#my daydreams and paracosm are dedicated to me and me alone
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infiniteorangethethird · 1 year ago
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man the realization that I can do literally whatever the fuck I want within my daydreams/paracosm because I'm the only audience who will ever see it has been one of the most freeing thoughts I've had in a long time. ain't nobody can judge a story they don't even know about
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smol-grey-tea · 5 years ago
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Here's that Mental Wellbeing Competition thing I submitted if anyone's interested. I did wanna make my own MaDD information guide anyways and now that I think about it I might do something like this for other mental illnesses too.
Oh I also may have stolen some things people said for this but I put my own thoughts on it so it isn't just copy pasted oof sorry-
My Mental Illness
What has always bothered me about news, social media, and most people I meet is that they generally preach for mental health awareness and acceptance all the time, but I rarely hear people say much specific. They may reference anxiety and depression or may give suggestions on improving mental health, such as eating healthily or contacting friend, but the conversation typically ends there. In my opinion, the key to improving mental health awareness and acceptance is through sharing stories of those who have suffered through mental illnesses themselves, and starting conversations about specifically the more obscure and unknown mental health issues to encourage people to feel less alone about their own struggles as well.
I have chosen to give my story in hopes that it will help other people in my school too. The following details the mental illness I have, which is presently unknown to most of the world. Please read with an open mind.
Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder
Everyone daydreams: sometimes a lot, sometimes a little, but it's generally seen as only a minor nuisance of every day life. However, what you may not have heard of is a coping mechanism mental illness called maladaptive daydreaming disorder (often referred to as MaDD), in which people may daydream excessively, to the point where it severely negatively impacts their daily life, taking up approximately 56% of the day. My daydreams are often elaborate stories with well developed characters, but some MaDDers may daydream about their normal life. 82% of MaDDers also report that daydreaming is usually accompanied by a repetitive movement, such as tapping, rocking, or pacing (like me), especially whilst listening to music.
Just like any other mental illness, MaDD can be caused by trauma, abuse or neglect, but it can also, in my case, be caused simply by boredom or loneliness.
Current Research
Unfortunately, as of the time I'm writing this in early May 2020, maladaptive daydreaming disorder is not recognised as an official mental illness by professionals because it is so newly discovered so it is currently still being researched. Eli Somer - the man who coined the name maladaptive daydreaming - co-authored several papers on it with Cynthia Schupak and Jayne Bigelsen. Bigelsen was also the subject of an early case study which saw her cured of MaDD with SSRIs, and more recently she has built a website to support people dealing with unknown conditions like MaDD: https://jaynerachael.com/groups/?maladaptive-daydreaming-disorder/
As it isn't an official mental illness, there is no official treatment, however personally, I find that using a diary app such as Daylio helps me remember to do important tasks as I feel proud when I keep a streak of not pacing for a long time or even just something simple like brushing my teeth. Other MaDDers recommend keeping the mind occupied with 2 tasks at a time or dedicating certain times a day to daydreaming.
Key Terminology
Maladaptive Daydreaming Disorder/Maladaptive Daydreamer/MaDD/MaDDer/MDD/MD: MDD actually stands for major depressive disorder, and because MD can still be confused with major depression, MaDD is the acronym to use for maladaptive daydreaming disorder.
Immersive Daydreaming/Immersive Daydreamer/ID/IDer: An immersive daydreamer is someone who also has vivid and elaborate daydreams but they are not maladaptive and don't negatively impact their life.
Para: The people in our daydreams feel much more special and personal than simple characters in a story, so we coined the word para, which comes from the Greek word, meaning beside or next to.
Parame: A parame is essentially the 'me' that exists in the daydreams - for example, my parame's name is North.
Parain: A very recently coined term by a friend of mine - I don't have any parains myself but to some MaDDers, the term para is seen as a very positive word and so they don't feel comfortable referring to evil or 'villain' characters as paras so parain was coined.
Veritbond/Verit: Coined from the Latin word for true, veritbond/verit refers to a para that is a lot more special than the rest of them. To use a personal example, my verit, Red is the only para who I love and wish was real and I feel genuinely depressed when I don't daydream about him - this is completely different to the rest of my paras, and while I do care about them I don't really love or miss any of them.
Paracosm: This term refers to a daydreaming world or story. Some MaDDers have many different paracosms, some only have one, while I personally only have 2: the 1st (that I've name Shelter) is roughly 6 years old and the 2nd (Lost Children) is about 2-3 years.
Neuronarrative: The paracosm of a neuronarrator.
Thisverse: This word refers to reality, in comparison to paracosm or neuronarrative.
Paramay/Separatember: An online event in May and September in which MaDDers share their paras and talk about them, using a theme for each day of the month.
Daydream Crash: This refers to when a MaDDer feels sad or disappointed that their daydreams and paras aren't real.
