#LadyBoss: redefining what a boss looks like
Too many of us grew up only seeing one kind of boss or leader in the media. The lack of representation for other groups reinforced harmful stereotypes and acted as a self-fulfilling prophesy, but would our opinion of what a leader looks like be different if the media did a better job at representing the true diversity of leadership in America?
Women and other under-represented groups are already leading many great companies, organizations, & academic institutions; others are authoring best-sellers, building engaged audiences, leading movements and more.
We had the honor of connecting with many of the best and brightest female leaders from in and around the city and we asked them our question of the month: What is the best advice you have for someone who feels like they are facing insurmountable odds.
We encourage you to check out the female leaders we’ve highlighted below, follow them on social media if you find their work or story interesting and most importantly do your part to #fightstereotypes.
Stacie Dahlbeck | Yoga instructor and Hip Hop Yoga Creator
@rkbgraphics
When faced with a challenge that seems insurmountable, it is important to remember that your reaction to a challenge determines how the situation unfolds. Remember to be bold, take challenges head on, and know that everything you need to handle your situation is already within you. On another Note, take solace in knowing that every notable achievement thus far was once deemed impossible and insurmountable.
Claudia | nail artist & lash | pmu artist
Don’t give up! Keep going and never let someone else’s opinion of you define you or keep you from following your dreams. Anything can be mastered with practice and practice will make perfect! It’s only failure if you quit.
@girlbossbeautybox
Natasha Chimney, BBA, CPT | Founder of She Who Embraces | Author | Entrepreneur | Mentor | Personal Trainer
The best advice that I would give to a fellow brother/sister facing difficult challenges would be to truly hang on & seek God first! I, too, have faced many challenging and dark seasons but I had to trust that God was with me every step of the way. I was always told “one day you will look back on this moment and smile” and I must say I overcame my Giant and did just that! It took me not only evaluating myself, my environment but my circumstances, as well. If I wanted a different outcome, I need to change my outlook, along with my decision making and/or behaviors. Trouble truly doesn’t last always. Now every troubling experience I have, I’m fully equipped with His armor because my previous lessons prepared me & it can do the same for you! I have provided a bible verse to serve as your reminder as you push through your seasons: “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”” John 16:33 NIV God promises that your battles will be won! Hang on to His every Word & in due time you will experience victory!! Your roads will get tough, but give yourself credit! You are much more stronger than you think!! Believe in His promises & also believe in yourself!
shewhoembraces.com
@shewhoembraces
@shewhoembraces01
Jo Lam Founder | Project Beauty (501c3 nonprofit) Empowerment Coach and Speaker
We have to remember that no matter what happens to us. We have the choice to choose how we perceive and respond to that situation. I have been through many obstacles and challenges in my own personal journey, and what I have learned is to master my own energy, my own emotions. We can’t change what happens to us. But we can change how we look at those experiences, and when we change our perspective, what we look at changes. I look at every experience as a teacher. I know that nothing happens in vain. We grow and learn from EVERYTHING. It might be hard to see it while we are going through the storm. But look at your life, how many times you thought you couldn’t make it through. But somehow things always works out. We can’t deny that there is always a Higher Power at play… and when we look at this from the perspective of “I am so glad I got to go through this, because it taught me what I do want or don’t want” you will begin to build gratitude for EVERY experience.
theprojectbeauty.org
@project_beauty_dfw
@projectbeautydfw
Tanika Brooks | Jewelry Making Mama | Jewelry Designer & Milso (Military Spouse) Business Owner
When facing a challenge that feels insurmountable I turn to my faith and creating a plan. Usually something seems challenging because we think it’s outside of what we are capable of. I often remind myself to pray because I know with God all things are possible. I then will sit down write out what I think is difficult about the challenge and create a solution that will allow me to conquer the challenge. Breaking down a larger task into smaller ones and creating a list of priorities allows me to concentrate and complete the task. Also as a stay at home mom and wife,by creating smaller tasks I am able to ensure I have some balance between running my business and family time. Being with family when I’m trying to work through a challenge allows me to stay encouraged because they are my why.
honeybeahive.com
@Honeybeahive
@naturallykhaotic
Alison | manager | mom blogger
When the world seems like it’s against you and there’s no options stop and pick what you can control, what you can easily solve and take it from there. The minute I stopped fretting over the things out of my control the less insurmountable they felt. You control your life, and your destiny, no one else.
@amomsjourney.tx
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Kj | Social Media Influencer | Beauty Vlogger
As someone who knows there fair share of regular anxiety attacks when a situation appears to be insurmountable the best thing to do is take a deep breath and use what I call The Method of Three: think of 3 solutions, 3 different ways to attack the situation, and 3 positive things that may result once the challenge has been tackled. I find this very helpful in school, and life. 3 different solutions will help you visualize a positive end result, 3 different ways to attack allow your mind to be put at ease because there’s a plan in motion and finally 3 positive things that may result in completing the challenge provides that little bit of motivation I feel we all need to face our challenges head on. Lastly remember, nothing is impossible unless we make it so, You can accomplish anything,be anything and do anything!
