#milso challenge

[acoustic-aly]

And just like that, I fell even harder.

You.

[milsolarison-blog]

Milso challenge day 12: 10 things you like about them 1. His laugh 2. His motivation and dedication to anything he puts his mind to 3. His emotional side 4. His memes - I mean come on that's a given 5. His desire for the plain white-picket fence life (because I want a crazy traveling life so he'll balance me out) 6. His sense of humor 7. His unconditional loyalty and love for everyone he cares about 8. His intelligence 9. The way he sleeps 10. His emotional strength

[malloryshaee]

New video is up on my youtube channel! Link in my bio

[ldrdiariess-blog]

Our next question today is “When did you both first say “I love you”? If you haven’t tet, when and how do you think it will happen?”

Comment with your answers, post them with the hashtag #LDD30DayChallenge or add your answers to the forum here…

[annielouisedavis-blog]

Lush Cosmetics mission

Since I love Lush products so much I decided that over time (a very long time lol) I want to try every Lush item at least once! My lovely husband agreed to let me spend $20 every paycheck to slowly achieve this!

This paycheck I got:

Cheer Up Buttercup- bath bomb

Mask of Magnaminty-face mask

Yoga Bomb- bath bomb

Can't eat to try them out! 😍

[the-sailors-mermaid]

Day 1 – 30 Day Milso Challenge

Well, since @war-at-sea​ is going to be away for so long I decided I’d do this so he’d also have some sappy corny posts to read when he gets his phone again!

How did you meet?

Well we met as in got to know each other’s existence and started talking on tumblr! This was probably two years ago, he followed me for a bit, then I followed back, and we just became friends? We bonded over some silly memes his cousin kept on posting on Facebook haha. In real life though, well, this summer he talked about how he was in New York a little while after I was just in New York, and I joked about how he should come to California a few weeks after because I’ll be there. Plot twist: he happened to be going there on a business trip! So we met at In-N-Out, got lost on our way to Amoeba Records (which we’ll NEVER get to visit now because it’s closing), passed by the strip clubs Motley Crüe talked about, then got drinks in some random bar where I discovered hard root beer.

[milsodiary]

Dependa

I have been in the military community since I was born. However, I have never heard of the term dependa until this past week. It was brought to attention by a military spouse and naturally since it is something that I am unfamiliar with, I researched it aka googled it.

According to the seasonedspouse.com, “'Dependa' is a horrible insult mainly used by military spouses to put each other down. Every military spouse is a dependent (unless they are active duty), but to be a dependa infers that someone is useless or stupid.” The second definition that was told to me by the same spouse is a person who posts things on social media to gain attention or sympathy for their service member is away.

Let me start off by saying this, the first definition there is one part that stood out to me. “This is a horrible insult mainly used by military spouses to put each other down”. This is wrong on so many levels. Being on our different MILSO journeys we all have a set of our own challenges. There are already so many external factors that already brings us down, why are we doing it to each other? We, MILSO are a community that should encourage and is there to support each other while our service members are away serving our country. What our loved ones do, it’s scary and carries huge occupational hazards that sometimes cost their lives. We are expected to hold it together on the outside, but really most days I just want to scream. I depend on my little community when times are tough.

The second definition of a MILSO who posts. Many times we are separated from our friends and family due to duty station changes. We deal with time differences, new jobs and trying to make new friends. It isn’t easy, sometimes we only have social media to validate our feelings. Who am I to judge what tools you use to cope. This may be their way of asking for help. Other times such as for me, I use my blog (this blog) as my outlet. A way to lay my whole basket of emotions out rather than taking it out on my soldier while he is deployed. Being this is my first deployment as a MILSO there is a lot of feelings that I am still learning to process. It is different than when my dad was deployed or my uncle. It’s a different situation altogether. I found it easier for me to just write it out and feel better. It’s also there for me to look back on and reflect. This is my process and the best way for me to go on this journey.

I understand that some people believe that dependa give the community a bad name.  But instead of screenshotting and talking behind each other backs why don’t we let them know to their face. Name calling is bullying! Remember we are in this together, so let’s stop putting each other down.

[animezinglife]

You fill your life with interesting experiences you can romanticize. You challenge yourself.

