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[acircusfullofdemons]

💭🔮✨ THE ULTIMATE DAYDREAMER’S GUIDE ✨🔮💭

REBLOGS OFF BC OF R*DQUEERS & TR*NSIDS 🖕

💭 What is it?

This is a guide both for those in the Daydreaming Community, or want to learn more about it. It is meant to be an archive of all things relating to MaDD & ID, and is curated/run/owned by yours truly!

💭 Can I link this on my blog/post/etc?

Yes!! The whole reason this doc was made was so that it can be passed around as a general resource, so you are more than welcome to link it anywhere you want. The same goes for anything linked within the doc itself -- not that I own any of it anyway lol.

💭 Can we give suggestions?

Suggestions are highly encouraged & appreciated! I am only one person running this doc, after all, and will not be able to uncover/document everything without some help. You can send me stuff through DMs or my ask box.

💭 What happened to the original doc?

EDIT 3/27/24: the original document had gotten marked as spam by Google. This issue has now been resolved, and it's back up & running! The backup will remain, but not updated as often as the main doc will be. Sorry, I know it's a huge mess 😖 links have been updated to the main/original doc.

I wish I knew! It was brought to my attention that it had gotten flaged for review for...some reason. I've tried figuring out how to request a review for it, but it won't work. So I've resorted to just making a new doc. Sucks, but that's all I can do right now.

Because this is a whole new doc, I'm going to be tagging some people so the word gets spread a little bit. Sorry!

@blue-bubonic @writingmadd @thedaydreamdictionary @burningivy @chamomilemanor @dreaminpeaches @daydreaming-memories @scorpiolight-madd @whizzergoingmadd @fallingmaddlyinlove @blue-madd @skiaismadd @maddgicalgirl @heartofdaydreams

[everyone-with-a-para]

Hi! I have several questions, if that's okay.

I very recently found out about daydreaming community, and, honestly, was in awe, because all my life I thought I was that one weird autistic child with really big imagination and finding this community was like a blessing, because I don't feel that alone now. But, surfing a in this part of the internet left me a little bit confused and the fact that english is my second language does not help.

So, first question. I somewhat lost the line between immersive daydreamings and MaDD. I am sure that all of my daydreamings are immersive, because all of my life I was daydreaming to the point of every single moment of free time. But I don't understand when immersive daydreamings end and MaDD begins. As far as I understood, people with MaDD have difficult time leaving their daydreams, because of one reason or another and use them as coping mechanisms. At which point immersive daydreamings become MaDD? What is the line? What are, let's say, particular qualities of it? If that's okay for you and isn't hard, can you explain it in detail with examples? I try to understand myself, and while I find in myself a lot of stuff, I don't want to invade the MaDD community as (somewhat) healthy person.

Second, is having DID is a requirement for any of this? Is this still okay to be in the community and not have DID?

Third, maybe not a question, but clarification, as far as I understood, "para" in daydream community means someone (character, your version of self, yourself and so on) you have connection with. Again, character, yourself or version of yourself, in which I am sure. Am I correct in it? Can people you know in real life, if you are religious, God(s), spirits and others, different kins of alterhumanity and fictional characters from other media also consider as "para"? Are there any other labels like this?

Thank you, if you will have time to answer this. It way be a lot, I am just excited to find some niche that I was having all my life actually is (somewhat) common experience and I am not alone in it. I hope you will have a great rest of the week.