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@Kjradiant
Kennedy Vaughan | Nutritionist & Spin Instructor
The best advice I have for someone facing a challenge that they feel is insurmountable is that the challenges in life will wax and wane. Even though it might feel like the world is caving in, one day we look back at that situation and notice that it was the exact obstacle that helped us get where we are today, stronger. We are never too old to start over and create ourselves again.
@Kennedy.Vaughan
Sheena Lu | Dallas Influencer
If you fall, get back up. Once you’re down you can only go up from there. Remember what your goals are and channel that energy to motivation.
@ohhwhatsnext
Sweta Das | Beauty fashion lifestyle blogger &youtuber
Keep working hard and stay focused. Maintain a healthy lifestyle is really important If you put out good energy you will receive that in return that’s what i believe Don’t try to conquer everything at once, give some time and gather knowledge. Treat people the way you would want to be treated. be kind to yourself and one another.
@sweta_lolo
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Bri Franklin | Integrated Nutritionist and Founder of the Fundamental Health Formula
Ask 2 Questions (or better yet, journal/write it down):
1. How will my life change by overcoming this challenge? (be specific, descriptive and tap into it deeply)
2. What is ONE THING I can do right now (or today) that will get me closer achieving this?
Keep asking #2 until you’re experiencing #1.
bfrankcoaching.com
@coachbfrank
@FundamentalHealthFormula
Amber Jackson | Frame Stylist | Optician
My best advice for someone who is facing a challenge they feel is insurmountable is to speak positive affirmations over themselves and to “show up” every day. Through perseverance and dedication we are able to achieve what we don’t have fully worked out or the answers to. If you keep hitting a brick wall long enough, eventually it has to break.
glitzopticalonline.com
@glitzoncanvasoptical
@glitzoptical
Avery Foster | Instagram Fashion Blogger & Influencer
When I think about facing a challenge that is seemingly insurmountable, I have to constantly remind myself that everyone had to start somewhere or had to face something similar. Even the most successful people have dealt with tribulations that have hindered them from reaching their absolute best. When it comes to success, it is often difficult to keep this in mind. I know I have wrestled with simply wanting to reach my goals without traversing through tough times. However, when handling struggles with determination and grit, getting through them can make us stronger in the end! It is imperative to remember that what we battle can make reaching our end goal that much more satisfying.
@averyfosterstyle
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Tina Naidu | Outpatient Program Director | fitness | health & dance enthusiast
@prashantiphotos
No 2 situations are the same and the timeline of emotions (the peaks and valleys) that people go through is different too. An advice for one person may not resonate with the other, but I think it’s important to know that nothing is truly insurmountable. It’s our mindset and how we perceive things. So when we change the way we perceive a challenge it helps us overcome it or possibly find another path in life. When facing a challenge, I try to write down things that I’ve already done and failed and things that I still need to do. It helps me see it in writing instead of dwelling over it in my head. Things don’t always go as planned, it’s okay, slow down, take a step back, adapt!! There isn’t one set way or right way to get to where you want to be. It took me a while to understand all of this too and I am still learning as life throws some curve balls at me. But I’m much happier being able to change my mindset!! It is also very important to surround yourself with those who will lift you up when you truly need it. You can’t always overcome things on your own and it’s okay to ask for help and those who believe in you will be by your side no matter what.
@fit2frolic
Sarah Blaido | artist | cosplayer | histology lab aide
Challenges that seem too big to tackle often need to be broken into bite sized pieces. My mother always says “just take the first step”. I frequently find myself falling back on that advice when I am feeling overwhelmed by the big picture. Also remember to use your support group (friends, family, etc) to help you get through challenges. It’s easier when you’re not alone!
@vespidcosplay
@vespidqueen
Kristen Cruz | Brand Promotion Strategist & Event Planner
There will be challenges big and small, everyday of your life. The most rewarding part is looking back at that one challenge you thought you’d never overcome and remembering you’re so much stronger than you give yourself credit for.
kristencruz.com
@kristencruz
Brandy Haas | Lash Artist
Life can be challenging, the best advice I can give is to be present through it. Taking one day at a time, sometimes even one hour at a time. You’ll emerge and when you do it’ll be growth and perspective you’ll gain.
@brandy.peachykeenstudio
Daisy Barrera | Hair stylist
Take a moment to breathe and think about where you started and where you are at currently. Take everything a step at a time.
@hairbydaisybarrera
Kimberly Kirt | Online Entrepreneur | Fitness Fanatic and Owner of Hustle & Flow Social Co.
Take everything one step at a time. When there are massive obstacles in the way, it is best to break them down by small, quickly accomplishable steps, that you can check off and work through every day and every week. It will take time, but if you stay consistent you will overcome that challenge!