I pretty much do every race/5k in my community when they come up. I did the 9/11 Memorial Stair Climb. I renewed my membership to the climbing gym to keep learning new skills and keep meeting new people. I take part in service opportunities and create them. I’ve gotten pretty active with the veteran community where I am now and that’s brought me a lot of fulfillment. I spend a lot of time outdoors, I fill my evenings with books, and I stay fit. I participate in my colleagues’ events every chance I can. I started accepting that when I travel, it’s going to have to be alone most of the time. I got a more reliable car (all-wheel drive SUV) and my concealed carry when that reality sunk in. I nurture the friendships and relationships I do have.

That doesn’t mean it’s not still lonely as hell sometimes. Aside from my boss who’s divorced, I’m the only one where I work who doesn’t have a significant other or spouse. I try not to make the comparison, and especially as it gets dark earlier and will eventually get colder, I’ve just made it a point to bury myself in workouts, climbing, books, and writing. I finally have a tailgate to go to this weekend (first of the season). 

There’s always that looming feeling of aloneness; that what you’re experiencing isn’t being shared with anyone else. While I do have reliable transportation and protection, there are still a lot of trips I don’t want to make alone and a lot of life experiences I don’t want to go for alone.

While I haven’t experienced this at my current job, you also have to be even more deliberate than most in establishing your work boundaries. Some people really like to push all the “extra” off on single people who don’t have kids. 

Then on top of that, the dating scene these days doesn’t cut it for everyone. I can’t stand apps and think it’s ruined most chances for building authentic human connection. Plus, at my age and where I live, the algorithm either spits out a lot of guys I can tell I wouldn’t have anything in common with and what I jokingly refer to as “the entire Air Force.”

I have several friends who’ve already been through divorces and, honestly, I’d rather stay single for a while and get it right the first time. That doesn’t mean that wait gets any easier.

Don’t be afraid to branch out of your friend circle, either. My two best friends are an ex-MILSO mom with a couple of decades on me I met at the gun range and an upscale wedding planner who thinks Draper James dresses are appropriate walking clothes. I love them both to pieces, and they’re both single, too.

How am I supposed to live laugh love when I'm the single one in a group of people who are all in romantic relationships?????

[beautifullybrokeninlove]

These 3 are my whole 🌍 and I will never be able to express enough how blessed I am, or how grateful I am for their love. And how I feel so undeserving for the husband and children that God has so graciously given to me 🙏👨‍����‍👦‍👦 . Although the smile says otherwise, today was ROUGH with my shoulder and filled with many tears, outcries of pain, and verbal frustration 😟 But the patience, love, and forgiveness these 3 gave me just has my heart overflowing! 💗 . It is always my goal to show my men all that they mean to me, and to never let a day go by that they aren't told over and over again how much I love them 😍 So I challenge you to never let a day go by where you don't tell those most important and precious how much they matter in your life! You never know how much they need to hear it 🙌💕 . #boymom #wifelife #familylife #lifeisntperfect #eventhroughthesmiles #blessedlife #blessedwife #couldntaskformore #Armywife #milso #milspouse #militarywife #militaryspouse #husbandswithfacialhair (at McCormick-Stillman Railroad Park) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvaunWGhwfI/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=11u8b7ct6df7r

[milsotherapy]

so I'm still kind of new to this milso thing, my boyfriend is in the air force, & this if my first LDR. We met 7 months ago when he was home through a mutual friend that I had gone to high school with & he was in basic with. Sometimes we get into little disagreements but we always do really well at working things out. I was just wondering if it was normal to get into these every now & then because of distance, & if you had any other advice as he deploys for 6 months here soon. thanks!

Distance is hard, there's no doubt about that. Yes, it's perfectly normal to get into little spats every now and then. It's often because you miss each other, and it can often be because either or you do something that annoys or pisses the other off. All relationships, not just LDR's, go through those motions. I always like to say, if you don't fight, there's no passion. It's great that you two are doing great at working through it though! With the upcoming deployment, just continue to talk things through, express any worries or concerns, and just assure each other of your love. The deployment challenges will come in time but you'll work through them!-Cherie

[poetrybooksandpixiedust]

The song in the back is literally my brain all day. @anlo.brasi interrupting my song has got to be his love language.? 🤣🤣 I love my husband past the moon and stars. He is amazing and irritating but I love a challenge 🙈👅 Thank you so much for having me as your wife 💋💋💍 Happy Valentines Day Baby #ArmyWife #Milso #NewHome #everlastingLove

[milsolarison-blog]

Milso challenge day 3: What’s your oldest memory with him/her?