Hi welcome! I remember the relief I felt when I first found this community too. MaDD can feel like such an isolating thing if you don't know others experience the same

This got a little long so answers to your questions are under the cut

1. Immersive daydreaming is defined as intense and developed daydreams that feel more vivid than regular passive daydreaming. It's often used as a coping mechanism and often started in childhood, but those are not defining features

Inherently, all maladaptive daydreaming is immersive. It becomes defined as maladaptive when it negatively impacts your daily life. This is widely up to your own interpretation, if you feel like it makes life (whether that's external activities or internal feelings) more difficult for you, as MaDD is not yet a diagnosable disorder

Personally, some ways it negatively impacts, or has impacted me in the past: emotions feeling more real for people in my head than anything in my real life, embarrassment/anxiety of letting my daydreams show on my face in front of people, paranoia regarding mind readers despite knowing they don't exist, injuring myself from acting out daydream scenes, forgetting to eat/drink/take care of basic hygiene in favour of daydreaming or just losing track of time, dissociation, derealisation/depersonalisation, second hand distress from my paras

Anything like that and more can be counted as your daydreams being maladaptive. The coiner of the term, Dr Eli Somer, has actually made a list of proposed diagnostic criteria, should MaDD ever get to be in the DSM. You can find that here

2. DID/OSDD and MaDD have significant overlap/comorbidity and MaDD has been proposed as a dissociative disorder itself (for a research paper about this see here) but one is in no way required for the other

I'm not a system, but I am very vocally supportive of them because my best friend(s) is, that and the comobidity is why you might see a little system content on my blog

3. Para is a term used by the immersive and maladaptive daydreaming communities to describe any character within a daydream. Anyone/thing that exists in real life or as a spiritual concept can't be considered a para unless they are directly part of your daydreams

There are other terms such as parame (a para you daydream from the POV of), paraself (a version of yourself in a daydream), veritbond (a para that feels more independent and has a deeper connection and meaning to you), and paracosm (a world in which a daydream takes place). A comprehensive list of all ID/MaDD terms can be found here

I hope this answers your questions in a clear/helpful way. You're always welcome to ask more!

[vlupshittous]

I used to get so daunted by the size of my paracosm and the amount of exposition I had to do and the fact that it flows more like an oral story than a written one. I've written and drawn the "beginning" of my story so many times in an effort to start at the beginning and record the whole thing and I've never gotten very far.

Instead, I started writing little vignettes-- it's not good in a beginning, middle, end sort of way, and I skip so much exposition because I know I already know the lore, but after enough time I've built up a hefty enough collection of vignettes that I no longer feel like my paracosm is unrecordable.

I also started a lore document where I just arranged everything I could find that I've ever made for my paracosm in chronological order. Sure there are still big parts missing, and vast sections of the document are just embarrassing to me now because of how long ago I wrote them, but it does a pretty reasonable job of telling the story.

Write about your paracosms!!

I just read back some stuffs I wrote about a paracosm I created based on a dream like 5-7 years ago and I am sobbing. Yes, it's written badly. Yes, I'm judging myself a little but still-

Most of it is nonsense since I forgot some of the lore (like there are a lot of characters being mentioned with absolutely 0 clue of who they are & I can't remember shit about them so it's v frustrating) but I'm so happy I still thought about writing and keeping parts of this story because it's amazing and exciting and I'm so proud of myself, I can't believe my brain came up with all of that based on one fucked up dream!?

My point is : write it down. Doesn't need to be well written or make 50 pages but one day your future self might find it back and be amazed at how creative you are. One day, you might miss these worlds so keep a trace of it to help you remember how awesome they are.

These will make good memories to look back to, I promise.

[cemetery14]

IM GOING TO THE HANNIBAL C2E2 PANEL!!

This is my first panel and im not sure what question I would ask that they haven't already been asked a million times

So if any hannibal tumblrs wanna grab my by the shoulders and instruct on what to do please do

I am your vessel

[sillyfudgemonkeys]

I was trying to write another (semi-)hehe huhu funny "Kyoshi kill count code cracked" post and then I remembered what Disha said and-

It got serious real quick

[amateur-madder]

Guess who started a fake wiki for their paras 😈 I haven't finished it but it's going pretty great! I've got a page for each paracosm and para and the page layout is quite similar to actual fandom wikis which is pretty satisfying for someone who relies heavily of them. It's also nice to have a place where I can info dump about how they look, who they interact with and their history!