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instagram.com/hustleandflowsoco
Sonya J. Cameron | TCM Classic Movie Junkie | Wife | Mother | Owner of J Cameron House of Linen Rental
Ryan G. Cameron (UNT Film Student)
If you are still able to experience the emotions (anger, sadness, crying and even screaming) that go along with trials then you maybe down, but you are definitely not out…you still have some fight in you. Each and every challenge that I have faced in life was temporary and after the storm came growth, resilience, determination. You realize just how strong you are.
jcameronhouseoflinens.org
@jcameronhouse
Yaasameen Garrett | Entrepreneur & Multi-Media Creative
The best advice I have is to take a step back, think about yourself be selfish in that moment and decided what’s important to you and what makes you happy first. Then break down your challenge, plan it out and accomplish it with little steps, so it doesn’t seem so overwhelming.
@loveyaasameenxo
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Kristin Nicole | Professional Makeup Artist
When someone is facing a challenge that feels insurmountable they need to believe within themselves, have strength that things will get better and can get better. There’s no failure unless you stop trying. So, keep going cause great things will come!
instagram.com/makeupby.kris10
Brittany Howard | Teacher (elementary) & Makeup Artist
My advice to anyone who feels/thinks that the challenges they are facing are insurmountable is: to go all the way through it first. I’ve never faced a challenge that God (as I know him) has never brought me through. And I’ve been through some things. Nothing is too great.
@beatbybritmua
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Tasha Jay | vocalist | vocal coach and artist
Know that you can control the challenge and that you can do ANYTHING you put your mind too. That you’re only faced with things that seem challenging to get you to that next level. Face, Embrace and Conquer your fears.
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@tashajaymusic
Jen Russum | wife | mom | English professor
Drink lots of water, get enough sleep, make a plan and break it into baby steps, and pray like crazy.
jenrussum.com
@jenrussum
Mamta Rana | Lead Henna Artist at Matrika Henna
You know we always hear other people advise us to take ourselves out of the equation and detach ourselves to see the situation for what it is- without all of the emotion and all the drama. I’ve always had an issue with this because, how does one just shut out their emotions. (They’re involuntary to a certain extent, and we can only control them for so long, before we end up exploding like an emotional volcano.) I think it’s essential to find out why the situation is making us feel like its so big and insurmountable in the first place. See, because it’s all in our head.
I’d like to share the following method that my mentor once shared with me- its called the five why’s method. So anytime we feel a certain way about something we ask why, and then we question that reason by asking why four more times. Some research shows that by the time we ask why for the fourth or fifth time we are able to get to the core of the issue at hand. So for example if the issue at hand is,” I feel like I’ll never be able be healthy.” and we might ask:
1. Why? answer: oh because I don’t have time
2. why? answer: because I work two jobs and have a child
3. Why? answer: because I need to make money, because my parents abused drugs and alcohol and I don’t want my child to not have to feel like they can’t have a child hood.
4. Why? answer: Because that is what I had to do. I never had a childhood because my parents abused drugs and alcohol so much that I felt like I grew up too fast and didn’t have a child hood and I want my child to go through that.
Now this is just an example all of the format that we may have- the answers will vary from person to person, but answering the questions honestly and in depth and asking why we feel a certain way about the situation until a deep answer is received is key to opening the curtain to whatever situation is seemingly unbearable. and then when we work thorough the core back up to the situation at hand it doesn’t seem so insurmountable because we now are able to understand our feelings enough to be like okay I get why I’m feeling so bad about this, I have now acknowledged my feelings and can detach my feelings in a loving way and then proceed to look at the issue that was once so big and scary from a practical stand point.
@matrikahenna.official
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Mayra Alas | Certified Lash Artist | M Lash Studio
When the odds are against you is when we learn the most about ourselves. Take a moment and put things into perspective. With focus and a positive attitude you can achieve anything.
@m_lashstudio
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Ezmirelda Elizondo | Cosmetologist & Beauty Influencer
My best advice for someone who is facing a challenge that they feel is insurmountable is if you work hard enough and you really want to conquer it, it can be done and to just work hard for whatever you want; It can definitely be accomplished!
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Shelby Plummer | Makeup Artist and University Student
It is easy to forget that our bodies and minds are not permanent on this earth, but the effort you put forth is. Be the example for generations to come and never give in no matter the challenges you face.
@shelbyplummermua
Erin Clark | Life Coach and Wellness Advocate for Mompreneurs
When I am faced with challenges that seem too big to overcome, first – I close my eyes and take 10 deep breaths. By slowing myself down, I am able to clear my mind and see the challenge for what it really it. Nothing is too big for your brain to take on if it’s well trained. In my work, I have realized that every problem – and I mean EVERY PROBLEM – can be solved in our mind first. By understanding our thoughts and emotions are the root of our actions and results, we can take on anything without ever changing the circumstance at hand! Nothing is too big for the mind to handle.
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