourself consciously try to bring them down or let them have a reason to doubt you otherwise.

Even thinking about how people could misinterpret your actions as something with ulterior motive (threaten to discredit your integrity) you take pre-cautions to make sure everyone is on the same page, everyone understands where it’s coming from.

You don’t leave a stone unturned when you do something, you want to do your best but that also requires preparation works. Ground works, for you to focus on just diving into it later. You don’t deter from it at all, and meticulously prepare the ‘grounds’ for yourself every time.

Your humbleness comes from your core. But since you’re so focused on working/preparing and your side of the story all the time. You have a harder time ‘switching’ gears to being on the receiving end of things.

You’d have learnt earlier on in your life that you can usually have an ‘automated’ response to things/circumstances that requires responses. But you don’t ever want to appear insincere or disingenuine so you try your best to put yourself 100% in giving people sincerity at all times.

You’ll learn– that this tends to wear you out. And you require time away from people in your own space. You might like to bury yourself under 10 blankets, give yourself a good scrub in the bathroom or get tucked away in a corner doing your own thing. Personal comfort is rejuvenating to you, but you can let it get too far and make a bad habit of not going out because of it too.

You’re a homebody but you may pride yourself in the opposite. You bring attention and light to when you go out, what you did with people, what you saw today. Watch that you aren’t doing this to subconsciously ‘persuade’ yourself that you deserve to relax at home because you’ve ‘earned it’ (going out becomes an ‘achievement’, which in itself isn’t terrible but you tend to let yourself get comfortable/have a pattern that may be harder to break out of– and that generally leads to a sense of dread for you later on when you want to ‘switch gears’ to something else)

You’re a creature of habit, so try to make a journal or ‘check list’ for things whenever it appears (like ‘you have a meeting at 3pm, this has to get done by thursday, do groceries on this specific day because otherwise you won’t have time – use it like you have a secretary). 

Whenever you need to check, you have the journal to remind you of ‘obligations’ you have to work through.

If you don’t, you can let your days get past you or forget about things you have to do.   

Grocery shopping, especially when you have time to journey alone (and not talk to anyone)– is less of a chore and more like a place where you can enjoy self-care without feeling unproductive about yourself.

If you ever feel like you’re having a bad day, go grocery shopping. Splurge on some meats and make yourself a steak. If you’re a vegetarian, try looking for new things to try in these moment of vulnerabilities.

Also, don’t be afraid to buy dolls. Especially the big ones that are like 9′ tall and towers over you. You’re going to enjoy having a new seating space for yourself. Lie on it’s stomach, play on your laptop. 

You’ll do better with a cuddle buddy who doesn’t have their own needs (inanimate) when your partner/friends are less free to spend time with you. 

Don’t be afraid to initiate physical contact, if you want someone to kiss your checks. Ask to kiss theirs. Show them– through demonstration and response – how to physically care for you the way you might want/need it to.

You can be disgustingly cute with people even when you’re not in a romantic relationship with them, mostly because you think everyone deserves to feel loved even without it being romantic. Everyone deserves to feel cared for, adored and not less than a romantic partner.

There’s no shame in craving intimacy, from friends or from lovers. You know it’s different because your ‘shades’ with romantic partners are a lot more intense/directed. But that doesn’t mean you put your love for your friends second to your lovers.

Let yourself get giggly and bubbly, feel loved and adored. Let yourself open up about past experiences, situations you need help with. Let yourself admit to your friends/people around you how you feel, so that they can support you when you can’t support yourself.

That’s all I have for now 💕 This one is quite long mostly because I was thinking about it too much 💕 I hope it’s applicable to you ;; 💕💕