[acircusfullofdemons]

Yes! Most MaDD-centric tags are absolutely okay for Immersive Daydreamers to use, as we share similar if not the same experiences 99% of the time. The only ones I'd stay away from are "madd negativity" & "madd pains", as those are for talking abt MaDD exclusively, though tbh idk how active they are now.

Also, in case you didn't know, #paraportal is the main tag for talking about paras & paracosms!

question for maladaptive daydreamers, can i use the madd tags when im talking about my paracosms, as an immersive daydreamer? id like to, both for more reach and to see if other ppl relate to some of the things i experience, but idk if its a super big no-no or not

[dreamingdreamdrop]

we dont be playing no games

thats a lie we need to update a lot of paras info aaa but we're gonna b posting mroe madd content hopefully just talking about our plushie paras, regular paras, etc

[parasafterdark]

We interrupt the current storylines to have a concert of all the "Barbie Girl" Covers that I have been listening to all week!

[void-cloud]

MaDD not being a recognized thing(tm) is annoying cause....

Yeah I can talk about symptoms and how they affect me and all that obviously visible stuff (that I can also relate to other dx).

But also I'm not sure how to properly convey that the fictional people in my head had a convo about dinner choices while my psych was explaining med stuff right in front of me

[whizzergoingmadd]

guy who cannot info dump abt his interests to his paras bcos his paras are from said interest

[acircusfullofdemons]

💭🔮✨ THE ULTIMATE DAYDREAMER’S GUIDE ✨🔮💭

💭 What is it?

This is a guide both for those in the Daydreaming Community, or want to learn more about it. It is meant to be an archive of all things relating to MaDD & ID, and is curated/run/owned by yours truly!

💭 Can I link this on my blog/post/etc?

Yes!! The whole reason this doc was made was so that it can be passed around as a general resource, so you are more than welcome to link it anywhere you want. Obviously everything in the doc is also fair game, all of it was made by & for the community, after all.

💭 Can we give suggestions?

Suggestions are highly encouraged & appreciated! I am only one person running this doc, after all, and will not be able to uncover/document everything without some help. You can send me stuff through DMs, my ask box, or discord if you have it. Basically if you have a way to reach me, you can send a suggestion lol I'm not picky.

💭 Links

Playlist: A compilation of songs about daydreaming, whether directly or just based on vibes. Currently only on Spotify.

Blog Submission Form: Since the daydream community is ever changing, I thought it would be a nice idea to compile a list of MaDD & ID blogs to be featured under the "Blogs" section. This section of the doc is so that community members — new & old — have a better idea of who to follow/who is active. Entirely optional & I will only add those who ask.

[asrieltheflower]

How fucking DARE you call me out like this!

normal vs disordered: maladaptive daydreaming

normal: drifting off into a fantasy when travelling (as a passenger in a car, or bus, etc)

not normal: looking forward to quiet times in your day just so that you have a chance to daydream in peace

normal: taking a couple seconds to pull away from a daydream when someone calls for your attention

not normal: being so sucked into your daydream that it becomes hard for anyone to communicate with you

normal: having a good imagination

not normal: having such a vivid imagination that your imagination starts to mix with reality

normal: daydreaming to cope with boredom

not normal: daydreaming to cope with anything and everything. using daydreaming as a form of escapism

normal: only daydreaming when you have the time

not normal: your daydreaming interferes with your ability to complete daily tasks

everyone likes a nice daydream every now and then, but with maladaptive daydreaming, the daydream becomes the key coping mechanism. this means that it ends up interfering with your life, as you start to use it to cope with any uncomfortable situation. there are other coping mechanisms out there though, and you can learn how to daydream without it impacting your ability to live life!

[blue-madd]

I love how I'm linked to my parame by some small unimportant details

Like our smell ; my parame is well known by his lovers for always smelling divine, everyone is crazy about his natural odor. And I have come to realize that a lot of people like my natural scent just as much as people like his.