Daydream Block: Similar to an art block or writing block, this refers to when a MaDDer finds it difficult to daydream. When I'm in a daydream block my mind often feels blank or blurry and it makes me feel depressed.
Daydream Trigger: This refers to something that triggers a person to daydream. The most common daydream triggers are music, TV, books, movies, etc.
Myths and Misconceptions
1. "But everyone daydreams!"
Yes, everyone does daydream, but maladaptive daydreaming involves daydreaming to an unhealthy extent. In my experiences, daydreaming often prevents me from eating, sleeping, staying hygienic, doing homework/revision, talking to my friends/family, doing hobbies, etc. It's maladaptive, that's why it's a mental illness.
2. "Why don't you just stop?"
Maladaptive daydreaming is a behavioural addiction and stopping MaDD would give me the same struggles that an alcoholic would have when trying to stop drinking alcohol. Daydreaming is constantly happening because I always have thoughts in my brain; I'm like an alcoholic with an endless supply of alcohol.
3. "That sounds so fun! I wish I had your creativity!"
MaDD can be fun in theory of course and the idea of daydreaming about such amazing things all the time sounds great but it isn't like that at all.
Firstly, I suppose I do have control over when or how I daydream but I have a very limited control over what I daydream about. I remember one point in the past where I was happily daydreaming about Shelter, my 1st paracosm, but I then soon started to daydream about Lost Children, and since I could only daydream about my verit in Shelter, this made me feel depressed.
Secondly, I also often have quite disturbing/dark daydreams. I call it an emotionally devastating/EmDe daydream because, when I daydream a para's pain, I can almost physically feel it, and it makes my heart hurt. EmDe daydreams have to be what I hate the most about MaDD because I would never want to see such horrible things happen to the people I love, and it makes me feel guilty for imagining such sick and disgusting things for my own brain's entertainment. I feel better though, knowing that I share these struggles with most, if not all, other MaDDers.
In addition to that, the obsession and connection with my parame has led to my own fear of needles and surgery, all because of her own trauma. My brain has created a fake person, with fake trauma, and given me real fear.
No, maladaptive daydreaming is not 'fun'.
4. "Isn't that just schizophrenia?"
No, all MaDDers can easily understand the difference between reality and fiction, and while our daydreams can be quite vivid at times, we know they aren't real. None of us have any sort of hallucinations, delusions or paranoia, unless we also have schizophrenia alongside MaDD - which isn't unheard of, since MaDD usually accompanies other mental illnesses, and people like me, who only have MaDD, aren't too common.
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infiniteorangethethird · 2 years ago
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hey madd side of tumblr, i've got a weirdly specific experience for y'all that I'm dying to share with someone but nobody in my close proximity understands what madd even is
So my daydreaming style is generally very linear, in the sense that there's not much time jumping. Anything that happens adds to what I daydreamed before, usually directly, and even if I "rewrite" parts of history, where I am in the "present" doesn't change. A while back though, I had a random idea for a possible future for my paras - it was a fun thought to play with, but I knew it was too far off into the future, so I knew it couldn't become "canon" to my paracosm because of the time difference.
But what I hadn't expected was that I'd start molding the story so that this particular future could, some day, become the present. I hadn't even planned for it to actually take place, let alone me taking active steps in ensuring it does. And today, I finally arrived at making that possible future the present.
I keep track of my daydreams bc I'm terrified of forgetting anything of them, so I went back and checked - the idea first came to me roughly three years ago.
For the past three years, my daydreaming has been dictated by one random idea I had dismissed as unimportant and non-canon. And honestly? I have no idea how to feel about this.
For one, I am amazed of my dedication regarding something I'm literally doing as a coping mechanism (which is a whole another can of worms), and it feels strangely... exhilarating? To be in this position. Like finally! Years of planning and preparation has finally payed off! It feels so important to me and yet if I shared it with anyone they'd probably think I lost it.
And at the same time... for the past three years, I had a goal to fight towards, a definitive end point my paracosm was heading towards. A fallback plan in case I ran out of ideas at any time; if the story ever felt like closing I could always just point to this and say "hey, we can't end it yet, this still hasn't happened" and it was strangely calming. And now something that has been a stable point for so long is gone and it's kind of freaky.
And at the same time, in ensuring that this specific plotline could happen, I had to restrict the other events within my paracosm, and now that restraint is gone. So it's freaky but it's also very freeing?
I don't know, man. I just really wish it was easier to talk about this kind of stuff with people but as I said, it's very difficult to explain what a paracosm even is let alone my incredibly complicated relationship with it. I doubt anyone will even read this, but if you do, feel free to go wild in the reblogs/comments about your own similar (or wildly different but hard to explain regardless) experiences with your own paracosms
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