My oldest memory was our first date. I pulled up outside his apartment, and he stumbled outside pulling up his pants (which I later learned he did on purpose to seem cute). We went to the roof of a building downtown here, and took in the view of our city and the water. Then we went to the marina to just stare out at the water, and he put his arm around me for the first time. Lastly, we went to a park and he climbed the tree. I remember sitting under the tree, looking out at the field and the playground, for the first time feeling serenity. No anxiety, no second thoughts. Comfort. He had to work that evening so I took him back to his apartment, and then dropped him off at the restaurant he was working at at the time. Chase offered me to stay at his place while he worked, and I kinda laughed it off. Halfway home I decided I wanted to, so I went and got some stuff and then picked up his keys from him. That night after I got him from work I watched him play video games, sitting behind him with a leg on each side. He turned to kiss me, and I fell for it. I fell for him. Right there he had me. I later learned it was a trick he learned from a Will Smith movie. I spent the night at his place. I had never done that before, let alone sleep with someone that quickly. I think after heartbreak and loneliness, after everything I went though in my home life and my past, I knew. Somehow, I knew he was the one. 

[soldierswifecrazylife]

A long deployment can get even more changeling when you have babies and very small children. One of the struggles is that you want time to pass so your husband will be home but at the same time your babies and toddlers are growing and you want to enjoy those moments as well. You don't want to wish away their babyhood. You don't want that to go by too quickly. This was a big challenge for me as my husband deployed when I was 25 weeks pregnant and didn't get home until our son was 11 months old. I wanted to cherish that first year just like I had with my oldest son but it was hard. I also wanted my husband, his father home and in order for that to happen, time would have to go by. I like to think I had a balance between the two but I probably didn't. I took each day as it came, dealing with the ins and outs of motherhood. Knowing that my husband would eventually be home and we would be a full family once again. #military #milspouse #militaryspouse #militarylife #militaryfamily #milso #militarysupport #soldierswifecrazylife #armywife #armylife #militaryblogger

[ldrdiariess-blog]

Our next question today is “How do you deal with arguments in your relationship?”

Comment with your answers, post them with the hashtag #LDD30DayChallenge or add your answers to the forum here…

[tiff-andcompany-blog]

MilSo Challenge: Day 3- "Your first memory with them".

Doing this a few hours earlier than usual because I'm going to bed early and because I miss the fuck out of him right now... So our very first memory, I don't really recall because I was drunk off my ass. I just met him for the first time. He had a girlfriend, I had a boyfriend so I'm going to mention the second memory, but the one I remember perfectly. So like I said in my day 1, we were friends with each other's exes so going on double dates wasn't out of the ordinary. He was home on leave after A-School & we all wanted to hang out. So me, Anthony, Any (his ex), Daniel (my ex), and a couple of others all went bowling then out to dinner. At the bowling alley, there were two couches in our little corner that were facing each other. Anthony would sit with Any on one, and Daniel would sit with me on another. And everyone else was scattered amongst the couches waiting for our turns to bowl. So I kept feeling eyes piercing into my face, and every time I would look up, Anthony would be staring directly at me. And to me, I got flustered because I always thought he was so handsome. I just kept thinking "what is he doing? He's with Any." But I couldn't help keeping my eyes off of him either. So we would continuously keep making eye contact and look away. We never flirted or anything of that nature, but our eyes spoke loud enough. We would just talk about random things at the bowling alley. Then we went out to dinner. Anthony sat right across from me. And I kid you not, we sat and talked the whole time we were there. We couldn't stop. Later that night, I told my mom "mark my words. I will be with him one day". It took a year and a half of lost contact for us to find each other again, but this time, we were both single so we were actually flirtatious and sparked the most beautiful relationship you could ever possibly think of.

[the-sailors-mermaid]

Day 29 – 30 Day Milso Challenge

What is your favorite thing about him/her?

His face is beautiful and angular, his hands are the size of my face and his neck is the size of my thigh. I guess that’s three things 😁

EDIT: ALSO HIS CALVES HE HAS REALLY NICE CALVES