It's kinda weird and funny to think about

[jimmy-tulparco-pilot]

*throws the entire canon jimmy mouthwashing lore for you to read then leaves*

Here's what the actual jimbus nimbus the III did

IMPLIED ABUSE. (Can be interpreted as SA or Phisical Abuse)

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(Oh my god Jimenez Lore drop? 👀)

Hi! Im the OP once more, and here's a little secret about me, more than an artist, im a medical student with the focus of becoming a psychiatrist and a psychoanalist. anyway here is a little something: Mentions of Abuse, under the cut and a little personal rant if you dont want to read you dont have to.

A lot that the Psychoanalists of Freud and Jung talk about is the co-relation of the bad parenting to ones trauma in development, if you were Abused as a child theres a higher possibility of you growing to be an Abuser as an adult, if you have been thought that your values as a person is defined by a certain something as a child there's a higher possibility of you believing that to your adulthood and that's what im going here about.

For the ones who dont know, i have a comic strip that works for Canon Jimmy and the tulpar crew, where the topics of Mental Health will also be aborded. more info about it on @analgesic-comic

Now a bit of a Personal talk, i know some people are getting mad that jimmy on this au hast done anything big assholish to anyone yet and that he hadnt r**ed anya and that its "out of character". But i will be honest, i made this for me to draw some silly goofy stuff, while i take breaks from my comic, my comic has a lot of heavy writing envolved and doesn't give much space for jokes, there's funny stuff here and there but still all of it is pretty heavy because its based of a psychological horror. So i made this Ask blog that aint even in the future. It's in the present to be able to draw the characters and get my mind out of some stuff.

I love drawing jimmy because i love his design, and i love drawing all the characters, but if every drawing i made of them was strictly related to canon i would never bring myself to draw any stupid stuff because my autistic brain would ran me on the "Oh no they wouldn't do that because jimmy is there, jimmy and curly are the only ones you can draw together because curly is the only one who turns a blind eye to jimmys actions"

On the ask blog, Jimmy keeps his personality, but he is getting MENTAL TREATMENT that is making him a little less insuferable, of all the answers most of them there's scenes of him trying to gaslight curly or being mean to someone so i think i madd quite clear he is not healed, i just made him not be a criminal.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

AITA for indirectly telling my boyfriend that he’s not really type by talking about my celebrity crushes a lot?

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First of all, this wasn’t on purpose. I might’ve done it unconsciously but I would never do this with the intention of hurting my boyfriend.

My boyfriend and I (both 20m) have been together for 7 months now and I really love him. The thing is, he’s not really my type at all and I don’t feel any sexual attraction towards him. This doesn’t bother me at all and I love him far beyond what he looks like. I guess it’s more important to him than to me because he really wants intimacy due to the fact he’s hypersexual.

Now, I’m a little insane when it comes to dilf blorbos and I guess I have a certain type. I talk a lot about them and like to show photos of them. Average fan behavior, with a touch of BPD and MADD.

I let my boyfriend snoop around on my Pinterest because he was bored, and he went through my ‘father problems’ board only to find hundreds of Hamish Linklater and Rahul Kohli photos in it. An occasional Benicio Del Toro. That was the moment he sort of realized, I guess, that I seem to prefer more masculine and creative men. (He’s not really creative.)

I never paid attention to the fact that they’re apparently the opposite of my boyfriend, or rather just more masculine and way older. My boyfriend leans more feminine, which I’m really not into but I’m not about to tell him that and stop him from presenting the way he wants to.

I love him a lot, but I don’t feel attracted to him at all. Intimacy is super awkward because we both lean more submissive and I’ve never enjoyed it. We’ve talked about it and he’s aware of this. We’re trying to figure it out.

But I think this whole combination of things just sparked a lot of insecurity in him and he keeps asking me if he’s actually my type. He knows I like to read fanfic with dominant characters and that I tend to gravitate towards people/characters that tend to be more aggressive and dominant as well. I keep reassuring him that he’s my type, even if he’s not just to avoid a difficult conversation.

My question is, am I the asshole for doing this? Should I have not talked about this stuff in front of him when he’s clearly the opposite of my blorbos?

What are these acronyms?